On the parents being told, it amazes me how African parents are with their emotions. I learned with my son that many African parents don't show happiness. They exhibit love. My son is adopted and we got him after a week and when I told my parents that we were taking him in, my parents were completely detached and acted like I'd told them I was buying chicken instead of beef. So I didn't think anything of it because i figured they wouldn’t see him as a grandchild so I tried to move on. Two weeks later I get up, and my parents are at my door with heaps and heaps of baby stuff, from clothes to toys to food and they started getting involved with him and that's their youngest grandchild. When we are at home in the villages, my son and stepdad are joined at the hip and that's taught me a lot about African parents and their emotions. They don't show happiness. They think of how they can make things best for that childs life and I think that's so beautiful.
The last part of the video hit home 😩 38:08 enkosi Nozi❤🙏🏽I really needed to hear that. When she said, "I have come to realize that if I don't humble myself, God will do that, and I'm afraid that His hand is too heavy. " 😢❤
God is SO good. UThixo umhle. UThixo usezobamhle futhi! I’m thinking back to the Nozi we were introduced to on Facebook back in 2020.. as amaNgesi say, the rest is history 🌸❤️ Thank you for sharing your story with us and being real & raw. You are a living testament of ubabalo nothando lukaThixo 🫶🏽 As you and your husband walk this new journey, hand in hand, may God always bless you, protect you and guide you. We can’t wait for Baby GT! 🙏🏽💕❤️
I understand you so well when it comes to the issue of your mom. I dread being a mother because of the trauma I have to heal from . Thank you for being so open
I get your emotions about upbringing.I had no relationship with my dad and for the first few years as parents I would cry every time I see how hubby fathers our children its a constant reminder of what I missed but of late I get so grateful that they have him and I get to see it❤
I'm glad we are talking more about breastfeeding not coming so naturally for every woman😪 my daughter totally refused to breastfeed, no one could believe this, but each time I tried giving her the breast she would cry and was not patient with the milk not coming. Yes I was assisted by a senior nurse in a private clinic for 2 days, but baby refused. So yeah I gave up trying, I went for formula and had a very health baby who is 12 years now.
You not alone sis... even nurses couldnt help me...the little we pumped that is 30ml max...she would vomit it...there after it stopped just water coming...I was soo sad, while other ladies were sharing how they lactated even weeks befor putting to birth
Our parents really did what they knew best! apparently if they showed they were proud they believed we would be arrogant.Bona they boast when around their friend but Mna personally I appreciate how my own mom is unlearning and learning to tacitly say ''umhle mntanami/you did well /usebenzile Mandunakazi" I hope we do right by our kids.They deserve better!We need to express ourselves better thina to our own kids. Thank you for sharing your journey mama ka Boy♥️
Oooh Sisi, I couldn't have said this any better. Our parents really did what they thought is right. Not knowing it wasn't right. My mom is also currently unlearning alot and I appreciate that so much from her. I'm 31 now and she's 60 and our relationship has become so strong and closer. She's learning how to be open and I'm also letting her into my space. I think as we grow older and start to understand some things better, we're better able to forgive our parents for their actions in the past ♥
I understand you when you say you couldn't tell your mom. Look gal, I've been married for 15 years now but I find it difficult to sleep in the same room with my husband when she's at our house. Yhuu aysana sikhuliswe ngenye indlela
I’m so emotional watching this video 😭😭❤️ oh thiza…may we be a better generation of parents 😭 God help us!!! 🙏 I love you so much sis Nozi…and baby GT 🥹
Thank you so much for your honesty. I love the fact that you can be vulnerable with us with no filter. Pregnancy looks good on you my love. All the best in motherhood. ❤️❤️
I enjoyed this video so much, I’m not an expectant mom but took some words of wisdom from this. Congratulations once again to you Nozi, & Skhu, wish you guys all the best on this amazing journey, may the good Lord continue doing His beautiful work in your life ❤️
I totally understand that whole mother thing sisi. My mother has been trying to form a more open relationship between mna naye kodwa kunzima ngoku because sendiqhele "umoyika"
Nozi Mayaba, Skhu, and your entire family. You are such a blessing . I love you all. God is showing off with you guys. 🙏 This is His work in progress 👏 🙌
I can relate to the part where you couldn’t tell your mom about the pregnancy.i was also very afraid to tell her that im pregnant eloxesha ke sisi ndisemtshatweni😂😂i felt like uzothi haibo lomntana sekenza iActivities zabantu abadala.
