I have ADHD and don't be fooled by the name of the syndrome, actually the atention defficit and hiperactivity is not the hardest part of this disorder, what is really hard for me is the emotional disregulation, lack of motivation to do things of finish tasks, sleep disorders, impulsivity or compulsivity wich leads to adictions and strange behaviors and habits, feeling always like the world and the people are not on the same page as I am, feeling disconnected and just stuck in some kind of limbo thats feels like agony, I feel like Im just staying alive but not really living, not enjoying life and constantly failing to do the simplest tasks for normal people and to find them wort doing them.
maybe you also have asperger?...I mean just because you mentioned feeling disconnected and and that the world/people are not on the same page. and people with asperger often also have ADHD (comorbid).
I’ve had ADHD my entire life. The deficit is not that I can’t pay attention to things, it’s that I pay attention to everything and can’t filter anything. People can say what they want about meds but they changed my life at 54 years old. It was like taking off the cheapest, itchiest sweater you can ever imagine and finally being comfortable in my skin.
hope they still work for you in x years; meds are fantastic for a while making everyone feel great- until it just blows up later when they aren't as good as they used to be (tolerance) and end up on a max dosage; i.e. come to the end of a damn rope - anyway; sorry to be so negative- I'm just sick of seeing friends, family and loved ones suffer while some doctor thinks he did such a great job because it worked for a few years...in all honesty tho...hope your story goes differently; same with anyone else who may read this
@@kratz.fitness So, several things. I am a social worker but the job I was in was mostly training for agencies and personnel regarding DV and child abuse. However, that job was being rewritten to include clinical social work (individual and family counseling). I avoided clinical social work my entire career because the thought of being trapped in an office for hour long sessions with patients seemed overwhelming. It also meant taking a national exam for a clinical social work license. I had not taken a national exam since 1995. Also, my father was about midway through the fatal disease of dementia so I was working plus helping my mother quite a bit. That limited my time and energy and forced me to be much more organized than I was. I didn’t have the luxury of letting things get behind because there was no time to catch up with things. At the same time, I was working with a psychiatrist at my job who gave a workshop on adult ADHD and it solidified how ADHD I was (based on the sample screening tool).
I got diagnosed with ADD when I was 60, 3 years ago, it explained so much of why my life had been the way it had since I was a kid. I felt so much compassion for the young boy, teenager and man I had been, and why some things always seemed more of a struggle for me than others. They offered me Amphetamines, but I said no thank you I did all that in the 80s and 90s, Ive have survived life so far and am perfectly happy the way I am. Thank you for sharing this JRE.
I was 56. While I was happy to finally have some treatment, there was a bit of sadness thinking of what could have been if my parents were a little more willing to accept that my behavior wasn’t a character issue.
51 at my diagnosis. I had been struggling with the “bipolar” diagnoses I was given 20 years before. I was medicated for years with antipsychotic drugs which made me feel worse, I tried telling Drs, yes I was depressed at the time but no I do not have Bipolar. That diagnoses was finally dropped when I was 49, and at that time my son was diagnosed with adhd, the more I researched it the more the prices fell into place. When I received my adhd combined type I cried, the relief at knowing that there was something different in the way my brain worked, I also felt sad when I thought back to how much damage this has caused to my self esteem, my relationships, the chaos my life had been. It was like I was finally heard. Now I can use tools I have learnt and implement them into my everyday life, to help things run a little more smoothly. Although adhd has caused problems, it has also been my super power as well. I wouldn’t change who I am but I wish that I had of had the opportunity to have had someone really take the time to listen to my concerns and dig a little deeper to find a diagnoses sooner, years were wasted in a drug induced antipsychotic medication filled stupor, it was a difficult time and I can not remember a lot of the earlier years of my children growing up.
I am a physician and have dealt with ADHD my entire life. I have read virtually every notable piece of literature on this neurologic disorder. The single biggest mistake clinicians make is looking at ADHD through the prism of attention, or lack thereof. ADHD is far more involved and goes way beyond attention pathology. It is a constant state of (relative) anxiety and desire for stimulus. Going to church, waiting in lines, listening to boring conversation...all of these things can be excruciating for ppl with ADHD.
I agree. There is an underlying agitation in the body and the mind becomes restless searching for a distraction to this discomfort. For many, this agitation can be below the threshold of conscious awareness. The constant switching of attention is the seeking of relief. TRE (Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises), can do a lot to discharge this agitation and calming the mind. This is a self-help tool that can be learned through youtube videos, treforall website, an app etc.
@@christinaguimond1706 Yes. Sadly, some ppl attempt to alleviate this agitated state in a self-destructive manner. For those who suffer the most, controlling their condition can be all-encompassing. I find it exhausting at times.
Can they just give in to the pain of the anxiety, let it run it's course, then re-train amygdala to be easily reactive instead of lying there dead to the world?
@@azdbuk The underlying pathology is most likely a neurotransmitter problem....as opposed to a neuroanatomical issue anywhere in the limbic system. Selective areas of DA deficiency (and likely other neurotransmitters) is thought to be the main pathology. At this point the underlying pathology is not completely understood.
Just diagnosed at 25, was called lazy my entire life, and abused for bad grades. I felt stupid and dropped out of college at 19. JRE became my podcast of choice, and over time, listening to the various guests on the show, I’ve been inspired to read various books by them. Today, I’m on my medication, and have re-enrolled in school in the hopes of putting the first man on Mars. I’m reading regularly, working out, and facing my fears one day at a time. It’s ok to not be ok 👌🏼
i have ADD, i noticed while she's explaining ADD, i was listening and paying attention then i started to think about how the flashlight is a good way to represent it then i realized i lost her for a few minutes because i was thinking about it then i started thinking about how i lost her and lost her again. had to watch the video a few times.
I'm 54yo male, recently diagnosed with adult ADD and even my default escape 'daydreaming' brings no relief these days. I have never achieved anything, just bumbling through life, one anxious over whelming episode after another, poor at schoo, no academic achievment. No friends is the hardest part and no family support. I get why male suicide is so common around men my age. There has to be something better than this as I am so tired these days.
Brother, I’m here with you, it is not a fun condition, it is not happy condition to have and i wish people understood how horrible it can be, life is a party no one wants you at, ignores you when youre there unless its to point out your flaws, where no one can relate to you
For my ADD/ADHD kindred! The brain's attention system (AS) 00:45 The first AS is like a flashlight that *scans* narrow areas 03:20 The second AS is like a floodlight that *scans* wide areas 04:37 Both lights can be directed externally and internally 04:57 The third AS is called Executive Control and *selects* goals like an exec in a company 07:47 Is your life negatively impacted by the way your attention functions? You just might have ADD/ADHD. 08:14 Meta-awareness is deliberately focussing your attention toward the contents of conscious thought. If you have that + ADD, you might not get fired from your job, because you're functional enough thanks to Meta-awareness. 09:30 Joe asks, if behavioral focus training is better than medicating. Amishi said she let her patients take the medication while doing behavioral training. They later said, that before the training the Ritalin alone helped them to successfully focus on useless bullshit (only flashlight). After the training they developed Meta-awareness, which allowed them to *focus their focus* on important tasks (floodlight + flashlight).
Ugh. I love this. Like many here, I was diagnosed with ADHD in my early 30s and have been trying to "define" it since. I think this might be the most relatable metaphor to help the neurotypicals in my life understand how it works. What isn't talked about enough - and beyond important - is the effect that brain chemistry has in attention regulation. ADHD is, in many ways, a function of a significant dopamine deficiency. It's the search for dopamine that causes the impulsivity, emotional disregulation, predisposition to addiction, procrastination anxiety, etc. That's one of the reasons I liked this analogy, because the "executive" in the room - as she calls it - is supposed to keep the attention primarily focused on the "goals" of the given situation. Well, when the need for dopamine is extremely high, that executive is motivated to shift goals rapidly to meet the chemical need for dopamine. In a normal state, it means the urge to buy things, use drugs, put off work/chores until later, etc. are prioritized as urgent goals because they are dopamine releasing activities. I don't WANT to buy that thing, or have that drink, but my brain knows that it will give me dopamine and it makes the urges feel like a survival-oriented activity. Another dopamine releasing activity is "discovery" (finding something new that interests/excites us). This is why so many people with ADHD have a long trail of hobbies or failed pursuits. It also explains our hyperfixated state; we discover a thing that provides dopamine and we chase it like our life depends on it. This all gets more complicated and nuanced when you layer in anxiety, but this comment is long enough (and my trains of thought are departing).
