Then when you reach out, they don’t reply or even acknowledge your existence. I feel like I’m dead to most people. Then, those who I’m not invisible to either want me to change (too much) or offer advice that I need to stop looking for validation or companionship in others. Doesn’t change the fact that I’d love the connection, but then it makes me wonder if I like things as much as the idea of the things.
I like Poe, but some of his letters felt like he tried to isolate people he loved. His cousin-wife, for example, was set to be helped by a relative, but Poe fought against the notion and eventually had his way and married her. His _The Raven_ is pretty cool tho The poem quoted in the original comment is Poe's _Alone_
try to find self love i promise you it changed me I was so depressed and felt so so alone and I started to realize my worth and being okay with myself. I know it gets hard but you have been with yourself through everything. You don’t need people all the time. Just knowing you have yourself and accepting it and loving it. If you ever need anyone to talk to I’ll give you my Snapchat if you have it.
@@dulapeepbars3872 yeah i agree developing a new skill might also help uplift your confidence like i did by learning stock market trading just hook on a skill it will help
Studies show that the most successful people talk to them self’s so there’s nothing to be ashamed of talking to yourself. Coming from someone who does it too.
Hahahha I don’t talk to myself I talk to my “imaginary friends” It’s really hard to explain without sounding like a psychopath Do I still count as a successful person?
Yo I literally imagine myself to be this gifted polymath girl debuted as kpop idol at 13 and later becomes the most popular one because of my talents. Acting in lots of western movies like the avengers, and do a lot of other things like writing my own book or having my own webtoon at such young age, because well I'm gifted and a polymath. And I would make a lot of money out of em, become one of the richest in asia, and use them to help better the world. Charity and charity and mooorreee charity because it's so painful to see the world's current state. I imagine being so honest and genuine despite me being a public figure, I am so controversial to the point that people either really support me or really hate me, but the genuineness ended up changing the entire toxic Korean entertainment industry hahaha. This is an imagination that have been continuing since I was in elementary school.... I can't get tired of it. It's more like an imagination about alternate reality, but of course I do imagine a lot about the future.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination
I'm not alone in a physical way. I'm surrounded by friends, family but I still feel alone. I feel being trapped by myself around people. I refuse love and I don't know why I'm acting like this because it makes me sick.
I understand the feeling. Find one person you can connect with and let it all out. Your in this life one time make sure u enjoy it to the fullest 🙏 I'll be praying for u
I would also say to try and let it out to someone whether that's a therapist or a person you trust but I would also reccomend looking into a religion or some sort of lifestyle that can give you meaning
I understand. It will be hard but I think it's important to learn how to love, to push urself about it. Not with everyone of course but yeah. You will surely find somebody to love one day and even if u dont want to. Im not specifically talking about falling in love but friendship, family relation, etc. Love is a part of happiness, a big part.
I agree. You can't really be your true authentic self or express your true feelings to people anymore. And it's only getting worse. Narcissism is at an all-time high.
A few years ago, I tried to end myself. My friends didn't understand, blamed me for the way they felt about the situation and abandoned me, that is the loneliest I have ever felt, to be in need of a friend and to have none. I have nightmares, I'm scared of growing older and being alone, and I don't have anyone to reach out to....
Today was my high school graduation and no one showed up for me. Not even my parents. It was cripplingly painful to see friends hugging their parents and taking pictures while I had to go back to my own dark empty car and drive myself home.
Congratulations on your graduation! Graduating high school is a big deal and an accomplishment worth celebrating. Just know that a stranger out there somewhere (me) is proud of you and is cheering you on :)
Bro, I literally cried to this. The only comment ive ever cried to. For a while I’ve wanted a best friend a real one but now I don’t rlly. But thanks, and truly I wish the same to u
How can someone not feel lonely in 2020? Right after the lockdown in my country, I was so upset that I started dancing hits from the 70s and 80s I my living room. I WILL SURVIVE was the opening hit. You might be lonely, but you are not alone! Take care wherever you are 💗💗
I disagree. Not because I believe there's something worse but because I believe they're equally terrible. I was lonely surrounded by poeple and it was awfull, and I was lonely without people. It sucks either way. It's not nice to say that something is worse. Don't compare loneliness. You can be surrounded by friends and be lonely and you can have no family and friends and be lonely as well.
