She Cheated On Me and Thats Not All - Dr. Aria | E56 

Sorry to hear this. Will you do the exams again?

Don't let anyone de-rail you from your studies. The fact she's done this to you shows the kind of person she is. It hurts now but at least you seen her true face now rather than later on in marriage. Study hard and when you pass that exam and when she sees that she didn't stop you from being successful she'll be like " wow he didn't care" . I graduated several years ago (also from medicine) and I had someone try to do this to me also. The way I thought was "Will I be more upset if i didn't try to sit my exams at all because of this cheater or than if I at least try to do my best." When you try your best , you'll feel better. When you pass you're exams you'll be filled with pride that you overcame this situation plus you might meet someone else like minded. I am very sorry to read this . Anyone who cheats doesn't respect you or themselves for that matter - you're better off without that

@@renn3014 Thanks a lot for your kind words ! Don't worry, I'm not going to let her ruin my life 😄 It was a really tough first month, but I'm getting trying to get back on track ! Wish you the best, you seem to be a really compassionate person 😁

Nayel, You are clearly a smart guy who has a lot to offer. You don’t need a woman in your life to be successful & happy but I’m sure eventually you will find one who is loyal and true to you. You deserve love & respect. What you DON’T deserve is a cheater!!! Good riddance!!! 👍

@@stacysnider4899 Your words warmed my heart, thank you so much! I am slowly recovering, and I am starting to fully realize that I was lucky to see what I saw, as painful as it was! I was supposed to marry her in a few months, I really dogged a bullet! The fact that she did this to me during my exams (while I actively helped her pass hers last year) still sticks in my craw, but I have no choice but to work even harder to fix it! I know that one day, I'll I will be happy and proud to have gone through what I went through. Thanks again, sincerely!

It’s so attractive to me! This woman didn’t deserve him.. and he still cares about HER feelings 🥺

@@user-xv1kp6qf7h exactly!

I think it’s mainly men who shame men

Attractive and healthy to see from the outside. Women want men that they can come to with their problems to fix them. Women don't want to hear about their partners problems. Yes occassionally is okay but eventually they lose respect for the man and then the relationship train takes a detour, next stop, she'll be bored with him.

It’s not about going to them with Your problems , I almost never want a solution from my male partner when I am complaining about my problems, I usually just want to vent and be validated in my feelings. And I’m fine to listen to his problems So long as it’s balanced. But the whole point of why this is attractive is the ability to communicate & not being emotionally unavailable ​@@themaharaniscloset

Still waiting for a woman to condemn another woman. It's hard when women NEVER lie cheat or do any wrong

​@@Pamanudavy-qz1vxsometimes they actually do cheat for the same reasons .

Well he may well be exactly what you want. A man who hasn't decided that monogamy is right for him. A man who is unsure of children. Is this the man you want to share some of your life (as he is not committed) and have children with?

U sound easy

@@mandrews1245nah women say they want this but don’t not long term lol

@@mandrews1245I’m a 48 yo married woman of almost 30 years and mother to 14 children. I’m a stay at home mom, former single mother. My husband adopted my oldest son who was abandoned by his biological father. My husband showed me what a real man is and he’s the only man I trust with my life. I’d follow him into a burning building 😂 When he asked me to marry him he was very clear about what he wanted and he was only 20 years old. He said he wanted me to stay home to raise the children and he’d work so I would never have to. He’s a hard worker and has given us a life of security, liberty and comfort. I’d never betray him in anyway. Every time I hear these weak men who are so unsure of themselves or what they want, I am even more grateful for my husband who is the absolute most solid, trustworthy, intelligent person I know.

@@user-nk2ub1hd2pI'm 60 years old now and I can promise you this is what I wanted in a man. I have never found it.

I disagree. I think the memory is the event but your calm reflection and analysis is what brings the wisdom

Crap! Application is key ( e.g no growth or better course plotted & taken) it’s all fragility if otherwise.

