All the time lol Edit: I.e. I’ve got friends I technically ‘could’ tell, but the problem is that I feel they won’t really care, or will dismiss it or will just insult me for it idk
what about the opposite? "when something bad happens to you and you wanted so badly to talk to someone but no one is there for you, or no one to speak to"
Sometimes you feel the loneliest when you’re around people. When they’re in groups talking to each other or laughing with the their friends and you’re just.. there
@Brielle Brooks Wow you really wrote much. But it's ok. I'm sure now you'll be feeling a little lighter in your heart. Maybe you wanted to tell your story to somebody who listen. If you don't like the behavior of your friend because she's indulged with her other friends then just let her go. Eventually you'll get more friends who'll be with you and listen to you. Don't ever think you're alone 🤗.
Brielle Brooks it’s cool I’ll be your friend.Also it’s not even like you don’t make friends it’s just that you don’t want to change yourself to fit in and not a lot of people can do that.And also I think all of depression and anxiety Is a perspective game like something could affect a person so much but someone else will wipe off the same thing like nothing happened and I think it’s also age related so your not the only one.
Today was my high school graduation and no one showed up for me. Not even my parents. It was cripplingly painful to see friends hugging their parents and taking pictures while I had to go back to my own dark empty car and drive myself home.
Congratulations on your graduation! Graduating high school is a big deal and an accomplishment worth celebrating. Just know that a stranger out there somewhere (me) is proud of you and is cheering you on :)
Then when you reach out, they don’t reply or even acknowledge your existence. I feel like I’m dead to most people. Then, those who I’m not invisible to either want me to change (too much) or offer advice that I need to stop looking for validation or companionship in others. Doesn’t change the fact that I’d love the connection, but then it makes me wonder if I like things as much as the idea of the things.
One of the worst things is realizing that you are living most of your life in your head. The conversations, laughs, & friends you wish to have are all in your head.
try to find self love i promise you it changed me I was so depressed and felt so so alone and I started to realize my worth and being okay with myself. I know it gets hard but you have been with yourself through everything. You don’t need people all the time. Just knowing you have yourself and accepting it and loving it. If you ever need anyone to talk to I’ll give you my Snapchat if you have it.
@@dulapeepbars3872 yeah i agree developing a new skill might also help uplift your confidence like i did by learning stock market trading just hook on a skill it will help
I just leave or stay away from people like that. But in certain situations where I am around people ignoring me, it is truely a very bad feeling. I usually prefer being alone, though, if im choosing to be around people at the moment, id feel pretty lonely if they completely ignored me
Does anyone else get scared that your friends and family secretly see you as a burden or just dont like you. Like they care about you, but they dont like you.
I am the exact same way. I have full on conversations with myself as though it is another person. Its like my conscience and I are two different people. That being said there's the other part of me that tells me I am worthless and I will always be lonely. Its a real struggle that I have. I just want to be happy. Truly happy.
@-- I also do that..... but I am actually taking an *interview* with a person who wants to write a book about my life.... I know it sounds weird.. but every time I do something, I imagine that interviewer asking me something like: "So *name* , when did you realise you have a passion for" or questions like that..... To be fair, I know it sounds weird but my life is actually pretty interesting.... I started my own business at 13 at 15 I took an IQ test (an official one) and it turns out I am smarter than 7.6 billion people..... currently I am homeschooling myself, even tho I finished everything in the first month
sometimes i have full-length conversations with myself where i pretend that i'm being "interviewed" about my feelings or my day and on bad days these conversations can go on for an hour. it took me a while to realize that i do this because barely anyone ever asks me how i'm really feeling/doing
me too... sometimes for several hours. every now and again, I'll become awfully self aware and think to myself "nobody asked that. There's noone here". and ill just break emotionally...
I like Poe, but some of his letters felt like he tried to isolate people he loved. His cousin-wife, for example, was set to be helped by a relative, but Poe fought against the notion and eventually had his way and married her. His _The Raven_ is pretty cool tho The poem quoted in the original comment is Poe's _Alone_
Studies show that the most successful people talk to them self’s so there’s nothing to be ashamed of talking to yourself. Coming from someone who does it too.
