Reality Check For Dog 'Mother' Who Over Pampers Her Dogs | It's Me or The Dog 

I'm a dog trainer (basic obedience), and I've worked with some dogs who would be AWESOME therapy dogs and other dogs, who while great dogs, are just not cut out for that kind of work. It all depends on the individual dog's temperament and personality.

@@vbs4257 what is a good therapy dog? Are they like guide dogs or for stress and stuff?

@@GodOfPlague Basically, a service dog assists its owner (seeing-eye, diabetes-detection), that kind of thing. A therapy dog's job is usually going into hospitals, schools, nursing homes, etc., to provide emotional support and to cheer people up. For a therapy dog or cat, you're looking for a well-mannered/trained animal who also really enjoys people and wants to please them.

GodOfPlague They go to places like hospitals, schools, nursing homes, etc and they provide comfort to the people there. They are invited to the places they work because otherwise are not allowed. I have friends who have therapy dogs and my own dog was going to do it but his health requires him to eat a dehydrated diet which therapy doesn’t allow

Though I have a feeling she wants it badly enough that she's GONNA do it! 😊

She's also messing a functioning brain

You can't have a good social life when you say you feel like you birthed your dogs 😕🤔

I hope none of Barbara's children are introverts

@@mangamama9881 yes ok

@@mangamama9881 No, only mentally ill people said that. Dogs are dogs, they just want to be dogs too, not treated like humans infants push in a stroller with baby clothes. Dogs only live between 15 to 20 years & are full grown at 2 years old. A problem with tiny dogs is that people treat them like babies instead of dogs. These woman dogs are adults not puppies or human infants. Heard of also lonely people saying their plants are their babies, how is that healthy. Mostly are lonely childees woman like they have that need to nurture something.

Yes I agree, if not properly trained even the smallest dog can become the biggest nightmare and overtake the house!

Very good way to put it.

totally agreed. my jack russel chihuahua mix came from a horrible home they treated him like a toy and every since he’s been with me he has passed public access and multiple service dog exams/tests! he went from a bad dog to a dog that now saves my life on a daily, and it’s all thanks to him feeling like an actual dog not a toy

Seriously, mine only has two (but he needs them, basically barely any fur). Can we have that closet but sized for humans??

_i can relate ;^;_

Alina Martin sane with my dog

I just have rain sweaters for my dog. For some reason she always wants to pee when it rains and I don't want her getting all wet (especially since she doesn't like water)

My dog only has four because she's a Chinese crested, she has a winter coat, sweater, rain coat, and a thin tank top so she doesn't get sunburned in the hotter months.

Bruh

maybe Halloween too

Don't forget the occasional holiday hat/headband

Yup those are all you need of course a costume ever once in a while is ok as long as the dog is comfortable with it but dogs should not be dressed often unless nessesary

syh478 and I place booties on their paws to protect them from snowy weather or when the road/side walk is hot

Alex Monreal i did that with my dog only because he knew the boundaries that were set and for sure always will. So i really do believe with the right dog, yes. ☺️

And you still allow them to be a dog.

So true.

Yeah. And besides the owner doesn't know when to stop spoiling her dogs. She has to put limitations.

Our dog is spoiled but I don’t think she knows she’s spoiled, like most of our spoiling is simply fancier commodities for her, for example she’s a picky eater so we’ve tried like 7 different types of dog food and brands to find out what she’ll eat, we’ve given her our old pillows and small blankets that make up her indoor and outdoor bed, she sleeps inside for the night, and out side she has a heater and cooler for when it gets too hot or cold out during the day, but it’s not like we dress her up, carry her around like a baby, let her get on the furniture or give her absurd amounts of treats for no reason

SUNA I 100% agree, my puppy is my little munchkin but we didn’t baby him so much until after he was trained :) he’s a super good boy and definitely acts like a dog lol

+SUNA-I think the owner was going through some kind of personal issues/trauma in her life to where she latched on hard to treating her dogs like baby dolls. She didn't go out very much because she devoted most of her time to pampering her dogs. She spent a lot of her money on dog clothes and probably a lot of dog brushes and styling accessories. When dogs become "child substitutes" like that (to me, they're living dolls more honestly because I wouldn't want kids being treated like this either), the owner is latching on for a specific reason. With Lilly (the bichon frise), her owner originally wanted another child. The husband said no, wasn't going to happen, so she got a girl dog to make up for it and basically become her doggie "daughter." Another owner overfed and pampered his dog because he was overcompensating from the sudden loss of a previous dog. So the full episode might've touched on the owner's reasons why these dogs became "child substitutes" but I believe, especially with the mom, that something was going on in that owner's life. She definitely wasn't happy or had a healthy, balanced life, and Victoria even commented that the owner didn't seem very happy and fulfilled. And that got transferred right to her dogs where she overcompensated by pampering and spoiling them within an inch of their life. She "needed to be needed" by someone or something, so she decided it was going to be her dogs. And that isn't healthy or fair to the dogs either. It definitely puts a lot of stress on them because they know their owner isn't happy and they don't know why. And it makes them sad. Those dogs weren't happy either. Spoiled children/dogs aren't very happy individuals.

