When I was in kindergarden, my friend similarly blamed me. The teacher pressurised me so much in front of my parents that I had to admit it was me despite being innocent. Looking back, I really feel sorry for my little self.
don´t be, we regret a lot of things in life and if we hold on to them, we will crush our selfs even deeper than that. You learned from it, don´t make the same mistake again or to your future kids
When I was in first grade a girl that sat across from me in class kicked me under the table so I kicked her back. Kristen started "crying" and told the teacher on me. I told Mrs. Crawford that she kicked me first and she flat out told me she didn't believe me and to apologize. Blew my mind as a 7 year old. Then in fourth grade someone stuck a kick me sign on a kids back, I seen it and thought I was doing the right thing by telling Mrs Edward's that it was on Matt's back. I didn't see who put it there and no one admitted to it so she picked out the kids who she thought would have done it and made us sit out at playtime. I cried and asked her why she thought I had done it and she said it was cause I told her it was there... still doesn't make any since considering I wasn't a bad kid, raised my hand in class, had good grades and got along with everyone. I'll be 33 this Friday and I shouldn't remember those things but I do. Teachers need to realize that when they let a kid down, they'll remember it and it sucks.
When I was younger, my seat mate used to pinch me for accidentally putting my elbow on her desk. I had enough one day so I pinched her back. That’s when she went crying to the teacher, saying that I hurt her. I did leave a small bruise and the teacher yelled at me for hurting the girl. I was crying and I kept telling her that she started it but the teacher didn’t believe me so she called my mom. Instead of me getting in trouble with my mom, my mom went off on the teacher and was yelling and cursing at her for not believing me. Turns out the pinches I was getting from the girl all turned into bruises and my mom had took photos of the bruises and sent them to the teacher. The little girl was suspended for bullying.
When I was 8 or 9 I was pressured into admitting to a theft I know my sister did. When I was 18 I brought down fire and brimstone on everyone involved - and they all just laughed it off. That's why I moved away at 19.
The teacher is the one at fault. Making her point out the child in front of everyone then backpedaling after there was discourse… Like, what did she think would happen? Trying to shame children like that with a crowd watching… 😒
I have always leaned towards believing my daughter in things, even against adults. There are many reasons why, but ultimately I just can’t imagine not believing my kid when it is something that truly matters to her. It may not seem like much to me, but could carry a lot of weight on her future self.
W Jane. Stand by your son. If you raised him the right way then you should have as much faith in him as he had in himself. He didn't back down after being wrongfully accused, clearly he was rasied to has self respect and dignity.
Something like this happened to me when I was in kindergarten and no one believed me I spent a whole week denying it and got grounded every time I did I remember it to this day and now I have issues trusting my parents.
Spoilers Ahead: It's revealed later that Ziggy didn't hurt Amabella. The two of them are friends, and Amabella was scared of saying who actually hurt her (another boy in class) because he threatened to hurt her worse if she told. She said it was Ziggy because she trusted him not to hurt her.
She doesn’t want to raise a bully but both her and her daughter are bullying the little boy into admitting to something he didn’t do. We don’t want to raise liars or people who falsely accuse either!
We don't want to raise bullies *says the woman whose sons are learning from their abusive father* (EDIT) sorry I haven't seen this before, but I don't appreciate the comments. I just commented on what I saw.
Been in a similar situation, but not at school. Our daughter was playing at her friend’s place and they were playing with her friend’s pet mice. Later that night, the Mom rang us to say that the mice were dead and her daugher had said that Kate was being rough with them and that must be how they died. KAte was distraught even to hear that the mice were dead. (Yeah, I kinow girls are suppoosed to be scared of mice) Anyway, things got quite 'frosty’ between the two Mom’s for a day or two, but after some pointed questions from the Dads on both sides, it turned out that it was the other girl who had killed her mice (accidentally) and blamed Kate out of fear. Kai’s Dad showed up at our door with her in tow and made her apologise to Kate directly. That was over 30 years ago and they’re still best friends. My wife and I believed Kate and we would NEVER have allowed anyone to behave like the girl’s Mom in this clip. Not ever. Parents like her need educating.
I absolutely adore the same as a teacher. If this situation happened in my school this is not the way we would handle it. We would not have the children that stand in a circle with their parents and have the little girl point at someone. That is just absolutely insane.
Unfortunately this is exactly how a lot of conflicts are resolved now, both with children and with adults. An ethical investigation and fair mediation are no longer something we can take for granted, and it's only going to get worse.
