PURGATORY | Movie Night 

As soon as someone tries to isolate you from your family... RUN! That is step one in their playbook

My fiancée was in domestic violence relationships b4 me. So I see the daily struggles she deals with in our relationship. She finally doesn't jump when I touch her. And she makes eye contact when we talk now after year's of being told to look down at the ground. The damage is so sad, but her finally being comfortable in her skin is so beautiful. A long process we've been together for six years. But when I touched her and she didn't jump we both cried. And it was a victory to us both.

It really feels like we’re all just chilling watching a movie together 😂❤️

As a Domestic violence survivor it’s crazy how manipulative a human being can be. Especially if they isolate you!!! I dealt with it for 4 years so many times I thought that it was the end. One day I decided to choose me an never looked back. Now Im in a happy healthy relationship with my wonderful wife💜💜💜

It’s confusing when you’re being manipulated by someone you are attached to, someone you love and someone you trust to protect you. It’s confusing because you don’t expect them to hurt you in these ways but when they do, you question yourself and you question if it’s their intention to hurt you even when you know it’s wrong … Also, it can be terrifying when you are worried about the person taking your life or you bring yourself to believe that you will never be able to get away from them safely.

Thanks for bringing awareness. Statistically, the most dangerous time for an abuse victim is when they try to leave...the abuser is losing control and it accelerates things. If you’re trying to get out, make a plan, (where they can’t find it), search online somewhere they can’t find your search history and find a network of support. You can be whole again. Stay safe!

I went thru mental abuse and I stayed because I loved him enough to stay and wait for better times but the better times never came thank God I realized it wasnt going to come and I escaped!!!!

Zoe, there are so many layers to domestic abuse .sometimes it's not leaving that they're afraid of it's what comes after that is completely terrifying. she lives stuck in that house day after day with barely any contact to the outside world. being put through that abuse it becomes her life so knowing what a big step it takes for a person to leave she would then have to face going out into the world feeling like people are judging her feeling alone and that nobody understands all on her own and of course she's going to suffer from PTSD but she would no longer have anybody taking care of her working a nine to five paying the bills just simple daily responsibilities that a person needs to do in order to just survive. An abusers manipulation is so heavy and it runs so deep that you convince yourself that you're staying because you're not strong enough to be able to take care of yourself and because you got yourself into that situation .the mind control that the abuser uses starts to seep in and you start to believe that you're nothing but a dumbass and agree that you can't do nothing without them and deserve the punishment and abuse. It is so sick to actually know that there are people out here that pray on the the kind hearted loving ride or die's and plan to hurt their partner in this way SMH. God bless you baby for what you doing by shining your light onto this cold dark world .we appreciate you and we love you. Looking forward to the next movie night!!!

This is so sad honestly, to all the people who went through any form of domestic violence sorry and remember it will get better eventually. I'm so sorry :(

Just ran away from my abuser while he was at work. My children and I are in a hotel until the DV shelter makes room for us. We are hungry but we are safe 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️

I was in this situation at the age of 18. It took for him to kill someone for me to be free. I think about the man who died all the time, and I get sad knowing that he essentially gave his life to ultimately save mine. I’m definitely blessed. I’m 32 now, lesson learned for sure. #survivor