I tell myself I'm an introvert a lot and that I don't like being around people, but I think the only reason I tell myself these things is because I attempt to feel less lonely. I wish I could have friends to go out and do things with. All I long for is friends, but my anxiety and fear of judgement always keep me from being myself around people. It takes me so long to adjust and get used to people and I hate myself for it.
Don't hate yourself for it. It better to just accept it as you have been. Loneliest is something that based off perception and emotion and you can get rid of it and convince yourself it isn't a problem. It better to do this and be "happy" than to remind yourself of the problem. Don't seek for answers, forget the questions.
i relate. my friends that i've known for years. I have 3 that i'm completely comfortable around i'm glad they stuck with me when i was quiet. they also can make friends so quick and i'll hangout with their new friends but um always more quiet. I wanna say something but a part of my mind stops me from talking to them. I feel like they'll hate me if i say something wrong. I've been slowly getting out of that state of mind because i've been talking to people online. And I feel there's no judgment or if they do judge me it doesn't matter since they live in a different state or a different country. It been helping me finally talk my thoughts to people i've just been meeting. or people that i met through my friends a long time ago but never gotten close to.
sometimes i have full-length conversations with myself where i pretend that i'm being "interviewed" about my feelings or my day and on bad days these conversations can go on for an hour. it took me a while to realize that i do this because barely anyone ever asks me how i'm really feeling/doing
me too... sometimes for several hours. every now and again, I'll become awfully self aware and think to myself "nobody asked that. There's noone here". and ill just break emotionally...
that's happened to me all my life, in school, at home everywhere. the sad thing is I'm young. I feel ignored but I can't demand because externally I just look happy, people come to me telling me I give happy vibes so I feel like if I tell them about these things they'll just be disappointed because I was not what they expected.
fr!! nowadays everyone is too anxious to approach new people bc they’re scared of other peoples judgment. when in reality a lot of people are just as lonely and need a friend too (im the same way though lol)
@@imana8907 totally agree! i feel the exact same way as u. ive dealt w social anxiety ever since i can remember so it makes it even harder than it already would be to put myself out there unfortunately. i know idk u but i sincerely wish u the best and hope u can feel a slight sense of reassurance knowing that i am only a message away if u ever feel alone :)
Tbh I feel like lonely people don't get noticed much because we hide. Everyone around me seems to have a lot of friends. Even when I asked people if they ever felt lonely they said no. It's so hard to come across people who relate to you when it comes to lonelyness irl. I only find people who truely know that feeling online.
True true.. Also another time there was this guy who asked me at the end of the day, "why aren't you with your friends? You seem like you're lonely" and I'm like "I don't wanna be" I was so devastated back then holding my tears because of embarrassment lmaoo.
Same, whenever my colleagues ask me what I did at the weekend or on my days off, I always say I met up with friends for dinner, coffee etc when in truth I wandered round doing everything on my own. I just hope they never ask me to bring all my friends along because that will be difficult for sure!! 😅
Bro i got a small house, and i literally walk to my car some evenings just so i could be away from anyone's eyes and just site there, sometimes cry my heart out while listening to music
I thought about it. Like why am I sitting totally alone, without friends, without anyone who could care ‘bout me if there’s so many ppl who also feel it and need support...
I do the same I talk to myself and when deeply think about what I'm doing and how I'm talking to myself I feel like I'm a weirdo and no one else does it
i make up stories about me having a friend. i like to imagine what they would say to me, when i accomplish something i imagine them being proud, i imagine them giving my drawings criticism and praise, i like to hug my big toy doggo and pretend like that's my friend hugging me, i stroke my own hair when i get that sinking feeling (like someone's consoling me), i fall asleep to random videos because that makes it feel like i have someone i know and live with.
@Miguel Hernandez This loser having spiraled so many times into anxiety and panic attacks that regular contemplation of my self value and worth lead to suicidal thoughts and endless nights of crying and nightmares that feel worse than death.
@@Siratioomia I like these kind of quotes. And so do at least 164 people :) Don't give up! You're more valuable than you feel and stronger than you think. I mean you deal with these issues every single day again and again. You're a warrior.
@Miguel Hernandez Who hurt you? Hey, remember that everything will be alright. You seem very angry, and i (an internet nobody) wish you all the best. Don't give up on yourself.
