I love the way that Russell's cheeky brilliance makes Dr Mate lighten his own tone. So lovely to hear them both laugh in spite of the deep seriousness of this utterly excellent dialogue.
Exactly and completely right, speaking as a child psychoanalyst. Nearly all children, no matter how loving (or not) their parents are, are like sponges for the projections and emotions of their parents. They internalise their parents’ experiences, without understanding why mum is crying, dad is shouting or whatever. The first three years are crucial for brain development, and to mess up attachment patterns with crèches, nurseries etc during these stages is not good.....and yet it is often essential for both parents to work. Our society, with its unrelenting focus on materialism, is damaging our families, damaging our children.
Then it's not always essential for both parents to work. defocus on materialism, drops overheads significantly; if outgoing cover financial needs from one income, then it's about managing expectations of the children that aren't getting the latest trainers their friends are getting?
@@SamSam-xx6dv also, if it's just impossible for adult humans to exist in this society while raising little ones healthily, maybe people should just stop having kids and, 2 birds 1 stone, we can safely decrease our overpopulation that way too. I don't know how people can justify having children when they've no choice but to screw them up since our society is so pathological. We need to clean up our mess first.
@@penyarol83 I also used to think eugenics was the answer, fortunately I was not elected to power with that belief. Fortunately, two things did happen, I grew up and got educated. I realised eugenics means only the privileged are afforded the right to have children, and history shows, you me and everyone else is a product of ancestors that shelled out as many kids as possible, as safety in numbers principle applied. Child mortality rates being so high, for example. I fortunately learnt ‘terrain theory’ and that constantly using medicine to cure the gold fish rather than clean the water tank, was the problem. Thinking it’s the individual’s actions are the problem rather than the hidden obvious (human are products of society) that society is the problem and society is a product of those that have the most power to influence it, is the real problem. I focused upon, who actually has the most opportunity and the most influence for change rather than focusing upon those whose only survival power is to have children. Fortunately, I met people that survived their childhood despite the pathological society they were brought up it and became amazing people of positive change, which eugenics would have aborted. Once I learnt to blame the liars rather than those that were lied too, I truly got on the road to growing up.
Brand is hitting it out of the park with these videos about true root causes of addiction. Brene Brown for the Toxic Shame and now Gabor Mate and trauma. Brand is using his media profile to explore the true and overlooked causes of addiction. What a admirable and selfless thing to do.
Now we need to convince various systems educational justice medical to incorporate the best practices and approaches into their organizations ..The result can be phenomenal
i disagree and this goes against the talk of addiction in general. say im an "addict" (or at least give myself said label). does that mean i beleive i have no soul?
@@helenevilbert611 I disagree with you also, if we consider psychology this just plain doesn't make sense and in a practical way makes Even less sense, have you ever treated yourself poorly?
I heard the same sentiment expressed in regard to the medical profession where human beings are treated like biological machines with no acknowledgment that they each have a soul.
"The more sensitive you are, the more creative you're going to be, but the more sensitive you are, the more you're going to suffer as well, because you're going to feel the pain more." 21:05
That is the crucial element missing from addiction treatment recovery. We have focused on trauma which is a huge milestone, but the crucial piece is why do siblings who grew up in the same family and who experienced the same traumas fair differently? The ones who become addicts were way more affected by the trauma. How is that possible? Because one of them was highly sensitive. I would give Dr. Aron's self test out in my addiction/recovery groups and the percentage of clients who identified as highly sensitive was never below 96%.
@@Zainiology it's a temperament issue. Those of us who are highly sensitive often have a rich inner life, we suffer more because we feel more, we also know the power of love, compassion, creativity, and human kindness. We want to give that out to others, we also want to find an outlet for our pain and many gifted, creative, sensitive souls have done so through their art.
I've watched tons of interviews and lectures of Gabor and this is the first one I've seen him light up like that. Could tell there was deep mutual respect for one another. Loved the conversation, thanks as always.
Funny you write that, because I had the same sense but couldn't realy formulate what I was sensing, but as soon as I read your comment I knew what it was. :)
Best Russell Brand interview ever, loved how he and Dr. Maté just clicked. I hope this helps people who suffer from trauma and addiction be more understood. I wept when Dr. Maté characterized the Buddha and Jesus as two of humanity's biggest failures. I hope our species survives long enough to realize the beauty of our potential, despite the odds. Conversations like this give me hope, and resolve to do my own healing work and whatever small thing I can to help others.
