This bride has been to more than 80 shops trying to find the perfect wedding dress and just when there's one she loves, her mum ruins it. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
The “mom” is probably the reason why they visited 80-100 stores. The daughter probably already found a dress that she loved and the “mom” probably tore her down during those appointments as well.
Exactly this. I also think her mother is jealous of how beautiful she is. In or out of that dress, or any dress, she has a natural beauty and glow to her that her mother is obviously lacking here. This sweet girl. Y'all know she's been dealing with this her whole life, too.
With a strong opinionated Mother like that, I would probably have bought that dress just BECAUSE my Mother hated it, and I would have loved it even more 😊
They've been to 81 stores because her mom hates everything she likes. She's trying to please her mother at the cost of her own happiness. She needs to stop bringing her mom with her.
That's something I noticed for a LOT of brides in the show. Itvs always "my mom and I don't get along" THEN WHY BRING HER TO THE SALON OF SHE JUST MAKES YOU MISERABLE
@@wonderlandartwork3579 i think its so normal just to bring your mother no matter what. not only that a lot of the time the family pays (like the mom in this situation). it honestly hurts seeing these toxic mothers just treat their daughters in such mean ways
A lot of the time this happens because the person feels like not including the mother (or other toxic person in the situation) would turn out worse than bringing her. Like here, she said she didn't want the dress anymore because she knew her mother would be shit talking it behind her back at the wedding. Imagine what her mom would do if the bride told her she couldn't help to pick out the dress at all. Guarantee the mom would trash talk any dress she brought home in that scenario, and would even be likely to shit talk her own daughter to anyone who'd listen for not including her in the process.
Why would anyone bring their mother with them? The only reason I can think of is if the mother is paying for the dress, and even then her opinion is not required and should not be welcome.
@@mah-e-kana373 Yes she did find a nice dress and had a nice wedding. Her mom found a nice dress too. However, who knows what happened behind the scenes.
It's very clear to me that this woman feels like she's a hot mom and her daughter is average at best I have a feeling that this woman has been criticizing her daughter's appearance since she was a little girl
That’s the vibe I got and it killed her to see her daughter look stunning cause she did look gorgeous in that dress and is younger and prettier than herself so she had to kill her spirit.
For me it seemed like the mom was always a hottie and always grabbing the attention, but now she is just "The Mom of the Beautiful" and feels the attention going over to her Daughter and gets jelous...thats the Vibe that I get
The mother is clearly narcissistic and has been abusing and gaslighting her daughter throughout her entire life. Why hasn’t anyone seen this before????
👍 Good comment. It's sad that most people aren't aware of what Narcissistic behaviour is. It can be years down the line when they've been hurt one time too many that they go seek answers. ☹️ and usually by that time they're in their 40s and 50s. This sort of psychology should be taught in schools.
Seriously. These women who are jealous of their beautiful daughters sounds like Snow White's mother. In the original Grimm's fairy tales, it was her mother, not stepmother, who was the evil queen.
It’s crazy how Randy and others went from thinking the bride isn’t able to settle on a gown to completely understanding why she did go to 80+ stores all over the globe for that one gown.
The designer of the dress was freaking horrified. She was laughing as a defense mechanism, but her face said, "I'm horrified! Somebody Duck Tape this bitch's mouth shut NOW!"
To be honest, she is laughing because to such psychopath the sadness of others ,even of her own daughter is a sth funny...especially since she caused that sadness...this woman is "an emotional vampire"!
When Randy is talking so sweetly to Samantha in the dreasing room, she says, dejectedly, "that's how she is." This is even more heartbreaking--the daughter has been dealing with shame and abuse her whole life by her mother. Easier said than done, but best to be financially independent. A simpler dress peace of mind, and no one holding their credit card over your head so they can abuse you.
Yup and when anyone has financial control over you, they can easily manipulate, abuse and hurt you in any way they can. My family is the same to me. Being financially independent gives you lots of freedom and choices.
I've heard of a bride who had a very toxic family. She had to cancel the catering her parents originally paid for so they wouldn't have that over her head. Thankfully, her in laws & friends pulled together & did a potluck style reception.
When she sarcastically said ‘fine, I love it’ crushed me. How can one treat their own daughter that way. It’s like she is the only important one there.