A past which one cannot change, is a burdensome weight of grief that only a self-pitying fool carries with him/her, and in the eventual moment he/she realises this truth, acknowledges how much of a fool he/she has been for carrying someone else's problem for so long and wasting so much of their own life dwelling in sadness for what is unchangeable.

So sorry this happened to you

I don't even know how to fathom the horror and pain you had dealt with and still deal with. I'm very sorry truly..

Good God! I'm praying for you and your boy. Stay strong.

The power of healing yourself and prayers will get through all of this. Seek professional help if you need to and share this process with your oldest son. Although it didn't work out please don't let her have this power over you. Enjoy your life and move forward. ❤

May God give you and your son healing from all the trauma

Only if we have a society that stops encouraging bad women.

This guy is an empath? This guy is a human being. Let's normalize empathy! A healthy human being has the capacity for empathy.

Should have learned sooner.

I think society, and sometimes family, pushes young people into idealistic relationships too much. We can't find our happiness in another person. It's a hard lesson. This man learned that a robust sense of self is very important and that marriage is not universal.

No I would have went scorched earth

Hi. Are you going to say anything about the woman who cheated on him? I notice whenever a man suffers at the hands of a woman other women will ask questions rather than condemn the woman- they seem to lack the ability to accept fault or have accountability

@@schnarf5i was thinking the exact same thing.

@@schnarf5 what's the point of trash talking about her? I think it's a safe guess that nobody has positive thoughts about the woman, based on what we heard here. Why would we need to go out of our way to say them out loud, when it's obvious? Even if it wasn't obvious, what does it change about the fact that the guy is awesome? I know it's hard to do and I fail to do often as well, but the best thing we can do is try not to judge others. For our own sake, it makes life a lot better.

@@schnarf5 why would other women need to be accountable or accept fault for what that woman did?

Because women are the ones who enable this kind of behavior amongst other women​@@cathwalsh9921

I totally agree! I wish our sons could express their feelings like this young man. He seems like a wonderful young man!! 💙

She cheated on him bc he treated her too well and that caused her to see him as a beta male. Very sad but true

@@yunque30gmail as you write, very sad, but true!

​@yunque30gmail Yea, can see your point. He lost his edge. Same thing happens when relationships get too comfortable and static. No one should cheat imo, but we cannot ignore that it still happens and the reasons for it.

Well said, I believe he is ! ❤by us and his creator!!!❤❤❤😊

Messed up people get bored pretty easily with good genuine people

@@kellazephirin4245 This. Good healthy and normal are 'boring' nowadays. People want to ride the emotional whirlwind

We should not judge things we don't know, people are complex, people feelings change, there could be so many reasons we don't understand. He does not blame her, I won't do it either

So true ❤

You‘d have to hear her side of the story to judge. And even after having heard both sides of the story, you‘d likely only know a fraction of what lead to their breakup. Everyone is so focused on her choosing a new partner. She obviously had her reasons and she has the right to move on. He clearly had to learn this and even mentioned in the interview that he had to come to grips with the fact that he didn’t own her. This hard experience may have turned him into a better person. You don’t know.

That is awful. I am really sorry. That is one of my biggest fears. The most disappointing thing is that it is so easy to just say no. While it's normal to have attraction to people, it's not normal to cheat. All people have to do is put up that boundary and say no.

I let my wife take advantage of my love for her, and she wrecked me. The anger comes from asymmetric power and morals. She had the power and hates God, I had no power and love God. She considers herself to be polyamorous, and asked me to help out her friend by letting him move in with us. I was lied to and used by everyone involved. From her perspective she was just trying to be herself and just allowing her impulses to take over. She was tired of trying to change my nature and morals, but didn't want to hurt me in confrontation, so she kept it on the down low.

Thats even worse, so everyone around you was "in on it"?@@jamestunedflat8942

@@jamestunedflat8942well there u go, never be unequally yoked, plus if she hates God she’s probably a reprobate.

Our sins covers a multitude. People are always considering what feels good to them, rather than the greater commitments to the Great Observer, the heavenly host, our families, our friends, and the hurt, brokenness, sadness, jaded joy we may have caused others to experience is actually greater than the smallest part of us (60 second organisms).