What we see here, is an insanely intelligent, mature man, meeting every difficult question, with the incredible wisdom of over 70 fruitful, professional and personal years of life on this planet, and Russell being the youngster in the situation, learning everything he can, with as much joy as he can. This is peak intellectual and existential content for anyone open enough to understand it. Well done!
damon gardiner not sure you can call it corporate greed., a big investment in time and resources are required to put these together, do you think this should be a public service?
Dr. Gabor Mate is one of the top intellectuals of our time. He has such a precise, intelligent understanding of our reality and deep compassion for our weaknesses and imperfections... Thank you for bringing him to the show.
This was honestly one of the most impactful videos I've ever watched. As a new father that wants to stop smoking pot all day every day to cope with childhood trauma, trauma that also impacts how I interact with my kids, this seems as if it was made for me. Thank you, Russell & Dr. Mate.
The gifts of clarity let you deal with the trauma and then you can start to enjoy life with your kids. You should be proud of yourself, I know how hard it is.
Yeah same. Weed started as a pain relief 20 years ago but it’s a mad habit now my whole life revolves around growing and smoking weed it’s took over my life
I fail to see how marijuana is a problem when utilized properly. It has so many medical benefits I cant list them all. The shear fact it's the only item on the planet that reacts to the cannabinoid receptors of the body to regulate health is enough to want to find out how to utilize it properly and not abuse it. There has never been a single recorded death in history due to marijuana, you can't even say that about water...marijuana isn't a problem, the reasons why people use it and abuse it is...
I love that they've read each other's books. It shows they have respect for one another and allows them to have a fundamental understanding of the others' viewpoints Great Convo!
Yes indeed! Compassionate Inquiry is my base station for learning and understanding. As a reading specialist this became a gift. 🎁 The Best Gift of My Life.
Wow, I’m 24 years clean and sober, this man is bang on. He articulated things that took me years to understand, and is also spot on re 12 steps, which are truly a gift and a vehicle to turn your life around, but it was only thru finding a deep compassion for those parts of myself that are fearful, judgmental, egotistical etc that I have really found peace and deep connection to source/love.
Your comment made me smile because I feel the same. I've never met or listened to someone that makes my heart as happy as Gabor. There's just something about him that warms my heart.
Sorry to say,but doctor Máté not saying anything what a human being doesn't know by herself! He just tell to the ppl,whome need some respond about them thinking....... He is a real healer! Not a doctor.....he heals truely......I listened on him once,and without his treatment I can easily working on my trauma..........none ever could help........
It is what it is but I still feel sad about the trauma I have passed on to my son, especially when I see him suffering. Wishing I could have known/ heard this talk so many years ago when he was a child. But same as the doc whilst I was doing research, working with children and youth I could only see my inadequacy and my inability to change whilst I was unaware of my trauma. Even now, whilst I’m aware of trauma I don’t know which trauma and I’m still struggling with my son’s and family members’ addictive behaviours. What this talk did for me is to meet them with increased love and understanding.
Once you get red pilled, the recommended content's comment sections will often dry up of the hate. Unless certain types come in to "correct the fascist Nazis"
I penned this poem listening to you and Gabor. The Sublime Suffering causes brain dis-ease A pain we all seek to appease Substance, habit, seeking saviour Manifest in blind behaviour The pace of pain accelerating Living, dying, loving, hating The impact of the trauma weighting! Insidious cycle beyond frustrating Sleeping, waking, freaking, faking Winning, losing, giving, taking Building, breaking, raging, shaking On your knees you start prostrating Heart and soul contained within And falling short is how we sin Take it all both hard and tender It may lead you to surrender. Hope you like it and see it Russell
How lovely! - two sensitive and insightful people sitting down together, talking about the things that really matter in life :) Thank you Russell and Gabor!
"In order for society to function, we have to separate the soul from the body. Because we wouldn't treat people the way we do if they had souls" ~ Gabor Mate.
