Generally, people do what makes them feel safe and comfortable. That's sense of feeling are taught by family and the society that you live with. It is no easy to change. Hope that time will help to adjust to change. Thanks for sharing.
Well, that's why Hmong don't have a country. Small heart. I was thinking the same. They were willing to sponsor you guys and accept you all, but ironically your parents couldn't accept them?
Amen. Ain't that the truth. Especially now that his daughter is living a good life and doing very well. Her husband is a surgeon and she's a teacher. Now her father wants to acknowledge and accept his daughter and her husband as his son in law. Especially when none of his other children doesn't want him. Now his daughter and her white husband is taking care of him.
Cov neeg ruam ruam quav tsw tog twg tsis paub ces xav li nej mas. Tej neeg uas yog thawj neeg rau luag haivneeg puas yuav nej cov Hmoob khib nyeon no naw.
This could’ve been my story, except the title would be instead “vim yuav suav” back in 1990 😞 thankfully my very traditional family turned around after a couple years seeing how good he treated me and them. So sad for her all those wasted years and she never got to say good bye to her mom.
You marrying him was a gift to repay his parents for their good deed. It’s too bad your parents did not see it that way. Glad your father made amends with you and your husband before his time was up. Happy for you, sister, for choosing your own path in finding happiness.
Everyone has their own path and luck in life. Just because your life is good that doesn’t mean all would be good. There are many good Hmong men and husband out there.
My husband is also not Hmong. I was hard for my parents to accept at first but they still welcomed us. Now he’s just a normal part of the family. I think the author still holds some bitterness towards her family, mainly her brother and sisters. That’s why the criticism came out so harshly. One thing I have noticed is that my family and I live very different lives. That’s why we are different people and although I do feel bad that they have to uphold the nyab life, it’s a life they have chosen. Just like I wouldn’t like to be criticized for marrying someone who isn’t Hmong, it’s not my place to criticize them for always having gatherings every weekend or their weight or their look. Everyone is just trying to live their life as best as they can.
Txhob tu siab zamtxim rau cov laus os mog tej laus yeej xav kom yus tau lub neej zoo2 xwb thiaj pheej txwv yus ua zoo rau tejlaus thiaj tau koobmoov os
I don’t understand why hmoob people want to come to the U.S if they don’t want to change their ways. The reason why you come to this country to grow in the new cultures/education/ and to be opened minded with the new world.
Cas koj siab me ua luaj li? It’s called constructive criticism. Luag twb tsis hais phem los koj muaj tig ua qhov phem. Luag twb tsis thuam los koj hais tias luag thuam. Koj tus cwjpwm yog cwjpwm tsis zoo. Koj tsis paub tsa muag mus saib luag tej seb yam twg lawv ua tau zoo coj tau zoo es yus yuav lawm mus kho yus tus kheej.
Yoglikojhais lawm yuav hmoob ce koj khawv2 laus tag los lawv yuav lwm tu mos ab lawm xwb ma yog hais tau peb txhob yuav hmoob lawm 100 tu phem cov zoo ce yog1.2 leeg xwb yuav hmoob yu ua tag nro txhua yam los niam pog txiv yawg twb tsi los txiv tseem tham hluas nkauj thiab tusiabkawg
These OGs only want to claim their disowned kids when they’re successful or when they’re at a dead end because the kids they actually love and supported abandons them.
We live in America and it’s fine for our children to choose their own lives and who they choose to marry. You did the right thing for yourself and that’s all it matters. If your siblings and your brothers/sisters in laws are having a problem against you for marrying a white person, it’s their loss not yours. I’m glad you and your husband are willing to take your dad. May god bless you and your husband for loving your dad.
There is no guarantee in life. Change is hard to accept in all race/ethnicity. Interracial marriages is a relatively new concept that was not widely accepted until recently. Arguably, it's still not fully accepted in the American culture as a whole. Hence all the race dispute in American society. The restrictions that some of our older folks make is out of fear and lack of understanding. It is only through time and those who goes against the grain that we find out that it is possible for people of different race to coexist and make a family together. Rather than criticising those who did not see the possibility upfront. Let us all just be more accepting of the possibilities moving forward. I'm glad that this sister was able to find happiness in her marriage. 😁
Hmong tsis paub txaj muag li. Yog tus yawg hmoob ntawv ces yeej tsis muaj ntsej muag mus nrog luag tej nyob li os. Nws muab ntsej muag dev loob es nws thiaj li tsis paub txaj muag.
Luag tej ib txwm piv txoj lug hais tias ntxub2 ntawv rub nyiam2 ntawv tsi tiam ces yog koj txiv ntag os, yog kuv mas kuv tsi thab kiag li lawm lauj yog lawb kuv lawm na
You can buy life insurance for your dad, and he passes away or R.I.P. Your dad's family or cousins will perform with the Hmong traditional culture. So you forget your siblings' help .