Yes family matters extremely traumatic...no real ending for the loss of trust

I agree, betrayal changes you permanently

My own sister slept with my boy friend. Here two people cheated on me.

Pure trust should never exist in the first place, you never know what someone might do, not even yourself. You just put some trust in some people and hope for the best, knowing very well they might screw you over.

It is terrible to be betrayed, so painful, such a lack of disrespect makes one a harder person which is sad.

I’m currently going through what this man did. I’m in my 40’s and I have 2 kids. My friends say lean on them and never get married again. I had the perfect life and there was no reason for all this. 😢

Are you going to condemn the woman or question if she "had her reasons" ? I notice when a woman's cheated on there is hate at the man, but the other way round, either questions about what he did wrong or sympathy for him but nothing negative about the woman

prob how will end up :(

when i found out i was working 2 jobs suit tie in day as sales rep and UPS night shift, she fell asleep and i saw her phone i remember going blank think my mind shit down, i went def , driving off to work in silence when i got to my shift i realized i was in a suite and tie ..

At the half way mark, these 2 people are only talking craziness.

Did you listen to the podcast? He expounds on exactly what killed the desire. Once desire leaves, it’s tough to rebuild without tremendous introspection on both parts. We don’t know ourselves enough, nor do we have the relational insight when things are dying. He said it very well.

And now she has someone better.

@@Christina-oq4tdthe point I made is that you don't realize that relationships like that are worth fighting for. Something you don't realize until later

He new man may well be better than the old. Don’t think can say she lost an amazing guy if don’t know her new man.

you cannot presume what she needed in the relationship. Likely she was not getting it and could not get it - our emotions are complicated things. She clearly needed something different. Its life... move one. Well done sir, its not the end of the world but a very enlightening experience.

Marriage is about sacrificing for each other he just so happened he got on with an undeserving woman

Aha. I was just wondering how his ex-wife could cheat on a husband who loves her more than himself! Thanks for the insight 👍

Yep, after he finds out she cheated his first concern his for her well being. What a simp, she lost all respect for him long prior.

Thank you! I listened to this interview waiting for him to take a little responsibility for what happened and he refused to hold himself accountable. Instead he tried to excuse her despicable behavior by questioning the concept of monogamy. Monogamy works, there are lots of people who have cultivated the discipline to commit to one person for the rest of their lives and even if they couldn't, they respected their partners enough to break a relationship before moving on to someone else. Dr Aria needs Therapy, he isn't healed in my opinion and he hasn't done enough introspection. He needs to explore why and how he chose such a morally bankrupt partner. Why was he attracted to such a woman? I believe people who are this selfish (his ex-wife) display these traits early in the relationship. He is still making excuses for this woman and he isn't confronting that part of himself that needs to change in order to pick a better partner in future. I too have been cheated on and I had to take personal responsibility for the part I played in my pain. I chose unwisely and allowed myself to be disrespected.

@@uzoo7581 agreed 💯%.

Same here only after 22 years. Many humans are quite pathetic when it comes to maintaining connection.

Some people are so selfish that their pleasure is their priority. Loyalty and a promise given means nothing. The one who has decided it all meant nothing. She will have no quams about doing the same again to her new man. What kind of man is he? If he knew she was married, he was treating her like a tart, so they are suited, and neither can ever be trusted again. This man just dodged a bullet, so be grateful you didn't have a child with her.

❤🦋✨️🙏

rare! its not rare at all. Its ignored and not part of any soap story. Modern man is suffering for our ancesters underdevelopment's like a mental unconscious REPARATION .

Think of it as Redirection and not Rejection.

Same here. My ex-husband initially didn't cheat. He just thought we should both date. I thought that was a stupid idea. 20 years later, I'm married to the best man I've ever known and we've built a wonderful life together. I've experienced so many places and things that I never would have had I stayed married. I was angry and it was so painful at the time but he did me the biggest favor anyone ever has and I thank him.

