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If your partner does not look at you the way Filly was looking at Sharky when he was mentioning all the things he did during lockdown,then I'm sorry,they are not the one 😭😭😭😭
Putting wife last is wild . Once you’re married ,your partner should come first . Your kids wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for your wife . If your mum is the number 1 , marry her then 😂
This is what I’m saying. My oldest brother is over 20 years older than me at 46. And he’s been with his wife since they were both 15. I listen to him when he said Wife first, kids second and mom third. He’s also the only one of my older siblings still married and one of the few in my family still married and never divorced.
@@neemer5245 There is a reason why in every culture a mother is the most valued member of the family. Just like the kids of your family will favour your wife above you since she is their mother, so will every husband favour their mum over their spouse, I cant believe there are so many delusional women believing their husbands will pick them over their mothers, who tf do they think they are
@@robleyusuf6454 Favoring your mother over your wife is the reason why so many women grow resentful and distant in their marriage. Your mother is married to your father, not you. Your priority is YOUR spouse. You committed to marrying them for a reason.
@@neemer5245 Doesn't change the fact that my love for my parents surpasses that of a wife, she can be resentful all she wants. And i would argue that thats not the reason why the grow resentful, its because of the lie that is feminsim which condradicts reality itself.
I agree. I think when you are growing and maturing you are going through the process of psychological separation from your mother (gaining independence, autonomy, developing your own identity). As a result, your mother is no longer your most important focus in your life (as it was in childhood), you focus more on creating your own family and providing for your own family. You are not attached to your mother that much (although you may still love her and appreciate her very much). I think that if a man is always spending time with his mother/asking her for advice/depending on her too much - that may be a bad sign, he might be too attached to her.
She is the last couse she is the only one who can leave anytime mom will never leave and also she was thier for him when he was nothing and kids will cary his name
@@googoogaga3154 Mu’awiyah ibn Jahima reported: Jahima came to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “O Messenger of Allah, I intend to join the military expedition, and I seek your counsel.” The Prophet said, “Do you have a mother?” He said yes. The Prophet said, “Stay with her, for Paradise is beneath her feet.” Source: Sunan al-Nasā’ī 3104.
@alisa9846 theres many hadiths about women and mother s 🤣 the most known one " your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father" showing the importance of our mothers
I think in reference to women being talked about/treated very poorly under Islam, it's more a cultural thing and many men use it to treat girls and women extremely badly.
This is why I LOVE and RESPECT Chunkz so much. He understands in islam the importance of your wife, and how she should come first in terms of RESPONSIBILITY. Because your mum is always going to have her own place but she is your fathers responsibility. Whereas your wife as soon as she becomes your wife is your first and main priority and responsibility to love honour and care for. Same with a husband for the wife! And to put your kids before your wife is crazy remember where your kids came from
@@Unknown12504 nah they are realists - mother will always be before the wife, the wife is a conditional relationship which you must put value in, mum will rock with you no matter what, children have a duty to you and an unconditional love as well. And thats why the wife is always last.....
@@robleyusuf6454this is why marriages don’t work. My oldest brother is over 20 years older than me and he is the one besides my mom I take advice from. When it comes to this question I listen to him and he says wife, kids and his mom. He’s the only one of my older siblings still married along with being one of the few people in my family still married and never divorced. Got with his wife at 15, they married at 32 and still together at 46 and going strong.
@@DrizzFizzlebeatz in terms of responsibility i agree with your list but it is in terms of who you love more. The wife will always be last as she will only be with you if it benefits her and that is the cold harsh reality you guys need to accept. Mother and child have an unconditional bond, that will be there regardless of age.
Chunkz is 100% right with his order. Your wife is your LIFE partner. You leave your parents' house to start your OWN family. Your kids will leave your home one day to start their own families. All you will have is your wife. Your wife has to be number 1.
Putting wife last is dirty work. Your mom is important don’t get me wrong, but your wife and children are now your direct family and should be #1 priority. Now, your relationship with your wife existed far before the kids, and will continue when the kids leave the house. How are you going to provide your children with a happy, healthy home if your marriage is lacking? This is not to say the kids are not important, but they should definitely not take priority over your spouse. Your wife birthed your children and now you’re putting her last? Wild.
"your relationship with your wife existed far before the kids, and will continue when the kids leave the house." - Your relationship with your mother existed far before you wife, and will continue if your wife leaves you "Your wife birthed your children and now you’re putting her last? Wild." - Your mother birthed you and now you're putting her last? Wild. "but they should definitely not take priority over your spouse" Yes they should
@@SSSlid You realize that people grow up, start their own families, and priorities shift? Me personally, i’m not going to live my life catering to my mother when I have a wife and kids to take care of it. I’m also not going to live with a fear mindset that my wife *may* leave me. If you have any doubts about your relationship maybe you should address that before you get married. All this is not to say your mother becomes unimportant, she simply isn’t the first priority. That’s the reality of life. Your mother is your father’s priority, your wife is yours. -No, they shouldn’t, and I already clearly explained why. Once again, that does not mean they are unimportant.
1 wife 2 kids 3 mom Wife is 1st because she's who you build your family with and if yall ain't 100% together you can't be 100% for the kids. Kids 2nd because kids need yall to grow. You are the protectors of them. You help and build them up. Mom is 3rd because she's grown and knows you have to take care of your family. It's all love all ways around. I'm sure mom's putting her husband before her grown kids too. As she should especially if the kids are grown doing they own thing anyway.
It's amazing how anyone will put their wife last.... I, as a woman, know my children’s spouces and children should come before me. Parents will die (hopefully before you), children will tow their paths, you have your spouse by your side till death happens. The goal should be getting your person as spouse. And having such a great union, you can't imagine your life without them.
Yeah as a mother if my children put me first I will cry because I have done a bad job raising them. I will be first from the first half of their life but when their wife and kids come I step down and that is beautiful to me
Hands down my favourite ep, love how this showcased so much more of Sharky's personality. So humble and the intro was 10/10, love that yall genuinely have love and respect for each other and that really shows. Couldnt stop smiling this ep was too good! Petition to have Sharky on another ep already ♥️🙌
Ngl this whole episode I missed Lawrence’s Input, speaking about marriage I was waiting to hear his voice, I feel like he still deserved a feature on the guest eps
Sharky is really my favorite, he’s the only reason I started watching beta squad 😂 SDS was getting heavily suggested in my recommended till one day I clicked on it and I was hooked. Haven’t missed a episode since 2022 and I went back and watched the ones before that. Sharky’s hosting skills are on point and his personality always shines through. So then I see a Beta Squad video in my recommended and I’m like “oh shit, that’s Sharky in it” so I click and yea I start watching Beta Squad. It’s also dope to see how Sharky gave all the SDS guys the platform to shine on their own, got guys on Sky Sports and collaborating with premier league clubs. LEGEND!!
On the friendship thing, it’s a quality over quantity thing Most male friendships may last for years but there’s rarely any deep relationship compared to female friendships where they actually put in effort to have quality friendships
I don't really agree... Women can have met a girl yesterday and call her "my love", "my life" (I don't know if they say that in English too, I'm translating from what I hear in French lol) and lots of other words like that when they've known each other for barely 24 hours 😅 And so it doesn't surprise me that these kinds of relationships end quickly... so I wouldn't call them quality friendships
