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1.she is not interested in uh. 2.she is keeping her eyes on some one. 3.bad relationship in past 4.she is using uh to benefit from you 5.failing to make her attractive emotionally
Thank you Jess once again. My love chases and heartbreaks have let me to this juncture that is now the mantra of my life; Never-Ever-Try-To-Make-Someone-Happy- At-The-Expense-of-Your-Own-Happiness. Every matured man should be able to define what they want in life. The biggest lesson I have learned is never to be afraid to let someone go if that's what it comes to. Never try to switch a woman into a WILL gear ⚙ if they are not ready to switch into that gear. Matter of fact, they should automatically switch into the gear if they truly love you. She should love you the same way as you love them. Love is not some precious rare gem 💎 to be chased in other people. If you can have a will power to love her and sacrifice for her, she must have that will power too. If she can't chip in, she must definitely chip out. We must be in it together or else each one must go their separate way! To those men who have been broken 💔 by women, take your time to just be out of relationships with women, enjoy your God's given life without a woman, reflect on yourself, check back on what you went through; you will realise how 90% of the time women use a man's feeling of love to achieve their manipulative selfish objectives. You will then come to the realization that you have power over your feelings for someone. You will come to the realization that love shouldn't start with some specific woman and should definitely not end with that specific woman. You will come to the realization that in as much they broke your heart, you heal, you move on with your life to fall in love all over again with another woman; different one ofcourse. The one who broke you will be in the past and you will not even have an inch of a feeling over them anymore. Take control of yourself, do what is best for you, pull off the plugs and leave her if that's what it comes to.
My brother is in his early 20s. I am in my early 30s. He was interested in a lady who told him that she wasn't ready for a relationship. Two weeks later she was in a relationship with someone and shortly afterwards the got a house together. I told him that 1. She wanted to let him down easily and didn't want to lose the friendship. 2. She was full of it for saying she wasn't ready for a relationship because you don't suddenly just decide to be in a relationship with someone and get a home afterwards. He dodged a bullet.
Thank you Jess once again. My love chases and heartbreaks have let me to this juncture that is now the mantra of my life; Never-Ever-Try-To-Make-Someone-Happy- At-The-Expense-of-Your-Own-Happiness. Every matured man should be able to define what they want in life. The biggest lesson I have learned is never to be afraid to let someone go if that's what it comes to. Never try to switch a woman into a WILL gear ⚙ if they are not ready to switch into that gear. Matter of fact, they should automatically switch into the gear if they truly love you. She should love you the same way as you love them. Love is not some precious rare gem 💎 to be chased in other people. If you can have a will power to love her and sacrifice for her, she must have that will power too. If she can't chip in, she must definitely chip out. We must be in it together or else each one must go their separate way! To those men who have been broken 💔 by women, take your time to just be out of relationships with women, enjoy your God's given life without a woman, reflect on yourself, check back on what you went through; you will realise how 90% of the time women use a man's feeling of love to achieve their manipulative selfish objectives. You will then come to the realization that you have power over your feelings for someone. You will come to the realization that love shouldn't start with some specific woman and should definitely not end with that specific woman. You will come to the realization that in as much they broke your heart, you heal, you move on with your life to fall in love all over again with another woman; different one ofcourse. The one who broke you will be in the past and you will not even have an inch of a feeling over them anymore. Take control of yourself, do what is best for you, pull off the plugs and leave her if that's what it comes to.