_..picture wisdom as a magnificent and finely decorated palace. One climbs up to enter this palace by twelve steps. ... The twelve steps into the palace of wisdom signify love in union with faith and faith in union with love._ E Swedenborg _Divine Providence_ 1764 www.oakarbor.org/why_oakarbor/wilsons.html (Bill W's wife Lois was a student of Swedenborg)
Yes, but the truth is, we do have souls. The elite know we have souls, but many of us don't. We wouldn't treat humanity the way we do if we told the truth about human beings having souls. I've often wondered if there are soulless individuals walking amongst us but I guess trauma splits the psyche and the soul gets forgotten about. Politicians and the elite act in this way, and as a result so do we because as above so below.
We need more public men as Russell Brand and Gabor Mate. They are grounded in reality and address root causes of society's problems rather than only the symptoms.
@ Marilyn Warbis - Though new to Gabor I'm already impressed & also looking forward to his new book. - I can also recommend ALICE MILLER, as being THE child psychologist who certainly led to my eyes being opened to the reality of our present "MATRIX" ( Pt.1 of the sci fi film series ) To give you some context here's a short SYNOPSIS based on her work She stated that 90% of our species are dysfunctional because of authoritarian - abusive- toxic parenting The symptoms that result from that cause @ one end of the continuum, people who take nicotine-alcohol-drugs to medicate their emotional pain to @ the other end the "great" dictators of the 20th century Hitler/Stalin/Mao/Pol Pot ( It is no random coincidence that they were all abused children who's pathological defence mechanism was to become psychopaths e.g. shut down emotionally & seek power to protect themselves) Unfortunately these dictators obtained such power as to allow them to re-enact their child hood traumas-dramas on the world stage leading to World War / Holocaust - Genocide / deliberate famine / etc While I feel sorry for what happened to them as kids clearly, @ the VERY least psychopaths should NEVER EVER be given power - & clearly we have yet to learn that lesson ! BTW - ALICE MILLER has written over a dozen books on this topic & a good starting point is "For Your Own Good: The Roots of Violence in Child-Rearing "
I don't think giving more drugs to people who are perpetually traumatized is a good thing! How about we address the root cause of the trauma instead of relying upon substances?
@@triggerhapp0990because then society needs to change and the powerful are not interested in addressing the issues, because it is a society issue. It is easier for them to blame the individual and punish them as apposed for improving the standard of life and giving up power. They only care about self-sustaining themselves through their Tyranny
Thank you for your comment! I concur! My traumatic experiences as a child, including being raped by a neighbor at nine years old, triggered my addiction to certain types of food! I am very grateful for both Dr. Gabor Mate and Russell Brand. I’m learning so much now, and public personalities who offer very insightful insights have been very instrumental in my recovery! I really like Dr. Gabor’s statement that makes perfect sense that society is fueled by addiction! Ah, the economy relies upon artificial needs!! So good! ❤God bless you!
The Mate family is so awesome. Gabor Mate is an amazing doctor with so much insight, and his son Aaron Mate is an award winning journalist, one of the few today that does actual journalism, instead of being fed stories from his editor.
Yes,although how do you view his being private with his patients? For me,as an HSP CPTSD Aspergers in constant acute need of help since 40 years (!),I get disappointed,angry and depressed if a Dr talks about themselves before examining me, giving some evaluation, co-work and plan of action,-and the start of the adequate trauma therapy. I think it is exploiting the patient, because he doesn't have full attention on finding out who the patient with his illness is. Multi-tasking comes with a loss, and mots patients could really use some un-divided interested attention,which works healing in itself. Sorry, it is my abuse and wounds, neglect,maltreatment and withheld proper treatment by psychiatrists. Mate says many good things too though. Nice that the son is a real journalist
So true. I've loved Gabor Mate since I read realm of hungry ghosts and started watching his RU-vid content when I found Aaron Mate it was such beautiful icing on the cake. Yes he is one of the few journalists talking about things that need talking about that are not getting talked about things that people don't want to hear. The Apple didn't fall far from the tree as they say.
WOOOOOOW! A lightbulb moment at 28:06 when Gabor says “What the addict wants is not to be addicted. So the addict is actually after that temporary state of not being addicted when the craving is gone and there is some inner peace momentarily.” 👏👏👏👏👏👏
@@emil9561 No, it's not "ummm no shit"!! It takes someone highly intelligent to be able to articulate this type of feeling. If it was THAT OBVIOUS as you seem to think then it would've been considered general knowledge.
@@Ada_Isabella Fair game but, what did you think the word addict meant? Whether there is wanting or not the accepted general definition is a person who is engaged in a compulsory action. "Complusive" resulting from or relating to an irresistible urge, especially one that is against one's conscious wishes. Perhaps what we need is a shift from a label that is less obvious and reveals more.
