Very true. I used to attract young immature men in my 30s and I switched my wardrobe to expensive/business casual-looking. I do makeup every single day and keep my hair flowing. I could see the results immediately. I’ve always been pretty but that’s no excuse not to do my makeup and make myself look even better. Dusties would comment on how they liked that I didn’t wear makeup ALL the time. That’s the main reason I started wearing it.
Love you sis. Went out with a potential SD. I told him I'm off only two days a week (LOL) issa lie tho 🤑. He doesn't want me working, I told him I need at least two weeks to give notice to job, he already gave me money 💰 💰 💰 truth is.. I'm not even working , but have an interview Monday at Publix. 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 Don't have to go anymore!! Aaaanndd he wants to get me my own place because he hates I have curfew at sister's house (I don't have curfew 😂🤣😂🤣) it's working, and I have you to thank for, my mom and Micheal Pink. Def will be sending you and Ms Pink donations. love you big sis!!! ❤️❤️😍🤗😘😘💃🍷
Law 11: Learn to keep people dependent on you. “To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.”
@@arminiusofgermania You sound very foolish...do you have a TV, what cave are you writing that nonsense from🤯? Probably too broke to travel🥴. Bros shift abeg😒...
This makes a lot of sense. It’s true. That is why the BROKE men bash wigs, weave and makeup because they want you to stay looking average, therefore the real alpha men won’t look at you. Meaning more average plain women for them to have. Hmmm!
Danaija Robinson I dated dusties in my early 20s too & this is true. I would be made to feel bad for speaking proper English lol but later I realized, I just made them feel stupid because I was smarter than them.
Miss Klassy I agree. That’s why I Dnt date blk men anymore.Shera married the 3%, shes good. But all races of men like nice bodies parts lol. Especially on sexy/classy high maintenance women.
I married a black man, but I do not look down on anyone who dates other races, the term bed wench is a slave term and the ONLY reason the bed wench existed, is because her counter part, (blackMan) was powerless to save her. Now that slavery no longer exists, if you are calling a black woman a bed wench, and are able to save her, but instead insults her . She is no longer a bed wench if she has a choice.......
@@SheRaSeven1 Im sorry but the black woman wasn't raped all the time. During slavery alot of the black women chose to have sex with the master and the black woman has always liked the white man, even in the begining of slavery, so stop with the "black man didn't protect you" nonsense.
As long as you look your best, act feminine classy and not ratchet, by yourself and with others, a respectable and successful man will come. I saw ladies in the live chat asking whats an “exotic” woman: yes most times it’s the mixed chick with curly hair, but it doesn’t mean there isn’t a place for us darker girls. That’s why you need to go where you’re wanted, instead of concentrating on who doesn’t want you. Level up to the highest level physically and mentally, and place yourself in the best locations, online and offline.
Nellyobii I never understood dark skin women who cry woe is me a black man doesn’t want her, doesn’t like her hair blah blah etc. It’s like they don’t realize they wouldn’t hear that noise if they simply don’t give them the time of day. I always say go where you’re celebrated!
Girl, I’m starting to think that the definition of “exotic” to men is not being average. I got called “exotic” the other day and I think it’s just bc I don’t act/ dress like the pick me’s
Exotic is what's not common. Where black women are uncommon a gorgeous black woman is exotic. Where white women are uncommon a pretty white woman is exotic. For example, there are quite a few sudanese women making it in the modelling industry because they look so different and beautiful. They have an unusual beauty. Ppl in America have the misconception that exotic women have to look mixed, but that's because mixed women stand out and are different(IF they are gorgeous). Nobody really wants an average looking mixed woman. Though mixed women are getting more frequent in American society they are still rare in comparison, so u can imagine of they are pretty as well. That's really rare. Just look unique. Standout. Look GORGEOUS. Exotic means different and unique. Foreign.
it's true, most of these dudes host huge parties to network with other rich dudes and they'll get a promoter to hook them up with some models to decorate the party, so most of these guys are surrounded by models all the time. i kinda found that whole scene very toxic though as the alcohol and drugs flows very freely and some of the guys can be creepy and not respect boundaries so i pulled out of it in search of a more spiritual crew of people. if you're a good looking woman who is not a model and wants to snare a rich guy, make friends with models, model bookers or promoters and you'll get invites to these things and meet rich guys. I met lots of girls who were not models but who were just as pretty (just maybe less tall or less thin or older or whatever) at these things. But just fyi ladies, if your beauty only comes from makeup and wigs, you will stick out like a sore thumb, if you're being taken on a luxury super yacht with a bunch of models and everyone is diving into the ocean or sitting in the hot tub with no makeup on and you're there with your lashes and wig on, it's going to look weird. A lot of models aren't naturally stunners, they just have interesting faces and are tall and slim, so i think women need to focus more on acquiring natural beauty, i.e. maintaining a healthy weight, feeding their skin from the inside with a healthy diet, etc. once all the makeup comes off in the bedroom, you aren't fooling anyone.
