QUESTIONS TO ASK IN EARLY STAGES OF DATING/COURTING/BEFORE MARRIAGE TO AVOID REGRETS & DIVORCE 

As a single Christian guy, i have to say this vlog is loaded with wisdom...NOT sense/wits but WISDOM. So thank you for this

How people talk about their exes, says alot about them👍

What are you looking for in a marriage? How do you handle conflicts/disagreements? How easily do you forget and forgive? What is your love language? What is your take on divorce? What are your dealbreakers? Do you believe in tying? What if you gift me a car, and God lays it on my heart to give it to my pastor? What does the ideal Sunday look like? Do you have a mentor/accountability partner? What is your relationship with mother & siblings? How/why did your last relationship end? Are you in communication with them? What is your relationship with them? If you don’t get your way, what happens? How many kids do you want? If we aren’t able to have kids, what happens? How soon do you want to have kids once we’re married? Are there any family illnesses? Family culture? How will the bill be split? How do you envision our life together? Do you like me as a person?

single people, asking "how much do you make?" to a person you are marrying is totally ok!! ask also how much debts they have... all these are important cause they will cause you trouble in the future. ( ask please, don't end up with a jailed partner or a scammer, you will never recover if you don't know now!)

You said, when a couple can't have kids, men will sometimes leave or divorce. Women do this equally. Those types of questions should definitely be asked over time while dating. Please don't put these questions off and then explode on your partner with all of these questions at once later down the road. Also keep in mind that people are capable of growth and change. If they can't answer yes to a question or even a non negotiable, this doesn't mean that they are against it or that they aren't able to get there. This is true for men and women alike. Having a different ideal number of kids in mind is also not something to break up over as this is something that can change beyond your control. You don't want to throw away a great relationship because of this. Don't forget, God says that the priority of a husband and wife is the marriage, not the children. Yes the children are a top priority to you but your primary duty is to your marriage. As a couple, learn to cultivate love and respect. Learn each other's love languages, learn to communicate honestly despite discomfort. Check in with each other and never forget to build your friendship and enjoy fun and exciting things together regularly. Be willing to compromise and be willing to set goals and highlight your path to that goal. A significant and often over looked concept in a healthy marriage is the topic of Masculine and Feminine polarity. Come together to cultivate and nourish your masculine and feminine energies so that you can grow as individuals as well as stimulating each other to be your best selves and to keep the spark alive between you and your spouse or future spouse. Soulmates don't exist, it's all about coming together as a team and being humble and willing to do the work together and that never changes. Never has, never will. Never forget the human that you and your partner are. Forgiveness is crucial and love and respect are critical. Do the work to heal your sexuality and bring down the walls around your heart, mind, and soul. Show up emotionally and resist the natural urge to fall into complacency after you've been together for a while. Chemistry, spark, etc. Comes from a man and a women who are in their masculine and feminine energies and when they have trust, love, respect, and build a real friendship on top of their marriage duties to one another. Wives, pursue your husband and never stop enjoying and appreciating being pursued by him. Husband's, never stop pursuing and dating your wife, and never allow your self to forget that another man would be happy to take her from you. Date your spouse and never stop. Intimacy means (into me you see), be known by your spouse and tear down any walls that go up between you and your spouse. If something bothers you, hurts you, etc. say it to your partner quickly and don't let it fester or build up. Almost all negative emotions towards one's spouse can be avoided or prevented. Always ask yourself when you're speaking to your spouse, "am I being 100% honest in the way I said that, or by not saying it".. your marriage is not owed to you, it can come to an end without your wanting it. Never stop earning your partners commitment to you. Most importantly, building, protecting, and serving your marriage is worship to God. Never forget that.

This is a gem. Married and struggling and I know one of the reasons is because i didn't have this insight at the time a got married. I did not knew about myself, i did not knew anything about marriage and i never asked those important questions and I know if I did, things would have been so different. So thank you for sharing that and to the single ladies reading my comment, don't make the mistake of not addressing these topics before marriage. Don't be scared to loose him better for you to stop because you are not adjusted on some of these, than get into marriage and be full of regrets. Thanks again.

This was so good. As a young single Christian, praying for marriage one day I ask MOST of these questions (I haven’t asked about 2) so this is confirmation that I ask very appropriate questions. Don’t need to waste anyone’s time! 🙌🏾

Spirit of discernment is very important to know the kind of person.😇🙏

This highlights just how much QUALITY communication is soooo key. Quality communication improves the quality of the relationship 10 fold.

I've been in a spiritual warfare for over a decade now to be precise for 14 years now I only practiced self deliverance four years ago which works for me, it's crazy how the devil can literally hinderdelay a person from marriage I thank God he gives me victory everytime, the war is real guys.

