One of the best analogies I've heard is: If your partner was having trouble seeing, you'd encourage them to use glasses (or contacts, etc.), right? So if they're having trouble reaching climax, why not incorporate a toy? Not as a replacement, but as an assistant! ;)
Because if you incorporate a pair of binoculars into your birdwatching, your birdwatching partner won't get jealous of the other birders who don't use binoculars, and won't shame you for not being able to see the birds with your naked eye.
Open communication about personal pleasures, kinks and dislikes is THE single most important thing to have when you wish to achieve great sex. This also involves observing what your partner seems to enjoy, both inside and outside the bedroom. You don't need to be a massive empath to achieve that and if you're neurodivergent and don't get clues easily then just prepare and plan more. That's all TOTALLY fine! The important thing is that there's an exchange happening.
I've never had any complaints from woman. I'm not one for showing off or bragging either. I was once told... To be a good lover then learn how a women's body works by exploring every inch of her. What works for one woman doesn't work for another..
Talk about applying pressure to that area the cli… also!! Some of us need pressure and the same motion until reaching organisms without changing things up. Starts slow then gradually work up to it.
It's my opinion a Woman's "O" aka Pleasure starts between the ears aka her brain - try starting there Who knows after that - Thank you Dr Malik any advice is Good advice ...
All a lady needs to know is herself, and then someone who knows how to give rather than just be self satisfied. Openness is the key, not habit. On the communication side, words and instructions aren't necessary; use your eyes, ears, you'll know what works and what doesn't. Plus, there are definite signs when a lady is really turned on; breath, blood flow to certain areas, etc!!! Pay attention and you'll both have a great time.
Dead on sir....lots of wisdom here....I always say ladies FIRST....first she must be relaxed....backmassage....and then she's ready to start filling her emotional love tank....give her 5 or 6 organisms....then YOU are ready....keep focused...keep it simple
All I know is that when my girlfriend gets home from work and the dishes are done, the laundry all folded, hung and put away, and I'm running the Kirby in the living room - I'm about to become a snack.
excellent !! It's always transactional for women. The more you do, the more she will expect you to do. Side note: I had a Kirby and that was a beast to push around while using it. Do you experience the same. I have standard height carpet in my place. I will say you could defend yourself from an intruder with a Kirby. If you can lift it LOL
@@briar35981A clean home “sets the stage” for romance nobody is trying to get it on with clutter everywhere. It also crosses off items off of her mental list which lowers her stress levels and allows her body to relax. Women have specific anatomy. They can’t comfortably internally receive without getting their muscles to relax. This is difficult to do when they’e stressed, let alone reach orgasm. And the act of a loving partner putting in physical labor and showing enough concern for her stress levels shows he cares about her and she’s worth the extra effort. That makes her feel safe and loved. If you’re too lazy to put any extra effort into your partner that is really just standard because let’s be honest we really should all be keeping our homes tidy, she’s not valuable to you and you shouldn’t be with her.
@@briar35981 Blaming women and viewing all women as bad means that you're not going to have a happy relationship and less sex. Maybe its whom you pick; emotionally unhealthy people attract emotionally unhealthy people.
Things that help men help women: leave any and all insecurities outside the bedroom, tell us what we are doing wrong, and more importantly what we are doing right. Only a total inconsiderate selfish jerk would be unappreciative of constructive criticism.
@@judyperri9496 ok, let me clarify my comment, a tutorial isn’t really required. By the time we are close enough to notice the “flaws” (imagined or real) we are too close to care. Hence, my suggestion of leaving insecurity outside the bedroom. The vast majority of men WANT their partners to enjoy themselves. Only a selfish inconsiderate jerk would disregard suggestions from their partner. Once again, generally we crave constructive criticism. If your experience differs, I’d suggest fishing from a different pond.
@@judyperri9496 I think he's right. A couple needs to work together to find their vibe, and that means communicating what works and what doesn't. That makes a healthy relationship.
Thanks for another great video. Could please on a future video, discuss when a urologist would want a man with ED problems to have a penile ultrasound and what’s involved in the procedure and what can be discovered by this procedure?
I would go to a urologist to see what things can contribute. An ultrasound by itself is super easy but not sure if other things go along with that and I have been researching ED and many factors like p@@n and certain medical conditions can cause this but so could stress and drugs or psychological issues. A man’s ego and embarrassment can make things worse so I pray your partner understands and doesn’t make you feel bad and she is patient. Please go see a doctor and be screened to see what can be done. Sorry to hear this and pray you find answers so you can and you will have that pleasure again! 🙏
In about 80% of cases I agree. In 20%, I’ve been stunned at how selfish they were. Usually aligned with poor communication skills and lower emotional maturity.
Aside from the self-selection problem, this study has a big problem with cause and effect. It proves a relationship between sexual experimentation and sexual pleasure, but it doesn't establish that one leads to the other and that by adopting more unconventional techniques you will necessarily improve pleasure. The reverse hypothesis that those women who already have a high libido and high degree of sexual response will be more likely to pursue sex as a hobby and seek out diverse pleasures.
