Reacting To "How Girls REALLY Want You To Talk To Them" By Far From Average 

Аfter my first date with a one girl I asked her "do you want to go out again?" instead she corrected me that it was better to hear from me "hey I want to see you again". Then I understood the power of direct comunication.

Loved your commentary at the end. Masculine and feminine energy should work together in harmony. I think because men and women don’t embrace those energies is partially why our modern society is so screwed up.

Alpha males in 1021: "I'll take your lands, cattle and women whether you like it or not." Alpha males in 2021: "I'll take the Chicken Alfredo whether you like it or not!"

Courtney does such a good job of reacting and commenting on what guys say about women. She is not defensive, just a honest and helpful reaction and response to things. Courtney for President!

I had issues, in past relationships, of not being very direct, on top of being indecisive. It wasn't until conversations I had with an ex girlfriend's friend telling me why her friend was no longer interested in me that I had to change my behavior. Part of it was I lacked confidence. It wasn't until I started putting myself in leadership roles and taking the initiative in my life that things begin to change. One experience was when my Karate instructor asked me to help teach some of the classes since I was an advance student. That's when I gained my confidence in the ability to make decisions and be more direct. It took a long time but I eventually became more confident.

You brought up a major point that many men see "Feminine Energy" as weak. If people acknowledge that there is power in both, and one is not "stronger" than the other, there will be more tolerance between the genders. There are pros and cons to everything - a common issue for "Feminine Energy" it may be decisiveness, for "Masculine Energy" it might be aggressiveness - but there are so many men who are indecisive as well. If we approach people understanding to "balance" the social dynamic (regardless of gender) and not control it, we might just become more attractive humans overall.

Hearing you speak is like a breath of fresh air. I'd also add that confidence is built through competence. If you work on your fitness you'll be more confident because you know you can protect her, if you focus on your intellect and reading you'll be more confident because you know what you're talking about. Work on your growth gentlemen 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

Courtney you savage 😎😎😎💪🏽 I talked to them like they my bro’s lol throws them off guard and makes them laugh 🤣🤣🤣

"A good woman wants a life partner..." Girls, most of them, anyway, are not "good". Regarding "life partners". It's not really profitable.

Those '1 second looks' to the camera by Courtney like wtf is happening got me everytime.

hit the nail on the head! AS ALWAYS. YOU ABSOLUTE GODDESS!

Check out Alexander grace's video "Never date a woman below this line". He provides an interesting perspective on dependence in relationships. You will definitely provide a unique feminine perspective to the topic which is much needed.

Ah yes- I've lately drifted away from Far From Average. Despite nice pictures and a voice-over that talks as if it's expert, I find the advice very hit and miss. My own comment from a year ago on the video in question was "I'd be wary about expecting this dominance act to work on guys in the same way. I've had some try to use it on me and it pisses me off, my first thought being: 'Who the heck put you in charge?'" And its most popular comment of all rubbished it thusly: Balys goes up to his crush trying to act cool and all Crush: -What's up? Me: - YES, I'LL TAKE THE CHICKEN ALFREDO 8.2K likes

The part about how your server isn't flirting with you, "she's just doing her job", I feel like majority of the time that's not true, they are flirting, but not because they are interested in you, but they are interested in making money and that's the way it has been for a while, I've even seen some employers telling them to be more interactive with the clients to try to obtain better tips

Thank you so much for your videos Courtney You’re helping a very shy guy understanding more women’s mentality

5:40 Thats Zeus nota Thor

Yes, definitely! Seeing and hearing about YOUR personal interpretation and understanding of "masculine" and "feminine" energies, and the differences (and even any similarities) that you believe they have between them, would definitely be a VERY interesting video, IMHO!... And I wouldn't ask that opinion or interpretation from every or just any "average" or "typical" woman, (if there even is such a thing as that), because most women do not really seem to know or understand those differences, but YOU Courtney, seem to be one of a relatively small percentage of women who actually DO have a decent grasp of the male/female dynamic, kind of like Alexander Grace does as a guy; very balanced, multilevel, and multidimensional overall, like you can see it from all different angles, and not be too biased in one way or another... So since YOU have such a good head on your shoulders, with a very good, comprehensively understanding, and truly knowledgeable mind, then I think YOUR personal take on those differences would be a quite beneficial thing for us all to see!... I look forward to watching and listening to you in that video if you ever DO decide to do it!... Keep up your great work, it's always very informative and even inspiring! :)

