I think is really sad, how desperate she must have been to sand her face, and endure so much pain just hoping to get rid of her acne. It breaks my heart to think how she felt about herself to go to that extreme.
This! :•{ I can relate because I did similar (never sandpaper, but harsh physical exfoliants and isopropyl alcohol, baking soda, etc) and it was a form of self harm. I knew it wouldn’t make my acne better and that it would hurt me, but I felt so disgusted by the sight of my face that even bleeding wounds and scars seemed like an improvement over the pimples. I was hopeless and frustrated. And truthfully, I felt like I deserved the pain for failing to look beautiful. Society’s message to women seemed to be, “your only worth is being pretty, once your youth and beauty are gone you’re disposable,” so that internalized misogyny created a horrible inner turmoil. That’s why I’m so grateful for people like Hyram who educate the public on skincare AND self care. Everyone deserves to feel beautiful and achieve clear skin, it really can be life changing. (For that reason I’m super passionate about affordable skincare too, because it’s ridiculous to look at it as a luxury instead of a basic need and a part of personal hygiene!!) But everyone also deserves to know that their worth is so much deeper and so far beyond their physical appearance. If anyone reading this has felt this way or feels this way, I see you, I empathize with you, I support you, I love you, and I wish you the best. ❤️
Last night I was patting my skincare on my face a lil bit aggressively and my inner Hyram voice said "slapping is for the bedroom, not for your skincare."
OMG LITERALLY SAAAAME!!!! 😱😂😂😂😂 Everytime I catch myself doin that, I hear this sentence and I laugh out loud while going back to smoooothly applying my stuff😂
If you struggle with dermatilomania or skin picking PLEASE try getting acrylic/gel nails with nail extensions or press on nails!! Having thicker tipped nails makes it pretty much impossible to pick your skin. I used to pick my skin constantly, in the mirror, while was studying, unconiously, and even in my sleep. I used to pick the dry skin off the bottom of my feet until I couldn't walk. Now when I'm stressed I paint myself a fresh set of nails and it has helped immensely!!
THIS!!! This really works, I’m 40 and I’ve had dermatilomania since I was about 7. I could have written the above comment myself as I’ve also had periods where I could barely walk. Thick gel nails and great skincare (less to pick) has saved my life.
My problem with skin picking, is it doesnt matter if I'm looking in the mirror or not. I will sit on my bed and feel my face and scratch whatever off, or my shoulders or arms. I've tried so hard to stop and I just cant. My time picking has reduced, but once I start I cant stop until someone stops me.
It's so frustrating watching this now, finding out that basically every product that was marketed towards teens when I was growing up was formulated from the worst possible ingredients. I spent so much money to make my skin even worse 😭😭😭
I know it probably sounds pretty ridiculous and borderline sad, but ever since I started doing my bathroom routine in the dark I almost completely stopped picking my skin. So I recommend not switching on your actual bathroom lights and just leaving the door open so the light from the adjacent room gives you just enough brightness to see what you're doing/ grabbing. Worked a treat for me!
YES! Or if you want light, you have to cover up the mirrors! Especially after taking a shower when all your pores look clean and ready to pick.... have the mirrors covered beforehand!
As someone else with dermatillomania, it's so encouraging to see more people talk about it openly these days. I've been struggling with it since I was 13. Nailing down my skincare routine has definitely helped but there are some environmental factors that are just out of my control and I've come to terms with that. If you're reading this and you also struggle with skin picking, please know that you're not alone and there is support out there for you!
We had to take my niece to urgent care a few years ago because she decided to “deep clean” her face with a magic eraser!!! Poor kid rubbed the whole top layer of her skin off. She was left with wet, weeping burn like sores all over her face!!
I rubbed one on the top of my hand, for no specific reason. It wasn’t enough to leave a mark, but it still felt like I rubbed with microscopic shards of glass or something. It was so weird and off-putting. At least now I deeply understand that magic erasers are essentially fine sanders.
