Signs of a Toxic Friend | Buddhist Philosophy 

Bravo. "Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm." Well said.

It took me 50 years to realize that the “toxic” friend was actually a great teacher for me, as she mirrored a lot of the behaviors that were in me yet I didn’t realize it. As I started correcting those behaviors she just drifted out of my life on her own. I still have friends who are great people but there might be that ONE behavior in each of them that rubs me the wrong way….thats when I know to pay attention, something is going on with that. I ask myself always, “where am I doing this in my own life?” I believe there’s no such thing as a perfect friend, just as there’s no perfect human being. We are all just here to grow and learn. Be easy on yourself if YOU are the toxic friend, the good news is, your aware of it and that means you will correct it and GROW.

I’ve been toxic. Self absorbed and entitled. Doing my best to change, grow and heal. I was kind of lost for many years.

Some of the most poisonous people come Disguised as Friends and Family

I used to say the best way to find a good friend is to be one. Then I realized not everyone is looking for a friend, regardless of how friendly they appear, they’re searching for someone to come up off of.

*"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature." - Marcus Aurelius*

I spent my entire life attaching to toxic people thinking I could help them, and not realizing I was at the same time trying to prove my own self worth. Then my own behaviour became toxic when they would not change, it confused and angered me. They would lead me on and tell me how great I am for them, until I was all used up and resented them. I finally am free of this dynamic but had to lose pretty much everyone and everything first, driven into chronic fatigue and spent the last year and half living as a hermit detoxing the behaviour and reparenting myself. I am just starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel, a life without attachments and where I am immune to the toxicity. Best to anyone out there working thier way through this. Its so hard, but once you know whats really going on there is no choice but to move through it.

lack of empathy is a sure sign that the person is not your friend, because that person cannot be a friend to anyone. My major lesson so far.

"Friends" to avoid 1 - Enemies disguised as friends 2 - The taker 3 - The talker 4 - The flatterer 5 - The reckless companion

Don't forget that you have to also consider this from your friend's eyes. you are also a friend to them. Don't just expect them to be the good one, you also should change you're self if you want to be a good friend for others, and if they can't see the value of you being a good friend then you can remove them from your life.

Me watching these type of videos is: 1) 50% to identify toxic people 2) 50% to identify any toxic behavior I have that needs fixing

In my personal life I came to an analogy regarding relationships (both friendly and romantic). There exist three pillars. One pillar in common, and you have an acquaintance. Two pillars in common and you can have a friend. If you have all three, you have the recipe for a long lasting relationship. The first pillar is morality, a person who mostly agrees with your stances on the matters of the soul and being a good person. Note : If this is the only pillar you have in common with someone, then most likely or not you could say "Yeah he's a swell guy but we don't have anything else in common" The second pillar is mutual interests. Someone to discuss and share your hobbies with and enjoy them doing the same. Note : If this is the only pillar you have in common with someone, then mostly likely you cold say "Yeah she's the only person I know who read Heinlein, but other than that we don't have much in common" The third and final pillar is support. Someone who can help foster your growth and you in turn can help them, be it personal, career wise, or something other. Note : If this is the only pillar you have in common with someone, then most likely that person is a business partner. You got a sweet deal and can enjoy the fruits of your labor and it doesn't go beyond that. All three are needed in some capacity in order to build a lasting relationship that can weather many storms.

As the Buddha said: There isn't a single thing as beneficial as noble friendship. Sadly, it works the other way around too. A bad friendship can be very harmful indeed

Just say “no” to your friend every once in a while when they ask for something; if the response is negative towards you, there’s your answer.

Having multiple toxic friends can be quite exhaustingly tiresome. I Rid myself of them during the Quarantine. Now, afterwards I realized they were not friends. Living quite differently now. And do have an awareness of toxicity in friendships; Even in marriages . Thank you for presenting such a report.

A toxic friend is very different than a friend that doesn’t meet our needs.

The problem is there are so many predators in this world and they are very good at seeming friendly. Nowadays someone being friendly is instantly suspect.

You don't have to be around anyone you don't want to be around.

A toxic friend is bad, but the most dangerous person is the one who thinks he knows everything and thinks everyone else is toxic.

We can also reinforce behavior if we stick with a toxic person. The less consequences someone suffers due to ill behavior the more likely they are to repeat that behavior.

