On this episode the hosts along with Dj Ada aka Ada la pinky, talk about if its compulsory for Men to take care of their Date's Transportation Fare. please join the conversation in the comments.
What these girls don't get is that dating is meant to be "mutual". If he asks you out and you feel something for him, then you go out with him because you want to, not because you are doing him a favour. If you don't feel something for him, then don't agree to go out with him. Simple. They are demanding t-fare cos they think they're doing the guy a favour by agreeing to go out with him. In most cases, they don't even care about the guy or his feelings. They just want to slay, take selfies in an expensive restaurant and still rip him off of his money. I'm ashamed for them.
Preach, girl. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I had this in mind while watching, I mean, why go out with someone who you feel doesn't meet up with the potentials you want in a man? (please take note those potentials should be reasonable, I'm not talking about materialism here or physical attraction, these can come later. That is, after analysing other qualities that can stand the taste of time, then you can make your decision based on the 80% 20% rule.) If you're a forward thinking lady, you should be able to decide the type of relationship you want with a man just by texting or talking over the phone, this would help you decide whether you'd want to hangout with him or not. If you haven't decided that yet, then going to see a man outside picking a stand on your relationship (friendship, business, romantic relationship...) with him and having the funny mindset of him paying your transportation fare, and other expenses, because of whatever reason you think you have is simply extortion, foolishness, demeaning, et cetera.
You totally get it. Like stop making it seem like you're doing the guy a favor because you came to see him, doesn't make any sense. I'm glad we still have reasonable girls like you.
To avoid stories like this. Date a woman that works,date a woman that is well trained, date a woman with empathy, date a with vision and a plan. Be a good man too.
Hunger have really dealt with people's mentality. A woman who has her own money would be insulted with transport fare. Relationship is a two way street.
It’s absolutely disgusting how women sacrifice their power of CHOICE on the alter of materialism. Why go through all that trouble and expect money for a date without putting a price tag on yourself in advance? Last last respect ashawo, those women don’t play with their money and they let you know upfront not these transactional escort wanabe nonsense.
I came to the comment section to see you'all chew Ada and I'm truly pleased with the comment Bravo guys ..👏 😄.. Ada needs reorientation , Toun is a queen .
This show is good, in that it helps us realise that being famous does not equate to being rational or sensible. Let's be careful of those we follow their advice. I wonder if most Nigerian girls think like Ada and Naomi??
I have met many that think like this chief..... One of my guy sister literally open her mouth to say why would her brother approach a girl to ask for her number without crediting the girl. Hence looking at her at that point I felt very irritated by her sense of stupidity.
Omo guy be like say e don tey since you go street or meet people 😹💔 Nna you go shock. Even people wey their father no fit afford the treatment they feel entitled to😹
I believe if you leave your house for a date, it's also because you want to get to know that person beyond just text. If that is the case, paying your transport won't be a big deal because you have an actual reason outside the money that is taking you to him. You expect him to give you a good time, a good nice treat at a nice restaurant and then pay your transport to and fro and you just give make up and smiles in return..comon! Respect yourself!!!
Na their type dem dey ask what do you bring to the table and they say they are the table and they don't understand they are asked that because dem no dey show anything of value
Haha! The only person benefitting from these kinda entitled dates is the makeup artist...but I doubt these kinds would pay a makeup artist even 10k to look good for a date except they're sure they'll be getting upward of 100k for escort duties. Babes, just put a price on it and be done already!
This is very simple.. Go on dates with people you think are interested in spending time with you.. With that, both parties will make time and effort to show up no matter the circumstance without complaining. Instances where you think you don't have money to pay for your transport, talk it over with the other party and if they offer to Willingly pay that's cool but it shouldn't be mandatory. You are not entitled to nobody's money.. Also there is nothing wrong with declining a date if you think it's not worth the trouble.
Naomi and Ada giving the dumbest takes ever... tell me you're an olosho/runz girl without saying you're an olosho/runz girl. That's what they both portrayed in this podcast.
This Ada girl just confirms that she's a 304 and she's for the street. Kings listen up stay woke forget about women, focus on yourself, get your money up and these women will flock around you like chicks
Husband Material!!! Voice of sensible Men!! I love this guy so much, His utterances are just filled with unmeasurable wisdom! Emmanuel stating the truth d way it is! I can’t even comprehend what the host was saying 😅😂🤣..well she made it clear ,:na market she dey sell” so u are to pay for TP. E hard to see beta women now ooo Most of them get wrong ideology!
I like the fact that Nedu was very truthful with the whole situation ... If you are stepping out to hangout with someone feeling entitled to transport fare then the guy should also feel entitled for sex . Ada na ashawo dey ur eye
It should be a gesture not transactional. You date your levels or what gets your interest. Expecting money is entitlement and it's particular to nigerian ladies.
You forgot to add “The Nigerian ladies I have met” ! You might need to change your circle from the urgent 2k ladies or sub for me girls! If some of us ever ask you for anything urgent bro (that’s -once in a red Sun) , it would be in 6 figures!
@@Bennysouzamedia if you can understand what I wrote I said you date your levels or your interest. You can't come on a date and the first thing you ask is money. I said it's a gesture. What a responsbile man should do if he's better off. You can't date someone below your status and expect him to work wonders. And we weren't talking about urgent 2k. Get the topic right. We've seen ladies that are well to do and they are still been give money for fares and stuff. What we seeing here don't make your date too transactional like you buying an item.
