I've definitely had my share of difficult bosses... I've had to be really firm and stand my ground, instead of caving out of fear. It really helped to recognize that many of their unpleasant behaviors actually come from their deep anxiety.
thanks for recommending that article. Having a poor relationship with your boss correlating with increased risk of heart attacks makes a lot of sense, but its always great to see data
I was with you until "enforce boundary if broken"... that's where I'm most challenged. I've grown in stating boundaries but I over-empathize with people and don't enforce my boundaries. So then the reality is I don't in fact have them. It's like a parent who states a rule and punishment but never follows through. The kids are gonna learn they don't have to obey. Thank you for this reminder :)
Yeah... you're right that that's the toughest part because you may not always have that energy to do it. One of the best ways is address that is having the awareness that this is short-term discomfort for long-term gain.
Super helpful and practical tips, thank you! So many emotions come up for me, fear of losing my job, fear of conflict/disrespecting my boss, a strong desire to prove my worth at a new job, that boundaries I have learned to set in my personal life feel useless in this area. Luckily my boss is somewhat aware of her issues (she’s lost other employees from this behavior) and my coworkers and her peers are also always openly joking about her being first and last at the office. So I don’t feel so alone in my perspective. But I still feel myself slipping into people pleasing tendencies so this direct and concise content was just what I needed to feel in control again.
I was just pushed out of a job by an employer because I got too personal and didn't set boundaries. I shared too much with a troublemaker. Lesson learned: I have to set boundaries with employers next time: personal has to be separate from professional.
So many can benefit from setting healthy boundaries in the workplace. Creating balance is key to productivity and moving in your job with inspiration and purpose. Great video!
Horror stories abound for that! I love Simon Sinek's infinite game mindset and how people get caught up in the finite game at the detriment of team morale.
Never thought about that. I was too intimidated starting in a new job to think about 'managing' my manager. What's a book you would recommend that goes deeper into the topic?
Honestly, I don't know a specific book on this but I did a quick search on Amazon and there are several that are pretty highly reviewed so might be worth it to check those out.
dude, you are talking way too fast for such a highly emotional issue. and there's no example. it's very intimating to stand up to an authority figure, for women, new employees, etc. I just started glazing over.
Great tips - I especially like the concept of creating boundary statements. As long as your manager honours it then it can work really well as it provides clarity and sets expectations.