"The end of addiction starts by treating pregnant women and children well" This man is a genius. Thank you for introducing this gentleman Gabor Mate to me today. This convo was full of interesting info. I'm definitely seeking out his book on parenting.
TRUE THAT! WHILE U REALIZE THAT JUST LOOK AT THE OPPOSITE SPECTRUM OF HOW/WHY BILLIONS/MILLIONS OF PEOPLE ARE BORN/POPPED OUT WHILE DAD-MOM HAD PERIODIC ARGUMENTS, FIGHTS, TRAUMA - WHILE THE MOTHER WAS PREGNANT! ESPECIALLY IN INDIA, THE WORST PART IS THAT EVEN IF THE PREGNANT MOTHER WANTS TO LEAVE HER HUSBAND, HER OWN PARENTS/FAMILY WILL SUPPORT THE SON IN LAW! HYPOCRISY LIMITS EXPLODED!
yes, Brilliant! I am a psychotherapist and I believe the message in this video goes far far beyond any addiction issues. This goes to the heart of humanity and the potential we have that we have lost sight of. Thanks!!!
A true delight to see both Gabor and Russell together, I knew it would be something special. I’ve spent 46 years on this planet trying to work out what was wrong with me, why I’m so angry. And this video and others I’ve listened to, since the technology exists to facilitate it, have answered so many questions about how I’ve been affected and also what is so often wrong with our society. True wisdom lies on the fringes while true stupidity resides in the mainstream... deeply embedded in our deepest and most powerful institutions. All around us we keep perpetuating the same fundamental problems, because it is ‘law’ and the very foundation of our society and capitalist beliefs. All hail they who question and look for a better way.
A very very wise man speaks... the wisest man I've listened to since I don't know when. The conversation had a tremendous impact on me and my understanding of my own addictions. It also goes on to explain the nature of power and how dysfunctional systems are set up to become fail-safe, despite inherently failing in of themselves. I cannot recommend too highly that this chat is worth 90 minutes of your time.
I am so happy to hear that this has given you insight into your own addictions. It sure beats the hell out of the moral failing model of addiction. Isn't it a relief to know you were responding to your trauma and not that you are a moral failing and just need a little bit of Church to get you back on track?
I am so glad i found Brand here... I am three days out of an abusive relationship, and ALL I can think of is returning to the fix. I am idealizing the love and ignoring the belittling, the coldness, the mental emotional and physical abuse... and my sickness is real. I need to start here, to be aware. To grow. To find the tools. Thank you Russell.
Amanda Savage Just keep imagining the relationship that supports you. Rewrite your story. Imagine the healthy interactions you will enjoy going forward with new people when you are tempted to go back. There is no going back when you know how to love yourself. Keep loving every single thing about yourself. We teach others how to love us, yes? 💔
Gf you KNOW what you need to do. Listen to that inner voice. I'm a year out and I won't lie I still think about it. But it gets longer in between. There are weeks at a time now i don't think about him at all. Keep thinking about the end result.... a better/ stronger version of you
@Amanda Savage...Stay strong, your not alone, we are many. Before we can contribute and please another, we first must be able to stand, please, and contribute to self, and be comfortably alone, and truly enjoy the company you keep in the empty, alone moments. Then it'll be a healthy relationship, close your eyes and imagine a capital H. Two strong people able to comfortably stand alone yet are connected. The unhealthy relationships are like a capital A, two individuals needing to lean on eachother in order to feel a connection, if one falls the other buckles as well without the support. Fix what's within then you'll realize your way more powerful than you know. I pray this message finds you well.
Amanda Savage; how are you today? 2mths ago you had left your partner and the addictive side of u wants that fix... GouLish I am not.. asking u have u returned to this state of being. Keep yourself heathy and Yoga is one of the safest excercises to transform oneself.be gentle on yourself with this Co-vid 19 thing.reach out You know Tommy Rosen is a good buggar to listen too ... okay
Amanda it's been about a year since my break up and still the first and last person I think of even tho I know this is for the best. Funny how this heart & mind work but I keep in my minds eye the person who truly deserves my company and i theirs. Until you truly realize your a Queen, Jokers will invite themselves into your heart making themselves as kings!
