I landed on this interview through a pipeline of the most uncharitable takes on Ian and Anisa’s relationship at a time where I’m looking for gentleness in my own. What a gem in a world that fosters cruelty towards imperfections.
This is probably my favorite podcast episode so far, I really enjoyed the insight and in-depth conversations. I am definitely going to check out Dr. Kirk’s podcasts
I've enjoyed watching this to the point where I'm sad the episode is over 😂 I'm a "fan" of dr. Honda and Ian but getting to know more about Anisa was great! I find her very likable, gorgeus too ❤
This episode has been my fave. It made me cry. I can really tell how much y'all love each other and how much work you both have put in over the years. I'm so inspired and proud of you both and now am a new fan of Dr. Honda. Sending hugs to you both. ❤
As someone who used to like idubbz bad unboxing videos, I think that a lot of cold ones content fills a similar niche. A lot of my enjoyment was the erratic energy and carefree fun that you had. I think people (especially neurodivergent people like me) enjoy that especially when they get bogged down in behaving "normally" all day. To me it was a safespace to like feel that energy and those emotions. (Also this was a great podcast thank you for making my day better)
In the realm of psychology youtubers, Dr. Mick would be a great guest if you guys are familiar with him. He plays games and gives his outlook on it as someone in his profession.
It's crazy that people always call Anisa "abusive" or "toxic". When you listen to all their stories about past relationship problems they've had or personal growth they've had it is very apparent that Ian used to be the "toxic" one... that's obviously the past so I'm not trying to hold something that happened 5 years ago against him but out of the two of them it would make more sense for Ian to be acused of these things (not that I think anyone should).
Love how open you two are on this podcast generally, but this was an amazing, insightful episode Good on y’all for bettering yourselves and your relationship over time, it’s beautiful to see ❤
Amazing episode, this guy is amazing and I’m absolutely gonna listen to him more. I related a lot to what Ian was saying and I really needed to hear that so thankyou
Obviously I don’t know you guys but it’s so so obvious that Anisa loves Ian so much. Like it’s crazy seeing people being 100% convinced that she hates him and wants him to hate himself and then watching this and seeing that she thinks, at his core, he’s always been good. That is such a good basis of a relationship.
49:00 Anisa was talking about comments diagnosing her with BPD. Then Kirk interrupts her to redirect the conversation to talk about him "ignoring" those comments. Hmmm... I wonder if there's a therapist online that contributes to such comments, posting about people and their behaviors and what could be BPD... Then there's him hiring his niece to screen the comments which is insane considering he wants to talk about other people's mental health and trauma but claims he can't handle people discussing him on his own channel.... Do people know what happened? There's comments calling him out for being pro pdf file and belittling kids that claimed they were r-worded. Why would you put your niece to screen those comments of people legit concerned and angry? He said that he hired his niece instead of a random stranger because he's afraid if any one person were to read the info behind the scene, he's afraid they wouldn't take his side. Brilliant. Thank goodness there's a brother's kid to take that place! In older videos, he used to talk about looking up his name to see what people were saying about him online. He switched that up around the Johnny Depp trial when people were calling him out for being inappropriate. That's when he all of a sudden started talking about being super duper sensitive to criticism. He's a master manipulator. Document every communication you have with him.
The easiest way to moce forward, is to realize your UNIVERSAL importance as a human being, and GET OVER the personal identifiable arrogance that we attach to pain/hurt. You can’t imagine yourself a different human based on experiences you didn’t have, but ultimately our personal obsession with our own experiences truly defines a persons in-the-moment experience.
