I have tried many times to find a therapist that specializes in trauma. They say they do and they really don’t! I have tried so many therapists over the last 10 years and nothing has helped me as much as listening to you! I get a little better every day and have hope for the future! Thank you Emma!
This has been my experience too: therapists who say they specialise and are knowledgeable about trauma, but aren't, have tried many therapists, and listening to Emma's videos have helped me more than all of those supposed trauma experts, along with researching and finding other help on my own. Just found Emma recently and have been binging her videos! She makes so much sense and is very knowledgeable. I have great appreciation for her!
❤Please try gratitude. I've read one Jewish book about gratitude: people wrote about how they didn't have something, wanted it so much, and they started practicing gratitude for about half an hour/hour each day. And they got what they wanted! Heavens are very generous. Remember this please: 'Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.'
@@Catbooks❤Please try gratitude. I've read one Jewish book about gratitude: people wrote about how they didn't have something, wanted it so much, and they started practicing gratitude for about half an hour/hour each day. And they got what they wanted! Heavens are very generous. Remember this please: 'Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.'
I have found it's good talk with others who have had major trauma... You can reach out to me. I joke on youtube and all that but I'm suffering from PTSD big time. It's soothing to talk to others in the same boat.
@@shivangisharma354 whenever I felt anxious I said STOP and I tried to become aware of my response. Was i critical and angry or did I allow myself to feel anxious? It was very hard first but every time it became easier. That way you don’t fuel your anxiety with more anger and fear.
I've done CBT, ACT, DBT and EMDR. I could have not done the EMDR without doing the CBT work first, as it created a foundation to build on. EMDR has helped me tremendously but it is hard work and its not for everyone. Many blessings to those on the healing path!!
As a trauma therapist myself i was interested to see how you were going to handle this one! I tend to use a combination of approaches (I am trained in multiple approaches) tailored to the person's wishes, wants and clinical indication. I think this is a really good overview, I particularly like how you addressed some of the other interventions such as brainspotting without taking anything away from them but pointing out caution of treatments without a rigorous evidence base. I really hope this gives people more confidence in reaching out when they are struggling. Thanks Emma.
I did EDMR as well and it was the best 10 months of my life. Hard as hell but I knew that walking in. I highly recommend this type of therapy because regular talk therapy won’t get you anywhere.
@@taylorlastname Likely multiple events with an 18 month period of time. My wife had an affair, spent a year being hyper critical and highly argumentative with me. My dad became terminally ill around the same time. I coudnt get my wife to go to therapy. My wife divorced me to chase the guy and took the kids 50% of the time. About a year later I lost my dream job because I had difficulty focusing given what I was going through.
Just now - I was listening to your description of exposure therapy (talking and talking and talking about a trauma) - it made me physically nausea. I don't know that I have ever been that in tune to my body to recognize a reaction that quickly. Emma, your previous classes have really helped me to get to this point. Thank you!
❤Please try gratitude. I've read one Jewish book about gratitude: people wrote about how they didn't have something, wanted it so much, and they started practicing gratitude for about half an hour/hour each day. And they got what they wanted! Heavens are very generous. Remember this please: 'Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.'
I'm struggling right now because I found a therapist, but she informed me that if I disclose anything to her about childhood abuse, she is legally required to report it to child protective services, even though I am an adult now and it happened 30 years ago. I don't want to be involved in any kind of legal situation, so now I am not comfortable talking about it to the therapist.
@@ssgundes1 in my state (VA) there are mandatory reporting laws, so there doesn't seem to be a way around it. This is the 6th therapist I have talked to, and it's getting too exhausting finding new ones.
I would recommend clarifying with your therapist- if you are an adult, and if you do not disclose the name of your abuser, the therapist cannot report it. I have worked with many clients who were abused long ago who were not interested in getting involved in the legal situation and as long as they are not currently children, and they didn’t tell me the full legal name of their abuser- we didn’t report and just focused on treatment.