Hahahha I don’t talk to myself I talk to my “imaginary friends” It’s really hard to explain without sounding like a psychopath Do I still count as a successful person?
I actually like to daydream about having my soulmate by my side, laying on grass and stargazing, dancing with them on my favourite songs, traveling together, ice skating, horse riding, going to carnival, sky diving and shopping all while achieving success and thinking about spending the rest of my life with them.
the worst feeling is when you’re so upset and you cry yourself to sleep at night, but you have no one to talk to because you’re too ashamed to tell friends or family.
My problem is that I have “friends” but they are pretty much acquaintances that I talk to because there is no one else to talk to. It’s a terrible feeling when your “friends” feel so superficial and you can’t make real/genuine connections :/
I relate. It's so unbelievably rare to meet someone who is interested in genuine deep connection, happened to me, where suddenly you remember again what life is about. It's beautiful. But people move away, things change... and then you're stuck with the average uninterested superficial 'relationships' where you still feel kind of empty when going back home.
I agree. You can't really be your true authentic self or express your true feelings to people anymore. And it's only getting worse. Narcissism is at an all-time high.
A few years ago, I tried to end myself. My friends didn't understand, blamed me for the way they felt about the situation and abandoned me, that is the loneliest I have ever felt, to be in need of a friend and to have none. I have nightmares, I'm scared of growing older and being alone, and I don't have anyone to reach out to....
my friends, they said i’m just bringing negativity with my suicidal thoughts and vibes to the group. i got called “the toxic friend” because of that but i don’t blame them
@@Venven033 You don't deserve that. Im so sorry. You aren't toxic. And your feelings are 100% valid. Your life is so valuable and God loves you so much.❤
Yo I literally imagine myself to be this gifted polymath girl debuted as kpop idol at 13 and later becomes the most popular one because of my talents. Acting in lots of western movies like the avengers, and do a lot of other things like writing my own book or having my own webtoon at such young age, because well I'm gifted and a polymath. And I would make a lot of money out of em, become one of the richest in asia, and use them to help better the world. Charity and charity and mooorreee charity because it's so painful to see the world's current state. I imagine being so honest and genuine despite me being a public figure, I am so controversial to the point that people either really support me or really hate me, but the genuineness ended up changing the entire toxic Korean entertainment industry hahaha. This is an imagination that have been continuing since I was in elementary school.... I can't get tired of it. It's more like an imagination about alternate reality, but of course I do imagine a lot about the future.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination
I disagree. Not because I believe there's something worse but because I believe they're equally terrible. I was lonely surrounded by poeple and it was awfull, and I was lonely without people. It sucks either way. It's not nice to say that something is worse. Don't compare loneliness. You can be surrounded by friends and be lonely and you can have no family and friends and be lonely as well.
I'm not alone in a physical way. I'm surrounded by friends, family but I still feel alone. I feel being trapped by myself around people. I refuse love and I don't know why I'm acting like this because it makes me sick.
I understand the feeling. Find one person you can connect with and let it all out. Your in this life one time make sure u enjoy it to the fullest 🙏 I'll be praying for u
I would also say to try and let it out to someone whether that's a therapist or a person you trust but I would also reccomend looking into a religion or some sort of lifestyle that can give you meaning
I understand. It will be hard but I think it's important to learn how to love, to push urself about it. Not with everyone of course but yeah. You will surely find somebody to love one day and even if u dont want to. Im not specifically talking about falling in love but friendship, family relation, etc. Love is a part of happiness, a big part.
Bro, I literally cried to this. The only comment ive ever cried to. For a while I’ve wanted a best friend a real one but now I don’t rlly. But thanks, and truly I wish the same to u
I talk about topics as loneliness on my channel as well: Loneliness is paradoxically the worst feeling a human being can experience but it’s also something comfortable for me personally, it’s part of me
I am watching this crying. I feel like this all the time: I am 39, not married and no kids and my dog was my whole world!!! He just died. The amount of loneliness I feel is soul crushing. I hold his stuffed animal every night and kiss it just to feel I have something to give my love to and feel close to something
Wow, you must have been through a lot. I'd like you to know that a stranger admires your perseverance and bravery. I hope you find your path to fulfilment in life, you deserve it too. I'm sorry to hear about your dog. Hope you can make new memories someday.
