First of all, thank you husband material for being the voice of reason among you all. Mercy played safe and stayed neutral and made her answers personal, that's smart. As for the rest of you that are intentionally dishonest, I hope you can tolerate and understand when you're the one on the receiving end. For starters, the topic is worded wrong, say it as it is, say the truth, cheating is wrong and there's no justification to it. Also because it is what is happening doesn't make or right, doesn't mean you should normalise it and normally should be cajoled or manipulated to endure nonsense. Nobody NEEDS an extramarital affair to work. The girl on camo started well but fell way off later, and if she's really staying with a cheating man for years then it says a lot about her and I'd rather reserve my comment. Relationships are a 2 way street, every party involved must put in effort to make it work, is it easy? No, achievable? Hell yea. For better for worse doesn't strip you of common sense abeg. As for PM I wasn't expecting so much so I'm not angry. HM I just hope your opinion isn't limited to this podcast and you'd actually practice what you preach. Well done all the same, anticipating part 2.
@aseobong there is more to this , let's focus on reality, yes there are morals and there are also reality, also put in consideration that $€x drives are different with different people, it doesn't mean they are 100% correct it just mean that , some people choose to do whatever it takes meaningful to them to keep their marriages
@@TheMezidon2008 there's no way to justify cheating in a relationship, there's nothing meaningful about it. Say something else. Secondly I'm not sure you can handle this advice if you were the one being cheated on. E only sweet to type, not experience
@@Asseythegreat exactly just to add on this : if you need a side chick why not just marry her at first rather than put a woman in stress.. the reality is that men are naturally polygamous in nature (naturally) .. Christianity or other religion that respect one wife and woman is what has made some of us (men) disciplined enough to want to settle on one wife.. the original design from God was one woman and wife Matthew 19:4-6.. ps: shoutout to Husband Material
A friend that watched this with me said Husband Material was just talking like that because his wife is watching or would watch this, so he was being careful and trying not to say stuff that will lead to further questioning at home. He further said that, if Husband Mterial was single, his stance would falter. Anyhow sha, life is deep. Last last, what if after all is said and done and this world is over and our souls come find out say most of wetin we believe na scam and based of doctrines set by a small but influential group of people to control the masses. Hmmmm!
I support husband material. Let your partner know who you are before u get into marriage.... If you're the type that can't stick to one woman sexually let her know, if she can scope with it she will. Or if there is a way of amending things without disagreement then it's fine. It's all about understanding.
HM has a point , Nedu and the rest has their own point , the only thing that husband material missed is the fact that there is moral and there is reality. Yes in reality it happens even if morals condemns it, so we as human just have to adjust to accommodate it or live in despair
@@TheMezidon2008 what are you even saying,that it's reality does it make it right and we don't have to adjust to accommodate it,if something is not right,till generations to come it is not right and humans should try refrain from it, imagine validating stealing 🤷,just because it's our reality doesn't mean we should adjust or accomodate it,what is wrong is wrong,there is nothing like adjusting to reality that's bullshit
@@TheMezidon2008 how do we adjust to accommodate immortality ? What is wrong is wrong Can we accommodate murder ? People are killing people everywhere and it would always be wrong and punishable.
@@missstanfordwe are talking about relationships, don't deviate from the matter, will u deny the fact that s3x workers are legalize in many countries, u can pay for it and not break the law, but even if u rap3 a s3x worker it's condemnable and punishable , but in summary pre-marital s3x is wrong in context, but most of us if still engage in it
I’m just watching this. Thank you husband material. You’re literally living by your name “husband material “ 😃I hope all men out there have the same thinking as you. ❤
Hmmmmmm justifying bullshit📌 once I heard PM starting off his conversation with TRAFFIC in regards to excuse for cheating I knew this podcast is going to be silly I didn’t even bother to understand or try to find PM focus or confusion I just sat jeje with my cup of chocolate listening to husband material saying the honest truth and deep down we all know what he said is right Making excuses for men cheating 🙄 with silly stupid useless scenarios kiaaaa we have been really subjected to bullshit in the name of marriage/relationship 🤦♀️
Exactly, husband material you’ve spoken well….you have to have a conversation Do not normalize what’s wrong, shape your partner to the person you want and stop looking elsewhere. Shikenan
Call a spade a spade, God help our society . Marriage is a covenant that shouldn’t be broken . A man without self control is like a city without a wall.