Yup my mother also acts this way towards me once my mom tells me to hurry and just get what I want after she would say she didn't like it. Even just the little things then once I get it I would sometimes cry then she would sometimes joke to me that i looked weird and laugh at me so yeah it does hurt a lot
I remember when I first saw this episode, and how appalled I was about the way her mother treated her after that first "it's ugly" comment after the dress was on her daughter... and THEN Pnina said something in her side interview, away from the family and my jaw dropped because I have watched ALL the SYTTD episodes and Pnina has NEVER said anything bad about anyone on camera EVER. I wanted to cry for this girl.
Believe this: I went to a dear friend's wedding years ago, and her mother had the fricking NERVE to wear her old wedding dress!! Can you believe it?? You could hear the gasps and shock from family members...
I don’t think she’s this type of mom...she doesn’t give off jealous vibes. She instead gives off a vibe where she wishes her daughter looked different as in was skinnier. She seems like she might be those people that believe their children have to look good because they’re a reflection of her... so she’s very demanding in a toxic way.
I love the fact this video is online and everyone is commenting on how horrible this mother is. I hope she sees this. I hope she understands how hateful she is. I hope she regrets her behavior. So selfish. So disgusting.
Lol this a reality show, one with many reported fake conflicts, as it is with reality shows - the trashiest form of entertainment media. You don't know their real life dynamic or how the dressing tour has gone up to this moment. For all we know this *could* very well be a case of 80 stores in 2 continents not satisfying a spoiled rich daughter, and she couldn't live with her mom not liking the dress when she finally found it, in which case the mom would be justifiably ready to completely done with it.
The mom saying to Pinina over and over how she was looking at her outfit and not at her daughter was not misunderstanding anything. She is a nasty woman.
Alot of foreign mothers are very harsh and emotionally unavailable. The fact that she's laughing and not taking her daughters feelings seriously is ridiculous im glad the experts walked away
really, this mom's dancing around the sentence "you are too fat, everything will look mediocre on you" I remember in an lancashire episode, an asian woman was in tears because her mom will think she looks fat because her stomach wasn't concrete-slab flat. she was size 2 US btw.
I absolutely agree, the mother was downright cruel Do that to her daughter. I Have a habit of thinking from both sides of the spectrum, is it a possibility the mother is just annoyed at this point because of having to go to so many stores all over the world? 🤷🏼♀️ I want to see the whole episode!
The mother is a classic manipulative narcissist. This poor daughter is trying to chase her approval, like trying to catch the wind it will never happen.
I come back to this clip a lot. My mom is exactly like that. It gives me so much hope to see people who see how she is and that people care so much. It reminds me not to shut people out because of how someone acts amd people truly are better than what my mother says.
❤ I can relate. I keep my heart open but my boundaries firm; there is love and good people who are wholesome to the core. It’s a lot less scary than we feared as kids
ME TOO!!! I literally watch this over and over again like I get such comfort knowing I’m not alone with a narcissistic mother. It’s so sad when I get more love and empathy from strangers than my own mother. I’m sorry you are going through this and for anyone that has a narcissist for a mother.
I don’t know how many years/episodes I’ve watched say yes to the dress but I think she is absolutely the most beautiful bride I’ve ever seen- for her to not want to look at herself in the mirror literally gave me a physical pain. She deserves so much love, self-love, and respect from others. And simply to be able to enjoy her life and special day
@@namjoonsoldmyjamsfor3dolla404 Yup my mom the mother of my brother getting married was barely in the wedding it was all about my sister-in-laws mother! I was the flower girl and they were practicing what was going to happen the day before right so they called people to the altar one by one I was the only one left they looked at me and said that’s it for today so I didn’t know what the heck I was supposed to do at the wedding!!!!
I’m glad your mom is a sweetheart. That is very special ❤ my boyfriend’s mom is the same and she’s claimed me! Lol my own mom..well she’s got an evil and histrionic streak. But I forgive her and my dad. Life is beautiful and we need more sweetheart moms
@@em8302 I agree and my late mom was loving but she had her flaws too. My late mom was not this bad thank goodness. I am not a mom yet but am an aunt so I know how to treat my nephews. My nephews all love me as I treat them all very well. Glad that your sister did the same.
Her mom is the devil, I hate how her confidence went from 100-0. She looked absolutely stunning in the dress and the fact that her mother enjoys taunting her really hurts.