I know this is super late but, same thing happened to me with my cat. I had never felt so destroyed in my life. It’s so hard to do anything and I miss him so much. and I considered him a friend. But now he’s gone. I hope that you are doing better now and know that, you deserve happiness in your life!
fr!! nowadays everyone is too anxious to approach new people bc they’re scared of other peoples judgment. when in reality a lot of people are just as lonely and need a friend too (im the same way though lol)
@@imana8907 totally agree! i feel the exact same way as u. ive dealt w social anxiety ever since i can remember so it makes it even harder than it already would be to put myself out there unfortunately. i know idk u but i sincerely wish u the best and hope u can feel a slight sense of reassurance knowing that i am only a message away if u ever feel alone :)
Tbh I feel like lonely people don't get noticed much because we hide. Everyone around me seems to have a lot of friends. Even when I asked people if they ever felt lonely they said no. It's so hard to come across people who relate to you when it comes to lonelyness irl. I only find people who truely know that feeling online.
Bro i got a small house, and i literally walk to my car some evenings just so i could be away from anyone's eyes and just site there, sometimes cry my heart out while listening to music
@Miguel Hernandez This loser having spiraled so many times into anxiety and panic attacks that regular contemplation of my self value and worth lead to suicidal thoughts and endless nights of crying and nightmares that feel worse than death.
@@Siratioomia I like these kind of quotes. And so do at least 164 people :) Don't give up! You're more valuable than you feel and stronger than you think. I mean you deal with these issues every single day again and again. You're a warrior.
@Miguel Hernandez Who hurt you? Hey, remember that everything will be alright. You seem very angry, and i (an internet nobody) wish you all the best. Don't give up on yourself.
@Thomas Light That is very true though. But if i knew what strangers around be in my daily life had been through i would properply feel the exact same way.
@@BB-bq5eg Yeah yeah, I tell people about everything that's happened to me in the past to me in the past 2 years and they're all like "Oh that sucks." And they never talk to me again.
@@alexosow That sounds hard. I think a lot of people try to avoid that irl. That's why the internet is sometimes a good place, where you can say stuff like that, even though we're complete strangers, we will care (including me :)). Hope you're ok.
@@BB-bq5eg Yeah I definitely agree with you on that, but it is kinda harder to have a lasting conversation with someone online if you don't really have anything in common
@@alexosow Ofc. But i think just sharing it and having somebody resbond and care can be very helpful for somebody, even though you don't know or will properply ever know that person. But yes, it is better with real friendships (and relationships). But a lot of people have trouble handeling other peoples problems face to face. And ofc it is very very hard for the person sharing there problems to just get the cold shoulder. I feel very sorry for you to expirience that.
True true.. Also another time there was this guy who asked me at the end of the day, "why aren't you with your friends? You seem like you're lonely" and I'm like "I don't wanna be" I was so devastated back then holding my tears because of embarrassment lmaoo.
Same, whenever my colleagues ask me what I did at the weekend or on my days off, I always say I met up with friends for dinner, coffee etc when in truth I wandered round doing everything on my own. I just hope they never ask me to bring all my friends along because that will be difficult for sure!! 😅
I thought about it. Like why am I sitting totally alone, without friends, without anyone who could care ‘bout me if there’s so many ppl who also feel it and need support...
The hardest thing about breaking out of loneliness, is that when an opportunity comes, you are so use to being alone that you feel like you don't deserve it. And when you do take the opportunity, you can't enjoy the moment without thinking that sooner or later, you will go back to being lonely.
Thissss...this is the reason why I couldn't celebrate after getting selected into my dream medical college.The amount of hardwork I had put into entrance exam and cut out all the friends for that time but after the results it appeared to me those friends were no more there for me.
i have the worst abandonment issues because of this. i'm distant because everyone leaves. i don't have anyone because I know i can't handle another loss.
Honestly, it hurts me deeply whenever someone confesses loneliness on the internet, because I have experienced it and I would never wish it on any single person in the world, not even my enemy. Loneliness destroys you.
