I was a single parent, I couldn"t stay home with my children, I wish I had of had the opertunity to do so. To all the moms that choose to stay home with their babies, I applaud you.
I stayed home with my 2 daughters for 12 years. We had to live with less money, but I brought up my girls. I have a daughter that has 6 children. She has a teaching degree, but is staying home with her kids, until they are all in school. She home schooled them for preschool and kindergarten. Still 2 more to go. Day care is very expensive and would not be worth the amount she would be making after paying for daycare. Her husband, their father works to provide financially for them. I am glad she gets to stay home with them.
I applaud you! Being a stay at home mom is still alot of work but im 75 and Had to back to work for first, but got to stay home with the next 2. Its hard to get up and get baby to daycare and yourself to work, so kudos to you❤
I stayed at home with my children and i still consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life. It was not my husband’s idea but he was totally supportive. It kills me when people say it’s oppressive. It was the most fulfilling time of my life. I understand not every mom can do that and they are still super heroes.
I am also 58 and the mother of 3 grown children. I was blessed to be able to stay home with my children, My husband (at the time) was an airline pilot and was constantly gone. I pretty much did it all when it came to the children and our household. It was a HUGE job, I had a massive house, kids in 3 different competitive activities, and I was very active in their schools. If this is the definition of a “Trad wife” I am fully supportive of any woman that wants to stay at home, more power to them! ❤️
I'm not too fond of labels, what is that about anyway. This isn't opinion but fact..."stay at home Moms" are working Moms. They have no days off, are up early to bed late, and are most likely up over and over throughout the night, etc. The fact that you also work from home is brilliant, but still it's one more job that you have! I could care less about someone's opinion about what they think a "Trad Wife" is...when they have never done all of the above. Thank God for the traditional family...that is my opinion. God bless you Kristen...you are an awesome wife, mother, and small home business maker! 😉 Hugs!
I’m 64 and I assumed I would keep working outside the home. But then I had my first daughter and longed with such longing to be home with her. There was a little newsletter type magazine I subscribed to back in the 1980s called Home Again, I think. It was about all this: how a mom can stay home and how to analyze how much your Income adds to the household after taking into account the expenses like clothing, transportation, the cost of convenience eating etc. It gave me more confidence to stay home and realize all the value that I could bring being home. I loved being home so so much! But when each daughter started school I felt the need to return to a job. But sometimes found a way to take a couple more years at home. I have no regrets for any of the sacrifices that allowed me to stay home with them. We are still so close and I am very blessed. The years I worked a job were fine too. They probably reaped benefits from all of it, and also some negatives to each situation. Jesus blessed and love is the main thing He teaches us! It oils life. ❤ Congratulations on the birth of your 4th adorable daughter! I loved holding my babies but had it pretty easy with my girls being 8 years apart. I had a good helper the 2nd time.
Kristen, I'm glad you're keeping it real. Each baby and family is so different. You are doing what is best for you and your family. When my children were small, I stayed home with them. We did not have much money but we did not want anyone else taking care of them. I thought that women who worked outside of their home with small children were super woman because I did not know how they balanced both worlds. When my youngest was about ten, an unexpected door opened and I pursued my previous career. It was helpful to my family's finances and the insurance benefit helped us tremendously. The "culture" needs to leave everyone alone and let us make our own choices based on what is best for our children. Children are precious and a gift from God. Bless you!
I graduated from HS in 1968. I was in college from 1968-1973. While there I was indoctrinated into the Feminist mindset of needing a profession to feel fulfilled. I was a Caseworker in Baltimore City. The job exhausted me before I became a mom. After I became a mom, I felt like I had two full time emotionally taxing jobs……and did neither one very well. As the kids got older, it got better, but it was still TWO FULL TIME JOBS 😵💫. I retired early (at 55) and became the full time caregiver to my two granddaughters (16 months apart) for 4+ years…….I LOVED IT. I have a very close relationship with these two wonderful girls, now ages 11 and 13…we all look back on that time with JOY…..I never got that kind of joy from any job.
Thanks to my wonderful husband I was able to be a stay at home mom. If we needed extra money, he would get a second job. We didn’t go out to eat much & we only had one car. If I could do it again, I wouldn’t change a thing.
