My 29 year old stepdaughter has autism and intellectual disability. I've been working to get her services for 2 years now. She is alone almost all the time and has never had a friend. When she is in public, she is still sometimes bullied, BY ADULTS. I will just keep working to help her and my hope is to have her set up and safe before I pass away.
@xProRJG God bless you too and thank you. I feel so blessed to be the one to help her. Slow but sure in the last few years I’ve been helping her get Indepedent and getting more family on board for when I’m gone. It’s overwhelming sometimes but I can feel it’s God’s plan because I never felt more useful and happy in my life. I’m praying fir you and your sister. Much love to you both.
Please be strong, I'm 27 although I have mild autism without the intellectual part I can understand your frustration with bullying part and hope society becomes more sensitive and understanding of people like us with time. You're doing an amazing job and just by caring you're making her life so much better I never had a lot of friends but just having my mother there did wonders. I'll have you in my prayers miss. Much love and things will get better don't lose faith!
@@durkdiggler4346 Thanks so much and love and prayers to you too! It’s been a few years since I wrote that comment and my beautiful daughter is thriving and learning to be an adult. I’m so fortunate to have her fir a daughter. Many blessings to you and your mother too!!
@@kristintheartist that's awesome for you both, I'm finding my way also going into university now key is to never give up hope like anything in life have an awesome day 💗
Hi Kristintheartist, my name is cesar and i hope in the Lord Jesus Christ all is well with you and your stepdaughter! i made a lot of really serious horrible choice in my life and one of them is surrendering my parental rights to my daughter for which i have repented to God and im in very extreme regret beyond explanation, with Gods help through Christ Who strengthens us through the help of God's Holy Spirit, im currently working on looking for my daughter, she's 29 which is why im writing you about your daughter, my daughter is Jessica Marie Rodriguez born in California to cesar and christina Rodriguez on nov 8 1993, is this her?! Please and thank you so much for your time in reading this and hopefully helping me with your response! May God bless you and your family and keep you all according to His Word in Jesus name, and always remember that Jesus loves you all just like He tells us in His Word!
I was bullied almost every day between 1972 to 1980, my school years were ruined. I forgave the bullies and as I let go of them mentally, they in turn let go of me.
Here in UK, I see a lot of attention given to children with autism/Aspergers; but such support for adults, in my case seems to be lacking. I think the interest to help adults reduces with age. Im 50 and was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome 4 years ago. 50 years alone and lost. I feel broken.
The same is true in the USA. I relate to you. Having learned at a late age in my 20's. The same exact feelings are there. I'm so alone and trapped in crony capitalism. Being kicked off my benefits.
I'm 24 and realised i was on the spectrum a few years ago. I think it's because most mainstream autistic "therapies" or "help" is actually based around training us out of our natural ways of being as a young person so were more "normal". Luckily we avoided that sh*t.
I live in the US and was diagnosed as an adult. I haven't found many organizations that provide supports for people like me. Thank goodness for the employee resource networks at work.
I’ve been autistic all my life, but my parents never knew. I always knew there was something wrong with me because speaking and interacting is hard. I never was diagnosed but I think I am mild. I’m 30 and still haven’t told anyone. Smh hard life.
I know it's been 3 years since you posted this comment, but please don't think something is 'wrong with you', because nothing is wrong. You're equal and very valuable. Please don't let people's discrimination affect your self-esteem ♥
I am 18 and I have a mild case of Autism. When I was five I only had a ten word vocabulary and I had to be held back in preschool for two and a half years. Throughout my elementary school days, the other kids always made fun of me for my age. They keep saying that I failed a grade level and that I am just plain stupid. These days, I prove them wrong. I have more smarts about computers and science then almost everyone in my class. I have enough smarts to be an honors student. Any person who has Autism can go through their own tough times, but that doesn't mean we are that much different than anyone else. We should have the same rights as anyone else.