Very very very important to know a person’s spiritual background before becoming one with them. Most people may want to truly follow Christ but they haven’t overcome the generational curses in their bloodline. Becoming one with them, you’ll be fighting spiritually because of lack of awareness. Very good video, a lot of these topics need to be spoken of more. Most people settle for the appearance and find themselves in trouble when the person’s inner truths are revealed.

Thank you sis for this, it was very helpful. I just saved it, I’m still very single but I believe I’ll get to ask these questions SOON. Amen

1. What do you want in a marriage 2. what is your conflict resolution style 3. what are your love language 4. take on divorce 5. what are your deal breakers 6. who does she 7. how and why did there previous relationship end 8. when do you want to marry and when do you want to bimo 9. do you like me as a person take your time with these answers

Thank you 😊 we really more videos like these ,it will really help us in having a conversation more with our partners .

Thank you so much for these. I actually took notes....and I'm looking forward to dating intelligently.

Be true authentic and frank by asking fair and clear questions. If the answers suit to your brain and heart, step forward. Otherwise go further. The clearer and honest you are, the best chance you have to get the right one. It’s the same for men as women.

If you always want to be right, change!. Don't expect someone to accept you like that and always apologize to you.

Such a great video!! Thank you❤ that last part is so true when you pray in the beginning of the relationship/courtship and ask the Holy Spirit to help you decide and guide you, they’ll start telling on themselves 😂 and sometimes you don’t even have to ask a lot of qs

Exactly my struggle and nightmare today. I wish i know all that i know today about marriage. I wish i had asked the right questions,just maybe things would be different today. I knew absolutely nothing about marraige. I didnt even know myself. No one to even advice or talk to me about what i was getting into. Thought i was gatting married to the best and God sent for me. Today i dont even know what to do. Praying God will make a way for me. These questions are very important to ask, we cant underestimate them. Our society doesnt place importance on premarital counseling,which is an extremely important part of marriage. How i wish i knew all these back then. Been married for almost 14 years now

Wow! Thank you so much for this, very insightful. I've written all the questions down, and he'll be hearing from me soon 😂😂. Lol. Thank you once again Sharon ❤

Listen to this Sister in the Lord!! If only, I would have asked these questions....this is so good...please young ladies listen to this wisdom!

About giving...I think both parties need to be convicted to give by instruction

I celebrate your insight. You exude so much calm, I absolutely love to hear your voice.

Most times after these conversations, some people act differently. Or even lie.

This was extremely informative, had to take notes as creating opportunities or time to really ask these types of questions can be missed. Thank you 😊

So many gems shared under 20 minutes.❤❤

It’s not our job to discern on our own who we should marry. You have to ask God and wait on His answer before you even start dating. God is a matchmaker and knows what you need better than you do.

Excellent piece & biblically balanced too. Nice one

How easily do you forgive or forget or do you hold a grudge too Very important question to ask in a relationship Thank you Sharon ma

1. What are you looking for in a marriage? 2. What is your conflict resolution style, how do you resolve conflicts. How easily do you forget and forgive. 3. What is your love language? 4. What is your take on Divorce, do yiu have any member that is divorced??5. What are your deal breakers?

Thank you. This is a very useful information. Unfortunately, mist if us find this out when we are already married. Thanks for sharing.

My first time on this channel and I got so much value and wisdom. Truly helpful.

I really appreciate all you've said.. keep up the good work.. alot of guys have an expectation of how sex will be in marriage.. so it's important to also ask that question so you won't marry someone who expects something that's difficult for you to give or vice versa..

Some of these are observations to be made and not questions to be asked. A person will always present their “best selves” or try to become what youre looking for.

It's important you ask him What's your conviction that I am your wife? This will enable you know if it was really his decision to marry you or he was talked into it. You will also find out if He made the decision on the right bases or on a wrong note. It's must be that he heard God, Or had a dream😊 but this are also valid too.

There’s no forgetting. But one can forgive with the help of God. And it’s not “how easily one forgives” but how difficult or easy?

ooh yeah..i was checking your wig throughout maybe God is affirming you give to me😂😂😂😂

very thoughtful questions that needed to be asked for sure before falling in love.... thank you for this....pls ask before you say yes not all that glitters are gold for you

Someone who is understanding, willing to help me first.💑

You are a masterpiece, na to dey repost everything you do now, omalichanwa of Jesus, anointed woman. Thank you for staying through and developing yourself. I Love you so so much.

Thanks: the questions were invaluable questions two a s k when you're dating :but the key answer as you spoke is relationship with Holy Spirit discernment: you can ask all the right question ,but when you get married things change he's no longer the person he said he was.

Ive always said this, and I realized this is what old couples 50+ wind up doing anyway. When I even bring up serious questions like this when in the middle of dating they think im a mad man.. But let me tell you the consequences of NOT doing something like this… You get too involved and heavy in tge heart, and months in youre running off the fumes of charisma and then you get into these serious topics.. You’ll bump heads on one of these serious topics and set it aside. Then one day it’ll arise and it will upset you more then. you’ll draw a line in the sand.. And it’ll be over something important like religion and the barriers of said.. Then you’ll break up with tears in your eyes that didnt need to be there because you discuss these serious topics in the beginning.