True cheating is selfish, but Marriage is a more transactional than Emotional affair these days I have heard of stories where women get their husbands side pieces (male/female) as the case may be just to keep their home together. A lot is happening out there. Lord have mercy
Omo, some women are trying o. Taking care of kids is no small work. So, a man should be considerate and respect his wife. Love is respect. If you love your wife, you should respect her by not cheating on her. It is well.
The mentality of dis people is appalling,the fact that 80% people cheat in dier mariages,or realized dier sexuality in d marriage,be it the man or d woman,doesn't make cheating right in any way. Husband material is d only one saying truth,stop manipulating people with ur evil sexuality,if you are tired of your marriage leave and cause depression for your pattern,(which one is side chick de solidify marriages,or is cos of dis side chick dat I am with you,oga go na. What manner of emotional blackmail is dat).
The Lady on black is just saying rubbish Abeg.. how does marrying your side chic not stressing the wife? Date a side chic you plan on marrying as 2nd or 3rd wife ?? Imagine! How does that not stress the wife.. she’s just spitting rubbish
Husband material you are a sensible person, everything don turn normal for this life. What about the wife no be blood dey flow for her body, she no dey face hold up too? May God help us. If marriage tire you waka no stress the other person
That's not for better for worse, yahoo boy make client marry am over the internet and when things finally cast make she dey for better or worse? Pretty Mike reason am now
Thank You to husband material for sticking to morals and your truth!! Cheating has been so normalize in this society it’s ridiculous. Be honest with yourself. If you in agreement with your spouse to be in a monogamous marriage, stick to it. Having sidechic is a selfish act. If you want to sleep around, don’t marry. If you want to bring bible into this matter, GOD the creator of marriage , created ONE woman for Adam. It’s humans that have strayed away from the original plan.
Husband Material really makes some sense bikonu! People just need to be emotionally intelligent to know that there are some of us humans in conversations, voices get risen or raised, it doesn't mean *d person naa agbero or im dey vex*, naa so some humans just be in driving their points home!
This isn't a topic meant for just one episode and I suggest it shudnt just be about the Nigerian Married men/sidechicks alone, there shud episodes of Nigerian Married Women/SideNiggas too. Cos this thing wey we dey talk about so, what men think they are doing, women do it better and smarter! In future episodes which shud come thru as soon as possible as e dey hot, the ladies/women shud be given more rooms to express themselves too and it would be perfect (in ma opinion), if married ones or once married ones in Nigeria who are willing to participate could be invited and air their opinions and knowledge or wisdoms based on their experiences
Yeah, God created one man and one woman(Eve for Adam) but somehow, someway, our forefathers, from d old testament sef, change am to satisfy their personal interests&selfish needs, and God is a merciful God who tolerated / still tolerates (their &our doings no matter what), hence to make living peaceful for ourselves/one another in any forms of relationships we find ourselves, the need for truthful and effective communication which will then birth individual decision moving forward at any stage of such relationships before e go con turn *entanglement* 🤣
You took the words out of my mouth💯 thank you for this comment. You are obviously emotionally intelligent. And just to add, what we really need to to survive marriage is Emotional intelligence(EQ) because if you have good EQ you will naturally unlearn and relearn healthy relationship habits. God bless everyone trying to be a really good spouse to their partners.