Spent 7 years with an abuser, and it truly isn't as easy as just walking away. Alot of times, the physical part of the abuse starts long after that person has ripped your mind apart, isolated you from everyone, and makes you feel like it is something that YOU did wrong. That's when the physical shit starts. It happens after they have you at rock bottom. And then it's a cycle of abuse, gaslighting and love bombing, and then the stalking (if you do make attempts to reach out for help), and then back to the physical. It destroys you. On top of that, they usually slowly get you financially dependent on them, so you can't afford to leave if you even wanted to. And oh the acts they can put on in front of outside people... 🙄 Domestic violence never starts as violence, so it's not something you can see coming until you are out of that situation. My time with my ex hardened me to the point where I no longer feared death. I no longer feared the barrel of his gun. I can't tell you how many times I sat in the bathroom floor, after he finally went to sleep, and just thought about how the only way I would escape was in a body bag. And when he kicked me down the stairs when I was 27 weeks pregnant, and then laughed because I lost the baby, I hit my breaking point. I mentally made my escape plan, waited for him to leave for work, picked my son up from school, and drove.. I drove as far as I could on the tank of gas. I got almost 300 miles away, tossed my phone into the gas station dumpster, and just sat on the curb and cried. I will never forget this couple who where filling up their bikes. The woman saw me crying and asked what was wrong. And I swear, I poured my entire life out to her. Once I opened my mouth, I couldn't get the words to stop. She helped me with some more gas and gave me a hug, and then left. I ended up 1000 miles away, and although it has been one of the hardest things I've ever done, I don't regret just leaving everything and running. It's been almost 5 years, and I still catch myself looking over my shoulder, or constantly apologizing too much, or getting into the mindset where I brace myself for the worst. Basically, it's not that easy to notice that it's happening until you are so far removed from yourself. And it's not that easy to just walk away or get help. Alot of times, there isn't any immediate help because people have turned their back on you. I will say this.. as a survivor, the last thing I needed to hear was "you need to leave" and "how could you be in an abusive relationship.. I would never..." If you know someone is struggle with this situation, the LAST thing they need to hear are those phrases. Instead, ask them how they are doing, or if they need anything, or just stfu and listen to them. They hear every day how it's their fault for this, and being constantly told what to do.. it can trigger their fight or flight and shut them down. Be a friend. Be there for them. Keep your eye rolling, negative opinions, and know better attitude shut. If you have not gone through this, then no.. you don't know better. The first person I felt truly cared didn't disregard my pain or tell me how I should have done.. they listened and just asked how I needed them to help. That was it. And that was the greatest gift and the first taste of human kindness I ever felt.

Paying attention to their names being Adam & Lilith makes watching way more interesting and makes so much more sense.

I pray for women that are or were in abusive relationships. God will pull you out and continue to NEVER let his hand off of you. I myself was in a manipulative and narcissistic relationship… and it was just as BAD. Its was hard.. scary, upsetting, ready to go, but then wanting to stay. I couldn’t tell you how many times I’ve cried about wanting to leave right then and there but still stayed. I left when another female came in the picture and realized that he never loved nor wanted me if it was that easy for him to post her and not me after being together for almost a year.. and within the last 5 months we were “happy” I never was. I was broken and blinded… Ladies when GOD gives you that FREEWAY to go mama run till you can’t run no more❤️

I had a terrible ass day. My son got covid and I got into a car accident after leaving work. This just made my night a little better. Anything you post to watch is going to be great. Thank you zoe❤❤❤

I settled with an outsider hurting me because it felt better than the family doing it. I didnt know it was a such thing as "self" i ran from home problems and got hit with a abuser but at that point i left everything i knew behind and at the moment there was no turning back. I had no idea about self worth, respect, value or esteem. I was just making it and being ok with this because it wasnt worst than that. Its crazy out here😔 plz run away love and never look back. I lived through the glare of looking into his eyes and not seeing anything but a cold dark empty void knowing no tears, swing, duck or scream can save you now. That feeling in your stomach when you ask whats wrong cause you're trying to prove to them you not the problem dont take out or flip it on me but you know whats coming........ Plz go it doesn't get any better it isnt love😭

What I love about movie night is the reaction and the comments Zo be saying toward the movies. You so funny and serious at the same time and having you watching with us make the movie very interesting and fun to watch. Keep doing a great job entertaining your faithful fans. We love you!!!

I remember thinking that I could somehow help my abuser see the errors in his ways….it never happened. We would be out in public and he would be ashamed when people would ask me “what happened,” referring of course to my black eye. That was SUCH a draining relationship and I had never felt so alone. If it feels wrong, it probably is 🤷🏽‍♀️. Thank GOD Steve is out of my life 🙏🏾

The statistics during covid are Heartbreaking. Thank you Zo for movie nights. You truly bring a smile to my face on my lowest days. Tomorrow my mom will have been gone 2 yrs and though this movie was in no way a laughing matter watching it with you was truly the highlight of my night.... Thank you 😊 💓

From jump as a person with knowledge of the bible, other religious books and of Astrology I knew what was about to pop off once I heard the names Adam and Lilith. And of course the title. It was a great illustration of Domestic Violence none the less. It's never that easy to leave co dependency is real and until we can get past that as a society we will forever be in this type of bandage especially women because we nurture by nature.