I’ve never heard of that discovery addiction you described. Seems the best thing to do to address that would be to go deeper and deeper into one thing and get completely inside of it because that’s where the fun really starts. We almost require some sort of external apprenticeship to structure our progression because without it we (me anyway) are way too eager to congratulate ourself and yeah, move on to other unrelated things.
This is why strenuous exercise is great for ADD/ADHD. I work out alone because it is an intense training & when I am in training mode, I cannot tolerate ‘social’ interruptions. I had to stop going to the gym because of the people wanting to socialise while I was trying to exercise/train. I NEED the intense training for my dopamine fix. The best part is hitting the runner’s high during my runs. That feels like heaven, just like when I play my heart out on my piano. Yeah, it sounds crazy but some of us are just highly sensitive & intense people. Haha
@@ozymandiaspbs Do you listen to music while lifting? Do you watch videos/tv while doing cardio. I agree with the many benefits of exercising, but my mind will still wonder while working out. Especially while lifting.
@@ChristianFlores-dj9gj - Yes, I listen to music, usually techno/trance or dance music. I love disco music, so I often listen to MJ’s “Off The Wall” album since it is mostly disco songs. I also do some yoga & meditation before (for focus) AND after (to calm down). When I switch between exercise sets (Chest -> Legs) I will dance a bit because I cannot help myself. Haha 🕺🎶
I find that I actually perform tasks better if I’m “distracting” my mind by listening to podcasts. It keeps me focused on the task without getting distracted or seeking a different stimulus. Obviously it doesn’t work for everything, but it’s great for chores like cleaning or washing dishes.
I can’t have any distractions. I sold almost all of my possessions and decluttered my entire room so I have less shit that takes up my peripheral vision. My room is literally a bed, a desk, a chair, a computer & a closet with my clothes in it. Other than that, it’s pretty much empty & blank, with the purpose of eliminating as many distracting things from my sight as possible so my brain doesn’t go haywire. I do my best work when my room is completely quiet. Music or podcasts distract me too much. Meditation helps clear the mind too.
This is exactly what I do! I have to watch films or listen to podcasts while working. I even watched films while revising for school and uni exams. I always explain to people that doing this switches off the part of my brain that gets bored and looks for something to do while the other part of my brain focuses on work.
Same! I have to listen to podcast or music to stay on track the best I can.. however, I can't have clutter distractions around me.. I also need a certain vibe... if the vibe is off, production will not happen
My life changed a month ago when I read the book adhd 2.0 and then their earlier book driven to distraction by Halloween & Ratey. I cried often through the book as I listened to the authors describe with such detail many experiences and emotions I had felt since I could remember going back to early childhood.It took 44 years to finally figure out and find the diagnosis of ADHD. It’s been a rollercoaster journey to get here. Will share some aspects that might help others. I hit MDD ( major depression) about 4 years ago. As that lifted over the last few years through medicine, therapy and self care I got to a place where I was able to be more in touch with myself. With depression lifting it felt at times that maybe I was hypomanic which I still consider a possibility. My psychiatrist had mentioned over a year ago the idea that my symptoms may be consistent with ADD. I didn’t give it much thought until I stumbled on the above mentioned books. It’s just one diagnosis and doesn’t change everything. But it certainly helps encounter challenges that I was feeling stuck navigating and now with new tools has opened up new doors. Remember diagnosis limit and put us in boxes but if we are nuanced in figuring out who we are then we can use these diagnosis to our advantage. And especially ADD where we do have extra powers in this world. But also seem to have an extra challenge of figuring out how to use them. And that challenge never goes away. We can hopefully identify it and then use it more constructively. And once we do that …oh boy do we have a gift and maybe even a super power! We live in special times! Remember every challenge, obstacle and difficulty is a question. Did deep. Find out who you are and why you are here. Be curious. And the world will start to become your friend. Fears will dissipate. Oh this is not an easy journey. This will test you every part of you. You will doubt yourself . And as you reveal your new self to others they will often not be pleased with your new discoveries. And that’s where the real fun ( and pain ) begin. You then may have to learn to start to trust, believe and have faith in yourself. And learn how to integrate your new self and way of thinking into the old world that you left behind. Not easy. But that becomes the new challenge and question. Ok let’s stop. If this helps anyone I can continue writing. Sending peace, love and blessings to all! ❤️
Hello Sim, well written and described as to how some of us come to figure these things out ! We must be brothers because I feel exactly like YOU do with this as you say Superpower .
As somebody who has struggled with ADD my whole life, I feel extremely lucky to have found a lucrative job skill that can keep my brain from wandering. Coding for 8 hours feels like 8 minutes to me. Hyperfocusing is now a perk rather than a drawback. For anyone who has ADD, try to find an employable skill that you actually find interesting. I know it's much easier said than done, but once you find it many of your problems will become manageable or disappear altogether. That's why it's good to try a lot of different things.
Having ADHD and being unaware of it and undiagnosed with it is literally one of the most isolating feelings that makes you feel insecure about yourself and hate yourself for a long, long time. Watching everyone else do something you can’t do, and finally coming to terms that you are simply just born “stupid” and “lazy” And then one day getting diagnosed with ADHD, it is the most emotional feelings in the world, everyone who’s been diagnosed often say the same thing “I feel so bad for my younger self, I’m so sorry to my younger self, I gave myself such a hard time and made myself accept that it couldn’t be helped” the reason why is because taking medication for the first time literally feels like being blind your whole life then 23 years into your life finally putting on a pair of glasses and finally seeing the world at its clearest. Medication is like finally being able to understand the world at its clearest, control our functions with ease, and do simple tasks that you couldn’t do before.
Personally I think I may have it, but I really don't care. I think having the hard concrete fact of knowing has the potential to give me a excuse, I also feel it may make me more aware of how I work and in regards to my life working backwards as well as the opportunity to build upon it as needed. Me personally though I like not knowing. Idk why but It creates the space thats only for me and I feel so far through my life I have been able to deal with whatever it is at hand. Sure I know my flaws. I know what I need help with, or need to learn better yet. I havent had to yet reach out for help in that regard. I have had a moment where I just didn't understand anything about myself but I think it just lies in that. The choice to face yourself. Some need to know to help this some don't. Maybe I do go and find out myself in the future, but just perspective Tldr: I don't believe i need to know, at least yet. I believe that working on yourself is the key to dealing with whatever may be even if you need support
As a child I can remember watching some kids read books for fun. I thought those people were truly oddballs. I can remember asking myself why anyone would want to torture themselves by reading the same paragraph over and over again before staying focused enough to ‘get it’. I had no way of knowing I was the ‘oddball’.
Medication is not the answer for everyone. In my case it made things worse. I didn’t like the way it made me feel at all & honestly I find that doing mental exercises & setting small goals towards one big goal in mind & other things I do work better. Exercise definitely helps too. Most ppl are just too lazy to try new or different things and rely too much on big pharma. That shit made me a zombie, no thanks. Natural cures for me. Cannabis helps too. I find that my hyper-focus on certain things is actually a blessing.
Adhd Reddit thread has a great community. There are like maybe 3 threads, I forgot which one I follow but everyday there is a post from someone talking about what they thought was a weird quirk of theirs which usually ends up being an adhd thjng.
@@JennaLeeEquals3 Medication just makes me more outgoing, then I crash. Meds messed me up. Nutrition and exercise are the foundation of managing symptoms
ADHD has genuinely made my whole life an uphill battle. I refuse to take any medications for it, because they make me feel awful and bland, like a zombie.
