I want to say I greatly appreciate you as a bisexual representative and your advocation on increasing Bisexuality visibility. When I finish with the college text books I am so binge reading yours.
As a Bisexual female, when I saw the video title I was intrigued. Then as I watched I was disappointed. I was particularly disappointed that there was no mention of Brenda Howard (1946 - 2005) - the "mother of Pride." She was openly Bisexual, polyamorous and had a male partner. She is credited with coordinating the first Pride March back in 1970 and also creating a week long festival around this March that is what we know as "Pride" today. It's so ironic that the Gays took over and now Bisexuals are made to feel unwelcome at an event that was invented by a Bisexual. Did you really think the Gays were responsible for establishing what's supposed to be an INCLUSIVE event? I for one would encourage Bisexuals to go to Pride. Especially if you don't feel comfortable or accepted - it's more reason to establish a presence. Next time you are made to feel like you don't exist or shouldn't be at Pride, remind them that there wouldn't even be "Pride" if it weren't for a Bisexual!!!
how about we get our representation in the Bisexual world?? Let's stop looking for validation from people who do not care enough- usually due to them not sharing our experience. We are our own solution.
@@ebbyoma7008 Exactly! I'm not begging for acceptance from people who treat me like shit! I leave. That's like a abusive relationship. You don't cater to the abusers you leave them. Period.
Stay strong, stay independent. We cross lines and people hate us for it because THEY feel threatened. They can't relate, nor do they try to. They just sit back and judge. We need to stick together and live in the world we create for ourselves not in the world others create for us.
I'm bi and it's just horrifying you would think that if not straight people you could find comfort in gay and lesbian people but no They complain about being bullied but some of them are bullying people under the bi umbrella
pauline Boetius I’ve only been once and I was with my parents and I wore a bi sexual shirt and got nasty looks but ignored them but I feel like crying and I don’t know why people hate us so kucu
All the haters are programmed sheep. They finally find their niche and their safe tower and proceed to throw boulders down on top of the unsheltered and ostracized. Just like assimilation in countries where now you are no longer the bottom rung because a new group arrives to take your place or a permanent underclass exists for everyone above to spit and trample upon.
I was sad that I came out of the closet right in time for covid to shut down all the pride events, but now having watched this and read/seen elsewhere that bi's aren't really accepted and I'll still spend all my time explaining pansexuality, I'm glad I didn't have a chance to go and get emotionally crushed. I will go when it all opens up again though, knowing me, I'll be one of the educators out there. I'm not okay with sitting back while my people get hurt, and if I can go and be a part of representing til they can't ignore us anymore, then I'll be happy to do it. And I'm more interested in women, so that helps to be same-sex, but the girl I'm interested in right now is bi too so I'm thinking we'll coat ourselves in bi colors lol and walk around being really obvious and that sounds fun.
Looking at the comments here, it seems I'm not the only one who had a bad experience with Pride. Many bisexual people have, it seems. So back to "get the B out" - why do people find it so hard to break up that LGBTQ acronym in their heads, and stop conceptualizing this as a "community" if it isn't one, and if there's so much rancor in it that many people (including me) have said "I'll never go back"? I'm pagan. I had more fun at Pagan Pride Day, not at Gay Pride. That's not for us. They don't want us there, so we really should stop clinging to the teat of a nonexistent "community" and just make our own way, separately.
Agreed. I feel like you can stick a label on anything but in the end it is whatever it actually is through its results and operation. If Pride is for "alternative" lifestyles But functions as a true source of division and prejudice then THAT is exactly what it is, labels be damned.
Thank you, I appreciate your site. I am a gay man. I don't know anyone who openly identify as bi-sexual. at least I don't know that I know anyone who openly identify as Bi. Although listening to your vid, I think I have a few bi-friends. I think your work helps me to understand them better.
Great commentary. I wonder if one aspect of the anti bi sentiment you speak of may be derived from some gay men having experienced being the ‘cast off’ by bi men whose primary relationships are straight but have secondary encounters with guys - it can make you feel very used and ‘secondsry’
Thank you, for letting people know that we exsist and desreve recognition too! I am so thankful that I got to watch this video, it makes me see that tho i really wanted to go to a pride event, I wont be going. Thank you again for being this awesome voice for people who are bi-sexual!
(Don't mind my late comment) I went to my towns festival, not knowing about biphobia because I had just found out who I was. I had a gf, but she dumped me before the festival, so I brought along a friend. Now knowing about biphobia and discrimination in our own community, I am shocked. My towns festival had bi flags flying, people wearing bi flags, selling bi pins and even flags. I also attend my towns LGBT youth group, and so far. No one has told me I'm not allowed. They are all accepting. So what's my statement. It all depends. All depends on how you see the area you live. And if you do go to pride where they're biphobic. Please. Don't stop being proud of who you are just because of their ignorance. 40% or lgbt are bi. You got all that army right there to support you. If they don't, find people who will. Aka. Online. Cause I met a lot of bi friends from just being on instagram
Going to a group meeting/hangout, if I go.e with a boyfriend, they say no supporting people only actual LGBT people. I'm bi, they say oh yeah. And look to be confused at me.