I once was popular with many friends. Now I have no friends and i’m at peace.

It's difficult to find people of an ideal level- and if you happen to be the standard of a good friend, you make the lesser ones feel inferior, and they try to harm you. Stay strong, and don't let their weaknesses corrupt you!

…’We shouldn’t set ourselves on fire to keep someone else warm’ - great takeaway!

It took me a few years to realize that a "friend" at work was actually feeding my fires of envy and greed in the work place. His words sounded sympathetic like, "You deserve better." or "You're not being treated fairly." This might of been true but a wise friend might have pointed out that I was incredibly blessed to have the opportunity to have a job I loved, or that I was young and being very well compensated for my age. His poisonous words fell on the fertile ground of my envy.

I think its important to also remember that people are multifaceted and can be different types of friends to different people. Some people just act differently around others. A good friend to one person may be a toxic friend to someone else. This applies to yourself as well. I try to keep this in mind, because there are times I have not been a good friend and the least I can do for those people is to reflect and improve.

Until discovering your channel, I had been embodying all four of those toxic traits, believing them to be the only way people would ever want to be around me. I desired having friends, but didn’t know how to actually be their friend.

The Buddha recognized, BPD, NPD, mania, and depression long before the DSM, and Buddha did a better job. 💞

Watching this, I had a sense of anxiety that I might recognize myself as I don't have many friends. But I'm happy to learn I am not one of these.

I watched out of curiosity, having recently lost a marriage of 23 years, when my now ex walked out, to be with someone else. The hardest part was coming to terms with the fact, I'd lost my best friend. Yet I felt for a while they were toxic in my life too, but put it down to no-one is perfect. Yet all four hindrances discussed here, they excelled at - and did indeed cause suffering. I've reached a point in my journey of healing, to be able to watch this, and feel at peace.

'The Celestine Prophecy' taught me this years ago, and I am eternally grateful. Some people have a sucking quality to their energy. So pay attention to your energy, and to that of others.

One of my friends I knew throughout middle school and highschool had confided in me a few years after HS that they thought I was a toxic person and they needed to get away. To this day, I still do not understand why they said that, or what I was doing to prompt that reaction from them. Friends support eachother, criticize eachother when necessary, and keep eachother on the straight & narrow. 6 years later and I've come to the conclusion that they only said that because they wanted to surround themself with people who only ever agreed with their opinions. Most people do not actually know what toxicity is. They just use it as a buzzword to justify their own echo chambers, goals, breaking up a friendships, attacking someone else's, or doing harm to one's self-esteem. Differing opinions, no matter how mundane, can get you labeled.

After watching this, I've realised that I'm halfway into turning into a reckless friend myself. Thank you so much for this realization

we shouldn't set ourselves on fire to keep someone else warm, let alone see that someone, who's completely fine with our suffering, as a friend.

"We shouldn't set ourselves on fire to keep someone else warm." How I wish I would have realized this decades ago! 🤗

It takes time and a lot of experience to learn how to balance your dealings with others so you can stay a good friend. Sometimes events in life can make you vulnerable to becoming toxic behaving friend. Maybe thats why when some people are depressed they socially withdraw, because they instinctively want to protect others from toxicity.

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

"We shouldn't set ourselves on fire to keep someone else warm." Brilliant. How often we are told not to be selfish, to do for other people. You don't have to sacrifice yourself to help someone else do wrong, and that hurts them also.

It is more difficult to walk away from toxic family members. They know more and find reasons to be involved in your life.

By WALKING AWAY you help toxic people more than by staying ♥️

Perfect timing for this video as I just came to the realization the other day that the person who I thought to be my best friend for 6 years turned out to be the biggest most fake toxic person.. was my only frirnd, I was hurt at first but now I can see the road ahead of me.. be cautious who you pick to be on your team.. sometimes your better off alone

I had a friend who falls into the category of a “taker”. It is so exhausting, it is so draining that to keep up with her demands I actually fell into the “silver tongue” friend. As if to deceive her need to take take by convincing her that this was already a great friendship, all words. I would also disappear and ignore her messages from time to time just to feel peaceful and to regain energy, so I wouldn’t be there for her as I always said I would. This was a very enlightening video and it helped me to pinpoint these things. I was feeling guilty for not wanting this person in my life anymore. Thank you for showing me that I was being a toxic friend to her too.