Such an inspiration your words are to me. My 5 year old son has mild autism as well. He doesn’t know how to play or interact well with other children and it hurts me as a father but I made a promise to him that no matter what I will always be there for him to support him, teach him and guide him, he will never be alone for as long as I live. I made this promise to him. I hope one day I see my son write a post, like yours, in his own words and that I could read it and make me proud of what my son has achieved in his life. I wish you all the best!
It's not job market discrimination. The market demands performance! It's that once these people get to their jobs normal people "don't like them". Usually these people are disliked during the hiring process, but if they are high functioning, or there are unequal hiring policies, they may find themselves at work. And they may find themselves fired at the employees discretion and homeless several months later. And HR can claim that the person falsely represented themselves at the interview and that they were in the right.
Exactly right. It isn't tailormade for adults with autism. College is all fine and good, but the real world shuts us out, they think we're only worthy of part time jobs and nothing better.
I discovered I am autistic at the age of 52, and the relief was huge. Suddenly my whole life made sense, I knew it wasn't my fault. I live alone, I sleep alone and I can live with that. I used to crave love from women, but couldn't communicate with them, and so I gave up and accepted that I will live alone for life. I am not sad about this
We all don't look like we have a disability some of us pass off fairly well. Worst yet when people do find out there is something wrong with you it must be a lie
I resound with this a lot. I have TBI, a traumatic brain injury. It's an invisible disability and I feel like nobody believes how I suffer, even the ones who were there with me during the 2 month coma after the car accident. Many of the symptoms are similar to aspergers and autism, such as sensory overload , inability to focus, etc. I hope more awareness is spread about invisible disabilities because just because you can't see them, doesn't mean they don't affect us greatly :(
People have a very difficult time accepting me as autistic when they didn't know me as a child and do not see me when I go through meltdown, shut down, regression, etc. They just assume this has always been me, the person they see able to be out and about and conversating and interacting with others, if but a little strange. It is strange to them, to see us go through these things. I've been hospitalized many times because people thought I was going through a mental breakdown.
The trouble is that they are going to be Adults, not grown children, and they are going to develop a voice and needs and they don't need to be shamed, they need to be welcomed and loved!
Audrianne Giroud 1) I've only just realized that Autistic is the only group description that's ever fit me (prior to learning more about it I knew I was different & had never read a description of any group, I should be a part of, that described me) 2) I was lucky enough to have a mom that understands me in a lot of ways and helped me learn ways around my deficits 3) I literally only learned about a month ago that when people talk about making eye-contact being important, they mean more than quick glances every now & then as well as scanning the face (not sure what that means but recently heard it)...Im 36yrs old now. 4) My point is: I agree with you! Mostly. I think its important for both, people like us and people like you, to work on understanding each other and then learning to compromise. For instance, I make eye-contact in very quick glances to let ppl know I'm listening. People have complained about it my whole life but I never understood why until now. Even now though, IMO, people need to learn to be satisfied with glances bc it was hard enough to learn to do/get in the habit of doing that & trying to maintain eye-contact causes me distress, disquiet & discomfort.
It's good to see a film where the problems I face as an autistic person are understood and supported. Well done to the film makers and the workers and family involved for their sensitive attitude to our challenges.
I am heartbroken for all of you and all who suffer for whatever reason! Everyone has value! Different isn't bad , and oftentimes it's most special ! People can be so cruel and thoughtless, and I feel they are the ones with a socialization problem ! I understand isolating oneself ...for self preservation..... but do not let ass hats do that you! They are beneath you! Do what feels right for you ! Love and hope to you all ! Rachel Usa
Bullying feels like naturalized in this video, as if it was the sole responsibility of the target to learn the necessary social skills to prevent it. Bullying and enabling bullying should be regarded as crimes against humanity because that is what they are. Bullies should have criminal liability for their inhumane behavior.
I'm 40 with depression and autistic. I work but struggle with finances. Family doesn't think I'm autistic. I pray for me and their acceptance. Office Depot is a good company. I would like a company where I can use my coding and IT skills.
