I think Corey has a direct link to my thoughts lol. I’ve been dealing with no contact from my ex for 3 months now and this reaffirms someone valuing you. Long story short, we broke up and tried to work things out, and when she started flaking and no longer valuing me, I lost her number. If she ever wants to get in contact she knows my number. Never let anyone waste your time, you’re a fucking gift.
I’m in a similar situation bro. Except she deleted my number Because she was constantly tempted to get in touch with me. Idk if I should initiate our only way of contact even though she walked away from our relationship.
supreme action don’t do it, by walking away that should tell you everything you need to know. I promise you eventually with repetition you will meet someone even better.
My ex & I have been on no contact for a year now. In the past I would do stupid shit to get her attention after 3-6 months by liking her pics on Instagram or something relatively lame and desperate.. This last time I walked into it without the love goggles on & I learned so fuckin much about her that made me cringe. She made a comment that she KNEW I'd reach out because all of her ex's do because there's just something about her.. Eye roller. Fast forward about a month later she brings up the topic of not wanting to be in a relationship. I asked her, why are you telling me? Have I said anything about doing anything other than hanging out & hooking up? 😆 kinda of a dick move but she is so full of herself! We had plans to go out that weekend. What does she do? Canceled when I was omw to her house saying she forgot she'd made plan's with her coworkers. I knew that was bs bc she doesn't like her co workers 😆 but I think she expected me to get pissed off because I would have in the past. Instead of calling her out I replied with "okay cool." she called me 2 hrs later asking if I wanted to come over that night when she got back. I declined the offer bc that was her way of seeing how far she could control me. She was pissed that I turned her down that she began projecting like a wild woman. Asking me if I'm mad at her for "forgetting" she had plans etc. I told her I wasn't upset but I'd simply made other plans after she cancelled but we could get together at another time. I remained cool while she lost her shit 😆.. A few day's later she sends me a text telling me that she thinks we should just be friend's. I told her I wasn't interested in being her friend but she knows how to contact me if that changes her mind. She had blocked me on fb & Instagram which was fine but I didn't block her. For what, yanno? A couple weeks later I seen her at the store with her ex she had cheated on me with in the past. Fast forward to the beginning of March (a yr later) and guess who is blowing up my inbox? The self proclaimed "there's just something about me" ex 😆.. Honestly I'm no longer interested & at one point she had me by my nutsack.
@@aerohk I experienced that more than 20 times and the no contact worked about 18 times , but what can work better is to go seek other women, then and only then you can depend on her coming crying
Very true, but it’s hard sometimes when that girl was so interested in you at first, even being the one to chase. Then out the blue they go cold and pull away when you know you have done the majority of things right ..
Thanks man, couldn’t have put it better , exactly what I’ve been thinking and realise . It’s a mind fuck at first but you learn soon after it’s not you that is the problem , it’s them and will always be them.
4v3dt sane here man. Girl was super into me and lost interest. I hardly texted her & didn’t over pursue. I did show I was interested. I texted her yesterday but she was very short. Told her lmk when your free and we’ll catch up. I left it as that
trae1565897 that’s all you can do . I’m starting to think my ex was bipolar or had some sort of personality disorder . I wasn’t perfect by any means but not normal to be that hot and cold. Even Corey says that even if you follow his advice to a t if the girl is narcissistic or has a personality disorder it isn’t gona work on unhealthy people like that . Mine just come out of a 5 year relationship so maybe her emotions are all over the place . From the sounds of it you may be experiencing something similar ? Has she been single long ?
4v3dt she just got out of a divorce, I should of payed attention to that but truth is I didn’t. I was attracted. You’re right man. 5 years is a long time
If a woman doesn’t appreciate the time you give to her then she will definitely appreciate your absence. Never ever be friends with an EX. The only time that rule doesn’t apply is you have a child or children with her.
No contact is super hard when you’re new to it because our mind will tell us, if you don’t reach out, she’ll move on and won’t talk to you, she will forget you.. that’s just how life is best to reach out to her… any progress you make during no contact to create attraction in her eyes will go right out of the window and it’s starts over. Let HER come to you or else it’s useless.