I love that Dr Mate has made himself vulnerable to admit that even he hasn't been able to overcome his ego, yet! I think he has set a good example to his followers, doesn't make out to be THE expert over the rest of us, and sounds like the kind of person who has the humility to learn from others ❤
You can't overcome Ego, Ego... is a part of you being. It depends on how did you feed your Ego. And of cause, we as human can't overcome always or bad wired Ego... we are human dear. This is a longing for perfection, brain driven. Being perfect, in a perfect inviorment... for the body /brain connection wants, to feel safe. If you look back, it is coming out of male teaching.... logical part, of humanity, brain driven. And caution I'm not talking about that this is bad. But to be true, this all referring to male in male talks, if it comes to wisdom and how humanity is Funktion, is so boring polarised. Are until today, no woman, who can talk about this subject too? I use to say, if there is only in part of humanity, is talking about sercumstances, which are including all humanity, its only half of the truth.
@@sabinetsamtsukakis4031there are a lot of women who are equally capable of having such serious discussions and they do, and they are given the chance to do so, like Candace Owens for example. Feminists tend to look at everything from a feminist’s point of view. As women We have to be careful not to let this complex go deeper into our psyche.
Having experienced childhood trauma and now navigating the complex emotions of parenthood it was humbling to be reminded of how I need to react and support my son during his emotions. Over the last 12 months my son has experienced many anger episodes and I have been guilty of removing myself from his space and letting him deal with it. Listening to you dicuss this and realising it's in these moments my son needs me more was very upsetting as I see how I've let him down - but it's opened my mind to how I need to act moving forward. Thank you both
I've been reading Gabor's books during the past 3 years and I can't get enough of him. His theory of childhood trauma and the after effects are 100% correct. I love his writings.
@@milenagradisar5732 A great one to read is one which he wrote with Dr Gordon Neufeld called "Hold On To Your Kids - Why Parents Need To Matter More Than Peers". If you're in the UK, it retails at £9.99 I love this book. His interview on London Real with Brian Rose and his interview with Tim Ferriss are mind blowing. They will make you look deep within. I guarantee you, you will enjoy all of Gabor's books and these interviews. Let me how what you think after you've checked them out🙏🏾👍🏾
I found this guy ten years ago, so privileged to be part of this vibration. Thank you both for your work so we can all continue ours! Much peace and respect He truly is the best
I'm sure Russell would agree with me when I say that Gabor Mate is the world's foremost expert on addiction and social dysfunction. Understanding his teachings really led me to make the changes in my life that were needed in order to confront the source of my addictions, and to take that giant leap from abstinence to recovery. I finally realized that I had been severely damaged by the way my father treated me when I was a young boy (between 6-9) and in 2016 I gathered the courage to sit down with my father and confront these issues with him. The confrontation had to come from a place of love though, I wasn't at all combative nor did I place blame, and I acknowledged that my father was under a large amount of stress at the time. But during this conversation, I broke down and cried in front of him and he acknowledged that he did say a lot of damaging things to me as a young boy. Afterward, we hugged and moved on as if nothing had changed, but in reality, seemingly EVERYTHING had changed. I felt like an entirely different person afterward, having finally cleared the air and exposed something that had been stewing for 30+ years. A year later, I also finally acknowledged to myself that an unhealthy, crazymaking relationship that I had been in, on and off for 8 years, was nothing other than narcissistic abuse and manipulation, and I was able to walk away when I had allowed this person to utterly destroy me for so long. 2 MAJOR MAJOR steps of growth within an 11-month period. Much of this was due to my understanding of and appreciation for what Dr. Mate teaches.
Hey so hear what you are saying. have in past 5 years had both those conversations with each parent and all of my relationships were on the narcissistic spectrum. And confronting the cause so my addictions! I hope your healing is going well
Sterling Archer ACA ( Adult Children of Alcoholics) meetings have helped me and they encourage disconnecting from the sick family cult if need be. Prayers your way for healing and strength 🙏
I said to my doctors time and time again 25 years ago, if there were no drugs, at that time, we would kill each other or I would kill him or myself. Like I was talking to a stone. Black hole. What Gabor are saying I felt and I knew to be right long time ago but until I heard Gabor speak,... I felt relief. I felt at home. Im so grateful. Thank You Gabor.
