SHE WON'T DECLUTTER ANYTHING!

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This week's video on the Carla project is a declutter with friends episode. We are decluttering and organizing a super cluttered living room. My friend has lived in this apartment for nearly 15 years. Decluttering a small apartment is not easy. Especially if you struggle with feeling attached to items and feeling sentimental about the things in your home. But little by little you can start to make a change. Decluttering first and then organizing! You can't organize your way out of a cluttered home. Today's video will inspire you to declutter and organize your small apartment or motivate you to declutter and organize your living room space.

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@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Erica is the funniest Declutter with Friends FRIEND who doesn’t want to Declutter 😂😅I actually think getting her a storage unit could be the gateway to her clearing out her space. Let us know your thoughts and thanks Erica for opening up your home 🏡 ❤ (like the video if you want us to make part two)

@choochalah Год назад

When I saw the title I was like....ooops that is me🙈

@claudiajimenez5037 Год назад

A storage unit would only solve her problem if she stops buying...that is not going to happen. She needs someone to help her deal with the issues behind the clutter

@dogwalker97 Год назад

I think getting a storage space has potential to be the pathway to success for Erica if she makes the commitment to not filling the space created by moving the items currently in her home to the storage unit. It could be highly motivating if some items can be removed in such a way that Erica will have a room or even part of a room that is orderly and calming. She will however need to make a solemn promise that existing clutter in other parts of her home will not migrate into the newly cleared space and no new items will be introduced into the cleared area. Please film a part 2 to this video. I enjoy your videos very much!

@skd7028 Год назад

Definitely no storage unit. That’s just a recipe for further hoarding.

@mirandaryan3362 Год назад

This is because her Mom died....at least in part. When I am dealing with this situation I go mystical and burn sage. I was working with someone who had months to live and we got rid of 1 glass milk bottle that had a $1 deposit. I gave her the dollar. You can't convince these people it has to come from within. You handled this beautifully!

@Tru-lyCozy Год назад

I think it’s SO important for y’all to show this! Not everyone can just declutter everything and THATS OK. It’s a process and you showing that and showing grace is fantastic. I’m here for all the parts!!

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Thank u 😊

@jen.... Год назад

Yes, part 2 (and 3 and 4) please. Nearly lost it when Erica wanted to keep the toaster manual 😂

@ihatehandles111 Год назад

Yes!! This needs to be a 10 part series lol. Sorry Carla!

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Lol 😂

@libbyecheverria730 Год назад

For the toaster she didn't own anymore and already replaced!

@callieobriant272 Год назад

Yes! I want to see more! I think as you go she will be more willing to let go of things.

@rickgonzalez1218 Год назад

Deb here. I prefer paper manuals because I can find them faster and it is easier for me to read. My manuals are in one location not scattered around.

@lisa8990 Год назад

Erica reminds me of a hoarder. They won't let go of even the little things. I appreciate Erica allowing us to see her home. I hope there is a part 2 so she can let go.

@somethingclever2 Год назад

That's because she is a hoarder lol

@SarahAnew Год назад

I personally don’t think she’s a hoarder. She may have hoarding tendencies, but that doesn’t mean she has a disorder. She’s a creative person, too, so she may see thing as having value in a way that others don’t. And it could also be attention span and spending habits too. I totally relate to her and I have hoarded (bought a lot of things I didn’t have places for and have attachment to) when I was going through a difficult time in my life. I don’t think being a hoarder makes you an unacceptable person or anything either. I just want to say that. Hoarding is a mental disorder that is often brought on by coping with trauma. Even if that’s not the case, some people are more attached to their belongings and have a more difficult time letting go. It’s a process. You have to build a muscle for it when it doesn’t come naturally to you.

@theloveyourfacegal2773 Год назад

I think your right she's bordering well there on hoarding tendencies with trash & new things mixed in boxes and bags :/

@Xiroi87 Год назад

I agree the tendency is there, but she's trying to improve.

@liisaking1247 Год назад

@@theloveyourfacegal2773 we would really need to see how Erica does over time in an adequately sized space in order to determine whether or not she's hoarding. She has so little space that she may just get frustrated and overwhelmed and not deal with things she is willing to get rid of. I deal with small space living and people with neurodivergence, so I'm familiar with how many people get overwhelmed or depressed and feel like nothing they do makes a difference, so why try? (She may also deal with object permanence issues, which can contribute to a lot of forgotten items of varying importance levels ending up mixed together.) Erica needs to see that what she does *is* making it better and she's not just shuffling stuff from A to B and back to A.

@lisbethkelsey6622 Год назад

So realistic...not every declutter goes smoothly or quickly. Part 2 please! I'm against paying for storage personally, unless it's for a specific time frame such as cleaning out a parents home that you need to move quickly but will go through later ... You could have a nice little trip for the $1200 bucks she'd spend in a year.