This woman is really a blessing to us men,I have actually come to realize that am in a wrong relationship because of her.may God bless u abundantly Jessica 🙏
I met this woman a couple months ago and we had been somehow communicating daily and also going in dates. Then like out of the blue she essentially says she just wants to be friends. The week of this messaging she made a few moves that seemed to really show she was thinking of me and caring for me. And I responded in appreciation. Then later that week…boom “I gotta sort things out in my life and I want to be friends if that’s ok with you” so I fell back and everything was way different than before. I decided that I’m falling all the way back and not “being her friend” i told her if she’s gonna want to engage me and all that’s on her and I won’t be reaching out anymore. I think it’s another guy (probably her most recent ex) must’ve surprised her with some grand gesture that week. Nonetheless as much as I was feeling her I have to keep moving and not play myself
@@supamanlova9250 possibly. I doubt that’s the case because I hadn’t made any specific moves that week. For brevity I up to that point I was trying to decide between her and another woman so I know I wasn’t even giving her attention for real. Like I said in my comment she made multiple moves that week (including the day before that text) that were pointing to her interest. It was very abrupt
Reading through the comments, Just when I was about to personalize the video because of how it directly addresses the situation am currently in, I see a lot of guys share similar experiences and have almost the same situation going on in their lives at same time. That means we men often blindly get ourselves to be emotionally entangled with ladies that don't want us. So I recommend to Jessica to help with a video that directly address this area. So we know at what point should a man starts to take a woman serious in a relationship. And at what point should we allow the emotions to be involved? But this video has now given me a sense of direction and clarity as to what to do. Last night I found myself kneeling down to beg for love when she clearly told she doesn't want anything serious with me. My ego was badly wounded. My confidence was gone. And I struggled to breath as tears ran down my cheek like a little boy. So I came to the office today wondering what to do and what kind of treatment she should be getting from me going forward. Then I stumbled unto this video which has now brought clarity and direction. From today, I am completely turning away from her. From now she seizes to exist in my world. Even if she turn around to look for me tomorrow, it is too late. Thank you @JessicaOS, you are a tremendous blessing to me.
This will be novel’ish As someone who is currently in the midst of such a situation. I often find myself researching and trying to learn about a mindset and certain emotions a special girl might posses that I am not used to. Even though I came across this as a search to find answers. I see certain comments and I feel like I can actually share a little to maybe help. First of all…… Don’t give up. Second……. Don’t listen to respond, listen to reinforce your understanding and your stance. After my 10 year marriage ended, I was in a very dark place too. I was afraid of sharing my heart because it wasn’t whole. It was shattered. Suddenly I was a single dad. Something I had never asked for. Tough place to be. But I met someone very special about 9 months ago and after hearing just pieces of her story I began to realize that my heartbreak couldn’t compare to the tragic and painful past she was sharing with me. As I stood there listening to her, I knew completely and without question. If I wanted to pursue this woman (and I was certainly feeling that way) I would have to face things that I had no idea how to face. There was so much pain, so much doubt, so much fear, loss, devalued self worth, guilt, etc….. But here’s the thing. Although I saw all of that on the surface. What I saw inside was what grabbed my heart. She was strong. Stronger than she knew, stronger than I had ever seen. I am a man of faith. I try to focus on God and seek his plan. So I cried out and asked for direction. The answer was tenderness not romance. Compassion not lust. Respect not impatience. No way, would I ever crack this shell by thinking for myself. I had to think with her emotions. Learn triggers. See the pain and take some of it upon myself to truly understand. Sure I could do and say many things to teach her how special she is. Remind her of her beauty, her worth, value, and rarity. All of those things are great but without respect for her boundaries and what she needs to process. All would be wasted. Not long after we met. Circumstances changed and the friendship was forced into a long distance connection. To maintain the “vibe” I became attached to talking daily. But she needed help and a time came that I could no longer provide that. When she began therapy to overcome the trauma she had endured. She slowly started pulling away. I saw it coming and knew what was happening. But I still tried my best because I was desperate to see my continued impact. Then she got new advice. The Therapist advised her to distance herself from any emotional pull from others. I was clearly in that category and I completely understood it. So recently (the better part of two months) we haven’t had