I am starting to think my husband’s 2 yr affair woke me up and now I’m ready to live my life … he says he made a mistake and wants to work on our marriage and I am willing to try but even if after individual and couples therapy we cannot reconcile I know I will be ok … I feel like I found myself again after being lost for many years … I am focussing on me for the first time in decades and rediscovering what I want in my life … we have been together 35 yrs and I want to see if our love and connection can be rekindled but if it can’t I know I will be ok 👍👍👍

You cannot trust someone who has been unfaithful and disrespectful @@stephanie579

Do you truly get over it ever !

@@user-yu8zj9lf7e Nope, that’s why it’s the worst.

If screwing around is the worst thing a spouse can do, then you have led a sheltered life. I'd say verbal and emotion abuse which robs the person of their self-worth is the most difficult thing that a person can experience. Many marriages survive sexual betrayal, although most often it is the male doing the betraying. Yes, you do get over it.... you move on. You do learn to trust again, maybe that person, or another, but you do get over it. Otherwise, you have never learned and matured from any painful experience.

no, sexual betrayal is definitely the worst@@mandrews1245

You are right, but these things nowadays happen to a lot of people. It's not a heartbreaking thing, but it's life. Humans are made this way. Only a few are faithful. Ive been cheated on by all men, same happened to all my female friends. But I know there are also a lot of female cheaters out there.

@@thevcountdown9824 I don't know if this will be liked or not...but the reason this is happening to a lot of people is popular media. The way they are normalising this by stupid excuses.

I appreciate your concern but let me tell you something and God I hope I'm wrong, he WON'T EVER TRUST ANY WOMAN after what happened to him. It's always going to be instinctive for him. He may put on a show and might even fool the other person but it's always going to be there in the back of his head. He won't ever be vulnerable because now he knows better. We as viewers can't really say what might have driven her to do such a horrible thing. If something isn't working out you should always have conversations and end it as a last resort but cheating really has no place. It destroys lives and drives people a downward spiral of never ending unhappiness. I feel sad for him I really do. We can only speculate but some people really don't deserve what happens to them. It's just not fair. It never is

Don’t worry about him too much ladies. Thousands of women suffer terribly every day for the same reasons. He is a man, when he feels better, dozens of women will want to make him feel,better. My daughter is his age, she has been in sincere love three times, she’s been cheated on three times……and she has to,keep,going…..

@@thevcountdown9824 it never ceases to be heartbreaking. Unless you've hardened your heart which won't help with the next man in your life.

🙏✨️🦋

I agree! Sometimes the crappiest times are the time you have the biggest learning moments.

Stay strong. You will get through it x

Hi, I was 46, my husband also only told me when his girlfriend and work colleague was pregnant. He swiftly moved out to begin his new life. I was left with our 2 teenagers and our 8 year old, the feeling of loss was similar. I lost half my family, his relatives as there was real bitterness occurring. We had to sell our house, and lost our early retirement and future plans for some land we owned. We did have a lovely life together but he was suffering a midlife panic! Our now grown up children were affected, it was so big a betrayal and a huge shock. He also had a personality change that was strange. We did get through it and have a different life now but our family was fractured. 😢

Stay strong and yes you are loveable……his loss was to not realise that

Ditto. My first husband I were 34 when he had a long affair with, and impregnated, his subordinate co-worker (whose husband also worked there and was aware of the affair). Fortunately, he and I did not have kids together during our 11 year marriage. I handled the divorce process very similarly. Looking back 20 years later now, I believe my life has been much better than it would have been had we stayed together. Some blessings do not come in pretty packages.

@@DawnMLaPointe "some blessings do not come in pretty packages!" 🙌👍

Hope it's going well for you 10 months on. There's always a path...

Hope that you're OK and that things are working out for you

Sending you positive vibes

I have lived through that too. Nearly 15 years ago, on our 25th anniversary, my husband told me that he is leaving me for someone he met online. Sense of loss n sadness is still felt today.

How soul crushing.

You're so welcome! Really glad the show resonated with you! Team DOAC ❤️

So sorry 😢

life just changes overnight …..

Me too

You mean they are a bit clueless and have no idea about connection and mutual respect.