No contact does work!!! Go and live life and you'll attract the right people into your life. So many girls out there. Trust me! Don't waste time on girls who ain't interested or playing with you. All about self respect! You will start learning and gaining more knowledge and it will prepare you for your next woman. These girls rejecting you are leading you to your future lover.
"A woman cares about what you make them feel", good advice for men, also for the ladies, if you don't care about how YOU make your men feel and start distancing whenever things aren't to your liking and see dumping a man as an upgrade, of course they're going to change from what they were at the beginning into people you aren't attracted to, and frankly future men in your life can smell it and will avoid anything serious with you. Healthy relationships are mutually supportive, don't demand understanding and catering for your feeling if you can't provide any for him in the relationship.
One thing guys can lose sight of is the woman likes you BECAUSE of how you are living your life. Once you start changing that to accommodate her, you kill the very thing that made her attracted to you in the first place.
That's true about movies. I just saw the movie "17 Again" (Zac Efron, Matt Perry) and I developed a strong feeling to pour out my feelings to a woman (like in the movie). Then I remembered what you said and stopped myself. Lesson: don't watch chick flicks.
Maybe I've just been blessed from birth, but I've never had to work that hard to get or maintain a romantic relationship with any of the women I have dated. For me, the reward was just never worth the effort. Maybe because of this mindset, women are drawn to me or something. I've always had a take it or leave it attitude. Life should be stress free and fun. Life is very short after all. If a women causes me stress or isn't fun, it's time to press the launch button. Another thing...I've dated some pretty good lookers over the years and the sex was NEVER as good as I thought it would be. Just because they are beautiful, it dosent mean the sex is going to be too. 9 times out of 10, it was disappointing. Dont place them on a pedastal...you are the prize.
Hi Corey. Long time follower here. I cannot ever see myself being held hostage to a woman's fluctuating feelings and emotions, ever. Yes, they are driven by their emotions but for many this is a huge flaw that always bites them in the ass. Most women use that behavior as an excuse to lash out, misbehave or pull away. Masculine men have a very low tolerance for that. The epidemic of single people will remain because of it.
Always get 3 others. Work on those three for a while then lightly show all the life you're living but dont show the girls. She will come back. Then she has to work for her spot back. You win 4 times
No woman no cry, if only bob Marley new about romantic relationships with cats. If he knew about that his best selling title would be called 3 little purrs. True, but at least a girlfriend doesn’t crap in a box.... or at least, most girls. My ex wife was a different story. I thought she was normal, but then one day she just goes in the box. So now I’m done finding wives on tinder. I should’ve swiped left. Ahhh beastiality, it is 2020 after all. Fires, covid, and beastialty. On a good note at least it’s with cats and not murder hornets. Your cat also licks its own junk, idk how much better you’re winning this bro. Why don’t you just find a women that owns cats? Best of both worlds. Or better yet, marry cat woman.
Finished your book this morning Coach Corey, I’ve always had natural talent w: Women, but you closed a few gaps for me. I’ll be reading 10-15 times, starting my second take this afternoon.
4 years ago, my ex of 3 months broke it off with me because I wasn't taking the relationship seriously. I acted super needy towards the end and told her I did in fact want everything with her. Cringe. She had even started dating someone else. Then I came across Corey Wayne and started NC. 4 months later she texts me "Hey sexy ;)" and I replied with "who's this?" because at that point I didn't care about her. So glad I found this info back then. Thanks Corey.
You really helped me understand how to be in my masculine. Thanks for everything. Listening to the 3% man for the 7th time through and can’t wait to get to #15 or even #20. I’m no longer worried while dating and really improving my way of life. Thanks, Coach!
I'm a female and I'm experiencing this exact same treatment from a male, so in my opinion this is not a female problem it's a HUMAN problem. I think this sort of treatment is dealt with by both sexes equally. Just like I think there are toxic men AND women out there.
@@datalaura1 No its gender especific, its about sexual polarity, forget about equality, if you try to aply the masculine stance to yourself you will atract a less masculine man and you will not feel atracted to him, the relatonship wont work for long or it wont make you feel fulfilled as a women.