I was in a conversation with a younger woman and she was complaining about a guy who kept asking her out. She wasn't interested in him and wished he would stop. Me: Have you said, "no"? Her: What do you mean? Me: Well, if you give him an excuse without saying no like, "Sorry, I can't. I already have plans.", you make it sound like you would go out with him except for that problem. He thinks he needs to keep asking. Most guys eventually get the message and move on, but some of them don't. Her: So I have to say, "No"? Me: You can soften it with more words, but you have to make it clear that you are saying "Never" instead of "Not now". Her: (thinking quietly) Me: So, how about dinner and a movie next Friday? Her: I have to work. Me: SAY "NO". I was testing you. I'm clearly not in your dating pool...there is no reason that you would ever say yes to a date with me...and you just encouraged me to ask again.

Yay, reaction vids are my personal fave!! ☺️ I’ve come across a lot of videos like the one you’re reacting to and it’s really hard with dating to give general advice on some things because everyone’s looking for something different, but you do a great job

I agree 100% about masculine & femanine energy. a lot of modern people have the opinion that feminine = weak & masculine = toxic. Which is ridiculous, there's a lot of strength in femaninity, in a group of people, a very femanine women can often be the MOST powerfull & influential person in the room. And of course there's nothing toxic about masculinity. I think society needs both the masculine & femanine and a lack of either will lead to issues.

That's funny, if my lady tells me "she's cold" I act jokingly dismissive. "Oh that sucks, I'm pretty good in my jacket.". Make her ask for what she wants. But this isn't advice, I am probably an a$$hole more than not.

I remember watching that channel's videos. That channel grew so fast. I can tell the author of those videos know what they are talking about. Good video share! 👍

In general, it seems obvious Courtney, that women are attracted to real men, direct and with confidence. A woman will always communicate her limits. A future video on this topic is a great idea. You mention female power which needs to be elaborated. For example, I find that women's hair is very powerful. It is sometimes the first thing that I notice; also her eyes and if she has a smile. But being a women, I'd love to know more. I would say that men in life have a form of male power and can ask a woman for anything and the woman will communicate her limits, perhaps by a "no" or a "yes". I see men as being decisive but women have the power of pace.

As a girl, I have something to say: I wouldn't like it at all if a guy told me "I want you to go to the dance with me" instead of "Will you go to the dance with me, please?" Because I think you actually have to ask me directly and not indirectly for my consent To me the "I want you to go to the dance with me" sounds like I have no choice but to do what you want and kind of rude because there is no "please" or something that shows me that you're being polite and respectful to me So, for sure, even if I planned to actually ask you if you want to go to the dance with me but you did it first and with a "I want you to go to the dance with me", I would clearly tell him "I won't and that's not a way to ask someone if they want to do something" because I see that as a red flag Like "Does he think my consent is given(not sure if we can say it that way, for my french-speaking people I wanted to say "que mon consentement est acquis")?

So... I've noticed over time I am a huge fan of saying what would normally be mundane things in an interesting way. I never know exactly how I'm going to word something but I can guess. For the dinner example I could see myself saying "You know I'm going to be honest miss waitress there's something about this chicken that's seems like it's calling me so I'll go with that." As I pretty much always say it's a vibe. I'm never thinking about being attractive but I do push my energy outward into the environment and into people in a non invasive way. When I'm listening to someone I'm absorbing that person and the environment in my peripheral. As you speak, don't be absorbing the environment and people, that's your time to literally be pushing energy out. You see people force this, you have to find that wavelength that's both natural and cool but also in radiation. The same for listening. Listening and speaking are two totally different gears. When you listen you shouldn't be pushing energy out or people won't feel heard. Cheers.

So how would you ask someone out to coffee in a masculine way?

I find your fair and honest messages refreshing. I hope you become famous, and change the narrative to how we work together, rather than why we are so far apart.

Indirect communication may be more powerful than direct communication, that's why it is smartly used in smart advertising. This is because what is created indirectly in the mind of a listener is playing with the mind and word/phrase senses and enters easily into other parts of the brain

Indirect communication is not only annoying but it’s extremely dishonest. Lying to spare someone’s feelings is passively cruel. That person will never know what to change about themselves.

I love your comment that being feminine is powerful. Hoping that inspires other women. The most powerful force in the world is beauty and a woman epitomizes that. Great video!

For me especially I find this sort of thing really confusing because I have a couple of intellectual disabilities Asperger syndrome and a little bit of ADHD, I love your channel Courtney it’s important that guys can hear an honest perspective and the reality of how it is coming from a female when I’m use to hearing about the reality with women coming from men on RU-vid, btw I’m a viewer from Australia. 🇦🇺

My advice: Be confident, feel free, live joyfully, send out positive energy at all times, and let things flow. What will be, will be!

