I have a 4 month old pup. If I could go back in time I would say no thanks to getting him. I knew it would be a huge responsibility, but actually being in it, is completely different. To rehome him stresses me out because I want to make sure he'll be loved and cared for. I don't know what I'm going to do yet, but thanks for posting this.
@@Ash-uv4td I knew I would have felt bad if I didn't try everything before rehoming, so I got more focused and consistent with training. And I worked on my patience, lol. He's a smart dog and can pick up on things quickly, so this helped. He still has his moments, but it's a lot better.
Honestly, it gets better. I got my puppy at 2 months. Dog would cry pee and poop at home had fleas. I stuck with him and I can never give him. You do have to sacrifice some time, but it’s worth it. I exercise my dog frequently and that is the reason why he is a couch potato when I work. Don’t let a dog stress you out. You will be fine and so will your dog.
Absolutely. Children are a huge responsibility and commitment, but more rewarding than an animal. Children are such a gift, that selfless love for another changed my whole perspective on life. You can't have a meaningful conversation with a pup, I don't think it's for me 😢
Oh my gosh yes, I have always felt I'll be ready, I'm full of love ect. but I got a puppy beforehand and now I can only imagine the precious gravity of having a beautiful human child
You can't compare puppy and kid, the emotions when you have your first kid isn't comparable with your first puppy! Don't be stupid! Sacrifices are justify with children, but not with a bloody stinky animal!
Pretty much described everything that happened to me. I think getting a dog is a family job. Doing it from the puppy stage by yourself is extremely difficult.
Yeah I had a puppy she was with me a month and I couldn't keep up with her see was so hard to train working 10 hrs shifts 6 days a week and I asked family n friends to help no one would come visit her at my apartment I was so stressed out I felt lil relief getting her a new home nice young family with yard n lil house but when I came home to my empty apartment I couldn't stop crying and I still miss her 😢but I know she happy
Being in a family is different in getting a dog . A baby wont be able to walk or move for about 6 months you know exactly what to expect but for puppies they require keeping your eyes on them or else your home is going to be on fire
Going through this right now. I have someone from a farm coming to adopt it off me and I know he’ll have a better life there rather then with me, I’ve got really bad anxiety this past week. Owning a dog is a MASSIVE responsibility that I didn’t know of.
@@mahsshahsavari yeah the guilt is terrible, I went and saw him a couple times, he’s loving his new home! A great decision I can look back and know he’s living a better life!
@@LegitVenom thanks 🙏 I haven’t made my mind 100% but raising a Boxer puppy by myself (alone) and opening a business in Jan 2022 that needs 10 hrs of my time everyday sounds impossible. I’m sorry for your pain 🤞
I rehomed my dog today... I had him for a year. And I haven’t stopped crying. My heart is broken. But I realized this needed to happen. I barely had time for him. Going through depression, made me give him less love, less care. And I tried my best to be strong. I miss him so much. Today is the first night I haven’t had him. My apartment feels so empty and quiet. I’m so upset.... I miss him so much... he was my bestfriend. My heart, I ran to him for love. I will never ever forget him... hopefully one day I can get another pup.
How are you coping 6 months on? I rehomed my dog a few days ago, I had her 9 months from 9 weeks old, she was the sweetest border collie puppy and was great. She was super hyper which I expected and I trained her everyday, never was she apart from me which led to a little separation anxiety. I taught her so much, helped her overcome her fears, she helped me deal with my depression and loneliness. I did not always know that I loved her because I struggle with feeling love or anything, I got frustrated and angry at times with her, as she was so much hardwork but I liked being forced to get out, depression meant I locked myself away before her, we learned so much together. Ultimately my business fell apart adding more stress then when had a chance to get back up and running, covid 19 came destroying my business again and leaving me destitute, everything fell apart and was relying on help from charities and nearly homeless. Ultimately as things got worse I decided it best to rehome her, I found a good family to take her who she bonded to really quickly, I have cried everyday since, I miss her so much, I know through the wrestling it over, I did right thing by her and sure she's happy, just hoping I will get over this.
David Holden It was one of the best decisions I made. I was not in the mental head space for a pup at the time. He is in a new home happy and has dog friends and family. I have personally been doing better with my depression. I learned that if I cannot take of myself I cannot take care of anyone else. If you keep thinking about rejoining you’re dog. Just do it. It’s a wake up sign that you can no longer take care of your little fur ball. And that it may lead to neglect if you keep them. I do want another dog one day. But years from now.
We have found a lovely family to rehome my 9 month old puppy. I'm heartbroken but my depression is getting worse and my pup needs more exercise than I can give him. He deserves a better life. I have seen photo's of where he will live and he's going to love it. The family are really excited. I hope he settles in quickly.
I have never felt like I feel right now. I haven’t even had my puppy for a week but I feel so overwhelmed. I’ve wanted a dog for so many years it really was my lifelong dream, now that I have her I don’t understand why I feel like this. I feel sad, anxious, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep. I feel alone, I feel like I cannot do this by myself. But I love her I really do. I don’t know what is happening to me but I don’t want to feel like this anymore.
@@HazyPinkSky Hello, I kept her and I now know that it was the right choice. However it wasnt easy for the first like two weeks. But I ended up talking to a therapist (about all the anxiety i was feeling etc) and to a dog trainer expert (she told me that i should stop looking at training videos of dos and donts or to just stick to one channel, because it was very stressing for me to think that maybe i wasnt going to do what was right for my dog etc). It may be hard but do whatever feels right for you, having a puppy definetly is a lot of work! specially if you're someone like me that can stress easily, maybe picture both scenarios and try to think which one makes you feel more at peace or which one feels right, and if you think that giving back the dog its what feels right, then thats probably the best not only for yourself but for the dog!! dont be afraid of what people might think or anything like that and do what feels right. Also, it helped me to talk about it because it made me realize that i am not crazy and it is ok to be having those second thoughts, i also read some helpful information search 'puppy blues' its kind of like having postpartum depression, i read it on reddit and it helped. Hope you're ok, trust your gut, you'll make the right call!
