Recognizing Your Son's Need For Respect - Emerson Eggerichs Part 1 

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Emerson is really a game changer And he has helped me so much

the male problem is more important right now

Not from my perspective

All this video will tell them is how to immediately expect respect because they have a penis.

I also being blessed by Dr. Dobson book "Bringing Up Boys". It gave me lots of clues how as a mother deal well with sons. God bless you

No, it's abusive

@@fluffybabybunny5822 it's not...

Men need respect, but women don't (at least as much as men?). That is seriously abusive and the entire reason why men don't respect women.

It went well, thank you

Yay!

Was your husband open to learning about growing in marriage? I ask because, if a husband is not open, can a marriage still grow in Christ?

Myisha Cooper myisha, I have begun reading Mother & Son. I am looking for a reading partner, practice partner. Have you already read your copy?

Myisha Cooper anyone else who is interested, I could put my email down, and then we could exchange # for texting.

Well that was deliberate; he used very emotive words: "face turns sour" "eye rolling" "scolding finger". These terms are meant to evoke discomfort......and they worked.

@@dumfriesspearhead7398 of course - he had to recreate it because there were no women (their real wives/mothers) actually in studio.

@@heidib.4089 No he didn't have to recreate it, he could've just described it. He uses very loaded terms and describes them in a way meant to evoke disgust. He talks about women needing to give men respect .........but is then very disrespectful in describing women. It's not WHAT he says, but the WAY he says it.

@@dumfriesspearhead7398 goodness, he is purposely and accurately describing the behavior of poorly behaving disrespectful women in order to give examples of what that looks like. And their response to imagining being talked to like that confirms that even imagining being on the receiving end of bad behavior makes them uncomfortable. Their behavior confirms what the point of the video is - which is to bring awareness to how we address each other.

Don't know about him, but the Bible certainly tells them to honor their mother and father.

Was there anything in the broadcast that implied that they shouldn't?? Way off beat

This video tells more about how you don't respect the behavior but you love and respect the SOUL within him.

I don't think there is a wrong way. We moms all want the right words...just takes LOTS of practice for us. Talking to her with love is the most important thing for her. :)

No: talking to her with respect is the most important thing. Love comes as part of that. This video is trash. If he loves her he will be respectful towards her

You just remember that she didn't mean it and remember if she knew this info she would talk differently

It's work, survival, the external masculine sphere and therefore different rules apply.

@@toomuchinformation exactly

same here - i was planning on using this series and question and answer form for a small group study starting tomorrow but I can't find the 5 videos that go along with the study.

These are RU-vid snippets. To get actual videos as part of a purchased series, I perceive it would be best to contact Focus on the Family.

Absolutely! It is men who largely don't respect women and children. This video is teaching abusive one-sided rubbish.

@vanessa Perkins Palmer it’s impossible for a guy to feel emasculated by another guy, including a dad. I can’t imagine a son feeling disrespected by his dad. That’s not how us guys operate. Yes I can imagine us feeling angry and frustrated and very hurt about our dad. But us guys know how to speak to each other, and respect the code of respect, just like how girls know how to speak each other and respect their code. There’s just something as a guy, when a girl yells at me, that feels different than if a guy yells at me. I’ve been yelled at guys and I still feel comfortable and I’m my place. But when I’m yelled at a girl my heart rate goes way up and I just have a burning desire to deescalate the situation. Us guys are comfortable with other guys and don’t often feel personally attacked by them. It’s just guys being guys. Whereas a girl can strike right at the heart

This video is specifically towards mothers and sons. That's why it's not addressing men at the time... there's plenty of other content for that.

@@Matt-by3yd I agree. Recently a pastor said that when a woman confronts a guy, he responds to her like she is another dude. That feels unloving to me as a female, so I started checking my tone when approaching my husband about serious subjects.

​@leuannam.94 In what way?

That's not gendered though. It goes both ways. This video is just stupid male posturing.

@@fluffybabybunny5822 There are also series for the female gender dear.

You may want to seek professional help. You should not have to live in a violent environment.. The ones who are violent may not want to stay that way. Maybe they want to love but need help?

Violence is a level one stoops or lowers them self to to gain respect almost demanding it out of fear that the other party has the upper hand

For sure who doesn't just want to be loved!

Respect the person but get help to confront the behaviors/words

Violence does not deserve respect. The fact that you feel the need to ask this question just shows how dangerous this series is. Sons should respect both parents. Moms are not to be subservient to their sons.