much communication. Her mother reached out to me and explained what was happening very softly and respectfully asked for space. Not just from me. From all outside connections. She had to take time to focus on herself and fall in love with herself again. So as confusing and hard as it’s been. That is what I am doing. She didn’t pull away out of anger towards any pressure I created. She just needed to focus and allow the therapy to take its place in her healing. I tell you all of that so I can give the advice that I intended. The idea of running away from her is mind boggling to me. That’s terrible advice and it should be ignored. Ask yourself how many people have already done that to her. I can give you the answer. If she has pain in her past, trust issues, or fear of a relationship. The answer is EVERYONE. Everyone has run from her at some point. That’s why shes here. If she knows your feelings. She knows your desires. Let it be and don’t go away completely until you are asked to do so. People ask me everyday how long I will wait for this girl. That question has two answers. As long as it takes. or Or until I am told that I shouldn't. Try to remember these things. RESPECT (no elaboration needed) Don’t give up when she expects you to. Remember its probably her past that makes her feel like you will. You are not the cause of her wounds. If you love her, love her without apologizing for it. If space is needed. Only you can provide it. Shes not going to beg for it. She will ask once, maybe twice. Failing to understand its importance will morph your fears into reality. She will never ask you to wait. But you will do it if you think shes worth it. She feels guilty that you’re putting your life on hold for her. Ignore that. She feels guilty about things you will never understand. Guilt is probably her most painful emotion to overcome. You are not a band aid, so don’t act like one. Hookups are band aids. Affairs are band aids. True friends are not. Encouragement is still valuable while giving space. Send periodic messages that she doesn’t need to respond to. Do not burden her with the guilt of “ignoring” you. Remind her that you’re proud. Do what you can to leave love out of it. Just tell her she is strong and you are thinking about her. praying for her etc. Remind her that you are always there “IF” she needs you not “WHEN”. Don’t come across as assuming. (space these messages out. Don’t think daily right now, think weekly) Remember that she is probably less in love with herself than you are with her. She has to get there in order to give you or anyone the best version of her. She cannot give the broken version away. The fear of sabotage is too much. If you are good, she fears ruining you. She wants to be heard but she will never beg for your ear. You just always have to be listening. Take the time to work on yourself. If you have fear and doubt about her. Take the time away to rid yourself of those emotions. Uproot your own darkness that is causing them. She likely wasn’t looking for you when you arrived. You showed up out of nowhere. There are probably feelings that confuse her from the very first conversations you had. No matter how much time has passed since. Those confusing emotions still run through her mind. That’s ok. That’s likely good or she would have cut you off completely before letting you into her circle to begin with. Remember that the confusion you feel right now does not compare to hers. The time that goes by will suck. You will miss her. But there is nothing else you can do. Tell yourself everyday that you deserve her. Tell yourself that she deserves your patience. Focus on what makes you special to begin with. She is worth it. Or you wouldn’t be here asking this question. That’s most important thing I can say. When you tell a girl that she is worth it or she’s worth the wait. I promise you shes heard that song before. So far no one has made that true to her. No one has actually finished the song, recorded it, and gave it to her to keep. Be the guy that that completes her playlist. She has a wall that you will never completely tear down. You will remove a few bricks from time to time. But if you really like whats on the other side of that wall. You will try again and again to climb over it. When that person decides to love you she will love you so completely and faithfully that you will be glad you waited. She will not give her love away casually. Stay focused. Keep climbing. The man on top of the mountain didn’t just fall and land there. (Not my quote) God Bless You
Ouchh!....those last words hurt for some weird reason....➡➡ ..."these same people who seemed so relationship averse just moments ago will suddenly be ready to walk the aisle if their own perception or ideal partner came their way". Oh Jessica, the truth is really bitter indeed😪😪
Thank you Aunty @Jessica. I admired how smart and calm you talk. Please can you make a video on how you get to develop this great conversation skill? Thank you in advance 😊
I believe that all ladies are always ready to get into a relationship. Especially if they’re single. That’s where your other tips come in Jess. The guy needs to build himself and not look desperate right? 🤠
Your videos gave me the warning signs I needed to break up with my ex who wasn’t really serious but she wanted the experience of a long distance relationship. Fellas if you got a gut feeling don’t shake it off don’t waste your time and energy !
