Robert Downey Jr Finds More than Validation from His Wife Susan Downey 

This is how you talk about Roberts past. Not when he’s doing publicity interviews for a movie. Far more appropriate situation.

"Any great partner holds their space and lets you fish yourself out of the chasm with a kind of benevolent neglect, which is saying, I can't do this work for you because it doesn't work if I take credit for it."

"If I had one question to ask about her, What does she see in you?" *Surprised laughter*

That’s so nice... how he is saying accountability gives your partner freedom...

This is the way to talk and talk about someone's past. 🙌

Can we all please take a moment to acknowledge that RDJ goes to therapy and by saying it he made it so much more approachable

Aww I love how he talks about Susan, they are couple goals ❤️

I love how he talks about his wife. It’s so sweet and respectful

They don't show off in social media.but, Robert and Susan are one of the adoring couples in Hollywood.

Find a man who smiles and beams at the sound of your name like he does with Susan

You're an incredible interviewer. Downey is the man, but you brought out some amazing stuff in these last few videos. Keep up the great work.

"Benevolent neglect" love that, a more positive way to say don't enable people lol.

This is so true, when you find someone that you can say "You're like me" and you relate and can trust them with more than your life its the greatest feeling and its amazing. To bond with someone you love both physically and emotionally

he just said something super important that a lot of people esp. nowadays dont really understand-talking about the way she gives him validation brings so many important things to mind. -he’s talking about this in the context of, she pushes him to be better. She isn’t telling him that his failures are valid or that his mistakes are valid, shes giving him feedback on what he can do to be better-not that she doesn’t accept him how she is, because otherwise they wouldn’t even be married. It’s more like she validates what she sees as good and helps him to lean how to improve what needs improving. to me that’s the realest validation and so many people don’t have someone like that in their life. I’m so so happy for him. -the fact that he says she doesn’t baby him is everything because a lot of times I imagine that creates tension-people often find themselves recoiling against criticism out of insecurity. It doesn’t seem like rdj is insecure, but every once in a while you find a sore spot you don’t like to be called out. either way, he acknowledges that her criticisms are tough love and meant to help him, and he _trusts_ her not to baby him. this is really the best type of relationship partner someone could ask for, tbh. essay’s over, as you were lol

I’m not an addict. But after having met several I can say that RDJ is very fortunate in his addition to have had so many chances and so many people who have cared enough about him to give him the opportunities he’s had. He’s an amazing talent, and incredibly intelligent. But I often wonder about the “regular guy” who falls into addiction and may not be so fortunate. I’ve known those people, and there is no one like Susan to save them.

I love their relationship so muchhh😭😭❤

This sweater was such a great choice for black and white

Why doesn't this have more views??? *This is like one of the best modern interviews I've ever seen!* No interrupting to save time, allowing him to fully contextualize his answer fully before moving on, and responding only when he's finished a thought and to expand on it.

I ship Susan and Robert 3000🤓❤

I absolutely adore Robert Downey Jr.- just his story of resilience and passion for his craft. Such a refreshing interview.

Every one of your interviews feels like you're in your living room, talking with an old friend. The black and white definitely adds to that vibe.

Krishnan Guru-Murthy should take note on the appropriate way to discuss somebody’s past.

For the first time, I'm not mad that Robert is not married to me.... after hearing this I'm happy he has her - even though that mean I can't!!! Just joking, I love him, & I have a super crush, but this was awesome to hear! Good vibes, Robert!

"Without being rigid, I just try to hold my space so that it's something that is consistent enough for someone else to rely on and have a deep, abiding trust in. If I'm completely trustworthy, if my word is bond and I suit up and show up no matter what you can count on me, that gives the other so much freedom because they're not having to entangle with my inconsistency or my neurosis or my need." I think there's especially a lot of power in Robert's philosophy due to his history of addiction. Anyone who has had a close relationship with an addict can tell you of the heartache and pain that stems from their lies, deceit, and broken promises and it appears that Robert has learned a great deal of importance regarding re-building and maintaining trust.

rdj: we don't really know what we're doing when we are doing it me: watching this instead of studying with my laptop... 🤫

*"Any great partner holds their space and lets you fish yourself out of the chasm with a kind of benevolent neglect, which is saying, I can't do this work for you because it doesn't work if I take credit for it."* 👏👏👏

You can tell he really lived, the bad and now thankfully the good. He is so wise, the way he speaks on his relationship with his wife touches me. It is so much more than love, it is support, trust and connection.

in France, we call them happiness teeth

This is on Spotify right now and it's simply amazing :) 🖤

I wonder what was Susan’s for thought when she saw Robert in Weird Science and to later work with him on a movie set and her realize that this guy she seen in a movie when she was kid would ask her out?

RDJ explains, for all the people who don't believe in it, why love is so important and special

Still super proud of him. He’s come a long way. She’s perfect for him, and he’s smart to hang on to her.

I’m a Gen Xer, I grew up with him being a complete mess and always in trouble. The media would turn his court appearances into a circus, they were making millions off of his mistakes. It’s nice to see him get his life together, make a huge comeback, and finding a partner who pushes him to be better.