SUNA *What I heard was her saying was that she’s never felt vitally important to anyone. If true, then I can understand her need to feel valued. Desiring to feel needed is a human emotional drive and I hope she gains some balance in her life. She seems like a genuinely kind person...* 🤷🏻‍♀️

An ex of mine's mom did that with h her cat. The projection thing. She. Did all that to him. Except for the dressing him up part. But she was too selfish to try therapy work with him (yes you can do therapy work with a cat) because she wanted him all to herself

yeah I'm not saying I don't feel for her or relate to her on some level, I truly do. But whatever she's going through, or anyone for that matter, it's still unfair to the dogs to project those issues. Good person or not. (Speaking from my personal experience, dogs pick up our emotions and reflect them in their behaviour)

yukiji conan See this is a good example of how to treat your pets I see all my animals the same I love them like family but understand we are not the same

yukiji conan same here, I love my cat, I spoiled with brand cat food & affection

I treat my cat like a cat or MY CAT because she is tougher than she looks but I do treat her with a lot of respect and love to because she used to be a stray cat so we realized she needed a home and the love she never got so we gave it to her now she is a loyal cat and well trained 😺😸

I agree with you 100%. I'm a huge animal lover and my pets are a huge part of my life but I still treat them like animals. The people i live with feed their dog whatever they're eating, the dog doesn't even eat dog food anymore because he's too spoiled, and some things he eats are dangerous to him but when I try and tell them they don't listen. I love to spoil my pets as well but with things that are appropriate for them

Perhaps there is a difference between cat owners and dog owners. A cat normally wouldn‘t allow you to treat it like a toy or a baby - and cat owners know that!

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that part was a little much, it's one thing to have a couple accessories for celebrations and coat or 2 for the cold... a entire wardrobe on the other hand....

I felt the same way

It made me laugh cuz the only time we put my dog in outfits is on Halloween and Christmas 😂😂 usually it’s just a hat though cuz she’s too big for most of the outfits to fit comfy

She just needs to buy a doll. Good lord.

she's also in complete denial about their suitability for being therapy dogs. she cannot even entertain the idea of just NOT making them be therapy dogs.

I feel sorry for her because I've only seen this with infertility. She may be struggling in some other way like she can't find a husband, but... she clearly wants to be a mother... but for real. Not to dogs. And that's why she's doing this. If she can't give birth, it would be better for her to have a bond with a child she rescued rather than a dog she bought for $1000. That would make her a mother. This just makes her "one of those people," and it's sad, because I think she's probably struggling with some issue in that way that wasn't permitted to be talked about (for good reason).

Vick Nad that’s true, although i wouldn’t know I’m only 15

Dogs do not need discipline but structure

Exactly she’s treating the dog like a plush toy.. I hope she does better

Maybe she just wants the acclaim it takes to have a certified therapy dog as an ego boost or something.

She should just get a doll.

@@155chipmunkz Why? The dogs are clearly happy. And she’s happy as well!

@@ES11777It is bad to anthropomorphize animals. It causes more harm than good. Dogs are dogs, and can function without us if they are required to. What they aren’t is *children,* in ANY capacity.

Right? When she cut her sister off from talking about her projecting her own issues on the dogs it was very telling.

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@@dm-dk5lm Her sister was rather harsh, and usually is harsh as it seems like. So it might be that.

Welcome to the upside world of Dog Worship.. this is a satanic cult.

So do i

I dont dress my pets but, I dont see why you think its your business to tell someone else what to do. Have you ever seen a toddler get dressed? They hate it and often spend the day escaping from them. The dogs probably get used to it like a kid. If theyre taking care of them otherwise, feeding, walking, socializing them, and loving them im sure it doesnt effect them half as much as youre making it seem.