I had posted on Facebook, "Loneliness is a feeling worst than pain itself." And one of my new co-workers commented on it and said that he would love to hang out with me sometime because he gets lonely too. We began dating and after 3 months he began abusing me, belittling me, telling me how his ex looked better than me, would talk badly to people at work about me, isolate me from my family, and would tell everyone we knew that I didn't deserve friends after I broke up with him. I am alone again but I would take that loneliness over someone making me feel alone any day.
I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I hope things are better for you now. Just know that you are worthy of love and friendships. Wishing you the best.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination
I'm 28. Only had 1 friend, in high school, and think about him daily. Only had 1 gf, for 6 years, but it was long distance and never made to met her, and because of my depression getting worse and worse she couldn't wait for me anymore, which I understand. Last weekend I learnt she's getting married. It hit me so hard. My family loves me, 2 people, but only because they're forced to love me, because they are my family. If they weren't they wouldn't care about me, so it's a love doesn't really matter because they don't love because of who I am, but because they're my family. So at the end of the day I feel completely lone in this world. Been like this for 10 years since I finished high school and the worst part of it all is that I know very well it's not going to be fixed anytime soon, and so in the case I ever get it fixed. So I understand all of you very well. It sucks, but life is like this. Much love to you all❤️
And love to you as well. Some of the best word I've ever heard was that it's okay to be broken. I sometimes look at my family and think that i would want almost nothing to do with them if I didn't know so much about them. If only someone was willing to try and listen to someone else then we could have more friends who are closer than family. I know my friends often feel much closer than my family. I love you, and I hope that you have someone who will talk to you at anytime. It is often at night that I feel lonely, bc I know that no one will talk with me because they are asleep
No you are wrong, your family doesn’t have to love you. There’s plenty of horror stories of abuse to prove that. Be grateful you have those two family members. Hope things work out for you
I'm constantly jealous of people who have best friends. To have someone you know everything about, to tell them about everything going on in your life. Like I have close friends, but there isn't one person that I can think of that I'd label as a 'best friend'.
I think the only reason why I still survive is because of my illusions. I take comfort in daydreaming where I am the exact opposite of what I am now being lonely. These illusions would become overwhelming to the point that I'd space out for a while because I am too busy living in a story I am creating in my head. This is how I cope up when I experience mental breakdown. There are times that I'd go out of my bedroom smiling and hyped up because I haven't fully woke up from the daydream I just had. The worst feeling is when you come back to reality and the pillow that you were imagining as a person who loves you just became a normal pillow.
One of the top comments has a reply thread of people feeling the same way. Maybe you could talk to them. Have you ever played club penguin? You can talk to many people who'd care and listen if they heard your story. You might find people in the same area, I don't know.
Yes. Except I am not in the daydreams I dream, but I do it basically for the same reason. I use a lot of forms of escapism to the point where I become less functional.
Omg so relatable at this point I’m just living the story i created in my head where i have a imaginary best friend who comforts me everyday and whenever i try to break out of it. The atmosphere turns depressing and i break down mentally and cry a pool of tears because of how bad my life is rn. Daydreaming is how i cope with daily
@@reezyzfrenchfries3872 I am daydreaming that an interviewer asks me questions about my life, the person wants to write a book about my life..... I mean I live an interesting life but it's all literally happening in my bedroom, I finished school but I am only 15, I mean I finished this year in 1 month because I am pretty smart but I want to be seen......normal
I am not even kidding, this is the best timing ever. I just left half way through my dance rehearsals on zoom, literally crying outside the frame. I felt so lonely and left out, and sometimes I feel like a failure. These days, I feel like life has been pushing me into a corner. I’ve been crying everyday and sometimes I feel like quitting my dance career
You're not a failure, don't say that. Keep going, I know you can do it ❤ sometimes life is an ass and the path can be rocky but I promise it'll be worth it and you'll shine 😊 stay safe and best wishes 💕
Once I felt like this during my theater clases. Everyone talked to eachother and I was the one always left out. And I quit for a year. Then I comeback beacuse my teacher wanted me in a play. And in that moment I realize that I was seen and that it was a mistake to quit for a year, but also was good for thinking what I wanted for myself and the others could not stop me from that. I hope that you feel better, maybe your heart and soul need a rest
Have anyone ever gotten to the point where they just hold a pillow and cry themselves to sleep all while fantasizing that the pillow ur holding is your s/o holding you and telling you everything is ok and you aren’t ugly or alone. I think I have issues because this is somewhat normal
no but i’ll imagine myself doing basic things such as having a good time with other people and being an extrovert people like, then i’ll smack myself and remind myself that that isn’t who i am, and it never will be, i’m damned to a life of utter loneliness
Yeah I've got this. I cry badly at midnight with tears rolling down my cheeks and then I look into the mirror hopelessly and wipe them myself imagining a soft warm hand gently clearing them. I desperately wait for someone to come and hug me but the reality is I don't even remember the last time someone hugged me. Ten-fifteen minutes pass by as I stare at the wall regretting everything I've done in life and not even having a single person who you can call at that moment eats you from inside. Finally I tightly press my face against the pillow, let it soak my tears and cry myself to sleep.