I agree, for a long time I had a horrible “friend” who beat the hell out of me, because I was terrified of being lonely, but it’s so much better without him
i hate people that say this. i literally would rather have someone that literally would talk to me at least once a week rather than being completely alone. like just the thought that someone cares is comforting even if they really don’t, sometimes, ik it’s damaging in the long run but i’d literally do anything for that again
that's happened to me all my life, in school, at home everywhere. the sad thing is I'm young. I feel ignored but I can't demand because externally I just look happy, people come to me telling me I give happy vibes so I feel like if I tell them about these things they'll just be disappointed because I was not what they expected.
I feel the loneliest when I'm with my friends. They were talking about their life success, while I'm stuck in rock bottom. Then I'll pretend to smile, and congratulate them. Went home, sleep under my bed with full volume music, but I don't cry... I wanna cry, but I'm too tired to even do that...
I tell myself I'm an introvert a lot and that I don't like being around people, but I think the only reason I tell myself these things is because I attempt to feel less lonely. I wish I could have friends to go out and do things with. All I long for is friends, but my anxiety and fear of judgement always keep me from being myself around people. It takes me so long to adjust and get used to people and I hate myself for it.
Don't hate yourself for it. It better to just accept it as you have been. Loneliest is something that based off perception and emotion and you can get rid of it and convince yourself it isn't a problem. It better to do this and be "happy" than to remind yourself of the problem. Don't seek for answers, forget the questions.
i relate. my friends that i've known for years. I have 3 that i'm completely comfortable around i'm glad they stuck with me when i was quiet. they also can make friends so quick and i'll hangout with their new friends but um always more quiet. I wanna say something but a part of my mind stops me from talking to them. I feel like they'll hate me if i say something wrong. I've been slowly getting out of that state of mind because i've been talking to people online. And I feel there's no judgment or if they do judge me it doesn't matter since they live in a different state or a different country. It been helping me finally talk my thoughts to people i've just been meeting. or people that i met through my friends a long time ago but never gotten close to.
I do the same I talk to myself and when deeply think about what I'm doing and how I'm talking to myself I feel like I'm a weirdo and no one else does it
i make up stories about me having a friend. i like to imagine what they would say to me, when i accomplish something i imagine them being proud, i imagine them giving my drawings criticism and praise, i like to hug my big toy doggo and pretend like that's my friend hugging me, i stroke my own hair when i get that sinking feeling (like someone's consoling me), i fall asleep to random videos because that makes it feel like i have someone i know and live with.
i also do the exact same thing! i wish i could hug u and tell u that ure special cause nobody deserves to feel like this, i really hope ure better now ❤
How can someone not feel lonely in 2020? Right after the lockdown in my country, I was so upset that I started dancing hits from the 70s and 80s I my living room. I WILL SURVIVE was the opening hit. You might be lonely, but you are not alone! Take care wherever you are 💗💗
Have anyone ever gotten to the point where they just hold a pillow and cry themselves to sleep all while fantasizing that the pillow ur holding is your s/o holding you and telling you everything is ok and you aren’t ugly or alone. I think I have issues because this is somewhat normal
no but i’ll imagine myself doing basic things such as having a good time with other people and being an extrovert people like, then i’ll smack myself and remind myself that that isn’t who i am, and it never will be, i’m damned to a life of utter loneliness
Yeah I've got this. I cry badly at midnight with tears rolling down my cheeks and then I look into the mirror hopelessly and wipe them myself imagining a soft warm hand gently clearing them. I desperately wait for someone to come and hug me but the reality is I don't even remember the last time someone hugged me. Ten-fifteen minutes pass by as I stare at the wall regretting everything I've done in life and not even having a single person who you can call at that moment eats you from inside. Finally I tightly press my face against the pillow, let it soak my tears and cry myself to sleep.
The worst part? You want to be successful, accomplished , and famous just so that you can have friends, people that care about you and give you the affection you always craved .
But famous people will never know who is really their friend, or if the person is just using them. Just look at Britney Spears. Even her family used her.
