Annoying isn’t it? I think no chance she hasn’t physically cheated. People have sex dreams, but can they be that specific, and with the same person over and over? Dreams are hazy at best the next day. This guy is really annoying, going over the same stuff over and over, and she is so manipulative, but he seems clueless.
@@fl-ri-I saw them take fall damage at one point but I don't really look at the screen and just have it playing in the background so he might've taken fall damage other times
He already forgave her. Problem solved in her mind. The therapist probably made it so, that she is able to talk like a running water. The therapist can only do so much.
If you like the story of a spineless man who is too afraid to walk away from a toxic marriage, this is for you. He's a whining mess all the half an hour. You are warned.
@@Yellowbeing08 she didnt admit to anything, she was called out for what he read and he likely didnt read far enough into her diary to actually know the truth himself... you never start at the end of a book, always the beginning where he learned she cheated with the same guy who she "hated" and thought was a cock....
@@teneluxio it doesn't lol. these people are just stupid who think every slightly related story is actually the same thing. their stupidity is honestly so annoying
Seriously as a woman that pissed me off. My teen son was going through a depression and I talked to him about being committed into a hospital because only a professional and God can help him and I can not do anything for him but be here to lead him. I gave him two weeks and his suicidal thoughts were getting worse and more vocal about it. I hated going to work I hated leaving him alone so I had him committed. Took him to get McDonald’s which I rarely do and we went to the best hospital and best rated mental hospital I could find that took our insurance. I drove over 50 miles to make sure he was were he needed to be best for him. I could never think about divorcing my husband for being depressed or abandoning my child for the same. She is trash period.
OP lives in a dream world he made with his own thoughts and insecurities and doesn't want to come out of it. Once he sees the reality he will realise everything.
@brianarnold8666 no, it's an emotion affair, if it was strictly in the book than yes I agree but she actively goes to her exes locations, and the ex metaphorically to the house
A relationship is doomed if either partner gives even 50 percent. Successful relationships occur when each person commits themselves to giving no less that 100 percent to the relationship. This isn't tit for tat where a score is kept. You're either all in or you are not. Period.
Wife seems like she's in a revenge fantasy fog more than anything else, she's hung up on the ex because she wanted the closure of him begging for her back after she moved on with the better man. The invest mom story has a similar issue I think, where OP's wife wanted to live out a revenge fantasy, except with him it wasn't that he wasn't cooperating by moving on, it's that reality wasn't cooperating by revealing that she was just gonna be kicking a beat man while he's down by rubbing her revenge fantasy "I deserve better and can get it" fantasy into his face.
I really hope that the guy divorces. Pretty awful partner to be honest and I'm pretty sure that if the roles where reversed the guy would have been crucifed. edit: Dude I just realized that he confirms that if she meets someone and could chase her into an affair she probably would have one and still tries to save a dying marriage???????
Had that ex come back and carried a torch for her, she'd have ran into his arms. The only reason she loves OP is because her ex doesn't want her. OP is a consolation prize. She is just happy with what OP does for her, not that she's with him.
Your relationship is tainted... she has wanted to be with another man the entire time she has been with you, you were literally just the right guy at the right time to be the rebound carpet she needed, you just wound up being far better than she expected and decided to drag you along as her side piece to the relationship she lost... all you've done is make her life comfortable as she wishes you were someone else
Ex is out of her league while husband is not Doesn't matter if it's true but that's how she feels. She has to compete for her ex while she has no competition for her faithful husband. He could easily fix that by surrounding himself with more and more women that *could* become his gf. If there is perceived competition her attraction and attitude will change drastically
Everyday without remorse get serious dreaming abt another is crazy tho so I might dip out depending since I don’t get a wife or a girlfriend rn so don’t got a meter
20 years. No one was murdered, so a statute of limitations has to kick in at some point. All I'm hearing is "paralysis by analysis": You can dig into a subject so deep, you end up tunneling in circles and never get anywhere. He's punishing _her_ by continually feeding _his_ insecurities. What the hell does "she's not working as hard as I am" mean exactly? Yes, she shouldn't have lied to you, but, as a wise man once said, "The best indication that a relationship is over is the moment one partner is completely honest with the other." Understand...an affair is not a single lie, but a composition of multiple lies. Everything from the attraction to the execution is one lie stacked upon another lie upon still another lie and so on. The motivation, the environment, and the life experiences of everyone involved has changed so much over that 20 years, no one is the same. Reading the diary? Right up there with checking the phone...out of bounds. You trust or you don't. If you trust, you trust. If you don't, you leave. If you think you, one day, might not trust, take the steps to protect yourself at the beginning. Attraction is going to happen, whether we want to believe it or not. How the person acts on that attraction is key. Your responsibility is to not give your partner a reason to desire anyone else, so, if they do, you can respond accordingly and find someone more loyal and appreciative. The sleeping with the ex 20 years ago? Problematic, but totally workable. The dreams? They happen. The acknowledgement of the attraction and curiosity? Barely a traffic citation, especially considering she documented the consequences of taking it further.