@@ELP1017 There IS a way around it, though... I don't know if you caught Doc McAdam's reply, but if you refuse to disclose full legal names or make statements to those authorities, especially since it was 30 years ago and you ARE an adult, there isn't much the authorities can do... Some therapists (bad ones in my opinion) may use this as a threat to try to keep their patients honest or to try and make sure there isn't a "wild story" involved from the impressions of a childhood nightmare or whatever... My BEST advice, over all, is for you to go speak to a lawyer about it. KNOW YOUR RIGHTS, and the worst it should cost for a consult of that type is about $20... Bring a notebook and/or a voice recorder, so you can get all the information "down" for future references and any rehearsing you want to do before bringing it up again... Then you'll be equipped with solid information from a legitimate legal council when it comes to standing up for yourself and making it plain... even to cops. "This is about me healing. You can't get me justice anyway. It was 30 friggin' years ago! I'm NOT making any statement, and you can't force me." ;o)
Love that you're addressing this. I was one who asked this question , so it's especially nice to feel heard and get that vital info. I live in an area (Maui, Hawaii) where you can't swing a dead cat without finding some (real?) therapist or another hippy-dippy- feel good, 'energy worker'/massage therapist on the side that doesn't even touch you, etc.; "tell me all about it, and see you next week for another 42 minute hour" (and only take cash). Exhausting trying to find even a licensed one that takes it seriously (not just an easy way to facilitate billing). I know, I sound so cynical, but its real. And the only 2 seemingly professional therapists here both "only take adolescents and are not taking new patients". I need more than hot baths, affirmations, and smudging for real actual, documented (I recorded 7 individual horrific medical Dr. malpractice events) trauma care. I'm too whomped right now to go and file complaints, and submit the transcriptions as evidence. I'm trying to get able to go outside into the world again; be functional. So, yes, this info is great. Now, will I be able to find help....here? That remains to be seen. Thank you for you.
I have had 3 therapists and they were all very expensive and completely unhelpful. I have given up! I worked with a guy with multiple PhDs and he was so apathetic and although we did CBT he never addressed the actual event that caused my PTSD. He also talked non stop the whole hour long session about nothing.
I've lost my faith in therapy as well. Years ago, I had a therapist like that--he only talked about himself while my whole life was melting down. Afterward, I saw a series of mental health professionals who could care less and just tossed me scripts for antidepressants. Now I'm thinking about ordering some self-help trauma workbooks on Amazon.
Hi Emma Just wanted to pass on something to you that I think you’ll appreciate. Over a year ago I guess, I came across your channel, watched a few vids and subscribed. Since then, I’ve been watching the notifications and, in the beginning, watched a few of the videos. Bear with me, I trust it’s good news. I don’t know exactly how it happened, but I must have got such a good vibe from your sincere, warm, and caring manner that it extends to the regular notifications. Just seeing your face on the thumbnail is enough to remind me about you; that there is a person who cares about others and this brightens my day. It’s so simple it’s ridiculous. Imagine if you could bottle it! Keep doing what you’re doing and I sincerely wish you and your family (new and existing) all the best. M 🤗👏🙏🏻
I just want to say thank you. I feel that your videos are encouraging hope in me and putting my mind at ease. I’ve been continuously listening and watching your videos to help me get through the tough times. Please do not ever stop making these videos!