OMG this movie is so damn chilling and sad makes you wonder how many women are going through this and also men because men are also victims...damn shame😔😔😔😔

"Sis you see that bottle right there." Zo you're so funny 🤣🤣

This was good!! I just recently lost a friend due to domestic violence. She left her home state to get away, but sadly he stalked her and followed her to where she moved to. We knew how hard she tried to get away and he still came back and took her life. I miss her so much and I try to help those who have experience something similar to her situation or even abuse from parents. Cause most of the time they need someone to rely on to help them.

Being a victim of sexual assault and domestic violence, this movie brought me to tears. I am a testimony to ‘leaving is not always an option’ great movie though 💙💙

“You grown go on and check on that lil vagina” Zo, I am done, the way I just hollered….😂😂😂💀💀💀 I love you!! Thank you for #MovieNight #MovieNightWithZo

I got out 4 years ago. Bruises, broken bones, teeth knocked out, bladder infections and no one asked me was I safe! Diamonds, over seas travel and was company director. Only way out was a rope he hung in the garage or he would hunt me down and cut my throat. Everyone said I was lucky. Now I'm free, apart from ptsd and a great therapist and lawyer and moving to a new town. Get out, stay gone!!!!! No contact ever! You are worth it!

Yes! Back with the short films Zoe🥳. My ultimate favorites💜. Messy Monday people missing out love.💅🏽

I cried so much watching this omg.. I just went thru this for the last two yrs. He was so narcissistic. He'd go from telling me he loved me, how he's so proud of me and wants only me to calling me ugly, calling me all types of bitches and hoes and even comparing me to exes and women he cheated on me with. It was such a roller coaster and I hate I stayed as long as I did. Now starting all the way over in my own home and the peace alone feels so good. You're right, love isn't supposed to hurt 🤍

this one was too heavy for me personally, i hope all people involved in dv get the help they need before it’s too late 💜

What's so sad is that I'm a 2x DV survivor 💜 anyone dealing with this just know you're not alone and plsss speak out before it's too late 😔🙏🏽

The fact that the names are Adam and Lilith and the movie is called purgatory is very telling. . For those that don’t understand, it’s in relation to Christianity

Their already married, and he’s giving her meds at night to go into a deep sleep, r’s her, and gives her the tea to weak her up in the morning, the bathroom incidences are the aftermath… That’s so messed up!

The fact that it's called purgatory is even more wild and really sheds light on what love can do in the most toxic situations..with the abuser and the victim. The abuser "loves" the victim and goes crazy and can't control their evil ways and the victim actually loves them and wants to protect and help them and associates love with fear and feeling like they don't exist without the abuser. It's an endless cycle that feels like an eternity when you're faced with the pain 24/7. All I can say is wow 😢

#BreaktheCycle...💪💜....If someone is reading this and going through it...YOU ARE A QUEEN/KING , YOU GOT THIS.😘

"You see that wine bottle suh?!" 😂 Right Zo, I was thinking the same thing. If she don't use it!!! Shout out to the DV survivors! And to those trying to make it out, we're praying for you.

I am a survivor .. and you are so right Zo. After staying and forgiving over and over I finally let it go with gods will.. and it was so so hard. But I did it and I’m stronger because of it.

You dancing and saying I like that Lil Lilly took me tf out🤣🤣🤣

Sometimes is not that easy to leave an abusive relationship

I can tell you first hand why a woman chooses to stay. My ex was very abusive. But not until a couple years into our relationship, by the time he started showing it he had control of me. He was very manipulative and convinced me that I was crazy most of the time. He moved me to a whole new state where I didn't know anyone, saying that he changed and it'd be a new start. Over the years he convinced me I wouldn't be anything without him and you start to believe it, so I figured I wouldn't make it on my own. And no one else would want me. In the end he was cheating with someone he worked with and decided to finally leave, and it's the best thing that's ever happened to me. Like you said, I definitely lost myself trying to fix him and pick up his broken pieces. I've been single a few years now and I've had time to really find myself again and learn my worth❤️❤️

By the time ur being fully abused, you've been torn down sooo much, that leaving doesn't feel like an option. But it is. It's not ur fault. Make a plan to leave love.

