I am a Natural hair content creator and I will like to point out that it’s possible to have a healthy relaxed hair…. As long as you are moderate on the chemical usage. The goal is to care for your hair whether natural or relaxed.
Yes, the goal is to care for the manufactured hair so it doesn’t break, but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy! That’s like saying weave is healthy. It’s over. All you are doing is maintaining it
I have been relaxing my hair nonstop from the time I was 9 years old. I will be 56 next birthday. I have a full healthy head of hair. I have never worn braids or wigs. I relax my hair every 8 weeks. I wash my hair every weak and deep condition every other week. I take a regimen of vitamins and I eat healthy. I also get regular trims. I have absolutely no problems with my hair. Its cheaper to maintain and less fuss. My mother had it relaxed because I had plenty thick hair and she has problems combing it. At the start of menopause I had breakage and I just cut it into a shorter style until grew back out. There is no debate about relaxed or natural. You just have to do what is right for you.
I can imagineeeee. Tbh I feel like I am gonna relax my hair or just cut it and dye it different colors because natural hair is just a lot. Do this, do that. I really don't have patience for it tbh. It's beautiful quite alright and all but abeggg
I want to relax my hair with the Avlon relaxer, But I'm scared my hair might fall out or I might get cancer...I'm bored of natural hair...What do you think I should do?
I love this video because I was overwhelmed with wearing wigs and even more overwhelmed with wearing my hair out because I couldn’t seen the beauty in MY OWN HAIR. It’s a journey so I hope my confidence grows out more as I do it.
I was the same. I found confidence when my natural hair hit a certain length then I loved how it looked. Keep growing it out. I always felt self conscious in wigs it’s not for me x
This. I really hate having weave in, especially since my dry 4c hair grows dandruff too easy, but two strands kinky twists are the only ways to keep my hair manageable
As a natural hair content creator, I have to say people are honestly so different. When I was relaxed, I always had my hair ‘done’ because I was bored of the constant ‘packing style’. Now I’m natural, I have sooo many styles to explore and i rarely get added hair even when I style it. But my norm 70% of the time is THE PUFF! Yes girl😂 I’m over here puffing my whole life away! Lol but really everyone is different, just do what works best for you and enjoy the journey. ❤
@@osamedennadi6309The myth of black women not washing our hair 3-4 times a week is why black women have trouble retaining length. Our hair follicles clog and we consider it normal. It’s not. We should be washing our hair WAY more than we do.
plss not the indomie lmao. i am glad you've found what works for you, Kamsi. as someone who has also found "their hairstyle" within the last year, i am an unofficial advocate for doing whatever tf you want. people will always have something to say. i have and LOVE my buzz cut and some folks (including family sometimes) won't stop asking me where my wigs are. let's all just do what works for us jare
I relax my hair 2-3 a year. I even use natural hair products to still take care of my hair. My hair grows really well and fast. I think most people should get to know their hair type (not just 4c kinda thing ) but how fast you hair get dry, your scalp etc.
Relaxed or 4B/C hair, they’re all natural. It’s from “Your” roots. I think what should be more important is that your hair is healthy💯 I’ve watched you slay your relaxed hair and can’t dare to hate, it’s a great compliment to your look and aesthetic, I love it🙇🏽♀️❤️
I have fine 4c natural hair, and wearing my hair everyday in sleeked looks is very doable. People ask me a lot when I’ll get my hair done, but my hair hates protective styles, and I don’t even love them either. Sleek looks give me the confidence I need. I’m literally getting my hair done everyday, so what are they saying fr 🤣.
We shed on average 80-100 strands daily. As you mentioned in your video, you wore your hair 90% of the time in protective styles. Therefore, it was hard for you to notice the shedding.
I kid you not. I live in the uk and all of a sudden we all became team natural but wearing wigs. IT WAS ALL A SCAM YALL. Once I relaxed my hair, life became so easy. And my hair grew longer, oddly.
Oh my gosh Kamsi! You hit the nail on the head. I used to never carry my actual hair out and always hid it under wigs. My hair wasn’t healthy back then but I started educating myself and being intentional with my routine and my hair started thriving. I started wearing it out more and that’s when I observed that Nigerian ladies and men alike think it’s awkward for you to not have any extensions. I remember someone once asked if I never “made my hair” for religious reasons. I was like haaa!!
