Im so impolite and vulgar and totally have no manners lmao. This is good for me, I like being myself but I still want to learn HOW to have etiquette as an extremely argumentative, philosophically investigative person who has to use conflict resolution every single day and talk about hard stuff with people I have perfect “manners” when people need space to communicate but my emphasis is on leading with curiosity not politeness, because being messy is needed when people have a mess to deal with especially in the home. I spend so much time working with the abnormal I do really crave normalcy at times. Thank u for this
I need this book. Im a koreanAmerican, lived in both countries and i dont want to raise my kids being confused when i have them. Ive been feeling left out in both country and i shut my personality out for so long i lost myself. This book might help me to improve who i am now. Cant wait to get it.
I love a world where we can now meet emotional needs AND conform to a polite world in a place of safety. I think this is a really well integrated model. I see the work that y’all are doing. A lot of people can’t be polite because a lot of their negative experiences in childhood occurred in a polite way right, and many people who had psychological harm inflicted on them had cultural pressure to be nice to them, so an emotionally informed way to renter this space with consent is really groundbreaking I want to say thank u again for posting this have a great day
Love this angle. Education is all about empowerment- when you really know how to use a skillset you’re free to decide when and how to use it. I think the stereotypical etiquette class (like what my mom had to do) was less about learning or teaching and more about TRAINING and instruction.
I loove the topic and the vibe, but the whole conversation felt a bit forced. It seemed like there was a rush to discuss a lot and that's why it lacked natural flow between topics. I'd prefer it to be more like a continuous, connected discussion, now it seems more like a Q&A
It's very valuable to acknowledge that just because finishing school was traditionally women only, doesn't mean that the skills aren't still valuable. Hopefully no one is telling men they can't go or women that they have to. Sidenote: is it enby privilege or erasure to not be considered lol
I felt guest is really amazing and know what she speaks about. The host needs to get some training to ask questions and groove the interview more interesting.
Dude isnt Ally very lazy with her voice?? Im asian so im guessing thats how most people in the US sound like But who else noticed the difference between the voices of both the ladies...yah ik they're different and im not judging or anything But its just me trying to police her with positive critism which would help her grow maybe
Why does the host speak like that. It hurts my ear. The one who has written the book talks in her real voice, but the one asking questions, why do you speak like that. USE YOUR REAL VOICE!!
what background does she have?? I am from Asia. she cannot generalize this situation. I was born and raised in one of East Asia country. We do open gifts in front of friends and family, and show how happy we are and share our emotions with them. Probably, she was raised in Asia family in Western country where I heard they can be really conservative because they usually communicate only with immigrants who have old backgrounds from their family and Asian neighbors? This is one of the examples but she generalizes all situations differently showing them we are different… but that is not true, or maybe it happens only in China or in her country neighborhoods or family. I hope everyone doesn’t misunderstand our Asian culture only from this video