I feel you bro. When I got diagnosed I was put on all these different medication that affected my mood, apetite, emotions, they made me feel so damn blunt and boring and not myself. In the last year and a half I’ve stopped all meds and started meditating daily which IS now my ‘medication’ I think it would really help. As well as this I had an experience with lsd which allowed me to accept that adhd is a part of who I am and I don’t need meds I need to be my authentic self. Adhd is not a burden brother it’s a gift we are lucky and blessed because I can’t imagine how boring life would be without it. I hope this helped you in some way ❤️
Maybe you're on the wrong ones? I actually find both Ritalin and Adderal to be beneficial in their own situations. Adderal is normally my daily morning dose for dopamine and to help me do things to continue dopamine release through completion of tasks. The Ritalin is good if im sitting down and trying to grind out a project I wanna do, or even sometimes if I have to grind out a shitty part of a game (resource collecting, for example) and makes it the only focus, and feel rewarding to do. I'm on all kinds of shit too, although I got diagnosed with Tourettes at the same time I did ADHD/ADD.. I don't think the doctors know/care enough to find out which one it is to be honest. So in my opinion, you gotta self medicate and self diagnose cuz the medical system is a fucking racket. If I took everything they gave me on the schedule they prescribed I would be in a lot worse situation than I am now, I think. Just the same but on more daily dosages of drugs. Gotta be the master of your own domain so-to-speak and make sure that you're the one taking the drugs - and that the drugs don't start "taking you". Best of luck man, im pullin for ya! We're all in this together... Keep your stick on the ice. :D
Take Adderal it's great. Gives you energy. When I first took it I was on 1-10mg per day but over the course of 2- years I am now taking one 20mg and one 30mg. The only downside is you must take them before say 1pm if you want to sleep that night. But each person is different and you'll quickly learn how your body reacts. But they've been a lifesaver for me. Unfortunately, I didn't start taking them until I was in my 40s
Just 5 mins in and she sounds like a great teacher. SImple and appropriate analogies to help the understanding with a pace that gives you ample time to internalize the content.
Undiagnosed until 27, I struggled my whole life. Wondering why it was so hard for me to do things others seemed to be absolutely fine doing. I was volatile and being a 5'11 heavy set male that was not a great thing to be. Since starting meds, everything is easier. Life doesn't have to be so difficult. If you can get on without medication then that's great. Good for you. I didn't need to be on them until I had major responsibility.
As an adult with diagnosed ADD, this is absolutely without a doubt the most accurate and relatable conveyance of what it’s like to have ADD that I have ever heard. Period.
I agree, was diagnosed as a child and now as an adult a year ago. My pyshologist actually kinda refused to use the term ADD or ADHD, he refer to me as having low executive function, but above average intelligence.
@@dukeduke2790 maybe, maybe not. But that’s irrelevant because every moment in life can’t be governed by starving or not. Once we “survived” your immediate challenge we’d be right back in the same place.
I’ve had severe ADHD since I was young. My sister is someone to says ADHD isn’t real and it’s extremely insulting knowing all of the trouble it’s giving me in life. It’s more than just not being able to focus, it fucks with your interpersonal relationships and the way you operate in the world in general. I want so much for myself but it can be crippling. Most people don’t realize that ADHD over stimulates your mind to the point of exhaustion and Most people with ADHD struggle to get things done or do anything they want to do because their mind is constantly coming up with other things to do in the meantime. It’s just way more complex than we recognize it to be as a society
@@ryderlandry9876 it is. Any doctor can diagnose you based on their flawed expertise and say you have add, adhd etc. And start making you pop pills like candy.. These supposed disorders cannot be proven its not like giving you a covid test.
The funny thing about my ADHD is the fact that during this video I literally put my “flashlight of attention” that she described away from the actual video and her talking, to swooping out and looking at basketball news for minutes as the video continued to play. I was literally blocking out what she was saying. Living with ADHD is crazy and people mistake it as just laziness
I have had ADD my whole life, 47 years old. Had to learn how to live with it on my own. For example, to get something out of this, I took rigorous notes, paused and/or rewinded at several points to get what I missed while I was writing.
@Paul Smith that sucks man, I know what you're talking about though. When I was exercising regularly, eating no sugar, and drinking a lot of water every day it seemed like I was 50% better. I wish i had the answers though man.
There's a big difference between ADD and ADHD. I have the former-before they had a name for this-and got beat in school and at home many times. My report cards said I was always looking out the window, and not paying attention enough. One thing about ADD that is worse than ADHD is that the hyperactivity is all inside instead.
I was diagnosed as such myself at 7 years old. I don’t believe that I’m maladaptive; I believe that sitting in classroom, being made to pay attention to a subjects I had zero interest in; wasn’t necessarily a bad distraction. I would focus on the nature outside of the window and want to be outside. Because that is more natural for a child. I was going against the system at an early age. I was labeled with so many negative adjectives and was put on ritilan by my unassuming mother- suggested by school teachers and administrators. You can’t just pigeonhole a whole group of kids and expect them to turn out the exact same way. I realized much later in life, that I learn far better on my own, being able to grasp information and retain it, without authoritative force. I notice this is the same way for my 9-year- old son who’s been labeled as having Asperger’s. He’s extremely intelligent and bored with curriculum he, I believe, finds boring and repetitive. I homeschool him now- he learns better at his own pace. But unlike what my mom did to me, I will not put my highly sensitive and intuitive child on a pill. This is dangerous and unnatural. Tl;dr- we neuro diverse people should be focused more on our gifts than our deficits. Just my thoughts.
I absolutely hate that they changed it so that add doesn’t technically exist anymore . Because now people think add is the same as adhd . I could sit perfectly still in school. So it was just me being lazy
I got diagnosed and prescribed recently at 25. I never had definite add/adhd as a kid, but once I got into high school and then my young adult life I started having issues. Constantly underachieving and struggling to balance things. The flashlight analogy makes sense to me, I am always hyper focused on a different hobby or thing every month or two. Anything super important gets put on the back burner until it’s too late and I do it out of being fueled by anxiety. However when I take adderall I feel that same energy of being fueled to do things, without it being anxiety driven. It’s great. I was previously proud of how well I could get things done when I was extremely anxious about it, but now I can perform to the same level without the fear in my brain haha.
Shoutout to my fellow ADD brothers and sisters out there. I feel like in the public view the ADHD people are the guitar players and we’re the bass players.
ADD is hell because the combination of fatigue and procrastination just comes off as super lazy to other people. Plus without medication, anxiety and depression increases which can lead to drug abuse and other self-destructive behaviors that go unnoticed because our reclusive nature. Enter the negative feedback loop of dread and watch molehills become mountains.
@@Primatenate88 I actually like my add. Sure I'm a nightmare when I drive and talk but I actually like just zoning out. And sometimes i just say the funniest things cus I just don't know what's happening. The simple life. Edit: I've also never been on meds. You can learn to live with it. Might take awhile
I was diagnosed with add around 7-8 years old. Parents said I’d grow out of it. Did nothing for it. Suffered depression, drug use, failed relationships, self sabotaging etc. diagnosed again at 36 got help and my life changed. I’m happy for this first time in my life.
As a person who likely has ADD, I was listening, and very interested, then found the flashlight analogy spot on, then remembered I was supposed to order flashlights, then I opened up a second window to see if Costco had the 3 pack of Duracell flashlights back in stock....
Then you saw a TV for sale for only $499 and then contemplated buying it when you remembered your meats were in the freezer and had to be thawed out, but damn it, you don't want to go all the way to the kitchen now. You'll do it later.... Which is why you're eating frozen pizza now
@@MarketWizard546 Then you go to take a bite. Turns out the pizza is literally frozen because you forgot to put it in the oven which has been preheated for the last hour and is starting to smoke.
I love the flashlight food light analogy, so true. Diagnosed at 46, spent a life time detached, feeling on the outside, no one understands me, irrational thoughts, anxiety and depression and always found juggling those balls pushed me to the max. That floodlight is wide open, and the internal dialogue that provides a constant stream of narrative inside your mind is overwhelming. It doesn’t switch off and it produces a constant underlying anxiety due to the repetition and negative connotation. There is no clear definition between positive, focused thoughts and negative, destructive dialogue that comes from assessing every situation. It was only when I started taking medication that this internal dialogue switched off, and allowed my brain some peace. Since this, I have very little anxiety and depression, can focus more on day to day tasks and have more motivation to get up and do things without the flood light going into over drive. It’s a mentally demoralizing situation to be in and a constant internal battle that most people wouldn’t be aware of.
I'm 18 and got diagnosed a couple months back and am so excited to try therapy and medication. I'm in desperate need for someone or something to help me with this burden.
