Self-Compassion with Dr Kristin Neff 

Wow so sorry to hear u treating yourself like this.. hope things changed for you when u realized last year that u were talking to yourself this way....with much love 💖💝🕊🕊🙏🏿

I wish you well.

May all be well for you and may you have found light after the dark.💛

I hope you are doing better now. You deserve kindness and respect.

be kind to yourself is key.. i understand how you feel about all that.. there's a channel called "Potential Techniques" that i do to talk about things i find help to get through tough times..i hope it can be helpful to people as it's just me talking about things i found help me to get through crisis and depression and heal.. I'm not perfect or "fixed" but when i find things that are useful to get through the tough moments i talk about what helps and what is good to avoid.. i hope it can be useful to people as I'm doing it in case it can help someone get through a really tough time (i don't mean any disrespect to the channel i am writing this on, i just want to try to help the person who wrote the original comment or anyone who is feeling life is tough right now so i hope you don't mind me saying about this) but be kind to yourself, and talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend you really care about when you feel upset or down.. and try to think of and find even small nice or good things you would like to build up and try to do even small steps to build up nice things in your moments (and the more we do even small nice or good things that we would like to build up that helps build up how we feel through time and helps us get through the tough days when we feel things are tough) i really hope things feel much better for you (and for anyone who ever reads this who is feeling things are tough) really soon Best wishes from Rolland in Scotland

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that is so true! .. i hope life will be really good for you and for anyone who ever reads this!

Your welcome kid

Question is? 😊

Ya what’s the question you’ve been asking yourself

I just left you

I think she going off of in a normal situation a person would be kind to their friends, she's not talking about those toxic people who have issues and mistreat their friends. But, I do get what you are saying which is very true

I am only guessing but I imagine those with the least self compassion are the most compassionate to others...in relation to the narcissists u mention...I think they probably are overly self compassionate to the point of true narcissistic self adoration....just saying!.....I do recognise your valid point tho...we ALL (even narcissists) need to learn self compassion...I suppose at the deep core of narcissism is self loathing....but I don't know this....

@@basketballfan5763 I think that people who are Narcissistic are more in denial of the self, than self-compassionate. Taking an honest assessment of themselves is far too painful so their self-assessment is based on the false-self and so it is shallow or inauthentic.

Mia Masters what site if you still have it? 😊

@@taratbird might have been Palouse Mindfulness, most meditations are led by Dave Potter (who has a very soothing voice) but there is one on there by Kristen Neff which is how I came to find this video :)

Which book title? 😊 Gentle answer

Self Compassion by Kristin Neff

Rebt?

Rational emotive behavior therapy

You are not worthless or useless. You are going through a hard time now, but better times will come.

Why would that matter?

Right?! So unrelated. Just like that other comment that talked about Buddha and Buddhism. Some people go around looking to only push their own agenda and brainwash. It's kind of sad, that some are so stuck in the same religious brain chatter and will never ever open their mind to truly revolutionary psychological breakthroughs that can be incredibly healing and helpful to humanity.

Rachel Laura I wasn’t thinking about that all and now I will not be able to listen to this without hearing every sticky mouth noise 😂

She might have a slight lisp and can't help it so please be kind when you comment, you don't know if it's something that could upset someone

Grab her book then!

OMG how petty obviously a very delicate being god bless you , peace and love

Rach I do not hear any noises. Compare to what she is talking about. That little noise you may hear is so unimportant..

Now, you imagine that someone did. How do you react? How would you want to react?

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I take a page out of Hitchens who said "whenever people ask me if I believe in free will I say "I have no choice" That helps me understand even if free will is bs which it probably is bs, you have no choice but to exist as if it does, therefore it's okay to pretend and keep the language that it does because if you don't whether or not you're free lead doing it or not you will probably face a lot of psychological turmoil so it's okay to indulge in a certain degree of fantasy to keep yourself from kind of losing it as long as the line is drawn like I don't believe in religion or God but I can believe that somebody that I care about is thinking about me as a coping mechanism and that's kind of why you have to teach coping mechanisms to people instead of just learning them on your own I find no fault would someone adults hanging a fantasy before bed of having a partner nearby if they're alone and you can extend that to as dirty as you wanted to go or as innocent or somewhere in between depending on what requirements you have in the moment of struggling that's sort of what I'm doing right now cuz I've only slept a couple hours in the past few days so I'm willing or my brain is willing to employ whatever tactical needs to to get myself to calm down so I went to read it and I found this girl's name and I like her voice as she comes down but I also like what she saying even though I prefer to have a girl that care about talk to me she's busy but she wouldn't be mad if I was listening to someone else because she understands what it's like to feel scared but I'm totally with you I read Robert sapolsky and watch the human behavioral Biology lecture and Free Will is pretty much an obsolete scientific idea more of a philosophical one really because of biology psychology sociology and environmental interaction all making you who you are and what you do how you feel but as long as you're aware that it's okay I have fantasy of free will that is what self-compassion is in this context you may not be able to do it but if I tell you you may be able to understand it and it might get into your head and help you with a behavioral problem sorry if I'm explaining this in a non-scientific way but I want you to know that I agree with you and the majority of the neuroscientific community self-compassion part is allowing yourself like fancy about human nature in order to maintain a degree of Sanity it's sort of like stoicism for pragmatism doing what you have to do even if you're not doing it that's why I'm introducing the idea just in case on the off-chance that you are suffering I'm putting this idea in your head so that you may feel better about what's going on as long as the fantasy isn't affecting anyone else and you can draw the line it's pretty much justifiable so yes in a technical sense we don't have any responsibility for what we do but we must engage in the fantasy that we do to remain in the illusion of power order to maintain our sanity and in order to avoid sinking into the gray matter during times which we don't want to and part of this explanation is me using some of what she said without my free will very interesting way that people get information and learn how to cope with things things I'm just starting because I've had enough so my behavior is altering a little bit in order to accommodate that and maintain homeostatic balance

We do have responsibility what we do with our hurt. It is not our fault others have acted in bad faith or harmed us. But it is our responsibility to take care of our pain and heal. It is also on us how we treat others, and we should not harm others. Think about it. You would wish people who hurt you to take accountability for their mistakes and acknowledge what they have done and behave better. Many times they won't but also people will eventually leave them cause they are not nice person to have as friend or more.

And that is why you are asleep. Wake up.

Not as much of a waste of time as it is to have the misfortune v of being subjected to seeing you trolling and spewing your hate and anger at someone who's only talking about being loving with yourself and others. Good god you must really dislike yourself to be so nasty for absolutely no particular reason, in this context. Wow 😳