It's still very difficult for most adults who have autism, especially for those who were diagnosed later in life, or who were never diagnosed but are suspected of having it. As one who has a mild form, I can say that 1. Needed services are just not available. 2. As long as we stim, elope, have meltdowns and obcess, we'll never be accepted by "normal" society. 3. Whenever we display any talent (math, music, art, etc.), we're complimented, but it's more like that that's given to trained animals or side show freaks!
I’m from the UK and I ‘ ve just been diagnosed with Autism . I’m now 72 years old I’m considering legal action against the organisations that failed to spot this problem years ago for the trouble that the department of social security caused me over the years. When apparently this condition is easy to spot.
The diagnosis rate is increasing because of increased awareness, better diagnostic tools, and parents who know what to look for. And because girls aren't being over looked as much. No one is putting chemicals in the water, and vaccines do not cause autism.
Speaking from someone who's in his mid twenties, life can be a struggle and I have limited access to things in life such as communication, travelling, employment and living independently. What people don't understand is that they assume they know what autism is, but as soon as I act differently, they'd think I'm acting strange or just being socially awkward. I can't help that. If they really had the same condition as I have, they'd certainly know how being wired differently can make you feel like an outcast to everyone else.
I'm 26 years old with mild high functioning autism it can be difficult mostley because people treat you like your different and think your not as smart as them just because your less social then they where your actually 4 times more intelligent
you know what I discovered about this film I'm watching is lack of empathy I think with the people with on disabilities the caregivers the job coaches the professionals the people with Autism just want to get along in life and one of the life the best they can I wish there was actually better understanding see science really hasn't caught up with that and I wish it had you know but I've always wanted to work with people with disabilities myself but it's difficult I understand not everyone can do it not everybody has the willpower and everybody has an understanding in the end some people get frustrated very easily that's my two cents I just wanted to say what I wanted to say so bye
There is different types of intelligence...let me ask you a serious question...do you have empathy for humans? Do you see humans and toasters as the same?
I know how yo feel. I've been called stupid by a lot of people especially my family members; well at least I know I have autism and receive support in my education.
I have described how social expectations are for me as an autistic person with the following analogy: This Friday you will take a calculus test. What, teach you the material? NO I won't teach you the calculus that is on the test. Just figure it out as you are doing it. Does this sound reasonable to anyone? Of course not. Yes, some people can just pick up math after a bit of practice without anyone teaching them. But that is not remotely common. For most this would be an impossible task to succeed at.
I got diagnosed in 2020 at 29 but i still haven't received help. My case worker is a useless young woman who sits on her hands cause these social workers won't do anything without health insurance. So i just sit at home all day in my room alone and frustrated.
When I graduated high school I was exhausted. I was told " you're smart, there's a college over there, go there." I did that. Now I'm thirty and I haven't had a real reason to live for about twenty years. I'm not sure what is going on and I'm very scared.
Here's a secret, a rarely admitted truth: There's not a reason to live. You have to create your own. Get into something that YOU like, don't be afraid to obsess, and ignore anyone who gives you shit for doing so. Experience that thing every day, and challenge yourself with it a little bit.
i am 28 with hf autism but as a child i was misdiagnosed with adhd so i did not get the help i needed until i was 26 and got properly diagnosed. i was also bullied in school. i wonder if people will ever understand hf autism
I work/worked alongside people who are on the spectrum and they're the most honest and, (yes sometimes "blunt"), people I've ever met. Some of the funniest people I've met too. One thing I've noticed is that none of them see race or age, they just see people as people.
Here's the issue I have with the overall "diagnosis" of mental retardation, if someone is nonverbal and has very little fine motor control, how do doctors KNOW what is going on in their head. I am an adult autist, I was nearly completely nonverbal until the age of 4, and then spoke very little until adulthood. I spoke just enough they knew I was, "all there." They tried putting me in special education, but couldn't because when they tested my IQ at 11 years old it was 180. Guess what, doctors have no way of testing to know for sure of a nonverbal autist with movement issues is MENTALLY handicapped. No one questioned whether Steven Hawking was still "all there" when he lost the ability to communicate verbally, because he could still type. No one questions deaf individuals who can sign. The analogy I use when I'm going through a shut down or regression is : the lights are on, someone is home, they just can't open to the door and talk about the weather. Stop labeling someone's intellectual ability on their ability to communicate.