@@20PINKluvr It's just cleavage. She's a woman, so yes she has cleavage big deal... You put her in this world like this, why criticize your daughter's body in a dress and say what she can and can't wear? Your children are individuals and don't live for you. They live for themselves.
I agree she truly loves watching her lovely daughter suffer. I noticed that the toxic mom was wearing a very short dress which draws attention to herself rather than the daughter. A part of me wanted to wipe that disgusting smirk off of her face.
I surprised the mom could smile at all, with all the work she's had done to her face. She seems like she's used to getting ALL the attention, maybe she was very beautiful when she was young, and she can't stand being older and letting her daughter have the spotlight. So sad.
When she did that she looked like the bigest jerk but she didn't care becouse she can't stand that it wasn't about her but her dother. Her dother has been dealing with that probobly her whole life. How can someone who is so self centerd be a parent?
This poor woman. My mother could be brutal, laughing at my hair, makeup, clothing, making passive aggressive comments about my parenting. The day she said made a comment about my son I tore into her. She had the audacity to cry and play victim. I know what this woman is going through. It's tough. But I bet she will be an amazing mother because she knows how NOT to be a mother.
Showed this to my mom and she said: “Well, as mothers, we know what looks good on you. But if you don’t agree, whatever, you can look ugly at your wedding if you’re paying for it 😂” I’m not sure if I want to invite her to anything
Your mother is right and real lol Not only the dress didn't look good but after going to 80 stores in two continents, and paying for the damn dress, the mom has her leniency to be done with the whole thing. "You want the ugly, puffy dress that makes you look like you don't have a torso? Great, at least you finally picked one, let's go."
That's the part that gets me. Because she was not even shock or anything, but merely annoyed. It obvious this mom acts like that all the time and bridesmaid witnessed it often
The mom doesn't need to be "politely" helped, her narcissism needs to be called out. It's obviously an ongoing issue too since the daughter resignedly said "how she is" (which I know how that feels)
Yes. I don’t see her ,I’ve never seen such an unloving Mother, I don’t see any love or any feelings towards her beautiful daughter!!! At all!so so sad.
Because she went to over 80 dress shops in 3 continents already and still had no dress. We don't know if the mother liked other dresses and the daughter did not. The mom has issues and is cold, but the daughter seems like a spoiled princess with a mommy who can afford Pinina (my spelling is awful here, apologies). Who has time and money to shop that much for a dress, even if it is a wedding dress? The mother wasn't wrong about the dress either. The daughter is beautiful and has a great body, but that dress did not suit her body type or height. It was the mother who even picked the dress, not the daughter. The daughter ended up liking it. The mother didn't. The mother was wrong about how she phrased her dislike of the dress. It was cold and rude, but I think she does care about her daughter and did not want to see her walk down the aisle in a dress that wouldn't work on her. Sometimes you need to take these shows with a grain of salt. If they are losing a sale on a $10k dress, of course they might make the person objecting feel bad and say things like...what kind of person are you. I think Randy is too sanctimonious and putting down the person with the credit card, not a great idea in real life.
Oh please ! The mom was cold but she was right. The 👗 doesn't flattering her girl. Not at all. For sure the way mom acted was bad. But the girl has no taste. And friends & vendor are just hypocrites.
I love my mom so much. I got my dress a few days ago and she was beaming through the whole process. We researched dresses together for months to find the style I was going for and when I had to go in and pick some dresses to try on she was the one person who I asked to help me. She was actually the one who pulled the dress I got. My mom mad me feel so beautiful and I am so sorry to the beautiful ladies who don’t have that experience with their mothers.
I can relate to Randy, it took me many years to have children and I don’t know how anyone could treat their daughter like that. She was literally glowing in that dress, how can you as a mother crush you child’s confidence like that?
Sadly there are mothers and fathers too that literally hate their children. I felt that way with my late parents. At times they can be loving but at times they can be so brutal.
@@yougsa a mother should teach her daughter to value her feelings and needs above other ppls wants its normal to want validation from a parent its not normal for it to be debilitating codependency
@@jsjgfdhgfsf9693 Indeed. This girl shouldn’t feel like she has to make her mother happy. This is HER wedding, not her bitchass mother’s. I think she’s better off not inviting her mother to the wedding if she’s gonna be like that
The best is the end where the mom says "Because I'm the evil mom here" and the daughter agrees and the look on the mom's face is everything. So hurtful that you would do that to your daughter and laugh at her.