Dont take this the wrong way, but your 'advice' reeks of BS...and also as if if those so called "naturally" beautiful models (aka escorts and IG whores) arent full of filler from their lips to their jawlines not to mention other augmentations as well....i also highly doubt any onr of those ppl you claim you partied with are looking to support some 20+ to 30+ praying mantis let alone marry her - you yourself said that the environment is toxic
@@58479ishere you can take it or leave it hun. you are confusing influencers with fashion models, there is some crossover but they're not all the same and not all generalisations apply in all cases. You sound highly triggered, do you have something against cosmetic fillers? How about makeup in general? If you don't like it, don't use it, but if you feel it necessary to insult people who do use it, i've often found that's a sign i need to do some shadow work around that area and on that trigger.
this comment is a year old, but lemme add my few cents. Recently I accidentally visited two such events (I'm in EU), I was invited by a woman who was a personal doctor of the yacht owner. She was really bored, looking for a companion (we were in the same resort), and one day she invited me to a yacht. I'm not fat but short Asian (5'4, 120lbs or 165cm, 55kg), and god oh mighty, I felt like I was sticking out BIG TIME 🤣 however, it was also a plus, because men reacted with a lot of interest. Most men there were too young, but the yacht owner was a really nice old man who spoke my native language and mostly talked about his wife (me and his wife are from the same country lmao, so he learned her language after 20 yrs of marriage). Also, other girls were really sweet and nice to me, all of them were super slim, tall, and fit like in the magazines and most of them had some facial job done. Actually, it's not their look, but their funny and easy personalities that impressed me the most. After the two days together I didn't want to leave their fun circle, but I was super tired plus seasick. The main lesson I've learned was: 1. work on my diet + fitness. Ladies, we can't just bypass this part. 2. Work of my personality because naturally I'm a paranoid little weirdo🤭 but all these girls were like angels from the elven realm, so light and funny, so unbothered, oh god I wonder what drugs they take to be like this (jk)).. I wish I could be like them!
@@confindenceman3984 they looking good to secure the lifestyle the male will give them, ofc nobody targeting brokies and dusties you don't have to worry
Location is EVERYTHING. You can level-up your appearance until you are blue in the face, but different types of women are valued in different parts of the world. Dude over here is ashamed of being seen in public with me, dude over there is dropping grands on me. Don't be like me, seeing the facts at 21, but waiting until age 35 to take action❤
But what I do know is, being in shape will always work out in your best friend interest. People always say, girl you look good thick, I hate when your butt goes away. I just simply smile back and say, I ain’t trying to attract no dusty with this booty, I’m trying to secure the bag with my Becky booty. #CurrentlyEatingGrass aka 🥗 salad
Everything u said is true!! I've dated broke and I dated ballers... Ballers want a woman to reflect their status. Hell even dusties do! So u know men with $ are more picky
Jaber Martini 🙄💀why are you on RU-vid? Hola papi, shouldn’t you be making money moves? Only dusty men troll on social media, because they have nothing to do with their time, bye.
Um Ashera is an investor too, she literally says you must invest. And why do you care if some random woman you don’t know the name of let alone seen her gets dumped or not? You’re a cringey weirdo
I agree. I had to get my eyebrows microbladed (very painful), learn how to do winged liner, clip in extensions, and lash extensions in order to look above average. I am still looking out for other ways to enhance my beauty.
Mimi Taylor Yes Lord! Perfect brows every day all day. I tried for 6 months to master Anastasia brow dip and I couldn’t get it for the life of me lol. So I gave in and paid $250 for microblading.
L G interesting I want to get mine microblading but here in California it’s like $500 and up. But you say it’s well worth it huh? Hmmm I been tinting my brows and I’m tired of it because I still have to fill them in to perfect them. Lord another expense but I’ll pay it if it’s well worth it.
The challenge of looking good is that many women can't afford to look good all the time. Hair and nail extensions proper makeup skin care all cost so much to maintain every single day. A woman has have to have a hookup.
DeenScene check out drugstore dupes for expensive makeup. You can do your own manicures, even gel manicures at home. I also haven't seen a beautification in years
1. Buy makeup from Ulta and Sephora during the holiday season. The skincare and makeup kits are 50% off by the end to the year. 2. Marshalls and T.J. Maxx have high end makeup palettes and lipsticks. 3. You can do your own nails. Red Carpet sells affordable gel nail kits that can be done at home. 4. Pedicure-You can buy the Tony Moly pedicure masks and DIY. 5. Most of my boyfriends are upper middle class to wealthy. I've never worn extensions in my life. I just take care of my hair and relax. You don't need super long hair to attract a wealthy man. You simply need healthy hair.
I'm a man and I find your videos intriguing. I guess I like to hear the other side view. At first I admit these video pissed me off but we men do whatever we can to get the most out of women so why shouldn't you girls do the same. We gotta do what we have to do to get what we want. It's war out there.
