We can all give ideas for red flags but really red flags are personal to you and your standards, views, beliefs, experiences etc. A red flag is a feeling or sign when you are speaking w someone and something they say or do doesn’t feel right in your spirit and your intuition is saying…no. Just always make sure your not ignoring that and you should have nothing to worry about.
I am a 60 year old who is a widow. You two are a beautiful couple. These are very good red flags in general. Keep up what God is giving you’ll for the people. Keep this marriage lovingly strong as you seem to be doing. I love you as a couple 🩷💙
I just want to thank both of you for sharing this because it opened my eyes to a certain situation. The red flags were everywhere. How can a man tries to pursuit you without ever asking you for your phone number or a date. I was too smart for him
I totally agree with you guys. Iman I had missed your laughter. 😂 There are red flags which are beyond red, "red sea". 😊 I've learnt something from you two thanks. 🤗 Stephon you're right about the last point about 'balance'. 😊
Accepting that what I want isnt too much, and that those things will be given freely by the right person, is a lesson that I've had to learn over and over again. 💟
Hey sis and bro!! Y’all my absolute favorite couple! This video, just like others has so much nuggets. This video is much needed. I have ignored so many red flags 🚩 in the past, because I was giving others the benefit of the doubt, based on my heart and because I wanted genuine love so much! To be honest, genuine love shouldn’t be forced. You shouldn’t have to beg for time to be spent, texts, calls or FaceTime shouldn’t go unanswered. I was sleeping on myself, but I’m woke now! I know my worth and going forward, if I see red flags 🚩, orange flags, blue flags or purple flags, or any color of the rainbow 🌈 flag, if the flags are not white flags 🏳️, I’m out ✌🏾 and all they will see is the 💨 💨 💨 smoke from my 🚙 leaving!! 😂😂😂 Keep these videos coming as they food for my soul! Love y’all! 🤎🤍
If I date any guy as a single Christian woman I dont bring him into my family life because I have to see whats really happening first. My red flags of a man, communication, how he speaks/treats me, how he pays attention to things, not intentional, cant make decisions,dont have a positive outlook for life, not a go getter, to layback, not family oriented, not loving, understanding and cant serve as a man.
18:58 not justifying this behaviour but coming from a very toxic family, I think it’s important to understand that adults who were raised in non-Christian or very disfunctional households don’t want to be held responsible or penalized by our parents actions & decisions in life. Not everyone grew up in a two parents loving household and like Stephon at 19:46 said it *does* turn off people. I really wanted to point it out because I had to go through deliverance from generational trauma and I accepted now that my true family is the *kingdom family*. Plus, when meeting a men I can’t just bring him to my parents because he needs to be prepared and willing to face whatever. Please pray for me because this had stalled potential great relationships in the past (before I got delivered) 🙏🏾
What I love about God is that he gets the glory out of all our circumstances and literally nothing is too “messy, toxic, dysfunctional” or whatever the case may be that he can’t turn around for our good! He said he causes all things to work together for our good for those that love him. So be encouraged that nothing can hinder you from Gods promises when we invite him to turn our life around for his gloru! God will redeem the time and give you a beautiful love story in his perfect timing! Excited for you 💕
I just watched you all on the future wifey podcast, and I am amazed at how God connected you all. I am a single mom and has been burned in relationship, and at this point praying to God for a God fearing man to respect, honor and love me. I know that if he did it for you all, He will do it for me. I admire you all. God is always working in Jesus name.
It’s definitely that 3 month mark 😂 but I wonder if it’s not them being inconsistent after 3 months or if it’s us in La La land and we start to see more clear after 3 months. They probably were inconsistent the whole time if we would’ve been clear minded paying attention 😩
Also Iman, while you went through your dating phase and saw a pattern of men that became inconsistent eventually, did you ever consider if it was something spiritual?
It depends on if talking everyday is healthy for you AND your partner also. While we were courting we did talk everyday but not just every hour lol and coordinated times that worked best for both of our schedule.
Yall are truly Barbie and Ken. Such a beautiful couple. I can't stand it. Just equally gorgeous. I love yall. May God continue to bless you all union. In Jesus name 🙏🏾 ❤
Great advice, Iman and Stephon! I've met a lot of red flags, and i cut them off with a quickness! Its the knowing. It's the Holy Spirit! The Spirit will notlie, even if you dont have all the facts. Just trust that intuition! This video made me feel validated. Keep the videos coming!
Iman is just such a doll and so sweet. And I love how Stephon takes such good care of her and really cherishes her. This channel is so encouraging and I’m so happy to see a couple that honors God. Thanks for sharing your story and giving some insight into your life! 🫶🏾
Wow, thank you Step & Iman for doing this video! As always, my heart, mind and soul was blessed by this! The red flags are real but looking forward to the white flags! ❤❤❤
This was so on point & validated a lot of what I’ve been through. You know it’s forced when you don’t have peace!! Also the part about a person making you their whole world. Omg my ex wanted me on the phone with him allllll the time. It is obsessive. It is a person making making you an idol.💯 I am so glad I ended the relationship I was in a year and a half ago. I’ll wait on God for His best for me in His timing. Amen! Thanks you both. ❤🎉😊
Y'all are so gorgeous!!! Such a match made in heaven! I love and appreciate you guys so much❤️ Thank you for the wisdom, light and positivity you share with us. Part 2 pls!! Blessings.
This video was so needed, thank you!!! It was enlightening to hear that inconsistency is a red flag. I also enjoyed becoming aware of red flags from a man’s perspective. Please definitely do a part 2!!!
This was a great and discerning list! Thanks for sharing - this was wisdom. Those who have ears to hear will hear! I love when you mentioned the part about someone could be “operating in the spirit of deception”. Whew! The Holy Spirit will show us so much if we just yield… He really does want the best for us. God bless you all!
One thing that stood out to me was the way she could share her past dating experiences that weren’t the best in the presence of her husband. As women we know how risky it can be to share previous dating experiences with new partners for fear of judgement or that they would use it against us or try to manipulate us. I believe when we experience pure love, we can be fully vulnerable and feel safe in doing so. Thank you both for such a positive video 🙏🏾 ❤️
Great video. May God bless your marriage and I hope you do a vlog on your date day! lol. We love being a small part of your lives! It’s so inspiring. I’m married but I just really appreciate your content. It’s so important to share the love of Christ with others! ❤
Thank you for yet another reverting and thoughtful podcast ❤❤❤❤ Thank you for remembering us.. If God remembered you, He definitely will remember me too❤❤❤❤❤
Hi beautiful couple, great red flag content. Ignoring those red flags can cause a lot of heartache and pain. Sometimes we give people the benefit of the doubt and let things slide. But if the behavior is habitual then it's time to run for the hills. Especially close pay attention if they have anger, entitlement, compulsive issues. Another major red flag is the have narcissistic traits. If so, save yourself the misery by cutting off the connection asap.