@Jen-zk9se Год назад

I wholeheartedly agree

@catgodfrey6451 7 месяцев назад

I 100% agree. She’ll never ever remember what’s in a storage unit. Most people never visit them just pay.

@sydneywood4398 4 месяца назад

It's been my experience, when you put things in a storage unit: out of sight, out of mind. And the storage unit ends up costing far more than anything that was stored. No one wants to visit their storage unit to clean things out.

@smarterthanawaffle Год назад

can't nobody pick up her burden until she is willing to lay it down first. ❤

@cathyimlah2254 Год назад

Yes to part two. “NO” to storage. I think a lot was learned this session and your friend may be more ruthless with decluttering next session if you have one. Good luck.

@Jennifer_McKenna Год назад

I'd love to see a part two. You and Erica definitely made progress. I think it's a good sign she maintained the kitchen. I vote no on the separate storage unit. It'll just become an extra recurring expense and a place where she dumps things and forgets about them. My vote is for several rounds of decluttering. Each pass she'll get rid of more stuff. She won't ever be a minimalist, but I can she her becoming more simplified and organized. Plus, maybe more videos for us? 😂 Thank you for sharing your home, Erica!

@shayh. Год назад

Yeah, I agree that storage spaces are enablers and tend to be a waste of money, especially to people who struggle with clutter and parting with things. Paying rent to keep things in storage could be replaced with selling those items and/or donating them or recycling them. A monthly decluttering session where she gets rid of 30 or more items might feel less overwhelming than trying to do it all in one take. As always, great work getting things in order. 🥰#FriendsDontLetFriendsLiveInClutter #MentalHealth #ClearClutterClearYourMind❤

@LittlePrairieLibrary Год назад

Totally agree, I don't think a storage unit would be helpful in the long run.

@smz5302 9 месяцев назад

Agreed. Storage units all too frequently become floor to ceiling piles of decisions delayed.

@nicky_bee Год назад

I honestly think if you girls continue the process together she won't need a storage unit in the end. Erica is a sweetheart 🥰

@FrogeniusW.G. 8 месяцев назад

I agree! Piece by piece it will/would get less and less! Keep on helping and gently pushing, Carla! ❤

@GinaStanyerBooks Год назад

She’s doing great! Baby steps are fine! Some people need a little more time to declutter. I would not recommend a storage unit - that is just moving the problem from one spot to another. The problem isn’t the stuff, it’s the inability to get rid of anything. If she doesn’t learn that skill, her home will just be full of junk again in a very short time.

@idid138 4 месяца назад

So true

@seansgirl80 Год назад

She looks like she made great progress after you went. Sometimes it’s doing the smaller stuff with a friend that is the push we need! Wonderful to see a ‘perfectly imperfect’ before and after. Much more realistic on how decluttering often goes ESPECIALLY paper clutter! Great video as usual Carla! Xx

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Yeah, I was so shocked when she sent me that last video! Really happy that she has that work area set up now!!

@lkrouse100 Год назад

Don’t get storage space. That will be wasted money that she could invest or pay off a bill. Just deal with the stuff now. It’s not worth storing it and then going through it years later after you’ve spent all that money.

@davidawilliams252 Год назад

She actually did a LOT! Very nice. Progress over perfection. Storage is not the answer. Curating her items, having a design style, giving herself limits is part of the answer. Looking forward to part 2.

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Yeah, and she hired a TaskRabbit! She did do a lot!!

@tinaunderwood1113 Год назад

Thanks Erica for allowing us into your home. Good job Carla! Oh please make a part 2.

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Let’s see if she wants to continue! 😅❤

@Iluvchknz Год назад

Decluttering and organizing someone else’s stuff is the lord’s work. Seriously, even when a person recognizes there is an issue that level of “mess” is driven by psychological trauma not just complacency. As evidenced by wanting keep a duster “I use” but was under 6 trash cans… and who needs that many little trash cans. Good luck to you both.

@ThereseDavidson Год назад

Progress over perfection, this did SO much for her

@shaynaformity1384 Год назад

Yes, as Dana K. White says, "Better is Good."

@FrogeniusW.G. 8 месяцев назад

I agree.

@carolinafernandez1083 Год назад

I love that you showed the progress of someone who doesn't want to get rid of anything. I'm slowly working with my mom to declutter her 3000 sq ft house. It's very difficult to get her to declutter, but she has improved so much over the last two months! I would absolutely love to see your friend's progress!