I use to be really gullible... when I listened to her it made me a little depressed to know every single thing on earth specifically in America is corrupted but she put me on game and started moving strategically. It makes sense most men are the ones that have money and opportunities unlike women
She is absolutely right, we do not care if you beautiful black women have a good job. I am a white male who was a male model when I was younger, I have owned several businesses from land development to medical equipment for decades now, so I am very financially secure. I love black girls, beauty, personalty and a gentle spirit are a must! No rachet behavior allowed!!!!!
@@bessie6785 Men are very visual beings so just look good and embrace your femininity (look up the word if you don't fully understand it because it's not taught in school but it is something you're born with) don't embrace being ratchet stuff, also don't be the toxic feminine type, the "I am independent, I don't need a man, men should worship the ground I walk on just because I am a woman" No. Be approachable while leaving his *dignity* intact. Think as a team so in what way can you compliment a man as a woman. Nothing really to do with a degree, your status in society or you having money or multiple businesses. Can you be that man's *peace* is where it's at, are you a save space enough for a man to let his guard down, to be himself with you and even decide to marry you and have children with (if that last part is in the plans too) because at the end of the day understand: Looking good is just what gets you through the door but good looks go away over time but it is your feminity, you giving him peace, and because you make him look good as a team etc aka your character what will make him stick around in the long run even at old age is my point.
@@bessie6785 enough intelligent to understand her man and take good decisions for her life and don’t argue with men for everything and make him happy . I been with women with very low intelligence that you can’t even talk anything to them and women who just argue with me on everything . High value men prefer women not only looks but qualities like feminine, intelligent, calm , good cook and who can take care of home .
@LG Most of the time you have to level up to at least a 9 to attract a wealthy man. But it depends on your target for example if you are trying to attract a wealthy minister to marry you, then looking just pretty like a 7 and sweet with no make up is a must.
Pretty Glowin It’s so true. I grew up in a holiness church where the girls were proud to be ‘natural’, bragged about it and felt as if you were special. Fake news lol! Girl I even graduated college and thought I was the perfect mate since I bring education and income to a relationship smh. All I got was used dry by a dusty
Before I knew about Leveling Up, I used to think I was special because I got hit on without make up, in average clothing, looking plain, etc. But when I would actually date or talk to those types of men, they would ask me for money or only take me to happy hour or they would only let me get one drink or order for me entirely! They would insult the time I took out to look good for my date with them and say they’d prefer me natural. Now I know this was only because I drew attention when I would put effort into my look and people would wonder why tf I was with him lol😂 If I’m not turning heads or making people smile and receive me well when I go out now, I know I’m doing something wrong!!
@@lionedheart The cognitive dissonance. You've done nothing but "diss" fool. Keep it 100. You're scared women in general (I'm sure you've noticed white Latina Asian women in the comments too) will wise up and broke men will no longer have access to the women they want. Women like Shera threaten the fragile male ego. That's all there is to it.
This is true, JUST ME. I had a past bf that did the same, I didn't know it was because of his insecurity. Internal leveling up is key, though. God bless you!
@@lionedheart Hahahahahahah you keep watching so you can find a successful MAN too!! Why are you here ummmm....lol 😂 GAY?? because only MALE BUTT BANGER would be on the page! Carry on....
Typically, only extremely wealthy single men will dismiss average looking women, but that’s simply because they have so many beautiful women already pestering them. These men have so many options that they just assume that out of all the beautiful women, there must be a couple in there with great personalities, so why bother looking at the average women, too? There’s only so much time in the day to perform that search. And the vast majority of all other men are fine with marrying average looking women, so long as they are physically and mentally healthy.
Men see us as accessories and their egos are also tied to their career/net worth. They want a Woman on their arm that makes THEM look good. This isn't about exceptions so no, Mark Zuckerberg's Wife doesn't count. They're both nerds with history. However Melody Hobsson counts. She's 'average' but dresses classes, is cute, wears make up, and her pixie cuts are bone straight.
I'm a girly girl and love my hair, makeup, designer clothes, etc. With that out the way, Ron Willis is not an example of a successful man and neither are his followers. He's just going by what he see's regarding wealthy celebrities. In the DC area the beautiful and educated BW(Olivia Pope types) are everywhere. Some are married and some are single but trust they will not lower their standards to date someone like Mr. Willis. Sorry, not sorry. Please vet a more suitable example, LOL.
