Last Story: as scary as it is, I think it's time for OP to fall on their sword and recognize that they won't be friends with their classmate anymore. But, keep in mind, the husband probably has done this before. Nobody is that brazen their first time. I would bet money there are others he's pursuing, maybe even at the same time he was talking to OP.
@@saekubo3795 exactly, my daughter is only 1.5 and we’ve always taught her to be kind and gentle to our animals and all animals and people. She hugs and kisses our cat and dog and on the very rare occasion that she does to hit them or is being too rough we immediately stop her and tell her she needs to be kind and that we don’t hit. It’s really not rocket science.
Morgan have to say I LOVE that saying, “Women are not rehabilitation centres for men”. I am 51 and that was such an epiphany. Oh yeah where did you get your blanket, I love it! ❤
Story 5: You have to live with your guilt. You're a shitty friend as you cheated with her friend's partner. You deserve that guilt as you crossed the line by texting her husband. That is an emotional affair. You knew you did wrong the moment you started texting him. You are NOT her friend. The two of you are just in the same course. If you don't tell her everything that happened and confess to your portion, then you need to distant yourself from her and never see her husband again. Be a better person.
Last story: I'm with Morgan. You (OP) didn't do anything wrong until you started texting the husband. He is the worst, from start to finish. Whether he did things with you when you weren't able to consent, or just let you believe he did, he is the lowest of the lowest. Then stalking you from every social media, texting you from his wife's phone for god's sake, kissing you while y'all (3) worked together. Even your first messages could be excused on you wanting to find out what happened that night, as you were also calling him out. But the line was crossed much before the 2.000 messages. Are you going to talk inappropriately with that man? Wtf Girl, you should never interact with him again. And just know when you come clean you won't be friends anymore, class vibe will certainly be interesting... But maybe that's the only way
Yeah this story was ridiculous. I hope the wife finds out and drops both the friend and husband. She enjoyed the attention, even if she is acting guilty right now I doubt she will stop the interaction. If she actually felt guilty then she would have stopped 1,999 messages ago. Shitty people never cease to amaze me.
For story 2: if that was my friend, I would recommend her to uproot that relationship and become just acquaintances. She already has feelings and he doesn't, so if she's still there (even half-there), she'll always have that hope he'll be ready to commit and that's a disservice to herself, she won't even try to get into another relationship. Artic Monkeys said it well "busy being yours to fall for somebody new". And lastly, I loved Morgan's comment on her being a place holder for him.
Story 5: Sigh. Do you really feel guilty? I didn’t hear it when you wrote about how attractive he was, or the 2000 texts, or the other catering jobs you HAD to be there, or the fact you didn’t say something to his wife. No one mentioned the children either, this isn’t their fault but you want to uproot their lives too?! Stranger things have happened! I would do everything in my power to never know that man’s existence again. You have the power to turn this around and make better choices, and be a better friend.
Exactly! She doesn’t feel bad and she doesn’t care about the person she claims is a friend. The wife deserves a better husband and friend. How could the wife ever trust the friend close to future partners, you know?
I gave dad the lucha libre socks!! It’s Mexican WWE basically hehe but I WAS NOT the one who licked the sock 😭😂 the Tempe show was sm fun !! You guys are amazing (: nice to see the fam irl 😛
Is there an actual poll to vote on the last story or are we just supposed to vote in the comments? I vote tell the friend, secrets will always come out and it will eat you alive. Accept responsibility for your actions, bear the consequences, and do better moving forward.
The first story is hard because it's like they're becoming a prisoner in their own home since it doesn't feel like the neighbors will heed the boundaries without getting passive aggressive or pissy/offended about it. I feel like OP feels a need to continue helping them to prevent the obvious abuse the neighbors are putting their puppy through. Being a bystander to a puppy being thrown on their head surely feels terrible and weighs on OP. Honestly, next time the neighbors dictate when the training would be, I would just say "you know I'm busy at that time, I've really been busy lately and don't know if I'll be able to be as involved though I'm glad you feel like your dog is benefitting from me, but here's some resources as a great alternative" and if the neighbors keep getting pushy and invading your property and space I would contact their landlord and state that they are preventing your enjoyment of your own property!!! I would be MISERABLE if I had to shut the sunlight out of my home.
story 1: privacy film! I have used stick on privacy film for this exact purpose. They make some that are reflective from the outside but clear on the inside. some have nice shapes like stained glass-type of designs. I highly reccomend!
Story 2: You have to really think how long are you willing to wait for him to ready. Look to your future. What do you want for your future? House, pets, travel, children? Mapping these out is a good thing. Don't fall into the sunk cost fallacy either. Just because you've put so much time into this person, doesn't mean you should keep trying to make it work. Either it will work or it doesn't. A relationship shouldn't be hard work all the time. Your partner should want to give you as much as you want to give them. I honestly think you should look for someone else. I've had boyfriends like this. I'm married to someone who pursued me and put in the time and effort along with me. The right person for you will be willing to work with you through the good and bad times.