Currently Going through a rough patch with a good friend.. this video was beautiful and eye opening. #1 toxic friend is her and shamefully I discovered I might be toxic friend #4 Thank you for uploading!

This video sums up everyone I know and 99% of people I've met. Loyalty, respect, integrity, morality and ethics are incredibly and increasingly rare commodities to be found in people. Being loyal, respectful, showing integrity trying to act morally and ethically isn't always reciprocated.

For me, the outside world reflects my inner world… I’ve had toxic friends that are takers and blamers but it’s because I take myself for granted and had a strong inner critic that blamed me when things went wrong. When I started to put my needs and desires first (not be manipulating others to give them to me) by acting on what feels good to me, guess what? Those friends disappeared and new heart centred relationships could appear in my life! Now my friends can only reach me through the heart, and not the head...

Love that end quote "We shouldn't set ourselves on fire, to keep someone else warm", besides, "the cold never bothered me anyway" 😅😆😝

So glad I found new friends. It took a while to let go of resentment but all better now.

I have spent my life surrounded by the most appalling toxic friends .

“We shouldn’t set ourselves on fire to keep someone else warm.” Good one… I’ll have to remember it.

Never realized that I follow the Buddha more than I ever expected. What is said here rings oh so true for me. I had so many toxic friends who I believed were genuine and honest. About 3 years ago, I saw they weren't honest or genuine at all. I still consider them friends, but lost. I will not contact them nor associate with them but I do not wish any ill will towards them at all, for they were dealing with similar problems as I was and still are. I was a drug addict for 20 years, about 3 years ago I decided I needed to change - so I did. Got healthy, clean and sober, enrolled in community College to get better skills for work and grow as a person. I was severely psychologically damaged by my addictions, a mental health professional and meditation (along with stoicism teachings) have started my journey to feeling whole again. It's a long journey, but not one I am anxious about or scared. I know it's just very long. I just am lost on how to find true new friends that will last long.

In Feb, disassociated from a taker. We had different life paths. This person was an extrovert while I'm introverted, and felt I was broken because I had no interest in her activities. Constant agitation. In Oct, disassociated from a reckless companion (it was a short-lived friendship). In Nov, disassociated from a taker (trauma bonder). She created chaos and frequently dumped it on me. She was vastly afraid to be with herself long enough to sort out unresolved issues. I have one compassionate, non-needy friend. I stopped setting myself on fire to make someone else feel warmer. And, I've never felt better. Blessings to all.

I have been going through many people in my life including family who are showing their true colors. My family has said outright that I'm no longer a part of the family due to my stance covid restrictions mandates, and the other is my best friend who when we had our first disagreement, she lashed out very angrily. I'm trying to be the most honest and loving person to myself. I've always have put people first instead of my own needs, and finally I'm finding freedom from sticking up for myself and realizing some people are not worth my happiness. It's extremely sad and lonely feelings, but as I meditate each day, my strength is slowly beginning.

After I met my boyfriend I distanced myself from most people I used to talk to, my boyfriend and I started off as best friends and it developed into other things after a while, after talking to him I felt like my other interactions are empty and draining. He was a good example of what a great friend was and I started comparing us to the other people in my life. I feel like sometimes you have to keep everyone a few arms lengths away from you.

It continues to amaze me how my boi Siddhartha really did go on and figgure life out 2.5 k years ago ! All you gotta do is open your heart and mind to this beautiful knowledge 🙏🏼

No man is your friend. No man is your enemy. Every man is your teacher. Jar-Jar Binks, probably

I don't really like the word toxic as we are all prone to mistakes, using others, impressing others, flattering them disingenuously, not wanting to deal with hard stuff because we have our own hard stuff to deal with....it's just living life sometimes. We are all incomplete and imperfect, and we usually attract people that have similar levels of issues as ourselves, and so to label them as toxic just because we have gained some heightened awareness, or some healthier habits is dangerous in my mind. I know the video says stay compassionate, but what is easier: labelling something as bad and rejecting it, or working on our moment to moment vibration and making it loving? I feel by using the word toxic and enemy we will most likely do the former and have a harder time doing the latter. I think there is a lot more nuance in these, and a lot more of it requiring self-reflection and work on our own habits and thoughts. Just my take, I do feel it is good to move towards better habits and more people that share those ways of life, but it is more about self-work, and moving TOWARDS the good, and not moving AWAY from the bad. Usually we resonate with the bad habits in our friends because we are also drinking, indulging, flattering, taking, using, making excuses, gossiping, judging, etc etc to some extent too, so once you just let go of those habits you will find you are hanging out with those friends a little less because now you do different things. Maybe they will start to do different things to if you show them and do them with them, and if not, it's all good, just go do what you wanna do without thinking of the other as a toxic enemy.