1:24 the look you gave with the handcuffs was funny. Haha

More likely Courtney she's says 'you're cute but..' I'm not interested RIGHT NOW. To dig deeper, she's leaving options open. If she was not interested at all, she's say something like 'I have a boyfriend' or 'I'm not interested'. But if actually says 'you're cute' she's leaving the door open for another time.

The fact he refers to women as girls is a solid hint he spends a lot of time alone.

With nearly 20 years in the military I’ve had to be really direct a lot because it’s my job. But I think where my ex-wife and ex-girlfriends got confused was: when I get home I don’t wanna have to be so direct, in the same way that I don’t wanna have to keep wearing the uniform and doing work stuff. Because I’m at home. I’m not saying when I get home I turn into a total wimp and go to the opposite extreme but hopefully there’s a girl out there somewhere who can understand that it can be a task/chore to always be really direct, especially if she almost never is and usually makes you bear the burden of things. Sometimes ya just want to chill and not end up doing every little thing that she passively, indirectly insinuates she wants you to do.

Courtney, I am 54 years old. I'm a subscriber to your channel and trying to learn from your videos. Thank you for what you do. I've been divorced for 20 years and out of dating game for all that time. For my own personal reasons, but now trying for the last year to get back into it. I'm trying to learn from your videos and have had a few success first dates with women my age. But between getting ghosted and flaked on.. never had a 2nd date. I have a decent job, it pays the bills. I'm not rich but happy enough with my life. I think I'm approachable and decent looking man even though I'm balding. I've been doing online dating for a year because I don't know how else to meet anyone. It's not going to happen at the grocery store or church. I'm out there trying and I really believe I have a good heart and character. It still seems that women that are still attracted to rich, bad guy types even at my age of 54. I'm not going to be 70 and then finally accept a wrinkled and used up old woman I do appreciate your videos and thank you for sharing them.

Just wanted to say your voice is so soothing..Just like a really good wing girl when needed.. like your content and style.👌🙂

This video is a case in point for why you can't really get advice from a woman about relationships. This guy was spot on in his video depiction. This lady is about as feminine and level-headed woman as there is. And it seemed like even she was pushing back a little. As long as you are respectful to women when you're doing it you are good to go. But as countless people have pointed out whether or not she finds it respectful maybe completely dependent on how attractive she finds you to be. The modern woman is an expert at painting herself as a victim because in today's culture it gives her all the power and leverage. Pay careful attention to your relationship if you find yourself constantly apologizing even though you are a decent person she is pulling this manipulation tactic

Direct with polite ❤️❤️❤️well said

Guys let me tell you some bonus. Ive always been direct but some times the moment, the opportunities requires a little bit less of confidence or "welcome conflict". Example: I m machine worker (extruder) so this job is not perfect for direct attitude. Masculine = daily routines and life at all, job comfort, self pleasure for career or character you must be a man and proud of yourself as a person and what youve done and what you will in future. Everything in combination with selfcomfort is best result.

I've always wondered how a woman would respond to something like this: "Hey, I find you very attractive, but I don't know you at all, what's something you think I should do to get to know you?" Very direct, but leaves her a question to pivot on. I'm married so I'm not going to find out at this point, but it's still an interesting thought.

I appreciate your sweet demeanor, and brilliant level of sensitivity. Its so refreshing!!!

Courtney its cloudy here in New York but you just made my day sunny thanks for changing the weather! ;)

Yes on Masculine / Feminine Energy Video.

I have never walked up to a woman in a bar and said. Would you like to dance. I would say lets go dance. And it normally worked out. I was not asking

0:39 I'm... I'm at a lost for words. WHAT A FOOL IVE BEEN!!!

Interesting observation: Courtney frequently refers to herself as a “girl” despite the fact that she is an intelligent, articulate, successful young woman. Females who appear in forums such as Fresh and Fit and Kevin Samuels frequently get offended by being called a girl, and demand that you call them a woman. Courtney is truly the real woman in these examples because she still values being a girl as well. Courtney’s power comes from her femininity where as those other girls try to pretend power through their feminism.

A video on masculine and feminine energies? Absolutely will watch that.

Yes please make a video about masculine and feminine energy

Now I am going to talk about the "Warrior" aspect of the narration, I say this as a 30 plus years practitioner of the Martial Arts the man completely misinterpreted the warrior mindset. Keeping the Warrior mindset going 24/7 365 days a year is exhausting, The Warrior mindset is about balance and being what is needed in the moment.

