I’m another American that moved here to NZ and raised my children. I have two teenagers now, but I’m so grateful that I was able to raise them here, and that I didn’t have to work much when they were little. Playgroup/playcentre was a godsend, and I also took them to mainly music once a week. A group of parents that meet up and do singing and dancing with their kids, and then we all share food afterwards and the kids play with toys and mums have a chat together. I also had two coffee groups running. One for my antinatal class, and another group that we had formed through plunket. Plunket is amazing too. A plunket nurse stops by at your house or you can go into a plunket centre, and they record how your baby or toddler is doing, and make any suggestions or just have a chat. I didn’t have my own family over here, so all this support was so great! I feel very grateful!, and have wonderful memories❤️
As an American couple who have been in New Zealand for nearly fifty years now, raising children and experiencing them raising our grandchildren, we find your videos to be a perceptive and honest reflection of life here...we’ll always be Americans, but, we’re now first and foremost New Zealanders...
I really like how you're genuinely interested in learning and understanding about the country, and not just the superficial stuff. Glad our comments help you.
My observations would be: That the free 20hrs is for the health/wellbeing of parents but is, more importantly, designed to ensure children are ready for school.. ready to learn and socialise etc. The lack of threat of litigation is a huge help in allowing children to explore, push boundaries etc. I'm happy to allow kids to climb the tree in my yard, I won't be sued if one of them falls and breaks their arm.
Haha you make us sound like such rational, calm people. We do yell at our kids when they're naughty, playing deaf or in danger. But I guess for the most part, comparitively, we are a quieter and more relaxed bunch. One of the main reasons probably being we don't have many threats here. So there's no need to be in fight or flight (Generally speaking). And cultural attitudes too - for example, I think that we have a very different view of success and what is important in life and therefore our children perhaps aren't pushed to a particular standard as perhaps other countries. We are also a very recently colonised country so traditions aren't quite so cemented and we are generally very adaptable because of this.
Playcenter was a life saver for me. Building relationships when we moved to Wellington with an 18 month old and pregnant. My kids are 24 and 26 now and a group of us mother's go away for a week together every year. The saying is " you go for your kids, you stay for yourself". Best thing ever xx
I think in education NZ is at a much higher level than the US and seems to have been this way for many decades. In the early 1960's my family (parents; 8 siblings) moved to NY for my father's job at the UN. After 3 years we moved to Boston so he could complete his Phd at MIT. We returned to NZ in the late '60's and every one of us children were found to be at least a year behind our peers and us older ones had to repeat a year. Also - an anecdotal aside - one of my sisters who was living and teaching in the US in the early 2000's, was told by the principal of her school to remove the map of the world (which she had bought and paid for herself) that she had hung in her classroom. "These kids don't need to know about other countries", was his reasoning. Mind blowing!
Watched some RU-vid video's,of a guy in California,, walking around on the beachfront,,asking random passers bye, question's about the USA,,like,who was the first president of the USA,, everyone under,40ish didn't know,, what's the capital of the USA,,how many star's on the flag,,the largest state,,the smallest,state,,whats independence Day,,who fought in the war to free slaves, and so on,, I'm from NZ,,and the lack of knowledge,by those asked,was absolutely,mind boggling, People around the world hunger for education,,then there's those who waste the chance's they're given,,shame,,happens here in NZ as well,not just the USA,,SAD
@@morrisanderson818 I have watched some of those clips too and I end up turning them off I am astounded at the lack of general knowledge. At hni we were told that in the USA, they have a school curriculum they have to work through every year....it's basically a 'manual' with each lesson in it and they just go from front to back, no deviation or spontaneity or even following the children's interests. That may not be how it is in all states though. I have been to the USA a couple of times and what amazes me is that so many people have no idea of anything outside of the USA....sad really.
I learned about America and other countries BECAUSE their was a map of the world on the wall. It got discussed and it gave you perspective as a kid. A NZ kid. Wow, that's shocking!
Wow.... I got a world map in my floor and my daughter has a Globus in her room... Not to mention the lots of atlas books suited for every age 😶 at least in geography should be a world map. Don't the students no atlas for this subject?
One of the dominant reasons NZ and other countries has such strong maternal and early childhood support publicly funded is that it saves money long term. A healthy, safe, stress free first 3 years of life has dramatic effects in terms of lower mental health issues, criminality, imprisonment (yes I'm looking at you USA) etc. It's the most important time of life and makes or breaks then next 80 years.