I went to Denver Pride a few years ago and I loved it. I like Denver a lot to begin with. Well tons of straight people go to Pride, so why not mostly straight people too? Yeah, the puppy play fetish is really big in the gay fetish community nowadays.
I don't think you shouldn't go if your "mostly straight" that's just dumb af. All sexualitys should be equal at pride fest, people shouldn't be told they shouldn't go because there mostly straight or even if there straight all together. Who gives af! All should be celebrated at pride fest. No discrimination.
For real, he’s trippin on that point, in the same video saying “I was the only representative!” Pero if you’re this particular type of bi, don’t come. Lol gatekeeping them the same way pride did to us 🤣 same way those gay dudes looked at the booth... fr
Why shouldn't mostly straight bisexuals attend pride? They're still bi. And realistically many outright straight people attend pride too. They wear pride shirts and they are allies. What's with the gatekeeping?
Want to know what drives me crazy / what I can’t stand? The gay community constantly point out that non straight people make good parents. Yet, EVERY time our family has gone to a pride fest, EVERYONE ASSUMED my husband and I are straight. Now, don’t get me wrong, even if I wasn’t, I have a trans son, so I want to go anyway- but it seems my husband and I don’t fit in anywhere. We both identify as bi, but all the parent groups out there are straight, cis parents bemoaning how hard it is to accept their kids non straight-ness. I can’t relate.
What these parents can't accept is that their children are different and outwardly so. They can't accept any part of themselves not being safe in the compartment of correctness, rightness, and social acceptability. That's all they see. They don't identify with anyone except for those who fit in to the cookie cutter mold.
Out for the last several years, but not really involved with the LGBT community. Went to SF Pride for the first time this past year, happily innocent of the anti-bi sentiment, with a little bi flag in my ponytail... Got dirty looks about every half a block, got people walking away as I moved near them, finally got a tall strong woman saying "This (Pride) isn't for you. Get out of here!" Did my best to ignore everyone. Won't be going back
I feel like you're conflating "mostly-straight" sexuality with gender-conformity, or general societal conformity. I'm bi, mostly like and date women, and yet I never really felt comfortable in "straight society" because the way in which I like women is a lot different from most straight guys. Plus, there are lots of gay men and lesbians who are generally pretty gender-conforming, and dislike Pride festivals for a lot of the same reasons you said you did before.
its triggering that gay people say that they need respect, from straight people but when bi people want to be respected they get mocked. You could at least not be a hypocrite?
I'm bisexual but I have never been with a girl...I also run a business and still mostly in the closet. I'm going to pride but I'm scared that I'll be told to go away....
Love your videos! Very disappointing to hear that the gay community can’t even seem to accept a certain subgroup within their very own community. Spread love not more hate.
I don't know why but some people understand the people who ONLY like the same gender. But when I tell someone I'm bisexual, they are just like "...... huh? So... you still like girls? " and I try to explain but at that point I don't feel like putting up with it. Also I'm going anyway :p
I never gone to pride bc of all the hate stories I have heard and just all the hate I usually get when people find out I'm bisexual. It's one of the reasons I haven't come out to my family.
Everyone should go to pride,why would bisexuals should be away of celebrating pride just for being bisexuals? Even staight people are allowed to pride too.
I live in San Diego I went to pride with my boyfriend a few years ago. I'm bisexual. I received a lot of hate and anger. My boyfriend at the time was also bisexual. I don't understand why fetishes get more acceptance at pride then Bisexual people. It's frustrating. Pride is a family event with many minors. I don't personally think fetishes should be there.
Yes we should go to pride festivals! I’ve been bisexual for a very long time and no one else gets to decide who I like or don’t like for me. It’s genetics people. People have been like this for centuries. BI PRI !!
(Im a guy, ftr) I feel like I am attracted more to guys but I'm definitely still bi. I know you said if you were not a straight bisexual/were in a same sex relationship you might want to consider going to one, but tbh, those experiences you described make me not want to go. I don't really feel queer, either. so...not sure what to do.
and all these years (and as an exchange student there) i had an impression that the west coast is the most open-minded and welcoming, well i guess not when it comes to bisexuals what a disappointment how does it make any sense whatsoever that fetishes are welcomed on pride festivals but not bisexuals? and what about ace people? i've heard they have hard time too
The stories about the guy shrinking due to his friend calling out your booth and the girl seeming interested but not being able go to it are saddening to hear ☹️ I hope wherever they are they manage to get better friends and gain more confidence in their bisexuality
EVERYTHING you mentioned, every reason you cited as clues to bi-sexual erasure, to why Bisexuals shouldn’t go to Pride parades is EXACTLY why we should turn up and turn out at them. Because F the haters, and the marginalization - they need to know we’re here and NOT a myth.