In this generation as long as they love you and you love them, it doesn’t matter what race they are. Stop being prejudice and accept others. You didn’t do anything wrong to get cutoff from your parents. They just didn’t know how to think or accept your choices.
@@kuexiong1498 EDIT: He was Korean but adopted to a WHITE FAMILY; idk if his mom dates a white man because he don’t look Korean!! I have a baby girl that I have to protect now & shes 3 yrs old & other kids but I ain’t gonna let no man use me and hurt her! Hear about not being their dad & hurting them kids! I have to protect my girl now! Wish I did tho but it is too late; beside I married a Hmong dude & his family who puts you down and say horrible things to you has been a nightmare … Now, I’m protecting my kids! I don’t want no man to come between my kids and I ever again, that is a promise to myself no matter how lonely I am!!
Yuav txiv hmong los twb tsis hlub ces yuav mekas los tsis ua cas los mas. Es Yog yuav txiv Hmong no cov vauv twb tsis hlub niam txiv nim hais tau kom hlub los cas ne. Tsuav yus pom yus tej me nyuam lawv sib sib hlub ces nrog lawv zoo siab lawm xwb.
If your daughter didn't married who she married, you wouldn't be where you are today. Count your blessings. The SIL isn't wrong though. They sponsored your family, and didn't care what Asian you are.
Sister, don't go dissing your sister's and sister's in law. Everyone's life is different. We all have choices. Just because you have the means and will to care and do for yourself and keeping yourself in shape that is your choice and decision. You don't live their life nor do you understand how it is for them so don't start shaming them about their body and weight. You need to remember that maybe if you didn't take care of yourself and your body you would look just like that and maybe your husband would've fallen out of love with you a long time ago and you could have been a divorced woman with all your children and not living a life as you do. Your life can always be change overnight. Be grateful and live a humble life.
Those who married outside the race act like they're being judge but in reality they are the one that judge their own the most, they act like they are so much better too good to marry hmong men and when they marry a rich white men they belittle hmong women. Thaum nws niam mob2 nws siab twm zeej tsis kam los saib ib muag shows her character.
@@leelaiyah789 to some it may be true. But you also have to understand that alot of the reasons why behind it too. Hmong men's for generations have not treated their wife right. Majority have abused, mistreated, etc....the expected tge wife to accept everything and catered to them 100% no matter what. They cheated, they have multiple wive's. They don't do anything to help their wife. Be it household chores, the children, cooking, farming. All you hear and see is they sit around, eating, sleeping and shutting, aside from abusing their wife and children and cheating they absolutely are worthless. Few men actually stand and teamwork and provide and support and protect the wife and kid's. It is one thing to married a terrible man but when you have the monster in law too. That is a fukn nightmare and misery
@@leelaiyah789 i married outside of the Hmong culture. Doesn't matter what race. There are all types of men. It runs in all races. If you're lucky you'll have a lifetime partner that is 100% with you and united and help and support you. Both men and women are as equally good and bad. I speak my mind, I'm too dominant and picky about everything. I've grown up in the Hmong culture but I've also seen and watched and saw how the Hmong women work so much and they do way too much to catered to the husband and his family. They leave their parents home and into their husband home. They never have a moment of peace. Its catering to the husband and his family and relatives and than comes the babies, their jobs never done and no matter what its never enough for the husband or his family especially if you have a monster mother in law. Slaving your days away. I watched my cousins, friends and neighbors and sister that are married to Hmong menand I see how their lives and the struggles and abuse, mistreatment. See I couldn't put up with that. I'm not one to keep my mouth shut or hold it in. I will not stand there and let my husband or his family abused me be it verbally, mentally, emotionally much less physically. Hell no. If you're gonna raise your hand and strike me you better kill me otherwise it'll be 10x worse in return for you.