It does get better, but if you dont think you can handle it or you just simply regret getting the dog, then give it back. Its best to do it sooner than later, for both of you. Try to dont feel guilty, and again, whatever you decide will be the right choice, whatever happens was what was meant to happen
@@Ferbocarbo Im so so happy with my dog she's literally my life im obssesed with her haha i love training her too. She's now been with me for a year. I would say it was not an easy task to have the patience to potty train among other stuff. I started to feel better about two weeks after i got her and that's when i actually started like enjoying her rather than suffering through the process...i talked to a therapist about the anxiety i was feeling and also i realized i wasn't crazy, there's a name for this feeling, the puppy blues! I dont know if you already did but read the comment where i replied to 'hazy pink' right under my original comment. And overall don't feel guilty and try to really listen to yourself and ask yourself what's best for the dog and for you. Im sure you will make the right decision. If you want to ask anything ill be happy to answer
Thank you I’ve been crying about this for 2 weeks everyone kept saying keep her today I am rehoming her. Just like you I lost myself and it’s stressful. I listened to other people and I’ve kept her but I do move around a lot. Thank you I feel bad because of other people
Normalize NOT condemning people for re-homing their pet. Why people are so harsh on folks who decide it's time to rehome I will never understand! Why would you want someone to keep a pet that is stressing them out and/or isn't a good fit for them, OR they just don't want anymore? I will never understand that mindset to make people feel bad for keeping a dog they don't want (for whatever reason). To each his/her own. Oftentimes rehoming is for the best!
Exactly. I’ve unfortunately have crossed paths with people who dump their dogs in the middle of nowhere, intentionally let them run away, and even two cases of people who’ve euthanized their dog simply because they became a nuisance. Rehoming a dog is a responsible and difficult decision and deserves compassion.
RIGHT... I felt like my family and everybody was making me feel bad but it had gotten to the point where my life was way more important than the dogs. I got a foster dog that had a lot of problems and it just was not what I was expecting.
Thank you, having doubts about rehoming our pup. This video really helped me see it’s not the best time for us to have a second dog and better for the pup to go to a loving family who will have more time for him x
Thanks for posting the video, it helped a lot when making the decision to rehome our 10 week old puppy. It was all just too much and I felt in my gut it was the wrong choice almost immediately. While it is sad and I feel terribly guilty for letting her go I also feel relief and like this is the best choice for her and me.
Thank you. I am struggling after rehoming my dog 2 days ago. I really liked what you said about finding an honest and truthful answer, but not one that makes you feel good. That’s how I decided to rehome my dog.... the bad feelings after Doing it make me think I made the wrong choice. But that’s not necessarily true... I just wish I hadn’t made the choice in the first place so I wouldn’t have to feel this way now 😣
Going through the anxiety (cant eat and cant sleep) right now and have been told that this is normal as well. Just want to know my options if I cant get past this crazy anxiety I'm having. Even grew up with dogs and helped raise puppies in my home, so I knew the work involved. The anxiety is from this being my first dog completely on my own. I really appreciate hearing this.
@@gabys424 I've had my puppy for 3 and a half months now, and honestly the first month was the hardest month of my entire life. I had talked to the breeder after the first week about giving her back, and decided to give it 2 months before making a decision. It can and DID get better for me! Obviously every situation is different, but I would say if you have any doubts, you should stick it out as long as you can, because it can get SO much better than the nightmare you're probably going through.
I recognize myself in what you mentioned. Your whole life begins to center around the dog and I've also tried sticking it out with my cat and noticed myself getting a bit depressed.
Thank you for posting this. I brought my puppy back to the shelter today. I'm absolutely crushed that I couldn't handle her, but my mental health deteriorated to a scary point in the week that I had her. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't shower... my life became her. I wanted a dog to help my mental health, not make it worse. I had to do what was best for the both of us, as much as I wanted it to work. There's such a stigma around rehoming a pet, but sometimes it's what needs to be done.
I’m in this same boat. For years I wanted a dog, I finally adopted one, but my mental health has deteriorated since. Constantly being so consumed with the dog, anxiety attacks about random things that could happen to the dog. To me it’s not worth it. But now I know, I will donate to shelters instead, but I
This sounds exactly like me. I took my dog back to the shelter today. I had been crying for days and had to call a crisis center. It’s not the dogs fault, it just trigged my own mental health and I just felt that the dog deserved better. He came from a neglectful owner and I was terrified of becoming neglectful so we took him back two days after adopting him. There is definitely stigma and people judge but they don’t know what it’s like to be in a situation like that and ultimately it’s what best for the dog.
This video was exactly what I needed. We just re-homed our two pups tonight and I’ve been beside myself, crying all night. I love them so much but I know it’s for the best. Everything you said was exactly how I felt. Plus life has just got so much more busy since getting them, I didn’t have the time anymore. I am so thankful for you for sharing this video. I’ll repost in hopes it helps someone else too.