@ourtubesocks Год назад

As someone who has helped my dad declutter a 4 bedroom home, one strategy that helped was sorting items by category, and then asking “how many ___ do you think you need?” After he came up with a number, I would have him picked out that many of his favorites from the pile and then move on. For hoarders it’s especially hard to pick up and make a decision about every single item and once they’re holding it they will often find a reason why they need to keep it. Mind you, he was only open to decluttering because he had to sell the home and had a deadline. Good luck with your mom! I know the struggle.

@Kay-fv7cw 8 месяцев назад

As long as she is making progress she is moving in the right direction. Yes, to a part 2.

@vdruskas Год назад

As a writer, maybe she can write her feelings down and that will help her process. . it's funny to see her work in this room vs the kitchen, where she was more flexible when it came to the de-clutter & organize. Thanks for keeping it real, Carla.

@idid138 4 месяца назад

That's good advice. Also writing things down actually helps us to believe it.

@nolasavedmysoul Год назад

Yes to part 2 and more through her journey. I was her at one point, making excuses to keep everything. Now, through a 5 year process, I’ve donated about 40 boxes/bags worth of stuff, sold over 250 items of clothing and shoes, and trashed a bunch of stuff too. It can be hard, but it can be done over time.

@wendyeskelin8765 Год назад

Wow. Where did you sell your clothes at?

@wendyeskelin8765 Год назад

@@nolasavedmysoul I sold some bigger ticket household items on Craig's List.. mailed some of the best clothes to my niece. I have a pile for a friend, and I donated the other stuff, which I should have tried to sell. I figured it would just sit there if I did that, so I donated it. Maybe I'll plan to do that in the future. Our last thing we decluttered was books which I donated. I sorted out over 300 and my husband around 250. We have a lot of bookshelves. We had the room on them but I was just tired of holding on to ones we would never read again!. Great job on your part sticking to it and getting some cash back on your clothing.

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Very inspiring!!

@SarahAnew Год назад

How awesome!

@MissBeeMarie Год назад

I’m a therapist and Erica seems to be a hoarder. She may need some therapy to address her attachment and abandonment issues. I also see some anxiety and depression. But, I hope she gets to a point where she is able to let go of the external clutter, so she can declutter her mind. 🙏🏾

@kemillegreene9743 Год назад

This is an episode of hoarders for real! Don’t buy a storage unit!!! She’ll just be paying for storage without any cleaning! And it’s going to add to the sadness and anxiety and anger when she has spent the money AND doesn’t have a place for her things. Plus when she can’t see it she will just buy multiples of what’s in storage. Take it from me EVERY ONE of my family members does this me included. We just can’t help it. It takes a real commitment (and doing the de clutter ourselves) to change things.

@angelwings1 Год назад

Decluttering is an ongoing process. I’ve been doing it for years. Stuff always pops up. Things get added to the home and need clearing again. I think you should get your friend to watch decluttering videos for inspiration and/or videos on minimalism etc. They always inspire me to sort my stuff out x

@lorrainef.3213 Год назад

Yes!

@wendyeskelin8765 Год назад

omg me too!

@KristiBranstetter Год назад

Yes!! I just did a big declutter again (have done multiple ones already), and now I am finding stuff that I really don't want.

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

It’s definitely a lifestyle!! ❤

@zzhoundzz8403 Год назад

I don't think she should get a storage. Use it or lose it. The more that she sees the freed up space, she may be more apt to let some things go. It's a process.

@BeccaDoesStuffYT Год назад

Erica has a great personality. She’s funny and sweet and she deserves a part 2! 😄

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

She’s hilarious!!😂

@latonda5634 Год назад

Yes please continue this journey! The truth is we ALL have parts of our lives that we resist decluttering. So many life lessons in this clip. Tell Erica we appreciate her being willing to show her vulnerability to the world! Great work for both of you all. You have planted the seed…that’s why she asked you to come back.

@triciaf8261 Год назад

Yes to a Part 2 - it seems you really jump-started the process which is a true gift to your friend, Great job ladies!

@noelleursel7848 Год назад

I would LOVE to be able to declutter my friend's places - literally my ultimate dream lol. For now, I'll just keep an eye out for more of these videos. You and Erica make me laugh!!

@Steph568 Год назад

“I’m keeping this” Why? “Because it’s Betty White” 😭😭 she is so funny omg

@thetherapyofplanning_1 Год назад

Carla it was so awesome how patient and understanding you were! I had Peter Walsh flashbacks on this one! Erica made a comeback and made some progress in the end! Great job Erica! I know it’s hard but it the end like Carla says, you will feel soooo much better! Yes part 2!

@fim1968 Год назад

I don't want a part 2, I NEED a part 2!

@MarielaMerino Год назад

watching this reminds me of myself when decluttering for my parents 😅 the struggle is reallll. progress is progress though! can't wait for part 2!