Nyob zoo os niam laug aw kv nyiam koj cov dab neeg heev os noog kj cov dab neeg txhua hnub xwb es kj kam hais ib zaj dab neeg rau kv thiaj os kuv tau tag sim neej lawm vjm yog ntshaw lub neej zoo es thiaj tuag rau txoj kev khwv nyiaj os kv tseem hluag xwb kv muaj 28 xyoo xwb es twb tau ua ntsuag lawm es yog ib neej ua rau kv tu sjab kawg li kvtus txiv es nim tuag tau ib xyoo lawm los kv tseem quaj txoj tav no li os niam laug aw kv yuav muab sau rau koj hais ib zaj rau kv os kv twb tau kj lub Facebook thiaj es ua cas ho hu tsj tau rau koj ne niam laug kv yog hmoob nyob laj os kv tus Facebook yog tus hu Tỷ Sông no
Tej niam tej txiv na yog ntxub meskas npaum li es ua cas ho tuaj meskas teb naw nej tsis nco qab meskas Lub txiaj ntsig peb cov tuaj xyoo 1977- 85 twb yog meskas tos peb xwb ne vim li cas nej ho yuav ntxub meskas ua luaj nco ntsoov yog meskas tsis tos peb es Leej twg yuav tos peb naw kuv tsis muaj tub ntxhais zoo nkauj es meskas thiaj tsis nyiam xwb kheev Lam kuv muaj tus lawv nyiam mas kuv zoo siab xwb!
Lady, please don't think you are better than your sister in laws because of your physical outlook. You had a pretty good story until the end talking bad about your fellow Hmong women and their bodies. You did not like to be shamed for marrying outside of your ethinic group so don't body shame them. Looks are fleeting so get a grip.
Mloog nej cov neej neeg nyb mekas ko tib co neej zoo2 muaj2 nyiaj xb tab sig pheej yv tsis tshua taug cov Laug li ne tsis yos hnov zaj no xb hnov ntau2 zaj lm o
Nco-ntsoov nawb. Yog nej yuav txwv tsis pub nej cov tub-ntxhais yuav Meskas ces nej txhob tuaj nyob Meskasteb nawb. Thiab nej txhob tso nej cov minyuam mus kawm-ntawv nrog Meskas thiab nawb. Es mus nyob nej lub Tebchaws HMOOB twjywm xwb.
Kuv xav nug peb cov Niam thiab Txiv Hmoob haistias. Yog nej tsis nyiam Asmeskas los tsis kam nej cov tub-ntxhais yuav Meskas es cas nej ho KHIAV tuaj nyob Tebchaws Meskas thiab tuaj noj lawv tej nyiaj xoom-qhob ua dabtsi thiab ma? Yogli nej kuj khiav mus nyob nej lub Tebchaws Hmoob, Peb uaneej no, cov nyob lub Tebchaws Nplog twb muaj tus yuav Nplog. Tus nyob lub Tebchaws Thaib twb txawj yuav Thaib. Tus nyob lub Tebchaws Suav twb txawj yuav Suav. Vim peb cov Hmoob twb tsis muaj Tebchaws. Peb haivneeg Hmoob es twb tsis muaj 1% ntawm lub Tebchaws ntawv nav. Ces kuj thammada ab ... peb yuavtsum muaj 1-2 tug yuav lwm Haivneeg lub Tebchaws ntawv thiab.
I really liked the story at first and felt sorry for her that her parents could not accept her path in life. Until towards the end with her talking cr*p about hmong women..!! WTF...she thinks she's better because she married a white guy...! What a horrible person.!
The reason Hmoob do not like their children to marry other race is beyond you people's understanding. Cov niag menyuam uas mus yuav lwm haivneeg ces zoo li tuag lawm xwb.
YOUR HUSBAND IS WRONG FOR MAKING COMMENTS ABOUT HIS DAD BEING YA'LLS SPONSOR AND YA'LL SHOULD BE GRATEFUL TO HIM. HIS DAD MADE THAT CHOICE. HE SHOULD NEVER BRING IT UP. USING THAT SPONSORSHIP LIKE YOUR DAD AND YOUR FAMILY OWES HIM YOUR LIVES. YOUR DAD OWES HIM NO EXPLANATION. IF HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND OUR HMONG CULTURE. HE SHOULD OF NEVER MARRIED YOU. IT'S GOOD THAT YOUR HUSBAND LOVES YOU. OTHER THAN THAT. YOU CHOSE YOUR LIFE AND ANOTHER RACE. DON'T LECTURE OR INSULT HMONG WOMEN ABOUT HOW THEY LOOK OR HOW THEY LIVE THE HMONG LIFE. YOU'VE NEVER BEEN IN THEIR SHOES SO KEEP IT TO YOURSELF.
Peb hmoob yog ib haiv neeg uas racist tshaj plaws li txawm nej tsis agree los rau kuv ces kuv pom li ntawd, my kids they can marry whoever and whichever race they want but one thing that person have to be a good person
tiam tshiab no yuav meka los meka yog yus vauv, yuav dub los dub yog yus vauv xwb thiaj haum tiam tshiab tam sim no tsis txhob txiav txwv cov tub ntxhais lub neej cia nyias xaiv nyias.
Why you are making fun of Hmong women at the end?? SMH.. this is where I lose respect and don’t care what you have to say. Hmong men are awesome. You can’t handle being a true Hmong woman and daughter.