First of all, I wasn't disappointed with Pretty Mike's submissions, he's never been a model. So he was just being true to his weird self and that's fine. Nedu on the other hand disappointed me sha...I used to ascribe some measure of moral rectitude to him. I guess I was wrong. Note, I am not saying that he should be holy or sanctimonious; none of us is. But haba, how do you just expressly pontificate that side chicks/adultery/cheating is essential for successful marriage? Like seriously? You may claim you didn't say so, but that is what your topic suggests. Think about it. It's even funny that the ladies don't see misogyny in all of this. If you guys wanted to strike a balance then you should have simply coined the topic as "Adultery is essential for the success of marriage" or "Adultery solidifies marriage" cos I no think you understand what you guys were defending. I still cut Toun some slacks, she's Muslim so I sort of get her position. But for someone like Nedu to say that it's in the bible and proceeded to give references from Old Testament, I was like, really? Baba please brush up your knowledge of the scriptures. First of all the OT is largely scriptures for the Jews and not exactly for Christians. Yes the Bible contains the OT, so you'll understand the entire history of the salvation of man. The NT is the corpus and guide for Christians. In the NT, the only time Jesus was asked about polygamy, he made it clear that God never wanted it to be that way which was why he created 1 man and 1 woman. That it was out of the stubbornness of their hearts that Moses was forced to make it so. In otherwords poly amorous relationships were not God's plan. Even the Jews that own the OT fully, up to today don't sanction polygamy anymore. As a matter fact Israel has a law against it. And to you, dear Naomi, one of the fallacious logic you put forward on this episode was that "people are still doing it regardless" (paraphrased). In otherwords, that folks are still doing a certain wrong is enough justification for you to support it. Politicians will steal public funds regardless, we may as well keep defending their actions. Bandits will still kill and robbers will still rob we may as well condone them. This ain't logic, it's an attack on logic. Finally, kudos to Husband material. Na man you be. For standing your reasonable ground. In the face of barrage of illogic you stood firm. One of the ladies dropped a cliche, "majority carry the vote" true in democracy, but it does not mean that the majority are correct all of the time. You need not go far to understand this, when we still reside in Buhari's Nigeria. This is exactly why the father of Western philosophy, Socrates hated democracy. Because democracy assumes that the majority have sense...nothing typifies this more than the election of Buhari into office.
Everything you’ve said was my exact thoughts… like how can nedu use God to justify his dirty beliefs? To justify adultery? Saying God said we should do whatever makes us happy? God help us.
It's sad to see that Husband Material is the only voice of reason on this topic. I've got a ton of respect for Nedu, and I think he's a smart man but I also expected him to display better wisdom than the rest but apparently his past marital trauma may have messed up his idea of marriage. It's time for Nigerians to go back to the basics of honoring their vows without looking for how to justify infidelity. Infidelity might cause both spouses to bury their issues bit long term. The marriage will eventually crash. I only listened to two of your episodes and my brain is already drained by the outlandish imaginations of most of you on the pod. I respect your opinions, but unfortunately your opinions are built on sand. Big up Husband Material again ✌🏿
As a man I hate the fact that we've come to a period in time in today's society where infidelity has become a norm, we have come to justify it with reasons and make it sound like if you're not defiling your marriage you're a fool. What's more bad is interviewing people who aren't married to give opinions on a subject matter based on perception or emotions. We make marriage feel like it's a bondage or we're going to be in some sort of trap by getting married. As much as we all have our flaws individually I still believe in the concept of marriage, loyalty and trust as the bedrock. Pretty Mike may have made some points as to changes in intimacy with spouses overtime. Yes, but cheating or Infidelity doesn't have to lean to the man. Women also go through the same stress if not more especially with childbirth and catering for the home. In conclusion, know who you're marrying, communicate and keep it💯, there are good marriages still flourishing, the internet shouldn't be a bedrock for a good marriage.
Welldone Husband Material for sticking to the truth👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I’m more surprised at the ladies for justifying rubbish… it goes to show how the world and their experiences have damaged them. Nedu is super confused too, didn’t expect something different from PM
Husband material, you were truthful and logical in this episode. Thanks for being the voice of reason and not just throwing mud at the wall to see what sticks like most others.
The devil is out to destroy homes and families Side chicks have other side guys and those side guys have other side chicks multiple one To make a home work is a lot of hardwork from A and B. The minds of young people is so messed up. Omo God go help us. Na ojukokoro dey do some young men and women.
I would really like to see a married person with experience with this topic invited to this show to discuss it... I agree with Husband material on this topic; to me, having a side chick in your marriage is cheating, which is completely wrong, and it is not the same as an open marriage, which I feel the guest's points are based on because in the case of the side chick, your partner didn't sign up to it no matter the reasons for having one and usually doesn't even know and even if they later find out and choose not to leave later on that doesn't make it right, omo everyone has their deal breaker sha.