I want to relax my hair because I don’t know what to do with my hair but I know it would break my heart to do that to my hair I absolutely love my fullness and thickness.. Relaxed hair look sad to me
I’m 48 and my “hairstyle” since high school has always been a bun or ponytail too. It compliments my face the best. Even when I wear wigs it’s in a low bun or ponytail.
Relaxing my 4C hair was the best thing that happened to me! 5months since I relaxed my hair and I have not put any extensions or worn a wig, just enjoying my hair and styling it however I want and it looks so good on me and ppl say it looks gorgeous as well! My life is def easier now for sure and no regrets!
I used to be relaxed my whole life and decided to go natural during Covid lockdowns because I felt adventurous 😂 Now I don’t really see myself going back. I feel like relaxed hair is pretty high maintenance too because you always have to keep up with the relaxer touch ups and make sure to find a way to keep your hair from shedding excessively(which I was not good at 😅) I’m honestly more of a lazy natural, just wash my hair once every 1-2 weeks and leave it in a protective style. That’s what works best for me. At the end of the day, relaxed or natural you still need to make some kind of effort in taking care of it. Just do what’s best for you 😊
When I was still on relaxed hair, I leave my hair for 6months before I relax again so I just relax my hair just twice in a yr. It helped me retain lenght. But I notice my hair was shedding too much at a time so I decided to go natural
Not the shade at indomie please 😂 The slick back hairstyle fits you alotttt and it has this clean look I use to be a relaxed hair girl right from childhood,but I decided to go natural for change of look, something different I guess, sometimes it can be a lot when managing, but I love it though, I enjoyed the video btw ❤️
I think a big part of your decision is you didnt wear your natural hair out in styles for your own personal reasons. So feeling like you need to always wear a wig or braids is def overwhelming. Been natural 18 years and recently thought of perming but barriers are maintenance and pain(scalp always burned). These stylist are wildin with their prices and I cant be bothered. But i wish I could wear a sleek ponytail. Would be my go to style and make life easier!
I was contemplating stopping relaxers as I have only had 2 starting last year and want to be healthier but the maintenance involved and how I just want to look DONE out the shower very minimal work involved has me reconsidering 😀
it's interesting that you get comments on your hair not being 'done'. it's been the opposite for me. since my relaxer in Jan 22, I keep getting compliments on how beautiful the hair looks, how it's made me look more mature etc. people will always have weird opinions lol
I am at the point where I do not want to do anything at all to my natural hair, feels like I am in bondage, I have been hiding it away in protective styles, not having fun with my hair anymore. I am really contemplating relaxing it.
I started to feel like that but I choose colour and a tapered cut instead of relaxer. I also find having two textures annoying when the relaxer grows out.
And your rebuttal should have been “white, Hispanic, and Asian women don’t get their hair done” it’s cool when they do it, it’s a problem when I do it 😂
Thank you for your confidence as a relaxed girly, I as a guy enjoy even my hair relaxed but I took in so much information i live for it. Bout to relax my hair today 😂
Love the new background! Amazing video Kamsi. I relaxed my natural hair last year and its the best decision i've made. I don't regret it at all because its alot easier for me to manage and manipulate my hair now. I'm able to do more styles. I stress less about how my hair looks. There's more versatility. Its just so easy! At the end of the day just do what you want with your hair and keep it healthy.
✨It amuse me when people are triggered by the word *RELAXER* like Chelsea come on now! *It’s just Hair!!!* And the headaches and breakage that comes with maintaining Natural hair isn’t something one can transfer to someone else to carry, like REST abeg😂😂
If you find a combination of products,that really (soften)your new growth.Then you can,extend your gap,between relaxing. Shampoo/conditioner,moisture & protein treatments,your styling products.And you can also,use a electrical pressing comb,to straighten your hair.This is what I do.Also you can saturate your hair with Ghee,it’s an Indian cooking butter,it conditions,softens,smoothes,and grows hair.
I came to this video for confirmation. I been natural for over 10 years and I’m thinking about getting my hair relaxed again. It’s hard to maintain natural hair.