I just found your channel Emma and what a blessing!! My son Nicolas, my husband and I were all diagnosed with COVID in October. Nick is also Autistic. Hubby and I were sick I spent one night in hospital. However, poor Nick didn't. He was taken 120 miles from our home to a trauma center and we all had to stay separated from each other due to the virus. It was the longest 6 weeks of my life. They sedated Nick and his condition worsened too the point of being put on a ventilator and the had to install a feeding tube. Her was under sedation until a few days before Thanksgiving. Then when he woke up imagine how he felt. Hooked up too all these tubes and strapped to the bed due to his autism. The Drs were afraid he would try to pull out the ventilator or other tubes that were helping him fight for his life. We had just lost our oldest daughter too a heroine overdose the previous October and we were all consumed with grief. I'm so worried about Nicholas. He fought and he fought hard and I'm so blessed to tell you that he made it!!🥰🥰🥰💓😊. He spent from October 6th until February 16 in hospitals. The last hospital was a rehab center to help with what he endured physically from the lack of walking he lost 100 pounds and he was so happy to enjoy his first Taco Bell burrito lol lol. I'm trying to find him a therapist and I've interviewed two and let's just say.... Not very impressive. Lol I'm so thankful to of found your channel. I've been watching your videos and have learned so much!! I don't know how you thank you for sharing your talent and education with us all it's such a blessing. Thank you so much. I've just begun I have some catching up to do and more videos to watch any advise to my situation for my son would be greatly appreciated. He is special needs and most just don't understand?? Any suggestions??
I had a similar experience with ventilator, restraints, feeding tube, etc. and a 7 week hospital stay due to COVID. I tried everything and found prayer helps me more than anything else
As someone who's been looking for a new therapist for a few months with little success, after my prior therapist's employer pulled out of our state, this video is SO HELPFUL! Thank you! 🖤
❤Please try gratitude. I've read one Jewish book about gratitude: people wrote about how they didn't have something, wanted it so much, and they started practicing gratitude for about half an hour/hour each day. And they got what they wanted! Heavens are very generous. Remember this please: 'Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.'
@@seinfeldfan442 have you eve taken any meds at all if you get anxiety or panic from the trauma and does it help or would you say no? I just want more tools to fight this thing with. I feel very discouraged at times..
@@EagleEntity yeah I take olanzapine but when I stopped taking it I got very sick. I still get bad truma but the medication helps. I'd say talking to a doctor to get the right medication is the way to go.
@@seinfeldfan442 thank you so much for this. When I can finally speak with someone I have no doubt they will put me on meds I just hope I can find the right one to help me stay calm when the trauma comes up in my head over and over again. Hope you continue to do well and hang in there
I am 50 years old and I just realized that I have been trapped in my past for 39 years, I have been through alot of Trauma, as well as other issues I have had. I purchased a book that my Mental Health Specialist and Access 24/7 had told me to read, as I was reading it, I also started journalling, at a certain point when I seen myself in the characters. This has me understand "me" more. I watch these videos every morning, and the more I watch and do the homework the more things are making sense to me. Last year I hit my all time low, I was employed with a great Company for 9 years, just around my 10year anniversary, I could no longer function, in pain all of the time, couldnt concentrate, very depressed, stuggling to do my job, stressed and all I did was go from work and home is all I have done for the last 10 years + as far as I can remeber and could not understand anything, and then finally stopped eating. I was put on dissability and medication and then for 8 months all I did was lay on my couch waiting to die, did nothing, spoke to noone and just took pills and was a shell. After reading the book and coming to the realization on where I was in life and watching these videos, I know now what has been wrong with me for many years. Now it is time to start my healing process and these videos are really helping figure stuff out. Thank you so much Emma.
I started microdosing and using psilocybin coupled with therapy. It has helped opened my emotions up as its something I've had trouble with, it also helped me with my depression and anxiety issues. I get supplies from a recommended source.
You mention PTSD and complex PTSD but what about dissociative disorders? It is a reaction to trauma that is much more entrenched; any plans to do a video specifically on dissociative disorders? I would love to see that - also because they are SO misunderstood.
Hi. This is what I have found in trying to find therapy for complex PTSD, depression, and anxiety. I grew up with a mother who was severely Narcissistic. I was the scapegoat in the family. All I can say is I have done every single kind of therapy you have mentioned and way more. it is my experience that nothing absolutely nothing can touch the level of brokenness and dysregulation that this kind of trauma causes. When you're neglected and when you're dealing with gas lighting all the time and all the other things that bona fide narcissist love to do, sometimes I really do feel you will not get healed this time around. I want to know your opinion on that please. I have learned to accept at my older age now that nothing except God can do anything to fix the wounds and the residual horror of living for 16 years in that environment. I appreciate your Channel but this one area I get very upset that therapists always make it like you can heal from serious complex PTSD. Thank You!