I am so saving this or writing it in my journal I am going to ask this question to someone worth it this year

I was looking for something and I came across your channel. I can't thank you enough Sharon for this video... It's such a timely one.

Hey Sharon I’ve been watching your content for a while now I would say you’re a blessing..

One thing that makes these tough is that , people fake and lie so much these days .

Wow, thank you for this!! Any advice for teens and young college girls? I would live to see that video!

Thank you so much for this video, I learned so much. I think many of us get very caught up in the hollywood type of "falling in love" and just forget to ask important questions before hand. I am taking notes oh. If you have more videos like this is store, I'm here for it girl. Youre a big inspiration ♥♥ also wanted to ask, what are the things you did when you decided to start dating? Did you tell friends that you are looking for someone, did you go out more intentionally, did you have dedicated prayer times with God about it.. Or did it just happen?

I don’t feel any less for not wanting marriage. I couldn’t handle it with today’s woman.

Thank you so much for this video ❤, I must commend how happy you sound and look whenever you’re talking about your husband. It’s a really beautiful thing 😂❤

Great advice! Especially for younger couples!

This is very insightful dear. Let me mark it as a favourite and listen to it when the time is right

Thank ya for making this video Sharon!, this video it's a great one I would say!... But I'm really not married yet ya know but I just appreciate the fact ya making this video!.

Thanks soooo much for this video Sharon, I really loved watching it and grabbing every information in it. These questions are very key and shouldn't be taken for granted at all. I pray for more grace and wisdom for you toake more of such insightful videos. Again, thanks. ❤❤❤

This is my first time on your channel. I'm not done watching the but this is really good. Thank you 🎉

Happy to subscribe. Wht am i just finding your channel? Sooo good

Highly valuable video!! By the way do you mind linking your microphone?

This is so insightful. Thank you for this Sharon ❤

Thank you, Sharon. I have a quick question: Should these questions be brought up before or after the proposal? Thanks again, Sharon.

Yaahhh. I'm hereee and I'm glad I am.😍😊❤️.

Most men love acts of service ❤

This is great. Thank you, Sharon.

Thanks Sharon for this video,I learnt a lot 😊

Thank you…❤❤ I was lead to watch this…

This is amazing, realest question to ask

Love this questions. What do you think recommended approach would be to ask these questions? A sit down conversation directed mainly at the questions or slipping it into conversations?

This video is fully loaded❤.. Thank you Sharon 💗🥰.

Hi Sharon, great questions!👌🏾 I’m curious what you use for your lighting please. I just started my channel and struggling with my lighting setup. Thank you 🙏

Mama you have just spoken up my mind, remain bless

Subscribed...you are full of Wisdom I never hold a grudge but I might remind them which is just as bad

This was good Sharon...Thank you and I'm subbing. What's the best/ worst thing you ever did? Ever robbed a bank? Conned people? been to prison? Murdered someone? I know I'm getting kicked out after asking🤣

I like your teaching keep it up God bless you more Man of God

This is a very good content. However, i disagree with the tithing thing and also with the example. Tithing isnt for christians but generous giving is. Yes, give as the spirit prompts you. Commiting to giving (whatever %) to the gospel of Jesus Christ is a good Christian virtue.

This so informative 💯🥰more grace 🙏

Have learned allot from this video..thank you alot🙏. Please I need more. I hate to say "had I known.."

Thank you so much for this. I'm blessed😍

This was such an excellent and soothing videos. I have taken notes of the questions and will do the needful when the time comes. The comment section was another meal as well. Thank you so much Mrs Sharon That being said; please can you give me your wig 🙃😂 Thank you

This is so insightful. God bless you!

This is absolutely so good

You are a good speaker great content too thank you for sharing.

I love this video. Listening to your suggestions I noticed a few questions u haven’t asked.

How about someone without parents, how will you know how they treat them?

I love this information! Thank you so much!!!

Thank you for this insightful video. I have learnt alot.

This is interesting and educative. God bless you.

Am really blessed . I think I had made some mistake as well which I learnt from. 😂

Very helpful! thank you for this video!!!!!

Thank you very much for giving such insight. This was very helpful

Very insightful. God bless you for this

I am grateful for this. Thank you ❤❤❤

So true ask question it will save your life.

I enjoyed this. Very helpful

What about getting married when you have kids at home ? Do you ask them what they think ?

Oh wow!! This is soo helpful

Most of these questions are in the book,, Intellectual foreplay.

Wow.... I love this video...thank you dear❤

Thank you so much. Very insightful

Your husband is the head, you should respect his opinion when giving.

Hi This is my first time here and am loving you already 🥰

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