You are so honest and thoughtful and introspective! You made the best decision for you and the dog! It needed to happen because the puppy blues are so very real! My husband and I are older now and in our mid 60s. We have had 3 amazing dogs in our lifetime and lost our last one over a year ago. But since our last dog we had sold our home with a yard…moved to a condo and apartment in Boston with no yard and the children had all grown up and left the nest! So we bought this gorgeous English Labrador puppy from an amazing breeder who breeds show and service dogs. Long story after giving it our all….Exhaustion and depression and anxiety had set in deep for both of us. I read all about the puppy blues and they are real!!! We hadn't slept in 6 weeks! And without a yard or playmate, the dog was miserable…anxious all the time and wouldn’t hardly ever settle. We hated crating her and she hated it more! I called the breeder to discuss options and she said she would love to have her back on her farm with the only litter mate she had left from the 8 pups. The opportunity was just too good all the way around and best for Eloise!💝🐾💝 We experience sadness in saying goodbye to her but such great joy in seeing her back with her breeder mommy and litter mate back on the farm. Our adult children were saddened and disappointed not that they wanted her! We learned so much about this stage in our life and to embrace our freedom to travel and just be…not tied to a dog’s need and schedule. I am texting this from back in the gym on a bike…I am eating and sleeping well again…and my husband and I just celebrated our 39th anniversary with so much love and understanding and freedom to rejoice in our shared decision! Bravo to you and all out there who make this decision. Never good to be a martyr just because you feel guilty or care what anyone else thinks! Self care and healthy relationships must always come first to live your best life!💝🐾💝🐾💝
It’s absolutely exhausting I’m very stressed because the dog is in and out day and night I barely sleep thank you it’s seems like a clear cut choice now
This was literally me with my chocolate lab. I’d had him for almost 2 years since he was a puppy. I really didn’t want to do it, but the financial and psychological burden of it was too much. He’d bark like crazy when people came over and would throw a fit if he couldn’t come and jump on people. Mind you, he was trained not to do this and I didn’t let up on his training. He was always either outside or crated when I wasn’t there because he would tear things up if I wasn’t there. He chewed up a HS graduation gift that was a handmade wallet and I was so upset. I found myself leaving things way earlier than I wanted or needed because I had to tend to my dog. I ended up rehoming him after attempting to have my friend take care of him and she said he was a full-time job. In one night, he destroyed two pairs of shoes, a carpet, pooped and smeared it into a different carpet, and got a complaint filed with the front office. One night. He was a very smart dog, smart enough to know that he was being disobedient and would do it only when he got an attitude. I’m very glad I did what I did because I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.
Wow, this sounds like my dilemma. My dog is destroying my house. I spent 2 years remodeling and saved to pay for all the new things. He has destroyed my new carpet. Yesterday he got into my oven where I kept a blueberry pie from him. While eating the he stepped all in it and got blueberry on is feet and stepped all over my new furniture. Then proceeded to break a bedroom door open and blow diarrhea all over my third bedroom. I'm beyond!!! He is a very loving dog but I have other dresses in my life and I can't take this added stress....its not fair for either if us...
Tom Guy.. I have a huge back yard and my kids are grown but I will never ever get a dog because to me it would be like starting all over again with having something depending on you but with a dog, it's for the duration of its life. I sacrificed my life for my children and am just not willing to do it for a dog. I like my freedom.
@@1533ramsaywow..a friend of mine got a dog that was given to her by a boyfriend and the dog ate a hole through her drywall! Well needless to say my friend had the dogs toys and the dog waiting by the door the next day for the boyfriend to come and get. Now the dog is in a new home with no regrets .. I admire those who have patience with dogs being destructive because I couldn't. I don't work my behind off for nice things for it to be destroyed by anything or anyone!
Shame on you. All of you. Those dogs came to you for love and each of you cant stop talking about the material possessions the dog repossessed that are REPLACEABLE, the high school graduation wallet and credit cards (money comes and goes) and the blueberry pie. You can make another blueberry pie but a dog is irreplaceable. You should have to make a blueberry pie and bring it to him in his new home to make it up to him, minimum. Shame on you.
@@testingtesting-cv4jr Well then start a fund for broke college kids starving and eating noodles so their dogs could eat or STFU. You Karens are obnoxious AF with that fake moral highground BS.
I’m grappling with this decision now & this video is soo helpful knowing I’m not alone. I’m having more stress and anxiety than pleasure from having the dogs.
Holy shit thank you for posting this. It's literally exactly how I feel about my poor dog. I love her so much, but every few weeks I feel like my anxiety and depression surrounding her is never gonna go away. I worry about her so much, I'm never enjoying the time I spend with her. 2 months ago I decided I couldn't take care of her and I wasn't giving her the life she deserved so I found a reputable rescue and they walked me through the whole process. Literally the day I was supposed to decide and get back to them I realized I couldn't stand the idea of giving her away. I cried all day and decided it was a sign I should keep her. Fast forward to now and I'm questioning it again. I still feel like I'm in way over my head and it's been months. I really thought the puppy blues would be gone by now.
I rehomed my puppy and regret it completely. I can’t get her back because her new owners instantly fell in love with her. I’m happy she’s in a home with a owner to can provide her with more than I could. But my heart literally aches. I hope this feeling doesn’t last forever. Best of luck with your decision
This video helped me. I am in a very bad dilemma. I have always wanted a dog and I thought a puppy would be ideal since I'd be able to teach it from scratch and that it won't have any emotional baggage. Now I'm realizing how big of a mistake it is since I did not anticipate how stubborn pomskies are. It has taught me a lesson that I can't just underestimate puppies thinking that they will all just obey. I am so mentally and physically exhausted and I'm on the brink of rehoming my 11 week old puppy. I love him and I have no problem losing sleep over him, what's making me break down is his unending energy and his unbreakable stubbornness. I should have adopted an adult dog that is already housetrained. I'm so torn, I don't really know what to do.