That’s a terrible way to look at having friends. If ppl want u in their life because of those things and those things only they r not the person u want in ur life . U should try to find someone who likes u simply for who YOU are. Not for what u have or are capable of
I had posted on Facebook, "Loneliness is a feeling worst than pain itself." And one of my new co-workers commented on it and said that he would love to hang out with me sometime because he gets lonely too. We began dating and after 3 months he began abusing me, belittling me, telling me how his ex looked better than me, would talk badly to people at work about me, isolate me from my family, and would tell everyone we knew that I didn't deserve friends after I broke up with him. I am alone again but I would take that loneliness over someone making me feel alone any day.
I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I hope things are better for you now. Just know that you are worthy of love and friendships. Wishing you the best.
I keep myself in an imaginary world where I have many people who loves me. But the second I realise that it's just me making that up I burst out crying realising how helpless I am.
It's not only you my dear even I go through the same thoughts I imagine that there are many friends around me and I share all the funny stories and trends I wipe my tears imagining my friend is wiping then I realised it only me I keep crying till I fall asleep.
@@nicolealfonso757 it's just so annoying and frustrating that when I snap back to reality i feel hopeless. That's the main reason I don't have any social medias. Just RU-vid and WhatsApp and I'm glad. Don't know how to overcome this imagination. Hope ur doing gud too beautiful.
I think the only reason why I still survive is because of my illusions. I take comfort in daydreaming where I am the exact opposite of what I am now being lonely. These illusions would become overwhelming to the point that I'd space out for a while because I am too busy living in a story I am creating in my head. This is how I cope up when I experience mental breakdown. There are times that I'd go out of my bedroom smiling and hyped up because I haven't fully woke up from the daydream I just had. The worst feeling is when you come back to reality and the pillow that you were imagining as a person who loves you just became a normal pillow.
One of the top comments has a reply thread of people feeling the same way. Maybe you could talk to them. Have you ever played club penguin? You can talk to many people who'd care and listen if they heard your story. You might find people in the same area, I don't know.
Yes. Except I am not in the daydreams I dream, but I do it basically for the same reason. I use a lot of forms of escapism to the point where I become less functional.
Omg so relatable at this point I’m just living the story i created in my head where i have a imaginary best friend who comforts me everyday and whenever i try to break out of it. The atmosphere turns depressing and i break down mentally and cry a pool of tears because of how bad my life is rn. Daydreaming is how i cope with daily
@@reezyzfrenchfries3872 I am daydreaming that an interviewer asks me questions about my life, the person wants to write a book about my life..... I mean I live an interesting life but it's all literally happening in my bedroom, I finished school but I am only 15, I mean I finished this year in 1 month because I am pretty smart but I want to be seen......normal
Being Asian especially Indian, mental illness is the most hardest subject to bring forth to your parents. It's all a myth according the parents, it's just inside your head. Every time, I cry about my feelings to my mom, she has the same response; drink water, pray and meditate; it'll all be gone. I'm not even religious, but I can't even say that outside, I'd be disowned.
Hey went through mental illness as well from 13 years old but now at 18 things are much better. I want to create an instagram group where strangers with similar struggles can share their thoughts so they don’t feel alone. Do you want to join ? You are not alone
Well I’m Haitian but I feel this. My mom doesn’t even know that I’m dealing with depression and anxiety and taking meds for them. If I told her, she would tell me to pray harder and go to church
i’m so lonely that when someone touches my hand by accident or a friend hugs me i think about it for weeks and crave it ,,, i’m a total introvert with really bad social anxiety and anxiety in general but i still NEED physical touch. since i have such bad anxiety and barely can go to school plus with covid, i rarely see my friends and even if i do, they aren’t touchy at all,,, i literally just need a hug 🧍♂️ edit: not y’all liking this comments this is so pathetic and embarrassing i didn’t think 200 people would relate woo hoo but i love you all,, sending a hug to my fellow touch starved loners
I treat people around me how I want to be treated. I listen, comfort, am interested, and am always careful about what I say. But I haven’t experienced someone doing the same for me. It makes me wonder weather anymore around me actually cares.
I know what you mean. Sometimes I stop talking mid sentence and no one ever even indicates that they notice. I feel like people really only care to talk about themselves for the most part. It's really hard to make friends to share with.