I completely agree! I have an eight-month puppy who I treat like a dog. I love him to death and hee part of our family, BUT he still is an animal that has his own ideas of life. I see myself like human friend and someone who guides my dog on how to behave etc. Treating your dog like a dog IS NOT abusing your dog! There is a HUGE difference!

Tisk Tisk Actually, putting clothes on dogs is different than putting clothes on children. Not only do they not need it due to their fur coat which makes it uncomfortable, it also makes it incredibly difficult to communicate with other dogs. It can cause fights to break out amongst dogs because they can’t understand the signals the other sends them due to the clothes barrier.

@@supbabe7203 So you think it's wrong of me to care for the wellbeing of dogs? Let me be clear, I dont go around telling random people to stop dressing their dogs. But yes it is my business because I work with dogs, I'm graduated in animal welfare, I have the knowledge most dont know and so It's my RESPONSIBILITY as a professional in animal welfare to tell them how their actions are causing harm to their dogs. Unlike you, most of my clients thanked me for explaining this. Dont worry I can be polite when I need, but this is youtube, nd I have the right to express my opinion based on my knowledge here. If you dont care if a dog is unconfortable or suffering, well thats your problem, but dont tell me I shouldnt care for them

@@supbabe7203 Also I love how all your argument is based on "they probably get used to it" So let me correct you. I'm a biologist, I'm specialized in animal behavior, my area of expertise is dog behavior, I've been studying this for years, and by studying I do not mean looking at dogs at a park, I mean scientific studies, my final project was entirely focused on domestic dog behavio. So I dont wanna be rude, but yes I do understand more of this than you and I love sharing that logic to people who are polite and actually care for their pets which you dont seem to do. I assure you, just getting used to it, does not mean feeling ok with it. Dogs get used to a lot of things, that doesnt mean it becomes a good thing, it doesnt make it ok, specially because you force that on your pet instead of asking them what they want. For example, a dog can have a happy life even with a cut tail, but no matter what this dog will forever have trouble socializating because the tail is a big part of their communicating behaviors. You can have the best vet, you can showered a bulldog or a pug with love, they will still forever suffer with breathing problems. But people care more about how cute the breedings are rather than their wellbeing. So I hate to crush your dreams, but love will NEVER be enough to raise a dog, this is reality not a fairy tale. You can actually give your dog the choice, but humans love to hide behind the word LOVE and force dogs to behave and do what the owners want without asking the pets what they want. Thats why they still call themsleves OWNERS instead of tutors. Because it gives them the right to do whatever they want with their pets instead of being esponsible caretakers

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Of course dogs are not children, but some dog lovers see dogs as sentient beings and that makes them almost as important as people.

It would be a Karen that would say this 😅. Lol jk xD

Maybe she wants to be with her dogs all the time. I know I do.

Claire Bear i understand but in her case it might not be healthy

I agree completely ! I think something happened in her life, judging by her behavior and what her mom said. Maybe she had a miscarriage or something like that ? I don't know, it seems like there was something.

Also, service dogs provide a service (shocking, right lol?) and assist their person with different tasks, whereas a therapy dog is just there to make you feel good. Bravo for training a SD, that's hard work and dedication right there 👏

I was thinking something similar. Like imagine if these were her human children....would she also be forcing them into something they are not comfortable with/meant to do because she wants it for xyz reason?

Be a therapy dog by yourself!

Like a stage mom.

Probably wants others to feel the happiness her dog provides her, don't be rude?? Im in no way defending her but like... Stop and think.

Because she does need a therapy dog

@@Divine.Mercy. yeah ikd why everyone here's attacking her :/

@eleven I kind of felt bad for Tilly for that reason. She seems like she really is a good dog, she's just not a therapy dog, and that should be fine. Honestly, she's what I'd look for in a dog. I live next to a park, so I want to get a dog I can go to the park with and have fun. Energetic and jumpy is great when you're in a big open area. Maybe she should get into dog dancing instead, so she can still live vicariously through the dog, but she'd be going with what the dog likes to do.

I was thinking the same thing watching this. I’m wishing her the best. This was such a Sweet message I hope she sees it

That's a really nice change from ald the people calling her a weirdo, and stuff.

@@sstrugglinginthe this is random but we almost have the same name 😭

@@briannaraquel1020 awww! Hi twin!!!☺️ we have the best name!

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I was wondering who all caught that. XD!!

I too feel it is pumpkins family

I have no idea why this bothered me so much. I went to the comment section just to see who else noticed this. Lol

I was confused too. They probably used the wrong audio because there was a dog on this show named pumpkin

I was like who?? 🤣🤣🤣

I am a dog trainer and I also learn a lot of techniques to pass on to my students.

