i always hold the girls hand for a while and talk about something then out of nowhere asking her "hey why are u grabbing my hand so long?" with a cockey smile
That is known as the bosses handshake because it is usually used by upper management with lower management and hourly employees. The executive uses both hands to cover the subordinate's hand, so the subordinate cannot move the hand until the executive allows it. You can modify this handshake into a more caring and empathetic handshake. During a regular handshake use your free hand to pat the hand of the other person's hand several times while touching the other person's hand for a couple of seconds each time. The other person's hand is open and can be released at anytime. So no control. This handshake is mostly used during emotional events such as funerals, weddings , family reunions etc Or during emotional visits with someone who is sad or depressed inorder to show support and/ or empathy for that person. Peace.
No no no no no no no no no. Just no. This is NOT how to shake a girls hand. Lingered handshakes are creepy as hell! When a guy lingers like that most girls are probably thinking that it feels restrictive, dominating, imposing and slightly clammy.
Sorta, but not quite. You can't hold it forever, or she'll react really badly. Just a enough longer that she notices, being sure to release as soon as she indicates that she wants to. And, whatever you do, don't focus on that. Keep the conversation going. And, even then, be prepared for her to have already decided she doesn't feel that way about you and thus not like it.
Suthanthiran94 All right. So, originally I had told myself that I would play it cool and not bother to reply to such a disrespectful and obviously not very lived-in comment, but seeing as there's two of you now, I'll try and explain to you a few basics about women. I assume you already know that the #1 hormone responsible for sex drive is testosterone. Now you guys produce around 6 to 8mg of it daily, compared to about 0.5mg for us women. We do have a libido too, but it's fluctuent and generally considerably lower than yours.. which amounts to us typically being a lot more choosy when it comes to assessing a potential sex partner. If men in general need good reasons NOT to sleep with a woman if the opportunity presents itself, women usually need good reasons to ''open up'' (pun intended) to potential suitors. Think of us like houses. All houses have doors. Does that mean that anyone can come and go as they please? Contrary to what the both of you seem to like to illusion yourselves into thinking, the answer is no. Doors, most of time, as you may have noticed taking walks in your neighbourhood, are closed and locked.. sometimes even relying to more than one bolt. Same for us really. Now if you are used to the ''open house'' sort of women, sure there are quite of few of those too, but it's another category completely.. and there's not much pride to be had for getting yourself into one. Many have seen this cushiony decor before you, and many more will after you leave. Try and go knock on a locked door and see if it opens for you. The very fact that you would leave a comment suggesting that a majority of women would let the first d**k (again, pun intended) that comes around in tells me that this is the sort of women that YOU are used to hanging out with, which of course is your issue. As long as you consider women as walking vaginas that do nothing but hunger for the first available male to fill them.. well that's very likely the restricted crowd you'll continue to attract. To sum it up: Vaginas want d***s; women want men. A man being a whole lot more than his sexual equipment (unless he deliberately reduces himself to that, in which case he gets called accordingly), a woman will first need to assess him a lot more thoroughly than with a mere handshake for him to earn his bed-sharing pass. So again, if my doorbell rang and I peeped through the judas to see this guy at the door, I would tip-toe very carefully away from the door and pretend I am absolutely, definitely, very much not there.
Good points, this is very much dependent on ones culture. And yes, I think one should go around and test it in the society he lives in. I also think that, if done in the right way, it could work on anyone.
I feel like an idiot because a girl did this to me in high school and she was the one of the popular ones and I kinda knew she was up to something but really never thought of it this way
To a degree, yes. I still hear it from my fiancee (7 1/2 years together) that as soon as I introduced myself to her she knew she wanted to be around me - she mentioned the how I held her hand and how confident I was. A handshake means a lot! Even for me as a guy, I pay attention to a woman's handshake by her grip, the softness of her hand, and how quickly she pulls her hand away.
Wow, I guess you're right! I thought I was just making a polite comment on preserving one's culture and heritage to that Indian gentleman who bashed on his own people in favour of Whites (which was actually alright), but no! Turns out it was pure racism on my part! Moreover, there was an occult private 'reason' I was being so racist and you discovered it: I wasn't loved as a child. Now I'm cured of my subjacent, underlying racism! You are so wise and I don't know how to thank you, Dr. Chris!
better yet, just be yourself. If you want to shake the hand hard and fast just flippin' do it. If the girl doesn't like you for who you are, go shake someone else's hand.
Well, I don't think anyone is claiming a handshake will lead straight to marriage. But a good handshake can make a positive impression that can lead to dates where you get to know each other and possibly lead to a committed relationship with each other.
Actually it depends. I can say from experience that the kissing the hand way of introducing yourself is in the women mind associated with old times(early 1900's), meaning nowadays most of them think is a creepy old guy way. I did a backpack in europe and only a few countries found it sexy and inovative. So before trying it out, I would definetly do some testing and even asking women that you gained trust what is their sincere opinion about it
When you first meet a woman in a grocery store, you're supposed to lick your lips as you shake her hand and let it linger. This will drive any woman wild.
Good point. Have you seen the guys from RSD? I call that the Shock troopers because they can jump through the stages of the interaction really quick and go for the kiss even in seconds (and it works). But that's just one way of picking up girls, the other is going through the whole interaction, to escalate in a subtle way. Note: stages of the interactions refers to the Tao of Badass if you know about it.
+Eduard Noack-Lundberg Pretty much spot on! Doing any "seduction" method without any self confidence will be creepy. The right step to go: Bluid self confidence firts, then move on to "seduction techniques". (but you won't have to, since the confidence will be enough)
nope its just that he has an accept, and if you've seen Russell Peter's talking about Indians picking up girls in clubs you'll get why I think its so rare.
Eh. I'm skeptical. How many women who have been married for 10 years or more remember their first handshake with their husband? Do they say, "I knew I wanted to marry him because of his handshake."
