Hi my lovelies!! I’m trying really hard to plan a studio space in the new home that you guys will love! To say I’m stressed about it would be a massive understatement lol
As someone with 2 kids, if my husband and I divorced, I would be very uncomfortable with some new woman moving in with him and our kids after 4 months. Like it's one thing if this is a person he's known YEARS and only just started dating. But meeting and dating within 4 months is way too short when young children are involved.
Yeah, new partners need to keep their distance from the kids for a while, really making sure the relationship holds, before becoming such a big part of children's lives. As a divorcee or widow(er,) you need to keep your love life and family separate for a long time, before involving your kids, because it damages kids so much if they grow to like someone, and that person suddenly leaves because of a breakup.
@@princessRosy81 like she said in this video, the kids would’ve needed a credit card and an account on the site to be able to even find out about it. The only way that’s being discussed is if one of the parents tells their kids.
Story number 4.... loosing someone that important and feeling that grief is indescribable... the pain lessons, but it’s always there... the support and love that couple shares literally makes me cry. You said it Rebecca... that is the prime example of a healthy, loving secure safe relationship!! My sister also would have been on the sidewalk.... and why couldn’t she go to her moms...??? One of my favorite stories so far on all the episodes!!!!! ❤
@Joshua Ruder I’m sorry ppl said that to you.... everyone grieves in different ways and time... you’re allowed to be as sad as you feel for as long as you feel... I’m sorry for your loss.
When mom got involved my first thought was, you’re the parent why can’t you help your daughter out in her hard times? Why is her sister the only option?
One thing I'm upset about the last story was that the sister kept calling the husbands first wife his "Ex". If you break up with someone, thats an Ex. His wife passed away and he loved her. It really upsetting that the sister didn't seem to understand that and was trying to say to the person telling the story that it was bad to have a picture of someone you really care about.
Exactly! His 1st wife is not an ex, she is deceased. I can't tell you how many sets of spouses I have buried at my work (I run a cemetery) in which a young spouse died and they remarried and both spouses are buried with them.
I saw the original. I know Mrs Rodgers said “ex-plaything”, but to me it was even worse. In the original sis called the deceased wife an “ex-toy”. It would have taken the will of a god for me to not slap her into next week after that remark.
That is why I chose not to get into a relationship after my husband divorced me. My daughter was 7 at the time and there was no way I was going to risk her being abused. Abusers don't have a warning stamped on their foreheads and they can be very loving and supportive to the mother in order to gain her trust so they can get to her child.
Yes, the s**ual abuse rate of children goes up so much higher when you have a non-related male living in the house. Some step dads are awesome, but you have to be extremely careful and having a boyfriend move in with them that quickly doesn’t seem like having the kids’ best interest at heart.
As someone with ADHD that first story really hits hard. I GoT HiM a pLanNEr!!!! I couldn't use a physical planner even if you put a gun to my head. I feel proud when I use the one in Google. She's so hung up on him being 'responsible and forgetful' and I've had that thrown in my face my whole life as it is. I don't need that from a partner....
I’m in the process of getting tested and my doctor wants me to start writing in a planner but every time i try to do that, i lose the streak after a week of two
Ok, I have to comment on the last story. That husband is almost me. I was married to my first with four 2 years before she died in a car wreck. I later met my now wife of 9 years, and I remember exactly what she said that made me realize how special she was. She asked about my first wife, and when I asked why she was so curious, she said that my first wife was a big part of my life, and if she wanted to get to know me, she needed to know about her. I was floored. I told her that that attitude wasn't normal. It was great, but not normal. Y'all, when we were talking baby names while she was pregnant with our little girl, she asked if I wanted to name her after my first wife. Because of her suggestion, my daughter has my first wife's middle name as her own. She knows about my first wife, and we keep a picture of my first wife and I on the fridge. I related to this story hard core. Which is why I'm surprised to feel so much pity for the sister. I get where she's coming from. It seems like she's been hurt, and can't fathom the trust being married to a widower includes. Like I told my now wife, that mentality isn't normal. Let's of people struggle with feeling like they are competing with a memory, which is often glorified and all the black spots covered up. I pity her because she sounds like someone who had been hurt. I don't know that I'd kick her out, but she needs a serious "come to Jesus" talk before she'd be able to stay.