Yes, though it might cut the opposite direction as she speculates, as super kinky people might actually secretly be more ashamed to admit their kinkyness. Below 20% seems low for a number of those categories.
I'm amazed at how this video simultaneously presented so much technical information without offering any real advice. "Relationship satisfaction", "clitoral stimulation". Really? Thanks, Captain Obvious.
Every time I hear a scientific study affirm what I believed ie common sense, I remember that there's value in confirming (or debunking) widely-held beliefs. Now we know!
I appreciate and understand your opening statement regarding woman’s sexual feelings. Wouldn’t it work for said woman, to mainly communicate this to her man. I’m pretty sure most men would not be offended by this and would appreciate the info.
I thought the O was the whole point of doing the “thing”. Dang those poor women! Hope this info helps those ppl out there. A day without pleasure with my husband is like a day without sunshine.
@@NeighborTomit is also pretty emotionally distressing to know you suck at something so important to your partner. It also tends to make you bitter to have to give 100% of the time and never be able to receive what you need. Don't get me wrong. I have done it 3x a week or more for 26 years, but that is a LONG time to never, not even one time, feel like my husband gave me what I give to him. And it isn't him. I can't do it to myself either.
Everything you mentioned is wonderful news but what’s available for long term couples? Having been with my partner almost exclusively for 20+ years… how do you maintain sexual satisfaction?
Can you please address HBOT and it’s effects on Psycology of sex, and physiology of sex in the context of angiogenesis . For example, having orgasms for males and females in a dive w/100% oxygen would seem to promote more of everything needed to achieve all goals.
Well I'm only happy when my girlfriend is happy. So we play around all we want and then when she is ready she grabs my head and pushes it and says get down there!
12% of women never had an orgasm? My wife admitted that she had never had an orgasm before we got together and that her first was the first time we made love. Of course she didn't tell me this until after we had been together for a few years because she was embarrassed that no previous boyfriend took the time to find out what worked for her. Too many guys only care about themselves were we all should be trying our best to make our partners happy.
Ladies, please let your man know when he is doing things that feel good, better, and best. It's so much more enjoyable for him, too, when he knows that something is more pleasurable.
It's all different after my brain injury, less powerful and the satisfied feeling doesn't last. I wish they'd do some research on us and how to help us, we are left to figure it out on our own.
So relationship satisfaction really is the main thing. This means that casual sex is as always not good for women in the long run or even on the short run. Monogamy for the win.
Great video doc. Really appreciate you spreading the body education here. I keep hearing from guys that they have a lot of trouble giving their partners orgasam. I've been a traveling, single nurse for many many years now and, in my personal & professional opinion, I can confirm that your advice checks out. 😅 🤴 Anatomy & emotions are key, everybody 👍 And she will absolutely love you for it. Dr. Malik speaks the truth! 👏👏
Hi Rena ,I just want to say your videos are brilliant, so honest and down to Earth . I heard a news report that said that women in certain cultures, can't remember if it was moslem or Indian/asian often suffer unnecessarily in the vagina department simply because they are very conservative cultures and don't have many words other than ones that sound very serious and formal to discuss this topic. I think it would be greatly beneficial if you could ask your viewers to come up with comical or fun words that can be used as an alternative to describe the vagina without being vulgar or overtly offensive . A friend of mine visited India recently so i asked how he was getting on with the Punjabi Punnani, that kind of thing , obviously blokes have endless slang to describe their dick/ knob /penis , the handsome brute is my favourite. Many countries in the world are still in the dark ages , places like Afghanistan , parts of Africa so to get some colourful nicknames in circulation could be a catalyst for rapid improvements in women's sexual health world wide. Any help would be much appreciated. Thank you.
For play and listening to how the female reacts and do things that work. Getting into the mind of your partner and learning what turns them on. Like talk or touch and seeing how she reacts and just focus on those always try and talk things out to see what works and don’t work. That’s my advice
Another informative topic Doc!!!! I am constantly taking tip from your topics, they haven't let me down yet!!!! Thanks Doc and have a fantastic weekend!!!!!!❤
Thanks for this info. I have had lots of sexual partners, only one of them that was unable to reach orgasm, that puts her in the 12%. She would actually stop sexual activity if it got close. Its was frustrating for me that we couldnt get her there, but we agreed to not discuss it because it gave her even more anxiety.
@@WyldStallion-bs9oo I would pack up my stuff and leave. Plain and simple. How can you get married, have kids and then suddenly become "Asexual". No. She just decided to cut you off from sex which is completely wrong. You need to leave her.
Dr,. Rena You are an Amazing Lady You are a Very Intelligent and Beautiful Lady. No meaning anything Ugly nor Dirty. You are a Very Brave Lady to attack Topics as You do and have to Educate US. I have NEVER HEARD ANY DOCTOR IN MY LIFE TIME TO BRING TOPICS UP AND DISCUSS THEM AS YOU HAVE AND DO. THANK YOU. YOU SURE HAVE EDUCATE A LOT OF US OLD GUYS , YOUNG MEN, YOUNG GIRLS AND OLDER LADIES. YOU ARE TRULY AMAZING AND WE THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR KNOWLEDGE TO ALL OF US. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. YOUR HUSBAND IS A VERY LUCKY AND BLESSED MAN TO HAVE YOU. ❤❤❤😊😊
I may have missed these points, but 1) Orange County in which state? and 2) what have you found out about breast sex, including how frequently do women enjoy it and how intensely?