You know what sucks is that a lot of us laugh about not having friends but in reality it hurts seeing all these friend groups going out and having fun knowing you probably won’t be a part of anything like that soon
I'm 29 and I can remember a decade ago thinking how awesome things will be once I'm in my 30's. I'm almost there and upon reflection, i wasted my youth chasing women that didn't care about me, was homeless on and off, always money problems. Never had a real social group since high school. This life sucks
Being Asian especially Indian, mental illness is the most hardest subject to bring forth to your parents. It's all a myth according the parents, it's just inside your head. Every time, I cry about my feelings to my mom, she has the same response; drink water, pray and meditate; it'll all be gone. I'm not even religious, but I can't even say that outside, I'd be disowned.
Hey went through mental illness as well from 13 years old but now at 18 things are much better. I want to create an instagram group where strangers with similar struggles can share their thoughts so they don’t feel alone. Do you want to join ? You are not alone
Well I’m Haitian but I feel this. My mom doesn’t even know that I’m dealing with depression and anxiety and taking meds for them. If I told her, she would tell me to pray harder and go to church
I'm so alone I listen to asmr, basically videos where people pretend to talk to you and interact with you, comfort you, etc. And I like to pretend its real because, well, its the most comfort I can get. And every night I listen to breathing sounds so it feels like someone is next to me.
My thoughts. I do feel like much of that stigma is gone for stuffed animals, though. There IS still a big stigma around guys talking to anime girls for comfort, though. Most people think "pervert" and sure of course guys are attracted to pretty anime girls, but to be talking to an anime girl all the time, what does that say? It often says that people have treated you so badly that you feel like it's impossible to have a friend (mainly girls in this case) that cares about you, so you gave up talking to real girls or people. (Often making true guy friends is impossible cause of toxic masculinity and most guys not revealing their emotions, so a true friendship of compassion cannot be built).
Is it only me or anyone's else daydreams about a world where you are the center of attention and everyone's praising you and you look perfect? You have friends and people who love you. You are capable of doing things that are hard for you to do in real life. You're a total badass and have a really loving partner. Then I come back to reality, which is hard to face and I realise how lonely and useless I really am. My imaginative world is an escape from reality. But I don't just wanna imagine it and actually try to be the person I want to be. Whenever I read a story or see a movie in which the main lead is really happy and useful and that he/she is loved by others, I want to be him/her. This sucks and getting my imagination off my mind is something really hard for me to do, but I'm trying to be in the real world as much as I can and work on myself to be a better person. ( Sorry I'm my English is bad, it isn't my first language )
Yes exactly!! I feel that same exact way!! I would even do some acting and imagine that I'm from a high born class family where I'm all that's left and I'm being interviewed on "why are you still single?" And all of a sudden I the woman I've been trying to get at is all of a sudden trying to interact with me cause of my connections... And wants the wealth but I'm to slick and start being oblivious to her.... Well I'm that's what I always imagine.
you know what's really odd? so many people are lonely, and the only reason that lonely people can't make each other feel less lonely is because everyone is kind of really hidden under a mask, people act happy and outgoing but they know that they have no one to tell their good news to, or no one to talk to...
I guess I’m the most shameless one here. I know I’m lonely but I don’t really do anything about it. I sit in the lunch room full of me(in other world I sit by myself lol) I don’t mind being lonely and I love how I care less about how people see me... I don’t try to act that way they don’t have expectations for me.
@@provenduck1959 that's real nice, not caring a lot about how people see you, most people out there don't share their problems with others because they're afraid of what people will think about them. And at the end of the day the goal is doing whatever that makes you happy, if you're okay with being by yourself, that's great!