This resonates so much. My long-term boyfriend and I headed this way, and then he fell out of love.

I’m just recently divorced after a 44 year marriage,cheating fake husband who was not able to accept me mostly health issues.Let’s face it Sometimes your spouse is an ass more than you are an ass.The crux of it is who is willing to work on the difficulties and who is arrogant enough to think they are more important than the other… It’s a lot!

Thank you for this comment. I wonder if you could give some more comments or examples on creating common platforms for life?

@@thearodriguez8073 full on

Men have been told to be sensitive and share their feelings for at least the 35 years that I've been observing such things. Frequently it doesn't lead to good results if the person they are sharing with isn't extremely mature and have their best interests at heart.

Just so nice to hear guys talk real emotions. And have a great time talking about it, good, bad, clever and real. Never heard Steve engage so much. Loved it in this context of two guys trying to figure relationship stuff out.

Me, too! Loyal & faithful for 28 years. Even through some VERY tough times and being hit on by other guys since I lost 44 pounds. I would NEVER EVER cheat. No matter WHAT. My conscience and value system is in tact. 👍

So you think

We belong to the animal kingdom, so there are monogamous relationships that work, as you find animals that coupled forever like albatross but there are not very common…

​​@@stacysnider4899hat's wonderful!!! I believe in it too❤ (despite experiencing betrayal from previous partners). It depends on the person, and them keeping their integrity.

​@@pomelotree2it has to be enforced by society. Jordan Peterson explains it beautifully.

would love to meet this man.

nice guy finished last and this man is a living example.

@@alanalan4935 Exactly what I was thinking. It's so painfully true, but sooooo many people are attracted to toxic habits and people who chose a dark way of life. Eventually, when they screw their lives up they lose a lot and regret it. The problem is they screw with the lives of everyone around them in the process. It's so selfish.

If he is SMART, he will avoid women. Never cohabitate and never marry women. Snakes in the grass. Women can't even get along with their own gender. Says alot.

Nice guy the friend zone you go. His wife will have a child that eventually finds out she’s a whore, tough life ahead for that kid

He won’t. You and I know this. Rather than wishing him that. Wish him to open his eyes so be becomes more evil than people are. That’s the secret of a good life

@@blahblah2779wtf dude…you take being a hater to a whole new level 😅😂😂

Once you believe in yourself you will be ok through any situation

He's in a happy relationship now, can be seen on his instagram

i think that’s a bit of a stretch - happily ever after? ..life is about constant change and adapting ..

A very black and white view.

Such a beautiful soul

Women know what they lose, it's 80% of the time extremely pre- meditated, she had an affair not a one night stand. Women premeditate these things and think about it for hours. Men cheat instinctually

She knows. And she’ll find it again in a snap. That’s how it is.

Yes. More space on so important... Either a separate house/ apartment or at least separate bedroom, bathroom and you go visit.

Quite often Domestic Violence is the reason why. If something goes wrong I look first at myself and ask 'what am I doing wrong'... That was in 1985 The rest is History But in my case the c... deserved it. Ohh yes police heard it all Convicted of Domestic Abuse

[she] has destroyed the way he potentially thinks of marriages and manogamy at the same time.... ALL cheaters do this to their victims

Amazing how many shifty people are out there that do things like this.

That is precisely what I realized as soon he started talking is so sad what these kinds of people do to their victims.

he went trough the process and reflected on his believes he had in this relationship. now its over he can go a different path and change his believes, it does not mean his ex-wife shattered his believe in marriage. You are all too fixated on marriage. marriage does not mean happy life or being with someone, he did it for himself.

Believe in yourself, listen to your inner voice ❤

Once you said affairs...💔

There is a difference when someone says they Love You and cheat, as it means, I am selfish, you piick up my slack and I need you nearby to make myself feel better also help me pay the bills.

you deserve better ❤

Still waiting for a woman to condemn another woman 😂

so mature.. hope you're doing okay Superman!💪

Gwaaan superman!!