Just discovered this channel recently but am proud of you I have managed to watch all of your videos 😊I like your bravery ❤. Am even watching your TV shows because you are such an inspiration.
With your sense of vulnerability and openness, I was able to go for a job interview. I didn't prepare for some of the questions but they popped up there I was able to answer because of the knowledge I gain from this channel. Thank you Nozi for the best job you are doing. We all keep on praying for you and your family because of our gratitude to God for gifting with you. All the best on your motherhood journey, we love you🤝🤗💚
Thank you so much Noz_Noz for taking us through this beautiful journey, we can’t for GT❤️❤️ you’re loved🌸🌸 I love the last part about what keeps you grounded, kuthiwa let him uplift you🙌 akugqame yena sinciphe thina🙌
Thank you very much Sisi Nozi. And you look beautiful by the way. I know that God will carry you and your husband through out this whole journey. I cant wait for baby number 2 after GT 😂😂😂
Your feelings are relevant sthandwasam, oldies are like that and I don't know why but we are /going to be the best version of parents that we've always dreamt of🥰❤️
Yho that issue of our parents being unable to show their emotions is just messed up hey. Im 32 now and when I graduated years back I remember my Dad threw a huge graduation party but if If i tell u that the speech he made had nothing about me at all. He legit spoke about how he was happy he managed to gather his family etc etc. i passed my degree with a distinction and not once dd he acknowledge this. Even when I get him gifts he hardly says anything about it, he will just say ok take it to my room
Thanx for been vulnerable on the aspect of childhood.I equally don't have any pleasant memories of my childhood.Till now whenever I think or talk about it I find myself crying.It has traumatized me so much that I am scared to have my own kids.To some extent am glad that am unmarried at 31 because marriage will force me to have kids for the sake of my partner.You look so beautiful,all the best in the next journey of your life as a couple.You are gonna be great parents.
I got help in dealing with my mama too from TDJakes. When you are dealing with a 3gallon person and you are a 10litre gallon, you will get all 3 gallons, but they will not fulfill you. Understand that some people though they love you with all they have, it will not fulfill you for the level at which you are. Not that at 10 you are better or more, just that you are different.
I honestly can't thank you enough for doing this video. As an expecting Mom, I struggle with anxiety and worry. Listening to you speak about the power of speaking over your life and your unborn baby really spoke to my inner man. It's only been 4 months into my pregnancy and yoh it's been a lot, ang'funi ukungasho. But I am so grateful everyday for the honor and the opportunity to carry this child 18 years later since my first child. Enkosi maani for sharing your journey throughout and Congratulations on your Baby Boy's healthy delivery. Lol I felt you on the mini me bit. My first child who's 18 is a girl. Sometimes I'm like nyani I went and gave birth to myself??? Chaaii 😂! I pray you'll enjoy Motherhood, it's beautiful Nozi😊!
How you mention being unemployed at some point but you still kept on,I salute you and little did we notice coz woow you still smile and looked great ❤❤❤❤❤
Nozi's moms are like my mom,she doesn't show her emoitions like "yey!! I'm so happy blah blah No not her,I even wonder is she gonna act on my grad day because i know she will never be one of those moms who sing and dance for their children😂❤" but you can tell when she's happy smile and the mood after the news you'll here her saying "yho kwangcono nj wapasa(it's amazing because she passed her grade/anything)" that when you know she's happy😍
Oh this video cut deep. Especially the part about how emotionally unavailable our parents can be and the wounds that we still need to heal from as a result of that. It hit home.
.......❤❤One thing that keeps me glued to your videos, is your values and that most of the time, I am saying "Sis Nozi is so right " jonga I am so agreeing with this or that
Yhoo on the part of your mom not being able to fully express how she feels, I struggled with that with my mom until I started high school and understood that she is genuinely happy but lacks showing the emotions. Another thing is how she used to throw or sweep the happy birthday/ Mother’s Day paper cards I used to make ndibe sad ndiyeke kanti uSisi uphethwe yiOCD akasenzi naye. Ngoku I let her be knowing very well that she is happy just in her own way😅
Ahh sisi you make me so emotional. I live my life everyday being the kind of a mother that I wish I had. And somedays it breaks me so much I can't even share this with anyone. Trust me it goes deeper. You look so beautiful yaz...
