The living together and sleeping in the same bed approach seems like a setup for absolute failure. Personally, I wouldn't put so much faith in myself and under somebody else's whims that I wouldn't think I could mess up. (I'm hearing that language from y'all.) This type of thing is best left to God, who is mighty to save us from all the unnecessary things we put ourselves through. Get in your Bibles and stay there; it'll strengthen your spirit when the going gets really, really tough. Good on y'all for attempting this. I pray you succeed.
alittlesickducksucks there are so many levels of abstinence. People need to define what their boundaries are. Only God knows cus social media are full of fake confessions and titles... 🤣🤣🤣
@@stephaniestephanie4545 This is still wrong though. Biblically speaking it's not a grey issue, it's black & white. When the bible says the bed is undefiled, the translation is "set apart" meaning it isn't to be slept in together except in marriage. I commented with many versus showing it as sin in a separate comment.
I’m like huh? I’m sorry but if your in a relationship and living together you’re having sex. I don’t believe they are telling the truth. You are literally putting yourself in the ultimate temptation situation.
If you're gonna do it right, do it all the way. You should have waited until marriage to live together. Cuddling? I don't think we can trust our flesh that much. I pray you guys stay strong and glorify God with your bodies until your wedding day. God bless you both.
This interview sounds like you are already married. I love you as couple but the living in together would be a challenge to me especially sharing the same bed together. Why not stay together but in separate rooms? It makes the waiting more fonder. Waiting before marriage is an honorable thing before God. May His grace keep and protect you during your celibacy before marriage.
Shacking up before marriage and no sex before marriage should fall in the same lines if you’re doing it for God. And it doesn’t help others if they look to you in this aspect. It’s contradicting.
A friend of mine did what they are doing and they were able to wait until marriage. They moved in for financial reasons about 8 months before the wedding. They have been married for almost 5 years. What works for some may not work for others. As long as they can keep the goal of waiting it is fine. Also as I get older I notice that when people talk about the presence of evil that is relative. People see things differently what you may consider as evil or leading to temptation ..another may not. In that perspective it is not contradictory.
Stephanie Stephanie that’s great for your friend. The goal isn’t to be like your friend but to follow God. I stated my opinion just like many others. I see it as contradicting.
Thank you for your response Brittany. However I do not understand how living together and still waiting is not following God. Is that Biblical? I am confused.
Stephanie Stephanie I never said it was biblical. No need to be confused. Living together allows lust to creep into your heart and mind. You don’t have to commit the act in order to sin. And that’s biblical. Why risk the chance? Waiting before marriage is far beyond the physical and if we are to honor God then honor Him in all ways including thoughts. Someone could look up to them and stumble in the walk because they may not be able to hold out if they move in with someone they love let alone even engaged to. If you feel like it’s okay to move in together then that’s you. I personally said it’s contradicting due to boundaries. Thank you Stephanie and have a great day.
No one is perfect but. Yall are so misleading especially for such a huge platform. What about fleeing the very appearance of evil. Or providing a means of escape from temptation.... you're just dwelling in the midst of it playing close to all the lines? But it's yall relationship
Zeekah McDonald I think this is all weird, honestly. I don’t understand why the wait is so long either? Engaged 2018 and wedding almost 2 years later, AND living together that whole time? I don’t recall if they’re sleeping together or not. If they are, it’s like they’re already married and just willingly choose to not have sex. Not much is being left to look forward to at that point in my opinion...I’m sure more people would lose respect for this couple if they knew about this like I did after finding out it’s “Worth thee Wait,” while living under the same roof.
@@Noelleelle I just lost a ton of respect myself... at the 5min mark they talk about what sides of the bed they are sleeping on! I was like wait they aren't even in separate beds?? Maybe they are actually waiting but I would be shocked, I think it's all just to be a "brand"
The Bible says to RUN FROM TEMPTATION...not move in and get cozy. I think you guys are trying to live on the fence...trying to mix the world ways with Gods way. You may be Very confusing for baby Christians who are looking for encouragement and support in this area. 😑
To anyone who will see this comment, please,dont follow this couples example.It is not of our Lord Jesus Christ.Period. If we love Jesus,we will commit ourselves to live in purity not put ourselves in compromising situations. Live togeather only when married and dont put your self a position of sexual temptation. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." ~Epesians 5:31. God bless.