@@vbs4257 Hi, if you really are a dog trainer can you give me some advice? Cause im getting a GSD puppy in a few months so i wanna be prepared, It would really help!

Same here! And my dog is now a VERY, VERY GOOD BOY! 😊

•ţ ū ř q ů ø î i š ə _ ś ķ ý ş• start training asap! Especially with a German shepherd! They are working dogs and need something to do! I’m also a dog trainer and German shepherds love to please. I suggest crate training or place work (both used to have your dog in a calm state of mind) socialization is a must with ALL dogs, humans and other dogs as soon as you can ( puppy has all its shots)

@@lin____471 do research, look for a trainer to guide you, looks for a proper outlet as they are high energy and need to work (bitework, lure course, scent work,etc) and do not be blind on tools. Tools such as a prong, ecollar, slip leads, etc are there to help. They do not hurt.

codde this is honestly what a lot of people think of service dogs as well. Being a service dog raiser/trainer, I shock people all the time with my current puppy in training with how well behaved he is and how many rules I have for him. I'd say service dog training takes much longer than therapy training, as there are more advanced elements to it, but therapy training is no joke. I can't imagine either how people don't understand that WITHOUT doing research first.

@@artemisb.5853 Exactly. After watching this clip, I looked up the test out of curiosity and there is so much to it. It seems really intense and I could tell instantly that it would take a lot of work to prepare a dog for therapy work. Just reading the details about the different phases of the test shows you how much work it takes.

@@artemisb.5853 We are considering therapy work for our dog, she adores all people and as a small mini schanuazer she loves being cuddled and petted, but she is only 7months and still very excitable, so we are going to decide once she is older and her training has come on more, if it's something she can enjoy and is suited to we'll go for it. Dogs need to enjoy their work to really succeed. Till then we are working on agility and general obiedence to keep her brain busy

And they aren’t even cute

As a service dog handler myself I actually laughed out loud at this she literally has NO clue what having a working dog entails . I literally trained every day and weekly with two different trainers for 13 months only to take the public access test two times before we passed.

I completely agree...and I really think small dog breeds do not have the personalities to be therapy dogs...

​ ​ @Ginger Hammond No. Small dogs can also be great therapy dogs. I have both big and small dogs, my small one has a calmer, sweeter temperament. It all comes down to the dogs character and training! From my experience, smaller dogs are especially great to go to elderly homes and schools. A lot of children feel intimidated by bigger dogs and elderly often love having a dog on their lap.

*children but yea true

@@Its_Faith_617 They will never be children, sorry. But you can still love em!

I love my cats like they are my cildren...they are my children for me but I dont dress them and I dont force them to do anything ...and I let them live like normal cats my obsession looks more like I love to buy them toys all the time and I feed them only raw diet , its okay to love your pets like they are your children but you have to let them be animals they are , because they are not human babies :D

Angie B disagree my dogs are very well behaved and they are my children they’re family do you let children get away with things no do you let dogs get away with things no you raise them and if you mother them mother them right I am a teenage girl with a lot of health problems who is there for me my dogs they’re my babies I take care of them they take care of me my whole life revolves around animals I love them so much I don’t see anything wrong with your dogs being your children as long as you teach them right from wrong as you would a child

I see dogs as equals to myself. Personally I hate real kids, but I love dogs. Dogs aren’t children, but they’re worth more than children in my opinion.

+iMilui-Clearly, she doesn't understand the concept and the weight of what being an actual mother is. Dogs are WAY easier than having kids. And I have quite a lot of dogs and nieces/nephews in the family. And she is the type of "mother" as it is that enjoys overspoiling her "kids" but doesn't accept the responsibility and weight of actually raising those "kids". . .dogs. And she's the type that's surprised and taken back that they're unruly and don't listen to her after she has spoiled them. And that they're not a joy to be around for other people. I feel she was very deeply unhappy and there were things going on in her life that led her to latch on to her dogs like "baby substitutes" and the dogs could sense she was unhappy and that made them very sad and unhappy too. She definitely didn't have a healthy lifestyle where she refused to go out a lot of the time and probably spend time with her family. And since she didn't go out very much, HOW did she even expect her pampered princess that wasn't even properly socialized with other people was going to be anywhere near a therapy dog? From what it seems, Tilly really wasn't that interested and didn't take to wanting to be a therapy dog. (Dogs will display a natural interest/tendency to where you can have a good sense if they can be trained to be good therapy dogs. Because not every dog can be trained well to be one.) And that's okay. But that sort of "mothering" wouldn't even be suitable for kids. If kids went through much the same things, where their mom rarely go out, they rarely go out and see anyone or go anywhere, they would be deeply unhappy and unsettled too. I wouldn't want a child going through that either. It would be far disturbing if she thought that was the true concept of what being a mother is. And Victoria probably got a bit irked because she's a mom and she knows full well what being a dog owner and a mother is.