Hyram your videos have really changed my life. 🥺 I have struggled with acne since I was 11-12 years old and finally at 21, with your recommendations, has my skin started to break out less, it’s properly moisturized, and my acne scars are slowly fading. I tried so many of these horrible “diy skincare tricks” growing up and it only made things worse, so I’m very happy that young people have you to look up to!
No no don't, she was literally bleeding and cut everywhere. It's SO painful, as your literally tearing skin into shreds. She has skin like that now because she knows how to wash it properly.
@@luvaudrey NO NO WAIT THEY DIDNT MEAN THEY WANTED TO TRY THE SANDPAPER THING they meant it gives them hope for themselves to see the woman with healthier skin and a better routine. it was a misunderstanding, you don’t really know what someone actually means to say online unless they explain it to you😭
@@franciscojr.5383 dont use sandpaper on your face. itll be so painful and the scars will never go away. i used to overexfoliate (the skin on my nose would break and i would have huge red spots on my nose and forehead that would bleed and leak) and i cant imagine rubbing sandpaper on my face. that is NOT what made her skin look good. what made her look good is most likely a proper skincare routine that she stuck to for a long time
I’m so glad that dermatillomania was mentioned. I struggle with that as well as Trichotillomania (Compulsion to pull hair). It’s difficult. I have anxiety. And it leads to the compulsions.
If you’re new here: - we don’t do makeup wipes - if you wear makeup think about double cleanse - no products with fragrance - diy skincare is a big NONO - Eye creams are expensive moisturizers - Sunscreen!!! Every. Single. Day - Chemical exfoliators >>>>>>> - YES to Naicinamide - (Drying) Alcohol in ingredients = DON’T BUY - No raw coconut oil on skin! If you do you’re choosing death - We like ‘The Ordinary’ and ‘CeraVe’ -We also stan ‘The Inkey list’ - Always moisturize (even if u have oily skin) - We need to take down St. Ives - We do shoulder shakes daily ;) - We like the environment NOT MY COMMENT!
You're doing great, keep going! Would you mind telling me how you managed to do that? My sister suffers from that condition but she isn't even aware of it (I've told her before that it's a known thing but she didn't really seem to acknowledge it). I really wanna help her, could you give me some advice?
12:35 I have ADHD so when I start to pick it's really hard to stop even though I want to. I have many scars on my back and chest and will probably get many more :/
That was a super common trend when that hell pore mask was going around too. I remember all the videos of people peeling it off and laughing at them lol.
I actually pick and pop when anxious and I watch skincare videos like yours when I have the urge to, to kinda tell myself NO and it's nice to see the mental side of skincare being acknowledged
First Clip Thoughts Sandpaper: "Well, hopefully she was gentle." Hamburger Meat Face: "Holy crap!" Rubbing Alcohol: I'm finishing typing this from my grave.
as someone who has put isopropyl alcohol on my acne after i pop them to “fix it” (only works like 35% of the time), i cannot imagine the pain that first girl was feeling. just putting rubbing alcohol on a few pimples made me have to bite my shirt because it hurt so bad. holy hell
I remember about 2 years ago I applied The Ordinary Peeling solution and ended up falling asleep in the bath. I woke up 2 hours later and my skin was severely burned and damaged from the product. I’ve had ptsd of the product since.
@@BlueArrowe it was horrifying. My skin burned for at least 10 days where I couldn’t do anything other than splash water on my face and use moisturiser
i’m super duper happy someone spoke out about mental illness and skin picking (coming from someone who also has a skin picking disorder formed by adhd and anxiety - i’m not even going to try and spell dermet..... somethin somethin- ) thank you for speaking out about this!!!!! 🥰💗💗❣️
Not going to lie, but if Hyram came out with a service platform where he provided skincare consultations with product recommendations I would pay for that in a heartbeat. It's hard to find a youtuber/specialist that is as honest as he is when it comes to providing information on different skin products as well as being genuinely authentic.