This episode just made me cry. I've known narcissistic people and how they love to tear people down, but I just can't imagine having a mother like that. My fiancés mother is that way, and that's why his mom is not invited to our wedding. Like she makes it her job to try to break down her kids and their relationships. No one needs the person who is supposed to love their child the most there tearing their child down on the most important day of their life. I couldn't have been a consultant during this. I'd have been fired the second that lady opened her mouth. Then I'd bring Samantha ice cream and make it my personal mission to take her and her friends somewhere without her mom to find the dress of her dreams.
My sister married into a Lebanese family. Their culture is just very straight-forward and no-nonsense which is often perceived as rude. At first I was very shocked or concerned about the way my sisters new family was acting, but they are actually very sweet people just very honest. Keep in mind this is also reality tv, so they could’ve very well cut out some of the positive things she said.
@@simplygina7703 just saying there is a difference between being straight forward and rude. This lady's behaviour - atleast what was shown on screen - was rude.
@@W-I463 It seems like english isn't her first language (or that she's not proficient in English.) Who knows, if she leaned the language better, maybe she would've phrased her words better.
I feel like the mom is in a way body-shaming her daughter. Mannequin has the "perfect body" so anything on a Mannequin looks great, The daughter looks beautiful in the dress too. Also, Some of the moms on this show are so entitled, like it's not your wedding if your daughter feels good in the dress then that is all that matters.
Ok but I don’t see how the mom doesn’t think the daughter looks good. I honestly think she looks better than the mannequin. That daughter is so pretty I’d be suprised if she didn’t look good in it
Narcissists get their Narcissistic supply by abusing others, so when she have said what she should, she smiled‼️Narcissists need supply as others need oxygen ‼️We shall be glad if we don't have a mother like her, but I had a Narcissistic mother who saw me as an extension of herself ‼️A Narcissist can't stand to see others shine, those are full of hate, ans are envios and jelous of others, their biggest joy is to control a target and dim their light‼️Many daughters have sent me messages and told their mother are like her in the move, and that are so sad‼️💎Starseed Heyoka.
My dad is somewhat of a narcissist at times in the sense that he just doesn’t seem to be happy with what I do. At least in my experience. Telling him how I feel would be pointless because he’ll just end up dismissing me as being dramatic or some bs
Wonder if she showed up at her daughter's wedding wearing a white dress designed to sort of resemble a wedding gown. I saw one post where a young woman said that her MIL actually did wear a wedding gown to the wedding. She cut the train off and said that made it no longer a wedding gown. She apparently was one of those women who felt like SHE should be marrying her son instead of the bride marrying her son. She even jumped between the bride and groom when they were trying to take pictures of JUST the two of them. What sort of psycho person does that to her son and his brand new wife?
Spot on. She's a narcissist, this is how they treat their daughters. I would get married at the courthouse, before taking a dime from her or even include her in the wedding. She lost the right to call herself a mother, being that cruel and abusive. All she did was give birth.
I'm so sorry for her. She was absolutely shattered. Randy was such a gentleman, the way he just comforted her and supported her. How all the staff rose to the occasion and supported her. I hope she found her dream dress.
I think the reason why she went to 81 stores isn't because she couldn't find a dress, it's because her mother kept making fun of the dresses that she liked. Samantha, Live your life for YOU, not for your mother. This is your day, you get what you want. Your mom is just a nasty narcissist. It's sad that it looked like, she didn't even want to get married anymore. When you live for other people, you aren't living.
She's not having a hard time finding a dress. She's having a hard time finding her mothers approval. Poor Samantha. Hope Mario takes her far away from that witch of a mother.
The fact that the daughter isn't crying at how her mother treats her tells me she's too damn used to her mother being nothing but cold and cruel to her. That "mother" does not deserve to be a mother.
This was my mom when i bought my prom dress. She told me i was too fat for it and looked like a beached whale. I never sent to prom and still have it packaged newly in my closet
She is a toxic middle eastern parent . She behaves the same. She has no shame and doesn't think what she is doing is wrong. She has the old mentality that if someone is bigger in size they shouldn't wear big huge gowns that make them look bigger. She doesn't consider her kid's feeling but what everyone else will think...ughhh now I'm triggered
If she's this toxic to an adult woman who is about to get married and can survive on her own. Imagine how toxic and controlling she must've been during her childhood.
i am crying for her. being raised by someone like this is absolutely soulcrushing. i hope her mother is not in her life anymore and that she is healing.