Have you ever heard of Enneagram? I’m type 5 so it comes in handy. You should take the enneagram test to know more about yourself. I’ve learned that the loneliest I am the greatest the benefit I got from it, but that’s just type 5 enneagram people. It’s actually really cool because people would think I’m cold and distant, which I am, but that’s how i’m built.
I would just spend hours meladaptive daydreaming. I would be in my head and create characters, and different scenarios when I'm bored,or at times to cope with the world or deal with anxiety or depression or negative emotions or bad situations. Still do it.
you must be INFP or INFJ, I do that all the time but now I'm trying to live in reality out of my comfort zone and strive in real life, this world is a rough place
I've never held hands with someone. I always fantasized of intertwining fingers with another person and constantly doing it with myself as I repeat "one day" in my mind.
I'm a student, living alone. I just got back from taking a walk and the hardest part is passing houses knowing inside there is a family, and their happy and all together. And I have no one. I have my stuffed teddy. My heart is hurting because I have no one and I long to just get a hug from someone.
I’m just saying - and I apologize if this offends anyone - but if your friend abandons you during one of the/the most hardest time of your life, then you do not need to be friends with that person. If they’re willing to drop your friendship and not help you out when you’re struggling, they wouldn’t be there for when it counts. It’s genuinely so upsetting that y’all have friends that up and left when you were looking for support - no one deserves that. I hope y’all are in a better place now with people who are actually supportive😊💜
The worst thing for me is working around people that aren’t lonely. They have close knit families and friends. It makes me feel even lonelier when they tend to have stories to tell and I have none. I feel like they think I’m damaged, not completely wrong. I’ve been betrayed a lot. I’d still like to make friends but anxiety from being betrayed and just becoming plain and dull over the years doesn’t help.
All that you are worrying about dosent matter. I had these problems too but ask yourself the real questions. What do you really want? To be lonely or to fit in with others? You didnt ask for this but it happens.....why? Your perception....you have to understand that things are what you think they seem. Find out who you really are bro
people have close knit families and friends. They tell you stories. But they don't talk about their true feelings. I have a husband and a son, a job, a garden, and I have many stories to tell. But I sit and read comments at night. You know why? People may have families and friends but feel lonely.
The worst part of being alone… is constantly trying to distract myself from the fact that she’s not here anymore and when I find a moment of silence it’s almost unbearable.. all the memories, confusion and regrets all flood in….
When the woman talked about how being lonely is like longing for something that you feel like you will never have really hit me and I totally relate to it
NoManWalking you will you just need to be patient and try to be the best and happiest you. Maybe try putting yourself out there and making the first move with people. Do what makes u truly happy and surround yourself with amazing people.
i'm so lonely that the only way i vent out my feelings is by creating imaginary people in my mind and conversing with them. my family doesnt know that i'm suicidal, nor do my friends. i have come to a point where these conversations are my only interactions, destipe living with my family
Please don’t commit suicide!! Time heals.. you are so strong because you still are here and one part of you believes one day everything will be alright!!
I've never connected so much to a comment before. I feel like we're in the same situation, I understand what you're going through. I don't know, I just wanted you to know that you're not alone in this, and I hope you're going to feel better
Hey I know I don't know you personally, but I hope you feel happier soon. No one deserves to feel that way and I hope you know there are always people out there for you, even if you don't realize it.
Wrong, the worst loneliness is when no one is comfortable with YOU. when they don't magically gravitate to you like they do everyone else, that can be damaging to you, and give you a complex that something is wrong with you, until eventually you take your own life...that's the reality.
In school I almost never talk to anyone or walk around. I hate when other people see how lonely and alone I am and still don't care. The few times I actually talk with someone, is with teachers in class, or if someone wants something from me. I have a big hole in my heart that stands for friendship, hugging another human, kissing a girl, hugging a girl, having a girlfriend and getting love (both from family and friends). Every day I wonder if and when that hole will be filled, when someone actually likes me back because they like me and not because I have something they want...
I have a confession to make: Every single day for the last year I’ve been living in this fantasy where I’m with someone I love with my whole heart, and I am fully aware of this. I cry all the time about it and have constant panic attacks. As someone who’s love language is touch, it’s extremely hard to go through this, I hug my stuffed animals every night to help me sleep because of this. I’m only 16,and I feel like I shouldn’t feel like this.