@diannagoulart3850 Год назад

Yes part 2 or more. Erica needs you to guide her through. She’s going to be so free after you help her declutter. You can do it Erica… Maintaining is easy once it’s decluttered and organized. Declutter your newly decluttered and organized space every few months and you will stay happy and organized. 😊

@myxochi Год назад

Part 2. I think you’re right that she needs the storage unit first to physically see how much her clutter is costing her. My fear though is that the cleared surfaces will be re-filled. although she did keep her kitchen…there is hope for when she is ready. It IS a process and she is a beginner. Let’s get her started and let us know how it goes. ❤️🍁

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Yeah, we were thinking as she would get the storage unit and that could be the space that she does some decluttering from. It’s still in the idea stage so we’ll see how she wants to move forward…tbd

@valerieodonnell6764 Год назад

I remember watching a show in the early 2000s (maybe it was called clean house) where they cleaned out and organized hoarder level houses. Sometimes they would clear out an entire room by emptying it in the front yard. Then they would put the room back together with only a reasonable amount of furniture and decor. Sometimes that was the push the people needed to see what their house could really be like without the extra stuff. Maybe a storage unit could help with this realization. Or it could also be used as a time limit. For example if I don’t need to get something out of the unit in the next 6 months I don’t need it and it has to go. But it could also be a crutch to acquire more stuff. Time will tell.

@Michellehardyorg Год назад

When I saw the title, I thought OMG, then as I watched...she engaged & she tried. When death overwhelms you, it's hard to rid yourself of the silliest thing. Maybe she doesn't realize that's she's enough. She's enough without the stuff & GOD will bless her with more stuff. She could receive the help to declutter & reflect & add an activity to her life like a meetup to do a fun thing like a writers dinner group. Just a thought. I'd so give her a long hug. #understanding #love

@scholargrrl Год назад

Good job for her showing a realistic maximalist or maybe someone who is at the very beginning of their decluttering journey!! This is very true of every person who has to declutter the very first time and is feeling overwhelmed. Hopefully it helps to encourage many people to continue on their decluttering journey. 💕

@krisb7465 Год назад

I have decluttered my furniture, tchotchkes, clothing, non-keto pantry items, dishes, linens, books and magazines. I'm down to the paperwork, photos and mementos. It is very hard. You are an inspiration!

@jazzie_wolf Год назад

This was me a few years ago! I wanted to keep everything but I also wanted a simplified space. I had to go through my home 3-4 times to finally get it to a place where it looks more like a home and less like a storage unit. I think Erica did so well for her first round, and the later clips are awesome! Way to go, Erica!

@valerieodonnell6764 Год назад

I think of decluttering like an onion. With each pass/layer you get better at knowing what you actually use and want to keep and it gets easier to let stuff go.

@kadrikiis8654 Год назад

Of course we want a second part. I also decclutter up my room and now it's so good to be. All the things I need or use are still there.

@colleenlawrence6499 Год назад

A part two please! Erica may need a storage place. Especially if she is having a hard time letting go. I love that she has kept going. Carla you support and encourage with laughter and iron will. Love it

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Yeah, I think the storage space could be motivating, and after a few months, she may realize she doesn’t need any of those items. Plus, it would be great for her to live in her space without all of the clutter surrounding her. It’s basically like igetting a second bedroom. Because her place is really small!

@sundoesshine8583 7 месяцев назад

@@TheCarlaProject What if you say that after the unit is is filled up, that if it's all still there in a 1/2 a year without being touched, YOU may dispose of the contents without her re-examining everything. We all know the only reason she says she wants stuff is because it's in front of her, but if she doesn't see it once it's in the unit, it wont be stressful. I've thought of doing this for myself, because once I SEE something the "what if" bells start chiming in that I'll need it. But if it's just magically gone, I'd never think about that stuff again honestly.

@999lizzybee 3 месяца назад

Love this! Erica is just as I was once, saving mags, books, paper - that I did not touch for 20+ years. Then I got real, and realized stuff was strangling me. I then trashed the mags etc AND THE MANY RACKS AND STORAGE SOLUTIONS I had purchased over time to keep them ‘neat’. Go Erica! Don’t follow my bad example!

@christinehardy2059 8 месяцев назад

I am learning NOT to be Erica! Every video I watch helps me see where I can improve and encourages me to do ANYTHING towards declutter and cleaning. Thank you for showing us REAL LIFE.

@Xiroi87 Год назад

The state of her home and inability to let go of things can be related to emotional issues. The good thing is that she's asked for help, so the will to make changes is there, despite her obvious resistance.