True beautiful exotic women are desired in most circles. But I did note at the doctors convention that the doctors who looked young /good prefer women who were also doctors to marry so that they could be a money power couple. So if you are an average girl can't level up to a 9 and want a wealthy young attractive doctor go to med school and then the MD convention. I think it depends on who you target you have to be a chameleon if you can change yourself to look more intellectual you will get a different target. For example I had a young wealthy politician state he wanted me to cut my hair, to fit into that group like Michele. Now that Melania is rocking long hair it is not as important for me to have short hair. Now if you want a famous basket baller then I agree you need to be at least 9, for real without makeup. However if you want a man with money that is a doctor or lawyer or politician you need to get at least your bachelors degrees because in those circles smart is more important than beauty. You have to be well read and knowledgeable, be able to converse at dinner parties regarding world politics etc... looking like a 10 without education and career in those circles is not beneficial. It is better to be a 7 and smart/educated in those circles. But you are right non-Blackmen are less demanding, you don't have to look perfect all the time with them. They are also more generous, not just with money but with time. It is much easier to get a young attractive non Blackman to commit. And even when you are just dating non-Blackmen do what they say they are going to do on time without all the silly games, playermess, lies and changing plans.
@Danij There are some women who are 3s and they will only level up to 7s unless they get serious plastic surgery. Obama could have married a 10 but he married a 7 because she is well educated and intelligent, not all men and circumstances are the same. Would you call Obama an advanced Dusty or Michelle a pick me???
Yes, highly educated men of other races will choose a highly educated woman period. It's a bonus if she very pretty. The most famous and powerful mayor in the US or worldwide is NY Mayor Bill DeBlasio. He's not a multi millionaire but he's highly respected to be voted in as mayor with a Dark skin and natural hair(dreadlocks) Black wife(former lesbian) in that racist arse City of New York, LOL. Can you image if he had married a Black Barbie type that though the Unground Railroad was a real train. He would bel laughed out of town, LOL.
@Carmen that is true the mayor needed an intelligent educated woman by his side, but lets be honest the NY mayors wife is a rare and uncommon situation when a successful man of any race marries a woman considered to be less than a 6 of any race. You might as well go play the lottery if you are depending on marrying an educated successful man and you have not leveled up to at least a 6 and earned a degree. If you are less than a 6 you have to to put those degrees you earned to work or go get some serious plastic surgery.
Agreed! The point that I'm making is that people that mingle in those up echelon of circles( Highly educated) will see so-called plain BW with natural hair married for decades to multi-millionaires with their children attending the top private schools and colleges. Is he cheating on her with a Barbie? Perhaps but the wealthy, dumb athletes and entertainers are cheating on their Barbie wives with with IG thots and strippers. I.e Jermaine Dupree got a stripper pregnant will dating Janet Jackson. Ludcris got his basic looking ex pregnant while he was with his beautiful wife. Jay-Z stay cheating on Beyoncé and we all know she could get a richer and gorgeous man if she wanted. Shera's mistake was not vetting Ron Willis basic broke felon arse before she used him as an example of what wealthy men desire in a wife or girlfriend, LOL.
Women have so many options to make them more exotic. Height, weight, skin color, hair style, and fashion should be individually considered to avoid looking like the rest.
My father left my smart, pretty, sweet entrepreneurial mother for a fat, lightskinned church woman. Ladies it ain't always your fault. Just find someone who loves you.
So true! Honestly , I don’t think that I’ve ever been asked what I bring to the table, even by dusties. Unfortunately I was a Pickmesha tho so I brought waaaay more than I needed to, to the table🤦🏾♀️. Thank goodness I found SheRa b4 it was too late for me
In our culture it is well known that status matters .. a rich good looking successful man will want a woman with looks brains and status it is a reflection of him .. and women with high status want the same .. it is just how it is ladies no hate but fact .. LOVE YOU SHERA
We don’t care about your status. All we care about are looks and to not act ignorant. We don’t care if you work at Apple bees yet you have the looks of Kylie Jenner js
I don't know where this guy did his research, if the man sees you and is attracted to you he will date you. When I met my fiance, I looked at him and was oh Lord what I'm i going to do with him. He was a plain Jane but we had chemistry. He told me all he saw was my freckles and smile, that was the beginning of a beautiful relationship. We never discussed finances and he is very successful. He is genuinely a humble and kind human being. If you saw him on the street you would not know his wealth. So be genuine and be true to yourselves, a genuine man will love you for who you are. My beauty care is sleep, water and healthy food. My makeup is some lipstick, preferably maybelline mate and sime mascara. At 47yrs old I still stop traffic with no enhancement.
Girl yes! I visited a west African national a little while ago and Every.Damn.Woman was wearing make up, had fabulous hair, etc. I had to run back to re-apply my make up one day because I felt out of place. SheRa's "level up" tips for us were their standard. I kid you not.
Jaber Martini ctfu, sweetie, I am highly educated and 100% Africa. Trust, you will get verbally what you spit out of your shitty slick mouth. An African woman will never take your educated fool ass seriously but use you. Trust, we don’t take shit, we only like white European men if we date out of our African culture, not your type. They love our nappy “good hair” and weave 😂😂😂😂💀 Do not disrespect African American women, I bet you, they will never date your dusty ass either. You are so pressed, probably delivering pizza at this hour, do not put your anger on me sis. 😂😂😂😂
Jaber Martini: Thank you for your honesty. I can understand that a man wants authentic beauty...a subtle highlighting of what is already there. I keep my hair long and have always enjoyed doing so. I don’t dye or perm, I go natural, but elegant. Do you think an ambitious and masterful man would accept an artist that made significantly less than him? I am lowly in income, yet very educated, articulate, humble, and intelligent...I just have other ambitions that are more important to me than money. Also, do you think a powerful man that has the world at his feet is capable of loving and being faithful to one woman? I appreciate your thoughts.