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lpPlease, we need less cameras in this world as we speak. I for one don’t want to live in a police state where everything anyone does is filmed. I hope more people feel the same way. Like if so.
@PanzerkampfwagenVITigerIAusfE unfortunately everything a parent teaches their child is being thrown out the window the second you drop them off at school....especially with the nut jobs and sociopathic kids in schools nowadays.
@@PanzerkampfwagenVITigerIAusfEThe problem is that you can rarely be sure that you have taught it well. When I entered school, a boy used to pick on me because of my skin color. His mother defended him to the death. Her boy would never be able to do something like that or so many other pranks or steal, but unfortunately he was capable of that and much more. To this day I am still friends with the kid.
"Can you JUST apologize?" Once you apologize, whether or not you did it, you will be labeled and everything bad afterwards will be blamed on you. And if you didn't do it, apologizing will tell that girl that she can get away with it for the rest of her life.
Yup! In battered wife cases, the wife is often apologising to the husband even without having done anything. It's one of the ways you can figure out if someone is being abused, if they constantly say Sorry for things they don't have any reason to. Apologizing is an admission of guilt, and an acceptance of blame. Not that this would go to court, but doing so when not guilty of the act can potentially compromise you in a court of law unfortunately.
I blocked a girl from hitting me in the 3rd grade and she hurt her wrist. She stuck to the story right up to the parent-principal meeting where I asked "why did you try to hit me?" Then she admitted the truth. The look on her father's face. He went from glaring at me and my parents to apologizing
As someone who has been falsely accused myself I really feel for that boy. It really sucks and is dehumanizing to be blamed for something you didn't do.
*Little girl is heavily injured and blaming a space goat bc she fears her abusers* *Her mom is worried and believes her child* *The comment section:* Wow. Such a bad mother. The kid will be a bully when she grows up ❓❓❓❓❓ What's wrong with you guys?😂
Equal rights, equal fights. Women are intellectually smarter, while men are physically stronger. Which is why men are considered violent and women are considered manipulative. Sad really.
Yes, but unfortunately I doubt that would help. Unless they saw who actually did it, and possible that wasn't caught on camera, the girls mother wouldn't believe just because he wasn't caught on camera doesn't mean he didn't do it. According to another comment it was her brother, so it's possible he did it at home and they just saw the marks here.
@tvantklooster that wasnt the problem, grow up. The teacher needs to bring everyone toghrer and needs to know who may or may not be involved in order to get the full story
@@Name.......... Not at the end of the day and not in front of the parents and especially these kind of parents who see their kids as little prince and princesses. You do that the next morning without the parents. Growing up has nothing to do with it. Thats common sense for an experienced teacher. But guessing your reaction you fall under the category privileged parents like these.
Something kind of similar happened to me too, only... Literally nobody that could do anything believed me, and I got beaten and suspended for it anyway, despite the accuser eventually apologizing to people for lying, the adults STILL claimed I did it. My best friend in 5th grade cut her brow, like shaved clean half of it off one day. She made up a story saying I did it so she wouldn't get in trouble by her grandparents, saying I pushed her up against a fence with a pair of scissors to shave it... WEEKS before? But because her brow was indeed cut, they just insisted I had done it. I even asked, so why wasn't her brow cut until today? Someone would have asked what happened by now, I asked her the second I saw her today. How do you even shave with kid scissors that hardly cut paper? Why would she still hang out with me every day all smiles if I did that? Wouldn't some of the hair have grown back by now? I sat in the principals office crying for hours trying to defend myself. My parents were called and they said I must've done something to deserve this kind of attention. Got beat black and blue with a belt because it messed up their work schedule that I had to stay home the next day, couldn't even sit at my desk without tearing up when I got back to school. Eventually other students heard the story, knew it made no sense, told their parents, and multiple parents wrote letters to the teacher to say things like "It clearly didn't happen and my child is distressed being in your class for allowing this". Ended up making the teacher yell at the class that it happened, and if anyone spoke about it again, it's an immediate F for the day. I found out later that the letter she got that made her yell, added that my friend admitted to their child that it was all a lie. That teacher really sucked, and I stopped hanging out with that friend after the incident. To this day I have no idea how any of the adults heard her story and actually believed it, all the kids understood it made no sense but adults couldn't comprehend it? My parents eventually believed me years later when I randomly showed them that the old friend randomly messaged me to apologize for lying, again. It clearly ate her up and I forgave her. She recently had a baby and I wish her the best
Jeez this is so awkward. It doenst even matter anymore who did it. Just the adults are making it awkward to watch. I was a little one that got bullied. And usually the mum making the biggest fuss was the owner of the bully...