His vulnerability/respect for his wife is so lovely

Did he just gave credit to his tooth gap for his successful marriage?!😂

I love RDJ's story. It's really inspiring, especially for someone like me who has struggled with addictions and rose from it. While I am no means Iron Man, my son looks up to me as if I am.

I love every bit of this. The positive reflection and words of wisdom. The love and appreciation RDJ has. The calm, peaceful atmosphere. You both seem so comfortable with each other!

two guys having an honest, real conversation about relationships...love it

"Any great partner holds their space and lets you fish yourself out of the chasm."

I like these type of interviews when you could leave the character and get to the man.

Rdj and Susan. The most underrated love story. Not all men get the woman that changes your life to the best.

❤️❤️😫😫Love RDJ, one of my absolute favorites in Hollywood and just in general because of his inspiring story and he seems like an amazing person. He is one of the people I have to meet along with Samuel Jackson, and Kevin Feige, but I have to have at least an hour with Feige tho lol

"Benevolent neglect" beautiful and so true. No one can fix you, but we are social animals and need to be loved in order to know how to love ourselves.

This is so philosophical. I love it. He's not talking about fluffy fairytale romance. They have a genuine partnership where they see each other's souls. I LOVE IT.

The Avengers tattoo :')

How does somebody who spent so many decades high and who has just a high school education end up so damn articulate? Roberts off the cuff intelligence and charisma always amazes me.

"benevolent neglect"

Robert and Susan are meant for each other in every way and it’s so beautiful to see.

Best love story ever❤💙💚💛💜💓💕💖💗💘💝💞💟

this is the best podcast/series of interviews I have ever heard. been a fan for a long time!

I can't believe I haven't heard about you before. You're amazing at interviewing people. I can't wait to see more

This man inspire me so much I don’t have words.

now THIS is a safe space. thanks for respectful interview of a brilliant actor. "Benevolent neglect". gonna think on that

I will always be grateful that mr. downey decided to stay awhile longer

Thank you thank you thank you a thousand times thank you for giving the rest of us a little light in the darkness...

What an absolutely amazing life story on screen and off. I hope Robert is mentoring many.

*We don't know what we are doing, while we are doing it!!* So accurate!! 👌🔥

simply a great way of answering that question no someone can’t save you, it has to be you who does the work however they can certainly aid in the process

Great intervju again love your way ....respectful and truly curius thanks!

RBJ co-created THE iconic "made for cinema" super hero character. He did his part - in spades! I wish him happiness going forward.

I'm very happy for him and where he is in life and that he has someone like that by his side

These are awesome and have made my day, thank you thank you thank you!!!!

Oh yeah!😏 the way he said that!!😂😂

Please release the complete interview!! What an amazing interview!!

Beautiful interview! 💞😊💞

This is such a great interview . Robert went so deep on explaning their relantionshio

It's a dangerous game to place all recovery cards in someone else's hands. But kudos to RDJ for his success with it

To be Consistent enough for someone else to rely on. This is an awesome phrase to live by

i love the way that sam talks about robert's past. not in a sneaky, sly, trying-to-dig-up-the-dirt way that krishnan guru murthy did, but rather in a very factual, up-front, casual way. Love this interview!

Just wow

"He has a space between his teeth, it's okay that I have a space between my teeth."

You`re doing such good work. You are so sensitive and empathic in the run, that`s why they trust you. BRILLANT T E A M W O R K !

Im saying 'improvement'. Robert says 'betterment' Me: why dont people speak like him? My vocabulary is poor

Aww he said "suit up"😍😍

Great conversation.

Imagine being this wonderful of a person

This video was beautiful and full of wisdom 😌

His avengers tattoo! I love it!

I love their relationship so much!!! ♥️♥️

Grateful they found what works for them as a couple & family. That’s the trick, isn’t it?

This resonates amazingly with me. I love this. WOW.

I hope to eventually have a relationship like the way he has with his wife. Also who knew that eventually her seeing he future mans in a movie led to her later marrying him. 😂

That’s a great interview.

This guy is my favorite interviewer!

Finally an interviewer who knows how to talk about people's pasts without fucking shit up. Respect. And subscribe

Subscribed!

Susan really said: I Can Fix Him (I Really Can)

Ohhh man, love you and i love Susan ❤

I love what he is saying!

I wonder if any of those two read the comments. Ive never seen such a empathetic and thoughtful interviewer like Sam. And at the same time, Downey seems like an clever guy who so so self-reflected and psychological intelligent and yet he is so different from me. He is so invested in all those thoughts but at the same time he keeps so much distance from the outer world and doesnt rly let anybody in his mind.

He truly found his soulmate ❤

Please interview Tom Holland, that would be incredible. Especially after the intense movie Cherry he is filming right now

So, cuddle not coddle? 🤣

how did i miss this interview? have been a huge RDJ fan since Chaplin though I've seen his previous works afterwards.

AS A COMPLETELY STRAIGHT MALE, I LOVE THIS MAN.

OMG, i have a space between my front teeth! I feel so valid :')

The host did a great job with this interview

Profound!

Tears....................................

Loved weird science as a kid! Interesting conversation