I can say as a woman, I’ve been direct without being mean with men who wanted to talk online and they called me a b***h when I told them no. I don’t even want to know what would happen if it was in person. This is why women aren’t direct.

Thank you so much for this video. I can definitely say I have been very guilty of this indecisive speaking and just asking for permission all the time and yes, women do respond better to a decisive man. As a mature man I can be decisive and say what to do or plan without ever disrespecting a woman or making her feel less, if you can tell she doesn't like the plan then you can still decisively ask her what she wants to do instead. Staying classy is just a mature thing that both genders should always strive for

Promise a lot of modern women can't take direct communication. It's not what you say. It's how you say it has become cliche with how prevalent it is

I think the key here is to recognize the difference between a female dating coach's personal experience and the actual audience of people who watch her videos. A female dating coach is attractive (if she wasn't, you wouldn't be watching her videos), and thus is used to being approached by guys who are already attractive. She probably has lots of memories of feeling unsafe, objectified, or creeped out by sleazy/weird guys. So her advice will be subconsciously targeted towards attractive but sleazy/weird guys. She wants them to be more respectful, more wholesome, more emotionally intelligent - all incredibly valuable and necessary traits, but probably not what the average guy who watches her videos needs right now. However, the takeaway from this is not "She's lying to you and you should give up on dating women because they're all liars." She's actually telling the truth - just from her own perspective, not yours. The truth is that if you want to date a woman like her, you must BECOME an attractive man, a man to whom her advice WOULD apply. Becoming an attractive man is not impossible, but it is incredibly difficult, and requires a TON of effort (and some luck) over a long period of time, during which results will seem few and far between. Indeed, it is far easier to simply 'give up' and accept that it's impossible than to put the nose to the grindstone and actually do it. I think this is why redpill and MGTOW have become so popular - it's a way to find a community that accepts you for who you are and doesn't ask you to change. I don't think this is a problem at all - I think it's actually a great mentality for men to have, to be able to live and enjoy life without the need to find a partner. But what is problematic is when the mentality discourages men who actually do want to put in the effort, who do want to improve themselves and become attractive to women.

I am 56, but this video triggered me to think about my high school days when I was 17,and asked a girl out for the first time. It was a Halloween dance, I went as the Wolf Man, and She was Tweety Pie. Ah, man those were indeed Happy Days.

"Women are not fish!". If you fail to comprehend analogies, how are you going to comprehend men?

Yeah, do a video about that fish saying please as it doesn't apply to most girls.

I think direct and indirect communication are neither attractive or unattractive. It's the reasons why one uses it. It's just unattractive when a guy is afraid to be himself or be vulnerable so he hides behind his words, obfuscating things. It's also unattractive when a guy has so little respect for others or is so insecure he must always make demands and statements like a child. There's nothing inherently unattractive about asking for chicken alfredo vs demanding it lol

Yeah we're supposed to speak directly and powerfully when women speak in directly

Courtney: I agree with you in the restaurants!

Love theses series of videos you got to keep posting 😎💯

Courtney: the older I get the more women hit on me! One thing that women like about me is they I take of my body. Women generally say that even though I don't bring up that. When I go to the gym and go to the jacuzzi, women just come up to me to talk, even if they with their husbands or boyfriends.

Feminine energy from a female IS powerful! Just as masculine energy from a male is powerful. When your energy is synchronized with your gender, you project that power and authority. Think John Wayne and Marylin Monroe.

Yup working on my indirect language to be more direct and reducing my feminine qualities! Yes i do agree my feminine qualities keep my nails and balls clean. lmao I will unleash more of my masculine power.

My favorite part about these review videos are the apprehensive gestures she makes whenever she’s hesitant about what’s coming next or sure something silly is around the corner. - The Jim glance into the camera (at us) - The occasional squinting for more than a few seconds - Usually a grimace or wince any time something really off-putting or incorrect is stated It’s like the most reserved form of attitude and response without being over the top. Funny, but not canned or ridiculous. This might be one of the few times I can think of someone balancing humor with genuine advice and educational value.

Please talk about eyewear styles

So be good dominant, not bad dominant. Lmao! To be honest I think it is simply the way she interrupts it. How she emotionally feels will determine the result.