Its the calm "No Ma'am (fingers tapping together) No Ma'am" that took me out!! XD

Iam a domestic violence survivor , im just grateful I made it ! ❤️

😂I swear I am just like Zo. I talk and narrate the during the whole damn movie😂😂😂😂😂

WE NEED A MOVIE NIGHT EACH WEEK ZO! WE LOVE THESE!~ I HAVE LOST SO MANY FAMILY MEMBERS AND THESE VIDEOS MAKE ME FEEL GREAT!

My mom was in a dv relationship with my father and i will say it’s built me to become who i am and how i view my own relationship. That is why it always hurts me to know people need help in dv situations and when the worst case scenario happens with them I cry because I know they needed one person to help them escape 🥺 I pray people in bad situations find the strength they need to plan an escape from bad people

I was there. It took over 12 yrs to love me n my children n to REALLY DEEP DOWN ASK GOD TO FIX IT.....IT WAS HARD...FINDING N BUILDING ME ALL OVR. WHEN I SAY ITS WORTH IT!!!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🤔 ITS MOMENTS I FORGET HOW LOW I WAS. YOU N WE CAN WALK TOWARDS BETTER ALWAYS❤❤❤ IN THE END THATS HOW THEY END UP IN CASKETS.

i love how zo was reading the texts, it shows how immersed he was in the movie lol

I literally look forward to allllll of your videos😍Your personality is so addicting. You never ever fake the funk. You are so genuine, funny, and just unique! Keep doing that, gods going to forever take care of you ❤️

Idk why I’m just seeing your movie nights now even tho I been subscribed for a loooooong time . I love this!

Just in time!🥰Cold Friday night under a comfy blanket. Love these movie nights Zo!💕

The scary thing is there are always signs in the beginning but I think you get so caught up it what it could be instead of what it actually is! #walkaway #learnyourtruth if it hurts you it’s not love! Heeyyyy Frienn

My dads always told me and I’ve only realised it watching this” I dgaf if I love you, I don’t deserve this”

Didn’t know this video was going to trigger emotions that I haven’t had to feel for a year now. I guess that’s what happens when you bottle up those feelings and not speak to anyone about them. But I totally understand what she was going through. It’s not easy at all when a person tells you to “just leave”. Being in love with someone makes you do things and one of those things is lose yourself if your self esteem is not there. Trust me, through personal experiences, it’s just not that easy. I used to be scared to say no to things because I knew how my partner would react, so I tried to avoid that. I pray that anyone who is going through any type of abuse gets a sense of peace.

8:44 *Sis, He Cheatin.... You doin all of that and he cheatin* LOL!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Super intense to watch. And holy shit I wouldn’t have gone the whole way through if it wasn’t on your channel. My mom got beat for 10 years. And I understand how it becomes easy to stay trapped. I hope anyone out there going through this finds a way …. choose your life first… always

Vibes! These be my favorite! Zo, please don’t stop doin these. I got my niece watching with me now.

Abuse comes in all formers and sometimes ppl don't recognize that because they can only think about having the one person they love or want to love them the same. I was in a relationship where he would verbally abuse me and yell at me. Tear me down and then coddle me. It got to the point where he started loosing his temper, at that point I knew I had checked out of the relationship because I didn't want him to loose his temper on me. I pray that others find the strength to leave🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

“YOU DONT SEE THAT WINE BOTTLE SIS” 😭😭 my exact thoughtssssssss

Thank you for your encouraging words ☺️ I have been apart of abusive relationships physical and mental and thank you for talking about this. Some parts of this movie were a hard watch, but it's like watching with a friend and that makes it better. Everything is what u said and it pissed me off too lol

Just in time. Been waiting on movie night!!!! ☺️☺️🙌🏽

What did it for me was the movie title. The fact that she's in purgatory and her name is Lilith. The first woman of the Bible, that was a great coincidence, even if it was unintentional or intentional.