So many things I want to say to your reply! I can relate so well based on my own trauma from being the scapegoat to my narcissistic mother, too, flanked by a younger narcissistic sister. I haven't been through all the different therapies (only a few), but I guess I always knew down deep that true healing can only come from God, which is a complicated topic to be sure. I have found the most healing through my faith. Learning about symbolism and patterns and about the history of the spiritual world, surprisingly, has done me the most good. It helps me understand the symbolism of what happened to me and helps me see my place in this world. For anyone still looking for a place to turn, I highly recommend digging into church history and symbolism in the Christian world, for we must know where we came from so we can see where we are going.
I’m only just now learning about this as I have been a cessationist in the past, but if God can heal physical wounds, why couldn’t He heal spiritual/emotional wounds. Of course He can. I don’t know fully what that means or looks like yet. But I am spending time in prayer and finding teachers in the word on this topic. (I also have a narc mom and have been seeking healing) this is a video about inner healing. If you’re skeptical on the gifts of the Spirit he has a really great book on that topic ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-57Qm0Q5c9QQ.html
@@ssgundes1 Sandi. I feel as though you may not have understood my comment. I have committed to healing my entire life. Tried many many modalities. Thanks!
@@oneofmany7051 beautiful reply. I agree totally. Only God and Jesus can work on this level of damage. It's very deep but this world doesn't seem to hold a cure. Can you share about the symbolism please!
With the emergence of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy, lots of individuals suffering from ptsd and complex trauma have actually found it to be a lot more effective than CBT. As someone healing my traumatized parts, I do tend to agree that the top down approach of CBT to break cognitive thought patterns often deems ineffective against intense emotional flashbacks that are frozen in time. At worst, CBT can feel invalidating and gaslighty to those parts of you. At best, it can help you minimize those parts and develop better methods to suppress their maladaptive protective outbursts. As someone who has blended severely with parts of myself that were extremely self hating in order to protect myself from putting myself out there due to a deep mistrust of other people, I can tell you that cognitively telling me that hating myself was wrong wouldn't do anything to prevent that part of me from doing that. These parts adapted for a reason, and trying to change them cognitively without understanding the root of what it was trying to protect you from can be shockingly insulting and ineffective
Emma this is a great video and helpful in going over the many therapies that address trauma. I’m surprised you didn’t include IFS. I’m learning it and loving it especially for trauma clients.
@Sandi Gundetsen…. What is IFS? It’s really hard when people on RU-vid give acronyms without spelling it out in parentheses or something. You mentioned “trauma clients,” does that mean you are a therapist? If so, do you explain to your clients what is IFS? I wouldn’t come and see you seeing it’s too much work for you to let us know, the lay people, what is IFS.
The NeoRhythm headband has done wonders for me! It helps me stay calm, focused and to get a great sleep. It’s about $400 CDN, including taxes and customs duties. It’s based on electromagnetic therapy. It’s been a life changer!
I'm now a veteran to trauma therapy as a client. I've done many types of therapy. For me, EMDR and IFS are what works best for me. I now have a trauma focused CBT therapist who is really good, but I really miss the IFS.