@conniepleasantnails Год назад

First of all…thank you for the appliance manual reminder. I will definitely throw mine out today that are filed in my box. Second…I used to have lots of CD and now I only have Apple music. I think something triggered Erika to hoard stuff, something emotional. Whether it was losing her Mom (I’ve lost my Mom too) or several other events that has her maintaining “control” of her “things”. Raising things off the floor and to the walls doesn’t seem like the answer. Erika, your spirit is so bright and positive I hope you get to a point where you realize these “things” don’t matter, you matter. Hugs ❤😊

@jodibellamy2713 Год назад

Yes, part 2! No to paying for storage space. I think as she uses her decluttering muscles, she will be able to get rid of more things to have a great space!

@dianel958 Год назад

Thank you Erica for again inviting us into your home. Carla, you are so good in this role! Your friends are lucky to have you in their court (their cluttered soon to be not cluttered court!)...yes to all the parts (2,3 and on) so we can see the progress and the process...I agree with another commenter who suggested Erica write down her feelings and thoughts around her difficulties and challenges letting go...Thanks for all you do Carla! Have loved watching your journey...

@akontilis1792 7 месяцев назад

I totally can relate to the overwhelming feeling this is. The boxes, boxes, boxes.... it is so hard. But keep at it Erica, because a) there IS an end to it, it is a FINITE amount of stuff and b) you can treat yourself to doing one box each evening, and you'll be so much better off each week. The seed has been planted, and we are cheering for you (and I am working right along with you!)

@ArabellaCharm Год назад

Seeing that Bath and Body Works box filled with unused items made me feel judged 😂. I have 3 boxes like that in my bathroom closet.

@angelwings1 Год назад

My advice would be to give yourself a set time to use them buy. If you don’t use them then give permission to either regift or throw away x

@jburgett45 9 месяцев назад

You are describing the “my future self” syndrome.

@CurveTheRain Год назад

Yes! Give us all the parts til Erica is tired of us! 😂

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Hahaha good answer!!

@magorzatakozak8942 Год назад

Dear Carla. It' s not only that your friend needs declutering, but I think she suffers from the illness that is called in my country the obsessive collecting of everything. She also needs help from mental doctor, a psyhiatrist. Great she has got you

@londonsunshine 6 месяцев назад

This is real life! You really have to be ready to get it done. It took me the 5th time to truly declutter my tupperware cabinet. Five times! But, it showed me how when your really ready you get it done. I love watching you so much. The people you help are so lovable too! Please more videos

@joannecarnevale7737 Год назад

You did paint Erica's red flag pink. Clearing that corner was the catalyst. Would love to see a part 2. And even part 3, if needed.

@tarot-satiremitnadine Год назад

I think Erica is super brave to open up to the process. She has come so far, really! I remember times in my life when this would have been already way too much for me. I am also a writer and can relate on the creative aspect ❤️ Carla, you are amazing for being so patient and thorough and the beautiful friend who gently nudges her while making this fun! Part 2, please! 😊

@pamelaknop4699 Год назад

Carla has certain facial poses and looks that are sooooooo similar to Jennifer Lopez...even her hair... Love It...💕💕

@Smittenhamster Год назад

Thanks for letting us into your home Erica! I feel this was the beginning of a project that may feel a bit overwhelming still? I'm proud of her that she made babysteps into the right direction. Sometimes a detour (like storage unit here) also leads to great results.

@Natalia_85 Год назад

I understand her sooo bad. I was like her! I'm a minimalist now but I know how she feels. The attachment to things is real and it takes a lot of training and determintation to be able to let go. I'm a firm believer it is only through your own experience that you can overcome the attachment to things. Once you start little by little letting go, you start feeling lighter and it's nice. Then you can confirm, with your own experience that you are able to survive without that sticker or the Arugula recipe. Not only that, you start to feel better for letting it go because you feel lighter and you start to trust yourself more to make decisions to let go of more and more things. I love it but it is something that did not happen overnight for me.

@Natalia_85 Год назад

I've just reached the magazines part 😂I used to collect magazines too. That was a hard thing to let go for me. It was Vanity Fair and Cosmo and all of those

@thegazetteyt Год назад

I have a few friends like this. They want to organize their homes, admit how dirty their homes are, but there is ALWAYS an excuse as to why they can't start. They don't want anyone to see their home, they have to make sure they have the supplies first. They have to clear this one thing first, etc etc. Two of us offered to help her declutter, and my friend just stopped mentioning wanting to clean her place, so we stopped offering to do it. You can't help people who don't want to change. All we can do is offer to be there for them if they choose to accept your help.