He ain't a dermatologist :) it's illegal to provide a service without a license, he could get his ass sued, plus there's so much anyone can do without fiscally seeing your face (even tho ppl without license doing it exist)
He’s just giving advice based on his experience in skincare and what he likes, he’s not a dermatologist and can’t recommend something that will work for everyone because peoples skin is different and he can’t actually see his viewers skin. I know not everyone can afford a dermatologist so his videos are still really helpful but please still only take his advice with a grain of salt since he is not a professional :)
*I feel like royalty because i just started skincare and I am learning from everyone else's mistakes and so I have never used bad products like St. Ives.*
Hi Hyram! I would actually love to see a full video about how to deal with skin picking addictions. It's something I really struggle with and would love to hear different tips for managing it. You've really helped me improve my skin over the past year but this is one thing I just can't seem to stop doing.
Me picking my skin unconscious while watching the video and already covered in blood, hole face, back and chest... So yeah... Maybe I have a mental illness like the last girl said, maybe... I guess we'll never know
i totally feel that im like 90% sure i have dermatilomania im covered in scars and legit cant control it. i tried to tell therapists and doctors but so far they haven't really helped :/
I think you do have something unless it’s itchy lol like I have sariasis on the back of my neck and went to a dermatologist and it’s not gone but helping’
Girl I used to struggle so badly with dermatilomania, especially picking unconsciously and even in my sleep!! The BIGGEST thing that has helped is having acrylic or gel nails/ nail extensions, having thicker tipped nails makes it almost impossible to pick your skin!!
@@amandasawyer938 yeah ive tried that, but i guess i would find other ways of picking like with tweezers and shit or i would pick off all the nail polish or take off the fake nails
I'm someone who picks my skin quite a lot. But not because I see blemishes, but because I feel them. I'm used to touching my face or my arms or neck, and if I come across any part that feels odd or a 'blemish' I will keep picking it until it's no longer "rough". Probably not a good habit.
I had really bad acne in high school and my parents were convinced that lemon would help, so I rubbed a lemon on my skin EVERYDAY for more than a year, sometimes even two times a day, i put it around my EYE AREA and i never even put on moisturiser bc I didn’t like the way it felt😭 I burned my entire face🙃 I did the same with apple cider vinegar. And since I was destroying my face everyday and it looked awful I refused to go to school without makeup.. I didn’t buy makeup removers bc I thought it was gonna break me out even more lmaooo so instead I scrubbed my face with sugar to get it off EVERY DAY. yes I do somehow still have skin left a few years later my dad (who knows nothing about skincare) told me that if I put a mixture of lemon, cinnamon, nutmeg and honey on my face it would make my scars fade, and guess what? It didn’t :))) but you can imagine how much worse my skin got and how DRY I was
if you still have the scars, i’d defo recommend BioOil. it comes in a transparent bottle with a white cap, put it on twice a day. it’s helped clear my blemishes and scars so well :)
I love how your reaction to someone's acne is never of disgust or fake surprise; it shows that you are not doing this for views but out of genuine concern and wanting to help others improve their skin! Btw, in Spanish, you should say "un momento" instead of "uno" ;)
I am a freshman in high school and I can say one thing for sure, everyone has a good skincare routine! Like it’s amazing that teenagers have access to all these skincare products. We all love talking about skincare at school lol. Love you hyram! ❤️
Once upon a time, there was a girl, who had pimples, so, she took nail clippers and tried to chop them off. True story, i know scary. {When the heck Did I become funny my comments have been getting around 100 likes recently gosh.}
I've been waiting for you to say something about Dermatillomania for so long, and I wondered if you even knew about it because it's not too common. Hearing you finally touch on the topic made me feel seen. I hear so many skincare RU-vidrs go on and on about how bad it is to pick at your skin, but no one ever mentions that it may be due to a mental illness, and it makes me feel so guilty and ashamed. Thank you for saying something about it and shedding some light on the topic. Love you Hyram
The skin-picking itself is not a mental illness, though in excess it is indicative of a couple of mental illnesses such as dermatillomania and obsessive-compulsive disorder.
Haha yeah, that's a common symptom of various disorders. A few examples that this symptom CAN occur are anxiety, ADHD, Autism, probably schizophrenia, the list goes on.