I disagree that’s shirking personal responsibility. If you kept things interesting and exciting inside and outside the bedroom and held the correct masculine frame, looked after yourself physically by training and even fight training, alongside constant self improvement across various other aspects such as better your financial position they’d likely not have done it. Do you genuinely believe that would have happened if you looked ripped, we’re earning good money, blew her away in the bedroom, come on mate your lying to yourself. Take responsibility.

​@@tommygbaby9830lol

Usually women have to have feelings for a person they let inside of them but men can cheat while being in love with someone else. They can and do seperate the love from the act of cheating quite often. They will go home having erased the other memory like it never happened. Kudos to the men that don’t but they’re a rare find.

@@debbiemanning5983but that means you don't respect your partner, your relationship nor you care about her getting hurt. Don't do something to your partner you don't want them do to you

@Debbie Manning No. That's just a sly cop out men use to shame women because they've been caught out. I, personally don't buy into that bs, if anyone is in a serious relationship, if either one cheats, it's over period. If you want multiple partners, stay single, detached and don't enter into serious relationships. Trouble is, people want their cake and eat it too. Subscribe to this bullshit, and you'll get burned....

Are u speaking from experience?

Affairs are just a symptom of something else that is going on in the marriage. I have been married twice and both ended because of an affair. Painful experience...took me years to recover

It's ok to be angry in exceptional circumstances like this, in my view it Will only be destructive if it's prolonged!.........remember even Jesus who was meant to be perfect for angry when the scribes, money changers and false prophets were gambling in the temple!!

Same!! You must wrote my exact 💯 thoughts. Incredible video. So thought provoking and I'm sharing this.

@@vicasbailey6895 He did say he did not feel his anger initially. it came after. He took the time to feel and heal.

Thank you for sharing your experience.

No women appreciate what they have. They live on chaos and excitement.

@@user-wq5ws1qs7x I wouldn’t categorize women in any absolutes. Many women may be like that, definitely not all women. Just like not all men are jerks, but many are.

We don't really know what their relationship was like and how they were growing apart and why.

@@charliemilroy6497 true, but that doesn’t mean you can cheat.

@@user-wq5ws1qs7x Yes, but people who get cheated on often just claim to be victims without taking any responsibility for their part in the breakdown of the relationship.

Me too :)

but you were after Chad in your 20ies and did not even see, men like him.

​@gunnargunn5473 you sound like a person that got dismissed for a 'Chad'. Let her feel her experiences in a comment section without your notion of what her experience really was. Grow up

@@obibuaku how about you go back peeling potatoes

@@gunnargunn5473 trigerrredd???? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 we see why you were dismissed and overlooked

F*ck no, and raise another man's child, a child she conceived while cheating on this guy? Lol no no no

In my own personal experience that does not happen. It is a nice revenge fantasy. I used to have this fantasy after my ex husband told me that he was going back to his affair partner 2 years after I discovered his affair and he promised to work on our marriage. After going through the divorce process I found out how much of a liar he really is and was. In fact he continued to lie to me after the divorce (we have 2 children). Now I hear of all of the lies he tells our children, his own mother and others. He just lies so much that it is hard for it to not get back to me.

He will Take her back! Trueuly belive😅what a fool

Yeah it is. Currently trying to heal myself from heartbreak due to infidelity ... and my soul is broken in a gazillion pieces. It's hard when there's a part of you that doesn't divorce & the other part does.

Shit happens. Get off the toilet, Wipe, flush , wash your hands and get on with your life. You don’t need fakers in your life.

You broke up a marriage for that. Sheesh!

@@rashapetrice5674 get a life.

@@rashapetrice5674 says a lot about you. Wouldn’t you break up if your wife cheated on you with a prostitute?

@@rashapetrice5674 why not?

@@rashapetrice5674 As she should've. Why stay with someone who clearly has no self-control - it would be a complete waste for her to "give it a shot".