Well Tara, I'm super happy how you explained how it works in NZ! I'ts fifty years since l raised children and I've been a little unaware of how it's done today. Obviously we're doing pretty good. Something to keep in mind when people talk how expensive it is to live here. The price of avocados and fuel etc., are balanced a little by the quality of life, plus by some of the things you explained about early childhood support. Love y'all.👍🏻💕🇳🇿
I grew up in New Zealand in the 1950s. As far as I remember there were no avocados in New Zealand then. The first time I tried avocados was in SanFrancisco in 1974. You have so many things growing in New Zealand now that we were told was impossible including WINE. In the 50s Kiwi wine was terrible believe it or not.
@@fionajohnston1737 thank you I had never heard of that. I do remember that a family friend in Devonport Auckland. Grew bananas in his back yard but only produced fruit about every fourth year if there was a really hot summer.
When I lived overseas I was 16 -17yo and I used to babysit three little New Zealand girls - each a year apart from same family and the way they talked to me was so hilarious like they were little mini adults. But they'd also tattle tale on me too so I had to watch my back and make sure I gave them "tea" on time, etc. They were a hoot and compared to American children were so very confident but they were quite devious too. I suppose I was raised to be beaten when "naughty" but they were never never raised that way.
Your becoming such a great youtuber now! Love all the gifs! Sometimes I can''t hear you very well and have to put headphones on, but keep up the good work!
It takes a village. I feel like the rest of the world sees NZ as a primitive society but hey the best of us look after each other. You continually remind me how lucky I am to have grown up in NZ. Bernardo’s is amazing spent a lot of time with them before I was five after my parents devorse.
For me ,NZ isn't primitive.On the other hand,this country is super awsome to reside and raise the family.I love the granny smith grown in NZ.It's my favourite apples i have to have.
I like play centre. The ones that I have been involved with were really well resourced. There was a large variety of toys and books. The playground had lots of things to play on. Children can do art, play musical instruments, and play educational games as well. There is a nature area where kids can learn about living creatures. They also can use real hammers, nails, etc. Kids can learn cooking or baking too.
I love this video. I own a small daycare in upstate NY and I absolutely agree with the stress of the cost on the parents. It’s insane. I’m one of the cheapest providers and it’s still a huge burden on parents. There are places nearby that charge parents almost $1400 a month for 1 child! That’s almost 3 times my price. That’s awful. I can also say that on the end of the daycare provider that the amount of money we make is not survivable. I could never feed my family on this income alone. The system is definitely broken. I’ve been fascinated by NZ’s approach to childcare for many years. There approach is so much less stress on the kids and more personalized. I’m trying to find a job in that field there. Can you think of any pitfalls an American would have working with NZ children?
Nicole - thanks for your insight! I don't see any pitfalls being an American working here but you will run into the "you are not from NZ" so this will hinder you finding a job. They generally prefer someone that understands NZ culture. Hope that helps!
I think your attitude will take you far in NZ. As I’ve said before, being a Kiwi is also a state of mind, not just a nationality. You’ll fit in fine 👍🏼
Daycare here is called ECE, early childhood education, so there is an expectation the workers are qualified. As far as being an American, you would be fine. You would be part of a team and New Zealand is culturally diverse.
There's been a lot of research into learning here and one of the underlying philosphies is ako whakatere - which means basically accelerated learning. One of the principles of this way of teaching and learning are that you learn best when you're not stressed. Love your perspectives on life here - really interesting.
The big thing is we let our kids be kids, not forcing our ideals down their throats, (we do give guidance when they get into their late teens) nor do we place them in competitive situations, eg as in the States with Miss Tiny Tot competitions. The initial years of a child is greatly valued, although having said that there are still those parents who abuse verbally and physically. The child's health is paramount - education, doctor's visits, dental, sports etc. There is a raft of services available to help, most are free of charge. The other major point is parents and grand parents can spend valuable quality time with their child/grand child, they are not bound to work and generally neighbour hoods add to that quality time with local kids getting together. Most areas have a local park or playground where kids can safely play. I think NZ's overall culture has a major impact on the child's well being, we are a realitively laid back society but can most certainly put our nose to the grind stone when needs arise - "she'll be right mate" and we do work as a team. I have traveled overseas to principal countries many times and each time I have asked myself what are these people doing to themselves, where are the smiles and the hi ya; not all the time, but on many occasions the kids look as stressed as what their folks are, where is their time out.
I arrived to NZ 11 years ago, with a 2 YO and pregnant and I found Playcentre it was a great support not just for the children but the all family. We created our friend Net and extend "family".