What that’s called I believe is a coping mechanism if it makes you feel better there is nothing wrong with that panic attacks are awful try to remind yourself that you are okay now and you will be okay because you are strong. I don’t know your situation but if you can reach out to family and friends to tell them how you feel and you will see how much you are loved. Stay strong brother!
I’ve felt lonely for over 3 years and I’ve created imaginary characters that I got so emotionally attached with.. now they live with me on daily and I can’t get rid of them
I've realised that one of the things I do to combat my severe loneliness is to watch RU-vid videos of groups of friends having adventures together and pretend that I'm part of their group having a laugh with them.
I understand the guy eating lunch in bathroom. No one gets him. no one understands him. He feels ostracized. It’s a horrible feeling. I have went though the same thing my entire life. I’m numb to it now and kinda accepted it. I’m sure he has tried to approach people and make friends. For me when I approach people and try to make friends it never ends well and I end up in the bathroom stall eating my lunch. I understand so much what he is going through. No matter how much I try to interact and “normalize” these interactions I always fail. It’s a lot easier for me to avoid. It’s so tough.
oh I know that... it is worst than just being alone at home... cause you realize that everybody has someone to talk to but you and it makes it even worse.
@@jfrv2244 agreed life is harsh and people can be very cruel. I like being alone but sometimes the feeling of having no one to talk to really makes me feel empty especially in the middle of the night. It's embarrassing to say but I cry myself to sleep alot. My life's very forgetful and sad:(
This made me cry. Hope everyone who read this and currently struggling know that you are not alone. There is me, a stranger who wll pray for your happiness. We will get through this together.
The best thing I do is to talk to myself. I do this all the time. I was talking to myself while watching this video. It's like explaining something to myself as a friend.
Social anxiety makes it so hard for me to make friends. I want some, I really do but when someone finally speaks to me or gives me attention, I shut them out and instantly regret it. I don't eat anything in school because I'm too scared to eat in the canteen, I stay in the bathroom stalls all break and lunch either crying or talking to myself like a maniac. I tell my family I'm ok all the time but really I'm not. Why am I like this?
same but i think the reason why i shut them down is because im too scared of what they think of me, i always disappoint people and i dont want them to be disappointed, so sometimes i step back first. honestly i always catch them disappointed bc im quiet and most of ppl find it boring/not helpful :( yeah... im so sorry this is tmi i just want to let it out
@@user-ug2qv9nn2j Yea, I've gotten panic attacks because of situations where I think I've said something wrong, or that I talked too much and got little response back. I also blocked friends who I think weren't reflecting my philosophy on life. Sometimes, walking away from someone you known for years, is a sacrifice that will be worth it when you're successful.
Let’s all be lonely together. There isn’t a single person on this planet who deserves to be completely alone. Anyone who clicked on this video deserves to be happy and same goes to this sun the video. I want to give everyone a hug.
I’m quite lonely. I had “friends” as a kid but in reality I never clicked with anyone. I just wanted not to be singled out. As I aged, I realized how toxic those people were, so I started drifting apart from them. I withdrew into myself even through college. It was easy to ignore it in college because I was busy with my classes and with my job. But there was a gap between that and where I am now and it was then that I realized how lonely I was. There was this time when my sister began dating and socializing and it made me feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I cried on my way home when she went out with friends. I felt like a weirdo. My ex boyfriend got in contact with me and we went out a bit. I thought maybe we could be friends and I wouldn’t be so lonely. I really cared for him. We’d known each other since we were 9 or 10. Unfortunately he wanted to be more than friends and it put a damper on our situation. Once again I fell into my sadness. My mom tried to make me socialize because she knew I was in pain. Now, I’m kind of used to it. Even at work I notice little groups of people who are friends and text or hang out outside of work. I’m the only one left out. It’s my own doing. I fill myself with anxiety and think they won’t like me so I don’t make an effort. I don’t want sympathy. There was a time I was so lonely and wanted someone just to hug me. Like I felt I would scream because I just wanted a simple touch.