@mrandisg Год назад

I'm sorry, but the way you worded this triggered me. It's not that they "don't want to change." The whole reason they're asking for help is they DO want to change. But it is extremely hard to admit you even have the issue in the first place. It's humiliating. Your friend probably won't ask for help again because she was most likely shamed and judged for having a messy home to begin with. No one wants a judgmental person to "help" them do anything. That's not helping, that's making the situation worse. I speak from personal experience. So, instead of concluding she "doesn't want" help, I strongly suggest LISTENING to her and getting to the root of the issue. Your friend may need therapy to help her get thru whatever's going on. At the very least, she needs someone who will listen to her with ZERO judgment. If you can't do that, then no amount of offering to help will do any good. Trust me, I know.

@thegazetteyt Год назад

@@mrandisg I'm not sorry. I meant don't want to change. Not my problem that what I said triggered you. Saying something is different than putting in effort, not matter the opportunity. You can say you want to change all you like, but if you don't put in intent, it's lip service. You seem to be more concerned with tone policing me than listing to what I'm saying. Me sugar coating it is not going to coax anyone into putting in the work. I have been that person and I have been on the receiving end of that person. Effort is part of the process, and it is no one's obligation to handhold someone and force them to do something they haven't admitted to themselves they truly want to do. NO ONE has that type of control over anyone.

@mrandisg Год назад

@@thegazetteyt I understand, and I’m sorry for attacking like that. I shouldn’t have done that. You’re right, me getting triggered is not your fault. It’s mine. It’s just that I’ve been misunderstood and misjudged by people so much over the course of my life that when I think someone else is being judged unfairly, I feel the need to defend them. But yeah, I definitely overreacted, so I apologize.

@thegazetteyt Год назад

@@mrandisg I hear you. I've been on that side of the judging as well. One thing Ive learned from it from getting older is don't give a s*it about what others think of you. Don't give them that power. It's too draining. Once you learn that (and that can be a hard lesson to learn) you will be liberated to go and do and experience what you want :)

@MsArtistwannabe Год назад

I think a storage unit is a waste of money. Even at 100. dollars a month. Twelve hundred a year. She could likely replace all that stuff she wants to store for less money than she would spend on storage. Some of us really have to take baby steps. It’s ok to go slowly. You’re such a great friend to help her and it looks like fun was had all around.

@denise2768 Год назад

Please make a part 2. Letting go of items can be hard but if you want change to last and take place Erica has to be ready. If she hasn't physically gone through each item clutter will continue to happen. Once she sees her home opening up, she will have more motivation and begin to declutter more. Decluttering is not a one and done, its a process that must be done continuously and consistently. Thanks for having patience with Erica.

@vq2vx Год назад

So sad that people hoard & exist surrounded by piles of stuff & trash. Just seeing this makes it difficult to breathe. You're a good friend to help. Hope she comes around

@buutifuleyes Год назад

“I’m sentimental not crazy” Erica is cute 😭😆 although is wasn’t a major before and after if she’s consistent and want change for the better it will happen! And please please do not get a storage unit you will waste thousands and thousands of dollars. I’m so sorry for the loss of your Mom, may you be at peace and have love always. ❤

@TheYgernependragon Год назад

never pay fora storage unit that will hold your clutter for an undetermined time. total waste of money. i went through this and i regret spending the money because i wanted to hold on things i eventually decluttered and never regretted!!!

@vdruskas Год назад

maybe having the storage space got you to that point? Sometimes it has to cost you something to get to that point of no return

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Yeah exactly sometimes it’s a steppingstone…

@BlueBird-nf2gp 2 месяца назад

It really is so hard for many people to get rid of things. I could see that she was trying but struggling. Even slow progress counts! I hope she’s been able to continue decluttering. Hugs to you both. 😊💙🐦

@jackpotdreams2954 Год назад

She needs to get rid of stuff because storage is just paying for something you never look at. Plus the price just keeps going up year after year. Trust me I have set my sights on our storage unit as it just went from $400 to $500 dollars per month which is crazy.

@dogwalker97 Год назад

An alternative to getting a storage space might be to rent a co-working space to achieve separation between work life and home life. Erica would however need to be vigilant about not introducing clutter into her dedicated work space or the newly cleared space at home.

@judithdocherty6288 Год назад

I would love to see a part 2 to this. I think Erica definitely learnt a lot from you but probably needs a second pass with you guiding her in the right direction. ❤

@pieceofpeace35 Год назад

I like to keep my appliance instructions and warranty papers so I just combine them all into one folder for the whole house and label it. I put it in the living room and showed everyone where it was so now if we need the info it's put away and accessible. We've used it several times! I also think putting the magazines into a combined pile will show her how many she actually has and help her realize she needs to get rid of some. Especially because most of that info can be found online

@falasteen2723 9 месяцев назад

It's clear how hard this was for her, I think it would be interesting to work it on therapy. She seems lovely, she deserve a awsome space! Carla did so much difference at this space!