🙂👍As a BDSM dom, I can't say I'm surprised by the findings of this study. Submission is already a fantasy that a lot of women (around 60% according to another study). And we all know psychological factors have a huge influence on women in sexual settings. Based on my own experience, some women are already way closer to orgasm BEFORE I've even touched them (!) if they are already living their fantasy. And when you know how to do BDSM correctly (impact play, stimuli play like hot/cold, light pain and psychological domination), then women are way more likely to have a powerful orgasm... and also to remember the experience as one of the most pleasurable they've ever had. It's important to note that the same study I quoted earlier estimates that only about 40% of men describe themselves as being sexually dominant. This creates an imbalance and means that doms have a much easier time finding partners than "vanilla" men. So even men who do not identify as being doms would be well advised to ask about their partner's sexual fantasies and try to incorporate some aspects into their sexual interactions with them. You may not be dominant, but you can still make her feel like she is submissive enough to trigger her pleasure center. And that's all that counts in the end... Have (safe) fun everyone!😊
@michaelcosgrove6054 wtf does your comment even mean ..... especially or correct.... I hope u have a open mind BDSM isn't all hell bent and leather take time to understand and educate yurself properly the person clearly stated thier experience ..
@@NeighborTom I know, I know... you take offense, you are a victim, who would dare criticize your eegocentric view of your extremely small world, yada, yada... something about being struck by lighting... whatever. 😆
@@slavefeet57What study did you get that from? Because to my knowledge, where has only been one done so far (since it's mostly too controversial to be funded still).
which Doctor i need to look for ? i have a penile problem. part of my glans is red ( around the hole and near the foreskin ) and my foreskin has redness and itchines with wounds on it. he wounds are closing but when the itchiness strikes and scratch it, they will open again
Hey good morning Reena Malik how are you I hope you are doing well in your life I have a very serous question actually I am 19 years old male and I am from India and I feel involuntary semen leakage from thr last 2 days whenever I talk with my girl friends without any sexual thought or arousal. Plz give me any solution for this as I am having trouble and I feel uncomfortable and it become a barrier in my daily carricular actvities
So.... saying that patriarchal schemes imposed on women's sexual behavior, attitudes towards sex, and lazy partners hinder women's sexual satisfaction?
Back in my day I used to like high doses of Adderall and about the 8th to 12th time I would get off my orgasms would be insane. They would literally make my teeth chatter. Understand that I am a young man in my 20s and had worked out super intense since 13. I wanted to be a professional bodybuilder. Adderall and MDMA would give me 5 orgasms one right after the other multiples. Nothing beats a healthy body and desire.
Agreed health is very important. Teeth chattering that's rad! Good for you. Haven't tried those Rx before but getting multiples b2b like that definitely make for out of body experiences
I feel like this was a common sense video. "Be nice, talk to each other, be open to new stuff." This sort of info is good if you're a level 1 beginner to life and relationships, but to the vast majority of people, this seems to be unhelpful information in my opinion.
So what you saying in your analysis of the study: it's a biased sample and adds nothing to what we already know. But it does give you a trolling title.
I didn't know that was actually true. I thought that was just something women say sometimes to be mean. I feel....really bad now for thinking that. Im glad thats never been my experience. Idk i just do everything i feel driven to do during sex and the girl always tells me it was great and she always wants to do it again. I actually consider myself pretty reserved about it. I dont think I do anything seemingly wierd or crazy or technical. I think I have a relatively decent understanding of the female genital anatomy to put it technically I guess. 🤷♂️ I dont even know how I got here but I found myself interested 😄
It's a shame that the study used 29-year-olds, who haven't had the same amount of sexual experience as older individuals (particularly men that age, who don't know what to do with a woman's body) and who also probably have a higher degree of depression and anxiety than an older individual, which greatly affects a sexual experience. I can remember all the angst I felt in my 20s.
I like how you make videos on the anatomy and physiology of our sexual organs as well as sexual intercourse to promote healthy and happy experiences As a follow-up to this video could you do a video on multiple orgasms, how common they are, and how to increase the likelihood of having or giving them?
I'm going to be 66. I have done some really fun things to maintain a satisfying sexual experience. However for the first time in my life I'm considering becoming involved with younger men. It's scares me though. Your videos are wonderful.
No offense Doreen but your 66. As a man at 54 I’m in good shape. I run, go to the gym, and ride off road moto. But at my age younger women don’t really notice me as they used too. It’s life. At 66 what age are you looking at? 30’s Gen Z? I just don’t see it unless your young neighbor just wants to get laid. No offense intended
@utahdesertrider1806 Don't apologize, she needs to grow up and live in reality eventually. She should have picked a pony and stuck with it years ago, she has nothing men want, and especially not the sort of men she would even consider partnering with. She can't provide children, she will expect a man who is taller/stronger, well financed etc, the men who can fit these needs can get everything she can offer and a whole lit more in a way younger woman.