Tip for my fellow skin pickers: do your skincare almost completely in the dark. The light needs to be dim enough that you can't really see the details of your face in the mirror, but you can at least see the products you're using/what you're doing. Hyram's tip of not looking at yourself in the mirror is very helpful, but if you need to take it an extra step further try dimming the light and see how it goes.
I have OCD and anxiety. I tend to pick at my skin as a coping mechanism, mostly my shoulders😣. I will stop myself when I recognize that I’m doing it. It’s a very hard habit to stop. My skin has gotten so much better now.
for anyone new here Cleansers A. Basic Cleansers 1. Cerave Hydrating Cleanser - for dry skin - mild 2. Cerave Foaming Cleanser - combination/oily/sometimes normal skin = These can come in mini-sizes that are cheaper = Simple and non-irritating that maintain your moisture barrier B. Treatment Cleansers 1. Cerave Renewing SA Cleanser - simple and basic but with salicylic acid - Not as strong as The Inkey List 2. The Inkey List Salicylic Acid Cleanser - Hyram’s personal fave SA cleanser = has extra exfoliating ingredients for acne, dead skin cells, clogged pores = provides a 2-in-1 experience (cleanser PLUS treatment) if in case you cannot opt for two separate products II. Treatment A. Exfoliant 1. The Inkey List Glycolic Acid Toner - removes dead skin cells - very strong, use at most three times a week 2. The Inkey List Beta Hydroxy Acid Serum - salicylic acid - less sensitizing = use at night for best results 3. The Ordinary 0.5% Retinol and Squalene - - strong - - squalene is a moisturizing oil that helps prevent dryness = USE RETINOL 1 TIME PER WEEK AT NIGHT, MAXIMUM OF 3 TIMES A WEEK ONCE THE SKIN IS USED TO IT = Hyram’s recommendation: Exfoliant on one night, Retinol on one night, and the other nights use moisturizer alone (per week) B. Niacinamide = for hyperpigmentation and dark spots within the skin = reduces redness and sensitivity = good for all skin types = reduces oil and sebum production = great antioxidant 1. Good Molecules Niacinamide Serum 10% - almost same ingredients and same price point as The Ordinary III. Moisturizers 1. Cerave Moisturizing Cream 2. Cerave Moisturizing Lotion = basic, simple, but good = comes in mini-sizes (that aren’t actually “mini” since the normal sizes are HUGE) = has niacinamide and ceramides = having a basic moisturizer is enough if you already have good treatments IV. Sunscreen = not using a sunscreen whilst using other products nullifies the effect of the other products, in fact, it’ll make your skin worse 1. Sun Bum Mineral Tinted Sunscreen SPF 30 = easy to find = good for sensitive skin = feels like a makeup primer = may not work for all skin tones :( = does not feel heavy and greasy
Growing up my mom believed to was your face all you need was St Ives followed up by a bar of Irish Spring Soap and a washcloth 😫 I honestly don’t done how I don’t have permanent skin damage from my teenage years.
I watch both you and James and not only have your videos improved my skin. To the point that I had a hip replacement surgery and called my mum an hour afterwards… she thought I had makeup on because she hadn’t seen me for a few months due to covid. But it was just my skin was so much better. Not only that but I have been able to help my teenage boys with their skin concerts thru advice and products from you guys! So thank you so much!! ✨✨
Aw the public awareness for dermatillomania 🥺 my contribution to the comments section will be to raise public awareness for trichotillomania as well (hair pulling disorder I among many manage)❤️❤️❤️
My heart goes out to you because I've been dealing with trich my whole life, too. That impulse to keep picking and/or pulling, even when it hurts, is something I wouldn't wish on anyone. I'm glad she shared her struggles; it honestly helps so many people just to know they're not alone. I hope you're doing well!
As a social worker, I see this pretty regular in my work. Yet, I never really got it in class expect for like 3 minutes maybe. It’s just so weird to me how little I knew about skin and hair picking in class. When I started as an intern, I didn’t even know what it really was. I needed to go to the bathroom and just sat there googling Wtf I needed to do with my client. We def need more representation!
The first horror story was the scariest out of all video. I almost had mini anxiety come up. Makes me feel that all my neutrogena uses as teenager wasn't that bad then.
