Makes me teary eyed that I am beginning to understand self care after half my life has passed away.. thank you for the beautiful read❤. I could resonate so closely with it..
We cannot offer anything genuinely to another, if we have not taken the time to offer it to ourselves. It's why they say to put your oxygen mask on first on the plane. Otherwise you would die and kill yourself off and be of no good to anyone else. As a dementia care specialist I watch caregivers dying before their infirmed one does, or right after because they did not set their lives up in balance and take time to love on themselves. And if you take on too much, you are never allowing someone else to step up, and said we are enabling them and they will take advantage as long as they can. The more you ever do for another the less they will do. So in any relationship or interaction, make sure you're conscious of the fact that you need to be receiving before you do much giving. No one else can also love you or treat you well if you do not do the same for yourself on a consistent basis❤ because we teach people how to treat us, why should they treat us well if we are not loving respecting and honoring our alone time, our Joys our passions and doing what makes us happy? We will only attract another unhappy/codependent person. The universe can bring in all sorts of amazing things once we choose ourselves first. We are energetic beings above all else, and we have an energy field, when that is scattered externally too much, and we are not replenishing and maintaining our energy field all sorts of low vibrational stuff happens and shows up Physical health is the first thing that will change when we start recognizing our TRUE value and worth because the physical health of our body is a direct reflection of how much we truly and genuinely love ourselves and are aligned in our mind body and spirit.❤ if we are people pleasing and not knowing how to say no politely/firmly and check in with our own wants and needs, that is what's considered a fawning response from childhood trauma and emotional neglect, which most people have suffered with because it's stored in the subconscious and they're not even aware that they're running on those programs. And people will take advantage of you as long as we let them and that especially goes for family members who have manipulated since day one which is how we become those people pleasers in adulthood. When we recognize that love and value and worth is only coming from inside and can never be measured externally not buy another human being.... ever😊.... your entire life will transform, but those around you who don't want to do their inner work and love on themselves will want to continue to control and project and objectify you, project on you etc because that's what they were used to. Never expect that others are like you, especially family. Once we love ourselves, they will get nasty and triangulate and Gaslight and try to say that your selfish but it's actually self-preservation. Typically people Pleasers were surrounded by covert narcissists in the family and that translates into adulthood because we are still running on Old unhealed inner child programs to be accepted or liked or appreciated. Provide that from within, then you can project it externally and share your precious energy with others. It's no different than needing to close borders on a country for a short time so that you can strengthen it first and then truly be successful & beneficial to others when allowing people in. Otherwise everybody becomes weakened and only gets half of what they could have if there's no patience while something gets built up. Just as it takes time to spend time alone and build up the immune system with mother earth, as we were intended to... versus being impatient and getting involved with the corrupt medical system we have, it's similar to training for the olympics..... you must close down for a while and go within and focus. Then you get to share yourself with others. But only as you see fit and that you have determined..... but this time in a healthy balanced conscience way. . There's a reason other countries are more successful and healthier than the usa. Because they take designated vacations, that is important for the body and the immune system. Because they take long naps in the afternoon, or they follow circadian rhythms and listen to their body and what it needs versus being distracted by the external world or other people's needs. If we jump into offer something to another, practice sitting back and allowing things to happen without the need to control or fix or help. Otherwise we disable others and they become trained by us to not do anything. So we in the end, are actually harming them by not controlling our impulses to help. It's actually infantilizing another.. which a lot of parents do to their children so that they're still help us independent because the parent doesn't want to learn how to be healthy themselves and empower the child. I see a lot of that with husbands and wives as well, that codependency and Trauma bonding😢 This was all learned in my 4-5 years of huge spiritual Awakenings and healing from " vulnerable Covert narcissistic" tactics in family, relationships, and the workplace.
It means it's time for your healing because you are ready and your body has been trying to get you to listen to it and care for it and love on it and be grateful for all it does to keep you alive and moving every day without you having to ask it. The body is a reflection of how healthy the inner child is. If you are energetic, sleeping well, with good skin, hydrating yourself, moving your body to some exercise, feeding it fluoride free water and pure foods that are highly nutritious and never processed, you are demonstrating that you love and honor and respect yourself.❤😊 Do what your inner child loves to do, whether it's take a bath, read a book or color, go swimming, get barefooted in nature, build a dollhouse, sew or knit, decorate something, play a sport, sing or dance, that is what will bring you Joy and everything shines from within when you connect with that inner child❤ your life will transform because your energy will shift, it will scare others who don't want to do their work, but that is their Journey that they chose for themselves. Make sure to Blaze your own trail❤
I havent had a spa day in YEARS, ive almost forgotten what a spa is or even the definition of vacation. Ill take your word for it, look forward to enjoying life for a change. thanks
Yesss… it’s like you’ve been reading my mind for the past 3 weeks. Major shift has happened and that “need” is no longer there. All I can say is that it’s a relief !!!
Cross watch. Told my husband to go and find what makes him happy and if he needed to date others, he needed to do that. He keeps looking for love in others. I can't be Scorpio's source of self-love. ❤ If you love them, set them free to find their way. He knows I'm here if and when he chooses.
Hi Ali 👋 Scorpio here ♏ definitely some bumps in the road... waiting and waiting and waiting for progress. Yes... I want to feel that powerful strength and freedom of independence. Thanks ❤️
It really helped a lot, thank you! And I appreciate how openly you can look directly into our souls. My new scorpio is now trying, forcing itself rather to find her inner love while the old scorpio was all about needing others to fill her cup. I slowly start to realize how harmful that was...but the fear of loneliness and abandonment was stronger than me. So that is the fight...
Perhaps self care would resonate. I started taking better care of myself, and I put myself first. Every month, I make time for a facial, massage therapy, chiropractor, pedicure, eliminated sugar, and began "eating clean. Most importantly, it is exercise. when you feel better, things change for the better.
13:10 when you’re talking about “ the old Scorpio in charge of the buttons” a bird in the background flies up from the ground- the phoenix rising stage is here 🐦🔥 🔥 ☺️