She asked me out. We dated for 2 months but we were basically dating 3 months before that. Then she dumped me saying she wasn’t ready for a relationship…
Same thing bro. We where going strong for 4 months talked every day kids got along met her family and everything just yesterday after spending the day with me and her son she text me and said she’s not ready for a relationship i guess it’s time to move on that’s all that can be done she told me she would be hurt seeing me with someone else but I left it at happy birthday and not planning on saying anything
Save what's left of your dignity 💝 what's a way to end this awesome video. To Respect someone decision is important and the moment you make peace ✌️ with it the better. Thanks for this video.
Thanks very much Jessy, this is very educative and informative, some people ignore the red flags even though when it is showing glare that the lady is not interested but just wasting his time. Thanks very much once again for this education.
Jess. You are always spot-on! This video resonates with what I experienced with a long-term girlfriend. I wish I had seen this at the beginning of the relationship with her...
Have been in this situation where the lady took advantage of me loving her very much and by the look of things, she just liked my company. She was not ready to commit and give her full attention to me. She could call when she felt lonely in some occasions but when I felt like talking to her, she could switch her phone off or fail to answer. All of these stuff you've mentioned here pointing at obstacles that do impediment commitments from her side were very much visible in her. I had to quit though it took me time to get over it. Love sucks and I just date of late. I fear dating coz I do give my all. I felt stupid and am in the process of healing though it's 3months ago.
This is easy. Just help her along with her decision if she can't decide on what she wants. Just politely end the relationship and move on. No need in begging or playing those traditional female mind gymnastics. Just say "NEXT"
Very helpful peace there Jessica. Great to address such common challenge that most people ignore. This is where majority of young men are. Actually major course of failed relationships and marriage.
Love your advise Jessica, I've been so confuse with the mix signal she's giving, she was open bout her private life she wouldn't share to others, she said things really brings a signal but when i confess i love her she said shes not ready for a relationship, told me it is really her trying to fix her life currently, i do see it is true no lies there. Next week we'll go out again im gonna be confess & get the straight answer. Do hope all goes well.. 👏🏻, she's just special to me
i cant seem to be grateful enough to have subscribed to your channel its really helpful , i have been waiting for this specifical upload but now i know what to do may you please keep on being an eye opener. 🤗❤
Thank you Jess this this video has helped me have a good think about a relationship I'm in and put things into perspective, matters of the heart are serious and her latest thing is as though she's changed her phone number without telling me(but maybe just broken/stolen),us guys often find the real truth is hard to take and accept,we seem wired up differently to women and as in my case find it very difficult to just stop loving the girl,we hang on to a hope that it might still work out etc, could you do a video on how to get a girl out of your head please🙏 bless you Jess x
Thank you for this video it really hit home I needed this because I'm the guy that always stick around hoping something would change but this is really an eye-opener all your videos are eye openers I love all your content.❤️
After she said, she's not ready to be committed, she apologize the next day by saying I'm so sorry for everything I might have caused, I'm really sorry. Jess Os, what you should I do, should I continue to shoot my shot or ignore her completely.
I am at 3 and have recognized that I am of a Dismissive Avoidant Attach style which causes me to push people away instead of allowing myself to feel. Especially Good feelings.
@@jhica5718 peep game playa.. Marry the woman who loves you more than you love her.. That means she feels you are valuable/1 of a kind… Doesn’t mean you do not love her.. It means if an average man could just make the perfect women, she would not desire to be with him… Men are chosen by women, and men take the most of what they can get…
@@fitforlifepft1 I've never been in love before, but I can't choose a mf until he choose me 1st. And it's hard to love a mf withouta reason. A mf have to pursue, create, grow, and build the love that will fulfill me to became the women he want me to be. He's the leader.