Have you lived in today’s western culture? The dude is probably a woman dressed in men’s clothes. There is no similarities. Women are definitely different in this area check your masculinity or his femininity. Somethings off with you guys.
You know those relentless emails you get at work from someone trying to sell you something you don't necessarily want? "Hey, I haven't heard from you. Have you had a chance to read my previous email? What do you think? Please let me know when we can talk to discuss how I can help you." Do you honestly think that you'd ever buy anything from someone using that approach? If course not. That's what you sound like to a woman when you chase. She ain't buying what you're selling either.
Wow! ....nailed it....I'm middle age, and you just summarized what my problem was....I grew up in a horrible - abusive-neglected family, and when you said 'thats what feels normal' it was like being hit by lightning. Thank you
I got your book on audible 3 days ago. I have listened to it 3/15 times at work. All I can say is that I practiced the methods and tips you gave me on an ex that had just called it off with me 4 days ago. Had her in my bed this morning. GET THE BOOK AND START PRACTICING TODAY!
Love your work mate! I've been never been able to have any type of stable relationship or dating. Since I've started following you and read your book I have now had 2 long term relationship and still in one right now. Completely changed my life. I will never get walked over again. Wish I discovered it earlier ❤
Thank you so much for your guidance Corey. I recently ended things with my girlfriend because she seemd to be losing interest and I made some of the mistakes that were listed in your book. Flowers, always changing my schedule for her and making her a priority. She began to take me for granted. I told her I need a break to figure things out and straighten out my priorities. I had changed certain things about me for her. In essence, I was no longer the person she fell in love with. It's been almost a week of no contact. We'll see what happens over the next month. Thanks again. Currently listening to you 3% audiobook.
Wish I had learned more as a younger guy. I’m the type that has been to nice, not assertive enough, and basically weak towards women. I’m neither weak nor non-assertive in my professional life (construction/ crane operator). However, I seem to repetitively fail at locking a partner down. Essentially I have failed at making them want me for the man I am through being weak/ ignorant by not understanding what they really want in a partner. I’ve just started your book but I know it’s already helping me as an individual in my own self development. Thank you for what you do. It’s helping more than you can possibly imagine.
Took my ex out for her birthday dinner. Everything is going fine and her phone starts to ring with a pictures of the guy she cheating on me behind my back pops up on her phone. I got up and walked out. Left her sitting at dinner by herself
I've been wrestling with this for quite some time and i just now realized that they do not care about me, but feign interest enough to keep me around for whatever reason even though they have a BF. This is good stuff.
2:20 - 3:00 This qoute was important for me to hear today because I remembered all the good times I had with this girl I once dated. The qoute made me realise again how much she mistreated me and it has been around a month now since I deleted her on Facebook. Of course I still think about her because she was the first one I loved, but it is also the exactly reason why I let her go, because I wish her the best and the best weren't around me anymore since her ex bf came back. I feel great again, thanks Coach.
A girl I hooked up with 3 years ago multiple times just contacted me today. In 3 years I've gone through a serious 2 year relationship and breakup. I told the girl that I'd contact her if things didn't work out with my relationship as she's long distance and couldn't take her serious enough. I reached out to her last month she told me to never contact her again so I was like okay. While I was doing paperwork she reached out to me in No Contact like 20 minutes ago. So yeah re-attraction works in space if you do things properly. As for my ex I messed that up big time being needy lol. Funny how you don't care about one girl and she comes back and care for another and she flees.