Mindfulness helps train attention to switch between sensation and thinking modes of mind. You get relief from that internal chatter. And to change your relationship to it
I have ADD and it's the craziest thing, I have a long time friend whom I've discussed this with, he's like my polar opposite when it comes to thinking and logic. It's like if im not purposefully focusing on what is required I can still do it, but not particularly well...but if I'm compulsively interested in something, man you can't stop me, at least until I lose that interest. It's hard to find motivation(which isn't just an ADD thing). And something I recently learned was that when my buddy looks at something, say when we're playing video games, his visual processing can do multiple things at once using focused and peripheral vision, while maintaining an "internal map" of where we're at and what's going on. I can never learn game maps, when I look somewhere I don't see anything but what I'm focused on trying to see. Our brains are literally wired differently and until discussing it he just got frustrated cuz he didn't understand, and I got frustrated that I couldn't do what he thought I should be able to. Another thing is it is almost impossible to keep my brain on task, it's almost like I just kinda float through life in this mental fog trying to get somewhere, but I'm too focused on not tripping over tree roots to see the left turn I'm missing
lol sorry but I had to comment. fellow add-er here and I can’t find my way around a video game map to save my life. it’s months and months before I eventually learn the map ☺️
I was diagnosed as a child with ADHD and prescribed Ritalin, ADD is a curse, you never remember someone’s name immediately after they tell you, traditional learning is very difficult, your mind always wanders somewhere else, especially when reading. What angers me is the trendy self diagnosis by narcissists to explain their behavior, nobody calls themself a narcissist but ADD is acceptable, they have none of these issues they just aren’t interested in anyone but themselves and dismiss everyone. I’d rather have my curse then theirs, at least I can feel empathy, if these people truly knew what ADD feels like they would never brag about it, I have learned to live normally, they will always be narcissists, narcissism seems to be the fastest growing mental problem in the country, and social media has put it on steroids
I was diagnosed with ADD when I was younger and later developed MDD. I used to get mad at people who self diagnose or make jokes about how they are depressed when really they are just upset sometimes. Idk if they are full on narcissist but it is ridiculous that people do that but it’s best just to ignore it and focus on how to make your life best and deal with your own personal disorder.
I’m glad we can talk about this as a society. The country my family is from is so poor and far down maslow’s hierarchy of needs that mental health issues like narcissism are never even discussed.
Those 3 functions are literally dedicated sections of your brain and having ADHD means 1-3 of those sections have grown prematurely and as a result are weaker than someone normal.
Flashlight, floodlight, or nightlight while those of us with ADD or ADHD have a strobe light. Our brains are merely overclocked and we don't experience things at the same speed as the normies. Hence the need for overstimulation before we reach task saturation. Which is why you're probably watching this video at 1.75x speed whilst scrolling through the comments. Our problem is not our attention(focus) but our retention of data packets which needs to improve.
@@ArchimedesDaVinci no, your exact problem is focus. If you actually paid attention youre not using your management of your "flashlight" and focus so u dont retain the information u need. Ur stuck kn the broad "floodlight" and see things happening but nothing specific. Flood light allows u to be aware that a person is walking by, the flashlight is narrowing of the mind to focus on a specific detail, which is directed by the management. U might know the person passed u by, but wouldn't have paid enough attention to say what brand of shoes they were wearing. Balnce is key
I definitely have ADHD as I lost interest 2 minutes into this. And she’s very intelligent. I wanted to hear what she’s saying but I could only get through the first two minutes before I realized my mind started drifting onto other things.
to be fair, she gave a very convoluted answer to a simple question asked by Joe. When Joe talks I can easily focus and pay attention to what he's saying, when she talks I drift off and get bored. Do I have ADHD or is she just boring and uncaptivating?
Psychedelic’s definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it’s just so hard to source here
Psychedelics are the reason why i didn’t take my life when i was at my end. I was stripped of my ego and saw the beauty of life and interconnectivity and even though i still battle anxiety and depression, I’m doing better everyday and will never think in such a self destructive way again.
LSD and mushrooms completely changed my whole outlook on life. I became a better version of myself This experience gave me a lot of confidence about my self and my body. A bunch of bad thought / behavior patterns were broken. One of these was pretty bad OCD that made me wash my hands a lot. It gave me a lot of hope that things will be fine, this is the one thing that I heard throughout the trip: Everything is alright. The main reason for the trip was my severe depression and it definitely helped me (although it's not gone). Before all I could do was lay in bed. Now I am trying to rebuild my life one step at a time which wasn't possible before."
I think its funny as a person with ADHD im listening to her talk about this while im doing schoolwork, doing paperwork for my business, checking the trading post in the game I play, stopping to comment here. The goal driven thing is so true.. My focus shifts everywhere dependent on what I'm thinking about at that exact moment. Welp, back to doing 5 other things.
@@lukes5631 orrr myabe i have a serious form of ADD and stopped taking medication 8 years ago, and theres ways of doing it that have been researched and studied to help people like me more efficiently than just a "dopamine fast". its the need to do something else, not that something is just boring
@@dotquack1 ADHD isn't a real thing. It is a symptom of other underlying issues. You can't fix ADHD because the "ADHD" is the displayed behavior. It is not the root cause... but sure, the medical field loves to diagnose you as "attention deficit" and supply you with pharmaceuticals. That's a band aid solution. You seem to also be identifying as your diagnosis. This, too, strengthens the hold on you.
My oldest son has ADHD but I recognized early he had a strong entrepreneurial spirit. I pulled him in 7th grade to partially homeschool. I never allowed him to be medicated. He’s now 16 and has a growing, built from the ground up, business which I suspect 6-12 months from now will be making him an actual living wage (he already replaced his full time minimum wage job and quit a few months ago to focus on growing his business). He’s not easy to raise and direct in terms of classes and chores and staying organized. But he’s hyper focused on his business and seems to intuitively know how to grow it, etc. He’s dual enrolled in college classes but I don’t see him going on to get his bachelors. Not unless he ever decides he has a damn good reason to. He really doesn’t like school.
My brother and I were similar and did similarly. Both very successful in our field now in our twenties. We also did dual enrollment and are from Florida 😄
Reading the comments and listening at the same time only to realize I had an ADHD moment while learning about it. I'm sure I'm not the only one here lol
Did you actually just self diagnose yourself with a lifelong disability, over comments and a Joe Rogan podcast? Jesus Christ. Go speak to an actual psychologist.
@@hassaanawan367 like for real, people will say they have adhd but somehow, they will have focus to be 5 hours on tiktok or play video games all day. and then when they need to work, now they are not LAZY they have ADHD.
@@akai3717 I mean I get it but people with adhd can often hyperfixate on specific interests they have. And adhd isn’t about not being able to focus, the not being able focus is more so the product of the reward system in the brain. The ADHD brain goes for immediate quick gratification that can be found in tiktok and video games, but completing tasks and being incentivized to work may be harder.
LPT: narrate to yourself while you do a task to assist with staying on task and reducing distractions. - Also get lots of rest - Caffiene helps - Write to-do lists(manageable with some smaller steps in-between) and cross them off as you complete - listen to something that doesn't take your attention away and allows you to focus(like white noise or no words music) - remove or reduce visual distractions
Joe, your conversations with these amazing guest are so well put together. The content is helping so many people in sense of being able to think freely. Thank you for your podcast. I didn't catch her name but this psychologist was interesting to listen to.
This adds an extra level of awareness as to what’s happening in my brain which is great. I’ve found personally the only way to control my adhd is to literally micro-manage myself minute by minute, creating a schedule where every moment has a set task that I’m supposed to be doing. I also make time to do stuff I like, so that there’s balance. Add/adhd is not easy, I too have been called lazy endlessly. People without it don’t understand
I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until my mid 40's. Then upon learning what my problem was, my whole life started to make more sense and why I never did anything remotely adult- never married, never had kids(never wanted), never bought a house or brand new car, never had a career and got a college degree in my 40's as opposed to my 20's....
Same here the moment I was prescribed Adderal it was as if my brain finally aligned LOL I regret not dealing with my ADHD when I was younger because I didn't want to take meds
The “Attention Deficit “ in ADHD is completely false. It’s the inability to regulate attention. There’s no deficit, it’s actually an overwhelming amount of attention.
I didn’t believe ADHD was real, got diagnosed this year with severe ADHD, and started medication recently. Now I’m kicking ass and takin names in life and I can’t believe I wasted 26 years untreated. It is real and I’m the living proof. I didn’t believe it was real because I heard the symptoms and thought “everyone goes through that” when really everyone doesn’t, *I* was just going through that. The difference between a lazy person and a person with ADHD or ADD is motivation. I’ve always been motivated and feel like I’ve tried everything to increase my productivity, but now I finally can and it’s life changing.