Facts...for wealthy men..All the women must be highly maintained.not adorned. Especially skin.. Nails. Toes...even a higher standard when they w black women...reality.. Not fair but its reality
IT'S TRUE! I live just outside of Atlanta and even in the suburbs, I see trash bag bodies, horrible weaves and wigs, bonnets, house shoes, sweats and pajamas. There is unnecessary attitude too. As a straight woman, I can see how all of this is a complete turnoff to even the average man. And yes, some men look raggedy too, but WE set the standards, ladies! Lookin your best will have you feeling your best and attracting the best ❤︎
This may be very true black women are very beautiful but the problem is 90% of the time their attitudes never match their looks they are complete opposite also it's fair because average black women won't date average black men because they think they deserve better I'm glad this lady did this video cuz most need to be served a reality slap
African women in Africa are beautiful and having make up and weaves is the norm, plus they put on wigs better than those lame ass lace hair dos that look crazy in the U.S. Plus, they are not as ratchet as the black women in the U.S. Not to mention that they value education and most of them are really smart.
Why would a woman try to talk to a man of means if she looks out of place?? That’s like going to a job interview for a Fortune 500 company in a pair of sweats and a scarf 🙄
I just can't deal with the intellectual dishonesty. She Ra is sitting here condoning an anti black woman statement and then telling you to be nice to the man whose pie hole the statement came out of. She's suggesting that his message is benevolent and objective when really it isn't. He wasn't saying that black women "aren't competing. Rather, he said, "it wasn't meant to be!" This statement is obviously indicative of a devaluating mindset toward black women from someone who want black women to feel that they are innately inferior. Because She-Ra is mixed and because this guy obviously puts mixed and white and other women up on a pedestal, she supports him in his ignorant mindset because it benefits her for men to think this way. You notice that the man didnt say, "the average WOMAN can't compete.". He specifically reference the black women. And again, because she doesn't belong to this group, she is more than willing to promote this mindset and this hateful narrative against black women.
I totally agree she needs to have a clarity video or I won't be listening again black women shouldn't even care what these unicorns/good black men think
This chick is brainwashing women for her own benefit. I visit every once in a while to see what's up. She is just contributing to the already long line of single 30 something women. Shes pretty much telling women to buy lottery tickets and hope they win the big one. There are not enough rich men to go around. Alot of these women are chasing the same men and getting played/dogged out. Shes already married and has children so she can sit up on her soap box and just say anything to these desperate women and they eat it up.
@@blackspade36 There's enough to go around if you're realistic. Most men regardless of income are cheaters. If you think in terms of one woman per rich man you're naive.
From what I see, the makeup, wigs, weave, and lashes have become the norm. Everybody's starting to look average because everybody's doing it from the entertainers to the Bonqueshas. They all look the same....makeup and inches.
The average girls are their side chicks for many years. Umm. They take care of them too. Love thyself 1st. You attract whats in you. Education, career, where you live, status, cloths & being popular isn't you. Spirit will reveal who you are. Know thyself. Like attract like. Lol. But I understand😄😄😄
the game is not fair, nor JUST, never approach it that way or try to be fair while playing the game, Your morals are for a fair world, which we have never been in.
I guess I needy to relax in my femenine to recieve because my dusty now makes appointment to the beauty salon, buys me 👠 and says he is so happy to see me smile !! Shera you are a blessing..im leveling up to the fullest of my self
To the men in the comments saying that they ONLY want a healthy looking body, long hair and a smile on her face... That's the opinion of average men. We are not looking for YOUR opinion on this subject sir
This women is still missing 90% of the equation. "Looks" is simply the invite to the party. It's only enough to get looked at, just enough to get the high value man's attention. But if you want a a ring, a LTR, you have to be a 8 or above AND actually be a good partner. I.e. treat him well, not be a demanding nag. Average men get treated average by their women, HVM are treated above average by their women, or she won't stay his woman for long. Where much is given, much is expected. Ladies, these men expect more from you in all aspects of the relationship. HVM understand a woman's looks are depreciating and that must be made up in character and value to other aspects to his life.