I married a widower 2 years after his first wife passed away. He has pictures of her in the house and one in his wallet. They don’t bother me one bit. If he passes before me his ashes will be buried next to hers in his home town. He says if I go before him I’ll be there too.
Can we talk about how she pretended to use a scene from the fourth story to trick us. Like I literally sat through the fourth story trying to figure out why she thought she was a bad apple, I was very relieved.
I actually like that because the earlier stingers she inserted tended to spoil the stories somewhat since I knew what her opinion would be going in. With these fake ones, it still leaves mystery to the outcome.
I set rules with my kids and partners, after 3months of dating you can meet the kids in public places ie. Park, out to eat, movies, zoo, after 6months you introduce to the other parent and as long as the other parent is okay with it, that's when you can go into the home, be in my kids "safe space" both boys fathers have to follow the same rule, as well as myself, it keeps the kids safe and comfortable which Is the only priority when they are involved.
I suggest if you want to be like the first person and plan on seeing someone, ask the other party if they can be home on such a date so you can video chat them. It's a great way for them to stay home or say that they have something going on. Set up a time for the "video chat" so it's planned, but they actually don't know the real thing. I think it would work out a WHOLE lot better.
Story 2: As a Christian I 100% agree with you. Even though it goes against your morals that doesn't give you the right to judge or be awful to that person. Honestly the kids won't care at all about OF, and why would they know anything about this woman or her side hustle. Have a great day Mrs. Rogers I love your videos! ❤️
Yes exactly. We only have a problem with those who are actively trying to spread their sinful and immoral behavior to others, especially to children. But what you do with your body and life is only between you and the lord, and not someone else's business.
I am SEETHING with anger over the last story. She absolutely did the right thing kicking the sister out. Those were some horrible and nasty things she said
In the fourth story. Who the hell does the sister think she is? Coming into someone's home. Living in that home rent free. And then trying to break up her sister's relationship with her man? She got off easy! Huge props that woman for having her man's back. I agree with you 100% Mrs Rogers.
Story 3 when I was a kid and had the emergency contact information for school one was my mom , one was my dad and the last one was a neighbor my parent knew very well. Not some stranger they knew for less then six months.
I highly doubt apple 2 is actively telling all the kids about her “side hustle”. A friend I went to college with used to be a, “street pharmacist” and is now a highschool teacher. I HIGHLY doubt the students are ever gonna know or care
Story 2: I 100% agree with you!! The first question out of my mouth was "how did they find out...? Someone has to be partaking in that to know! I don't have one, and I don't go there, but I have coworkers who do have one, and I've heard stories about the site... So I have a basic understanding of what goes on there, and you're right! It's nobody's business! And just because you do that doesn't mean you are going to be gross towards kids.
The plain background is calming and cute, which i feel is your vibe. I feel like having posters and other things would maybe distract from the stories but i digress. Love what you’ll be doing either way😊
In your 3rd story I agree with you completely! I’m a single mom and was screaming NO at the phone the whole time. The boyfriend of 4 months should not be the emergency contact!
I love how you tell the stories, you tell them as the speaker, to the point where I have no idea what you're going to say after, and you play the part so well! It's crazy how well you talk as these people, in the WCMTSU series too, you're very talented! (btw if anyone says your voice is annoying, I listen to your videos to relax and do homework or just do something mindless, your voice is not annoying at all)
I'm in the same position as the last story. My girlfriend of 4 years died in a car accident, and I got a memorial tattoo on my chest over my heart. At the time, I was so distraught that I didn't think how it would look to future girlfriend having that tat at that location, but my now wife complete understands and it doesn't bother her because she knows I love her, and my ex gf ghost will never come between us. If I could do it again, maybe I wouldn't put it at that location, but I would still have the tat. She knows that, and she knows God forbid something were to happen to her, I would do it for her to. I appreciate that there's other women that wouldn't accept it, I've met a few of them and that's their right, but I'm happy there's others like my wife.