@jmcmurrah Год назад

I suggest not getting a storage space. Storage spaces are a slippery slope. I think Erica is already catching on and will soon be able to get rid of all the stuff she doesn’t actually need. You’re both so much fun! ❤❤

@robinthompson7567 Год назад

Please part 2. Getting a storage unit will only encourage her to keep more stuff. I know from experience.

@librarynan4610 Год назад

At least you got her thinking about decluttering. It is always a process. Erica, You deserve a clean and organized and decluttered space.

@JessicaGonzalez-et7sq Год назад

I think the YT channel hoarders heart is a great channel to watch. She talks a lot of how she personally declutters especially when she emotional or difficult to declutter.

@IceCreamHoldingFee Год назад

As a professional organizer, I am NOT a fan of renting storage units, unless it is temporary (eg. less than 6 months). Your friend needs a "vision" for her life, which will generate her WHY. Why she is decluttering. Does she see this as her "forever" home? Or at least her permanent home because this is not a temporary situation? Then she needs to declutter enough to make small space living realistic. She needs to declutter to JUST what she needs NOW. She has a lot of "stuck in the past" clutter, as well as "no vision for the future" clutter. Be ruthless and let's see a part 2.

@shawntennant9049 Год назад

Oh Erica, I applaud you for decluttering. I’ve been on that journey since my stroke last year. It’s really hard but the outcome is life changing

@marystrenke3050 Год назад

My friend was injured last summer -- she allowed me to help her-- still haven't been allowed to toss her eggs dated 2020!!! No chance of her eating them, thankfully, but ever since her divorce 10 yrs ago... She panics when we declutter. Great progress in other rooms though! She can finally have company! After the divorce there were car accidents, surgeries and multiple moves to find suitable housing. Boxes still packed from 4 yrs previously. Layers is the key!!! Eventually it gets better!

@Johndoe-eg6en Год назад

You all's chemistry was off the chart!! Your understanding and support of Erica was very nice to see. She can't be pushed too hard. I appreciate her effort and your motivational support. You guys positive vibes radiates through the universe!!!

@Jen39x Год назад

Yup there’s an inescapable rule: stuff is infinite and space is finite. In theory I would say storage space is a bad idea but storing stuff is a good way to unattach. I’ve had boxes from a move 5 years ago that haven’t been unpacked. It’s pretty hard to justify keeping what’s in them. My hat is off to your friend for sharing the experience that many of us have but won’t admit to.

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

And the best strategy is to just never open those boxes so you don’t know what you’re missing lol

@newwomandouglas2959 Год назад

My goodness, Carla. I can't wait to see Part 2. This is the biggest project that I have seen you participate in. You have a lot of patience with your friends. Keep us posted.

@whitmaca Год назад

You both did so well. Paper is the HARDEST thing to sort. Especially when you have an emotional connection to the papers. Baby steps.

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Ur right💗

@Megaloid Год назад

She's making great progress! (I'm personally against storage units, because I've had to clear out a deceased relative's unit by myself, and realized 90+% should've been sold instead of spending money to store it. Keep the sentimental, but most furniture and accessories can go.)

@intuitivemamadrea8166 Год назад

Chile I want to see all the sequels! We are routing for Erica 🎉🎉🎉🎉I want to see her apartment decluttered ☺️she deserves a happy space so her creativity can flow!!!! Carla your a great friend for helping Erica thru this journey ❤

@BecauseJoSaidTo Год назад

I would watch multiple parts of this de litter! Slow and steady as she learns new systems and realizes she doesn’t miss the things she let go. Great work!❤

@LittlePrairieLibrary Год назад

Watching this video I thought of the Hoarder's Heart channel. She used to have a completely hoarded house, and over years of working through her hoarding, she now has gone from a level 4 hoarder to a level 1 or 2 hoarder. I don't think Erica is a full hoarder, but some of those reactions seemed familiar to what Ms Heart talks about in her videos. Might be worth a watch to get her perspective and see how she processes letting go of things!

@lesleyhubble2976 Год назад

Storage space is a waste of money, maybe have it for a few months , then go through it all again.

@SCsweettea Месяц назад

Sweet Erica, if you can remember to throw out junk mail, empty boxes, and magazines daily, that would be a huge step forward. It truly is a process but so worth letting go of things so your work can proceed easier. You are delightful. Such a cute personality, and I hope to watch your movie some day.

@mareemehmet3155 Год назад

Definitely Part 2!! It's encouraging that Erica is continuing to declutter herself. But I would NOT recommend a storage facility, as it simply encourages hoarding behaviour. At some point a person needs to face their stuff (i.e., demons). Usually a lot of discomfort is required to trigger the decision for behaviour change.