Nic Reyes hey I am so sorry for what your dealing with. I currently dealing with a new pup that is having issues with crate at night ( anytime she just cry’s if she’s in crate and doesn’t stop until I let her out) I have read n watched many tips n training vids.. idk what to do. She also is having issues getting usto my cat I thought by now they would be somewhat usto each other or atleast any progress but there’s none. The pup barks n my cat just bolts down stairs or up in a window. My cats also tried to bad the dog a few times and hishes at the pup which can be scary so I’m always there with completely supervising both of them but I’m just not having any luck. Do u have any tips on either topic? I keep hearing it will get better with time but I feel horrible my cat is like petrified to be upstairs on main floor where he normally is and now barely likes coming up I constantly have to have the gate up between them if I’m not 100% all on with them which I’ve been working so hard to try n get them to get along but still no progress. Sorry for the long message I just am at a loss n looking for any tips. We got a Frenchie idk if that helps but ya .. again very sorry to hear about your situation and I hope things get better for ya.💜
You made this years ago and I'm so glad you did. A few days ago I adopted the most beautiful puppy. I fell in love with her week before when I saw her adoption listing and again when I met her in person. I bought her everything I could've needed and more and through the span of 3 days, I went through the worst case of Puppy Depression. I stopped eating cause I had no appetite, I couldn't sleep because I kept worrying something bad was gonna happen to her and the first time I went out for like 3 hours while my friend was watching her all I felt was guilty, ashamed and just horrible. I never cried so much in my life and I no idea why I felt this way. I talked to a lot of people who told me to wait but honestly the realization that I wasn't ready slapped me in the face. I also found out I was allergic to her and I was trying so hard to fight it with allergy pills but they would make me drowsy and yet I couldn't sleep. I ended up giving her back to her foster who had another family lined up already. It's only been a day since that happened and while I still feel relieved I do miss her so much. I wish I was more ready but I know she's going to have a much better life with her new family. Anyways, thank you for making this video.
I'm on the other side of this. I've had my daughter's dogs for 10 months. She and her husband got 2 corgis (litter mates) right before they got married. She got pregnant within a month of getting married. He's in the navy and got stationed in Hawaii. I've had them since they moved. I am a widow whose only child and grandchild live so far away. These cute little stinkers bring me so much happiness. I have to ship them to her in a week and I'm so emotional. I don't want them to fly in cargo without anyone who loves them anywhere around. I've had nightmares about kennels and not being able to breathe. My daughter not only has a 15 month old and a husband about to deployed via submarine for 6-9 months, she is also has a baby on the way. She doesn't have the time for them. She refuses to let me have them until they move back in 3 years. The whole situation is breaking my heart. I never thought I'd love dogs like I love them.
Wow, this helped me so much! I needed to hear this. Since I’ve gotten my dog I’ve become so depressed and stopped doing what I love due to being so overwhelmed & stressed about me dog and I somewhat resent my dog for it, but I feel bad to give him away because he is so smart and such a good dog that I felt ungrateful. But I honestly have been thinking about it for awhile and I think it’s best for me and him. I just want to feel good again, he’s only 9 months so I think he will adjust fast
Same, but I’m doing all of this because I’m not mentally good. I can’t take care of him anymore because of how bad my mental health has gotten and I just want him to be with someone who’ll be able to take care of him and be happy.
@@lissethgonzalez7939 I just had to rehome my dog due to my poor mental health too. It was hard but he’s with nice, successful owner now that will give him a great stable life
I’m rehoming my puppy feel very emotional but my depression has came back big time I can’t I’m rehoming my puppy it’s affecting my mental health very sad thank you for advice
I needed to rehome my maltese one year ago too. Felt super guilty and wished we kept him instead because my puppy blues were not that bad after 3 weeks. Found him a new loving home. It's okay to rehome it if you can't take care of it. Your mental health comes first.
This feels like shit but I think I'm gonna rehome my puppy tomorrow. He is just 9,5 weeks old and with me for 10 days only. I've got a severe panic attack yesterday - probably because of puppy depression. I still feel like there is an alien in my flat. I feel like I'm trapped. I'm raising him alone, am very dedicated and I'm a very introverted person who for whole life (over 30 years now) relied on his own place to cool off - a safe haven. Now I no longer have it... I would never expect that my reaction will be this big. To be frank, I took a dog exactly to combat his a bit. And I've failed big time. And I have to say that this dog is near perfect. Potty training? 4 days - done. Destructive? 3/10, so - not much. House manners are OK. Loves people and dogs... My dog breeder is also a wonderful person and she is helping me with this as she can. Over those 10 days I can say that I adore this dog (most beautiful Whippet dog). But he can feel me. He can feel I'm breaking apart. I feel guilt.
@@Eloy98 What I would say is - get help from your family and friends. Let them help to get some time alone to rest mentally. Few hours can work wonders. My thoughts after this was that that the biggest obstacle was that I was with this alone. And not that it was difficult workload wise but because it's 100% on you and basically 100% of your time can be focused on the puppy. So you become anxious. Try to make it 60% and go up from there. Try to have 1-2 hours free of thinking about the puppy every day. This may not be the best thing for the puppy but for me that would be the only possibility of withstanding this experience. And, if you fail, don't be ashamed to much. This is not an easy task to raise a puppy alone. Work, every day stress, isolation, new situation and big responsibility. For some people this is probably easy. But there are some (like us) that excel somewhere else.