The no contact rule works but it's just one aspect. It doesn't fix the tendency to be needy and overly compliant. Sometimes, people need to work things out on their own and really reflect on why they have the neediness impulse
Yep I've never read your book. But have all the same views. I had a problem 3 months in. And I thought we would break up. So I accepted it after that day. And I just cut off all text messages, calls, asking to hangout... I know I can get another woman. But the next day. She texted me she misses our text messages and didn't like the distance. So we talked and worked it out. Been together almost a year. And see myself marrying her
On my 4th read of the book. Ever since reading this book I got so much better with women. Admittedly I did mess up with this woman a few weeks ago because I lacked self control and got angry. This woman even told me that I was handsome so I knew what I did wrong. Now I basically immediately went about my life and moved on. Focusing on myself first and talking to other women for fun and enjoyment. Nothing serious because I really need to establish my life first as a man. Thanks Coach Corey Wayne for the help and I will continue to read your book 20 times or so. Because it is a great read. Helps every man reading become better. I like what you said Corey about societal conditioning, I believe it is a load of crap as well because us men need to act more masculine and manly.
great one man. been watching you since Nov. you are great, used your tactics and advice... they work. *go figure. me: Im a 51 yr old man living in Russia own a restaurant, got a 21 yr old who adores me.. *after i put your mind meld on her ))) she was allusive she was trying to friend zone me, I wouldn't have it, did all you said.. amazing,thanks Corey.. you da man
Corey has said this and you must adopt this and live it. Do not make time for someone who does not want you in your life. If she really wanted you she would contact you. Do not chase. Pull up your big boy pants and be strong. If she wants you she WILL contact you but don't tolerate bullshit bad behavior.
Be more specific in your offer. Let’s go on a date is too vague. In your offer include the activity, place, and time. 1. Dinner at Javiers this Friday at 7 2. Crepes and wine at X cafe Sunday at 8 Etc
In America making dates always sounds so hi brow and exotic, all trendy food “let’s connect over Japanese on 9th at 3”. Here in Lincolnshire England it would be “3pm for a bacon Butty and a tea at Smithies?”😂
Lmao im always so amazed how Coach is giggling and smiling all the time.I cant help it but smile ..it cheers me up.This dude knows how women function :D
I did the no contact rule for 2 yrs. My ex from 10yts ago just left my house leaving saying I wanna b with ..lol no contact works as long as u upgrade yourself
Man I need to read your book a few more times. You are so right about reading it more than once. I need your wisdom permanently! I need to learn to walk away dang it!
I would suggest that it is not a book just for men. All people should explore what creates an internal passion that serves them well. I can say this because I am a woman who has read the book eleven times and bought it for my son. I would say that CCW has simplified the pursuing your goals "game" of life. CCW communicates what has driven my life in a way that is relatable for the open minded masses ( in my opinion).
I feel like this weekly flow of video training discussions is training my subconscious... my X-girlfriend told me she wanted to be friends 6 months, I said no thanks and deleted her number and moved on and didn't contact her once, I get a message a week ago saying she can't stop thinking about me and tried to get me to meet her out on a date to a comedy show but I said no, she needs to come to mine first and at least 3 times to make it up to me, I'll probably see her this Saturday but if I don't that's her loss, I'm not going anywhere she'll need to come to me, fuck being friendzoned I'm not happy about that total pisstake lol these women try and walk all over you if you let them
Good man. She'll be back. Once they reach out, they're in a position of weakness. The fact that you said no to her is actually making her more attracted to you. This won't be the last you hear from her.
Ok so she's comes round last night after me making it clear I'm not interested in friendship, we spend a few hours at mine etc and then at the end of the evening she's then trying to get me to agree to friends only again lol.. I said no thanks but if you change your mind then contact me.. what a waste of my time that was
Did you discuss the past? Did you try to make a move? I hope it was a no and a yes to those. This is a new interaction, it’s not your last one. It’s not your past. You shouldn’t talk about the past or feelings. Just hang out and bone. Then YOU kick her out. You set the limit. You have to work and she has to go. You create the space. I think there is a misconception about how things are supposed to go. We often fall back right into the place we were when they left. This person left. They are LUCKY you even responded. Treat them like a random that you’re really not interested in but is all over you. Is this how you treated her?? If not, this is where you went wrong that night. Either way. You said no. Just sit back. She’ll be back around. We don’t like to hear no. It’s a turn on. It activates the chase instinct in humans. Give it a few days.