I had a situationship thing for 1.5 years. I wanted more and he never committed although he constantly said he had feelings for me. One day I was just over it and told him I was going to start dating again. He didn’t give it much thought. In that dating process I met my now very committed boyfriend (2.5 years together now). After realizing it was the real deal I cut things off with the situation and he was so mad at me. But, I gave him plenty of chances. So glad I chose to open myself up to dating.
Story 2: I was in this exact situation and it turned out the boy was seeing his ex and others during the situationship. It took me leaving that and being with a great man now to realise that mr situationship was brainwashing me and probably several other girls Sending that writer love and support to realise their self worth ❤️
Last story, tell your friend what you did if you actually have respect for her like you say. Yeah he owes her loyalty as her husband, but you also owe her loyalty as a friend
I agree with Morgan on the dog owners being out of control lately. Between the dogs at our child's school drop off and pick up lunging at children and staff and the woman who got mad I wouldn't let my dog meet hers when I was out walking I'm ready to go ham. The lady had the audacity to tell her dog I was mean bc I wouldn't let my dog meet them as though our dogs have cognitive reasoning skills. What miss thang didn't realize is I was protecting her dog bc ours is a herding breed and needs to stay on task or she is overly excited and protective. The neighbors' dogs are her best friend, and even then it can be too much bc she wants to herd them.
LAST STORY. I am currently in the middle of severing a 7 year relationship. I moved across the states 12 hrs from home and family to be with this man because he had me believing in his commitment and promises. Turns out he’s been cheating on me our entire relationship. If I had known before the move, I never would have left. I would have been insanely hurt and defensive and in denial but at least I would have had the opportunity to choose my path with the truth being at play. TELL HER AND ACCEPT YOUR ROLE IN THIS.
I had to set a boundary with my neighbor. He kept coming over to ask for help with his ring camera. He’s an older man so I gave him my number to just text me if he needed any help than coming over all the time. (Yes I know it was stupid. But at the time I thought I’d be ok) He started to text me flirty texts. I asked him to stop, but he didn’t. I blocked his number. He BOXED ME IN at my house one morning to talk to me as to why I haven’t been getting his messages. I yelled at him to leave me alone and talked to the front office. They handled it. 😅 Cannot stand nosey neighbors…
Oooof I might be shitty for this take, but if I were in the last story’s position I would not say a word about any of it- as awful as it may be. But I would NOT communicate AT ALL with the husband anymore. I would never cater/work with them again. You would have to live with the guilt. You really did bite his bait by texting him to begin with, let alone over 2k text in 24hrs?! That’s crazy.
Yeah seems straight forward but it’s not.. she still has the rest of the program to go through and it wouldn’t be a good learning environment for either of them if the wife knew. I think keeping her head down and blocking the ever loving shit out of the husband and never working for the catering company is the best way to go. Make up any excuse to never have to be around him. He probably already cheats, the wife is going to find out at some other point from another woman.
Story 2: he’s getting all the benefits of being a boyfriend, without the responsibility of commitment. I’ve been there, and I had to put a stop to it because I knew I wanted commitment, and I wasn’t going to wait for him to be “ready” because as long as he continued to get boyfriend benefits, he was never going to be ready. Fast forward to him running into me out and about; he asked me out and I told him I was engaged. I found someone who wanted me, and the responsibility of commitment, and the benefits that come with that. OP should do the same.
Professional dog trainer here! Morgan...you are right! It's a really exhausting thing too seeing all of these amazing dogs with so much potential but watching their owners ruin them. They neglect training and exercising, they throw a shock collar on their pet because they are lazy and consider this training, and they don't listen to advice. Especially older dog owners. They get puppies they have no energy for and then have a crazy pitbull running around barking and destroying things because he's so bored and under exercised. I had a business for 5 years training dogs as a side gig and finally I decided to let that take a back seat because it was so exhausting pouring time and energy into these dogs just to have their owners not follow through. No amount of money made that worth it for me to continue doing. So for now I just run a boarding facility that I've been at for 9 years while I finish getting my BAS in environmental science. I want to actually start a podcast for dog training I think and put my knowledge to use there! You sort of inspired this idea :) Love this podcast and THT! Keep up the amazing work!
Story 3: Are you open to having a general talk with your mom? Not attack her at all for the affair but rather ask her and have her ponder on the thought of what if YOU had come to her heartbroken because your husband had been cheating for the last 10 years. Maybe if she thinks about it in that way, she’ll feel bad for what she’s doing and consider stopping
For story two, I’m one of the few people where this worked out. However it took us breaking it off completely before it worked. I wanted commitment but he wasn’t ready so it hurt but I broke it off. Turns out he had feelings for someone else too and was conflicted. He spent some time dating her and another girl or two. Over six months later he came back and said I’m ready to try it for real. It’s been over five years now and going strong. Point is if they’re not ready you have to leave and if they decide they’re ready they’ll come back.