I’m so glad you could find another partner and I’m now assuming your happy now but I think it’s really sweet that you got a memorial tattoo for your former girlfriend but it’s great to know that it doesn’t affect your wife that she understands because a lot of woman would probably be really upset.
My former fiancé passed away unexpectedly 59 days before we were to be married. My now husband knows my love for him is different than that of Clayton (former fiancé). I will be getting a memorial half sleeve of a lion with his initials and dob and dod under it. He completely supports me getting it as it honors Clayton and we know he’s the one who brought us together.
For a very split second when Rebecca said people were gonna get at her, I was scared she was gonna reveal she was anti-sex work. Glad to hear she's as nice about that topic as she is about everything else.
@@Rebecca.Rogers Aaw, I couldn't have put it better myself. If no one is getting hurt and someone is happy with how they're putting a roof over their head, I see no problem here.
@Rebecca Rogers (Mrs. Rogers) As a conservative, I have to say that I agree with most of what you say. You make rational arguments wich is becoming harder to find in today's internet that amplifies the worst of the worst of both sides. And trust me, we despise hypocritical and narcissistic "conservatives" just as much as we despise so called "woke libberals" so keep up what you're doing and don't let extremists silence you.
I HAVE to say, every time she says "many ppl mag disagree with me" I hold my breathe and then a sigh of release even tho I know we think the same. I still worry tho. #neverlosefaith
For the 3rd story...If the boyfriend were to be made an emergency contact for the kids' school, what happens if something goes wrong and the relationship ends? It's definitely not a thing someone would want or even want to consider happening, but the boyfriend could very easily take the kids from the school (at least as far as I'm aware). From my experience with my old schools, emergency contacts have the right to take the kids from school. It's just the possibility. Idk I just would be on edge that this could happen if it were me.
Story 3: I moved in with my now wife and her kid after half a year of getting together. But it was at least another year before both my then fiancé and her kid both trusted me enough to be comfortable with me for me to be an active father figure rather than just "mommy's boyfriend". The bio dad is still not comfortable with me being in the picture after nearly a decade. So, while I believe that OP's "comfortableness" should not factor into the equation of how his ex lives her life, he does bring up a good point when saying that 4 months is way too soon for everything he's describing. Could he have worded his concerns better? Sure, but he's human and worried for his kids, so we should cut him some slack. I'm giving him a good apple.
I saw the beginning bit and when she was reading the last story I legitimately thought I was going to take offense to what she had to say because the sister had NO business asking questions and being HATEFUL to her brother in law's late wife!!!! So thankful she voted good apple!!!!
I have to admit when I read the title of this episode I was fully prepared to go with bad apple for the story about kicking the sister out of the house but after hearing it she’s an entire bushel of good apples.
The situation with kicking the sister out almost made me cry. I dated a boy for 8 months (I'll call him James) when I was 19 and unfortunately he died under very traumatic circumstances. He was my first real love, I wanted to marry him and have babies together and I was completely devastated when he passed. I never thought I'd be able to move on after that but I some how I met a very sweet boy in my college bio class. We became study buddies and soon after we were dating. Now we've been together for 3 years and we live together with lots of pets. If anyone tried to tell me that I shouldn't be allowed to keep what few photos of I have of James or the two of us together idk what I'd do honestly. They definitely wouldn't be welcome my house again, so huge props to that woman for standing up for her husband and his first wife ❤️
As a Christian, I 100% agree with Mrs. Rogers' answer for number 2. Also, about the scenery, as long as YOU love it and it makes YOU happy, I really don't care 😂
Story 4, Why does the sister think she gets a say in their relationship and how they run their home? He lost a loved one. Just because he's remarried doesn't mean the first wife should be forgotten. It's a good thing that his second wife is comfortable with it and encourages the memories he has. That's real love.