I also have dermatillomania...I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried because of how horrible it makes my skin look and I can’t stop.. I’ve gotten so so much better but still a struggle. Getting rid of my magnify mirror helped a ton!
i have dermatillomania too.. i haven't ran into many people who have it but i've struggled for years and i feel better knowing there's other people struggling with it just like me!
I don't have a diagnosis but I think I might have dermatillomania too. I will pick at any blemish on my skin until I bleed and the entire area is red, and then they will scab and I will do it again. I also have the same issue with my nails, I bite them until my entire finger tip is red and my cuticles are bleeding. I feel no pain as a do these things and I almost feel relaxed as I do it but as soon as I "allow" myself to be done I feel so much pain and anxiety and I can't even touch or hold anything or wash my face without wanting to cry from the pain or feel the need to pick again.
I don't have tik tok but here's my story- I had a deep cystic acne bump and was in so much pain, I decided to pop it even though everything I read told me not to. Nothing was popping it, so I literally had to stick a NAIL into it. Yes a metal nail. I sanitized it (ya know, safety first) then slowly pushed it into the bump...it did work but I don't recommend doing it lol. Hope you enjoyed reading this :---)
The worst thing I did to my skin was not listen to dermatologists when they told me I had to wear sunscreen when I was on Accutane. I think my acne scars would be MUCH better if I did lol
As a teenager i wore heavy make up everyday to school and NEVER removed it at night. I just scrubbed it off in the shower the next morning with my clean and clear cleanser. Also used to lay in tanning beds with nothing on my face and out at the pool with no kind of spf at all.
Yup. This. Now that I'm in my late 20s and I have premature wrinkles I wish I would have just accepted my pale skin🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ you're not alone though sis
If you struggle with picking your skin when looking in the mirror, COVER YOUR MIRROR! It has been a boon for my houseate's mental health (she struggles with body dysmorphia related to her skin as well as hyperpigmentation and cystic acne). Even my ADHD-related picking has PLUMETTED since we covered the mirror!
I had TERRIBLE acne from 5th grade to junior year (when I finally did acutane). My esthetician when I was 13 recommended I add SUGAR to my face was every day to exfoliate. I was also using a bunch of acid heavy products and a pumpkin face mask (all prescribed by her). Sugar feeds bacteria so obviously my face got worse 😩
Worst thing I've ever done to my skin: I was so insecure about my acne in high school (we'll say about 10 years ago) I took my HOT curling iron to my FACE to try to BURN OFF the acne 😭 My skin got better over the years into adulthood (not perfect) but Hyram thank you for all your knowledge and your kind and loving words! My skin has always been my biggest insecurity and you helped me learn to accept my 'flaws' and keep my skin the healthiest it can be! 💖💖
@@christmasduck4203 welll I guess I tried too :/ the insecurities hit hard in high school and the people around me didn't help the situation either, so yeah that happened
When I was 14 yo my DERMATOLOGIST told me to use rubbing alcohol as a toner twice a day, beacause I have oily skin..... I used that for 3 months.... TWICE A DAY.... WITHOUT A MOISTURISER
So when I was 11 or 12, I mixed cinnamon, lemon, and sugar and used it to scrub my face everyday in hopes of clearing my skin up before 6th grade started. I used dishwashing soap to wash my face, then I used my mom's cream which was EXPIRED but I didn't care. I kept going and used my nails to scratch the pimples off, thinking that if the scabs were gone then it will go away. I used coconut oil mixed with carrot (which molded often but I didn't care either), and I still used it to "protect my skin". And I would boil mushrooms and straight up put it on my face. My skin broke out HORRIBLY on the day I woke up before the first day of 6th grade, and I had a panic attack. It ruined my self esteem and skin for YEARS. I also got bullied constantly because of it. But my skin is doing much better now, and my routine is a lot better too.
