Rob Delaney On Living Through Grief - EXTENDED INTERVIEW 

Absolutely this. ❤

Amen. I've moved to Sweden recently (thank you, Brexit) and realise how much there are aspects of the NHS I still miss utterly. Protect it at any cost

And to do it with humor that honors his child. I had tears, but I laughed.

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As a parent who has lost a child - in a different manner - I have a real appreciation for how he discusses and shares.... Props. Serious props....

We all do. I almost died right away, after I was born, and I'm sure my whole family would feel the same way if I did.

Indeed a great showing as usual for Colbert, one of the best interviewers out there.

@@gllyflower Yes Stephen is a wonderful host. He knows when to shut up and let his guests speak.

he has dealt with a lot of grief in his life, that's how he's knows to do that

10:37 Dunno, Suddenly bringing out a photo of his son (mid sentence) was rude in my opinion

To me your mum feeling that makes so much sense. How can she celebrate on the day her child died. Sorry for your loss.

My condolences for your loss ❤️

Kudos on writing so well in English! Your grasp of the language appears to be better than most native speakers I meet. 😂

thanks for your heartfelt comment.

I had someone super close buried on my birthday and now, I hate and dread it. This poor man and family. 😭

Yes, so true. We are already sad and heart broken. I love talking about my daughter Dakota. I feel a bit cheered when friends or family talk about her. She died in 2018.

@@yogawitherinbmy daughter taught dance to a lovely girl who died Tuesday from brain cancer she battled for 5 years. She was an amazing young girl, just 13 y.o. Having girls myself, I cry for her parents.

@@FreedomofSpeech865 thank you. The pain is hard to deal with .

And of course, Stephen Colbert did go through a huge set of losses that he's spoken publicly about on multiple occasions and this interviewee alludes to quickly at 7:06 in the middle of the interview here. Stephen was very close with his mother all his life and she lost three of her children before her death (Stephen's brothers), 2 while they were still children although not as young as Rob's son. It's such an amazing thing to witness his deep understanding. 💜

Exactly. When I lost my brother I was only five years old. When I would break out in tears people would tell me to stop, that I needed to forget, but what I needed was to remember him. At night I would cry myself to sleep and even then when something would happen that reminded me of him I would start crying. No one could ever figure out why. I even started to weep on stage in a Christmas play in first grade. Something about the story of Mary and Joseph touched my heart and I thought of Bobby. His name. Seaman 1class US Navt Robert C Ghann 1943😔⚓️

Stephen lost his dad and two brothers who were closest in age to him when he was 10 - I expect that had given him insight into the discussion of grief

@Gordon Akers Mary and Joseph? That's not a touching story, it's a really creepy story but sorry for your loss

That is one constant thought, constant worry, and preoccupation that I had when my mother passed - that being a late born only child, there would be no one else who would know her stories like I did, and no one to listen to those stories of her life. I replayed those conversations again and again in my mind.

im so, so sorry, Tobias. May you feel his love and his spirit in you and around you.

❤❤❤

I’m sorry for your loss.

Your strength is so inspiring ❤

I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

There is no way to be the same. Losing a child is a life experience of learning, grief, pain, growth, understanding and love. We are all changed by the deaths of our children.

im sorry, Jeanine..., sometimes it must feel like it was yesterday. Know that he is there. Talk to him.

You will never forget.

Continue to be gentle with yourself. Sending you positive vibes from Iowa. ❤

Im so sorry for your loss

Cheers for that. I must admit I have been a little reticent to take that talk on. The man's grief is so damned physical. Not difficult to imagine, though, how the little one might have been a real champ. Good blokes, both.

Oh, thank you so much. I am going to search for that podcast right now.

thank you I'm going to listen! Big fan of Rob's. thx

Thank you. I will look for it

The Marc Maron interview broke me. Unbelieveby good and deep and moving.

Yes so true. So sorry for your loss

i am so very sorry for your loss.

Hugs sent for your heart, Elle

"uspent love" wow never thought about that way, what nice way to give grief a new word...sory for your lost!