I'm constantly jealous of people who have best friends. To have someone you know everything about, to tell them about everything going on in your life. Like I have close friends, but there isn't one person that I can think of that I'd label as a 'best friend'.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination
My thoughts. I do feel like much of that stigma is gone for stuffed animals, though. There IS still a big stigma around guys talking to anime girls for comfort, though. Most people think "pervert" and sure of course guys are attracted to pretty anime girls, but to be talking to an anime girl all the time, what does that say? It often says that people have treated you so badly that you feel like it's impossible to have a friend (mainly girls in this case) that cares about you, so you gave up talking to real girls or people. (Often making true guy friends is impossible cause of toxic masculinity and most guys not revealing their emotions, so a true friendship of compassion cannot be built).
I'm 28. Only had 1 friend, in high school, and think about him daily. Only had 1 gf, for 6 years, but it was long distance and never made to met her, and because of my depression getting worse and worse she couldn't wait for me anymore, which I understand. Last weekend I learnt she's getting married. It hit me so hard. My family loves me, 2 people, but only because they're forced to love me, because they are my family. If they weren't they wouldn't care about me, so it's a love doesn't really matter because they don't love because of who I am, but because they're my family. So at the end of the day I feel completely lone in this world. Been like this for 10 years since I finished high school and the worst part of it all is that I know very well it's not going to be fixed anytime soon, and so in the case I ever get it fixed. So I understand all of you very well. It sucks, but life is like this. Much love to you all❤️
And love to you as well. Some of the best word I've ever heard was that it's okay to be broken. I sometimes look at my family and think that i would want almost nothing to do with them if I didn't know so much about them. If only someone was willing to try and listen to someone else then we could have more friends who are closer than family. I know my friends often feel much closer than my family. I love you, and I hope that you have someone who will talk to you at anytime. It is often at night that I feel lonely, bc I know that no one will talk with me because they are asleep
No you are wrong, your family doesn’t have to love you. There’s plenty of horror stories of abuse to prove that. Be grateful you have those two family members. Hope things work out for you
My parents think Im addicted to my phone because i only lay in bed and watch series or videos. In reality It is my shield where i can imagine my Life being like those shows and be Happy It really is my safe place. Any one??
I am not even kidding, this is the best timing ever. I just left half way through my dance rehearsals on zoom, literally crying outside the frame. I felt so lonely and left out, and sometimes I feel like a failure. These days, I feel like life has been pushing me into a corner. I’ve been crying everyday and sometimes I feel like quitting my dance career
You're not a failure, don't say that. Keep going, I know you can do it ❤ sometimes life is an ass and the path can be rocky but I promise it'll be worth it and you'll shine 😊 stay safe and best wishes 💕
Once I felt like this during my theater clases. Everyone talked to eachother and I was the one always left out. And I quit for a year. Then I comeback beacuse my teacher wanted me in a play. And in that moment I realize that I was seen and that it was a mistake to quit for a year, but also was good for thinking what I wanted for myself and the others could not stop me from that. I hope that you feel better, maybe your heart and soul need a rest
You know what sucks is that a lot of us laugh about not having friends but in reality it hurts seeing all these friend groups going out and having fun knowing you probably won’t be a part of anything like that soon
I'm 29 and I can remember a decade ago thinking how awesome things will be once I'm in my 30's. I'm almost there and upon reflection, i wasted my youth chasing women that didn't care about me, was homeless on and off, always money problems. Never had a real social group since high school. This life sucks
Loneliness is why I'm constantly playing RU-vid videos and have them playing in my flat even when I'm not in the room and can't hear them. It feels like a constant, really reliable presence.
I feel so lonely that I find myself reading the comment threads of videos I like. It's about the only time I feel genuinely laughing or seeing that there are more people out there who're like me, or share my interests. I wish I could meet any one of you
@@stavrlite397 Heyyooo I’m also a fan of beluga… if you know who that is, I just saw your pfp that has his youtube banner lol and btw it’s alr to feel lonely.. remember the saying every new beginning is some beginnings’s end.. so u will end up finding someone one day. Just do not lose hope.