@@Katxo1831 kind of, not quite to that extent. I knew it was likely this other person causing his hesitation. He ended up breaking it off with her too after saying that he knew it would just end bad with her and couldn’t help but think about how it wouldn’t be that way with me. So worked in my favor but always not the case.
Morgan, when you introduce your theme and say that for today's stories it is time to set a boundary, you kinda hinting what should be a reaction or what reaction you expect to hear from your guests/co-hosts. Sometimes I wonder if it affects their reaction much. Maybe you could think about theme like "difficult relationships" or "awkward situations" that is not hinting a solution? But I appreciate like you are not reading just random stories, but trying to make it interesting. Really like both THT and FKS :)
I get what you’re saying but I feel like she does a great job of picking guests that aren’t afraid to speak their minds! Sometimes the guests and her have the same opinion, sometimes not. Plus after however many dozens of episodes she’s done, im sure it’s difficult to some up with new titles/themes.
Your vocal breakdown/improv at the six minute mark would be a really fun sound clip at the end of videos moving forward just as a friendly reminder to anyone watching 😂
Last story: He's a creep and you were potentially victimized. You should just remove yourself from his life completely to protect yourself. He is baiting you and you took it so nows your time to escape before shit hits the fan. If your friend is aware in any way then she isnt a good friend.
Man, this is a great episode. Boundaries can be so damn rough... Always having to constantly repeat yourself and what you are wanting to voice and it constantly bulldozed every time... How do you even get it through someone's thick skull? I've been dealing with boundary issues for years and instead of things going well, I end up even more upset and nothing resolved... How do you get someone to truly hear you and understand how upsetting certain things are, not just listen to you, do a poor me speil in return, and then bulldozing the boundary? Thoughts???
The last story... she crossed the line the second she entertained it all and actually texted him instead of ignoring/blocking him! How dare her act like she isn't to blame in all this. It's safe to say she's lost that friend!!
So about the girl who is texting the friend's husband.... Friendship is probably over. I would tell the husband to F off,do better and make the most of his marriage. That you're not going to tell her, that his advances have contributed to the loss of a good friendship for both of them, but you will keep quiet in hopes that they have a good honest future together, after this experience. Then I would be polite, distance, and occupied. Walk away. And do better next time.
Story 3: I’d find the wife and anonymously tell her about the affair. No one deserves to be cheated on for 10 years. I don’t protect any cheaters no matter who they are 🤷♀️
Story 2: I’m listening to this episode as I’m unpacking the last 4 years of waiting in my childhood bedroom. It’s hard and I felt stuck. It took my best friend and family helping me back up in move in one day so I have no reason to go back or talk to him. I’m sorry you love someone who can’t give you love back. One day you’ll find waiting only hurt you. 20:35
Late to this story- but the story with the friends husband- She can approach it in a way that is like hey, I just wanted to ask if you and your husband are looking for a third, or open relationship ect.. because he reached out, and I wanted to make sure it was maybe under those circumstances? Fess up to everything else, because honesty is best at all points, and be willing to distance yourself.
Late to this story- but the story with the friends husband- She can approach it in a way that is like hey, I just wanted to ask if you and your husband are looking for a third, or open relationship ect.. because he reached out, and I wanted to make sure it was maybe under those circumstances? Fess up to everything else, because honesty is best at all points, and be willing to distance yourself. Wife is going to experience this others, the best thing you can do for her if she doesn’t know is to tell her, otherwise she is going to be wasting years with this man if, if they don’t have an open relationship
Morgan are you gonna fund that forced class? One class isn’t gonna solve it. Imagine if as said that to you before you have a kid you go have a class and you pay for it. You can’t afford a kid? Sucks you can’t have one.
Last story- You tell the truth and show her the messages not to be harsh but ur chance to be a good person was when he first texted u once u sent that text back and decided to text him all night u decided u didnt want to be friends with her anymore! Tell her the truth not for your guilt but so someone u claim to care for can make an informed decision about her relationship
I kind of disagree on story #3 - at the end of the day, you cannot control who your mother is with and you cannot let it control your life. You don't have to agree, you don't have to be friends, you don't ever have to speak to him.. but you do need to respect your mom and her choices, because like I said, you have absolutely no control over them. Respect, in my opinion, is the absolutely least thing you can do for another human. I understand not agreeing with someone's relationship but redirecting a conversation is all that needs to be done, not blow up a relationship because you don't agree with it.
Why do you have to respect someone else’s choices? I see what you are saying about respecting her mother, but why does she have to respect her mom’s choice regarding this relationship. Respect is earned.