I’m just so mentally checked out of these people with no self respect like stop taking cheaters back they clearly don’t love you they just saying they’re sorry because they got caught when I clicked on the video I just skimmed to the end to see that they’re still together and it pissed me off I’m so sick of these doormats at this point they deserve to get cheated on
Dude needs to leave her, cause he is forever insecure, and no amount of reassurance will make him feel better. She broke trust and he cant get over it (not saying he should). Nothing she does will help.
Wife sounds like she could have narcissistic personality disorder. She's still hung up on that ex that dumped and cheated on her and compares herself to the woman he's currently with. She says he doesn't deserve that woman and claims he didn't deserve her either. She has had thoughts that she was better than what OP deserves and contemplated leaving him. She is incredibly defensive to criticism, to the point where OP feels he can't even talk about her faults or wrongdoings without her blowing up at him. All of this is pretty consistent with the behavior of people with narcissistic personality disorder - the desire for attention and admiration, a high sense of self-importance, and being easily upset by criticism.
He should leave she selfish and only care about how it affects her not them "her" she is 100% not talking about her problem in therapy or not trying to fix those problems because she hasn't needed to do it before and is wait for OP to get his guard down to do it once again
Seriously as a woman that pissed me off. My teen son was going through a depression and I talked to him about being committed into a hospital because only a professional and God can help him and I can not do anything for him but be here to lead him. I gave him two weeks and his suicidal thoughts were getting worse and more vocal about it. I hated going to work I hated leaving him alone so I had him committed. Took him to get McDonald’s which I rarely do and we went to the best hospital and best rated mental hospital I could find that took our insurance. I drove over 50 miles to make sure he was were he needed to be best for him. I could never think about divorcing my husband for being depressed or abandoning my child for the same. She is trash period.
This guy is so easily manipulated its sad lol i see why she wants to stay with this fool. "Unintentionally tried to manipulate" he is aware but doesnt seem to get it. Whatever happens its really all his fault fools never learn maybe one day he will grow a spine and acts like the man in the relationship. The whole story sounds like a woman wrote this lol
The best way I heard it explained with women and this infactuation is that, "OP and his children have her heart, but the ex has her soul." (purely philosophical) She gave that guy her soul and there no way she can get it back. Once she give that away there nothing she can do to get it back. It like for some women once they bond with one person they lose this metaphorical power. It like how for some women (not all) there one guy that can come out of the woodwork and ask her to run away with him and abandon her family and they most likely will follow. Take it this way. She looked up her ex when she was in his city. Deep down she wanted that fated event where the ex and her pass by one another, sleep with each other, and move on. Really she wanted to cheat. She wanted to experience that teen romance which she gave to her ex and as an adult she regrets she gave it to someone who isnt her husband, and deep down in some twisted way it is her husbands fault. So what the male equivalent... That the thing there really isnt. A man like OP his women of the past do not exist. There is only his wife his children and the life he can give them. There are other types of men but they most likely would cheat purely on sexual attraction. However OP wife is the only woman he ever been with so he doesnt have a "one that got away." The thing is for men like OP he loves as close to unconditionally as human possible. And he trust foolishly. Trust can be considered a man's power, we can trust purely but once broken he can never give it you a second time. Their marraige is over he cant trust her and she cant leave the past where it was. (again all concepts are philosophical)
I cant even listen to this anymore. Dude is the biggest doormat and should have left her a long time ago. He spends 30 minutes talking about how hurt and upset he is and that she treats him badly, BUT STILL STAYS!
Who else can see that he is in a toxic relationship, hanging on to a woman who is gastlighting him, is self esteem is shattered and he is scared of being alone yet he is still sticking to her and her toxicity. I hope he can see himself from a different eye and breakfree. He has made himself the problem, I feel pity and an headache for him.
Women always have that guy that got away. That was either abusive or cheating with other women but they still fantasize about that guy which is crazy. Only women can get alpha widowed.
you needed to of divorced yesterday my guy... she went from never cheating, to having done it once... to having cheated twice.... grow a spine. You can clearly see she doesnt want to deal with this anymore and has made no effort to work on herself... just do it already.