Ive been trying for the past 10 years to get over my medical error trauma that was a more horrific experience than words can ever describe. Not only was it horrific but anyone who hears about it wants nothing to do with me because I'm as far from a normal human than anyone could possibly imagine. Just telling my story makes me seem absolutely batshit crazy, that's how horrific it was. I have three cats, the youngest being about 7. And my mother who's 78 may live 10 more years or so. I would never break her heart. I'm 43. When she and my cats pass away I'm going to take my own life. Both of my older brothers know that's my plan. They understand exactly why I need to do what I need to do. They are not scared for me. I will not be going to hell for my decision. If there is a God, it must have mercy on me for my decision. To go another 10 years is terrifying to think of but it may be manageable. But I've decided I'm through. Surviving every day just to suffer is immensely stressful. Im exhausted all the time, I have chronic pain, PTSD, anxiety and depression, foggy headedness alot. Reality doesn't seem real. I don't find joy in anything i used to. Everything seems utterly pointless except petting my cats and trying to be at peace not going out into the world. Traffic and the way people drive absolutely makes me furious. I'm isolated and alone and have zero desire to meet people, or try to make new friends, or go dating. I thought of starting my own RU-vid channel to try to encourage people to commit suicide rather than trying to talk then out of it. It's the only logical thing that makes sense in this world. I am an empty shell of the person i used to be. My soul is gone because of my trauma.
I was seeing a therapist on and off for the last six years, part of our local hospital program for seniors. I had become comfortable and felt safe talking with him and trusted him as much as I've been able to trust anyone. Last week during our session we were chatting calmly and respectful like usual and suddenly he exploded at me out of the blue. Started telling me I'm bitter, critical and angry, that I think of myself as better than others, that I look down on them and that he knows a lot more than me. I was shocked beyond words. I left and discharged myself from the program immediately. I'm seeing him because of chronic suicidal depression and anxiety. Now I can add this event to trauma. My question is, should I just let this incident go or report it to his supervisor?
My special needs son passed away in our home (hospice). A seizure in early April caused him to forget how to eat/swallow. Was not a confidate for g-tube surgery. He would has been 32 yrs old two days ago. It’s been one month today since he passed away. The depression is unbearable. My husband and I feel like we’re adrift in an ocean now.
I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤ I have a special needs brother who is 31. He used to get seizures a lot. How are you doing? You are Enough. He is always going to be a part of you. We are eternal. Life is a classroom. Sending you Love and Light xoxox
Your approach is very welcoming when you mention PTSD. I am a combat vet and have been dealing with my demons for many years. I noticed that you mentioned the VA says a reduction in PTSD with certain types of therapy. I participated in a TRP (trauma recovery program) at a local VA hospital. I didn't receive the outcome I was hoping for, reliving some horrible experiences was part of the program and it did not do much to heal the PTSD. I thought that the facilitators were not really qualified, one of mine sat at his desk with a three ring binder and read through each chapter. I was looking for a more human approach similar to what you have described. I have found that meditation has helped and I do it everyday. How do you take participating in a war out of some ones makeup? Thank you for sharing and posting.
❤Please try gratitude. I've read one Jewish book about gratitude: people wrote about how they didn't have something, wanted it so much, and they started practicing gratitude for about half an hour/hour each day. And they got what they wanted! Heavens are very generous. Remember this please: 'Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.'
You’re so brilliant and these videos you’re posting are helping me so much! Thank you! Also, your hair looks soooo good in this video! 😊 super curly and beautiful xoxo
Thank you for the adivice and information. I've been dealing with this for 5+ years and just in the past month or so I've decided to get help here soon. ( no insurance doesn't help) Have a good hard labor job and pays well but no benefits, pension, 401k etc...I just thought I could get over everything myself but it's only getting worse.
That's not true. It can't be generalized like that. PTSD is about a particular event and is associated with visual flashbacks so it's generally easier to treat it, in contrary to C-PTSD which is more complex and caused by multiple triggrers and is associated with emotional flashbacks, which is way more harder to heal. For C-PTSD, CBT and talking about trauma over and over again is not helpful at all, as it's all stored in emotions and body...
Thanks so much for this video. I tried PTSD therapy. My psychologist introduced me to BWRT - BrainWorking Recursive Therapy. Witth this therapy, the psychologist basically takes you back to that "traumatic moments" (in your head) and then reprograms you with new and better thoughts...your own thoughts. It did wonders. It's like a miracle therapy. As a qualified and experienced social worker, knowing of the traditional and emerging PTSD methods, this BWRT took me by surprise because of its effectiveness. I would really recommend BWRT to people struggling with PTSD. I hope this could add to your content and help some people.