Going through this today with a lot of thought and talks with my doctor because eive lost over 10 pounds within 2 weeks because I'm so depressed and I'm not ready plus I started a new job and she meows a lot during the night and makes it difficult for me to sleep and is effecting my job performance and I Need these job due to the lack of support during this whole pandemic... I took the step to try to rehome he because I don't feel good about it anymore and my apartment is my safe space and I don't feel happy in my safe space anymore I actually dread coming home
@@Rig_JW thx for the post, do you have peace about rehousing your pup? My home was my sanctuary too, pup is 80% great but still biting, dominant and growling at night. I got him mainly as companion for my child but has shown aggression there too. I'm not enjoying the pup just have regret and resentment at it taking 100% of my time but its still not enough. No space due to all its gear. Feel an utter failure, but think the empath personality is better contemplating life with alone time than with an aggressive animal, need to pray, read, dance to stay sane aside from work, jobs, bills, single parent and now puppy trainer/pacifier/playmate/poop on all carpet cleaner/financer - something has got to give. It may not be aggressive if I was a walk 3hrs a day kind of owner but I'm not. I made a mistake and people will Judge, especially after failed marriage. Feel bad for giving child hope then removing it, but it's temperament is not right. Child thinks it should go but will be super sad if it becomes reality. Help Lord, I did not seek you first on this one 🙏
@@FaithfulandTrue949 My husband decided he wanted a puppy after our aggressive 8 year old German Shepherd passed away. I told him long ago I don’t want an aggressive dog breed ever again. I am like you an emotionally soft and don’t like aggressive animals (they are draining and exhausting). So what he does without my permission is get another aggressive working line GSD within three weeks after our other dog died. And our other chose to die in my arms. I really dislike the new puppy and I am avoiding him because it makes me angry how much he bites and demand barks. I generally try to limit my interaction to strictly obedience, but he started biting the treats so hard I don’t even want to do that with him. I guess best luck to my husband with this, who’s overly tired and now not giving the puppy adequately what he’s going to need. I just cannot stand aggressive dogs. I spent the last several years not petting our previous one because my husband wants genetically cracked up dogs he can’t handle with his lazy obese couch potato personality.
Thank you for this video, it helped me decide not to get a puppy right now. I was close to getting one but the more I thought about it the more anxious I would become about it and I was scared I would regret it later. It just made me realize now just isn’t the time to bring a puppy into my life.
Dude I’m so heartbroken and I regret rehoming my dog. He was so sweet gentle and kind, I only did it because my parents keep having arguments with me over him and I made the decision too quickly and brashly. Please make sure that your descision is 100% ur own if you do have one
Thank you for this video. I just sobbed because you said everything I needed to hear. We had our puppy only for a week and in that time I couldn’t eat or sleep from the stress and the depression made me also unable to bond with her. This was 2 months ago now and I’m still struggling with the grief and guilt but I hope one day I will get past it.
Hey, just wanted to say thanks for this video, it's so nice to hear a non-judgmental view on this subject. You're right; what's important is the decision to you and the dog, not to what others have to say. I have a three year old siberian husky. I love her to death, but since a pup, she's often been a little too much for me to handle. And I now got a lot of positive changes coming to my life. But I worry they won't be so positive for the pet. That includes possibly moving, as well as introducing her to cats. I try to ask for advice on a husky forum if rehoming is an option, but was viciously attacked. Some people instantly assume you're the biggest piece of crap in the world for thinking about rehoming a pet. They have no idea what it's like to walk in your shoes, though. How much stress or anxiety a pet can cause when they aren't quite the right fit for you. There's so much more to the story for me as well. I think for me, giving up the dog is an absolute last resort. I still feel like she has a role in our lives here. If I find myself just getting overwhelmed, if she doesn't seem like a good fit for my future home situation, then I will look into rehoming her. I think it'd be the nicest thing I could for the dog, if she can't be in a stable home. Kudos to you for making this video. I also seen you have a video on HOCD. I suffered from that for a short period of time and had to be medicated, some of us can only imagine what it's like to have OCD & anxiety disorder on top of trying to deal with a stressful pet situation.
Oh my! You just said everything I am feeling right now. I had a German shepherd grown up and I been wanting to get one for YEARS, finally my husband gave me a gift. It was a beautiful GSD. I hated feeling like that, the puppy is beautiful and not a bad puppy at all. She loved playing with he kids but for some reason it was just to much for me to handle. I had to bring her back to the breeder, we cried the whole way back home but it is undescribable how much relief I felt. I asked for updates and they just told me she has a family coming to see her tonight! Hopefully that works out. I just want her to get the best life she can have and thrive in it. It is really hard and just know your not alone, a lot of people feel this way as I have been reading on the subject since I started developing this kind of feeling.
I have to rehome my dog. She’s jealous of my grandson and he’s now frightened of her. Thankfully I found a great home for her to go to but it’s still breaking my heart and causing guilt. However, my grandson’s safety is important and her well-being is important (she’s now changing colors due to stress). I love them both enough to put my feelings last.
Needed. THIS! I write music too! I found 2 strays back in FEB 2020 right before the pandemic and thought they'd go straight to the city shelter but when we took them home for a quick bath before dropping them off- we found the female dog was pregnant. Puppies were born Mar. 7th... Thanks to COVID, no dog training classes are happening and the puppies are coming up on being a year old- a year of pooping inside the house, unruly barking and chewing, and fear/ anxiety from the two parent strays. I'm kind but I'm not very patient so my anger and resentment towards them grows. They're either too scared to learn or quickly forget their training and I don't have the time or patience to keep starting over. I feel bad but- all signs lead to rehoming.
