I am in a difficult marriage married to a man who claims to be a believer, but is both mentally and emotionally abusive. I am striving to live out the scripture in Peter, while my husband is continually threatening to leave his family. The more I try to do what is right the angrier and more bitter he is becoming. I desire to be respectful and loving and yet still maintain healthy and safe boundaries. It is possible that he has NPD from my understanding. At this time I am unable to provide for my family. About 8 years ago I gave up my career to take care of my family and homeschool my kids. Now my husband is often threatening me with abandonment. He threatens to cut me off financially. He is now refusing the counseling we've had. He has admitted to being angry at a God, admitted to having a pride issue and not caring to fight it. I get the brunt end of his mood swings. I've been blessed to have grown more in my walk with the Lord and find great peace and security, but it is very painful and hurts my heart deeply. I truly believe that the time is very short and there is a divide happening and people are making their calling known. This grieves my heart because although he may say he is a Christian and he very much knows and understands the gospel, he seems to be walking way from God. Please pray for my husband if you think of him. I am praying for repentance every moment. I am unsure of where his heart is, but he for sure is living disobediently, he seems to have no fear of God.
I have not read anywhere in the Bible where God allows divorce and remarriage. Most tickling ear pastors say that Paul wrote that you can in 1 Cor. 7 but it does not it says that if the wife leaves to remain unmarried and it has to apply to the husband as well. Please preach the truth.
Bible allows remarriage if your spouse had been unfaithful. Paul said that your life would be easier if you remain single thoughts isn't that the truth...my make is my husband now
Yes, it does. In the case of a cheating spouse or if he/she abandons you: Matthew 19:8-9 "Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” Also: 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 or 16. I didn't copy all of it: "To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." God clearly states that in the cases of adultery and abandonment, Christians are free to divorce. Yes, God hates it, but He loves His children and doesn't want to see their bed defiled or them abandoned. If this isn't enough look at the case of Joseph and Mary, Jesus' parents. When Moses thought Mary cheated on him and got pregnant, he was going to divorce her quietly. That obviously would have been okay so why isn't it okay today with the New Testament verses. There are others I didn't bother to copy here because I felt these were enough.
Just watched a movie called war room, faith building and emotional with regards to marriage. It shows how a wife who submits to God will can turn a bitter marriage into one that is blessed
Not always true. It was a great movie, but don't forget, movies are fictional. Most times, the cheating spouse is found out or they eventually leave for another lover. In those cases, cheating and/or abandonment, it is ok to divorce.
Why do you no longer speak of what’s going on in the world. I really needed to hear your opinions and ideas. It helps keep me balanced and in the right road
Pastor Jack you are my favourite...however I want to know if one of your daughters was in a marriage with a verbally abusive spousr, what would you do? I dont think anyone truly understands the damage it causes....physical abuse would be easier.....
I totally agree with everything you have said but why is it that pastors always point to the wives as needing to listen to scripture and very rarely to husbands?
Marisa...it may seem like that depending on which sermon you happen upon...merely happenstance. I know that Pastor Jack equally calls on the husband to fulfill their roles within the ministry of marriage and family. The late Pastor Adrian Rogers had also targeted men and women equally. It seems (at least to me) that depending on which sex you are, the biblical truths sting or pierce a little more when they are speaking of a particular spouse. God bless you this week. I hope you have a great one.
The truth is, if a husband pulls away from his wife physically/emotionally/financially, treats her badly with verbal/physical/emotional abuse, he probably is cheating on her and is being covert about it! Pretty much common sense, really. Be smart though: Just hire a private detective to track his whereabouts 24/7. If the spouse is a proven cheater, get an attorney. The same goes for female cheating spouses!
This ministry is a Blessing!!! The Lord Jesus Christ Saves...Ephesians 2:8-9 (KJV) 8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.
Hmmmm. I know earlier in your videos concerning , Christians behaving badly, you note that a carnal Christian is a real thing and that a true believer can live in a way that is contrary to the correct lifestyle a born again believer should be aligned with. Based upon the 2 books of Corinthians, isn’t it unwise to immediately dismiss someone claiming to be a Christian just because they aren’t living like one? I think details about the situation should be examined prior to stating that . This could be a lapse in moral integrity or a season of backsliding .
1 Corinthians 7:14-16 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