Hi - interesting video and content...I think answering questions can be helpful for so many people watching your video with the same question in their mind! PTSD is a concern of many
I ended up traumatizing myself after getting sudden extreme stress and anxiety one day that I had a steong stomach cramp and slightly changed bowels and 1000% convinced myself of having a digestive organ cancer. It sounds so silly (doc looked at me like wtf) after getting through it finally after about 2 months of pure accumulating fear and catastrophizing. I'm still dealing with the acceptance of the fact that I'm fine and there's no reason to be afraid and anxious. Not quite PTSD but slight trauma from that experience. Just thought I might share since I feel like there are other hyper negative people out there who get extreme panic from anything health related like myself to some extent
...AND then you've got folks like me... My go-to cure for anything digestive-stress related is hot-sauce and red pepper... the more the merrier... "What don't choke will fatten, and what don't kill will cure ya'!" ;o)
Hello and thanks so much for the wonderful video 🪷🪷🪷 I couldn’t find the link about your video on Grounding Skills for Anxiety. Could you post the link in a comment please? Thanks 🍀🍀🍀
I really find your videos helpful. Is there a mode of therapy that can help break a trauma bond and to heal from the trauma of severe domestic abuse? Or a practical way to learn how to find out what your boundaries are after long-term abuse?
Thank you for this video. I have a dream of becoming a trauma counselor and am wanting to seek out a trauma therapist as well due to some painful memories as a child and I recently got into a car accident and have trauma with Uber now 😅
I realized in the last year that I have wasted years of my life on the wrong therapists, not getting better but actually stuck in my PTSD or even worse. Unfortunately, the Medical field is separate from the Psychological, spiritual connections. Minimalizing the abuse is not always helpful.
Love your channel emma and thankyou :) . I do a combination of CBT and the wim hof method. I would love to hear your views on cold therapy. It has worked wonders for me :).
I have been given an Alpha Stim unit from the VA. Do you know anything about this? It's supposed to help. CBT hasn't really helped to keep those old feelings & anxiety from childhood abuse from coming back up. I was on antidepressants for many years & am now off them. (The depression seems to be gone, but still have anxiety).I have been watching your videos & "The Crappy Childhood Fairy" videos to try to learn to calm the physical symptoms of the anxiety. Thank you for your help!
Had a Desert storm friend who also served else where. He swears by weed. Says it keeps the nightmares away. I'm not a doc but have heard this said else where. Try BSP or EMDR therapy and if you think you need drugs for sleep at least consider weed.
Be your own therapist. Your the only one that can save yourself. It’s really not that hard, you just have to do the work, every day and for the rest of your life. Never stop and it’s free ❤️
I think if everyone could do this themselves they would. It’s great if it worked for you but suggesting it can works for everyone can feel shame and stigma about getting mental health help some people truly NEED.
Being sexually abused from the age of 3 until I was 16 and never getting help, now at the age of 46 I really want to process my life and these traumas and every other that followed as a result. What kind of therapy should I seek that would benefit me?
Someone please help me. I'm having suicidal thoughts. I hate my job. But my husband is forcing me to work. I want to stay at home. In the beginning of our relationship he was suspicious and suspected me with every guy I talked to. He was ashamed of me. Now he pretends to be nice when I say I'll work and he becomes vile when I say I'll quit. He even says that he will end the relationship if I leave my job. Also he has beaten me several times. He has been verbally and emotionaly abusive. Pls help me. What should I do?
You need to leave ! Do not continue to live with an abuse person. Call the police, tell them he is abusing you. I called the police on my abuse brother and glad I did. But I still need to leave, so l'm saving out to move out. You should continue to go to work it is better for your health, just keep working until you find another job. One you like. Staying at home alone is not good for your mind and health you need to be around other people. Also, if you stay at home he will abuse you there.