I had three dogs. I was moving and had no choice but to rehome of the youngest. It not only broke my heart but my other two dogs heart too. He was a brindle American Bulldog and he was the life of the party at home. As soon as he left I just felt the energy get sucked out of our home. I loved him and didn't want to do it. My only advice is that if you KNOW you NEED to rehome an animal you love, find a good home and rehome home him asap when you do. Try not to think about it and stay busy that first week. Everything will be okay
This is really really helpful. Going through a breakup and I’m the one that’s going to be responsible for our large German shepherd puppy I guess as he doesn’t want her... I can’t afford to live in anything more than a studio apartment or a 2 bedroom if I get a roommate. My dog has been living in a 3 bedroom house with a backyard and already bounces off the walls and I can’t imagine cramming her into a tiny apartment. She barks a lot and is still in the “chewing everything up” phase and she really just needs a big place to run around and family to take care of her and give her attention constantly. I’m afraid she will spend hours on end in her crate if I’m the only one who cares for her because I’ll be at work. I’m still in limbo with my decision but I think I know what’s right /:
I feel so overwhelmed with my husky german shepherd mixed dog. He's so friendly and docile but I'm at a point where I'm having to leave him inside a steel kennel when I don't have eyes on him. I just spent 2 weekends, one being my birthday, where I made him and 2 of my other small shitzu dogs a house with insulation and AC. I also played down turf and I came back with the turf lifted and the house peed on and wood chewed on. Imma be honest and I work 10hrs and feel like between chores and work I have very little time to play with him. I've tried walking him often and didn't help. I realize he needs more activity than that and so I made him a 300 square footage dog run filled with toys, bones, etc yet he chooses to chew on the dog house wood. I am so depressed and irritated. I've had 2 separate episodes prior where I almost gave him away because he has been rehomed twice and I love him but I just dislike how destructive he is.
This is known as the puppy blue period it typically gets better however certain situations can make it more difficult especially when people work full-time and are doing it alone I couldn't imagine. Honestly it's best to have a family or at least a partner.
Don’t know how to thank you enough! You said all the confusion, blues I have been going through right now. I feel so regretful! And I do not know what to do
thank you for this. i am having to rehome my 7 month old puply that ive had since i was born because of my landlord. But she has also only lived in apartments, spent hours in a huge kennel because i work, and i dod school at night so we would go on really quick walks at most. she deserves better and the internet was making me feel extremely guilty and cruel but she is going to have a better life and for that i am grateful. your points made me feel so much beter not just for me but for her!
Honestly this is how I feel daily, everything you have said is how I feel, it’s been 3 months and I’m getting more and more depressed. I’m having to rehome my fur baby tonight, it’s hard but I know it’s the right thing for her 😓💔
@@allysona843 I ended up trying to rehome her on and off cause I kept changing my mind due to guilt, it took me another 2 months to realise my mental health was terrible as I couldn’t give her the home she needed, she had severe anxiety when left home alone and I couldn’t give up my full time job or afford a full time dog day care. It hurt and broke my heart but looking back now it’s the best thing, you will grieve and feel like shit for the first few weeks, but she’s in a better home with someone that has another dog.
Thank you for making this. I have just made the tough decision to rehome my new dog because he is getting aggressive with our cats and we are not sure we can keep them safe. I’m devastated and feel so guilty but this really helps💖
hi, we got a puppy 2 days ago. I wanted a dog almost my whole life and my wife got into dog fever too. Whenever I saw a dog I fell even more in love and my insta feed was/is flooded with dog content. I love animals of all kind but now I feel overwhelmed... I was desperate and anxious on the first evening. since then I cried almost everday and I feel bad for taking him home without more thinking on a long term... the thing is i have quite a lot to do for university and my wife is working on the weekdays, so most of the responibility is upon me and this makes a big pressure (even more than before, I kinda struggle with performance/efficiency in my studies and pressure on finishing soon). The last few months i was working in another country so I want to get back to university with my full attention... but now I see a puppy is in my way of getting where i want to be... my wife said, that no matter how i decide she stands behind me. this makes it a tough decision, because she is more into keeping him, but understands if I decide otherwise. On the one hand the dog deserves a loving and caring home and on the other hand the dog could bring us joy and love in life, get more out into nature and meet new people (since we think that we could do better with making friends). I feel ashamed thinking about telling friends and family that we take him back to the breeder, but I guess that my decision is what counts and I shouldn't care what others think, right?... I knew dogs are taking work but I didn`t know how much work it takes... now I fear that my bad thoughts lead to a worse relationship with the dog but i want to give him all the love he deserves... in the next few days I will/need to make a decision and I hope the breeder takes the dog back and understands my decision.. since i don`t want to have him for many weeks and he gets used to us and then he will be taken away again and the dog doesn`t deserve to be "kicked" around like that, so i think this decision needs to be taken soon.
My dog is extremely reactive and has anxiety up the wazoo. I like him but man, it’s a constant drag sometimes when he has his attitude and crying fits and won’t be on my page. Still though, I said I have to fix my own mental health before I give him up. He deserves better
I just rehomed mine to a lovely family with kids. I was doing him a disservice not walking and playing to busy, but now he’s happy I’m a bit sad but it will ok
I rehomed my chicken, it hurts like crazy I miss her it's been like 3 months I can't get her back since it's too far away I love her so much I hope she's doing better😔 and I can't stop crying 😭
I feel your pain i rehomed my 5 chickens because of a puppy and i cry everyday for chickens the puppy was a mistake and I want my chickens back there far away too
I’m glad you made this video. In reading the comments I see that it hasn’t been mentioned concerning the size of the dog or its breed. I can say that size and breed makes a huge difference. A big dog that needs lots of exercise and guidance might be the wrong fit but a small breed might be just right. So a lot of it for those who want dogs but don’t have time to be constantly taking care of one might be a good fit for a small breed. Before getting some Chiweenie’s I got two puppies that were going to grow up to be on the big side. I realized after one night that it just wasn’t going to work, so I took them back but I then researched what would be a good breed for me and found just the right ones for me.
I’ve had my 7 year old dog for two years and she really is the best but she has horrible allergies that cause awful ear infections that I can’t afford to continue to treat (I’ve treated them 4 times in two years and I know that’s expected) we also moved into my fiancé’s apartment which has been a tough transition as she’s become aggressive with our younger dog (in addition to her reactive behavior with the neighborhood children). I never actually considered rehoming her before now but I know she deserves a life more similar to the one we used to have- single dog home, doggy door, big yard. And I’m certain someone else will be able to give her that. It still doesn’t change how upsetting it feels to make an impossible choice.