This is why fathers also need maternity leave, to be at home with other children, to help with new baby and keep the house running while the new mom takes care of newborn.
Your “mom brain” was certainly high-functioning during this video, as you were inspirational and thoughtful to all women!! You share your life, and believe that each should do what they choose to do … the way we should all be.
I'm 72 and was a stay at home mom and loved it. I was very fortunate that my husband was supportive in fact he felt very strongly about the kids having mom at home. All of my girlfriends did work full time and had kids in day care and wished they could have stayed home to enjoy those precious and chaotic moments life has in store for you. Enjoy every moment, before you know it you and Josh will be my age enjoying your grandchildren and great grandchildren like I am. Much love to your sweet family.
I truly don't understand why we can't all celebrate our differences. I feel like we need to all be more tolerant. Let each person be whoever or whatever they choose to be. There is no wrong or no right as far as the way you live your life. God gave us each our individual circumstances. We are all where God put us!!
I am in my sixties and grew up with a mom who worked outside the home. When I had a family it was my dream to be able to stay home with my kids. I was fortunate enough to do that. Not everyone I knew chose that or was financially able to do that. As my kids got older I went to school and went to work. My husband and I shared all home responsibilities, sometimes I did more, sometimes he did more, depending on the situation at the time. I really hate to see women condemning other women about their choices in this matter. I think everyone should do what best fits them and we should all be supportive whatever the choice. So I guess I'm saying I agree with you!
Everyone is free to choose their path BUT to pretend every choice is equally good is nonsense. It’s one thing to HAVE to work and another to choose to work. Let’s face it many women work outside the honey because it’s easier. And often times that’s a selfish choice. Let’s face it many mothers aren’t exactly sacrificial in their mothering.
@@marydumois4242in what respect is working outside the home easier? I feel like you'd have more work to do on top of the work that needs to be done at home.
61, mom of two, nana of one… thank you for showing real life early motherhood days! I truly believe that editing out the difficult moments can inadvertently feed the idea that other new moms should have “perfect”, stress-free, constantly tidy and pulled-together days. On the “traditional-wife” theme: many times our circumstances drive how we can live. I often felt like I had no choice but to work full time but I can honestly say that our home life was happiest and calmest when I could be home full time. Lily is exquisite and your older girls are so precious….full of love and joy. You and your husband are magnificent parents!!!
Hi Kristen I’m 70 years old and I stayed at home with our three children.when they were all in school I went to work in the school system. I was very lucky to have the same schedule and vacations as them . I was very fortunate I worked for over twenty year I’m retired now. I wouldn’t change a thing. 💕
So many young moms have zero choice and must work. When I've had young moms cry to me about how guilty they feel, I always tell them to remember that providing for them is another way of loving them. I stayed home with mine years ago, and my much smaller social security reflects that. Still glad i did it though.
I totally agree with your stance on women being stay-at-home moms. We’ve come so far, we should have the option without being criticized. Love that you are presenting your real life and self!🌸
Families need to do what works for then … we are all not the same . Thank heavens we can choose what we need or want to do !!!! I was fortunate to be able to stay home and now that my kids are grown I can look back and know for me I did the right thing … being a stay at home mom was amazing and so rewarding!!!!
Oh, these people who look down on mother's who choose to say home are so wrong!! I stayed home with my children and I choose that. We didn't have fancy things or elaborate vacations but I was there for them, after school coming home to a parent instead of a dark lonely house. That's how my childhood was and didn't want it for my children. So be proud of the decisions you make for yourself and family 👪
I was blessed to stay home and raise my three daughters. It wasn’t always easy and we lived pay check to pay check at times but I would not have wanted it any other way! My mother worked full time and I did not like it and knew I did not want that for my children. God provided and He is always good! Your baby girl Lily is adorable ❤️
SAHM here, I'm a big advocate for mamas to raise their babies. God made us in his image to be the most important person in their little lives, why fight that natural instinct. It's sad seeing babies put in daycare at 6 weeks. I can't imagine, my heart would break.