I never realised that I had a porn and sex addiction until my first long-term partner opened up to me about how much my behaviour was affecting him too. I was 20 and he was 24 at the time - I'm so grateful to him because I could never have climbed up from that rabbit hole until I experienced what it's like to be respected and loved for who I am. I am now 23 and unfortunately we are no longer together. I now connected my addiction to such external validation from being sexually molested in my childhood. I listen to this podcast and resonate with the shared views/experiences by both Brand and Mate, thank you!!
@Jupiter calling a damaged person a cum bucket because they react to their trauma in a way you can't understand is a little unfair bud. Your message has some resentment and hate towards this person, you should work on that. I do know a girl very much like the girl you mentioned, bpd, high sex drive and watched porn etc but we are friends now and she's had some awful things happen to her, it's a shame we can call a woman a cum bucket but what do we call a guy doing the same? There doesn't seem to be an equally disgusting term for it.
@Russell Brand Thank you for this wonderful conversation. Gabor is such a treasure. Every time I listen to him he touches places in my soul. He understands the pain and the trauma in people and he treats it with tenderness. He knows what average doctors don`t.
Thank you for sharing this talk. As someone who was raised in a very religious environment that never addressed trauma, it really spoke to me when he said "There is no sin. There is human dysfunction as a result of trauma."
I get what you’re saying but I can see it both ways. If someone sinned and rapes a woman. She gets pregnant and keeps the kid. The kid grows up under lies to protect the kid from that truth and later that kid becomes an adult and turns to alcohol to cope with feeling too different. Is that not started by someone’s sin? Then worsened by the sin of lying. The Coped with by the sun of alcoholism? Etc etc. The human dysfunction is a result of sin and results in trauma.
For sin...read wound....we can and are healing when we realise that we have been traumatised from birth so that we would live in fear...people in fear are easy to control
@@alaskayoung3413raping a woman is more than a sin mate it is the absolute worst act of violating another. Sins are harmful to us only, as soon as one is harming anyone else it is purely evil which can not be forgiven by society
I've never seen addiction viewed through that positive lens. If it weren't for my addiction, I wouldn't be here. That it did serve some function in spite of the bad. Really enlightening.
_Clairvoyance furnishes the most conclusive answer to the ingenious ratiocinations of the Materialists, and presents the most satisfactory proof of the existence of the soul, separate and apart from the body, residing within it, generally employing its organs for the reception of ideas, but at times acting independent of them, and obtaining information without their aid. By Clairvoyance we have shown the truth of the first proposition upon which Spiritualism rests - the existence of a dual nature in man, a soul as well as a body._ RH Brown 1868 archive.org/details/The_Spiritual_Magazine_New_Series_Vol_Iii_1868/page/n453
When you are an abused child you believe that everyone else is ok and you are screwed up (thus the abuse of drugs, alcohol or other self sabotaging behaviours); later on when you heal yourself you realise that you are ok and it's the rest of the world that is screwed up.
Annie McDougall did you ever find Emma rachenbach and lady Maria von France, you should tell all ladys to check her out, Russell brand should know that from that perspective he is a knight of the Grail goi scotia
You know what is pretty amazingly consistent about you Russell? You see and express innate Beauty. You express in a very holistic and enriching way that reveals deeper values, essences and aesthetics.. How very cool.
"He who opens a school door, closes a prison." - Victor Hugo “The degree of civilization in a society can be judged by entering its prisons.” - Fyodor Dostoevsky
100 yrs ago mental institutions were a thing ... prisons are the new mental institutions ... I've met some really fucked up people and no amount of coddling would fix these people ... I'm absolutely not pro prison by any means but they do separate truly dangerous people from society
"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive." "Our prime purpose in this life is to help others, and if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them." - Dalai Lama
whilst listening to this my friend from clubbing days called me.. two of our old party friends died recently only in their 40 s. I dare say trauma was a big part of their childhood experience. R.I.P. Vlad and Andrea
Just saved to watch later! I can’t wait to watch this. I love Gabor Mate .... he really helps me understand so much. My mother, a beautiful soul was a junkie and recently died. So many layers but he really helped me find understanding and compassion for her and to just love her as always but without the anger. Also to help me do the same for myself.... I love his honesty in his own struggles. I love you too and your story Russel. Keep doing your important work guys..... much love ❤️
Russell You are an exceptional interviewer. You ask great questions that are so relevant, you are a great listener, and your just a pleasure. I feel very satisfied after listening to your videos. Thank you. Peace and Love.