My issue with your comment is “it’s perculiar to Nigerian ladies”! And I stand on existing premise that is hasty generalization!!!!!!! Say some Nigerian ladies! Most Nigerian ladies not judge millions of women with some unrefined girl practice!
I love all what that lady on white is saying. If a guy invites you to see him, don’t expect him to give you something. If you expect him to give you something, you should have negotiated it with him before going to see him. Don’t expect him to do so after the outing. C’mon have your own money, be responsible.
I can't wrap my head around the fact that they continuously make it seem like theyre coming on a date as favor to you. Girl stay at yours if you're not into seeing me, ain't nobody doing nobody favors.
Tbh to a lot of girls, they feel they’re doing you a favor by hanging out with you. Girls who are really interested in you are the ones who would happily spend their money to see you. But then they need to know you before liking you abi, back to the top then 😂
lol...This show is really fun and informative about the social dynamics between men and women in nigeria. I agree with toun when she said everyone should cut their coat according to their size. I also think everyone should be honest, clear and communicate their intentions to the person they dealing with before any form of investment is made. This will prevent people finessing each other.
Gurlsss, my own is only go out to see who you actually like or see potential with, that way you won’t have a problem in spending or finding transport💕💕
When did some ladies become so superficial to the extent that they can’t do regular make up, wear their regular fancy clothes to go see someone on a date. Also, when did some ladies start thinking that dating someone should be transactional. I no longer understand what is going on in our society. This Ada and Naomi really have very warped ideologies with respect to the topic at hand.
You will be amazed this has become the reality of our society now. Some even now ask you to pay for sex video call. They pop up on my snap everyday 😭😭😭. We so gone
You're not alone my dear. Where did all our manners and good reasoning go? Why can't you do your regular makeup by yourself and go and hang out without expecting anything? At the very least,If you don't have transport fare,tell the guy you don't and see if he offers... Cos what's all this 🙄
From this very insightful conversation, some women don't start being honest with what the want and Ada made clear that her market is her body so case closed.
They birthed this girl child and called her Ada which literally means "Fathers precious daughter" in Igbo palance, took her to church and dedicated her to the glory of God, spent 2 decades in 'bringing her up' to eventually make her parents proud in the future only for this girl child to end up on a podcast confidently promoting & defending stupidity. The level of deterioration today amongst youths especially Nigerian girls is just despicable. As for the other girl Naomi, it's quite unfortunate that you sound so eloquent and articulate only to be extremely stupendous. Naija girls, do better, most of you are setting a terrible precedent for yourselves locally and internationally. Tueh!
Please don’t say Nigerian girls! That’s a hasty generalization! You forgot to add the prefix some or most! Every girl in Nigeria isn’t this low thinking that a man must reward her financially for going on a date like she’s a child he adopted!
i can’t even express my feelings in this comment section, because what is this??? are you doing the guy a favor by going out with him? aren’t you supposed to get to know yourselves beyond text and calls? a guy can choose to pay for your transportation, that’s a nice gesture but it’s not compulsory. he didn’t force you to come out.
The ladies sound like it’s a privilege for the guy to see them. Like they are doing the guy a favor to see them. That mentality in my opinion is wrong. If you no value the guy no go chop free food. It’s called taking advantage
You the slim lady u're one of the best lady from the west, u're full of knowledge and proudly a lady with full respect and maturity. For noami u're a hungry gal with poor understanding, for Ada i don't have much to say to u because it's ur work and surely u should be paid, looking at u and ur speech i know u're not stingy, u're in for give and take 4get about noami dat has nothing but proud of her poor life and poor mentality.
Husband material got me laughing too much🤣😂🤣........I enjoyed every bit of the conversation. Honestly though, the entitlement mentality in our culture is very annoying and embarrassing.
This sense of entitlement is sickening and should not be encouraged. Its a date for crying out loud! so dressing up and looking nice shouldn't be a chore, it is what you decide to do. Ladies, let's do better please. You're worth more than these.
A guys intentions is known before you meet and what ever has been the vibe of the discussion you can tell. Give yourself respect and know when to say NO to something’s it will save your self respect
This is just too funny!😂 If after a date and guy gives me money for transportation, I’d collect and say thank you. But if not that’s ok too! I mean is not mandatory for him. Besides don’t we all go out with cash just Incase of necessity? Or don’t you girls try to be independent when a man offers to pay for something sometimes or is it just being ostentatious?
Nedu’s opinion of Toun is the reason a lot of girls like Ada keep being entitled to his money. You see Toun as a guy but you see Ada as the girl you want but you want her to act like Toun and think like Toun. LOL!!
Nedu's opinion is due to the fact that she's his friend not his crush. If i truly see a girl as a friend and i didn't become her friend because i have a crush but just a friend she's already a bro
I see no reason why you should wear a makeup that expensive if you feel you're not impressing the guy... If you're wearing a makeup that expensive for yourself...then you should not include it in the guys bill.he didn't ask you to wear makeup after all. You can go for something cheaper.... wearing your wig and dressing nice ... you could even apply just what you have at home. And we come out to express our pains about how the male gender talks about girls being transactional In almost all dealings with the opposite sex If I agree to come out.....I want to go out ...not because I need you to pay my transportation fare
What's amazing is how Nedu transitions from English to street but nevertheless Toun made the point clear cut your coat according to your available material. This feeling of entitlement on ladies part should stop please.