Came here to say the same thing.

A little bit of empathy goes a long way.

Same. I don’t even have children.

Completely agree. This made me shed a few tears to witness but my main feeling was how this was such a beautiful expression of wisdom and of love...

Yes, so true

But he actually managed to communicate so coherently and with such love and humour, which is so amazing considering the circumstances. I think it helped a lot of people who couldn’t express what they’d gone through or were going through and he’s been such a great advocate for the NHS, whilst it is facing its biggest threat. Rob has managed to get every tiny bit of good out of something so desperately sad by tackling so openly the subject of grief, of the different stages and types of grief, dealing with the grief of his kids, his own, how his mental health was affected and how as a family they are finding their way through this to live without Henry’s physical presence, but never forgetting about him and the love they all had for him and he had for them. It is so much better to allow those grieving to talk about the person they’ve lost if they want to. When some American friends of mine lost their baby some years ago, none of their friends would mention the child, I think being afraid of upsetting them, but they needed to talk about it, when they were ready, needed to talk about their fears for the future, what they’d lost, their concerns for each other, how separate they felt from the rest of humanity at that point and they couldn’t afford extensive therapy. I finally got a chance to visit them at home (transatlantic trip so you know, took a while) it was a few years later and they’d had another child and the baby photos and footprints etc of both babies were in a frame on the wall and I asked which child was which, naming both kids, and she burst into tears and I was horrified that I’d really upset her and was very apologetic, as you would be, then she said, no I’m emotional but it’s good: no one ever says her name except us and it really nice to hear it and hear her acknowledged. They had gone over 3 years and no one except the two of them had mentioned the baby and her name in their house - only at the therapist’s office, doctors office etc. Close family had in the first couple of weeks after the loss, but not since. Hopefully, Rob Delaney’s generosity sharing his experience and the compassionate interviews from Stephen Colbert and others (there have been several over the years here in the UK) will help people to lose their fear of the bereaved and understand that even an emotional conversation comes with love and laughter from the life lost. A beautiful interview to listen to and a lovely remembrance of Henry.

I'm from the UK as well. I've been a fan. Stephen Colbert for several years but only discovered Rob Delaney since his son has died. Rob is a wonderful person and one of the millions of immigrants that contribute to making this country a better place I hope he doesn't leave because we will need more immigrants like him and the thousands of others that work in our NHS, which Rob has become a great supporter of while our government tries to tear it apart.

Yes, so true. So sorry for your loss. Xx

Sorry to hear that. I hope you can find connection with the world in some way even if it's merely spiritual or during small moments.

@@ellie-tk4jy I have - very much so. Thank you ❤Its been 23 years. Its so hard in the beginning . Now it feels like nothing other than a miraculous blessing ✨

Love him on Frankie Boyles show. He's a talent

Yes,i can imagine..it is out of order of how we think life should be..no parent should have to bury their child

When I was 21 I attended the funeral of my friend’s 16 year old sister who had committed suicide. The sound that came from Shannon’s mother when the funeral director told her that it was time to close the casket is something that I will never forget. I couldn’t wish that sort of grief on anyone.

What an incredible story. Thank you for sharing and I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤

Please put her ears in your mouth.

Yep. 🙏🏼❤️💥

This is a beautifully empathetic comment 🖤

RU-vid inserts ads wherever they want, unless you do something about it. Hint, hint.

Yes, please do not seek out money where it would not be appropriate. I know that is a difficult task for owners of vacation homes but the rest of society implores you to be human.

Why not pay youtube 10 $ / mo

I hate these effing ads

Capitalism doesn’t care that you are sad.

And yet I hope people also know that even though he had more children, that didn't replace Henry. It is tempting to say as a way to bring "comfort" or consolation, but it stings. I pray that people learn what not to say.

@@ritabosico3328 And, (sigh) yet, I hope you are not implying that anyone was saying their 4th son (who was already on the way when Henry died) was a 'replacement'. Cos that would be a really dickish thing to imply. Wouldn't it.

It gets into your cells and becomes a part of you So so true. A beautiful way to say it 💔