My son’s name is Landon, too 😄 and getting diagnosed now, I feel so bad for assuming he was being lazy for so long… hopefully he can start getting treatment soon. Inattentive type, in his case.
@@jennarentz he does not need “treatment” he is just not engaged in the bullshit. Trying outing him in music or art and limit his tv time and his diet is EVERYTHING.
I have severe ADD and it’s very hard to have interest and focus on things I’m not interested in. School was brutal for me…. I had to work incredibly hard just to get to where most people’s base lines are… So basically I’m mentally working 2-3 times harder than the people around me. I was medicated and it was an absolute life saver. I’m a huge advocated for medications as long as it works for you. Talk to your doctor and do your own research. If you find a treatment that’s not medication and it works 100% stay with that!
opposite for me: I refused the medication as a child (the idea of something controlling me freaked me out) and sure, I got expelled and went through that whole ordeal, but comparing to every kid I met that was on ritalin, It was definetly for the best.
This is crazy. I suffer from it all... but maybe worse is that I was not able to express how and or what I was suffering from. What you've descirbed I too lived... but the difference is I would quit between the 2nd and 3rd times harder. I would not do it. I could not do it and I would fight, lash out and simply get an F... over and over. No meds were ever entertained. No diagnosis was ever given... other than stupid and lazy.
Very eye opening thank you! Im 28 and ADD has been a struggle my whole life. But the more I understand about it the easier it is for me to manage. I tend to hyper focus on specific things or thoughts. The problem is that I tend to miss all the rest of the information around me. Sometimes people even get offended too which has got me in into trouble a few times. Mindfulness is now my best tool for keeping my mind on the now and I'm getting better at it every day
40 year old ADD sufferer here, time management is EXTREMELY difficult for me. Even if it’s something I’m excited to do I am usually late….it’s a curse.
Ya. I feel exactly the same exact way , I genuinely do not like being late gives me anxiety but I'm always late for things, I feel like I can squeeze many tasks between the limited scheduled times
As a Marine with ADHD I owe my survival to it. In Fallujah I could see and focus on so many things at 1 time that even the best of my fellow Marines wouldn't see. It was a curse in School when young but if you imbrace it and use it properly, control and channel it, then ADHD is a godsend. I finished a Bio Informatics degree and Bio Chem Degree in 3 years taking 20-28 credit hours per week. Used them to get in a FMAT program at Baylor and am finishing my last year of required residency for my MD. Took me 6 years total..... Only negative issues my ADHD caused me in adulthood was finding a woman that could keep up with me.....
Congrats man. I'm in undergrad at Baylor and can identify with just how difficult it is in school, so it's awesome to hear that you're killing it particularly at BCOM!
ADD is totally real. I spent 39 years of my life wrestling with those demons. Decades of mindfulness and meditation helped me to cope with it. It wasn't until I finally gave into the idea of diagnosis (I was afraid of the stigma that such a lable can give to a person), and took my first pill when I realized that my life did not have to be anywhere near as hard as it was. ADD is a bitch, and it has ruined my life in several ways. Thankfully, I have finally been given a chance to take my life back!
This exactly!!! I’m 24 so not as long as you but I’ve done or used literally every helpful tool you could imagine for add/adhd. From “dopamine detox” for months on end to meditating for an hour everyday. I kind of found it annoying how people like (and I like joe don’t get my wrong) Joe kind of hinted like “oh can’t they just meditate and stop looking for handouts with the drugs they’re given”. Fuck that, why do we have to work our whole day around being baseline functional with all these practices when others don’t?
The meds work for 5-8 years good luck after they fry ur insides, take it from someone whose been on the meds since 19 it gave me a degree. But not much else.
i am 47 and finally was diagnosed with ADHD. I could have been in honors but was average because of ADHD. I had 28 jobs and 10 years and ended up on disability due to a misdiagnosis. For the first time ever I feel like I can get my life straight. So the try harder thing may apply to some but for me trying harder became debilitating.
I learned this about attention since I was 14 during a Buddhist meditation class. I'm so glad I learned it from a young age because it shifted how I view reality completely.
I was diagnosed with adult adhd at 20, my psychiatrist explained to to me as a sort of executive function disorder. For me I have always had motivational issues and difficulties in managing my time, estimating time to complete tasks and prioritizing tasks. I had never been great in school until recently, getting very average grades. But this year was different. I’ve completely crushed it, perfect grades and I’ve turned into a fucking machine. The difference being I’ve finally found a reason to work. If you have adhd a d find yourself going aimlessly through life, take time to really find a purpose or a goal, and use that to fuel your motivation. This is just something that really worked for me, so take it with a grain of salt I guess. I’m still totally dysfunctional in a lot of ways, but something that I think can help is to find a passion and really focus on that. That is where you will excel. Also talk to a psychiatrist and take your meds.
Someone mentioned hyperfocusing and it can be extremely useful or extremely destructive. I liked Amishi's point of continuously checking in on oneself because I'll catch myself hyperfocusing on the wrong things
@@ElevatedLevetator disagree. I took training as a child and had several ADD. Not ADHD, ADD. After training, I took my multitrack mind, and got it to cross the streams, and now they synergies toward a goal. I'll absolutely smoke you and anybody if I'm tasked to do what you do. It's absolutely an advantage to be able to think ten fold out beyond normal thought process, once trained.
I've been hyperfocused on what's this whole covid shit is really about. How event 201 was done the month before and how deagles world gdp/population model 2017-2025 showed huge drops in gdp and population in Western countries
I was diagnosed with ADD when I was in the 3rd grade. I Always had problems in school focusing on the task at hand unless it was history or political science. I would get A's in history but D's and F's in all other subjects. I would tell myself to focus but would constantly be day dreaming in other subjects. To this day I have a hard time focusing and even when I am focusing I have a hard time remembering things such as numbers and names. That's why I always have to have a pen and pad with me at work. I have to write things down that a vast a vast majority of people can just mentally remember. As a kid It really sucked having the stigma of a special ed kid, but as an adult you realize the true meaning of fuck what people think and it is what it is. Even though everything is alot more difficult you can't give up and nor should you.
You've got to start parenting children from day 1. You can't wait until they're 7 or 8 to start teaching and expect them to be able to keep up with kids who have had 2 responsible parents from birth.
@@TastelessSoftware yep, a lot of people say that because they can all relate to some symptoms in their personal life. What they don't get is that for an Adhder like me, it is 24hr 7 days a week and causes really negatives impact in my life.
the problem is not just people lying about it for attention its also people who have it and bitch about it and don't do something about it, your suppose to train your mind into strengthening your focus by reading a book or studying not playing fucken video games for 8 hours like that dude on ritalin
I am 39 and was just diagnosed with ADD. Its been so difficult to understand it as I never had it explained to me. So I've been reading, watching videos, etc to understand it. She explains it so well!! I am just starting medication while waiting for a spot to open up with a counselor who specialized with ADD and executive functioning.
I discovered taekwondo at an early age. I learned to direct my attention willfully through this martial art. And released my anger from being the odd one out. Changed my life. I'm the odd one out still, but now 40 years later, I'm free of that internal chaos. I was lucky there was no internet then. ADHD became my super power. Bliss be with you.
This video is exactly what I was looking for. Clinically diagnosed wity ADHD and currently juggling going on meds or not. What she said about "Meta-Awareness" being a factor in "high functioning" is so on point.
Love this lady she is so intelligent… Basically your sensory deprivation tank is not what she wants to talk about right now and she won’t hold it… it’s not a priority… great guest Joe… really enjoyed it
I was diagnosed in 4th grade , ADHD and other disabilities , school was absolutely horrible , I failed basically everything , I have never read a book in my life , I can read an entire page and not have stored any of the words , I learn by listening and watching , reading was always my issue. Well one of them. It's extremely embarrassing and has made life very difficult until RU-vid and online platforms came around , the mid 90's there wasn't anything I was like a lab rat , different medications and classes , diagnosis it also ostracized me from other kids. So yes Joe , ADHD is 100% real and is a real problem.
