as a genderfluid, the point of it for me is to not have to think about what gender i’m doing, i just gender whenever i’m gendering and don’t gender when i’m not
As a genderfluid person, yeah it’s literally so messy and it drives you crazy sometimes - but to me it feels like sometimes waking up and feeling crippling gender dysphoria and wanting to rip my chest off and craving for people to call me a gender affirming name and pronouns, and then waking up the next day and those feelings being partially or fully gone and wanting quite the opposite, to be called and dress like my birth gender. It’s also being very stuck when making long-term or permanent decisions like cutting your hair or going on hormones, you never know what to decide since you KNOW that your feelings will most likely change. You can get what you feel is a gender affirming hair cut at the moment and wake up the next day and absolutely hate it. It comes with a lot of confusion and also denial, since it’s not a very recognized gender identity, you try to conform to one even knowing that you just aren’t that. so yeah, lots of love to my genderfluid friends out there ❤ Also literally how are we in the same row as pupgender -
I'm agender genderfluid myself, and yes, it can be frustrating, especially since I don't have the resources to change my gender expression as I see fit. For the most part I've gone about my business as my AGAB, presenting in a very bland and nondescript way, like a blank slate. For clothing I go for practicality, since I work outdoors a lot. Is it durable, washable, and does it have good pockets? This typically means men's clothing. I never bothered to style my hair or grow it out, so for years I've been shaving my head like a renunciate. I have started HRT, figuring I owe it to myself if there's a chance it helps, and I'm leaving all options on the table. I don't know my exact transition goals because that's like trying to hit a moving target, and there is no preexisting model for nonbinary genders. Therefore it's up to me to rediscover and reinvent what that means for myself.
Yeah I feel you. I'm Genderfluid and I've been talking to my therapist about HRT and it's tough, I never really know if the decision I make is going to be the correct one or not. But we Genderfluid people always seem to find a way, we are liquid after all. 💖🤍💜🖤💙
As a genderfluid person I appreciate the fear Its (for me) feeling some days (or weeks or even months the time frame is random) wanting to be seen or grouped into a specific group of gender or in some cases just NOT wanting to be grouped into a specific group of gender The strange part is (for me at least) when the gender changes you can’t imagine being anything else
My genderfluid cousin went through a really long period of time where they felt nonbinary, and were like doubting everything for 2 months straight, and then they felt all at once
Literally this- I have to remind myself that I'm genderfluid everytime I'm certain that I'm just a girl or just a boy because I know it'll eventually shift, and it always does
Gender is like Metal sub-genres. There are tons them, some overlap, and sometimes there are “genders” that aren’t really genders in the sense that they are types of queer people like catboys and twinks.
The fact that you put the genderfluid flag in fear and then in nice gender bud and called the gender a disaster is so funny to me because that’s genuinely what it feels like edit: and now it is in the womp section xD
4:09 as a genderfluid person, yeah its just constant questioning- with the genderfluid questions, while it’s different for everyone for me it’s usually more of a vibe than a “oh I’m a full dude now”, like I’ll feel dysphoric over things I did not feel dysphoric over like an hour ago and I’m just like “oh alright then I guess I’m more masculine now”. the main reason I say I’m genderfluid is I know that my gender does not stay the same, even if I could not tell you what it was at any moment lmao
I'm transmasculine and for me, it's more wanting to *physically* transition in a masculine way! Like I want to go on T and get top surgery, but I still really love feminine clothing and big make-up looks. Also, little note on xenogenders such as pupgender! Xenogenders are often used by (but not exclusively) neurodivergent people! They can help to explain a concept that many neurodivergent people struggle to understand or relate to - or they're just the way our brains process gender :D If anyone has any questions, let me know and I'll do my best to answer! (Although I'm by no means a gender expert, haha)
Thats a really good way of describing being transmasc!! Thats really similar to how i feel about transitioning. And xenogenders are super awesome. I identify with a lot of xenogenders as like mini labels that i dont really tell people about, they are more just for me.