Anisa, I don’t think I’ve ever written a comment quite like this one and I’m oddly compelled to do so. Listening to you and Ian discuss the process of therapy, the ups and downs, and all the nuance struck a chord with me. I’ve been with my husband for almost 20 years (I’m about to be 40 so I’m not that old lol) and I can see that you both are where we were ten years ago. I get it. My husband has the exact same adoration of solitude (going to be my next book title 😂), the quiet action, and the need to be untethered. It’s taken years, but it’s all ok. I see so many parallels between you and I. Again, this seems weird to share intimate details here. But I felt the strong pull to write. I’ll also send you a message on instagram. The same handle as here, in case you want to check for it. Celebrating your future as you mend the past. 🩶
Dr Kirk Honda of Psychology in Seattle is a wonderful model of a therapist and human being. Other RU-vid therapists shout and swear at the videos they analyse, but Dr Kirk Honda gives such a thoughtful reflection from all perspectives and promotes understanding and patience with those portrayed as the ‘bad guy’ as well as promoting keeping yourself safe from unhelpful relationships. His channel is very impressive especially deep dives and the reaction videos to some relationship Tv shows. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
For a long time I would have the bad unboxing series play in the background to help me fall asleep. I loved the carefree aspect of it. Your voice was also consistent and you did not make any sudden noises. It was oddly relaxing for me.
When you all talked about how Ian is trying to re-find his career. I was hit by this feeling of how cool and rare this podcast is. After success on the internet followed by traumatic event, this podcast is like a post mortem on a past age of the internet. I think most creators who at one time had huge social following look back at their career offline and we never hear from them again. But, I think its really cool and brave that you both are are putting conversations like this one out their in the public. And it actually kind of re-contextualized the title of the podcast for me. I always thought it was called "She ruined my career" as an "F you" to everyone who says that about Anisa. Like " Look I'm still out here making stuff, what are you going to do about it?". But this episode made me think it is much more earnest. That she did ruin Ian's career, and it was welcome change. And what were seeing now is you both attempting to discover a new career. I may have thought too much about this, but I really liked this episode.
@@AnisaJtitle speaks for itself, he would have continued to grow his career and maybe even become a healthier person than the shell he is here if you didn't ruin his career and turn his whole life into being all about you and what you want
This is an amazing episode but I was surprised when Dr. Honda said William Osman never returned lol, in reality he look a 6 month break to work on other projects after that video and has been killing it ever since
Yeah, this is so fucking bad. I feel like Ian should just try to get a normal annonymous job and get his life together however he wants. He obviously has problems going on concerning his identity. And he should get away from Anisa, that's evident.
so insightful, such a great guest. i’m a big fan of psychology type shit so this ruled. i’d be interested in just hearing yall discuss more behavior type subjects like rejection sensitivity dysmorphia or other lesser known but very common tings
Man I did feel like I was in therapy and I wasn't even there. This video is nothing but beautiful. I understand now why Anisa and Ian have been so far from social media now. I miss seeing them there but man, I understand, and I'm all for you doing whatever it takes to thrive. Thins are rough now, but I know that both of your careers will take off again, and even if you don't get the massive level of success you had before, you'll get well off from doing stuff you love. From your old pal, Nata the human.
The disparaging comments here are deranged lol i watched expecting Anisa to tear Ian down or talk over him the whole time and that just didn't happen. I saw two people working through their issues who obviously love each other. Like jfc im sorry you two have to put up with this
thank you both for being so open and vulnerable this ep, i really enjoyed the conversation. you both have clearly helped each other grow immensely as people through the challenges you've encountered. it's very refreshing for a couple to be so honest about their personal struggles and how they grew stronger for working through it together. you're a beautiful couple and the support and love you have for one another is evident. keep up the good work guys
i really sympathize with you both, especially anisa, but anisa the way you never have stood up for trisha who got probably the worst hate train of all time sent her way from your best friend ethan is something that i find disappointing. you say how harmful online hate is but are best friends with h3h3 that literally sends his "foot soldiers" to anyone he has issues with. as a sex worker and as a woman, you should have had a soft corner for trisha who actually has BPD and drug issues. but you didnt. you and ian still dont talk fondly of her. i wish you both would have extended some grace her way. i understand ian not understanding or seeing the wrong in how ethan conducts himself, but i just expected more from anisa. because i feel like she is probably some of the few people on this planet that would understand. you guys advocate for kindness and anti-bullying, but are best friends with ethan. but it is what it is. i hope one day anisa realizes that for this world to be a better place, we need to advocate for empathy and forgiveness from the people we surround ourselves with. anisa, if people do better when they are given love and support, then how is it right to punish them with hate when they don't? i wish things get better for you and ian, and i hope you understand how harmful it can be to stay silent when a best friend is putting someone consistently through the same hurt you face.