Find a spot in your adult life I not that old like most you but I do respect all that you guys kick it that far to survive And made a way for new generation autism to living a normal human Life in modern city s
she makes seem like people with autism are faced with tragedy, but they shouldn't be pityed or treated like they are stupid. Videos like these are why people have a stigma against people with autism.
28:30 An angel. A perfect analogy. I've described it as recieving the advice "you'll never catch any fish if you sit in your room". So I walk down to the lake and stare at the water for nine hours. I come home frustrated and say, "I went to the lake and didn't catch anything!?" And your friend says; "I don't know what to tell you man.." but he didn't go with you. He didn't know you didn't have a rod or a reel...... So you are terrified and he is angry. That's how my life is. My "friends" don't actually see me in real life. They just assume I'm ok and then make out with their girlfriend.
California 's Governor Jerry Brown signed an Act last January 1 that legalized the construction of Accessory Dwelling Units behind or attached to the primary home on a lot. Here in the Los Angeles area affordable housing is very difficult to impossible to find, and this solution will be helpful to many. Their offspring could have a safe and private home, near to the family home, and perhaps a roommate that is not disabled who could be employed for a rent discount.
my greatest challenge is to show how kind and generous ; greatest way to tell people how a different person live my spelling isn't understand and spelling am dyslexic and a aspie [ p.s. that's how it spell]
WOW, great theory of how to treat people on the spectrum @ 15:44, YES!!!!!- finally someone gets it :-))))), YOU need to see how we can do the job in our way, and make a job which fits US, not the other way around.( have Autism myself), and great program, nice to see the "DIGNITY" put back into caring for people, and the respect of who people are, and allowing for their differences.
Having a family isn't a right. You can't in the same breath argue for family rights and at the same time be unconcerned with people who don't have families.
Illinois needs more resources for adults and kids who arr on the spectrum. Unfortunately there isnt and the kids who are on the spectrum are treated like they are neurotypicals and they dont really do well( some).
Some of this I don't agree with. I have Asperger's Autism and I believe that AUTISM ITSELF IS THE WORD CAPABILITY! Our opportunities shouldn't stop us just because of Autism itself. ❤️💯
EXACALLY like sheryl People look at me and just assume i,m being a wanker when in fact i,m sensory overloaded and having a meltdown. I am verbal Autistic and my comfort is Jeff Waynes War Of The Worlds I know the whole script and Star Wars General Grievous and I LOVE gaming veiw my channel for gaming footage. My favorate game is Horizon Zero Dawn. I live in UK and I am in supported living with Autism initiaves UK. Some staff and ONE of the managers are complete JERKS they don,t acknowlage my Autism cos i,m verbal just like poor Sheryl
honestly, as a young woman with Aspergers the idea of having children, who would probably be Aspies too, terrifies me. Sometimes i get exhausted because of simple, small things, like a dog barking or talking to a stranger for 10 minutes. I can't even imagine being responsible for another person when I can't deal with my own problems.
This is exactly how I reasoned all through my life, regarding having children. The smaller things of life exhaust me way too much; so the thought of having a child too, wow. Im 50 now, and still being wound up by a dog barking outide right now lol. I need lots of calm, peace and quiet. Difficult in such a busy world.
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Jesus Christ cab heal any disorder and disease. Matthew chapter 19 verse 26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them, "With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible. "
As a person in the UK who is autistic, and knowing plenty of research has been done on autism, I can say it has no bloody thing to do with GMO products. Your wording suggests you assume that everywhere is like the US, or that only the US has such a level of autistic people, or that being literally wired differently is somehow caused by something as simple as eating a product that hasn’t even been proven to definitely have negative effects. Being on some sort of organic-only diet and staying away from everything unnatural isn’t going to “cure” autism and doesn’t need to. Some people can’t even afford or handle such a lifestyle.