OOF speaking of the salt and lemon, that resurfaced some ooooold memories of me sneaking lemons and sugar into the shower and scrubbing my whole face and body because ya know... colorism LOL
omg i used to sneak stuff up to the shower too.. i didn't wanna explain to my parents why I needed lemon juice, baking soda, egg whites, coconut oil, and coffee grounds. yeah... my skin was tragic
I have dermatillomania as well, I’m so glad to see someone talking about it online bc I’ve done it since I was so young I thought I was just insane and didn’t understand why other people looked fine and I was like…a walking skin sack of scabs. I’m working on it, it’s definitely improving - but it’s so hard.
Also like…I feel like I could add to this with a lot of things 😂 I once had a huge pimple on my neck, and I was like I am NOT picking at this so I soaked a cotton ball in tee tree oil and taped it to my neck overnight. Got a MASSIVE burn on my neck from it and the scar is still there but fading…because obviously I picked at it as well 🤪 Also used to use that apricot scrub multiple times per day and yeah basically believed my skin getting worse was it purging all the gross shit from me 😂
Here's an overview: 2:19 - woman used sandpaper on her skin, then used isopropyl alcohol all over her face. she bled like a red river. still dealing with scars. 5:10 - boy used St Ives scrub every single day for a month. 6:25 - girl used Neutrogena pink grapefruit scrub, then used a lemon dipped in salt to scrub her face. 8:09 - girl used pure isopropyl alcohol as a toner twice a day, no moisturizer, no sunscreen, and mixed the alcohol with Aztec clay as a mask. 10:25 - boy mixed shampoo with cream meant for ingrown hairs and used on his acne, it got so much worse. 12:20 - woman has dermatillomania and can't stop picking apart her blemishes, even when they bleed. 14:44 - girl used to apply Listerine as a toner and then use baby oil, and then go out into the sun.
You don’t know how badly I need that advice for NOT looking at my face in the mirror. I will literally get one of those magnifying mirrors and pick for SO long. And I feel terrible afterward
Yep, when I was young and started going through puberty family members told me to use rubbing alcohol to clean my oily skin, Not knowing any better and feeling self conscious I started cleaning my face daily multiple times a day, my face started reacting and become increasingly oily so it became a horrible cycle, I didn’t wear sunscreen or moisturizer., I’m still dealing with the scars and skin damage, I’m seeing changes and am doing research to find ways to help heal. Thank you for making videos so other people don’t make these same mistakes.
Sometimes the worst advice is from older family members because they had no products that were specifically formulated for treating acne. My grandma would try to put lemon juice and baking soda on my face to clear my hyperpigmentation 😬
The first zit I got in 8th grade was on my chin and I washed my face, used clean and clear benzoyl peroxide, and when it dried out...I used a pumice stone to "exfoliate it" left a huge red scar for about two years
i accidentally put 100% acetone (the kind nail technicians use) bc I was about to take my nail polish off so it was on a cotton pad and I had a little ✨dementia✨ moment and I thought the stuff on the cotton pad was my micellar water and I put it on my nose to start and I was about to put it on my eyes before I realized it was acetone🤡🤡🤡
I have dermatillomania (just got back from a picking session actually) and so it's really comforting to hear Hyram talk about this condition. I currently have all the mirrors in my house covered, and it's helped. Good luck to anyone out there struggling with it.
I think is the first time I’ve ever seen a skincare content creator talk about dermatillomania-I’ve NEVER seen someone who makes content like this talk about my mental illness. There’s so much shaming content around skin picking and OCD in general and seeing this made me feel so…accepted??? Like THANK YOU for talking about this and if you have recs for patches that can go over picked skin that don’t have things like salicylic acid or tea tree that can irritate wounds i would love them.
My grandma once told me if I ever got a tattoo she would hold me down and sandpaper it off. At that point I already had 4 she just didn’t know 😂 Now she has a tattoo!!! Also, animals just know when you need them 😍
The "don't look at the mirror" is just so TRUE! That's what I stated just a few days ago and now when I look at every angle of my face and I'm starting to want to pop off a pimple I just WALK AWAY 🤣
I use to use St Ives everyday and pore strips once a week when I was a teen. Now my pores on my nose are noticeable and some on my cheeks. Now that skin care is getting more popular and I discovered Hyram, my skin care has changed a lot which I’m happy about. Thank you Hyram.