I am so late to this, I've only recently discovered your channel! I wish you had more subscribers, I think a lot of people would benefit from watching your videos. I'm sorry you didn't see any bi flags at SD Pride! I've been going to pride there for many years, and have always seen lots of bi (and pan) flags, especially with younger people. I can't speak to the booths, but in and attending the parade, non-LG people seem to be represented very well. I also like that they specify LGBT Pride, rather than Gay Pride. I also kinda don't think it's fair to judge .2 million people by yourself. I needed to defend San Diego, but I love your videos. Keep up the great work!
I dislike the ambiance, my father took me at Montreal pride as a child and all i saw was drugged out people looking at me with very wide eyes, dressed as nurses, leather fetishes, almost naked men and all that jazz. I did not felt i belonged there. Now that i'm 25 i'll give it another try, go and see if they actually represent us bisexuals, i hope they do.
I just happen to live very close to Denver and have been wanting to go to my first pride. I had some reasons to try to go to LA, but now it seems like Denver might be where I’m going!
The last time I went to pride, I was having a good time with my sister. Then we went into a building where they had all kinds of displays and the stories of activism through the years. Lesbians got their own room. Gays got their own room. Trans got most of a room, and very very small in the very corner of the trans room was two single information boards. I didn't need people to tell me I was unwelcomed, I've never been back.
Thanks for another great and informative video. I must say that I definitely feel for the woman who stood in the distance not able to visit you. I see this in society constantly. Very very sad that social programming and fear seem to have an iron grip on so many lives. We're all just people. Each of us are unique and special. All of this division is killing us and it needs to stop.
Toronto's Pride only had one Bisexual booth that I saw, but I saw many people with Bi flags. Our local city (Barrie, Ontario, Canada) had a small pride celebration with a half decent parade.....however I didn't see a single Bi Pride flag anywhere and there were no booths or mention of Bisexuals that say or heard all day (other than including the "B" in the "alphabet in speeches").
This year Toronto Pride had the Bi+ Hub as part of the festival and it was the first time that Pride had a Bi+ Pride Committee. Come check it out next year, hopefully it will happen again!
I just went to a inaugural pride festival in my area this last weekend and it was totally bisexual approved (also thanks I think you might be one of the reasons why I realized I was bi) oh and I think this festival had every single lgbtq person out there plus they had a lot of different vendors selling bisexual so hopefully it’s going to be an annual thing!
Love to buy your shirts and read some of your books. I’m bisexual and can’t really own anything that would give it away or buy any because of my religious family. My best was so nice to offer to buy some bi stuff for me but they had to be suttle so my family wouldn’t know.
I live super close to San Fransisco, like 30-45 minutes drive away and I had been wondering if I should go to pride over there. Thanks for notifying me that I should find somewhere else
Maybe she was staring because she's a fan of your books and didn't know how to approach you? Either way, thank you for posting these videos. I've been watching a lot of these since I came out... kind of helps me feel less abnormal.
You surely have a lot more knowledge then I do about our community, and I have sure learned a lot from your videos. Just wondering why you think bisexuals are mostly straight?
I have a question I really need answered. I've tried writing you on Instagram but you didn't answer.. is there a way I can ask you a question directly?
BisexualRealTalk hey I wrote you on the Alexander's fluid Instagram. I couldn't find the email. Thank you for your future response.. I rlly don't have anyone to talk about this.
If what you say is true about 3 times more Bisexuals than gays or lesbians. Then why don't you just go and create a Bi pride event instead. No more booing or cat calling, just support from like minded people. Makes perfect sense to me.
Its strange that the 3rd word is lgBt and then people denying that it exist. I dont even know why its that complicated. Just because i choose to be with a woman that doesnt mean im magically not into man, that means my partner is happened to be a woman. And there will be people who never be with the same gender but its not working for everyone, you need to explore who you are and what you want.
Hmmmm.....a straight girl might date me if I'm Bi, a gay guy might date me if I'm Bi, a lesbian would never date me, but I should only be able to date Bisexual people? Really? Why? I like Men and Women both. People just can't understand that. And the people I like don't have to be Bisexual, they just need to be good people.
@@FatedTag Yeah, don't you love gay & lesbian people treating you badly cos of your sexuality?!?! If you haven't watched verilybitchie's vids, HIGHLY RECOMMEND!! "Why we hate bi men" is particularly eye-opening, if depressing. She's bi trans non-binary, & looks at actual history & research, & for the 1st time in my life I felt like I'm _allowed_ to say I'm bi even tho I have so-called "straight-passing privilege".