In ALL cultures, your hair in a bun or pulled back in a simple pony is considered "not done" lol. Doesn't matter that it's neat... it's just too simple to be considered "done". But I love it...simple, classic, chic
I love that you mentioned about the comments of “having your hair done” I love wearing my own hair in a low bun and feel my most beautiful that way! We are able to Show our features! And you look beautiful with your hair like that! ❤
I asked Bae today, remember kamsi that my favorite RU-vidr and he goes…. How can I forget, you drum her name in my ears 😅😅😅 go girl I am always rooting for you. You made me start my RU-vid channel and I love my growth so far. Thank you ❤❤❤
My two cents... Lol, how can natural hair not be "difficult" when even our mothers dont know to take care of it, one cant transition to natural hair after relaxing for the first quarter of their life and suddenly know everything it takes to care for kinky hair. Aside from the time and energy, i believe one has to unlearn hair beauty standards and the perception of "neat" hair to fully embrace natural hair or else they'll just be struggling everytime its time to style it. Relaxers do to hair what bleaching does to skin, everybody should sha choose the kind of cancer they prefer I dont see any point in policing what others do with their hair. It doesnt add money to anyone's bank account.
Exactly. My hair is a lot too. I just prefer to relax. I totally understand why my grandma and mum kept it relaxed and it was always healthy and beautiful. I’m just not with keeping it natural it costs me more money because some people’s hair isn’t as thick they use less of the product. I use three times as much which makes it expensive to maintain it natural. I love it relaxed and will continue to. I’m going for a pixie cut. I had a baby 8 months ago and my hair has become rogue 😂😂😂
Your hair is giving. I remember when you decided to relax your hair I was like oops I hope the outcome will worth it. But now seeing your hair on relaxed I.must confess I think I love it more🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
A lot of people might not like what I am about to say but some people are delusional, yes you can have healthy relaxed hair but the perms are not good for your body, your nervous system or hormones. These fumes are not good to inhale or to be absorbed into your skin.I’m tired of people saying it’s possible to have healthy relaxed hair.So you are telling me y’all care more about having « manageable »hair than protecting your body from these fumes and chemicals. Y’all keep talking about having healthy relaxed hair, how about having a healthy body?! Anyways, everyone has their own choices. My question is would you eat a relaxer? No. So why put it on your body ? knowing that our bodies absorbs these chemicals…
I went back to a relaxer after 3 yrs of being natural. Natural hair is very time consuming and I can’t tolerate the pain or braids or weave and wigs make me too hot.
I had my natural hair for about 4 years. Its thickness and shrinkage are authentic curios to go back to relaxers because I'm tired of braiding and twisting out and constantly having to get protective styles because my hair isn't the pretty lossy glossy curls. I felt that because unfortunately, even blowouts or silk presses would only last 1-2 days, even with wrapping before heat and humidity takes over.
I can relateeeeeeeee oh my! I can so relate to that feeling of bondage. I really am not one who has the time to care for my hair and natural hair requires just so much care. Anytime I loose my hair, I have to quickly make a bew hair because caring for natural hair is just a lot. I have full hair and so I can't decide to just leave my hair packed when it's natural and it's so annoying
First one here 🎉 I’ve had relaxed hair all my life but never use to wear it out. But after seeing you girlllll, ponytails have been the order of the day for me for the past couple of months. If I’m trying to be fancy, I add a detachable ponytail 😅
So you relaxed your hair and go to the salon every cpl months just to put it back in one? 😂. Sis, you could’ve just pulled it back blow dried like that natural!
in the last 4 years ive gone through natural to microlocs , last weekend i cut of my locs (big chop) i want to grow my hair out this time straight and ill be "heat training" its a great alternative to relaxer
I've been natural my entire life . Somewhat. I've dyed my hair. A couple times . Same issue . It's a chemical I didn't feel connected to myself. When I used these chemicals. With my natural hair I feel closer to my self , my ancestors , my culture, my GODS AND GODDESSES!! I AM OF THEM. I LOVE THEM I LOVE ALL OF MY CURLS MY TEXTURES AND MY FEATURES.