Agreed. They also talk about life without meds, but they leave out that you have to do so many hours daily of meditation and more to connect the mental and physical dots, and it’s just not possible for most to keep the routine year in year out forever, leading back to meds. Only if you can afford all the extra one on one intensive help to keep them off medication, but for most people, don’t have that option. Whether it’s through public schools or out of school assistance in the early years. Medication has given us a privilege that otherwise would have us left behind. Still the meds are expensive.. I hear you so well!!! Forever tip toe
Joe only asked that because he knows other people were thinking it, I'm pretty sure he has it himself. He's explained that that is his interview style in other podcasts. BTW, you said you learn by listening, that is your learning style, it is not exclusive to adhd, you are an auditory learner who happens to also have adhd.
YES, SAME FOR ME, BUT I AT LEST LEARNED TO FIGHT WELL,👽 STATE CHAMP 4 YEARS IN A ROW , WRESTLING , ITS ALLWAYS ABOUT THE WOLF YOOU FEED. INTENT WILL BE ENUFF .
CLASSIC INVISIBLE DISABILITY . LIKE SOME ONE WOUD PUT THEMS SELFS THROUGH THAT INTERNALLY FOR FUN🤣🤪👽✌ I WAS JUMPED ALLMOST EVERY DAY WALKING HOME FROM SCHOOL, I WAS A VERY PASSIVE PERSON AND THE WHOLE THING GIVE ME ANXIETY.BUT I REALIZE ONE DAY AS A WAS JUMP BY 3 BIGGER KIDS , THEY WEREN'T HURTING ME. ITS WAS MY FELLINGS, SO I SAID ,LETS SEE WHAT HAPPENS IF I LET IT ALL GO ON THESE BULLYS. WELL MY WALKS HOME AFFTER THAT WERE NICE NO ONE BOTHERED ME AFTER THAT. THATS WHAT WE HAVE MY ADD FRIEND. WHEN WE LEARN TO FOCUS THE BIG ENERGY AT A PROBLEM IT IS EASY TO DO ONCE YOU FIND YOUR WAY TO MAKE IT WORK ,MUCH LUCK ON YOUR OWN JOURNEY IN WITHIN YOU ARE NEVER ALONE MEANY LIKE YOU ALL AROUND . PEACE ✌
I was a "gifted" kid in school and graduated with a Computer Science degree with pretty decent grades. Couldn't hold a software job for over a year. I found out that I had ADHD and my little sister was diagnosed as well. It's been over a year now and my life has gotten so much better.
i was diagnosed with adhd at a young age and shes really onto something with the flashlight analogy basicly what helps me is keeping my goals in order of importance and always being mindful of what gola im focused on first until said goal is done and immediately go too the next and if i focus hard enough i can get into a flow state and i just start to float through my daily tasks with precision its hard and takes practice but it works as long you practice mindfulness...
He had one on. Andrew Huberman. Though they didn't specifically talk about ADHD, you can watch an entire episode he (Andrew) dedicated to ADHD. It's on YT.
Yes I agree, this is almost a bs theory to try and make people focus better. We need an actual specialist, who understands what is causing this issues with lack of dopamine and neurotransmitters issues. Is she trying to sell something? 🤔 is she going to tell people who need glasses just try and look a look a little closer.
@@dannyjohnson8051 The reason I'm a little irritated is because when joe asked is adhd real she goes on about how mindfulness is a effective treatment which strengthens the belief adhd is not a serious condition. yeah mindfulness can help people however the issues are not because the person isn't calm. For instance give a hyper child a normal level of dopamine via medication, the symptoms from the lack of immediately disappear. You can't treat a lack of dopamine via just mindfulness it has little effect on the mind when the issues it much deeper than just behaviour and thought.
I was diagnosed with ADD at 12. I’m 39 now unmedicated. That mindfulness training would 1000% help me! I hyper focus on the wrong tasks and things like laundry get left for WEEKS. Yoga also refocuses me too, likely in the same way.
My question is how you managed to actually keep up with the yoga cause I can’t do that 😂 like I’ll do something for 2 days then that’s it, cannot form habits to save my life 😅
I’ve had ADD I believe my whole life. I remember in school thinking/feeling like there was something wrong with me, I was “broken” because I let the old stigma of ADD/ADHD allow me to think it was a disability. I now consider it gift! I wish I knew then what I know now about myself and my brain. The research wasn’t where it is today. I never got taught what was going on, why, how, etc. I remember my last high school years was the toughest. I dreaded school and couldn’t wait for it to be over. There are days where I still struggle to focus or feel motivated even with medication, that’s fine, there will be days like that. I also have days where I’m hyper focused, motivated through the roof, literally skies the limit. I’ve gotten so much better with learning how to work with ADD. The ideas, thoughts, plans that I come up with are really good! People that know me don’t understand how I do it, sometimes I don’t even know. They just pop up like a computer ad sometimes, I find it to happen frequently when I not even trying to think about thinks. I’ll be in the middle of mowing my lawn, and BOOM, a solution to an on going problem from months ago. My workplace is unionized, so my co workers (the good ones) often come to me for help when they have issues, if the union president is lazy and doesn’t want to be a rep at the time (political at times and long story) I often bump heads with my union rep about union and contract issues. He tends to get angry with me because I catch him contradicting himself a lot. All in all no foul play, no harm done. If you have ADD/ADHD don’t feel bad. Don’t feel down in anyway. Even people without it struggle with these things. I think my 6 soon to 7 year old daughter may have it, and if so, I’ll teach her how it’s a gift and not to EVER feel otherwise about it. I will help her in ways I never got, so she can do even better than I am, and maybe help others in the future. My 3 year old son although 3 so still very young to know for sure, but I think he may have it. I say that because I was the SAME way at his age. In every way possible. Not just the hyper ness that I’m referring too. Only time will tell. I hope my little story helps whoever may read it. God bless, and stay safe! GM
It IS a disability and it is NOT a gift, it is a horrible curse. But having it doesn't make you a bad person. It's not like any of us chose to be like this. The only thing that makes a person bad is choosing not to work on managing their problems, and everybody in the world has problems.
@@KFrost-fx7dt it is definitely not a horrible curse. I'm really sorry you feel that way about it. When I learned how to use it, it definitely is a gift that provides me with almost a super power that others absolutely envy.
@@farlinax1234 I think they might just be being nice to help your self-esteem like people do with autistics. You've let that go to your head. ADD is not a superpower, at all.
@@KFrost-fx7dt I’m sorry you feel this way. To each their own as they say. It’s obvious that you are negatively effected and hurt by this. I Assure you that this can be a very good thing if you learn to work with it, and use it to your advantage. I used to feel the same way as you seem to now. I learned to adapt to it, and use it to my advantage. Don’t give up, continue to seek help however you need to, and learn more about yourself than you think you do. Life is to short to limit yourself and think you got the short end. If you set a limit for yourself then that is only as far as you’ll go. Best of luck, bless you!
@@thenytrooper1 but you haven't even mentioned a single advantage. Having random ideas pop up is something all people experience. None of the positoves you are attributing to ADD are anything unusual, you're brain is functioning normally DESPITE the disorder. I really hate this phony positivity that people use to cope. There is absolutely nothing positive about having any mental disorder, it doesn't give you powers, it doesn't make you special, and it is not a gift. Calling something so horrible a gift is eggregiously toxic and stupid, and a slap in the face of everyone suffering from it.
She really got this question answered as thoroughly as I've heard in my opinion. Wasn't sure at first but I related too it by the end. Interesting stuff
I have to disagree as someone diagnosed adhd early on this woman really is speaking babble trash that doesn’t explain anything she explains and lies a lot watch her eyes. She thinks she’s smart but she’s making shit up on the fly. Relating to it doesn’t mean it’s right.
Recently diagnosed with Asperger's and ADHD as a senior citizen; it explained my whole life. This woman is right about attention. If I'm really interested in something, I'm laser focused and I'm ON it. If not, I realllly struggle getting this task done. I also often say that this or that "wasn't in the front of my brain"...I often have thoughts or tasks that get pushed to the back of the line, so to speak. Unless I'm actively thinking of it as a priority, thoughts seem to hide somewhere. It's VERY annoying to others, and especially to me that my brain works this way. It's a main reason I keep a List of Today's Priorities going at all times.
I was diagnosed with add as a child, I was prescribed various medications too see what would help/work and each one always made things worse. Stopped taking meds back In 8th grade against my parents wishes because I was tired of relying on a medication and how it made me feel. Slowly taught myself over the years to live with each part of it, anxiety, attention, emotions etc. When I discovered and started practicing mindfulness and meditation it gave me another level of awareness of what was going on in those moments when my add was going haywire so I could take back control. It's not easy I'm not always successful but it's worth the effort and the more I keep working at it the better life gets and easier it is to cope.