Hello happiness is all what we need I’ll love to recommend you to someone that helped me get my ex back and he can also help you just as he did mine too
I’m implementing the no contact rule at the moment it’s been 2 weeks……..my schedule is so busy……Fuck You lol….love it, so true. Corey your a Top Guy, so glad I found your channel…I’m already halfway through reading your book a second time and plan to read it 10 to 15 times like you say….my mindset has already changed…and I now realise all the fuck ups that I’ve made. I really appreciate all your advice, Kind Regards Chris….London Uk.
When you are friendzoned you are not actually friends. If you decided to accept it and become friends you will have a hard time getting her to meet you in person for any activity even if it is friendly stuff like lunch. It just means standby mode in case she gets bored at home.
Omg!!! This happened to me!!! She wanted to be best friends and i accepted. We talked for 8 months got sexual a few times watched her stories alot and validated her We called each other Baby daddy/Baby momma. But everytime i suggest we meet she kept saying " I'll let you know" " Eventually we will" smh. And we used to have alot of late night conversations. Till one day, BOOM! She went cold and push me away. Im now 4 Months in no contact. I no longer watcher stories either.
@@TheFeezy777 Every guy goes through this. In a sense though you are lucky because you got sexual. A lot of guys talk for ages, go for lunch etc with a girl (and pay) and then as soon as they advance things... boom.... friendzone! - they don't even get a kiss. What I believe happened in your situation is that you were going great but then you let her know you were more interested in her than she was in you (viewing stories, texting her first with goodnight good morning etc will do this). This caused her to back away. If this happens and you keep pushing then the distance widens.
@@ceasarsalad119 Yes your exactly right. I was texting her goodmorning, but i only text/call her once a week to keep from being needy. She always reciprocated my text and calls though. She comment on my story on my birthday the same day she texted me back when i told her she was being disrespectful ignoring my calls/text. And i told her i enjoyed and cherished our bond and connection we had and i dont mind giving her space but too much of it and we'll end up falling off. She didnt reply since. I know she talking to someone else but i been in no contact since she ignored my call on Sept 14. I stopped watching all her stories since. I used to see her post pretty selfies but now she stopped and went silent on snapchat. Havent seen her post in 2 months. I think i broke her ego because she use to post ALOT back when i was validating her.
@@TheFeezy777 if she communicates with you first its okay but if you do it first then its a blemish against your name regardless of whether she reciprocates well - Oh boy it took a while for me to get my head around this one! When I say blemish what I mean is that its one more thing that subcommunicates to her that she can always have your attention when she desires it which takes away all mystery. Think of a cat with a stringed toy. You hold it above their heads and they'll jump for hours just to grab the thing. If you then just give it to them they'll walk away. Point number 2 is NEVER let her know that you're bothered about her not texting back as the simple act of doing so comes across as needy in itself. It tells her you like her more than she likes you and that you wait around for that all important reply that will validate YOUR feelings. It says that you must not have enough going on in your life & have no other romantic options if you're bothered about receiving a reply from one specific girl. If you were truly desirable you'll have a choice of many girls. If you give off vibes that you dont she will question her own interest. (This guy clearly has no other options so he can't be that good catch - why am I bothering then? - I can surely do better.). I've made all of these mistakes!!
@@ceasarsalad119 well its been over 4 months since i reached out to her. So im resetting everything in her mind that she thought about me. She thought i was needy and emotional? Well thats over now. Not anymore. This distance should be long enough to let her know that i could be talking to other women.(which i really am). I stopped simping over her and watching her stories and everything. Not one single attention i gave to her. At this point, she should be feeling some type of way that i went this long. Shes gotta be wondering " what could he be up to?" Because if she comes back, im ready to set my boundaries, fuckk her guts and lights out and i WILL make her work for my attention. I wont make it easy for her. She needs to know im a new man and im stronger now. I ain't playing around with her.
My ex was doing exactly this with IG. Sending me memes and Husky videos, (cause she knows I love Huskies), and I would just thumbs up them or laugh at them. Eventually she sent me a "How are you doing; what have you been up to?" However, I live in NC and she lives in MO, (both of our home towns). So the whole "Invite her over for a date most likely isnt gonna work." "Hey, why dont you hop on a plane and come on over for dinner." lol FML man...