Sofia yes I’m the same I call my dog my kid my I treat him like a dog

A part of loving your dog is letting them be a dog.

It's not even about letting them be dog, but providing that they can do as such. Why can't we just love our dog as our dogs. Saying "Love my dog like my children" means the love u feel for children is bigger than for dogs so you have to say u love them as children to say u love them more than just dog. Loving a dog as dog doesnt mean u need to love it any less than you would for ur childreb

@@satsujin4027 I like this take, preach

Tbh, kids need to know how to behave too. They push to seek boundaries, if there are none it makes them anxious.

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I know a fair few people who refer to their dogs as kids because they're so attached to their dogs and love them like children. They spoil their dogs but also treat them like dogs and care for them like dogs. Having that balance is essential

Yep. My huskies are spoiled ROTTEN. they have their own room. I have a huge bandana collection but that is my hobby. They get many bully sticks and natural chews and treats and kongs etc. But they also get a lot of walks and are VERY well trained. There has to be a balance. They respect me and they are spoiled 😂.

your dogs ARE members of your family, but they're also still dogs! just like your children, you love them unconditionally and also give them guidance and discipline, but you also need to remember they're not humans! you can't dress them up, force them to sit on your lap, stop them from running around outside, or talk to them like you would children.

Yeah, my kitties are definitely part of my family, and I refer to myself as a "cat mom" all the time - but they're still *cats* and I expect them to behave like cats, not children.

It's fine to see them as members of your family, because they absolutely are. But start treating them like humans and put human expectations on them and you've completely lost me. A dog deserves the respect to be able to act according to their species and instincts. Let dogs be dogs please

BlueRhapsodyy my dog is my life so it is actually the same.

What would life be without dogs❤

@Luc you're aware that has nothing to do with this, right?

Career nanny here! Many tips and tricks to training dogs are the same for toddlers and vice versa. This lady is NO EXAMPLE of anything except how to be a neurotic mum.

What about left children?

Dogs are better

@@blowitoutyourcunt7675 lol I'm sorry I had to laugh about the name. Thank you! 😆

@@anastasiaerbe1826 It started out as a bit of venomous feminism and the reactions I get to it are hilarious! From 'lol, love it' to 'you must really hate women!' Cheers doll!

Xx Wolfie xX yes I agree but maybe she wants children and isn’t in a relationship or can’t have children. One can never really know what a person is going through in their personal life.

Wilson Combatgirl I wouldn’t compare a dog to anything more than a fresh out the womb baby.. After a certain age kids are just way more complex

I call my dog my kid

@@laurajoshi6474 Or maybe she’s a lesbian. We can’t assume.

Dogs are better 😂😂

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Yeah, but in a way I feel small dogs are harder to connect with. They are so far down it's hard to guide them with touch and difficult to get good eye contact. Using treats for rewards and luring can also be tricky when the dog is so small.

actually ppl lose control over smaller dogs then bigger ones because small dogs look too cute and not dangerous they get away with a ton of dogs because it was cute to the owner

@@SilentDarkAngel16 exactly

Yeah like she doesn't want to like let it go

@Shannon F-PA completely agree she just wants to show off the dog like some sort of fashion accessory! Heidi has issues she needs therapy herself!

Seeking a kind of achievement or status?

@@matreen427 probably

I knew a woman who would say "Don't you call my son a dog!" referring to her dog which was part mastiff. She had a good sense of humor but she also had a life besides her dog. She was fun and she meant the comment in fun..

It'sOlivia Yes! Very well said!!

KoraXZ thank you very much

It'sOlivia No problem!

Because one is a human and the other an animal. That's why.

Exactly dog may be a man's best friend but dog can't be humans.

Karina Peters Technically, we are not, we are classified as homosapians which literally means human being.

warriorwolfprincess - also 😒 and 🙄

The show is old ...

These are old episodes.

This show is YEARS old 😂😂😂

Alan Heath, I'm laughing my butt off!

This is the best comment in the section!

Do the DNA test just in case 😂