Thank you Nozi for the video,really grateful that you touched on the fact that people should be nice to pregnant ladies. I went to the clinic for my baby’s immunisations,then some lady walked in the waiting room we were sitting in with the other moms,caba uzobona some girl ayaziyo ke,did she not say to the lady “Jhu awumbi sisi,inoba ngoku ubu mithi ubu worse”I cringed hey,kuba I am very sure she is aware of the changes she went through but to be told by someone else ibuhlungu,ndava ndimsizela uba kanti kukho abantu abasathetha kanje ebantwini,can we also mind what we say to people bethuna,you might be crashing someone obehleli engazithembanga
Hi Nozi, thank you dear for your transparency. Even the Bible tells us that those who are humble will be exalted and those who exalt themselves will be humbled❤️
Semhle Sis Nozi ❤❤. Thank you for sharing your life journey, its always a pleasure to tune in your space, we learn, we laugh we try and dance. The wisdom that you have , discernment, love and your kindness i appreciate, i pray that God continues holding you with his righteous hand and his mercy follow you and your family all the days of your life. You are that sister i wish i had.❤❤
We thank God for you Shishi❤thank you for allowing us to be part of this beautiful journey. You are carrying beautifully. Grace upon Grace upon Grace for your little one! ❤
Since the first time of your showing tummy,you have been consistent with us,sharing beyond of what you should to prepare people with resemble situation and to us who clearly in darkness. I appreciate you very much mamakhe ,when God decide to bless me ,its a promise I'll keep watching your pregnancy videos they very educating.
Nozi can I watch any of your videos and not get emotional? Andithethi ngale ye Baby Shower koko ndandigixa 😭. I love the last part of the video, being humble 🙏🏽❤️
Yho Nozi with unexpressive parents, my mom was and I have chosen to be different with my children. This one time though, I was driving home with a small baby, exclusively breast feeding, so the journey was longer, and the weather got bad. Heard nothing from my mother throughout the 2-day journey. I called xa ndikufutshane ekhaya, uba "Hayibo, not even a call? to wish us safe journey. She replied and said "Been praying and worried sick for your travel since you started the journey."
Molo Nozi. I am learning a lot from you. Also happy for the person that will take care of your baby. I genuinely love babies, where I working they both grown 13 turning 14 in July and unfortunate we lost the firstborn when he was 13 January 2021. Lots of love 🙏
Thanks Nozi 4 ur lives. Honestly as I watch u guys I feel consoled that life is showing most of us flames 🔥 All we need 2 do is dust ourselves up & stand tall💝💝💝
I think you look absolutely gorgeous hey... 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 When God decides, it exceeds even our expectations. I wish you all the blessings for the delivery and just motherhood. 🙏
My 2 year old baby girl Uyasabela every time Usthi Imi because ngu Imy nhaye as you know 😂😂 So happy for you Mann😊 hayi ke kule of telling the parents I felt like I am telling my mom that ‘mama I am having sex’ 😅😅 Yhoo guys, ku child number 3 I asked my brother to tell her mtakabawo because yayingasoze kaloku axelelwe ndim for the 3rd time 🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️😅
Share the sentiments that breastfeeding does not always coming naturally for all moms… One thing I looked forward to and wanted to do so bad was to breastfeed. It literally broke me when I had little to no supply and my baby would scream every time I put her on the boob… A month and a half later, I finally accepted and stopped mixed feeding. The most painful thing for me, but you know what we have a healthy and happy 1 year old now and that’s all that matters.
I love your chanel, I've been drawn because I'm almost similar journey as you. Your open and transparent is beautiful to watch plus being authentic of who you are without changing because of your platform. I wish you and hubby all the best in your journey on being a new parents by the way we expecting also after a long journey of infertility. God remembered us. I realized though how scared i was to be a parent as I didn't have a great childhood. Maya Angelou once said when you know better you do better so I know we will do different from our parents. I am so happy for you ❤ GT is going to have an amazing parents.
You are amazing, you encourage me in so many ways about so many things...you're doing great may you have a safe delivery and such a happy life no Skhu, I love you guys.