She just basically body shamed her without calling her names The mannequin skinny as hell but once you put it on a big girl it's suddenly ugly? This lady needs help
Found an update to this, the total shops she went to ended up being 100 and she did get married, there was no mention if the mother was present or not.
She’s one of those mothers who doesn’t see her daughter as her “daughter”, more like competition and she’s been controlling that girl since she came out of her birth canal.
@@carol-annebragancaborba6134 As an Indian myself, I disagree with your opinion. You can't justify a person's mean and narcissistic behaviour on their ethnicity and no, Indian moms are definitely not like this.
Her "mom" so easily complimented the other lady yet can't even be bothered to squeeze one nice thing out for her own child. Some people shouldn't be involved in planning important events.
Dude their Arab moms I know this from experience as I am Arab everyone is like that and most of the time ten times worse I think the girl has a right to be mad at her mom but she’s kinda being a baby cuz she should be used to this by now
She is basically like every older Asian mom… They never apologize even when it’s their fault, the kids are never gonna be good enough, no matter how hard they try and never ever will they tell you that they love you
I feel so sorry for the bride. As Randy said he would be supporting his child. My daughter died years ago at 11 years old. I would give anything to take her shopping for her bride's dress. ❤
guilt tripping yes, gaslighting no. those aren’t the same things. it’s good to call bad behavior out when we see it, but we can’t just be calling everything abusive gaslighting.
@Snow Drop no it doesn’t. The dress wasn’t altered to her size. If she did buy the dress they would alter it to her bust size, hips, waste, etc. just like her mother your an ass without imagination
@@pinningformichigan8120 people say you should love your close ones no matter what and forgive them, but again, just because someone is your blood , doesn't mean you have to put up with them, cause its not fair to you
As someone who's mother is like this.. ding ding ding.... it's been like that her whole life. From my teeth to me "looking like I'm wearing a diaper" in a skirt... that's been my mom forever.
I don't think her mother is jealous of her, she actually seems embarrassed of her daughter. She was clearly body shaming her bc her daughter doesn't look like the mannequin
@@wellwouldntyouliketoknow4137 It’s her wedding, her dress. She’s gonna look at those pictures for the rest of her life, show them to her kids and grandkids. She felt beautiful in the dress. That’s all that matters
Honestly. She seems to only think of herself in life. I can’t imagine how she will pretend the wedding is hers throughout. She seems like a control freak too.
Since I can't find a clip of Samantha saying, "Yes!' to the dress, I have to assume she found another dress that finally satisfied Narcissist Spider Mother. I hope she loved her wedding dress, whether NSM liked it or not. I wish Samantha and her husband many, many years of joy, happiness, contentment, and so much love.
@@deeshizzlemanizzle483 but she’s happy in it so it doesn’t matter, she looks beautiful because it’s something she loves!!! Her mother is destroying her confidence, she was already having a hard time finding the perfect dress and trust me on your wedding day nothing matters more to a girl than her dress. The mother could have constructed her criticism much better than what she did.
@@deeshizzlemanizzle483 _yeah but it's not her mom's wedding doesn't really matter that the mom didn't like her dress the fact of the matter is that she loved the dress and she really wanted it to be her wedding dress and it really is upsetting that she couldn't have it_
So true , absolutely agree that woman Is a narcissist and that 's why she treats her daughter that way , she can not handle that her daughter is the only one who matters at moment .
Absolutely. Narcarsist's always have to have all eyes in them. In addition, they also have to be the ones manopolizing all conversations, where other people can not contribute to the conversation otherwise.
I have a feeling she’s gone to so many stores because the mom keeps doing this. Some people are defending the mom because she’s paying but no, she’s just rude and a bully.
Nadiicruz Ur absolutely right, that woman, cause shes no mum, is nothing but a bully, Samanthas face lit up when she saw herself in the mirror, them boom she gets slagged by her mum, shame on u x
Exactly what I was just thinking. Her mom probably acted that same way in every store, laughing at her daughter in every dress she put on. I feel so bad for her and just want to give her a hug and tell her she's beautiful and worthy of a happy life with her man and that her mother's snarky opinions shouldn't matter because she's perfect the way she is.
Exactly, she probably had already found a dress that she liked but then her mother ruined it for her. Makes the whole are you sure this is the dress thing at the beginning shine in a whole different light.