Im geeat with dogs. I had 2 with my last one passed away month ago. I got a new puppy just recently and im regretting it and feeling so bad of it . I feel fing horrible 😢😢. Thinking of taking it back
This was extremely helpful to me. I’m in extreme duress having adopted two sibling six week old puppies three days ago. Desperate for a solution for me and for them. Thank you!!!
My biggest fear is her new family not taking care of her or being mean to her. I know I should rehome her but I don’t know if I’ll be able to completely let her go and that would stress me even more
Thank you so much for this video. I’m struggling so hard with my 7 month old puppy. We got him in hopes to teach him to be my service dog for my anxiety and health and the first month was great but I’ve been struggling so hard since then. I have depression and it’s gotten better over the couple of years but my mental health have severely declined since getting him and I just have no idea what to do anymore.
Thanks for making this video. Next week is going to determine if I need to rehome my dog because of her health. I've been having really selfish thoughts about keeping her, but you're definitely right. I should and am going to do what is best for my dog.
I'm pretty much in the exact same situation right now so thank you for sharing, I've seen many people talk about puppy blues and depression but for different reasons and so it feels nice to hear someone else speak the words that are spinning around in my head right now. I have not taken any decision yet but I also believe it's better to rehome him while he's still a puppy if I decide to so I'm kind of stressing out to take a decision.
Thanks for sharing your story. I really liked your take on the whole situation and what you said is so true. Unfortunately my situation absolutely sucks as I am contemplating about re-homing my dog. He's 5yrs old and I've had him since he was a puppy. I'm planning/needing to move and make some adjustments in my life and I won't be able to take my dog with me.. I can't leave him with family because they don't want the responsibility (huge responsibility) of taking care of him. I feel stuck. He's very protective and doesn't like other dogs. I could never take him to the pound or shelter because they probably would never give him a chance. I'm willing work and train with someone to be able to find him a new home. He doesn't destroy anything; He's super sweet with my brother who has special needs. He's really a great dog but i feel like he'll have a hard time adjusting to a new family. It breaks my heart and I've been crying ... a lot. I feel like shit.
God! I can't tell you how relatable the situation is with me right now. I am suffering from depression and anxiety myself for more than 5 years but for last 2 months it was getting worse. I wanted a dog for a long time so I thought getting a pet now might distract me from my depression and anxiety but after I got him home a week ago I am more depressed and anxious than ever before. Same is happening to me I am an aspiring author I haven't wrote a single word ever since he came home. 😔 I am also trying to rehome him, he deserves better. Thank you for sharing your experience.
i’m really struggling😢 the sleep deprivation and all the behavioral issues is very rough. I’m a month in and it’s getting harder not easier. I’m not enjoying it either and feel so guilty
Yeah listen to people's opinions only is a big mistake important decisions should be taken depending of the actual situation, you are the one who should judge if it's right
I'm going through the same thing, but w/ extra stuff. My dog of 17 years died- Daisy- I was heartbroken. So six months later I adopted a puppy but this new dog was semi wild and I could not house break it. I returned this dog to the shelter where I got her from 18 days later. Well, I just adopted another dog, its been here two weeks and I'm not feeling a good connection to this dog, the dog is a lot of work too. If I return this one people will really think badly about me. I think I don't really want just any dog, I just want Daisy back.
I am in the exact same boat, except I’m on puppy 1. My older dog was my companion and I’m chronically ill and thought I’d be able to push myself to feel better, give me a reason to get up again, and a buddy, but I’m realizing I’ll never have what I had with Bailey unless the dog is already trained and calm and happy just chilling out, and in an apt setting where so many people have dogs and aren’t considerate, I’m at a breaking point. I don’t want to be the jerk who returns a puppy, but I also think this definitely wasn’t the right choice and if I stick it out I don’t know if it’ll get better or just become more of a disaster.
@@keljells I understand. The 2nd dog I got that I referred to in my comment, she worked out for me eventually, I still have her and love her and would never give her up now. On week three I decided to re-home her, but changed my mind at the last second, so I'm glad now that I kept her. She went from being a liability to being an asset over the next three months. If my Daisy was a 100, Willow ( that's what I named her) is at least an 85. She will never be as good as Daisy- you can't beat the queen. I'm so glad I re-homed the 1st dog and replaced w/ Willow. My recommendation is to give the new dog about 2 or 3 months to improve, and if you guys are still not a good fit, then re-home. If I had to do all of this all over again, I would not get a puppy, I would get a dog at least one year old and definitely already house broken.
If your not ready for a dog to literally be your entire life, don’t do it. Your literally getting a child. If your not willing to 💯 change your life & lifestyle it’s not for you. There’s nothing wrong with that! I waited 30 years before I got a dog because I knew, I was too busy, too social, and honestly not financially stable enough. All of that has changed so a year ago I took the plunge! For me it was the BEST thing I’ve ever done he’s helped me be more social with others, he helps me exercise, he has become my best friend. We are know so In tune with each other I can’t explain it. I think a big problem if your considering a dog, do research on breeds!!! I honestly think 7/10 people who rehome dogs probably got a breed that doesn’t correlate with their lifestyle (not all dogs are the same, each breed has different temperaments and physical needs). I have a friend who got a puppy around the same time as me, and took the first puppy she found without any research, whereas I took three months of research to find a dog that could mesh with my lifestyle or environment. She has a completely different experience with her dog lol. I’d also say, before I got a dog…cats, I had a cat for 9 years! He was the perfect companion! Could careless when I needed to leave but was still a big cuddle monster and sweet! Cats are super self sufficient and in desperate need of homes and honestly require 1/10 of the dedication as a dog! Either way, if your dog isn’t working out always, always find a good shelter or rescue to help you NEVER abandon them! Good luck y’all!