I watched the video she's referring to right before RU-vid showed me hers, lol. As I'm listening to some of the things she's saying, I'm getting mixed messages. But I can see why her video has more views. My thought is that any time a woman tells you to be anything other than who you are- she's not as attracted to you as you think. How are young men supposed to know how and when to "be dominant in a good way... and still be respectful" lol, This is RU-vid entertainment. Dominant: most important, powerful, or influential. Doesn't say be the overly nice sappy guy she didn't give her number to or DM. (No, don't be rude or disrespectful. Only be vulgar if it turns her on in the bedroom)

The far from average channel actually tries to break things down from a psychological perspective instead of the superficial red pill stuff we often see on RU-vid.

I think this is just sound advice in general. Be assure of yourself and assertive. Cultivate virtue for virtue's sake, and your attraction to others will follow.

Yes. Please define a good women…

Courtney can you make a video to help us men choose the appropriate gifts for special occasions?

Outstanding content, and also doesn't want to take your money, with some BS "This [technique/phrase/approach] she CANNOT RESIST. To my mind, that makes Courtney even more of an authority.

Have you ever considered doing a reaction video to Better Bachelor?

From what I’ve seen a lot of (Edit: insecure) men seem to think the aggression and ultra dominance makes up for the lack of confidence. It doesn’t...it just makes me far less likely to respect them or even want to speak to them.

8:00 Girls shouldn't really have a say in this if you can't even ask for a jacket , you can't even imagine how hard it is to ask a girl for sex or what some girls say "don't ask be aggressive" I mean its just a trip to jail if she's not feeling it at the moment no biggie.

Attraction is not a Choice , neither is Nature

Hahahaha the chicken alfredo part was funny

Men: What do you want for dinner? Literally every woman alive: I don't want to pick, but I also don't want whatever you pick.

I like the cold reference. It is multi layered because a woman is often "opening the door" to having the man take action (offering coat or lowering the AC) to demonstrate care for them. And...when chicken alfredo isn't chicken alfredo. 😂

98% of women don't want strange men talking to them

Confidence is very important. Here is a good example: How many people would have invested in SpaceX if Elon Musk had said "Let's start a rocket company but we will probably crash a few rockets and almost go bankrupt before we might become profitable"

Have a wonderful Memorial Day weekend Courtney! 🇺🇸

I want Courtney's facial expression emojis Hahahaha!!

I don’t have a struggle talking to girls, I just lack chemistry to feel a loving interest.

Have you read the "the way of the superior man" by David Deida?

And most importantly, don't be ugly 😂😂

Women have a choice of who they want to date. A fish has no say in what catches them. A women can either accept your offer or reject you. A fish can't. Only you decide if you want to let the fish go or not. The ask a fish to fish thing is from the red pill community.

2:20 I think that the indirect communication girls use, is something more like this - Her: "Do you still have that $50 voucher to that Japanese Restaurant we visited the other time?" Me: *hands over the voucher* Her: "Why are you giving me this? You're being random." Me: "Didn't you ask me for this?" Her: "Does that mean you did not understand what I meant?" Me: ??? Her: "I know you are busy and all, but I'm busy too!" *insert nagging here* Eventually, I found out that she just wanted to go to that restaurant for dinner that night.

At last! A woman who understands femininity in a correct way..

It's always nice to hear from you 😊 great work 💯 would wait for the next upload ❤️

Very well said in the end about woman's power!

That restaurant example hit me out of left field. Like, what?! Lol

“I want, I want, I want”. What four letter word describes what men want from a relationship? “Love”. What four letter word describes what women want from a relationship? “More”.

Can you make a video for woman also how to talk to a man and how to text to a man? And what to say to a man and what man like?

Isn't Indrirect Communication a Form of Sarcasm?

(Late comment but, whatever...) Growing up, especially in high school, I would observe other men being very confident with women, but because I thought of these men as being complete douchebags that ONLY wanted to get in the girl's pants, I began to EQUATE confidence with exclusively that goal (think of Joey's (FRIENDS) style of flirting) - a womanizer. I absolutely resent the concept of sleeping around (and any sex prior to marriage, in fact). It might be true that (such as for Joey) SOME men use confidence and assertiveness with women with the sole purpose of sleeping with them, but not every guy. This was my error. As a conservative sweet guy, I have never been assertive and confident because I DON'T want to get in your pants - that became a very sleazy and eye-rolling concept for me as I grew up in my teen years. I wish I figured that out back then, but my personality has always been more on the shy side...

You are a joy to watch and learn from... thank you!

Confidence is good. Just be comfortable who you are. Communicate what you want. Don't be a doormat 👍