Dear God this was one of the most important conversations of our century. Thank you so much. Its has resonated with me in a bazilion of ways. So much respect and love
Shame on both of you. Obama was not a dictator. He had a strong Republican senate opposing him for the sake of opposing. He was able to implement environmental regulations to protect water, air and reduce carbon emissions. He brought about economic regulations of banks, colleges, and industry to protect the individual and prevent another recession. He brought in Obama Care which allowed an enormous part of the population to receive basic medical care. He wanted more, but the Republican senate thwarted him at every turn. Killed thousands of people? He pulled out of Iraq and entered Afghanistan to prevent the Taliban from suppressing and killing its people. He was criticised for not entering Syria. Not everyone agrees on what is the most humane thing to do, but he made efforts. I would expect as a doctor you would've done enough reading not to make such generalizations.
Thank you again, Russell, for featuring Dr. Gabor Mate on your show. I have followed him for many years. I have suffered trauma throughout my life and as he points out, trauma effects the health of all sentient beings-and us especially as cognitive humans. Listening to both of you motivates me to require both his and your books for doctors so that they can treat their patients more effectively. I think, in this day and age, that an overhaul of politics needs to be addressed in order for humans to progress towards a better way of life for all. Communal education is key to changing societies and governments. It begins at birth. People need to help people. But how do we accomplish this? There are so many answers and conditions that apply, so all I can say is today's world is not working and people must try harder. Peace & Love!!!
Goverments are formed by people in a society, in particular, the ones who are extremely wealthy. Wealth protects wealth. Places and love as you call it brings suffering onto people their is no such thing as peace and love these are merly an ideal or a concepts
We need to learn to take responsibility for our own lives, because reality in the hands of the damaged creates more damage...we need more love and self awareness (as opposed to being self conscious) we need therapy and no more politicians, but rather 'managers whom we can hire and fire according to track record.
Today's world is working for those running and gaining from it just the way it is.. I.E Governments, Billionaires, Millionaires etc., Organized Religion who built on the trauma begun by addicted parents. There is no Hope I'm sorry to say.
I've nearly finished and want to say I believe this is the best conversation Russel Brand has had on his podcast. Thank you for sharing the entire video
I agree, it's an amazing interview. Gabor Mate is in another amazing documentary called "Zeitgeist: Moving Forward" which I highly suggest to anyone that hasn't already seen it.
When Gabor said he hasn’t gotten to the point of surrendering, I can so relate to that. I completely agree with him on saint type of people are on a different frequency
A "saint" that hates his son for the fact of smoking pot. Shouldn't a father - even more so a "saint" - accept his offspring unique perspective on life instead of forcing and projecting his own into the kid?
FeelingShred I‘m sorry 😔 I’m not saying Gabor qualifies as a saint according to his theory or that he himself functions at a higher frequency than the average person. I do however, I think his theory seems reasonable.
FeelingShred I believe you’ve misunderstood the comment in the context of this video; neither Mate or the commenter are claiming sainthood, in fact just the opposite. Besides, whatever issue or unaddressed trauma the man may be working through with his family, that’s ok, he’s only human 😉
I love listening to Gabor Mate. Soothing and truly insightful at the same time. The combination with Russell and his speed, cleverness and disruptive skillset makes this conversation a true gem that more people should watch!
This is an absolutely amazing clip, I have so many notes. I have never heard anything so true. Thank you for Russell for brining this mans wisdom into my life. Keep them coming
The art of dialogue is greatly appreciated with these two human beings. They create a "sum" greater than the parts. I feel this conversation, and most of Russell's interviews, are so important for our times. The repurposing of the term "sin" to include the reaction to trauma is brilliant. Sin- "human dysfunction that is a response to trauma." I will come back to this video several times, it inspires creative flow in me. Thank you, Russell.