Protip to all men out there: there’s a difference between being nice and being a pushover. Set clear boundaries with your partner and if any of the boundaries are broken: LEAVE. Women love a scumbag with a backbone more than a nice guy with no spine. Simple fact of life. That’s why OP’s wife is still hung up on her old toxic ex and not the simp husband that continues to make excuses for her.
@@Centiwing if you think that, that's a you problem. I have a happy and full life and nothing to demonstrate to a rando on the internet. Have a nice day.
Less than 5 mins in and she cheated and fantasizes cheating with every guy who looks at her and is obsessed with her toxic x… if red flags were a person it’s her, OP needs to grow a spine and leave this vile creature
She sounds horrible but he’s so deep in denial he thinks it’s okay that she didn’t fully love him til recently, that she gaslights when he tries talking about stuff. You’d think he’d read the opening spiel he offers at the start of every update realizing how tapped it is, that he needs to run far away.
Dear OP, you got a lot of information, but your denial shows a lack of the experience to apply it. You should be bringing this to a personal therapist to gain clarity.
🎵🎵🎵🎵🎵 another doormat that bites the dust, another doormat that bites the dust 🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶 she settled for him, the moment another chad appears ahe will go stray again.
Talking has been done, either take action and leave her like you would have if you have known she cheated on you with her ex 20 years prior. Or move on and always be on edge for here comes another wife's hookup.
It’s pretty simple really. Just stop giving your wife attention and the “spark” will come back, no counseling needed. She’s just one of those types of girls
Everybody is kinda avoiding the fact that his wife is neurotic and truly UNSTABLE. This can only be treated with true acknowledgement and confrontation, notice, this hadn't happened, the whole story.
The wife is using her therapist in place of her husband. She talks about her issues in their marriage to her therapist and not her husband. In that way her husband's issues are never addressed neither are the wife's issues. Unfortunately, the marriage breaks a little more every time the wife goes to therapy.
This is basically an abusive codependency and they should separate IMMEDIATELY. Seriously feels like an abuser and an enabler and they need to separate RIGHT. FUCKING. YESTERDAY. CHRIST ON A CRACKER I'VE NEVER REGRETTED AUTO-PLAY MORE
Fantasy ex: I have had dreams that I'm still in a relationship with my very abusive ex. I always wake up in a panic and check to be sure my husband of 36 yrs is still with me. I've never told him this because I don't want him to ever think I would want to be with that scum again.
Plot twist: She’s been cheating the whole time. Never had a therapist and her “appointments” are meeting with her affair partners. He should’ve asked to meet her therapist to get couple’s therapy recommendations. She has made zero progress and no effort. She’s not going to therapy and doesn’t care about this marriage.
I know this is spread in twenty years, but she just sounds exhausting and I'm pushing through by minute 22. (She sucks, I would divorce but I'm a quitter 🤷)
Hated this one... She showed you who she is and you just didn't want to believe her so I don't care what happens next for you :v. Personally after 20 yrs I guess anyone could get over the cheating, but you know why most would still leave? Cause after 20 yrs it's insane to come to the realization of "Do I know this person?", 20 YEARS, nah I'm out
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. And it sounds like hell didn't get its fury on the ex who hurt her. She wants him to suffer and suffer hard and seeing as how it keeps coming back to her that she was nothing more than a welcome mat to wipe his muddy feet on isn't setting well with her. The husband here, yeah, I think it will be a stronger mate to put up with his needy attitude. Sounds like he needs a mommy and not a wife and if he'd get down off his pedestal and help her after invading her privacy (ignorance is bliss, he did this to himself) instead of wheedling her nonstop. He got what he wanted, though he didn't want it. Things could have been oh so much worse.
I don’t think I was a fan of this video mostly because the story was repeated multiple times through the updates and then have a small amount of new story then another repeated long update before more new story. But I think that’s just me being picky
Not fair to her family. But love can be hard. Especially if you gave it all to someone and they hurt you bad. It can take years upon years to fully get over them and sometimes you’ll get random pains over it, but it gets better. You can tell she jumped way too fast and wasn’t ready. I will say this too. He had ZERO business going through her diary
I'm single af , n I don't even think about him T-T , FYI he was also toxic but didn't cheat, very toxic tho....but he does come in my dream, but not in a good way ....
Some people are just worse than rapists. This man's wife is literally one of these kind of people. Nobody is sorry for their wrongdoings, they just don't want to feel guilty about it, so that they can they are right and hurt innocent people again and again. Shameless. 😒