People find anything to complain about. People go to their bf/gf house have sex and go home. I don’t think this is misleading at all considering the transparency that’s being displayed. If you think they’re doing it wrong just pray for them. No need to bash or be smart. We all sin and it’s all on the same scale. We also all have our own relationships with God. We’re not called to judge. If you’re not getting anything out of the channel then pray for them and keep it moving. Why stick around to continually comment how you don’t agree? I love the fact that they’re a couple who both are into growing their faith and can have a testimony for a younger generation.
yes!!!! any couple who wants to have sex before marriage IS GOING TO.. they will find a way to leave the house you don’t just have to live together. like you said bf and gf go to each other’s house all the time and take naps all that. it’s the same thing. you can’t assume someone is doing wrong because you might be cussing behind closed doors. only GOD knows what people really do. Some Christians do live together and still CAN WAIT. people leave abusive homes and have nowhere to go there are different situations for everyone. Pray for discernment, pray for conviction. Let the Bible and God lead you in your situation.
Great Q&A. The pet peeve at 12:04 is simply him “actively listening”, where you repeat what someone says to show 1. You’re listening, and 2. He agrees. 😉 I wouldn’t move in with my spouse before marriage, but thanks for sharing y’alls perspective ! I appreciate the energy of this channel.
This is not a good example of worth the wait couple, they’re literally setting themselves up for all kinds of temptation. Don’t think you can do this live together without being married and it’s pleasing to God at the same time. There are things that should be reserved for marriage and sex isn’t the only thing on that list.
And using the " worth the wait" brand is extremely misleading...this is not waiting truly. yall live together how do we truly know yall waiting...its just a marketing ploy in my opinion.. Wow i was truly glad to see a christian couple doing it big...but i guess not
Moving in together actually defeats the whole premise and purpose of waiting/worth the wait. Besides looking like your doing exactly what the secular world is doing isn’t a good look for the platform or yourselves as a so called Christian waiting for marriage to have sex couple. Anyone can and will doubt and question your integrity regarding waiting and thus the movement. Even the look of impropriety can be taken as you’re not really waiting ie the look sin can be construed as you’re actually sinning. New Christians this is not the way to flee temptation and resist the devil. There’s a reason why in Christian tradition (and old fashioned society) dating couples, engaged couples did not move in together. There are plenty of verses on fleeing temptation and resisting the devil. Besides you even admitted in the video that people don’t believe your abstinence, Answer this how does living together before marriage help the cause or glorify God? and did you guys pray and wait for Gods answer on this or did you consult your wallet? It’s hard enough to be above reproach when dating or engaged while living apart, it’s much harder to set a good example if you look just like the rest of the secular world. Moving in together shakin up is shakin up period there’s no other way to look at it.
I think you guys are cute and blessed and have such a beautiful relationship. But, even big men in the Bible avoided temptation, they did not resist it. Big difference. Living together and sleeping on the same bed would be hard for people to believe that you aren't sexual. Not doubting it but it seems like you have put yourselves in a situation to fall... You struggle with finances but you moved in together to cut costs so why don't y'all just get married? Ecclesiastes 3:9-15 makes it understandable that two heads are better than one so since you are shacking to help each other, what stops you from doing it right then? This is more so a contradiction to anyone who sees through the folds. But keep being bless and pray about it to make that change so God can bless you all how you deserve...
Hey! Nice video, but just a little advice don’t wash his hairs down the drain!! It’s better to scoop them up with a tissue and throw it in the bin, it will save you guys in the long run!
