you're kind of right, but so is he. Also a lot of people chose to be here. bro also uses filter to hide his acne scars and wears make up so @lemongrab7635
"Being emotional is feminine. You need to be stoic" This is so tired and played out. If you think this way, the only emotion you'll show is anger and be deeply depressed.
He didn't say yall aren't supposed to have feelings. He said masculine men don't let their emotions control them. But really, that's not just for men. Adults in general should operate like that.
asking my girlfriend what she wants is just me being courteous and loving and nothing beyond that. i love her and what she wants is important to me, even if it’s a small thing like where we’re going to go for lunch. that’s not feminine dude i just care about her
Exactly. Can't say masculine men are providers and then expect us to make all the decisions on our own. If my girlfriend wants to be provided with ice cream and I bring her a salad instead because it's what I FEEL she should eat, then I'm not providing quality, just quantity.
You need to lead if you want to eat that, she gone eat that too or don’t it’s simple, 99% of women never know what they want, remember the moment you get emotional attached you already lost her
@@user-ex3nl8k0l Yeah well I'm the opposite of you and it's not true. I have a powerlifting total of 1715 lbs. I have 20 inch biceps. Women don't care at all. You only get some women who are into niches or you get stuck with crazy women who want you to beat up their ex.
Dude u need education or what? All the things he summed up were literally just facts... if u enjoy being feminine man then have fun marrying a masculine woman who you are probably gonna divorce with in a few years and then become depressed af.
Imagine, someone working 60 hour weeks in construction who goes 50/50 with their spouse is less masculine then the sole provider sitting down for most of their day creating RU-vid content.😂
alright, I'm a feminine male... and so what? I'm still satisfied with my life... I'm smart, I make enough money for being able to buy everything I want, I have as many girls as I want, I am good at sports, I am a great musician, I have the best friends I could ever ask for... and all of that while splitting bills 50/50 and being emotional 🥺
Don't take this too seriously. Your statement seems like a healthy balance. Having some feminine personality traits is a good thing and doesn't make you a feminine man. Also he's trying to make feminine personality traits look like a bad thing but same can be done to masculine personality traits. In fact, neither feminine personality traits nor masculine personality traits are bad by nature. Even attraction and sexual preferences are very individual. Many women treasure men with some feminine traits and a good overall balance.
If you make money and if you're actually smart, that's very good then for you. But going after many girls is just childish, letting emotions control yourself is an absolute no go and splitting bills equally won't last long trust me. U may be happy now with your feminity but don't think it will be forever lmao.
Remember, not letting your emotions control you doesn't mean to invalidate them or bottle them up. It is healthy for everyone to talk about their feelings with a partner or a close friend.
Ofc talking a bit about your emotions with your closed ones can be good and healthy but the video wants to say that you should be still able to control it in most situations and be stronger than it as a man. For example, being agressive in public is a no go for men.
Actually, I ask my girlfriend what she wants to watch and eat to make her happy. I know exactly what I want, I choose to put her first and make her happy, above my needs.
Exactly, I put her wants first because I know she does the same for me and has made SO many sacrifices to be with me. And whenever she's too indecisive, I'll make the decision for her.
That may work for you, and I hope it continues to. The only issue is most women really are indecisive and think like kids. They’re pampered people and just need to be told what is going to happen. For example my girlfriend will hmm and ahh about a restaurant if I ask. So I just say “we’re going… at …. Get ready for ….” And she does. Plus since I’m paying I go where I want to eat. My mate does it how you do it though and it works for him. Each to their own
nice, a girlfriend but if you want to get married and stay married, you'll stop asking your gf what she wants all the time real women want a leader that knows where he's going, not somebody that's always asking her what she wants because you're too afraid that she won't go along with your ideas
Women are indecisive. You should know that. No, I'm not misogynistic. Even women that are close to me like my mom understand women are indecisive. You should know her interests but you should also understand that most women tend to be indecisive and you should try to plan dates yourself and be clear and concise about time and location.
It doesn't and you already know this. To me it means your emotionally mature enough to respect and be caring to those you love. This video is hilarious
I don’t believe any of this is true. As a man who’s been through a lot sometimes being sensitive is what keeps you level and stable and a good support for those around you on top of that being 50/50 is perfectly fine you have to consider peoples situations and lifestyle choices before you give a one sided based opinion that could have real effects on young men this just sounds like some bs alpha male crap
From what I heard, he makes a lot from these videos so he can provide for his girlfriend. A real man puts providing the woman in his life with the best life possible above the opinions of broke jealous haters. I disagree with a lot of what this guy says, but he’s right for following the money. Money will pay for their dates and the college education of any children they may have. Simply “working for a living” won’t necessarily do that depending on what the work is.