Hii Shera💕 Thank you so much for this advice! I’m 45 yrs young and I always leave the house with makeup, smelling pretty and nice clothes on. Watching your videos gives me even more inspiration to look great! I love it when men stop me and tell me I look pretty or I smell pretty😃 that lets me know I’m doing my job as a leveled up woman🙌🏾 Keep the videos coming and thanks for being real and up close with us ❤️🥰😘✌🏽
How about Meghan she is average for me and she got Harry! Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. What you might see average another see as beautiful. I say do your best you never know
The men actually want more of us to level up because that's more of a variety to choose from. Plus "it's lonely at the top", and it's nice to have a gift to accompany them with their success(if that makes sense)
I have been following you for while, I never comment and usually on the background. But just want to thank you for this video and although I am always told I am 10 and exotic. I am mixed of East African/Middle Eastern looking. I never have issues with getting men but I always enjoy watching your videos. Just wanted to say keep it up!!
SheRa I checked out that video you were taking about and I had to leave a comment. I told him that he's absolutely right!!! The men in my family are the type of men he is talking about and competition is tough! Fine young men with grad degrees, great careers, attended great schools, come from great families, etc. You basically have to be their reflection (except they understand that they will be providers. Hell, some of them date women who make as much or more than them depending on their careers). I'm around those guys and I don't even take them seriously because women literally throw themselves at them in my presence. Even when they are genuinely good guys, hot men with money are problematic. 😂 There's a reason you're telling women to go after certain guys. 😝
@Fe So true they are problematic. If you have a kid are over 35, don't have a 4 year degree wear a dress size higher than 11, your natural hair is not shoulder length and or you are darker than a paper bag you might as well forget about marrying one of those fine young black men with a grad degree from a good family. Because even if he wants you, the family will block you. I had to stop dating Black man, because i am only attracted to those types and they are too difficult. Even when you finally get one to commit bad luck bad choices or racism brings them down each and every time anyway so what is the point of going through the trouble of finally getting them to marry you? I am only seriously dating non black men from now on and it has been working out better for me I have been able to get all the same qualities I want in non Black men without the problems.
Cathy Lake Correct. And I can't say I blame them. Women from that type of upbringing are expected to be with certain men as well. I've met guys and dated some guys who seemed nice enough, but I knew the men in my family wouldn't accept them or they would put them through the ringer, so I didn't even bother introducing them. This isn't about speaking badly about those men or women, but how to move if you happen to be in those circles, or want to be. If you spent years putting your kids through the best schools and guiding them from making bad, life-altering decisions, of course you want them to end up with a man or woman who meets your family's standards. The men in my family tell me what to expect from men, but they ALSO tell me what those types of men expect. This isn't about walking around with your hand out expecting the world because we are women. SheRa is teaching how to attract the super successful guys- and that's just to get in the game. That's why I watch her videos, because the stuff she talks about --the stuff she teaches-- I actually hear from men I know. Or I watch how they treat certain women and see it. This is stuff women teach their daughters and sisters, IF they know. She knows what she's talking about lol I have a family like this but the women aren't really like this, so they didn't teach me all of this stuff until I was older. It was the men in my family who basically looked at me and said "You can marry a man who will take care of you. You have the 'look'". I had one uncle tell me I shouldn't have to pay bills when I get married and what to expect a man to do for me. Lmao They realized I didn't really know the "game" and schooled me before it was too late. Good men don't want the women in their lives to be "pick mes". I'm
True Shera is helping me to step up my game. I did not need game when I was younger to get married, just had to say no sex without an engagement ring. I can still pass for 25 on a good day. But now the competition is fierce you need something more to stand out from the crowd the older you get. You do need some psychological games to get them to commit. Her video on getting married really helped me I used some of her techniques and he acutally volunteered a timeline of when we should get married and I have only been dating him for a couple of months with no sex.
Breanna Nouveaux No...I'm not referring to the average black males though. PhDs, men in finance, young, fit, handsome 20something year old guys flying across the country/world for work. THOSE are the guys I'm talking about. I know a guy who was in retail PT, attended med school and is on track to making mid-high six figures in his early 30s. You think men like THAT don't have standards for the type of woman they want on their arm? Lol This is the same for every race. White men of a certain pedigree want certain types of White women as well. Now, some BM might take it too far because they never had access to certain things or women, so now they're cocky- you will have to walk away or address someone with that attitude. But regardless of race, handsome men who are accomplished are not the same as less attractive men or less successful men. This is like men rating women based on looks. A woman they consider a "5" will be treated differently than a woman considered a "10". Which is why some women who don't take the time to "level up" are jealous of women who do- they know people will treat those women better solely based on their looks. Men receive more respect in society based on their accomplishments and wealth. Couple that with good looks and that man will be targeted by every woman. I'm not putting those men on a pedestal- I'm just saying you'll have to deal with more BS with them. The same way guys get insecure if they have gorgeous girlfriends/wives because those women are always approached by different men who want to woo them away from their BF/hubby.
Live for ourselves and be happy If they don't want us Fine. You can't beg anyone Do your best and trust the rest. Don't get the best Get the best for you.
Standing next to? does that mean commitment? Name one millionaire who is married to a brainless pretty chick? Women need to level up their looks and intellect for a commitment. You can get beauty anywhere. So what does stand next to mean?