Not here to judge, as I love your channel! I just want to say to anyone who’s watching this and contemplating whether it’s “okay” to live together before marriage since they’re doing it (as I surely have been), a mature Christian asks “how will this enhance my relationship with God?” and not necessarily “does the Bible *really* say this is a sin?” We’re not called to follow laws and check boxes. We’re called to deny ourselves, take up our crosses and follow Him in response to the grace and love He’s graciously poured out on us. Paul talks about things he’s technically “able” to do, but He asks the question “will it be beneficial?” Ask yourself “Will this help my relationship with God?”, Will this bring me closer to Him?” “Will this put me in a position that tempts me unnecessarily to sin against God?” Surely, if I were living with and sleeping next to someone every night, I’d be tempted. I don’t trust my self-will that much 😂 So personally, this is not for me. When it comes to the way I live, I try to have more of a mindset of “how best can I please God?” As opposed to “how far can I go and not sin?” I feel like that’s one of the biggest struggles with sexual sin especially. It’s best for me to not push boundaries like cuddling, touching, whatever we think isn’t “technically sex” but doesn’t glorify God either. To each His own though. And to Dre and Bre, I pray you’ll continue to seek God and consider the impact of your witness as you work towards marriage. Be blessed, y’all!
I love how you said you guys aren't compromising yourselves for eachother. It reminded me of eartha Kitts definition of love. You love yourself and you share that woth someone else
Its hard ,cus i live with my boyfriend.,before i made the comittment to go celibate...i constantly has to has God for strength n self control..its beautiful to wait n pls God
Dang who cares if they snuggle and live together. Those are parts of intimacy that doesn’t mean have sex. You still need to have physical connection. Keep it up y’all!
I’m literally new to your channel like last night(2/13/19). I thought you were already married (JOP) and was planning a wedding! Interesting dynamic. I’m sure you are judged fiercely for this yet I’m sure there are people who don’t believe Joseph waited on Mary to give birth to Jesus before he “knew” her. People have different level of self control and although it is highly advised against in scripture “Abstain from the appearance of evil” 1 Thess 5:22, once your conscious is free then we watching should pray your strength and celebrate your commitment to God and each other. Perspective changes everything!
Its not "not really in the bible" ...it isnt. The truth is the bible was rewritten to hide the truth. The truth that makes people uncomfortable. I loved this episode
The bible was inspired by the Holy Ghost and the people were just the vessels used to actually write what the Holy Ghost inspired them to write.Thats in the bible. It was not rewritten to hide the truth.
Respectfully I ask.....are you truly saved? Is this truly and wholeheartedly waiting? I find this very disappointing to see. I'm in a true committed courting relationship and living together bf marriage is a absolute no way!! How does this really glorify God. This is heartbreaking
In the video 12:53 Dre is repeating or rephrasing a statement you made. I understand what Breanna is saying. She wants him to agree & add something NEW OR disagree & add something NEW. Anyway.... I like you guys and Yes I do subscribe
What your partner is doing is called active listening. In this case, he seems to be affirming what you have said. I do t see anything wrong with that. But hey... we are all different.
it is never okay for unmarried couples to move in together before marriage. I will recant my statement if you can name one biblical couple in the bible who lived together before marriage. you two are a beautiful couple but it is misleading.
My Ex and I moved in together a few weeks before the wedding....We did just fine....No sex...Oh wait, I found out he was actually getting sex from someone else the whole time....3 months after the wedding he was gone...He is now with wife # 7...
Kayla M. Most definitely! Establishing clearly defined boundaries (you both need to be honest about what you can handle in your interactions with each other when setting them) are extremely important in a relationship, so both parties are aware of them and know what is expected. We should be challenged to live to a higher standard, so there shouldn’t be any fondling period especially of the torso and surrounding areas. There are other ways to show affection for example holding hands, brief hugs (prolonged and full body hugs-both front and back involving the torso should be avoided etc...) Ask yourself if Daddy God is sitting next to you, would you be comfortable doing what you’re thinking of doing. Remember our bodies are His Temples. Ask Abba for His Wisdom and strength to establish these boundaries. Also if a guy is pressuring you to be intimate and cross those boundaries, it’s NOT worth it as, your relationship with The Lord is more important. All the best, Your sis in Christ. :)