@@johnmartin4641 thank you. I had no idea that money can be used to provide for a girlfriend and pay for kids education. You can actually use the money for stuff?
@@johnmartin4641 the contradiction is insane, just because he needs to provide for his girlfriend coming to the internet and telling false information to get money won’t make him right
Disagree. A masculine man is proud of his partner and takes pride in his everlasting relationship, loves cares and provides for his partner, and honours her as his other half. Find God young man. Loose the ego and cynicism, the devil made a bid for you. Just my 10 cents.
My dad earned way less compared to my mom, he is not at all a feminine man. A guy let’s his emotions take over when needed. A man doesn’t have to bottle his emotions at all cause if he does he will be depressed and broken. Trust me I know what it feels holding feelings for 3 years in college without trusting anyone there. I talked again with some high school friends and they helped me with my head and got me on the right path again. Men talk to other men about their feelings. Nothing feminine about that.
Honestly, I’d choose the feminine man over a toxic masculine one every single day of the week. Ain’t nothing wrong with crying sometimes. It’s normal. Why is it okay to laugh when you’re happy, yell when you’re angry… Why can’t you cry when you’re sad? Also, there’s nothing wrong with being affectionate towards your partner and allowing them to make decisions.
Asking people what they don't do is not a bad thing. Saying "we're doing this whether you like it or not" is controlling, it's better and less toxic to ask people to okay it. That's just dumb.
Just remembering that, as Jung pointed out, every man has an inner feminine side. Embrace your masculinity, but don't suffocate yourself in the process
@@JamieLuvsYT I wear studs buddy nice try tho, I just want to combat idiots like you lmao hoop earrings are far from feminine, plenty of “masculine” guy celebrities wear hoops😂😂😂 no wonder you’re still a virgin…
I like having quality time with the woman I’m with so yeah I’d say I’m needy, want a deeper relationship. Would also say everyone’s emotional, being human… knowing when to let those emotions out is key
You forgot the last one. Obsession skin care facial care, defined jawline and like doing eyebrows and putting facial creams. That is all feminine traits.
Yeah this dude is like super obsessed with what he looks like but probably doesn't have any other beneficial skills in society. How did being a pretty boy become the ultimate goal of men today?
@@Dean543-cc3fdbecause he said that “what do you wanna watch?” is feminine (even though it is just being generous). and wearing hoop earrings is a feminine thing to do. make it make sense.
@@JamieLuvsYT You literally went to all comments about earrings to talk crap about Austin because you’re mad he gets play and you don’t🫵🫵😂😂😂 Tell tale sign with guys like you getting defensive in these type of videos that you haven’t touched a female since the last time your mom hugged you🤣🤣
Ok im going to debunk all this. 1. If a man doesn't show any emotion he's a sociopath. Express in moderation to what is needed. 2. Be the provider but have your limits. If she goes beyond those limits on more than one occasion then she is on her own because she doesn't respect you. 3. Tell them you love them and pray they have a great day. Checkup once in a while doesn't show neediness. It shows you're thinking about them. 4. Asking them what they want is showing them you want a clear picture of what they're thinking. I can make all decisions in the world but she in the end has to determine if she'll follow them hence asking them to get idea doesn't put them in the driver seat but at least they know they're in the car with you. All the stuff he saying is some single male idea. Doesn't take much to do what he saying because we do it everyday.
So if I ask simple questions and I’m not always assertive over every little thing, then I’m not a masculine man? Get over yourself. Not everyone needs to be like Andrew Tate
Everyone is too worried what they are and what category they belong to alpha sigma beta who cares in 100 years none of it will mater live life the way you want and the rest of the world can suck it were a spec of dust in this universe live while you can don’t limit your self to someone else’s opinion 😂
Sure go spend the rest of your days playing video games and eating Doritos on the couch while weighing 300lbs, “live life how you want” is the worst piece of advice ever and it leads to chaos
@@TerioTyrone just finished a 4 year hitch doing flatbed as a truck driver now I work in the oilfield don’t remember the last time I ate Doritos or played a video game on a couch and like the last post said you and the world can suck it what about not caring about other peoples opinion did you not understand?
The last one though, I say that stuff because I’m trying to be polite. I want the person I’m around to be happy, not upset if I chose a shit dinner, or a shit movie. Ik people are gonna be like “oh you’re not supposed to care” but that kinda defeats the purpose of being polite.