I was in a situation like this but got lucky. I knew her for 2 years and we’re both shy people. I finally made moves on her and got together with her on a clubbing night. It all went well until she started sending confusing signals for a while and then it lead to her apologising and not being ready for anything romantic. However a month later I saw her again and she made moves on me again and we got together. She told me she was sorry for treating me poorly and felt differently about things between us and ever since we’ve been dating. We’re taking it slow and due to the kind of people we are aren’t always perfect with reliability and texting but there’s definitely a good mutual love that I feel we share and feel happy and grateful for how things are.
Everyday, more and more men are realising that what they benefit from relationships is not worth all the time, energy, sacrifices and resources it takes to get a woman, keep a woman, satisfy a woman, make her happy etc. Oh, and the drama he will put up with from time to time. When you finally discover the true nature of a woman, relationships will suddenly become overrated and then you just wanna be single, have peace and sanity(something most men in relationships and marriages don't really have). Gentlemen; what do you benefit for being in a relationship or marriage?🤔 I'll wait.
@@moniquefacey5760 Are you aware that all women(even the sane and mature ones) are slaves to their emotions? That means you can NEVER predict what a woman is capable of. One day she gets bored or gets tired or doesn't have things go her way etc. Then a version of that woman you never knew existed would emerge. Every single man believes he has the right one, until the statistics happen😊
@@tatasonfelix I understand as a woman I can relate. However find one that is truly grounded in Christ and is willing to be lead. But first the man has to understand that his head needs to be God. I've found that I cannot love or be with a man I don't respect.
This video helps a lot but I still feel empty in a sense. In the very beginning they were very flirtatious but as time went on, they’d always give mixed signals on how they felt about me to where I was pushed away. They also had disrespectful tendencies they could never be accountable for. Some months go by and nothing’s really progressing so I asked “what are we doing? Are we talking, just hanging out, looking for something serious?”. They responded with “I’m not looking for anything serious but we’re cool and do what we do”. So I took it as just being friends and nothing more than that but they’d still want to hang out pretty much 24/7 and would want to spend the night.
Hello Jess.! I’m a Gambian and I’ve been following you for sometime now, and trust me I know people have different opinions but all what you say about relationships is true…. Right now I’m in a very funny situation, a bit confused cuz the person I want to settle down with gives me all kinds of mix feelings… This right here says a lot… God bless you I will try connect with you to your website and see if we can communicate directly cuz I need your assistance on what to do…. Thank you.!!!
Love the advice you have in this video. The girl I’ve been dating for the last six months who is totally into me, but yet hasn’t said she loves me. She told me one night while we were at a salsa dancing class that she loves having fun with me and that is so happy she has a playmate while her son is growing up. So for now since I’m a playmate, I’m going to hang out have fun and hook up and keep my emotions to myself.
Just found recently your channel! thank you for it - helps me a lot! Please dont use face filters! Not needed and looks unnatural - THank you so much :)
Great advice. My interest in Johannesburg is showing me she is not interested. I've known her since 2017. She lives there, and I reside in the U.S. We started out on Skype, then transition to WhatsApp. I've stated how I feel several times, without any clear reply. I got the message the first time, but it was confirmed the second time. I am more ready to communicate, but with her, the calls have to be scheduled. I let it go mentally, but open whenever she wishes to speak, which is not frequent.
Will you as a woman whos into the ins and outs in the dealings of relationships allow a person to be around you with out they feeling like a topic of interest you might address because of what you do here? I could sift out my answer ,so you dont need to Ill pickup the crumbs in d next one but this video was broken down and perfectly well filtered with commitment cudos to you Jess stay sweet always . Im jus challenged cus there no way to get around the points you bring there not arguables so i wonder what will it take to get around a mind like that.
What about when she says she is not ready for a relationship and you let her be but time after time she comes from out of the blue to checkup on you, what does that mean?