Playcentre is amazing and a great way to get into a community and meet new friends. Really supportive if you struggling and need help with all the different ages and stages of pre-schoolers.
It is so sad that these basic support payments and systems are not available in the USA. Each time I watch these comparison videos I feel so sorry for Americans and their absolute dependence is upon money and how it is the centre of their world.
My three children all attended playcentre. We lived on farms so it was great to be able to socialise with other parents as well as the children having excellent play times. I recommend it to anyone. Loved the way you were involved in your children's play so could understand why and how they played . You could also do basic training when my kids were there.
Kia ora. Ive watched a few of your videos and im glad that you and your whanau are happy and adjusted into the kiwi lifestyle. Choice! I have noticed that you dont often talk on Maori - and thats completely understandable. In regards to this particular segment on parenting and preschool for kiwi kids I wanted to mention Kohanga Reo - or learning nest for preschool Maori tamariki. When Kohanga Reo were established back in the day, it was instrumental in revitalising our language and tikanga - a fully immersed Te Ao Maori learning environment which has now became the model that many other indigenous cultures have attempted to adopt - particularly the Hawaiian and New Mexico indigenous nations, which I reckon is just awesome. Thanks and regards
Ani - thanks so much for taking the time to comment and yes this is amazing. There is a lot that America could learn in how they treat their indigenous culture.
Good video, thank you. I didn't know about the early start money for kids. All my grandchildren were born before that, but I agree, what a great idea to help with new babies. You are very observant, I also did not realise that kids here are encouraged to speak up and share their opinions more freely. Maybe I was not aware when my kids started school in the USA because they were both quite chatty kids and perhaps they got trained to sit down and be quiet without me being aware of it. Enjoyed your video, hope you are all doing well and staying healthy. Thanks 👍🏼😁❤
BTW, there are lots of good things about our education system, but I think we do need to learn more mathematics, English grammar and science. I did all my schooling here and always struggled with maths and science. Mind you, that was about 40 years ago. Also, although I know how to use apostrophes, many people don't seem to know. I think this is because things like apostrophe use and the difference between their, there and they're don't seem to be explicitly taught and/or tested. I could be wrong though, maybe a primary school teacher will correct me here!
parent and grandparent from Oz here...my kids and all the kids of their neighbourhood ran riot in the bush of the upper blue mountains..significant numbers of poisonous snakes not withstanding....my grandkids free range around the Newcastle area and so do their friends...I think it has to do with a general sense of safety in your community..water..snakes..etc are manageable and teachable...I did stop my kids from running through the hanging swamp area near us during tiger snake breeding season...(what a woos)...
@@jaynemeulman8484 Fair point. Luckily for us, our teachings don’t need to cover such a wide scope. Edit: I’d query water though. Would you feel comfortable with the kids swimming in any river?
@@rwags6848 river swimming...or as is more usual in Oz.. creek swimming is a treasured part of a country childhood...needs careful supervision under 10 and clear rules about diving..(never)..swimming in floods (never) and going alone...(never)...but otherwise is just great fun...
I watch your videos and those of some other US nationals. My parents migrated back to Europe in 1960 where I was born. I think it was their best decision. No country is perfect and their is always room for improvement. I worked and lived in some 15 countries and visited some 60 countries as a tourist. What I learned, however, with all the imperfections what is commonly classified as being socialist, communist or marxist countries in the US works rather well in Europe, Oceania, Japan, South Korea for decades already. In contrast the US is falling back every day.
Also you didn’t mention paid parental leave! 80% of your income up to a certain amount for 26 weeks. And 1 year leave where they have to keep your position for you to return.
@@jayyvonkush1941 just like we pay for everything else, including subsidizing oil companies, farmers, America's Cup, vaccinations, health care, schools, parks....what's your point?
Tara you also forgot to mention that all maternity care is free....no need to pay to give birth here and 6 weeks of post-natal care from your midwife as well. That's another difference I guess too, we have midwives and not OBGYNs for all our maternity needs.
@@jayyvonkush1941 yes that's right and that way we as a nation share the costs. It means that people can have children without the burden of bankruptcy
Toy library. When my wife passed away she had over 50 teddy bears. She collected them for fun. In the USA I found it impossible to give them away. Every one was terrified that accepting used toys made them liable if anyone got sick from a toy. Most ended up in the dump
That seems such a shame and so wasteful to see things that could bring more happiness be thrown away. I'm so glad we don't have such a litigious culture here in NZ. Condolences also for the passing of your wife. She sounds sweet.