To be honest society created this. You look back at previous generations of humans and society was completely different. Human history reveals a lot of how and where each iteration of society came from. Today’s society is structured based on democratic capatlism power which puts consumers at higher levels. This was the co sequence of the 1700 to 1800 transition from a colonial period. Most of today’s society is I flurnced by hard economic items and commodities. This gives rise in greed and conquest in humans. Earlier time periods didn’t have such things since currency was different and trading was just born.Each new society introduces problems which can be solved easily. There is really truly nothing fudnemntally wrong with us. It’s a fact that society is strctured in such a way that a human being responds to this in certain situations. Look up society evolution and you will know what I mean
@@awesomesauce8199 They think this generation is overly dramatic. Mental health disorders were definitely not discussed back then it was kept in the closet in the family alone. So they really don't know anything about that kind of an issue.
@@rhea3990 that’s true this generation needs to address mental health issues because it’s important to us humans. Nowadays people are influenced by social media and constant posting pics of how excellent day they had. It’s like showing off that your are better than someone else which isn’t a good thing. This leads to depression and anxiety in which society should blame itself for creating such structures.
That’s why I want a pet, specifically a cat. But my mom won’t let me get one, even tho I keep telling her that a pet would help me combat my anxiety and loneliness
The loneliest I ever felt was hearing my parents and my brother laughing and chatting while I was having an anxiety attack. What made it worse was when I went downstairs to have fun with them, the laughing and chatting immediately stops and i could cut the tension with a knife. It hurts.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Honey....you’re loved beyond your imagination I used to have anxiety as well. God set me free, literally broke the chains off my heart
Wrong, the worst loneliness is when no one is comfortable with YOU. when they don't magically gravitate to you like they do everyone else, that can be damaging to you, and give you a complex that something is wrong with you, until eventually you take your own life...that's the reality.
I'm so alone I listen to asmr, basically videos where people pretend to talk to you and interact with you, comfort you, etc. And I like to pretend its real because, well, its the most comfort I can get. And every night I listen to breathing sounds so it feels like someone is next to me.
"One day, you're gonna look around and you're going to realize that everybody loves you, but nobody likes you... And that is the loneliest feeling in the world." - Bojack Horseman.
Im not too familiar with the show, but Im pretty sure Bojack used to be a celebrity. So in his case, this quote makes sense because everyone loves and adores him but no one likes him (i.e enjoys who he is or his company)
I hope your okay I feel like there’s no point in having friends no matter how many times they reject me I still come back because I don’t want to be the centre of attention no matter what they always leave I just act like I’m okay because I’m to sad to express anything without sounding like an attention seeker
Is it only me or anyone's else daydreams about a world where you are the center of attention and everyone's praising you and you look perfect? You have friends and people who love you. You are capable of doing things that are hard for you to do in real life. You're a total badass and have a really loving partner. Then I come back to reality, which is hard to face and I realise how lonely and useless I really am. My imaginative world is an escape from reality. But I don't just wanna imagine it and actually try to be the person I want to be. Whenever I read a story or see a movie in which the main lead is really happy and useful and that he/she is loved by others, I want to be him/her. This sucks and getting my imagination off my mind is something really hard for me to do, but I'm trying to be in the real world as much as I can and work on myself to be a better person. ( Sorry I'm my English is bad, it isn't my first language )
Yes exactly!! I feel that same exact way!! I would even do some acting and imagine that I'm from a high born class family where I'm all that's left and I'm being interviewed on "why are you still single?" And all of a sudden I the woman I've been trying to get at is all of a sudden trying to interact with me cause of my connections... And wants the wealth but I'm to slick and start being oblivious to her.... Well I'm that's what I always imagine.
I am very lonely but I also can't see anything in myself worth sharing with others. the only value i have is the possessions I own so I try to share and be generous with them because that's all I'm worth.
I stopped telling my stories to others since they're just gonna say "mhm" or "sorry what were you saying again?" That makes me feel even worse than talking to myself about my stories.
That's almost my entire extended family. My parents and siblings do not bother with me or my child. But I treasure the people in my life that do. If I didn't have them, I don't think I would be here.