@@planetaryg0 I think it depends on the context. I've seen it used as a gender label, an umbrella term (for trans men, demi boys and the like), or in reference to transition. Personally, like OP, I use trans masc (mostly) in reference to my physical transition, but non-binary as my "main" label. I use them somewhat interchangeably, depending on what I want to express. To me, masculine is more about expression than it is about gender identity
As a librafluid, which is basically being mostly agender but also kinda switching between male and female, I find it very funny that Noah put librafeminine/libramasculine at FEAR Edit: I just got more into the video, now it's up at nice job
being genderfluid for me is pretty much me just sitting there and thinking "huh... i'm kinda in a *insert pronoun* mood rn" and then just going with it
Genderfluid person here! For me I usually don’t realize I’ve switched genders until someone refers to me as a certain set of pronouns. It’s just sort of an instinct and I wear whatever my body tells me to. It’s different for everyone, but I can also have different genders throughout the day. Hope this helped any confusion/questions!
Doctor who is canonically gender-fluid actually ! and they’re also pan romantic and asexual according to most of the actors :3 (but yeah, david tennant is GENDER)
This was educational. I must admit, I paused to google a couple of those and paused to read the ones that you googled. I tried googling raccoon gender but the results gave me ways to gender a raccoon 🤷♀️ I need to research more.
i use transmasc for myself and overall the experience for me has been “man it would be so much easier to be a guy… wait am i a guy?… EW fuck no” but feeling largely really masculine
11:14 so basically I’ll go from “call me a boy or I will cry” to “fuck gender I don’t want any” to “girl is fine I guess” to “I am everything and nothing all at once” and it’s just so much fun
I am genderfluid, and I know this is not the case for most people, but I switch A LOT (its kind of ridiculous) but its only switches on the feminine spectrum.
as a genderfluid person, I can confirm that one day, I want a skirt, the next, that same skirt can burn in hell because I hate it and feel dysphoric, and a different day, I couldn’t care less
Definetly staying up until midnight today, can't wait to hear the new song! and im quite sad i can't go to any of your shows, I'd love to but i live all the way in Europe, i hope you make shows in Europe soon too! I'd definetly go :)
Nah I know exactly what's up with my gender and I'm still unlabeled. I simply don't have a gender identity. I'm not agender either, there is some gender in there, just not enough for a gender identity. I'm sure people could come up with all sorts of microlabels that come close to describing this, but I don't want them! Not labeling it is part of the point.
Because Noah seemed a little concerned about genderfluid identity (and it's really not hard to grasp) I just wanted to make a point of sharing the experience of being genderfluid for those who are curious: Like with all genders, Genderfluidity is not based on what clothes you wear or what toys you play with, gendered or otherwise, it's a state of being, socially and emotionally shaped and honed throughout life. Unlike cis gender or even nonbinary identities, where the individual remains comfortable and fixed in their identity all the time, from birth, genderfluid identity fluctuates, often uncontrollably, along the gender spectrum. Where Nonbinary does not adhere to the binary spectrum, genderfluid identity typically does, thus, u get the whole mixing of masculine and feminine stereotypes, interests, archetypes, etc. It's not like a switch in the brain where u wake up one day and suddenly feel like a girl, or a boy. It feels more like sitting in between masculine and feminine most of the time, not really belonging to either one but not feeling apart from them either. Some days your mind leans more towards 1 aspect over the other, sometimes that leaning can last for days, weeks, months, even years, and then things will gradually shift the other way or stay somewhere in between. But it is gradual most of the time, like the flow of water.
i kinda get the stuff like pupgender, like i could look at something outside of myself and feel like that's my gender. there r certain artists and stuff that make me feel that. but i think my brain's just good at projecting lol, so i just go w identifying as nonbinary/demigirl instead
I am gender-fluid myself and certain things like planning for a trip when you don’t know what your gender is gonna be at that time. And ofc hair cuts can be tricky unless you have access to things like wigs. But it’s still fun to experience other genders. 🩷🤍💜🖤💙
"A silly little video that you'll just gobble up" yes Noah we will gobble it up because possibly 80% of your audience is sad trans teens and you are our trans big brother P.s I got your hoodie for Christmas and I refuse to take it off
I also wanted a hoodie from Noah for christmas and sadly haven't got it bc my parents "dont support trans people", and they found out Noah and Cavetown is trans, which means no merch from them *sob*
I'm genderfluid, and the way I perceive my gender is, usually, never binary. I usually just feel a stronger connection towards a gender at a specific time, but the intensity also may vary. I may feel like a completely binary girl half a day, then a demigirl, bigender, agender... Tbh I just go with the flow and don't try to label what gender I'm feeling like. It's more practical to just dress however I wanna dress and use whatever pronouns feel best at that point, without questioning wether that means I'm a boy, a girl or what. Saying I'm genderfluid feels the best
Honestly, I relate. I flow between being a demiboy, non-binary, and a trans dude. I’m a demiboy most of the time though. But I call myself nb, and use he/him pronouns to not confuse people.