We all don't look like we have a disability some of us pass off fairly well. Worst yet when people do find out there is something wrong with you it must be a lie
I was never brought up with not getting tested and I go through days where I shut down and don't make eye contact and i hit my self in my head and have trouble with loud noise and crying for no reason is there any info you can give me
There is no need for concern in the rising of autism diagnoses. The reason diagnosis has increased is because awareness is spreading, leading more parents to realize something is "up" with their child, and going to a specialist to see what the issue is. Autism is not a disease, so please don't make it sound like it is. :(
People forget Autistic Children do become Adults! New York is the worst state, there is nothing for an Adult who has Autism! It drives me nuts that I used to live in NY but live in PA now. This state tries so hard to help people with Autism; I just wished New York would work harder for them as well. My nephew has Asperberger Syndrome with OCD....there's no one to work with him and it breaks me heart!
My childhood friend seemed to have gotten all her autistic related services but she was diagnosed when she was 11. I find that getting services depends on the severity of the condition and how early you get diagnosed. I was diagnosed at 19 so I'd already aged out of the system. I am also from NY :p
There is a lot of focus in this video on the need for programs and legislation to help autistic adults. I want to be careful with how I say this, but... a lot of adults with autism do not want a hand-out. Just a hand-up. Autistic people are always disabled in the sense that they do think or function like those who are not autistic. However, as briefly touched on in this video, autistics are people who have much to offer despite their difficulties and can be a great asset in the job market IF we can find a place to fit. At work, my coworkers without autism are sometimes at a disadvantage which can lead to jealously and lack of understanding... Admittedly, I'm always at a disadvantage because this world is not set up for those who have autism. So, on one hand, I would welcome anything that would bring more understanding. However, on the other, I would not want to lose my independence or freedoms by someone trying to "help" me. Yes, paying a light bill can be more difficult for me than someone without autism, but that doesn't mean that I want "help" by someone taking over. Also, particularly based on reading some of the comments, to be clear, everyone is NOT on the autism spectrum. It is true that anyone can get frustrated, have sensory difficulties, and question if he or she said or did the correct thing socially. However, these things DO NOT make someone autistic. They make someone human. The symptoms of autism are more pronounced than the norms for people who are not autistic. Being autistic affects how the brain develops. Autism is diagnosed based on someone's symptoms which can very often be debilitating even for those who are considered "high-functioning." If everyone had autism, the world would be a VERY different place.
I desperately want to have a job, I’ve done tons of work experience but they just won’t hire me, it’s frustrating because I can do just as well as others , even better, but I will just be overlooked and not be given a chance. I had a job for two days in a small convince store one time and was told, they don’t have the hours for me so they had to let me go, but someone else was hired the next week and another experience I had was a job for 3 weeks and I was terribly bullied by the owner, until she fired me because I couldn’t understand what she wanted, it was the most horrible experience of my life. I have a lot of anger when it comes rejection because I try so hard
No all are disabled, many are capable but has a mild speech delay, anxiety or a different perception on how to socialize and put up with the crap of shitty people at work.
I had vocational training when I was still in high school & it was the best thing that could have happened. It gave my life direction I never would have had. I feel especially lucky since no one looked for Autism when I grew up.
So true about life skills being more valuable than academics for autistic people, unfortunately autistic people often are just good at the knowledge thus masking the disability in school
@@killtheautistic3324 you are more worthless for being such a lifeless internet troll if theres nothing you can do to help why not just shut the fck up and mind your own business
Another Question: If you are an adult in your 30's with autism but also have OCD...the cleanliness kind and live with your parents who do everything for you & who will be 70 and 68 this year--I'd love to know how you believe you will be able to cope when they are no longer around? I am asking this question for a family member. I worry so for my sister & brother in law who are in this position. My nephew has the highest form of Autism but is unable to live with other adults due to his OCD mainly.....I believe his Autism wouldn't keep him from being able to do this on it's own. I'd really love to hear from people who are in this same or similar position! Thanks Everyone, you've been so kind in replying!