Y’all when I say Zo makes me feel so good everyday when I watch his videos. I’m going through a break up right now and when I watch movies with Zo I never feel alone. Zo be having me laughing, crying, and we be vibing. I wish I could react with him!!!

Not Zoe and the girl wearing the same color top lmao 😭😂8:07

This was different Friend! From beginning all the way down to your uplifting commentary at the end!!!

I'm only halfway through but I could tell when he woke her up that he's controlling... then she stays home all the time... and when she declined her mom call I knew what it was.

I want to thank you for this movie and all that you said at the end. My best friend is going threw this very thing.

Being an victim the statement Love Is Blind is a true statement. I was isolated from my family and defended him beyond the mountain top. And I will say this some don't have a option but I did. The night I walked away was the best feeling ever. He didn't know I left until he woke up and saw I wasn't there. I left because I didn't want to go to jail. The night I walked away my momma was so relieved because I text her to come get me when she wakes up in the morning. Because I couldn't take it no more. But the crazy thing about that was I was planning to leave any way. I packed my stuff and had them in the garage closet. His disrespect was over, because I left the house and my vehicle he purchased. My mom pulled up and the fact that he was so drunk he didn't notice what I was doing. I loaded my stuff and remembered I just went grocery shopping so I took everything I purchased with me the meats, can goods, seasoning, cleaning supplies. I did leave 6 bottles of water for him. When he finally woke up and didn't notice items were gone calling me asking what time I was coming back. When I answered never I hung up and changed my number immediately. Abuse is never a good thing but starting over was the best method ever

To all you DV survivors. From all parts of my heart, I’m glad your out of that situation and I pray you’ll have a happier, peaceful life. The one that you deserved from the beginning. To anyone who’s still in that situation. Save up some cash, plan and escape route, have a bag packed with necessities and important info (birth certificates, etc), take pictures and recordings of any violence then once you’re out give it to the police, relocate (don’t tell nobody). And never look back. This isn’t the life you’re suppose to live. ❤️❤️❤️

This made me so so very sad 😔 because it's not easy at all to just up and leave In my case...what made me stay longer than I should've was the fact that I knew he was a broken man. I'm an empath and a nurturer. I'm always always trying to help any and everyone...even when they've done me wrong. I'm always quick to forgive. I just felt so bad every time I wanted to walk away. I loved him deeply and my mind was playing tricks on me...telling me "Everyone else left him,he's been thru alot, he just need to know someone loves him etc" but one day I snapped out of it like enough is enough. This isn't LOVE...and yes I may love u but I love ME more. I packed me nd my kids things and never looked back ( the kids were another reason I stayed. Didn't want a broken home) but I gathered the strength to leave because I have boys and don't want them ever to think thats okay. My oldest son hates him so much because he watched him abuse me for yrs

I absolutely love these little short movies that you post keep them coming I enjoy them thank you and God bless💜💜💜

People are SCARED. They can be scared if they’ll get harmed, their family, or even friends. The cops don’t help. All they say is go get a restraining order.

When the music Started playing and Zo started dancing😂😂 me and him would have been fighting in that kitchen. This was definitely hard Asf to watch but it was good. Good Message❤️

I remember watching this . This was serious. The rapes and gaslighting reminded me of my ex I was young when I got with him 15( he 3 years older) . He would anally/ orally rape me when he was angry in my sleep or ( especially when people was around so I wouldn't scream or fight back to cause attention he would trap me in the room or bathroom in particular)he told me there is no such thing as no in a relationship. Me made me miscarriage twice I tried to see the good in him and understand is issues from his pass ( mother issues other girls cheating on him)after 5 years I had enough then I found out I was pregnant with our eldest daughter I wanted to end it I wanted to go to school( college) He promised he would be better he was for a while until he went to jail( 3years) then 4 years later we had another daughter and it was back. During my second pregnancy I finally got the strength to say no more I started going to school for medical billing and coding I finally ended it with him after 14years my kids have no contact with him at all it's been 6 years now. I have a good man now ( he gets on my nerves but he loves me 😆🤣) we are having a baby boy this may after 3 years of being together so far he loves my kids and I have a good relationship with his kids. I'm blessed