Believe it or not, I've had about five women use prior rape as a reason they're not ready for relationships. Then they find someone while they claimed this. It's pretty messed up. I'd never think that they would use being raped as an excuse since it's such a realistic excuse to me. It triggers a deep desire to care and protect them.
Oh man, "The Unicorn Rules". That's what I needed this past year. I've had 3- Count 'em THREE!! AND I BLEW ALL 3 IN A ROWE!!! LOL. Seriously bro, come hang out with me and just trip over all the F***ing Unicorn corpses I ruined any chances of being with. I just wish I could see myself from their perspective, in what they saw in me in the first place, so I could continue that. But yeah, I probably got nicer. Great stuff. I've been single a year and a half, in my mid 40s, after a 20 year marriage. Ya. NOt FAir for me to come across so many magical beasts before I'm ready. Gosh!!
The Psychology of this video is really cool to understand. Do you have any videos of a woman psychology that has to do with dysfunctional behavior? The opposite of what this video is about? Anyways great video
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5:15 Don’t women’s interest levels naturally fluctuate independent of your behavior? I’ve not been chasing at all, she became distant & then proceeded to tell me that she “can’t be in a relationship right now” & “doesn’t feel anything”. Her interest was very high the first four months. My behavior hasn’t changed, and if anything, I’ve given here even MORE space.
At first walking away is hard next to impossible but after sometimes you feels like alpha "the 3% men".. it's fun experience.. turn pain into pleasure..✌️
Walking away from someone I fell in love with for the first time ever in my life was the hardest thing for me. This happened in december and I am 23. I was so crushed to where I thought I couldn't live on anymore, but luckily for me I got a job after a month which has helped me tremendously to overcome any more of the bad thoughts and now I do feel a lot greater, but still have far to go since I still have a bit feelings for her left.
JustAGuy good man! Keep positive . Had a similar situation with a girl . First time in years and years I’d fallen for someone .. It’s tough . Especially when things were so good . Sometimes doesn’t make sense . I’ve had moments where I couldn’t sleep . First time in my life I’ve been like this . I’m 32 and thought I had my shit together! I’m getting there now though! You’ve done well moving on , remember your job and purpose comes first so keep on putting your focus into that .
JustAGuy Read this dude's book how to be 3% men. 10 to 15 times the one we want to hold on for long we usual lost them by our behaviours. Love in such a way that the person you love feels free.
@@rrrrrrraaaa9 I have read the book once and listened to his audiobook around 16 times now and I know where I messed up too. It is hard because i've been dating 3 others since, but no one was like her and I didn't had any success with the girls I dated. It was because of an ex bf that she went cold on me so nothing I could do other than searching for my rainbow unicorn again since we weren't meant to be.
@@damien4v3 Thanks man. Like you I couldn't sleep well too because she was stuck in my brain 24/7, but It is how it is when an ex bf comes back to her. I've always forgiven her even when she drained me emotionally, but like you said and after I have read and listening to Corey's audiobook a lot of times I know I have to move on and focus with my purpose in life. Thanks for sharing your comment too :)
Girlfriend canned me a few weeks ago. Sent a message out to my sister stating their relationship hasn’t changed but everything has between her and I. Said she wanted me to give me space to heal so I can figure out what makes me happy...wtf she is the one that broke up with me.
If she broke up with you or you broke up with her : the relationship has ended, Why can’t you just move on? You have ZERO idea what she’s been doing after the breakup it’s better not to even find out. Leave her in the past where she belongs!
hi corey, i would really like to know your opinion on hypergamy as it is stated in "the rational male". cause if it's true, i really lost my last hope in women. i value your opinion higher as someones like tomasi
I don't care who disagrees, hypergamy definitely exists. If you suddenly got 1 billion dollars, what would your first thought be? I guarantee it would be something like "I finna fuck a whole lot of bitches". We all have seen example of hypergamy in our lives, girls going for top performing athletes in school and so on. Even if it's not materialistic stuff hypergamy is still active, no contact is basically taking advantage of her loving strength. Showing you don't need her or will chase her satisfies part of the hypergamy, due to it showing your strength/power over her.