I stayed home for five years after our son was born and it was the best five years of my life! I wouldn’t trade that time for anything. He is 35 now and we are so close and we love talking about that time together. I returned to teaching when he started school which put us on the same schedule with summers off. Being a mom is my favorite thing!❤️
As a 73 year old who stayed home with my children, I regret none of it EVER! God created women to be the nurturer. I am blessed with a wonderful husband who provided well for us. To God be the Glory!!
I just love when married couples praise and show off their spouses it’s so healthy and such a beautiful thing to witness! Praise God for our amazing spouses!
It’s the comments on BOTH sides of this issue that are so sad. Also hearing awful comments about those who don’t even want to have kids- and we need to remember some can’t. If you can and want to stay at home with your kids wonderful. We need to remember some want to but can’t. If you don’t want to - that’s ok too. It’s everyone’s right to make that choice without being judged. We all need to be nice. How blessed your girls are to have such amazing parents.
What a Gorgeous family. God Bless all of you. 🙏💜🥰 Must add... woman are miraculous in what we do in our Lives. There is NO GREATER job than caring for your family and home. 💖💕
I was a working mom for most of my kids childhoods. Other moms worked with me too. Every single mom there wished they could stay home with their kids. Every 👏 single 👏 one 👏. I think women are made to feel guilty if they stay home, like they’re lazy, or oppressed, or unambitious, and that’s just not true. You will never regret the time you dedicated to your children. Little Lilly looks like Rosy 😊. Have a blessed week and keep getting stronger. Arlene
Oh Lily is just precious❤ I was a stay at home Mom in the 90's, when my kids were born. It certainly was not the norm, believe me. I never looked at it as a sacrifice. I had the blessing of close knit family who lived very close by. My kids had both Grandparents just 10 minutes away and I loved it. Now a grandmother, I can honestly say those years of raising my children were the best of my life.❤
I am a generation older than you. I grew up admiring my grandmother, whom was the ultimate trad wife. Yet she and my grandpa both worked together in their vegetable garden and feeding and checking their cows, daily. My generation really took on the professional, career woman role. I struggled with what people would think of me becoming a stay at home mom and wife, but after marrying my school sweetheart I just couldn’t think of doing things any other way. My husband was on board and 2 years later we started our family. Our two sons are now 31 and 27 and the rest is history. No regrets. Now, they’re making the same choice in their families. Nothing wrong with a woman wanting to have a career and a family, but also nothing wrong with choosing a more traditional way. My grandmother is 91 and she is still my role model. ❤
I am extremely thankful I been able to stay home and homeschool all 7 of my kids. They grow up so fast! My oldest is now 22 and my youngest is 7. My husband works 6 days and 7 days a week every week so we are able to keep our kids at home❤. There to me is no greater joy
Being a stay at home Mom is a ton of work while also an abundant blessing. I stayed home with my 4 children until my youngest was 9. I did childcare in my home for some teachers at my kiddos school. I went back to work in the school so I'd have the same hours as my children. I loved and feel so very blessed to have had the opportunity to be home full time and I'd do it all over again the same. They grow so very fast and it is such a precious time when they are little. Enjoy every moment. give yourself grace, you are so beautiful and amazing. God bless you and your beautiful family always. ♥️🙏♥️
I used to work and after my second child we decided together that I would stay home with the kids and I also opened a daycare in my home for extra income. I ran a daycare for 17 years all while raising my own kids with them socialising with all these kids through these years. Now I take care of adults with devlopmental disabilities 3 days a week in my home. I have no regrets at all taking the decision to stay home all those years ago. I will be 60 soon and agree with you it is great that women have the choice to stay home or go to work. Congrats on your beautiful family .
You are doing a great job mumma! I am a traditional housewife, I have five children whom I also homeschool and I love this lifestyle. It is not all sunshine and roses but I am so very grateful that I can stay at home with my children. We have had to make financial sacrifices so I can stay home and I have also had to sacrifice things that I wanted to do but it is all worth it.
Every family is different as is every situation. God knows us and our circumstances, and will bless us for doing our best, whatever that looks like. The thing that gets me is how concerned people are with other people’s lives. 😅❤. You’re doing great! Miss Lily is precious! ❤
I worked 1 hour away from home when my children were young because my job paid very well. My children are now 16 and 13 and I still work full time, but I'm able to work from home. I tell my 16-year-old daughter that I regret not making the financial sacrifice to stay at home when they were little. I will never get that time back. It breaks my heart that I didn't stay home with them. I want my daughter to always keep that option open when she is married and has children. God will honor your sacrifice, and HE will provide.