so much this. there's no distinct change, just sometimes realizing that i'm different than what my memories say. memory says i enjoyed looking and being called a certain way, but now i hate it. and sometimes being called a certain thing feels good, but it's hit or miss what will work and i won't know until it's even said. took me a while to realize i can just dress and present and act however i feel comfortable at the time. so much better that way. honestly when it comes to labels, things like "weird thing" are more reliable than "girl" or anything like that (though somehow i consistently like "slimegirl" more than "slime" or "girl" individually lol, maybe because slimes are inherently a bit fluid anyways)
me confused on whether i’m a cis woman or non-binary (rlly confident it’s the latter lmao) crocheting a cow plush while watching this: 👁️👄👁️ edit: STREAM “3 DAY HEADACHE” TONIGHT AT MIDNIGHT
the “what do non-binary people do? crochet stuff?” KILLED me because i wanted to laugh but actually yes. yes i do. so does my partner. we can’t fight the stereotypes anymore
I'm genderflor, which is what you get when you water your agender seeds with genderfluid. You never know which seeds will germinate first, how long you'll have to wait for them to grow, what they'll look like when they mature, or how much of a harvest you'll get from them. The most you can do is keep a close watch on them every day and hope for the best. It's difficult to set long term transition goals due to everything being in constant flux, and the fact that there is no one way to be genderfluid, or any nonbinary gender. I'm the first nonbinary patient my endocrinologist has worked with, so I'm figuring it out as I go. I know that some nonbinary people take exception to being referred to as "the best of both worlds" because this has not been their lived experience, and it hasn't for me either. However, that might be how I choose to describe my own goals. I want to be adaptable, and capable of fulfilling any role where I'm needed. I want to get to a point in my transition where I can freely switch up my gender expression day by day. I suppose there's a reason I've always been fascinated by shapeshifters in fiction, because that's the way I see myself.
As a genderfluid person, I rate it on wether or not I'm crying over having slightly long hair is... or throwing up because my body doesn't match how I'm feeling etc. It's day by day and is exhausting but when I do the things I know can help its gorgeous
It's stupid but I often feel dysphoric for having "girls hobbies". So I got happy when you said crochet as an example of typical a non-binary hobby. Is that a thing ?
Why would you ever feel dysphoric about something that you enjoy? I know that dysphoria can't really be controlled, but you shouldn't feel bad about something that you enjoy. Just enjoy what hobbies you like and chill :D
4:09 as a former identifier of bigender, yes absolutely had periods of “is it going to be like this forever???” And then I’d wake up the next day and it’d have changed. Eventually for me it did end up sticking forever (kind of). I’m now just genderflux (so one gender that fluctuates in intensity rather than two genders that both fluctuated)
13:40 i feel like David Tennant would be delighted (also i think time lords are like genderless? or at least i dont think they have genders like we do)
For context the new doctor who stuff isn't actually that cringe!! I didn't watch any clips before hand and just enjoyed the 3 episode special and had a great time, it was handled pretty well to me. Though I guess if you saw the stuff out of context it might sound clumsy/cringe. Also Nah the doctor isn't a detransitioner, it's just that they change genders every regeneration- it sort of parallels conditions like DID where different people within the same body are each a unique person, and therefore can have separate genders. The difference is of course that real people with DID exist within the same body, and that the doctor is one person at a time, and the body changes every so often. It's not an exact same thing, it's like the Doctor's regeneration is a SIMILAR thing to DID.