It really hurts when you are pretty “friendly” acquaintances with people, and you can talk to them individually, yet they are hanging out in a group all the time having fun, and you’re just there, and you feel like your just following them…
I feel you. Being the one that’s friendly and respectful to everyone kinda shucks because you always feel unwanted. You just need to find your people and stop being where you are tolerated instead of celebrated.
It's only when I'm surrounded by a group of people I am truly alone. Seeing all these other people connect, that I realize just how detached I am from the people I care about.
I’m just saying - and I apologize if this offends anyone - but if your friend abandons you during one of the/the most hardest time of your life, then you do not need to be friends with that person. If they’re willing to drop your friendship and not help you out when you’re struggling, they wouldn’t be there for when it counts. It’s genuinely so upsetting that y’all have friends that up and left when you were looking for support - no one deserves that. I hope y’all are in a better place now with people who are actually supportive😊💜
Things that help me during a emotional breakdown. 1) hugging myself and saying "its okay" 2) sleeping. ( Cause I can easily fall asleep) 3) asmr for relaxation 4) writing in messy handwriting. 5) having ice cream later to calm down. 6) saying positive words to myself even though I don't mean it at the moment but I still do so that i get into this illusion that nothing is wrong. 7) praying. 8) taking deep breaths
Nah for me ..... just saying all the wrong things an illusions is more worse for me coz deep down I'll know I'm betraying my own self and will regret later on
Writing in messy handwriting. I do this often. When I write in pretty hand writing I feel so proud of myself as if the love for myself is being let out through my neatness. But I always allow myself to have my messy writing moments.
Not ice cream every day though i hope? ..A lot of people do become overweight as a result of isolation. Food shouldn't be used as comfort, It's not a solution. It can cause issues or eating disorders if we constantly use food as a mean to feel better, to fill a void. We eat to live, let's just be cautious about it. For the rest, i'm totally with you.
you know what's really odd? so many people are lonely, and the only reason that lonely people can't make each other feel less lonely is because everyone is kind of really hidden under a mask, people act happy and outgoing but they know that they have no one to tell their good news to, or no one to talk to...
I guess I’m the most shameless one here. I know I’m lonely but I don’t really do anything about it. I sit in the lunch room full of me(in other world I sit by myself lol) I don’t mind being lonely and I love how I care less about how people see me... I don’t try to act that way they don’t have expectations for me.
@@provenduck1959 that's real nice, not caring a lot about how people see you, most people out there don't share their problems with others because they're afraid of what people will think about them. And at the end of the day the goal is doing whatever that makes you happy, if you're okay with being by yourself, that's great!
Have you ever heard of Enneagram? I’m type 5 so it comes in handy. You should take the enneagram test to know more about yourself. I’ve learned that the loneliest I am the greatest the benefit I got from it, but that’s just type 5 enneagram people. It’s actually really cool because people would think I’m cold and distant, which I am, but that’s how i’m built.
I would just spend hours meladaptive daydreaming. I would be in my head and create characters, and different scenarios when I'm bored,or at times to cope with the world or deal with anxiety or depression or negative emotions or bad situations. Still do it.
you must be INFP or INFJ, I do that all the time but now I'm trying to live in reality out of my comfort zone and strive in real life, this world is a rough place
The worst thing for me is working around people that aren’t lonely. They have close knit families and friends. It makes me feel even lonelier when they tend to have stories to tell and I have none. I feel like they think I’m damaged, not completely wrong. I’ve been betrayed a lot. I’d still like to make friends but anxiety from being betrayed and just becoming plain and dull over the years doesn’t help.
All that you are worrying about dosent matter. I had these problems too but ask yourself the real questions. What do you really want? To be lonely or to fit in with others? You didnt ask for this but it happens.....why? Your perception....you have to understand that things are what you think they seem. Find out who you really are bro
people have close knit families and friends. They tell you stories. But they don't talk about their true feelings. I have a husband and a son, a job, a garden, and I have many stories to tell. But I sit and read comments at night. You know why? People may have families and friends but feel lonely.
I've never held hands with someone. I always fantasized of intertwining fingers with another person and constantly doing it with myself as I repeat "one day" in my mind.
people can be happy being alone but once you think it over and realize there's no one there with you the feeling of loneliness hits and you start to slowly drown in it