I ENJOY YOUR VIDEOS VERY MUCH.. I WAS A STAY AT HOME MOM TO FIVE CHILDREN…AND I CHERISHED IT. I WAS A FORTUNATE ONE. I THANK GOD EVERYDAY FOR THAT TIME..🙏
I started staying home when our 2nd daughter was a baby. We were spending my whole paycheck in daycare. Now we have 4 babies, I’m a full time homeschooling, homemaker! The most difficult and rewarding season I’ve ever walked through ❤
My husband and I raised 3 daughters together although I took the traditional role as a stay at home home. We made all decisions together as a couple. Yes my husband worked outside the home I also worked taking care of a few kiddos at a time so they’re Mommies could go to work. We’ve been married 43 years and are now enjoying our grandchildren!💗
Kristen you are beautiful with or without makeup. May God continue to give you strength and wisdom to raise your precious angels. I pray that he bless you and your husband spiritually, physically, & financially. Continue to let Jesus Christ love guide you.😊
Honestly, this is one of my favorite videos. Your raw honesty of early motherhood is so refreshing and relatable to me and I feel very seen, as well as encouraged that I’m not alone when my days look so beautifully chaotic like yours, full of interruptions crying newborns. So thank you.
Growing up in a large family ( nine kids ) my dad worked & my mom was a stay at home mom. They both worked very hard!!!! I still remember, how I couldn’t wait to get off the school bus to see my mom. Every night at dinner, we pilled around our big table ( my dad built ) & talked about our day. I have such good memories of those days & how lucky I was, to have such great parents ❤ Congratulations on your daughter, she is beautiful 🩷
Well said! I think social media has everyone judging and pointing. What works for your family works for your family and what works for mine works for mine. There is nothing wrong with being a mother and wanting to cater to ur husband and family. There is also nothing wrong with a working mom and so on. Whatever GOD puts in ur season to do, do it ten toes in. Thank GOD and praise him in it
So Sweet! She is adorable! It’s a blessing that you are able to stay home and take care of your children. It’s wonderful for them and also for you to be present to take care of them. I believe it’s a gift and so rewarding. You are a loving person and a great mom! God Bless you and your sweet family! I love seeing the girls with Lily! So precious! ❤️❤️❤️
If at all possible I encourage every momma to be traditional wife....it is the MOST important job for a woman. I was a teacher all the years my kids were growing up...and I regret not staying home and figuring out a way to make it work for us financially. Love on your kids and your husbands.
I always wanted to be a wife and mother. I loved being at home to take care of my kids knowing they are getting the best care I can give. I loved cooking from scratch and not missing out on my children’s first of everything. You looked so amazing . I love how honest you are about everything.
I was a stay at home mom with 3 of my 4 children. I am now a work from home corporate mom. I wasn’t fully satisfied with staying at home , I needed something else. You’re right! To each to own! If you WANT to stay home - do it if you Don’t and need something else Do it! We all have different desires that feeds our souls. If you’re not feeding your needs you will not feel complete ❤
She is the sweetest baby and so beautiful motherhood is exhausting but so rewarding at the same time i miss the time when my now grown children was small this was the best time for me because i miss seeing them but life goes on so enjoy the time you are now you are a good mom give you grace you have this ❤❤
My mom had been a nurse, but stayed home after I was born. I was a stay at home mother for 20 years with my two daughters. They are your age now. They were both school teachers when they finished college , but by e came stay at home mommies to their children. For me there was no greater job in the world for me and those were the happiest years of my life taking care of my houehd, husband and my two little girls. I am very traditional and my girls are too. We feel extremely blessed that we had the opportunity to be at home raising or children. I feel for the moms who want to be home, but cannot. I also think some women are more fulfilled with a career. I went back to work when my girls were in college. I wouldn’t take anything for my time with them. I think what you are doing for your family is your calling and you do it so well. It’s a hard job, but the rewards are so amazing. I want to encourage you in this season of life. Enjoy it, because those girls will be grown in the blink of an eye. By the way, my girls and I LOVE your channel!