@@karenngawhika1595 thank you got your sympathy. I am at peace. We were married 40 years and lived in a total of 8:countries. She was from San Francisco and I from Auckland. We had a life of love and happiness together.
Thank you for warming my heart, your kind recognition and embrace of the NZ culture. As a 5th generation Kiwi growing up in the 70’s - 90’s, your commentary is congruent with life in NZ at the time, as we slowly embraced our beloved Maori history.
We also recieve a Family Tax Credit up until your children turn 18. Doesn't matter if you work or not, on a benefit, you still recieve this extra money. You can also claim it on weekly payments or a lump sum when the financial year clicks over
Playcentre is a parent co-operative preschool organisation started during the Second World War, which runs training for parents, who are the child's first teachers. The training is accredited and one gets a qualification, if one goes through the whole course. My generation went on to careers of various kinds, begun in education and administration roles in Playcentre, which gave them the confidence to move on when the kids were at school.
I’m a kiwi whose been living in the USA for the past 7 years. I had my first two babies there in Auckland and my second two here in the USA. With two toddlers I feel quite alone a lot of the time and do miss things like play center and mainly music. Being at home with babies was more normal and valued there whereas in the states more moms work so it’s harder to make friends in the same space. I get sick of having to pay for everything here, to join a moms group, or go to an indoor playground. Everything adds up and there’s so many days I wish I was raising my babes back home.
Playcentre's is a great place for families which allow children to play and parents to learn. The subsidy for preschool is to ensure children can access quality, developmentally appropriate learning to ready them for school, and, although it does allow parents to get the groceries in peace, that is not the purpose. Another fantastic thing NZ has for young children is Plunket. I'm not sure how well resourced it is now, but it allows every newborn to be visited in home for 6 weeks and then ongoing health and developmental checks before school age. Plunket nurses have been a source of advice and support to parents for over 100 years. I think it is very unique to NZ.
The 20 hrs of childcare is provided for the development of the child, not necessarily to give the mother a break. It removes cost-barriers to early childhood education.
"Best start" is very new, I narrowly missed out on getting it for my 4 year old son in (he was born 1 month too early!). The 20 free hours was originally brought in to ensure children had access to ECE education, which is now considered pretty important and helps preschoolers in being ready for school with early literacy, numeracy, social skills, and understanding routines like sitting and listening to teachers and so on. There was, however, a LOT of controversy around it when it first came in because there were threats around sanctioning solo parent benefits who chose not to send their children to ECE and that (in our egalitarian views as a culture) created a situation where parents who wanted to be home with their kids and didn't have a partner were being unfairly penalised, as opposed to couples who could afford to have a parent home with the children were not facing similar penalties. It was basically labelling solo parents as "unfit" in many people's view. This was all under our previous government who made a lot of changes to our beneficiary system. I believe that this is not the case anymore, but I don't actually know the beneficiary situation with it now.
Oh you might also find it interesting to know that the majority of people here choose to have their maternity care with a midwife instead of an obstetrician and that there is a growing trend towards home births. We also have birth centres where you can have your baby in a space that is homely, but not at home (then you don't have to clean up all the mess!) and a lot of people choose not to have any medical intervention or pain relief with their birth.
Its also free to give birth in hospital and all healthcare and dental is free under $18 then the GP is like $19 a visit, hospital is free still and dental is an absolute rip off! Priscriptions are normally $5 each and cancer treatments are free.
In Australia we have the playgroup association...parents here form and run their own centres often in association with parent run toy libraries...both my girls attended these groups...as well there are gov funded play programs for families with extra needs...
Child birth is free along with hospital stay and longer term issues like children born too early. $60 has been around for ages but theyve renamed it. If you work part time, the government tops up your income.
Some community's you get 30 hours free.. Also I have 5 children, my youngest has complex needs...I get up to 50 hours free for my other kids...so even my kids thatare at school I get before and after school cate for them for free as well as up to 50 hours a week during the school holidays for holiday programs
Primary School curriculum is all about autonomy and scaffolding young people to be critical thinkers and innovators. As teachers we encourage them to use their voice and to question their own thoughts and ideas, as well as other people's in a respectful way.
No its not, NZ education has been voted worse in the world by many World Education organisations, that means we suck ass, I seriously dont understand this channel its just a bunch of lies to make NZ seem better but its not, it really isnt so why are we all lying to ourselves, your worse than the oil bumping americans who say things like "America is the greatest" well neither NZ or America is the greatest no country is, we all have bad systems and good ones, NZ sucks for most, Education is the worst, Healthcare is even worse, travel is terrible, government is unscrupulous, our nature is being destroyed by "ECO" power options such as Solar farms and wind farms being that they take up 50x the space of a fossil fuel power plant, just many messed up things in NZ that you refuse to see so no. Go away.
