I feel what busclown was saying, I've never thought of it like that, or witnessed it, so that gives me something else to be aware of. I have a lot of friends in the community that felt safe with me to be transparent. My cousin said, "I told you cause I know you don't gaf as long as everything being put down is real." And another that felt safe with me because she felt I saw ppl in their humanity instead of a box covered in labels. ". I am a woman ( and no I don't like being called cis, because I don't need another descriptive label and I didn't ask for nor approve of 1). Anyhoo, I have a particular set of friends that are in a triad and explained to me being bears. Ok cool beans, let's rock. I supported them. My man was extra protective of anyone giving side eye or statements because these men and us rock frfr, so we got each other's backs heavy bag. Especially with my father because he was of a certain mindset that was like omh go setdown! What I (speaking for myself) encountered was the opposite of busclown. I went to all events, I connected ppl that could help each other, and I sat in spaces that were comfortable to them. No skin off my back, good ppl are good ppl period to me. We went to a club they wanted, I was charged admission, they weren't, when I got the rounds my prices were more than double. I didn't flip out, I just pulled them to the side. Now while they agreed I was being mistreated by their community, they didn't speak up or stand up for me. I was the accessory, and I was validation. I was proven support. After we had a conversation about how my man stood up for them and about got arrested when we were in an area where ppl were a bit threatening towards them, but they didn't have that same energy for me when you're witnessing me being treated differently and the comments and stares, while I'm here in support of y'all. My man never took offense to being told he had "a poochie booty", I never took offense at the obsession with my breasts, they are kinda nice, so I get it, hell I like cute features on all ppl as well. The next huge event we went to I was not only the only woman, but the only straight woman. A bear party. No worries to me. Food, drinks, and music, boom we gon have fun, plus it was a onesie party. I have never in my life felt the way I felt, been spoken to, or had stereotypical personality traits assumed upon me, as that day. I kept it g, but it made me feel they were using me the same way busdown says he felt used. So while it's really easy to feel like a victim when around straight ppl, be mindful of what happens to your straight friends when they're in your circles supporting you entirely. Thanks for letting me share my thoughts. I love this show. I support this cast of individuals sharing their lives and experiences, having hard conversations instead of like those other shows promoting intoxicated public fights n messiness that validate negative perceptions. Hugs and love all across the board. 10's
What Busclown said is true I've seen some women treat gay men like an accessory and as soon as the fall out they insult them and start slinging homophobic slurs so I totally understand his feelings. I hope he eventually meets other women outside of Shontica that dont do no mess like that to him because there are women out there that will genuinely appreciate the friendship. Brandon I just love your accent, great episode the edits were not that bad....wow now I'm hearing the opposite feeling from JT that so interesting hearing the similar dynamic between JT and Busclown
Chauncey is always back peddling. He NEVER remembers what he said or did to ANYONE. How you don’t know or remember hitting your Own sister. Or remember talking mess about Blaq. So glad that Rodney hasn’t been on. Luv everyone else.
As a straight woman who had gay male friends I can understand Busclown feelings. I always had to defend my friend against my boyfriend because they thought that we were intimate even though they were gay. My boyfriend used to say my friend had a penis and I would say how it wasn't like that but they refused to hear it.
WOO WEE DOGGIES!! I actually learned something from Shontika & Busclown’s convo and Enriqué & Miss JT’s convo…basically terminology and what certain words meant. I’m hear to learn y’all. It also appears that spoon is in that pot stirring. Who said this/that? I totally agreed with Blaq when he said to LET IT GO. Next time don’t say sh_t. You put it out there expect the good, bad, ugly and/or indifference. I get Chauncey being upset but confront the people he spoke on (at the gun range). I found it very disrespectful of him speaking on Tony like he did. He’s a grown man now so does Chauncey know how to approach Tony? Tony gave fair warning which I hope everyone heeded.
I know how to approach ppl. I wasnt talking about Tony at the gun range I was asked what happened and I simply explained, a joke was made and I laughed.
I’m really feeling this season! Enrique is just a class act, love him down❤. Busclown, I mess with you for real. Always your true authentic self & I love it. That “hug” with you & Shontica had me rolling 😂. I hope you let your guard down just a litttle bit because you really do give off a loveable vibe💯. Speaking of Shontica, you look really beautiful, especially in the confessional 🌹. Chauncey, you cute, however, I feel like I’m hearing a lot of double talk. I’m checking you out 👀. De’Lon is just pretty! The look in the confessional with the beard was everything🔥. Liam, you fine, you know it 😉. I’m loving these t-shirts with the play on words that you’re rocking. Who makes them??? Tony, you’re funny & I like you. Try not to look directly into the camera 👍. Blaq, with all of your bigsexyblackness, you take risks with this hair. Sometimes it pays off, sometimes it doesn’t 😳. Miss JT, I honestly thought you were low key messy, this episode helped me understand more of who you are 👏👏👏👏. London, I wanna like you but I feel like I don’t know enough about you ⁉ Terrance wasn’t in this episode but he’s one of my faves & what happened to Rodney? Keep up the good work Pop-Up Productions ‼
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I totally get what Busclown was saying, that's why the female friends that I do have are all white. And maybe y'all should stop referring to it as " a lifestyle choice"
@@sisterlockmo he may or may not have a legit storyline. But he's definitely in the mix throughout the entire season. The fact that he's in a lot of the drama made him a prominent figure amongst the cast.
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