Don't listen to this woman, she clearly lacks scientific information to what causes these issues. The adhd brain is looking for stimulation because of the lack of normal level dopamine. Joe needs a specialist to discuss this type of disorder not somebody who seems to be selling something. For instance a person who needs glasses asking them to focus a little better is the equivalent of what is being said by her.
@@sj8099 ahh yes don’t listen to the woman with a doctorate in this field that has spent her career studying ADHD but rather listen to some random fake RU-vid account. Thanks for warning us.
@@theamericandream5917 big difference between psychiatrist and psychologist. Perhaps you should check out some studies and they're free. She is trying to claim that the adhd brain can be treated through mindfulness oh but don't stop your medication, oh look shes also a director for the mindfulness company 🙄. You really think she ain't trying to sell something. Dufus, perhaps spend some time learning and understanding from a specialist in adhd what the issue actually is rather than spending some time doing mindfulness which is the least effective thing currently available.
@@Mdautkreix true we are both right however doesn't mindfulness help with most mental health conditions to a extent. So perhaps when joe asked is adhd real, she could of explained a brief summary of what the issue is and what adhd medication does. I could perform a study on people with bipolar and they ask them to mediate everyday they'll 100 percent only get benefits but take away the medication and the meditation will make little difference to the issues someone with bipolar faces.
People need to realize ADD/ADHD is a disorder but it's not a curse. It's a mental blessing. You just have to know how to utilize it properly and do your research and gain understanding and full comprehension! Not that hard. I MIN/MAX every aspect of my life, including the disorders (Mental Blessings) I am diagnosed with. Once you hyper-focus and can self-activate states of “FLOW”, you will understand what I mean.
Since I was about 8 I was diagnosed as having ADD when medication like adderall, Ritalin and the like were just becoming prevalent as a commonly prescribed solution (1996 or so?) it certainly made a quantifiable difference in my school work and ability to complete tasks in a timely manner. Now it’s arguable this is due to how the active ingredients in those medications effect your neurochemistry but I would respond to that line of inquiry with the fact that I have absolutely zero issues sleeping for 7 hours after taking my meds and for a regular person this will typically not be the result. So there is some empirical evidence that it effects myself differently in many aspects
I have it as well, but the medications you describe make it impossible for me to sleep. It really is a very different experience it seems with every person.
Joseph is right, and it’s a relief to hear he has a similar experience. When I take my meds it certainly doesn’t disrupt sleep, and it certainly doesn’t affect me the same way others explain that it effects them, they usually say it hypes them up and increases focus, unfortunately for me it does the same to be as coffee does almost, it calms me down and actually gets me kind of tired. But ya different reactions for everyone but my Dr. Says those that might not actually have severe ADHD will have a reaction to the meds that gives energy, which is good because I don’t need anymore energy.
I had a similar situation around the same time. I was put on something called Dexedrine, but I had bad psyche issues as a result. I was rail thin also and never wanted to eat.
@@King-O-Hell me too. Dexadrine was at one time used as a weight loss pill because it suppresses the appetite. Another application for it was military doctors would give special forces units doses before going on missions to heighten awareness and focus. They called it “combat candy”.
I’ve meditated since I was 14, did yoga 3 days a week for 8 years - I’ve tried everything and while it helped, it wasn’t until I was 43, going through a divorce, halfway through my Masters degree and almost almost my career that I was diagnosed with ADHD- combined. Up until then I was diagnosed with severe depression at 16, chronic anxiety at 19, attempted suicide at 21 and struggled/masked ever since. I worked out what society wanted and tried to play along, until I couldn’t anymore. But in the meantime I have raised two beautiful children (both ADHD as well) alone, kept a spotlessly clean house and learned how to pay my bills on time and stop losing things. But the internal shame was ever present. I knew I wasn’t the same. I knew life was just always ‘different’ for me. Other people just seemed to know how to be… well… people. But I didn’t. But when I was diagnosed I commenced a long acting medication and the effect has been so life changing I can’t put it into words. Looking back it was like I was living life walking through mud up to my knees with a blindfold on, wondering why I wasn’t as good as everyone else. I’m back at Uni and a paper that used to take me at LEAST 3 weeks to write now takes me 12 hours. In the past I would get a credit or a pass, I’m currently sitting on a distinction average. If any neurotypical typical person doubts that ADHD exists or questions whether one should take the meds I recommend you take their opinion and place it exactly where it belongs. Until a person has walked a mile in your shoes they don’t even get a look in. I’m sending out so much love and hugs to everyone- be strong, stay happy, you’ve got this. You are better, stronger, more fabulous than you think you are- and you’ve got a cute bum 😊❤
Adhd is a wild feeling of not knowing WHO or HOW you truly are. Emotions flare and sleep is tough alot of times. I'm still struggling with my eyes STICKING on certain moments when my brain is wandering. Hard to snap out even with medication. I'm struggling but Im growing daily! Thanks for bringing attention to it joe!
not to long ago became I aware of ADD as a condition, after I informed myself about it, and was diagnosed with it, I felt an incredible sensation like if I had solved a 1 million pieces puzzle, because I never understood why my mind didnt operate like others. Having now some basic knowledge about ADD and how to treat it, is unvaluable to me, because that means that I now have taken control over my actions and therefore of my life. This is a turning point in my life where my productivity and focus increased inmensely. I have a goal of becoming a milionaire within the next 5 years, and discovering ADD was huge step towards achieving that goal. I will read this comment in 5 years from now and be able to say "I made it!", if god gives me life to get there. If you read this, idk why you did, or whyh you care, but I hope you too can avhieve your goals and look back to this day and feel inmensely proud of yourself, all my love and good vibes to you
For my entire school life up until grade 10, I would be called in for a parent teacher meeting only for my teacher to complain about how hard it was teaching me and how i was never willing to learn. Many of them suggested moving me to a special school. My mom would tell me to do something for her multiple times before i even really picked up that she needed me to do something. I would simply acknowledge her without really knowing i did then denying she said anything. Eventually my middle schools special ed program gave me a test to determine if i had a learning problem in which i tested above average. We finally made the trip to a specialist which gave me the confirmed diagnosis, they ended up putting me on several test medications such as Concerta, Ritalin and the more popular drug Adderall. I would take the medication once daily as recommended and at first it really did work. I no longer goofed off as hard during class, i started doing my homework and overall took school more seriously. However, the medication started toying with my mental state quite heavily. I felt severe mood swings and a total switch of what my personality used to be. They led me to stop the medication overall. At the time of stopping my few good habits that i had in my life really picked up such as Reading, Playing the piano, and Working out. This overall gave a me a natural way to keep my brain focused onto one thing which helped tame my symptoms by quite a lot. Going into grade 11 I was off medication, had plenty of great habits that helped with my focus and gave me a great sense of clarity. I finished up Grade 11 with mostly straight Bs which were the highest marks id seen all my life. In grade 12 i received an Honour roll certificate and had all As. This was my story, thanks for reading(:
As someone with ADHD, diagnosed when I was 8, I'd say it's pretty real. My mom thankfully chose to not medicate me & so over the years I learnt how to get a handle on it and conform to whatever is socially acceptable, although difficult at times. The key for me was finding an outlet to release any pent up energy so that I would then be able to focus better. Lengthy walks of a few hours helps to release the energy so I'm not constantly fidgeting etc., however the ability to focus, or lack thereof, is still a constant factor as I'm easily distracted by whatever is going on around me.
I have it too, I was diagnosed when I was 7, never took medicine as well. There are times where it’s very hard to control my focus or paying attention even if I’m interested in something can be so difficult. What helps me it’s just exercise and I try to plan things out ahead of time. Also learning about ADHD and being aware so I can control some of the effects. There are so many things I didn’t know were triggered because of ADHD!
Add is fake just like tourettes, it's fuckrd up to put little kids on drugs at that age. It's called being a kid, it's normal to not be focused on things like that
@@krayziejerry I agree that its wrong to put young kids on drugs, but I don't agree that ADHD/ADD is fake. I guess you're fortunate enough to not have experienced it or any of its side effects. Aren't you lucky to have never experienced the uncontrollable urge to constantly be in motion & to not be able to tune out any and all sounds as well as actions of anything going on around, being hyper aware of your surroundings so much so that you're unable to control your focus on any one thing. I guess also the recent studies of the brain imaging of a normal brain vs. someone with ADHD showing various differences is fake too 🤷♀️ How do you suppose they fake that?