Story 1 just confused the crap outta me 😂 Story 2: No!! Not the bad apple! Your sister should be sticking up for you! What you do in your spare time is your business! Story 3: Not the bad apple in my opinion. Four months isn't long enough to trust them with your two infant children. Maybe if they were engaged, or if they'd been dating for at least a year, then it would be different. Dad is good apple. Story 4: BRUH. Good apple! Your sister is being such a jerk!
I agree with the father on the third story. After hearing how the women responded when she didn't get her way, by sending her flying monkey (mom) to do her daughters bidding, and the fact that the boyfriend moved in only 4 months, are major red flags. From my heavy studying of narcissism, this is a strong case. I feel bad for the father of the kids. Past situations like this only goes from bad to worst. Normal relationships don't move that quickly.
Story 1: Bad apple. I have ADHD and no matter how many calendars or memory aides I use, I still can't remember things story 2: good apple. Its no ones business about her side job Story 3: Crab apple. I don't think mom is being unreasonable wanting the BF on the contact list but i can see the dads point of view too. This is one of those where i want more information. Is she asking to take the dad off and replace him with the BF or just adding BF on? Does dad live to far away to be on the list? Does dad have a reason not to like/trust BF or is it just because he is new? Story 4: Totally good apple. I love that she is so secure in her relationship and accepts that part of her husbands life. This is an absolutely beautiful relationship and 100% support kicking the sister out
Thank you Miss Rogers I would like to say every time you say I know lots of people want to agree with this you always end up agreeing with the things that I was thinking
3: I agree that everyone has their own time line. What works for one couple or one family can be very different for another. However, regardless of age or gender I think it would be concerning to have any SO move in after only 4 months of dating when there are children & a co-parent to consider. The co-parent does not know the SO nor trust them. Emergency contacts need to be trusted by both parents/guardians. Except in very unique circumstances.
Um…as a child of a Nurse I can testify that YES we do get to hear about the blood and guts, puss, phlegm, pee, 💩 and a wide variety of other gross and disgusting details related to our parent’s job. It’s actually normal conversation.
Lol best timing for that well-wish at the end. I've been spending this whole week deep cleaning and organizing our apartment including stuff that has been sitting around since our wedding over a year and a half ago.
Story # 3: If you want to move quickly in your relationship that is on you and not your kids!!! Better safe than sorry, don’t leave your kids alone with a person you don’t really know. With that said, you shouldn’t rely on your new boyfriend to be an emergency contact, you should continue to plan as if he is not part of your life. In future you can add him to your emergency contact but not now the relationship is too new.
Honestly, when you said what are your opinions on background colours, my brain instantly went to the colour of your sweater because it is such a warm orange that I think is fabulous.
For the story about the dad being upset about the mom's bf moving in, is the EXACT THING MY FATHER DID! 2 WEEKS after the split up with my parents (they're not legally divorced yet) he started talking to some woman. And 2 months later she moved in. And my father decided that my and my brothers (10 and 6) should call her mom. I was 12 at the time and now I am 14 years old and am living with my real mother and haven't spoken to my father.
I love how mrs Rogers talk about people. She’s always so kind yet direct. I wish I had her as a teacher! Keep up the good work, Miss Rogers! We love these videos! Maybe a house tour soon?❤
Apple #3... as a divorced parent my ex husband and I agreed that we wouldn't have new our daughter around our new partners for at least 6 months into new relationships. So I agree with the dad I this story.