Exotic is what's not common. Where black women are uncommon a gorgeous black woman is exotic. Where white women are uncommon a pretty white woman is exotic. For example, there are quite a few sudanese women making it in the modelling industry because they look so different and beautiful. They have an unusual beauty. Ppl in America have the misconception that exotic women have to look mixed, but that's because mixed women stand out and are different(IF they are gorgeous). Nobody really wants an average looking mixed woman. Though mixed women are getting more frequent in American society they are still rare in comparison, so u can imagine of they are pretty as well. That's really rare. Just look unique. Standout. Look GORGEOUS. Exotic means different and unique. Foreign.
School of affluence just put out a video on why rich goodlooking men marry plain or unattractive woman. I don’t know where she’s getting this from. It couldn’t be further from truth. I’m sure it happens but not common.
Every time I go shop during the day I always see the white housewives out shopping that look ugly, fat, and basic with the most unflattering clothes the only thing they have in common is blonde hair how the fuck do they bag these man....pretty much you need to be a white woman, and have blonde hair apparently
True Taraji is an 8, but she can still get a wealthy older man. In fact I have even seen 6 or 7 s get older rich men if they are non black. There are just not enough rich Black men to go around and even the ones that claim they are rich are not rich upper middle class at best. Shera's advice has helped me up my game though he actually offered a timeline to marriage last night without my asking and I have only been dating him 2 months, no sex. Watch her video on getting him to marry you.
Cathy Lake Facts, she did pull a younger rich guy tho 🎉. They are 13 years apart. She’s okay as in regular. I sound this way because I’ve literally seen it all at these industry parties and the women that entered those events lawdddd, on a different level that will make you change your whole meal plan, makeup and wardrobe. She being famous and rich helped her love life, but I don’t see no Barbie or oh damn 😍.
SheRaSeven1 I enjoyed this video Shera where you slightly was not sugar coating things but still kept it safe or else they will label you as a “colorist” because you are “Lightskin”. What he was saying in that video was straight and blunt and females don’t want to hear it, because I’ve seen it happen. If you are not a favorable skin tone amongst successful black men, make sure your ish is tight, head to toe. Look at how piler sanders (darker complexion women) got Deion Sanders and etc.
everyone is a colorist if they tell the truth... the world is never going to be fair, this is why you must play the game dirty !!!!!! ALL DAY EVERY DAY
That is the reason to have a college degree and have your own home and drive the latest car and travel wherever you choose. This is too much work. I would rather work hard and get a college degree and decide my income. I w wa nt to be able to shop and look how I want with name brand everything from underwear to house wear. This is too much. My life matters this is misery! I will wait my time to get a man and enjoy my life in the mean time. This is to complicated.
La Hyp I tried getting men to pay my bills and having a 9-5 is easier pls. I don’t even like men or sex. They try to treat u like shit, have ur own money please
Honey please, you're just lazy as many of us successful sugar babies have degrees, own our home, own our cars, have business and investments, get our incomes from men (just like you do) and travel all day. I'm traveling now and switch countries every 3 months. Go ahead and wear yourself out if you want to. Plenty of us are doing all of the above on a man's dime just like he writes your checks.
I've had the athlete (very respected and a legend), attorneys, and businessmen approach me all while working in the customer service world. The attorneys are very cerebral and eventually, he wanted to speak on world topics and such... which I was only mildly familiar with because I find politics boring. It didn't work out from there. Later, because of my looks and smile, I was able to attract and marry my now husband, a small-time real estate investor. He suddenly, after the honeymoon period, also wants to discuss world politics, and I just dont have that historical knowledge. Since then.. I feel like he is disappointed, and this has changed his attitude toward me. My point is...many successful men require at least a very attractive woman who can articulate on world politics, not so much a degree, plus keeps her body and skin looking healthy..BTW my husband doesn't like wigs on women. Lol
This the truth in this video! Men do not care about ladies education level like Masters, PHD, personality traits other then she is agreeable and easy to talk with. It all about beauty!
Black Latino Singer Armra Nergra owns her blackness she is very Sexy Nubian Queen. Academy Award winner actress La peda is also dark and lovely sexy and classy stylish Nubian queen. These woman embrace their Beauty and blackness. Afrocentric hair style.
The beauty of the melanin goddess will never be crushed. White men love my kinky 4c natural hair, my dark chocolate skin. It is exotic to them. It's the brainwashed people who look down on those of us who embrace our God given beauty. Be your best self, yes, but please, be yourself not a clone. This woman Shera is not entirely wrong in what she is saying. However, her message seems to be for the lesser woman who does not seek to make her own money.
Heyy..just putting it out there in the universe! I Am going to have a 101 session with SheRa. I still got waayss to go. Invest in yourself ladies! Your the best SheRa!! ❤️😍😄😇💃
I think highly of myself. .as an ISAREAL WOMAN. .IM A QUEEN IF IM NOT FOR U SO BE IT...ITS WHAT IS IN HEART THAT COUNTS. .WERE LIVING IN A SPIRITUAL WORLD...A KING WILL KNOW HIS QUEEN VICE VERSA. .