You are such a loving family. It brings tears to my eyes. Yes, there will be times of frustration, worry, and exhaustion, but the overwhelming emotion is love. Please give yourself the grace that God grants to all of us. Blessings and prayers...
When my son was small, I had an in home day care, and cleaned houses so I could be at home with my son. It was hard, but I wouldn't change a thing. When I went back to work, I had a job that aligned with my son's school hours so I could take him to school, and pick him up. Being a mom was my favorite job ever. I think Lilly looks like Rosie! You look amazing!!!
I worked as physician for 3 years but after getting married & having kids i’ve become a stay at home mom , love spending time with kids , love cooking , doing all the house work 😊 i do feel sad sometimes & feel like a failure for not working 😔 but family & kids are my priority . Respect to all working moms , I consider them as super Heroes 💪🏼 Love all your videos, Lily is so adorable ☺️
I am an older SAHM. And yes we had to give up some things like buying a house (It came later than all our friends), Our second car was a beat up used car. I always had the "What do you do All day?" or "Well your at home all day can you do this for me" . BUT years later kids are grown and I hear from my friends that they actually envied me that I was able to stay home. Imagine that? I would Never change it!
I went through criticism back in the 70’s for being a stay at home mom, traditional wife and mother. Back then the Women’s Liberation Movement , under Gloria Stienham and Betty Friedan . They were militant in their views . At get together with other couples , women would ask “ what do you do for a living ?” They would look horrified when I said that I was a stay at home wife and mother. They actually would turn away to talk to someone “ more interesting “. Once the girls were full time in school , I went to work with my husband at his Natural Health Clinic. I then missed out on so much with my girls because I was exhausted and spread too thin. What do you do ? More time with hubby , took more time away from the kids. Wouldn’t do it that way again , but we don’t get do- overs, sadly.
I loved the years I was a stay at home mom. Its such a blessing to have that tme with them, the years go so fast. You are surely blessed, enjoy every moment. God bless you!
On the topic of TRAD moms. I was totally unaware. But as per usual, people have an "opinion" on everyone s' business. Judging their choices. And are so busy being OFFENDED. When I was young mom did both. When we were very young she stayed home. I can remember coming home and the house smelled of Pine Sol , our beds were made and something GOOD was on the stove. How I love those memories. Then later, as we got older she went back to work, bot her degree and taught school. I was very proud of her, naturally. Either way, it should be a decision made in each household. Women work just as hard, if not harder staying at home. AND when they do get home from work, their day does not end there.
Great topic. I was a stay at home mom with my 3 children from 1970 to 1984 when my husband and I separated and yes, it was the best part of my life and I dont regret a single moment of it. It was hard living on one income, we did do without many things, but it was wonderful, the kids thrived, and we made due with what we had. I was room mom, teachers helper for parties, I went on field trips and was able to help with special functions at school. I will treasure those memories forever. Lily is absolutely adorable, as are your other little ladies.....
I am currently pregnant with our first baby 😊 I was hoping to go part time after she was born, but hubby and I decided for now I should continue full time for a bit. We want at least two children and I am the one who has insurance for our family. I am blessed to have the most WONDERFUL mother in law who will watch our baby girl. I am praying after baby #2 weeks can make a change so that I can stay home. Maybe one day ❤
Being a stay at home mom is such hard but valuable work. For most of the years I stayed home with my kids. Now I have the career. I know it's a bit backwards in society but I have no regrets.
Love you Kristen 💗 I was able to stay home with my baby...waht a blessing. He was adopted. He will be 50!!! this month. I have 3 beautiful grandchildren . Their mother was able to stay home with them. My mom was a stay at home mom.
Kristen.....LOVE every moment you have as a Stay at Home Mom!! I was very fortunate to do this for my two sons, (who are now grown men) LOVED it, would do it again if I had to tomorrow & could turn back time the BEST days of my life as a stay at home mom!!! NO regrets and miss it everyday, I am now a "Nana" to two boys & work 3 jobs! One full time & two part-time, widowed & now a days you do what you need to do....enjoy your babies!!!!