@1:23:45 This entire conversation is what I've always wondered about. Im the same age and Ian and pretty much grew up with all the same videos. I LOVED content cop at the time. I now, of course, feel the exact same sentiments you both do. So im glad you don't regret or hate the entirety of the videos. Im very nostalgic about them, but I just wish some of the wording and sentiments we all used casually back then were different. Ive always loved Ian and Anisa together. Relationship Goals. ✌🏻❤️
i love you guys, i love what you became ian, i love anisa and you two together are the best couple, never change, don't let these fuckers get to you, you guys are great. this podcast is awesome and i love it.
What Kirk says at 1:24:19 is very true, I'm glad Anisa was quick to encourage that way of looking at things. Balance is so important, being so quick to denounce your old content was always going to be jarring for yourself and your fans. We're still here, waiting for an iDubbbz with a sense of balance and purpose. Interesting and eye-opening episode into the minds of you two, I really hope you two keep pushing a bit further to establish a new kind of balance.
My relationship went through a very similar evolution of learning to emote and overcoming abandonment. Thank you for sharing you guys,, we are on the journey with you and we see your effort.
Dunno if you're still reading comments Ian but you and Anisa are so inspiring. My wife and I have an amazing relationship but you're setting the "couples goals" bar very high.
definitely my favourite episode so far, what an amazing guest, you all had great chemistry and went through some deep psychological topics. lol just because Anisa has abandonment issues she has bpd? yeah, it's gonna take a while untill these kids of mentally immature commenters catch up to you guys..
♥ Good episode! Both guest episodes have gone really well and I'm excited to see more! I relate to the not wanting to read comments and reading them anyway thing, as well as the negative feelings associated with them. I work as a game developer (not even on big games) and the amount of weird hate and pure speculation untrue comments really sucks and makes the whole experience so much worse. Also would just like to shout out Ian's pants looking fresh this episode.
I’m so happy you guys are making this podcast!! I feel so seen lol. Every Monday I have this to look forward to and I learned so much about Canada and I really love every person on the show, especially Anisa! Please keep it up 😊
As an old idubbbz fan I have to say that I’m still here and still love y’all it got weird for a second for sure but I never left! Can’t get rid of me tbh
I’m a 38 yr old white dude and resonate with Ian’s story so much. Lots of neglect as a kid, bottled up emotions thinking that as what was “strong”, finally meeting someone who shows you what love is and can be and now you want to change. I was a fan back then and I’m on board for this act 2. You guys are doing great and it’s inspiring to see other people making their best effort to just be good people. ❤
@@DadGamer9000 often, individuals may not fully grasp their own needs or accurately assess their circumstances, which is a core reason therapy can be beneficial. I'm simply providing my perspective as an unbiased observer, with all due respect.
@@anaslex7156 Unfortunately, I don’t believe your view is unbiased at all. You’re putting blame on mental illness that you have attributed to someone you do not know. You’re not saving anyone. You’re being a dick. ❤️ have the day you deserve.
@@anaslex7156 You’re not unbiased at all is the problem. (Neither is anybody, for that matter). You saying “BPD-induced nightmare” shows that you’re coming at this from an uninformed and stigmatizing place, not somebody who has valuable insight to offer when it comes to mental health or interpersonal relationships.
This is honestly a fantastic episode 👏 im really glad Ian is beginning to look for a sort of purpose again in a healthy way. Dr. Honda was an excellent guest as well and even the raport between him and Anisa has improved. Also thank you for starting to address the nuance take of the apology and talking about the positive aspects, because there definitely were and Ian should hold his art with pride. I hope he does some day 🙏
I think the "positive comments come in the most in the first 24 hours" is only true if you have an existing following. I have personally found that when I post content publicly the worst, rudest comments come almost instantly and the positivity follows. My theory is that basement dwellers who refresh for "new" to find people to antagonize just catch content sooner than well adjusted people