My 12 year old dog died in March . He was the most perfect dog anyone could ask for . I had been really lonely since he passed. So I made a post looking for an older dog . A man had died and left behind his 2 dogs that were both 10 years old . So I got them . They are so needy . They stare at me for hours. And I mean hours. They are constantly loudly performing oral you know what on each other . I cannot readjust myself on the couch without them jumping up and starting to bark bc they think I’m getting up . I go to the bathroom they follow me . I go to the kitchen they follow me . I have almost tripped over them numebrous times. One of them constantly whines if she doesn’t have my attention 24 hours a day . They won’t play with any toys . They won’t chase a ball . The hair these 2 shed is mind blowing and it makes me house feel so nasty and messes with my allergies . They are constantly gnawing on their bodies and licking themselves making the most disgusting noises. And one of them snores so loud I have to turn the tv up to hear drown out the snoring . They will go to the back door and bark bc they want out and as soon as I let them out they sit at the back door and bark bc they want in . I am so stressed and I find myself wanting to find a new home for them
Thanks for the info. I planning to get a puppy in about a month. I am super nervous and not quite sure if I'm ready but I am reading and doing research. I will do my best and if it doesn't work out, that's life. As long as I go into with good intentions. Also right now I'm still at about 80% sure I want it, and I know that my life will changes drastically. So well so. Also I couldn't care less with people who aren't caring of the dog say.
I had to rehome one of my dogs yesterday haven’t stop crying yet I miss her so much my heart aches. But I’m shes with a great family now I love and miss her so much it’s the hardest thing ever.
thanks for this video. really comforted me in my situation, I relate heavily to your experience. I think I've come to the conclusion that I need to rehome my pup.
I go through moments of never wanting to be away from my dog to moments of wanting to get rid of him. Right now I’m tired of him destroying my things and always having to look after him ( he just turned 7 months)
I had to rehome my dog after 12 years due to a slew of health issues, and mainly because my other dog wouldn't stop viciously attacking and biting her constantly. They are both mother and daughter, and we have had the daughter for 6 years - however only recently has she been attacking her mother savagely non-stop. I've been crying over the last few days loads about it considering I was 11 when I got her and now I'm 23, so I've had her most of my life. It wasn't an easy family decision, and it was one that I was heavily and adamantly against but in the end there was no other option or alternative. I know she's in a place now where they'll take way better care of her and give her more attention than I could currently, since I have two other dogs (was three before).
I looked up videos, specifically because this is something I’m thinking about. I recently adopted a dog. She’s a sweetheart and super smart, but financially, I don’t think I’ll be capable. I feel terrible and the guilt is unbearable. If there’s ever an emergency and she needed to go to the vet, I would not be able to cover the expenses. It wouldn’t be fair to her. I got her from a shelter and have 30 days to return her if she’s not a fit. I have to leave her home during the day, while I’m at work and have so much anxiety. I have a ring camera and feel I’m always watching her when I’m not home. She does well on her own, but likes to play with her toys. I’ve already had a neighbor that complained about her whining, which only last for 10 minutes after I leave. I’ve really been taking everything into consideration, but it’s such a difficult decision. I adore and love her. I also believe that she will get adopted quickly because she is a smaller dog and is almost a year old. She still needs professional training and has so much energy that I came to realize. (Makes sense because she’s only 10 months old) even the thought of taking her back is emotionally crushing.
My partner and I are at the stage of considering rehoming. We have a 1year old mini dachshund to which has extreme anxiety and separation anxiety. My partner and I have sort out help from vets, trainers and even invested in the help of a behavioural vet therapist. And it came to the point where we had to try medication yet nothing has worked. (even the vets don't know why) we have a pet cam in which we watch and monitor his behaviour on a daily basis and organise our schedules around when is best to leave the dog home or when is one of us going to be home. It has caused extreme stress, health & mental health problems for myself my partner and our relationship. We are at our last chance now and know that this can't go on. But I LOVE our dog so so much and I felt like a shitty person if we had to rehome him. But I don't know what other option we have if treatment continues not to work.
This made me really upset. I just found out yesterday I’m giving my dog buddy away. My parents said we can’t train him so there just giving up on him, they didn’t even try or even give us the best opportunity to try, I love you buddy always and forever ❤️
User 657 any advice? He’s like my best friend I can’t imagine life without him, it’s so hard, he was there for me when I was depressed, and now I feel like I’m giving up on him .
Khimberlly Nunez honestly at first it’s really rough, but just remember he will be happy, he loves you and what you are doing is right for him, it feels like you are giving up on him but trust me your giving him the best he could get ❤️
I understand im 60 + years old my kids after i finish hospice care for my mother which was a 12 long months brought me a Staffordshire puppy this is crazy i really just wanted to travel and take time for me , now im back to not my mother but now willy the pups name getting up at night to care for him i will admit he is keeping me company but i could of went out with friends like most ladies my age not sure how i feel 😢 i have grown to love the lil guy and i trained him the basics and then some like if i drop something to pick it up for me he is a great lil guy but cruising and travelling is now something I cant do
I used to own a pomeranian. The thing is, it was such hugeeeee pressure on my family and I. When we first got it, it wouldn't stop vomiting. The person that we adopt it from, said it's normal.. But it wasen't. The mext day it was vomiting and pooping BLOOD. We called our neighboor since she has some experience with dogs, and my mum and her took the dog to the vet. (My dad was at work when that happend) When they got here the vet said "she will be fine" and we payed A LOTS of money for her to survive. But she passed away the day after. And that happend in only TWO DAYS. My neighboor had the same experience whem she was little. Now I have 0 motivation for anathor dog. We dont wanna go trough that again.