something similar is happening with me, in the last 2 months. because of the outbreak and now going back to school, our class is divided into 2 halves, based on the last names. I'm in the first one. My only friend that I hang out with and talk to is in the 2nd. I don't know how to talk to people, I've tried it many times but always resulting in me not knowing what to say and my mind literally going blank and then I just give an awkward response. That happens with people that I'm not close with but with people that I am, I can make jokes, talk normally and generally be myself. But getting close and comfortable with someone takes months of interaction with each other, which is way too long. (an example is from back in sixth grade, it took me 4 months to get comfortable/open with a good friend. It´s only gotten worse since then). Given all of that and my social awkwardness, I was just sitting at my table during class doing nothing while everyone in the class conversed and laughed with each other. I don't even try anymore which is my own fault, not anyone else's. I know that I should have done something a few years ago because this is basically self done. I'm hopeless but I've done this to myself
Blah I think so. But I think it’s possible that my pst experience with toxic friends damaged me to the point that I feel everyone is going to treat me the same.
joe mama This sounds like when I was younger. I totally understand the awkwardness at small talk. I still suffer from that. I had a professor in college pull me in to his office to talk about how shy and quiet I was. He was nice about it but basically told me I had to get rid of it because I was putting myself in a box. It’s hard, and I cannot imagine being in this situation plus this pandemic and social distancing does not make it easier. Hang in there. ❤️
Real Mexican Food Shouldn't Give You Diarrhea Same here. I’ve never had a healthy friendship. Every time I had built a new friendship, it felt like it wouldn’t last or wasn’t genuine. I always thought that maybe I was the problem that these friendship didn’t last... I realize later on that I’m not the problem, the toxic people was. Having toxic friendships had resulted in me not befriending anyone anymore.
@Miguel Hernandez Jubilee needs to find a way to ban you from commenting on their videos. You are truly a piece of work that is always trying make others feel bad.
@Miguel Hernandez nope, definitely not. I don't wear makeup. I don't listen to Billie at all. My favourite singer is Christina Aguilera. I love her powerful voice.
@Miguel Hernandez her voice is very powerful. She has a 4 octave vocal range and so much richness to her vocal tone. She has many inspiring songs (such as Beautiful, Fighter, Can't Hold Us Down, The Voice Within etc) that lift people up and empower them, which is the exact opposite of what you do. I see your comments on Jubilee all the time. Jubilee is a channel focused on creating empathy. All you do is post comments on here being rude to people and minimizing their experiences. You might want to get professional help and examine why you constantly feel the need to bring others down.
I’ve always been told to “be yourself” but the more I’m myself around people the more lonely I become. I have nothing in common with anyone. Also why can’t people just be nice to me!
I hope you’re better now .i was so alone for almost a year.going home alone after school i always choke up tears while doing that . I’m so used to crying at night while choking my tears and holding my screams and not breathe. It’s honestly scary. in the past i held onto my toxic friends because losing people and being all alone was my biggest fears the thought of it always scares me but now I’m sort of over it honestly coz it was a blessing that I spent a few years being alone without friends at some point i had to live with only me to know my self worth even tho i make up nightmares in my head of dying alone with no one caring that i died or committing suicide with people letting out a sigh of relief that I’m finally gone
I grew up in a home where we never showed or talked much about what we were feeling or emotions in general. So neither me nor my brother are not really able to connect with people, as we kind of seem to lack a vital part in social connection. It’s like you want to connect with people, but you don’t know how. When I was upset as a child, I was locked inside my room until I calmed down, rather than asked about what was wrong.
The only thing I want in life is a friend. Someone genuine I can spill all my secrets to, laugh with and go out with… instead every lunchtime I stand behind a locked bathroom door, and my mum has no idea how dark my mind is.
I am chronically lonely. Yeah I have some “people” and my best friend that lives far away but people I know treat me like I’m an acquaintance. They don’t show up when I need them, I don’t see them and my life is a blur of people that come and go, noticing a trait in me that is undesirable. Whether it’s a lover of a friend, I’m picked up and dropped when they realise I’m no longer worthy
i feel your pain. i know alot of people and alot of people know me. but whenever i have problems or i feel really upset, Idk who to turn to because im not that close or comfortable enough with them. they are all just there temporarily anyways
I don't know if I'm the only one who feels like this, I feel more lonely when there are people around me, like I'm fine with being with myself, but loneliness hits me when there are people around and they wouldn't pay attention or even care sometimes or listen to you,like they have other people they would prefer talking to rather than me.
When around such people and I feel this way I always think wrong people and wrong timing. It's no one's fault. Give it time you will be surrounded be right people.
ive always been a person who is alone a lot. not antisocial, but not social. but not introverted either. ive always talked to myself throughout my whole life to fill the void. but every now and then, i sit adn actually realize how lonely i am. and it hits.