I believe I understand your point and Austin's. From my experience, it would be best to consider your date's preferences, but it would be preferable for you to come with a variety of options for her to choose from afterwards. Ideally, you should have experience with all these choices and have data on your date beforehand (through your exchanges) to then present these options to her. It's a subtle way to lead a woman. If she feels like she's generating ideas for you all the time or taking the initiative before you, one step ahead of you, she'll feel like she's leading you and you risk the friendzone (especially on the first day of the date). She might come up with a lame excuse not to hurt your feelings. You definitely shouldn't force a choice on her or make decisions without considering her feelings; that would be toxic in her eyes. Instead, you should lead while taking her feelings into account
Well if i had to break down all the 4 traits in men that are not nessecarily feminine: 1. This is just on upbringing, it just means that you have a very bright neurology and/or your hormonal levels(testesterone) are chipping up. A lot of men who take steroids experience this. Stoicism isn't about being unemotional, but more like not letting negative emotions lead your actions. Which doesn't nessecarily have to do with your emotiveness. 2. Europeans are feminine men?... I don't think this man understands what equality in relationships means 3. This just means that you like to be center of attention which isn't a bad thing because this is what the stereotype of "alpha" is about(not that it is valid, but the channel is built upon it. ) 4. This is just being courtoues and thoughtful about your partner's needs. Which is a masculine trait. Conclusion: 2 of the 4 traits are in fact masculine, while the other 2 are prevalent in masculine men. Don't let some internet alpha tell you what makes you masculine and not.
@@atuanyaalpheusthememeparod1605I think he called you out and offended you badly😂Your reaching so hard whats next your gonna call him feminine for breathing?
@@officialbenzine4075 Brother seek help, no where in my comment did I even mentioned anything like that. You probably need to learn how to read and evaluate more in life before you start typing.
Guys sorry, but the many of you who got offended by what he said are just proving his point 😂. Only the dudes who feel targeted by what he said are defending themselves in this comments
I'm not offended, though I am concerned about the display of toxic masculinity and how it may affect young men - especially those without positive examples of masculinity in their lives. I'm a middle-aged, married, wealthy, successful, active member of my community, and a very involved father. I can see right through this bullshit video, but a young man without enough real world experience may see this and think this toxic world view is what a real man should be, and it's not. There's no point in your life where pretending to be something you're not is manly. Be the best you can be with the cards you've been dealt. Be pleasant and considerate of others. Give help when you can. Accept help when you need it. That's what being a man is about.
So merely disagreeing is being offended? I’ve read thru quite a few comments and most from what I’ve seen (keyword), they’ve been dissecting his points and disagreeing. Austin gives valid advice often, however he also generalises a lot and applies a one size fits all approach to many things. I look past that tho, just because someone says something you don’t agree with per se, doesn’t mean they don’t have any valuable information to offer you. He’s a bit cocky at times, but you can’t blame him can you 😂
In this economy it’s almost impossible for the man to be the sole provider you’re talking about a time that no longer exists, yes a very few amount of men can but not all men
Jesus never worked or married (not a provider), he preached “love one another” and got angry from time to time (pretty emotional), he constantly surrounded himself with disciples that followed Him where ever he went (sounds needy and clingy), etc! But He’s God! I would rather be with a real man like Christ than with men today who only pretend to be masculine being all “stoic” as if you know what that actually means!
@@GojoTheHonoredOne9 Except that's also him not being HIMSELF. That's him being herself if anything. A "man," doesn't do that. It's should be an obvious prerequisite to be manly before being masculine... but I guess not.
Everyone thinks he is a man these days and can tell you whether you are a man or not... Of course, masculinity has rules and conditions, but who are you?
If she loves fake men then oh well .. Imma be me. If I were a chick id rather be with real than fake alpha pretenders that just always act hard up. But I get most women love lies so yah fake it to make it guys it works well or just dont GAF
Austin you don't know what it means to have emotional intelligence and maturity or maybe you dont know you need it as a man,I grew up with my dad and my elder brother who lacks both and trust me they wasn't there for me,I was sometimes lonely and was jealous when I see other relationship between brothers and father-sons and yeah I figured out most masculine stuffs on my own because of that. I'm not saying you should be soft or overly emotional I'm saying you should be cold hearted and emotional at the same time cause you need both in this world(50/50);As a true and masculine man you need to have emotional intelligence&maturity and you need to have that dawg, aggressive,cold heart but you need to know when to use it💯
The provider thing is dependent on the reason/frame for doing that. Lots of guys go 70/30 with a girl not because they’re a “man” but because they’re scared to put their foot down and go 50/50 on things, so just want to appease their girl. Context is everything. No one would say a guy paying for their girls handbags, food, everything is more of a “man” than a guy who has financial boundaries obviously.
Dude this is bs just let people express however they want. I bet if you had a daughter you wouldnt like anyone calling her a lesbian is she had a masculine side.
all of these are completely fine , i encourage men to do these even more specially nowdays, after a man got his stuff together he should want a women to take care of him
I would absolutely appreciate not having the mental load of having to make all the decisions. If a man knows what I like, it would be a real treat to just have him decide. A huge turn on too