I actually had this experience, a kid lied and said he didn't throw dirt and stuff at a house (we all did) and his mother said, when we got busted, "My Johnny doesn't lie." We couldn't stop giggling even when we got punished. The look of guilt on his face as she took him home was priceless.
It's actually the boy's half-sibling hurting the girl because they saw their own father hurt their mother (Celeste) thinking it's normal. Plus their father's a rapist.
@@Slappys well Ziggy's the result of that so it's still relevant. He's an abusive father and a rapist. Gotta thank the mom (grandma) for that cause she blamed the hell out of him for the death of his brother.
@@JamieBentallno, we'd still have to blame him, because even though his upbringing was absolutely heinous, he was still a fully functioning, conscious adult that committed these acts, not his mother. Having an abusive upbringing doesn't minimize your bad actions.
@@chantalalexander Exactly 💯 I didn't mean to moralize his actions just because he's also a victim of abuse. I'm just saying his mother's an asshole too. She raised a monster just like her.
@@lieannlaverne5233 from what I've read the girl's father is an abusive prick, the sons are picking up that behaviour, and that's how the girl got hurt. But she won't say it was the brothers for varying different reasons
If my son convincingly says, he didn't do it, then I take him by his word. As well as I don't want my kid to lie and to take responsibility for his actions, I also don't want him to be blamed for something, he didn't do, period. He has to tell the truth, whether it speaks against OR for him.
@@Jules-z8vbut like if I was the mother can’t I just say she doesn’t have to convince me he did it, if she says he did it he did it? The other mother is perfectly reasonable based on that logic
@@lashlarue59But they do have equal amounts of proof. The original comment simply said both parents believed their children. In other words, there was one testimonial making an accusation and one testimonial in defense. No other witnesses come forward, at least not in this clip. So there was an equal amount of proof.
This scene was really deep in the grand scheme of things, I like how it showed that children learn social hierarchy very young- they know who has status and who doesn’t or has very little…
I suffered a different class of abuse like this when i was at primary school. My parents always stayed at my side and protected me from every scum adult that tried to blame me from a lot of things. They believed me and knew their own son, so they protected me, even once at the point of a near fight. The world need more parents like mine and less parents who punish and force to apologize, betraying their own children.
Your parents stayed with you in primary school? You sound like you were over protected because there’s no way numerous adults in PRIMARY school were abusing you verbally.
@@brackenrobertson799 First thing. My Bad, i should've said when i was around primary school. Im not native English speaker. Second. Due to My circunstances that i Will not tell here, Yeah, on fact i accidentally made a lot of adult parents envy me IN school. They involved teachers and Even the director in the problem, and tried to sabotage me múltiple times.
That depends. Is the accusation purely just a guess or was it witnessed. Because its one thing to accuse someone on what you think they did and another to accuse someone on what you saw them do. You can lie about someone doing something or they can lie about doing it. It becomes a classic your-word-against-mine situation until something can prove which voice speaks the truth. (Edit) you shouldn't have to prove that you were assulted, but someone innocent also shouldn't be condemned because someone accuses them of doing it. It should be up to someone who can be trusted to get the evidence.
Wish it were so, but the reality is different. If a woman accuses a man the system automatically assumes she is telling the truth, and do everything in their power to bury the man. False accusers should have to serve as much time as they were trying to stick on the real victim. Maybe that would slow the madness down a bit.
When my youngest was in middle school, he got sent to the office, I had to go talk to the counselor. I don’t remember what it was for. My son kept telling me he didn’t do it. When the counselor walked out, my son started crying, telling me he didn’t do it. I fight for my children. I told him I believed him and not to cry. At that moment one of his friends walked by and told me that he didn’t do it. I took him to his favorite restaurant after that.
I wouldn't make my child apologize either if he/she said that they didn't do it. On the other hand if i were the girl's mom and found out later that she had lied on Shelton i would make her apologize in front of the entire class. Hopefully this will embarrass and stop her while she's young. From becoming a habitual liar. And cause someone to get hurt or killed.
Never believe a stranger over your kids. You build trust with your kids when they know you have their back. You will always have your kids but strangers come and go.
Had pretty much this exact experience as a kid. Mom didnt get everything right, but believing me that day has been a foundational part of my trust in her for 30 years 🥰
A good parent knows when there child lies . I'm glad she did not make her son apologize to please the others . He will continue to be truthful because his mom believes him . The same with the child that lied . She will continue to lie because her mom is bullying the boy to apologize.