I agree with you on all the apples. For story 3 I agree with red flags for boyfriend with little girls. I've known too many friends who were s** abused by family or mom's boyfriend. If something feels off err on the side of caution. As for the 4th story I have heard of people who refused to let a spouse have any pictures or things from a deceased spouse. It is NOT the same as a break-up or divorce. If you are so insecure that your spouse can't talk about or have memories of deceased spouse then you don't deserve your spouse. I have been in a relationship after his wife died. I encouraged him to talk about her and to keep things of hers. They were together for 25 years and my then being in the picture doesn't erase his past. It's part of what made him who he is and the grief never stops. My dad grieved for my mom for 11 1/2 years until he died and my ex mother in law grieved for 40 years until she died. I hate people who refuse to acknowledge that kind of grief and are so hateful. Im so thrilled that she stood up to her sister that way and I pray she didn't let her mom convince her to change her mind. As for the walls I like the way it is now but I also have reactors who have things on the wall. I want it to be a reflection of who you are because you are why I watch and you are fabulous just the way you are. If it were me there would be geek stuff everywhere because I am. Or it would have a nautical theme. But that's me. I want you to do you. ❤️❤️
Story 1: Bad apple, it was SO sweet that he cancelled his plans for them and even said "You should've told me so I could cancel sooner", "not you should have told me so I could tell you not to come."\ Story 2: Good Apple, they're kids, how are they gonna know? She doesn't even talk about it. She already bought the face paint...come on Story 3: Crab Apple, I understand being uncomfortable about his daughters' safety, but like how he handled it. He laughed at her instead of explaining his concerns like an adult. Story 4: Good apple, Her sister doesn't sound so great tbh...
I don't really understand the bad apple I get that he is being sweet but I just don't see how that makes her the bad apple I honestly this she is a good apple but can you elaborate further on why she is the bad apple?
@@Marvelover15 I think its' because she expected him to have his schedule clear for something he didn't know about, and she was really rude about it to him afterwords
For the first story, if it means that much to her, GET A JOINT GOOGLE CALENDAR!!! Then he can keep dozing what he is doing and u can be aware of plans!
My parents divorced when I was like 17 and between then and my turning 21 my mom had 4 boyfriends that moved into the house or slept over frequently. They weren't exactly great guys (which is why they didn't last, obvs) but they never did anything inappropriate either. However, if me and my younger brother were young children during this period instead of older teenagers able to process the whole situation, I can't imagine a world where my dad would have been okay with them being an emergency contact instead of a relative. And, in the unlikely event that they were a contact and it was needed, I think I would have been not comfortable with that. I don't have children yet, but I feel like it's a fairly common rule to not introduce your young kids to the people you date until months in, let alone just move them in like that.
I'm in agreement with you! I usually am, though. I like the way you are so articulate! I'm here for the stories and your opinion. The background doesn't matter.
I kid you not, I once had a parent of a preschooler bring a random neighbor to school to put her name on the list to pick up his son. When we asked him the neighbor's name, HE DIDN'T KNOW! He had to ask her what her name was!! It was the most uncomfortable thing ever!!!!
The one with the 4 mo boyfriend moving in... as a mom, if I was that Dad I would be very upset she had a guy move in with his young daughters after such a short time. I might even try to keep them out of that home and would definitely want to know him. The stats on that kind of situation are just not good.
Story 1: completely agree and I would add that if you’re in somewhat of a distance relationship, why would he need to keep you updated on every single thing on his calendar when he’s not expecting you to come visit. Sure, it’s nice to keep up with the general schedule so you know when you can connect and feel like part of each other’s lives, but to INSIST that he tells you ahead of time EVERYTHING he’s doing has a red flag feel for me. Especially when there’s no reason for him to expect it to affect you.
I'm currently stuck at home with 2 fractures in my lower back (I was in a pretty bad car accident early Sunday morning, thank god no one else was involved) and honestly just listening to Mrs. Rogers talk makes it not suck as much 🥺
I’m not sure what lights you have but I think you should change the colour depending on what teir of Apple you gave them. Red for Bad Apple, Yellow for Good Apple and Orange for Crab Apple. I think that would be cool. But depending of if you can do it easily or not, I’d say just keep it how it is
First one Crab Apple. I don't think it's the surprise that's upsetting her but she's upset that he doesn't remember plans he makes. I think this was just the "straw that broke the camels back" kinda moment. My husband can be like this too; forgetting plans he's made with someone or he's made for himself until the last minute. Also when you're with someone whom you know basically their whole schedule, it can be upsetting when they spring on you last minute that they have plans. I agree with the last 3.