@@krayziejerry nope it’s not kids just being kids it has greater implications, like not being able to make or retain friends, not being able to focus or staying in one spot. Some people are able to function without medicine but sometimes it’s harder to keep jobs or many end up having addiction to drugs. It is scientifically proven ADD and ADHD are real conditions. There are several studies that research the chemistry of the brain. It can be dangerous to have untreated add ADD/ADHD because addictions are very common with those who have it. I was lucky I was diagnosed young because I was going to a phycologist to learn ways to co-op with my ADHD and anxiety disorder. It helped a lot, I don’t know where I would be if it wasn’t for that early diagnosis.
im so happy joe asked about medication, i quit and learned how to manage my add and adderal helped show me what it takes to focus but it also gave me the awareness to notice im a zombie that couldnt have emotional connection with anyone. it gave me the tools to better work on my attention span and opened my eyes. imo
Ok hi ! I’m a massage therapist that’s just gotten screened for ADHD / ADD , it makes like 14 different sub boxes that you want to say all at once. It’s a lack of getting out of you’re own way. Joe you have gone through the ego death ! You’re doing great brotha! It’s from being raised by screaming animals that have narcissistic abusers from their past. Also from seeing my siblings have learning disabilities.
I'm 42 and was diagnosed with ADD in my early 30's. The psychologist who administered my testing said "you likely have had this since childhood". I was a poor student in grade school, but learned how to study in my early 20's and now have 2 graduate degrees. I learned that regulating dopamine isn't the most important consideration and I have always responded poorly to stimulants (concerta, etc.) Regulating NMDA receptors (glutamate) is equally important because of it's relationship with GABA. I have learned that Zinc and Magnesium are critical to regulating my mood, circadian rhythm and anxiety and recommend it for anyone.
@@TheInsaneHardstyleSorry for the long reply! ZMA has aspartate which can make the brain more stimulated just like glutamate if to much is taken in, so no I don't use it. It also has b6 which can also over stimulate if taken in high doses. There are lots of various types of Mag and I use Mag Taurate by Vitamin Shoppe. I started with 1 in am and 1 at bedtime, but i am now at 1 at am and 2 at bedtime. As for Zinc, I use 15mg of Zinc Picolinate with dinner each day, but be careful because high doses of zinc supplementation can cause copper deficiency. These work to regulate glutamate and increase gaba naturally instead of taking synthetic gaba products. Benzo's don't increase Gaba but instead increase the potency of our own gaba. If people are low in gaba then they need higher doses of benzo's usually and vice a versa if they are high in gaba they can only tolerate lower doses and complain of excessive hangovers etc. These are just my findings by my own research as a PA and Clinical Research Coordinator and of course my own usage as a person with treatment resistant ADD. Google zinc and ADHD sleep connections and also Magnesium and sleep. Zinc also boosts natural melatonin production and release from the pineal gland. Mag Glycinate and Carbonate can actually cause insomnia and did with me, but i was calm while unable to fall asleep, so maybe they are best during the day and vary person to person...IDK. I found Mag Taurate to be my mag of choice and Taurine is a wonderful mood regulator, sleep aid and anti anxiety amino in and by itself. I went from 1mg of klonopin to 0.5mg in 3 months because of this. My mood is also much better and my energy isn't zapped like it was before i started (if you take klonopin then you know what i mean). I am taking my klonopin taper very slow due to years of usage. With a 30-40 hour half life, I notice dose reductions after 3 days and Mag and Zinc help with to adjust. Avoid antihistamines if possible. My psychiatrist told me they exacerbate ADD/ADHD. I say this because Hydroxyzine was prescribed to me by a different Dr. a few years ago to get off klonopin and it made me feel absolutely horrible. Good luck!
@Jackson same here. I diagnose this in kids and for years as I was learning I thought it wasn’t real because I thought everyone struggled with this until I met my best friend in grad school and realized it wasn’t normal!
Now see I was great at school because I could memorize so easily snobby the time I reached upper levels of college I had absolutely no idea how to study beyond mass manic episodes of memorization and i absolutely cannot do that if I don't personally fine the subject interesting. And that just makes me spiral into intense depression and anxiety and even suicidal ideation.
Despite feeling like I was smarter than most kids in school I struggled to get good grades. Was finally diagnosed with add in my twenties and the second I started taking adderall I was like "OH... THIS is what its like to be normal". And I've just been kicking life's ass ever since. It's insane how much a basic dopamine deficiency can hinder your capabilities. So glad I got medicated
Are you sure that's what it's like to be normal? I mean people with no disabilities take Adderall to increase productivity, too. Just because a drug affects you, that doesn't also mean that something was "wrong" before.
@@gamingasylum9957 my brother was normal up till his higher exams he told me he didn't want to fail which caused him to worry in class and be preoccupied next minute later he's diagnosed with add was on meds for four months his new psychiatrist said it was anxiety and he came off them
@@gamingasylum9957It's not just about productivity. Before taking adderall I had zero patience I would get irritated extremely easily making socializing and basic tasks very difficult. I couldn't hold down a 9-5 minimum wage job because I would constantly make mistakes while my mind wandered or I'd misplace things and forget things, etc. I couldnt even watch TV because my mind would just wander. With the medication I can actually socialize and enjoy conversations with people instead of being instantly annoyed by them, I can actually do basic things with my full attention, I can sit down and watch TV and actually pay attention. I definitely went from not normal to at least more normal
I cried when we decided to put my son on Adderall, because I hated that he got this awful affliction from me, and I hated my Ritalin as a child. But my son went from being a nightmare for teachers and struggling in school to being the best student in the class. He loves his medicine and he understands it helps him focus in school. Those who think ADD is not real have never dealt with a child who has it or has ever struggled with it. As an adult, I don't need medication because I have learned to be aware of my affliction and I try really hard to check it, but it is always a struggle.
Yea congratulations 🎉 off course hes going to love something so similar to methamphetamine, your changing your childs brain chemistry (if he genuinely has this illness, then thats fine) BUT does your child is always on his phone? Does he go running everyday? Does he eat healthy? Doesnt he only watch non educational trash on social media/youtube? Doesnt he use Tiktok? Its so important to follow those steps, because if not then your child is very likely to experience symptoms of ADD/ADHD…
ADHD is usually thought of like some type of illness when in reality it's your bodies reaction to its environment, a defense mechanism. I hope nobody experiences anything bad because of ADHD because like with most mental issues it's not really their fault.
For those without the attention span to finish: 1) ADHD ADD Exists 2) Mindfullness training helps you be more aware and able to how you spend your time
Figured this out in my mid-30s and the medication was life-changing. Wish the "anti-meds" people knew that the correct meds for the correct diagnosis (not everyone with concentration issues has ADD) can be truly life-changing. Executive function training definitely helps, but without the meds alongside you're simply in the Nike "Just do it" school of whipping yourself harder and harder, and relying on sheer force of will, working at least 3 or 4 times harder than others at what should be simple tasks and sequences of tasks. You burn out really fast that way, and end up in crazy yo-yo cycles of productivity with regular crashes. When you already know you're weird and different, that messes you up your self-esteem further. I didn't want the meds (I believed all the nonsense peddled about Ritalin), but my doctor persuaded me to try it, and I haven't looked back.
Well , that’s one perspective . I’m “ anti meds “ because I took medicine for a few years for adhd . The medication made me feel dead , and emotionless . And people believed that’s just how you have to live to not get distracted . We all have our shit , I quit those meds , and haven’t looked back . Better to learn with the condition attached, it ain’t going nowhere
Well I mean if you give people meth they generally like it…..congrats on becoming a amphetamines addict…..and calling it “fixed” 😂😂😂 fucking hilarious how clueless people are today. You got any other comedy routines 🤣
@@wakeup1783 attack the idea, not the person. I think she makes an interesting point. Do people with concentration problems deserve to have to work harder at everything to succeed? On the other hand, you make a fair point too: do they deserve to feel completely numb from medication? Neither sounds fair, and I think the solution is probably not going to be either/or. And I think that was the whole point of this clip.