@maggiebates3941 7 месяцев назад

“She is gonna try and blame Oprah” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 love this so much!!! Shows me how we all can hold on when we should just let go!

@bonniewilson3324 Год назад

Would love a Part 2 video when Erica is ready. I can relate to her hesitation. Wishing Erica all the best in her decluttering journey!

@A-couple Год назад

Carla, I commend YOU for your HARD work abd EFFORT! PLEASE convince her to get a storage space AND get some sort of theraputical assistance e.g. be part of a decluttering group or something where she can talk about WHY is she EMOTIONALLY attached to EVERY think. If she can get to the root of it she can derach AND then start letting go of things! To every cause there is a root and she needs outside assistance to what you can provide. A band aid is only a tempoary cover to her wound, she has something deep rooted that might resolve this. I speak as a family member who like you assisted someone with this type of issue. Cheers and good luck!

@theviewfromthebside570 Год назад

No to the storage space. You just end up paying for your clutter every month. Let it go!

@danoyse8233 5 месяцев назад

I thought I had a long tolerance fuse, but Carla you outdo me by miles. Your patience and humour is immense. No to more storage. She can’t reposition the bar stools if she hasn’t got a bar/table to put them with.

@juliemosher6404 Год назад

I am working on letting go. As a child raised with very little, I tend to keep everything because I couldn't afford to have things until I turned 50

@carolcooper881 Год назад

Bless your heart Carla! You should have given her a gummie! Maybe she would have decluttered like her kitchen. Definitely part 2. Love these kind of videos!!

@eileensanders4542 Год назад

Definitely do a part 2. She has made progress but there is still a lot of stuff to go through. She will feel better when all the decluttering is done

@Susanb89 Год назад

Definitely a part 2 💜

@hannahpierce2559 Год назад

Erica seems like a good candidate for Dana K. White’s decluttering method! She has a RU-vid, podcast, books! For example for things like those magazines she does this thing called the container concept where you select the container or space where magazines will be stored, fill it with your favorites, then once it’s full that’s all you keep! Makes the container the “bad guy” and reduces the amount of bargaining between helper (you) and space owner (Erica) by physically showing them the limits of their space. Also the first step of her method is to remove trash so y’all are making great progress even if it’s frustrating! Her method is really great for creatives like Erica who have piles and insist they know what all’s in them 😂 and really, really helpful for overwhelming spaces that feel impossible

@jeannesutter4951 Год назад

Thank you, Erica! My mom passed away several years ago. When I was cleaning out her things w my sister, we kept reminding each other that Mom wasn’t in a random bowl or decoration. It helped to prioritize the few things that were really meaningful and pass on the rest. I decluttered when I was packing for my house renovation, there will be another ruthless decluttering as I unpack. Looking forward to the segment in this sequence!

@texasgoddess323 Год назад

Yes, Part 2! I would rather she not throw her money away, storing things she never uses. Maybe she could use the money she would spend on storage fees, instead on therapy, to get to the bottom of why she holds on to things. My mom passed, plus I have no children, so I can relate with losing a parent. All this stuff keeps people and future relationships at bay. She’s so friendly, so that seems to be a paradox worth exploring.💞

@naimad.7647 Год назад

Bless your ❤! She was driving me crazy! 😂😂😂😂 personally I think the storage unit is a waste of $. I paid for one for a year after my mom died and then couldnt tell you anything that was in it except for the big items (couches, dining table, etc) she needs to let go of items she isnt using now (the stools) and items she hasnt used in the past 6 months. I swear i saw 3 computer monitors and at least 2 desks. 😂 i had to learn to sell whatever i could and use that money to take myself on a nice vacation or a splurge item.

@TheCarlaProject Год назад

Love the taking yourself on a vacation with the things you sold. Such a great motivation!

@williamclark1244 Год назад

At first I was like "OMG! how can she have all that stuff crammed in her apartment?" but then I have to remember that decluttering isn't the same for everyone. For some just the thought of having to go through belongings and not knowing where to start can be very difficult. I started on my journey to minimalism before I even knew what it was after working in a retail store. It took me some time to pare down my belongings. I had a challenge letting go of some things in the first year and even in the second year.

@latiasmith5094 Год назад

I'm really glad you posted this video! I think it will help a lot of people who want to declutter but have difficulty letting things go! It's not a perfect process, but I loved that she continued to work on it after your initial help. A storage unit would be great because I think she'll get to experience what a clutter-free home feels and looks like. Then maybe after some time passes she'll be able to part with those items because she'll realize she never needed or cared all that much about them.