Yeah I agree. I'm not the biggest fan of black women having to alter their natural hair just for it to look straight all of the time. Black hair isn't straight, so our natural hair is our own lovely ethnic beauty. It's fine if others don't agree and obviously you can do what you want with your hair, but...I can't be the only one that's kind of disappointed in this...
I love your honesty Kamsi and appreciate your transparency!!! Hair is beautiful either way, and I am relaxed as well. Was natural 6 years and was very unhappy and too time consuming. I love being relaxed again and I am NEVER going back natural lol
I’ve never been natural but I looove my relaxed hair so much, I can’t imagine my life without it. I do believe natural hair is beautiful and would love to consider it at some point though. Your hair is thriving by the way 🤩😍💗
Wow, I started this journey at the beginning of the year and my hair has grown so well, and for a while I received such harsh comments that relaxing your hair is not natural. I'm happy that you encouraged me once again to continue. Thank you so much Kamsi.
Hi Kamsi! I love how honest you are and I completely agree with you on the sentiment of people thinking my hair isn’t done when it’s simply slicked back. I’ve been contemplating relaxing for yearssss because I usually wear my natural hair pressed straight or in a slicked bun and I love wearing my hair out. I know you can have great hair while relaxed but I find it difficult to find salons that can apply lye relaxers professionally. Can you please make some semi-affordable recommendations in Lagos?
My natural hair is easy to deal with. I think that people don’t view natural as professional so they do all these things to make natural look a certain way. Doing all that work is hard. Natural hair is easy.
@@MsGoodyTwoShoes I can say that having 4c hair is generally harder than the other hair types and this is coming from someone who hasn't relaxed their hair in over 10 years. I am grateful to have hair and I see my hair as a crown but maintaining afro-textured can be challenging. I've only started growing it out the beginning of this year after keeping it cropped short for over 4 years. Now my hair is still at a manageable length but I know it's going to be more of a pain as it gets thicker and longer and thicker. That being said, my hair is long enough for braids now so I'm keeping the style for the time being.
@@aprilsummers6447 I have type 4 hair and my hair is easy to deal with. There’s a saying that, whatever you believe to be true is true…so if you believe type 4 is hard to deal with it will be.
@@MsGoodyTwoShoes I did say harder relative to other hair types... Also yes I agree that we need to change the idea that kinky hair is unprofessional. I often go out in my mini afro but I am just one person. I hope in time I could see more afros and locs.
I would love to relax my hair but I’m afraid. I don’t wear wigs or anything else just my natural hair. If anyone wants to relax than it’s their decision they shouldn’t be attacked. Maintaining and managing natural hair is a struggle for some so let everyone do what makes them happy.
Yes! Make the decision based on what will make you happy at the end of the day. Consider the pros and cons. Always ask yourself why you went natural in the first place
I love this video! So many parts that had me screaming YAAAASSS!!! You look amazing and you're so funny lol I have locs and considering combing my locs out soon. I'm ready for this change 💛
yeah i just coloured my natural hair and going to get a tapered cut. i can just roll out of bed and the style is done. lol! less detangling on wash day too.
I have bee natural for 6 yrs and i'm getting mine relaxed as well.........mine is too much and i'm tired of walking around being a bag lady and looking unkempt.....i'm getting it relaxed so i can manage it better
This was how I was enjoying my relaxed hair till one hairdresser used expired relaxer on my hair 😭😭. My hair started shedding like I had cancer 😢, I had to shave my head.
Omg, you look absolutely stunning! I intend to relax my hair in a few months and saw your relaxer video. Thank you for the update. Great to see you so happy with your hair. Very inspiring.
My hair was natural and long since my mum relaxed it my hair was so long down to my shoulders only at 13 now it’s natural as I have not relaxed it since 2 years since my mum passed away I had already taken care of my hair I’m 52 now my aunt conrow my hair as I’m not good at it but I keep learning but I have to do it as well I have a learning disability I do so much now I’m going back natural my hair is going I take vitamins but I have to eat healthy 🥗 and I would like to have my hair long back the way since I was 13 years old I will Extensions to help my hair grow back I need to look after my hair and body I need to cut ✂️ the ends used to do it myself but no I rather go to the hair dresser’s as I have beautiful thick hair as well 👍🏽