Kristen you are beyond an amazing mom! Your morning is real for any mom who has children will agree. Each day does get easier, but being a homemaker is an ongoing task day and night! Little Lilly is super adorable and is so lucky to have all of you. All your girls are precious and they will never forget the love they receive from you and your hubby. Keep up the amazing strength and love to your family. It all pays off in life! Xo
I raised 3 children, my girls were 3 years apart and stayed home with them. My son came along when they were 10 & 7. In between those years when my husband was laid off I would go to work but for the most part it was me. It was an adjustment for me but I wouldn’t trade all of the sacrifices to be there for all of their firsts crawling, words, first steps and so on. I wouldn’t trade any of it. They are all grown and now blessing us with grand babies and I don’t feel like I’ve missed out on a thing. Just wish it hadn’t flown by so fast, family is everything so soak up every precious moment, even what you think is a bad day will be a treasured memory because you were the one there with them. Sending many blessings to your sweet family
Thank you for sharing the reality of a newborn. Your honesty is refreshing, coming from a 57 year old mom of two. I worked with my first child and stayed home after the birth of my second. I believe the idea is choice and each of choosing our own lifestyle. I'm saddened by the need so many people have to attack someone else's choice. Let's be better than judging each other so harshly.
Kristin, you be you! You and your husband have raised a beautiful family and you know what is best for your children. In my opinion , a slow, calming ,routine is what is best. Follow your child's schedule and needs . No need to worry about color cards, tummy time, etc. It will all come together as you already know. Take Care of you! Thank you for all you share!
Such a beautiful baby and beautiful family! You are truly blessed ! Please give yourself grace , you are doing a wonderful job! I’m 67 and was a stay home mom with 3 children and I don’t regret a moment of giving up my career for my family ! My children are happy, healthy and successful adults ,and one of my daughters has a new baby and has chosen to stay home in spite of having a doctorate and successful career ! Blessings to you and your family!❤️
Kristen what a precious realistic video. I applaud you for being able to work it to stay home with your beautiful girls. My daughter is a Senior. You have provided an organize and positive home for your family. Keep Homemaking.
You are so blessed for being a stay home mom and take care of your kids. I have always felt guilty for leaving my daughter in a daycare and not being with her all that time, now she’s almost 15 and soon she’ll go to college.
I was so blessed to be a stay home mom. Worked well for us. Once my 4 kids were more grown, then I went back to work. Nowadays it’s great that there is work from home jobs. My daughter is in that situation where she can work from home and attend to her boys with support of family.
Thanks for sharing your morning & sweet baby with us Kristen! Later in life Mama here & I wouldn’t trade my experience with being a stay at home mom for anything! I will never say I wish I would have worked more over spending time with my child. Although I am aware that I was fortunate to even have that ability, it did not come without sacrifice. Our family would have had more material things if I worked outside of the home. Not being able to have more than one child, what a true blessing it was. I feel as women we should support the decision what ever you choose to do as a mother. We should be uplifting each other as either way being a mom is not easy.
Literally was watching this video in the hospital after giving birth to our 4th baby, a baby girl. We have one boy and she is our 3rd girl. Our lives look very similar as far as I am a stay at home mom and my husband is a pastor. I would not change this life for anything in the world. God design us as women differently, and that's an amazing thing. It's empowering to know I was called to take care of my family in a way that my husband and nobody else could do in the same way. Like you said, we are blessed to have the choice, and this is a job you have to choose daily to love and desire to do well. Thank you for your videos they have been really inspiring to me, and the timing couldn't have been more perfect.
I couldn’t stop smiling Kristen as I watched your video. It brought back so many memories. My first baby never settled but the second baby slept so peacefully for hours. You are doing great. Give yourself a pat on the back. X
The constant need fatigue is so real!!! I’m out if the baby phase but I remember that feeling. You got this and thx for showing the real side of newborns
Thank you SO MUCH for this video! I’m a new mom of a girl, 16 days old and I was feeling so discouraged before watching your video! Everyone makes it seem so easy and you make it real. That’s exactly how my mornings look these days. It is so tough sometimes! So thanks again for the refreshing video ❤
You have such a beautiful family. It's a tremendous blessing to be able to stay home to raise and nurture your children. I, too, was blessed to be home to raise our girls and I wouldn't have traded the time I had with them for the world. God bless you