@@jayyvonkush1941 seriously dude....are you a teacher? If not then you don't understand the curriculum or what it's like day-to-day in the classroom. World education organizations base their data on academics, that's not how our curriculum works...it's about the whole person and caters to those who are not academically inclined, those who are more practical, and caters to all learning styles. Don't judge the education system based on what you read from overseas. And don't judge this RU-vid channel because you don't agree....don't watch it if you don't like it. Tara always says it's her opinion and her experience.
@@jayyvonkush1941 also, how on earth is our nature being destroyed by ECO power options? Would you rather have mining and oil drilling? Our forests are not destroyed by ECO power options either, they were all sold off to China by the previous government, so if you want tontalk about unscrupulous governments, then take a look at history.
"NZers are not yelling at their children" ....okay, I guess you haven't been in a Samoan household before 🤣😂 jokes aside, love your videos - new subscriber here!
Hi! I was wondering if you can comment on the work/life balance in NZ with multiple young children. What does that look like? Sorry if I missed another video that addressed this particular subject. If you can point me to that video, that would be awesome too. Thank you for making these videos!
Would really be interested in hearing the difference between us and the USA when it comes to science. It seems that is a factor in the lower vaccine take up over there and why there are so many cases. Or to even hear your thoughts on it. Keep up the great work
As an American one week post-MIQ, I would suggest that our lower vaccine rate and our faster spread of COVID-19 has more to do with a stubborn individualism, or a fixation, almost, on individual freedoms versus the greater community-mindedness I see here in NZ. There has also been lack of trust in government institutions due to mixed messaging and lack of transparency -- in a small percentage of instances to the point of paranoia and conspiracy theorizing. I don't believe lack of general intelligence, lack of education, or lack of interest in science has played a part. I could be wrong. Among the vaccine-eligible members my own family, we're only about 70% vaccinated and boosted. People who are similarly intelligent and educated sometimes draw different conclusions based on differing values or politics. My ex-husband's wife, in fact, said it out loud: I do not like being told what to do. It's not an attitude I share, but in the States, especially among those conservative voters who are terrified by the word "socialism," it's an attitude I've heard repeated more often than I would like. I will admit that my husband and I were both infected with COVID last August, two and a half weeks after our second Pfyzer doses. We contracted it from my 4 year old grandson who developed symptoms the day after his birthday. I knew he was sick, and I leaned in to care for him. Even after our boosters we still maintain preparedness for isolation, with the understanding that COVID will become endemic and there will always be the possibility of needing to isolate in order to protect others.
You get 9 hours under 3 for free, over 3 years 20 hours per week. It is income based I believe. Kohanga which is a Maori based child care which is free.
I think that there are a few different options depending where you are. I sent my little one to Kindy when he was 2 it is completely free. We are in the Bay of Islands
Kōhanga isn't free. It is heavily subsidised. The govt covers $5 per hour that the kids are in care (this is available to everyone not just Māori) and I pay 50cents for each hour after that (our kōhanga fees are $5.50 p/h in comparison to Pākehā daycare that were about $15-20 per hour) . When parents are In full time study this can be subsidised more.
You didn't mention paid parental leave or free midwife support during pregnancy and free childbirth. I don't know how Americans manage having to pay hospital fees and going back to work only a few weeks after giving birth. It seems so expensive to have a baby over there 😔 My dad's American and when we were growing up he was shocked that parents in NZ could smack their kids. We passed a law about 10 years ago to make that illegal. My dad's from California so I'm not sure if there was a law preventing parents from smacking their kids over 30 years ago or if my dad is just a gentle soul.
I was waiting for someone to mention us midwives... we have one of the most successful maternity care systems in the world, and it's free. Home postnatal visits, continuity of care etc. X
I have a American friend. He told me how American raised their voice, rate themselves highly and Mr knowable. He got a shock that nz don't talk highly . He have doctor friends for years and have no idea they're doctors. They kiwis don't talk what they do He said. I told him, that's kiwis.