Exotic is really god giving beauty not make up,contacts,and wigs this the type of stuff that the average woman has to do.Real exotic women have natural eye colors,hair,and body parts.They shouldn’t have to get surgery,every should be real,that’s what exotic really is like where I’m from in Savannah,GA the girls are exotic here because their bodies,hair,and eye color that may be rare are real.
I must say being a 2 on the looks scale is tough but hey it is what it is but losing some weight might help me idk but hey exotic handsome men want and can have waaaaay better then what I have to give them so us average women should bow out and take what we can get.
You don't have to stay a 2. There are all different types of plastic surgeries and whatnot. If you find a good doctor, no one will even know you've had surgery.
The countless male celebrities and high profile individuals, who are in the top tier in terms of wealth, have very average counterparts/spouse. You mean dudes who think they are "balling".
𝓣𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓪 𝓜𝓸𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓾 So you mean to say beautiful hot women never get cheated on and average looking women can never have a rich man who doesn’t have a mistress? Men dont cheat because their wife is average looking, there could be many reasons they choose to be cheaters. My boss was cheating on his gorgeous wife with an average looking 23 year old. A beautiful, hot wife should know that there is always a more beautiful woman out there that her husband can cheat her on with.
the above average woman gets old...which men like that don't like and if you're married to that type of man know that the length of being married to him is limited to your looks so know that you won't be growing old with him at the end of the day.
You have to become above average. As far above average as you can get. However, wigs, weaves and colored contacts are not exotic at all. BW, please leave the store bought hair and colored contacts alone!
@@missklassy4447 Despite what he has done or not, the message remains true. A lot of great men and women have a checkered past and we esteem their messages like gold ie MLK. Just take what you need from his messages and leave the rest. Simple.
I never watch youtube. As I'm killing time catching a flight. I'm a stock broker 31 year old doing good. I don't even look outside my circle I'm dating a beautiful lady 2 years now she's also a financial advisor for a company in wall st, I was attracted by her intelligence but she is on another level. We don't want to complicate. And yes we don't want a lady that don't put in the effort. I put my effort for 12 years until I made my 1st million, so why can't some ladies put in their effort ? I'm sorry if I'm too honest but its the truth.
Who are those "rich" men to set superficial standards to how women should look? It hasn't any depth in their mind set. It's all about heir ego and to get approved in their circle. This isn't about real love and making a life time connection with someone who could be your life partner. And guess what, if your aging these same men ditch you for a younger new barbie😂 So ladies level up in a way that you grow as a lady. Level up and build on your own wealth. You don't need a men for that shit! Live to your own standards not other people's or men's standards. If a guy doesn't love you for who you are. And asked to change yourself he isn't worth it! Dump that piece of ego rich shit!
Exotic does not have anything to do with makeup, wigs or contacts. This is all wrong, we're talking about genetics, are your eyes naturally slanted, are your lips naturally plump, or your hips naturally curvy . Now we may be willing to invest into some surgery, to have that more exotic look but as far as the prosthetic and removable exoticness or exoticity, it's a no!
His channel is called “Hey Ladies with Rom Wills” (one of his 3 RU-vid channels) 👍🏽 He gives super good pointers on dating & relationships. Hes actually very holistic and spiritual as well... but he keeps it 💯 and practical though
Most wealthy men like 25 year olds and younger. A successful educated man is not looking for a 35 year old Barbie. They want a educated woman with status in her career. She dont have to have more money, but they want you highly educated woman to make them look good at social events. Most doctors like a educated woman that can hang in their social circles.
There's professional men married to professional women. Also not every gorgeous woman Wana be a stripper or a gold digger. Some gorgeous women have average marriages
I got so many haters its crazy, Cause i got high standards i know what i want. My family dont even like me. Just cause i know who i am the way God created me!!! I have a very small circle, I get in where i fit in thats by myself. I tell this guy u cant even afford the application so u need to keep it pushing let along me. Lol I Love watching your videos cause you keep it real!!!
Hi Shera7. If an average girl want to level up. Where would she place her focus on most, her body? Or external factors like her skin, hair, makeup, nails?? I'm asking because I have a 7 face, and a 5 body. I just wonder where should I focus my money on as far as leveling up, to attract an exceptional man?
Hi, Shera! Have you watched any of ChocolateSiren's videos? You and she are on the same page. I think you'd love her channel! As always, I enjoy your videos. I will have to check that guy's video.
To ALL, after years of experience and observation, it's truly not a color game. Test your "market"! Use the internet to test in which market your "honest" picture gets the most results you're looking for and then target that market. Yes, level up, regardless of your color. Know that the rarer you are the higher you will want to aim. Be in the most opulent places and do nothing, just be.
I recently joined Millionaire match make, the men seems to be alot more deep than the woman. They are looking for intelligent, wise and juicy women, these women you are talking about seem pretty shallow 😜