He doesn’t seem forgiving to me. He basically exposed his ex-wife to whole word. Did she give consent to share her story of getting pregnant? I don’t think so. He gives unnecessary details such as she was having an affair with a colleague. That’s not relevant to his story but certainly can damage her career. This more looks like his way of revenge while seeming saint-like getting all the love and exposing his ex-wife to online hate, loss of reputation in real life, potential issues with her loved ones. I’m sure he thought about this too

NH, honestly, what happened, happened. She made a *choice* to cheat, and she made the choice to cheat with a colleague. Facts are facts, and the truth is the truth. He spoke the truth and the majority of extramarital affairs happen with a work colleague anyway. So this is not shocking or damning. She is not a victim and doesn't need to be "protected" like you think. Theyre no longer married. She got her happily ever after with her new man and a kiddo. She's moved on. This is his story just as much as hers and he has the right to speak the truth. Instead of having an affair she could have asked for a separation or a divorce and then got involved with the other guy to avoid this entire story even coming to fruition. But no, she had to have her cake and eat it too and caused a lot of emotional pain to others due to her own selfish desires. If she wasn't happy in the marriage she should have just left instead of all this sneaking around. So him sharing the story of his experience is simply one of the consequences she accepted when she decided the affair was worth having. It's not fair to accuse him of being reckless by sharing that it was a coworker and they got pregnant. He's just saying the truth. Wasn't she acting a tad "wreckless" when she pursued a full blown extramarital affair? Was she concerned with the humiliation and pain this would cause her husband? Clearly the risk was worth it to her.

@@nh7568 as she deserves

​@@nh7568what tf is wrong with you. Noone should have to explain to you why what your saying is sociopathic.

He has every right to speak his truth. He has done no harm to his ex wife .

Most people marry for security and feelings come and go for most

I dont believe that at all I think it's the typical feeling of betrayal. To say that it's ego and its the shattering of perceived control makes it sound like she wasn't in the wrong and that he's at fault due to his ego. Imo if he felt anger it would be justified and righteous. It's what he does afterwards that matters.

​@@onepunchflan3071agreed 👍 It is always about denying anger as a valid emotion

Anger is the ego reacting ... how poignant.

Nope he'll end up taking her back or getting someone else, just as bad. UNLESS he learned his lesson. Stop Simping! And be a gentleman until it is TIME NOT TO BE ONE! I'm sorry Y'ALL you got to have some BAD BOY IN'YA! AND STAY ON YOUR GRIND! BE UNPREDICTABLE! If you had shit going on before you meet a women keep it LIKE THAT!

That’s what Charles and Camilla did‼️CHEATERS‼️ And they should be crowned?? NO WAY‼️

It happened to me and I’m still trying to recover. This person is the center of your life, all we do is for them, and then you find out they’ve been cheating on you. Then your whole life changes, your goals change, your trust changes, the way you see people changes…… I digress

​@@Harmonious-jm3syit's one of the greatest dishonourable acts one can do imo.

Marriage is really outdated imho I prefer partnership and freedom

True

Indeed! Many who've endured heartbreak share a common trait: they place their spouses at the center of their universe. That notion is flawed. How can something external be the center of one's universe? These individuals allow their spouses to walk all over them and it often starts with subtle forms of disrespect. If they had asserted their boundaries at the very moment, many of these tragedies would never have happened. Love yourself more than you love anything in this world.

Not to be judgemental or anything but how could you justify supporting a bf for 3yrs

I was taught marriage was something to do also. Another thing people just did at a certain age. I made a lot of decisions I regretted based on that teaching and ended up in some awful situations. I believe many of us weren't taught about love properly. Unfortunate.

Yep, taught that marriage was the goal. I was miserable in all my relationships. I felt like I was treading water. I have been single for 10 years and have been at peace.

Ruth what we were "taught" in life the "expectations" that were laid on us - were the things that brought us the most pain! It is so freeing to be self actualizing and not be married/tied to another, so freeing to not have to make compromises, so freeing to just "be"! God bless you.

I'm in the same boat. Relationships I've had were always unsatisfying and made me feel like property, as he mentioned. I think it's very toxic. The red pill community is very representative of how men feel about women.

Men as a whole see women are sexual property we are the ones who say yes or fuck off lol

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Oh no! The cheater has a heart

Amen! ❤