"The way we treat addiction in this society - we confuse people with their behavior. We think they are their behavior, and all we have to do is punish or change or in someway inhibit their behavior. No! We have to understand the human being that just wants to be loved. And that's why their addicted"
24:44 “I’ve either had less suffering or I’ve had more help with my suffering than they received “ 36:54: Gabor on religion 39:42 “for this society to function, it has to separate the soul from the body because we wouldn’t treat people the way we do if they had souls”
Gabor Mate is a Vancouver doctor helping the city's most vulnerable persons largely in the downtown eastside. Gabor Mate understands humanity's nature of authentic life and trauma induced decay of personal life. He is teacher and healer of the sick and weary. His own life dies 1000 deaths as he holds the hurting soul drawing their last breath. He is a most generous man sharing his best every day to bring about change through knowledge of trauma awareness. ♡
cool thanks i'm 3+ years sober now from booze.. after having pancreatitis I wasn't sure i'd ever manage to stop but i'm here now. stay strong to anyone struggling with addiction, you can do it but it takes a lot of work.
The Lonesome Wanderer I’m always interested in listening the story of someone who has managed to overcome any kind of addiction. My sister has been struggling with alcoholism and she doesn’t have the strength to stop. Her life is falling apart, her health is declining but she doesn’t seem to care...How could you find motivation + determination to say to yourself - this is killing me, I need to find a way out of it? I really want to help my sister but I don’t know how since she can’t be bothered to help herself 😞
Look into prolonged fasts and liver/gallbladder cleanses. I'm nearing 2 1/2 years sober and they have really helped to heal my body. Prolonged fasts have been scientifically proven to regenerate new cells in the pancreas.
@@mulhergato40 I traveled to Peru to try Ayahuasca. I initially did 6 ceremonies at Dreamglade. It was incredibly transformative and over the next few months I kicked the booze. Dr. Gabor Maté often references using Ayahuasca to combat addiction. If your sister is suffering from complete dejection then she has nothing to lose.
I'll have to look into that, as that's what I was told by the doctors when I was in hospital, that once you've had pancreatitis you're on a dangerous path for the rest of your life as it doesn't heal. @@HawaiiLimey
well that's where I was aswell when my family was trying to help me but I didn't even want to help myself, honestly the only way I did end up kicking it was because of the fact I had to go to hospital with pancreatitis and I was in there for 2 weeks, and obviously can't drink in hospital, the hardest part for me was the terrifying thought of withdrawal, and being in hospital made that easier as they can help medicate you so you aren't in danger of seizures etc. have you tried having a family intervention with your sister? that got through to me when my family did it. and the first step to rehabilitation is admitting you have a problem. @@mulhergato40
This was completely eye opening, every damn bit of it. I have struggled with drug addiction in the past, and I know I do still have other addictions now. But the level and depth and reasoning behind WHY... fascinating. I may have to watch this a few times to really absorb everything said. One after another after another statement that just really really hit home. Gabor is absolutely brilliant!
Thank you once again for an astute, thoughtful interview with a wonderful guest. I am 55 and in a cycle of trying to process trauma from childhood and adulthood, it is something I have done over the years since about 22 when I was diagnosed with ptsd. Your discussions of trauma and addiction are inspiring, educational and healing. Thanks for including some discussion of ayahuasca and shamanism as additional paths to healing.
Incredible interview. It's refreshing and encouraging to hear two great minds speak openly about the prevelance and role of trauma in this collectively insane world. As someone working through developmental trauma myself, I feel this kind of awareness is fundamental if we are to ever work towards healing and wholeness as individuals and a civilisation. Great work x
BEST INTERVIEW OF THE YEAR!!! Big up! You two summarised my worldview in 1,5 hours - it was a pleasure to listen even if the subject is quite devastating. Lots of love
I am a 12 stepper, and I agree about the 12 steps, and I found much more recovery in the Adult Children of Alcoholics, where child hood trauma is addressed. Thanks for the topic. So grateful. Namaste'
@@maureenmannion6748 trauma doesn't cause addiction it certainly adds to it that there is no doubt, recovery is a inside job i own my own recovery and by christ it was hard fought for.
I lost my parents aged 12 and 15 and I still haven't fully recovered at 44. I can't have children but they're precious, my parents were brilliant but adults who tried to look after me after that was horrible. I started looking after myself when I was 16. Don't push your kids away ever people be stern but fair like my parents were 😊
My parents pushed me away with the way they behave. I’m just happy that I’m going university next mont so this childhood nightmare can end and I can start finally living my life. I will say though that I have no copping methods right now and it’s rough.
I lost my father at 4yrs. I lost my mother at 18yrs. I'm in my 60's now, I still carry the trauma of not having my mother in my life. I've never really dealt with this matter . I could listen to this man speak for ever. Wow!