If having a side-chick is encouraged, it simply means we are supporting Adultry simple! Every marriage has it's ups and downs,if your marriage is facing problems for US practicing christians put it in prayers and look for a way to make it work. Don't pay attention to those who don't uphold morals. Read your bible and practice Godly standards.
Husband material, I salute you so greatly for taking your stand on what true moral is, ok let's turn the tables around in other parts of the world infidelity is never taking lightly. It is terrible! And for those of you justifying polygamy is because you are not from such family or didn't experience polygamy, it's really troubling. Sidechick can never solidify marriage in any way rather it destroys marriage. That is why communication and been sensitive to your partner is key. Husband material well done.
Pls to the organizer of this show,pls alway tell them not to be chewing gums on the show…the sound of the gum is really irritating and disgusting..Haba I couldn’t even finish watching the show…..for the person chewing the gum,where is your manners 🙄🙄🙄🙄.go and rewatch the show and see what am talking about.
The thing is this show is secular; it talks about the world and societal issues and things happening in the world. It's not a Christian or Muslim or any religious show. So, if you have your beliefs and convictions as a believer, I think you should stick by it and not follow all that is being said on this show. When I watch this show, I want to know about what goes on in the world, not that I will input whatever they say in my life. I don't know if anyone can relate.
My fav show at the moment !! Some Constructive criticism as a frequent listener, pretty Mike a beg the gums gotta go as I’m sure some people in the audience may find the sounds very distracting / triggering 😅 First world problems yes but I’m sure some people understand what I mean Great episode folks 👌🏾
Husband Material na better person for sticking to what marriage is supposed to be. Decadence in marriage (unless agreed by parties involved in the marriage with reference to open marriages or others) is bad and should be condemned.
This conversation is really sensitive and some of the people talking on the subject are dense. The earlier people begin to accept polygamy, polyamory and consentual open relationship, the better. Because what's this absolute idiocy flying around in the guise of monogamy? Do what you want to do with your full chest. Big ups to husband material, i just hope it's not just for talks and banter.
What moral advice were we expecting from a man chewing gum like someone who hasn't seen food for centuries on a live podcast?? Make him marry first then come back to advice us.
Husband material I agree with you but the thing is marriage is a decision and should be disciplined through it. Two People solidify marriage, not a third party
Sipping your drinks while recording is fine but please stop chewing. The chewing and swallowing noises may be disturbing to some listeners biko. Great show regardless 👍👍
How about you ask this question to married women who have had to deal with side chics in their marriage. Let’s here what they say and see if they share the views of this panel. Big ups to husband material, I agree with him.
Solomon married one wife n it was enough n he had a shide chick but got her home n still wasn't enough cos she became like a wife n he married UpTo 700 of them still e no do am oo 😂 he got a side chick wasn't enough n he kept UpTo 300 of them n still oga looked at all of these n said VANITY UPON VANITY ALL IS VANITY. I think until we get to understand this then we would have better understanding.. I think if u feel like u want to have a girl out ur marriage knowing the consequences biko just carry it out with ur full chest n don't paint it or find excuses... Goes for both woman n man shaa
Non of this ladies that are supporting side chick will actually take it , you can’t justify bad thing , we guys meant like it a lot but it doesn’t make it right , for thousands of years one man and wife have lived peacefully only 20% have extra marital affair till our generation, I know is hard to live with one person for the rest of your life , you can choose not to marry I don’t think Is compulsory, but if you want to be a father and a husband or wife thier should be sacrifices , you have to deprived yourself somethings cos the society we abuse today all in the name of living your life will take revenge on our children , bad thing na bad thing no justification
I wonder if they believe that side roosters are ok too? I beg, they speak like this because those women are cultured to take it. Come to Jamaica and try it. 😂😂😂😂 Husband Material-king. All these men talking agree because they are not getting a dose of their own medicine. I beg! Cheating destroys relationships. PERIOD.