It was kinda hard to watch this movie bc I went through similar things last year. Zoe I appreciate all the words u said at the end it encouraged me ask much❤️

Great movie. Lovely bonnet, Zo. I feel so sad after watching the movie. The abusers are truly sick people who never had the courage or will to get help. It’s often easy for the abused to get to “that point” because the abuser hardly ever starts out treating them so poorly. They’ve learned over many years how to manipulate, control, and prey upon vulnerable people.

Need these MORE often

this movie is a heavy message i wish for nobody to have to deal with abusers in no shape or form🙏🏾❤️

Aint never clicked so fast, needed this tonight 💙💙💙

Abuse is very scary. Just talking about it gives people the chills. Actually living it is the pain. Its the worst feeling in the world. you literally go numb

She's literally in purgatory

As a domestic violence survivor, it was the feeling of not wanting to start over, it also was me thinking like I put so much time & money into this person, why would I let that go so quick? Even tho it wasn’t good for me, it was draining me, but when it was good it felt so good with him, then when it was bad it was bad, I got hit a few times & still stayed bc I thought it was love… I was so in love with the thought of him being in love w me & actually changing, I had hope, but I knew he wasn’t gonna change… ☹️, but I’m so glad I’m done w him now, so glad I chose me❤️ & I will never allow anybody to disrespect me ever again like that! Now I’ve met a man that makes me feel so safe, makes me so happy & feel so beautiful❤️, I wouldn’t trade him for anything🥺🥰❤️ #CHOOSEYOUBEAUTIFUL😘

I have been and it sucks but I'm still with him because I love him and he's stopped bc he don't do drugs nomore and if he don't change dis time I'm leaving for sure, so pray for him to change to a better man💖💔

Yessss I lovee movie nights, we having a blizzard here in New York so ima sit here w my blunt & chips 😭😌

I went through mental, emotional, and verbal abuse. Your advice on the video and the end of the video are helpful. The

Absolutely love your energy Zoe I was cranking right along with you when the music hit ❤️ 😊

The message towards the end was really beautiful Zoie well said 💕

Wow! The actors didn’t have to say much but the message was very apparent.

I think people get to that point when they have no real frame of reference for a healthy relationship. Either because they never saw one in their life, they never had a relationship, or all their others ones were toxic/abusive too.

Somehow I see Zo a few years from now(hopefully sooner 🤞🏽) doing TED talks about self esteem.... I'd tune in for sure!

As someone who has witnessed domestic violence. Its heartbreaking, but also its a sad reality when you want to help but they don't want to get out. I lost myself trying to protect and wanting better for that person. I had to walk away after I was injured trying to protect them and even after that they stayed. This is the most heartbreaking reality. Im praying for all victims and survivors PLEASE CHOOSE YOU BEFORE ITS NO LONGER AN OPTION.

I’m so sorry for all the stories that I am ready, but I’m SOOO HAPPY so many of us have SURVIVED!! ❤️❤️❤️ I was targeted at such a young age and was trapped for years! Make a silent plan and the day you leave please don’t turn back 🙏🏻

Hey Zoe I love these movie nights . The movies get better and better.

Beautiful and powerful message at the end

when Zoe started dancing at 8:03 😭😭 “I like dat lil Lilith”

OMG I love when he post the movie content it be like we all chilling watching a movie even when he be talking through it the comments be funny😂😂😂😂 I love you Zo❤️❤️

Facts: just because you're not getting knocked upside your head Physically; A person can STILL be in a ABUSIVE Relationship

This was a great reaction video , you clearly care a lot for humanity and have a good soul!

WE WOULDVE BEEN FIGHTING LIKE 2 NIGGAS IN THE STREET PUTTING HIS HANDS IN MY DAMN SALAD!