And as in? In effect of doing so? You mean men love your wife. Wife respect your husband.

@@isackhernandez3691men and women need both love and respect. And respect does not mean veneration.

@greyhoundssss obviously. But the distinction between the two is the attention to detail and their desires but to say both need something is just lazy.

@@isackhernandez3691 they really do need both, though. Eggerichs repeatedly mischaracterized Dr. Gottman’s research on marriage. Gottman found that healthy, long-lasting marriages were characterized by love and respect for BOTH spouses-not Eggerichs’ view that men should only provide basic relating to women while women should put men on a pedestal above them.

@@isackhernandez3691 not only does Eggerichs repeatedly misrepresent Gottman’s research, he completely ignores research from Gottman that disproves his claim that men should be in an elevated position above women in marriage. Gottman found that women in the kind of marriage Eggerichs advocates for, marriages with a power differential, are more unhappy and more likely to divorce. Men in an Eggerichs marriage might be thrilled to have an Eggerichs Stepford wife, but many women in such marriages are miserable. Many women also cite Eggerichs philosophy as the one that empowered their abusive husbands to treat them even worse.

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Not what they said AT ALL.

He's just asking everyone to just use a few words. How bad can it be.

When I realized that the onus of change was on *me*, I felt similarly. What I failed to realize was that although their words make it sound like they have it all together, in reality they are insecure and are in need of our love and affirmation. Where they seem like they are in control and have it all figured out, nothing could be further from the truth. Kathy, we are not assuming responsibility for what they do, we are coming to terms with how much we love them and are willing to show them grace while they make their way in life, just as Jesus Christ has done with each one of us. They are still watching, whether they say so or not. Our example can speak powerfully into their lives.

It comes out at various times in his "Love and Respect" book and interviews.

Hormones affect mood, snowflake.

I agree. Sometimes men don’t really understand that.

He's a specialist. He knows the changes that happen in men and women's bodies when they are in conflict. So I think he was saying it as a fact not as insult. Changes in hormones for both men and women is nothing to be ashamed about, it's just science. There is just a long history of women being criticized in that manner.

@@MJ31579 agreed. People are very sensitive about this, but he's speaking as a doctor. We do have chemical reactions that drive us to spontaneous actions. We all know this keenly.

You're lucky. It's trash

@@fluffybabybunny5822 if you have negative feelings about this video, what gives you the right to dissuade others from experiencing it and making their judgements based on their own perspective? Who made you judge and jury of you tube videos? Where's your false sense of grandiose from? I pray for you.

These stories about interactions with children are alien to me, especially the part about yelling and then being totally okay after it. I have never experienced that. This is over-generalizing. But if a man or boy knows he is engaged in grave sins, he won’t respect himself, so he won’t even be able to accept respect from anyone else. Infidelity and promiscuity are not going to allow men and boys to feel respected, because they would need to repent first. Women are not responsible for men’s lustful sins, and they cannot change those men and boys by simply acting more respectful. If fact, if the man or boy is being narcissistic, respect will increase the narcissism and the abuse of the woman. Teenage boys will sometimes physically or verbally abuse their moms, and that should be addressed here. Respecting abusers makes them believe that the abuse is having the desired effect, and the abuse could increase and turn into a murder. I have seen this happen.

I’m going through this it’s like my son hates me

@@pamelacrouch7352 oh the narsasisstic buzz word.

He obviously meant "married", but using "regular" is a damning single mothers with faint shade.......and he knows it. Sly.

I don’t think you actually watched this video.

He doesn't say that. You have feminist brainwashing

That is not what they are saying at all. Did you actually listen from the beginning to the end?

You need to listen to the video again. You may have fallen asleep through some of the vital truths they touched on.

Some series comprehension issues here... they said nothing of the sort.

You don't get it

The only reason fathers should care for their daughters is because their daughters will be looking after them when they get older and infirm.

Did they say that??

You didn't listen

​@@PaperGrapeEggerichs has said this.

@dumfriesspearhead7398 obviously meaning it in a primary need way. Not in a "disrespect your daughters because we only give sons respect" way. Don't be ridiculous.

I think it’s because we do feel like we do nothing but try to love and take care of our kids, and then if they don’t obey, or are still doing that thing we are constantly telling them not to, etc, we feel like they don’t care about all we do for them, etc

You must have missed the part where they get hundreds of emails from families who have been helped immensely by these broadcasts because they actually *listen*

Little Prince Syndrome.