Hello friend how are you? I'm Brasilian and I'm preparing to visit New Zealand when it will possible, do you think it will be possible in next year? Have a great day!! Good morning
Actually birthing is free too, I had an emergency c section , 3 days in hosp, all free. Plus Plunket visits to my home free, to keep tabs on bubs weight, any queries parents have, for the first year. I think we have 26 wks parental leave now too, can be used by either parent and you dont lose your job. Xx kai pa thou, I reckon you covered some good ones. :)
Money for your baby from the Government? This must be very very recent... NZ is very "user pay". Plus daycares have found a way around the "free" early childhood care hours and hidden costs are thrown at the parents. The idea is to socialise the child, not to help the parent find work. Playcentres require long-term comitment with parents attending training and adhering to a strict roster. Not really a "drop off" creche.
I am not sure if this is a new law but it is there now. That is true there are hidden costs for the daycares - I forgot about that. Interesting point about the playcenters as that is not my experience.
Lol the level of fear and anxiety being suddenly released in those first two 'differences' is such a uniquely American thing. Really only if you live in the USA do you understand this. If you grew up in a better country like NZ then you really can't understand how huge things like these are. Also how confused we Americans get when shown basic human kindness/dignity from a functional government. Were residents of Mad Max Furry Road, and so were a little confused and excited about the smallest of things. A toy exchange would be great, but it can't work in America. If I give an old toy and the kid choaks/gets hurt from a broken piece, I could realistically be sued for thousands of dollars in medical bills and legal fees. Living in America discourages you from being a kind decent human being!
Good question Heather! I don't have direct experience with this but have a lot of friends who have. Not all schools have special education options. The resources are limited for sure. It totally will depend on the school district in terms of your options.
To be a KIWI the first criterion is to be a flightless bird that eats roots and leaves. Or a human that exhibits similar characteristics and is born in Aotearoa New Zealand. Children born of foreigners here are Kiwis by birth - if they choose to be. But in any event, people are people and are usually interesting and nice. But, either Kiwi version dislikes intensly self promoting loud talkers with nothing of worth to say. These people come across as being phoney and not genuine.
Drag Queens reading books to kiddies in libraries is really cool. Kids don't judge but love their fairytales colourful, interactive and loud. Perfect. Apparently Taco Bell is opening in Wellington soon. Let us know how it rates.
Dear Tara:I do wonder you let your kids watch some cartoons like Wallace and Gromit or Shaun and the Sheep.etc.These kinds of cartoons are awesome because it doesn't express the violent scenes as in the fighting warfare.
@@Kiwiamericans We had Taco Bell (Auckland) last night. Oh dear. Don't want to be the bearer of bad news but....salsa is lettuce and tomato without onions, cilantro lemon or lime. The food was NOT Mexican. I'm praying your franchise is better.
You dont really get these things for free you know.....we pay high income taxes to cover these things ( education and family health etc...Not the parent run things)
Our income tax isn't really that high consider what we get in return....health care, school, maternity care and pay, under 14s free at the doctors, prescriptions, hospitals..etc.
I've been watching a bunch of your videos and its so funny and getting a bit repetitive , but that's ok. The funny thing is that NZ is no different or special than the rest of the 'civilised' world. Yes you've guessed it the live for profit country you call America has possibly one of the worst quality of life standards of any 'wealthy' nation. But don't tell them , we wouldn't want to upset them too much they've got too many guns. Glad you and your family escaped , hopefully mexico will finish the wall to stop too many more getting out!!!!!
So many parents welcome the school holidays being over, this is because they do not smack when needed and the kids have this entitled attitude and don't do as they are told when they are told, I saw a teacher in trouble because of this dumb parenting and the kid got hurt, because he had not be taught to do as he was told when he was told.
Smacking, that I've ever encountered, does not work and is illegal in Aotearoa/NZ. A for instance...a brother of mine smacked (not hard) his youngsters hand when he went for the power outlets. I sat there thinking how illogical it was to smack as every time my nephew returned to the power point regardless. Completely useless strategy.
@@artemis1style A smack is NOT illegal, the automatic protection parents had was removed,you can smack as long as there is no marks, a smack this hard is NOT necessary and makes the point for wilful disobedience. Smacking and corporal punishment was considered the cause of violence and is a learned behaviour, HOW do these so called experts account for the amount of violence of today considering how little we had in my young days. A smack is seen by children as love and being cared for and a parent who loves their child will do this for the benefit of the child. A teacher recently had to front up in trouble because a four year old in the class would not stop running around, when the teacher went grab him to stop, the boy fell and got hurt,I said to the education people,if the boy had been taught to do as he was told when he was told, he would not have been hurt, It was the parents fault, NOT the teacher, a smack would have taught the boy to do as he was told and would not have been hurt.