I love the stories and the background! But I just want to say thank you for your encouragement at the end of the video. I’m sick and having a really hard time with it and focusing on my schoolwork at the same time. Thank you for the motivation wishes!!
I totally agree for all 4!! You are so cute asking what background… If I had to pick definitely something similar to what you have now for a background. I notice when creators have a lot of stuff in the background, I am always trying to make out what something is or says and get distracted. So I like what you have now less distracting. Btw I love the clip inserts- they have been so funny 😊
I am really loving how there are random memes splattered in the video after your reactions; I think it makes the video that much more entertaining. I think It'd also be really funny if you added some honestTeacherVibes quotes because those are hilarious "This is some unseasoned chicken energy" "If you mad, put on a cape so you can be SUPER mad" "What in the HellMan's Mayonaisse"
Omg...totally on the Dad's side... the Mom is insane!! She barely knows the bf after 4 months!! If he was any type of a man he'd tell his gf what a crappy idea that is...girl...kids or not...common sense... you were totally right on this one!
That second story......OMG!! as someone that escaped this very form of Christian better-than-you-ism I can give some perspective. Conservative Evangelicals are the single most judgemental group of people you will ever meet. Not to mention hypocritical. If you aren't doing exactly what they think you should be doing your trash, you don't belong, and your only value is as a project. A soul to be saved. Sure, Ms Suzy holier-than-thou "heard about" or "accidently found" this woman's only fans and needed clout among her church friends. So I'm sure she shared it as a "prayer request" or a "concern" because you know the Bible says that Christians aren't supposed to gossip. This actually reminds me of the time the conservative pastor who pretty much drove me to leave the church I had been in for years. He was so hypocritical and judgemental I had had it. Long story short, I once saw him at the local gay bar where i was a regular. I never said anything to his flock, but you better believe i walked up to the group of guys he was with and said, "Hi Pastor!" He tried to completely shun me and not speak to me after that but i would still occasionally visit that church and purposely put him in positions where he had to acknowledge me or look like the bad apple. Am I the bad apple?
For me personally I think having a themed background for each season, (like sunflowers for summer, pink and yellow flowers for spring, snowflakes for winter and colored leaves for fall.) on the day the season starts or maybe for the week the season starts. Other times I like a color background
I personally have divorced parents and when it comes to emergency contacts even if I knew that my parent new partner was in my emergency contacts it would probably make me so so awkward especially if it was over a family friend or family member.
I don't think that a boyfriend of 4 months has any business being on a emergency contact list. Timeline's vary of course, but revisit that situation once the mom and him are married
ok for the question at the end: i love the background you have now and i also loved the old background you had with all the pictures and decorations. i do think if you go with just having lights and your pay buttons in the background could you do like themed colors? like red and green for christmas or team colors for your favorite football team or other football/basketball etc. sports. i think it’d look really good and i’d like it but you do you and do what makes you comfortable
I would have thrown her out too! also if my mother said it was my responsibility to take care of her I would have just said if she felt so strongly about it she could take care of her. When my mother was married to her boyfriend (I will not be explaining that so don't bother asking) he didn't make her take pictures of my dad down he didn't see the picture I have of my father holding me as a baby and demand me to get rid of it (not that I would have if he did) Honestly his late wife is dead him holding onto a photo of her isn't that big of a deal.
Because He's clearly jealous and He judged the guy because he has been with his ex For 4months (I know there are kids involved),But at The same time he is worried about his daughters Safety
@@Zoom_fast911 He didn't sound jealous to me, just genuinely uncomfortable. I mean, asking someone to be an emergency contact for your kids after knowing them for 4 months is a bit much.