When I was in middle school I was lonely and there was this school assembly about loneliness and becoming friends with people who are alone I started crying because I knew nothing was ganna change
It will I promise. It will when you start to let go of negative emotions though it will be hard to get rid when you have associated yourself with these feelings for a long time. But in the end, it will be all worth it. Don’t ever give up ^
Sometimes I hug the fridge, the wall or any furniture... I feel so lonely and hurt, all that I need and ask for is just a hug but no one is there for me.
I listen to asmr roleplay videos almost every night to feel like im being cared, loved and even talked to. I wish they just come out of my screen and give me a hug
Every night honestly, unfortunately. Nowadays i just stopped listening to ASMRs and just listen to Juice Wrld's Empty. Because that's all i feel every night.
I don't even talk to myself anymore. Now I develop that thing where I created characters and I even gave them names, careers, ages, hobbies, life partners, where they live.. And many other details about them and I imagine myself with them for example having dinner or on a vacation or going to club together and I interact with them as if they were real. I pretend that they said something funny and I laugh and talk in loud voice as if they were really there with me. I even disagree and fight with them.
I used to do this alot and sometimes got overly sad that I would never meet that person irl but I began to understand it was effecting me and wasn't just something in my life anymore. Theres someone out there irl that's gonna change your life and be even better than the ppl u created so just hold out for them and enjoy life to the fullest. Your in this life one time make the most of it 🙏🙏
I do know how you feel...strong out buh shattered in...buh believe me it's all gonna change... you'll get that one person who will love you and you'll never feel lonely ❤️
I create original characters and stories, I draw them and make comics and stuff, but I also imagine those characters in different scenarios in my head, scenarios where they are having fun together, being supportive with eachother and overcoming problems together. They are just a group of friends who are happy. And I love to imagine them. Imagine I *am* one of them. It brings me joy and comfort. And it's sad to admit that.
This happened to me a while ago w my ex friend group, I was always pushed aside and felt loneliness only one friend would talk to me and she heard me out multiple times and included me as much as she could. Later she got annoyed of my loneliness and everyone started ignoring me and it caused a huge fight and therefore I lost all of my friends. Today still trying to navigate life knowing I don't have those ppl,y new friends understand how I feel and always make me feel included. Just remember take it a day at a time
to the one who said they want someone to hold them- I have always, always, wanted to fall in love with someone, to hold them and tell them how much I love them.... Maybe our stars will align and we will find ourselves together. The one who craves to be loved, and the one who craves to love someone. we could very well be a match made in heaven
As someone who often buries the need of feeling truly loved, your comment gives me hope of someday finding someone like you. I hope you don't mind me taking a screenshot to have this at hand reach for when I need a reminder. Thank you SO much for making my day.
Im exactly like you Always and i mean ALWAYS craved to fall in love for more than 18 years trust me when i say YOU DONT.wanna fall in love. When that person leaves,its just gonna hurt SO SO much. Please,dont ever fall in love It just hurts so much when its over
It's not a "burden," as I see it. With each individual comes a different set of expectations, desires, and needs if one wants to foster a relationship with them. If the people in your life are truly looking to retain that relationship with you, and you want to do the same with them, it would only make sense for those expectations, desires, and needs to be out on the table, so you both know what the other needs best in order to be accommodated. It's not a "burden" to admit you are lonely. You are only being straightforward about the fact that you need your needs to be met.
I’m one of the kids that are a bit too loud and talkative. Everyone seems to like it, but I don’t. I’ve always liked the quiet kids. I don’t know how to approach them, and they probably don’t want me to approach them though. I just admire their ability to mind their business. I’m lucky as heck to be able to speak so impulsively and not overthink before speaking, but I always regret my words as soon as I talk.
i used to be a quiet kid so!! idk if this helps! but honestly a lot of my more extroverted friends just approached me repeatedly lmao, i did the same with my quieter friends later down the line. as long as you can tell you’re not violating boundaries or anything its just a matter of time until they open up :) never be afraid to ask people if theyre uncomfortable!! sure its awkward but it saves u a lot of slack
Idk but I subconsciously hold both of my hands while I sleep to not feel lonely, I've always dream of having to hold hands to someone while I fall asleep
I am very lonely but I also can't see anything in myself worth sharing with others. the only value i have is the possessions I own so I try to share and be generous with them because that's all I'm worth.