Whenever I was facing this, there were no actual videos like this, this video explains all kinds of people I have met in my life. One missing, manipulation through gifts, your closest can change your decision by giving gifts and making you feel grateful so that you are tied to them and their decisions forever for life.

“Friendship ... is born at the moment when one man says to another "What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .” ― C.S. Lewis

don't set yourself on fire, to keep other people warm. this is brilliant, thanks for this

The way you construct your closing remarks in every videos are really impactful! Thank you!

Have you ever considered that, looking back on the very first encounter with a 'toxic' person (whom you befriended or loved) you had already been warned by your intuition? It happend to me multy times, until I learned my weak spots. 🚩😊

This is so magnificent. It clearly proves how much knowledge came from Buddhism and generally Eastern philosophy

It really resonates with me right now. It feels quite sad being in a mindset where you have to evaluate a person’s intentions, but if you don’t, you will almost certainly pay a price - people-pleasers often take a while before they learn this (that was me once.) I suppose reflection equals maturity and the buddhist teachings offer a path for us to follow, and comfort in knowing that severing ties is ok. I wonder how buddhists view gaslighting by friends and family, because that is also a tool used to exert power, and in those instances cutting ties sometimes isn’t always enough when people drop poison in social networks. I think getting distance may also mean cutting out shared associations to avoid you getting dragged back into the vacuum of a toxic person. Sorry I’m rambling. Just thinking out loud, thank you for giving me something new to consider.

Breaking up with Family Members is the hardest thing I have ever done. The abuse goes for ages until you realise who you need to cut off from your life. And once you start with it, it gets even harder. They dont want to loose you, to abuse you. They show kindness to get you back and once they succeed, it starts all over again. Fake promises, doing things you dont like, not telling the truth, saying one thing but meaning the other, justifing thier behaviour to not apologise bcs. of thier huge Ego... Its like a trap with deadly claws, once you fall for it, it hurts even more getting out of it. It could rip you apart by trying to escape, so you might consider to stay, so you wont die trying. Im at the very start of all that and at the very end of my strenght at the same time. They wont let me live in peace until I have cut them off completley. Always remember thier actions and compare them to thier words. If they dont match, nothing is ever changing, they most likely never will or do. If they dont want to change themselves for you or others, even with you trying to help them and only getting hurt in the process, well, you know whats best for you. Dont let anybody tell you how you feel or how to life your life, when you, deep within, know who you really are by listening to your inner self. Whoever reads this and feels the same, take care of yourself and create your own life by detatching yourself from every restriction that holds you back and prevents you from growing into something truly beautiful.

Toxic friends are the ones who pretend everything is fine when it is not. Real friends point out danger especially fascism

thanks, I just let go of a toxic friend recently and this was reassuring

I realize I've never had a friend outside of these categories, which kind of explains my tendency to self-isolate.

Wow dealing with this right now while im in the process of moving out

I had 2 friends that also wer very toxic....I have thrown them also away....I don't feel alone....I feel clean

I definitely need to make sure I am being a good friend, as well as separating myself from toxic friends. Thank you for the content 🙏

I keep everyone at a distance. I seldom use the word "friend" and I am leery of people who attempt to get too close, too soon. There is plenty of time to declare a friendship, after it has proven to be mutually beneficial. We no longer live in a world where trust is a given. Perhaps we never did. I expect a lot, out of a friendship. I also expect to do my part, and honor it's value. True friendship is not having to keep score.

I love your channel! Your videos always align with my life and it’s scary but they’ve helped me so much !!!

Well said - Universal kindness/compassion, includes ourselves and not allowing ourselves to suffer needlessly. Thank you!

I realized that im toxic, but i will improve

Love your videos! I listen to them on my breaks at work in the car.

There are people you miss and you let them know. And there are people you miss but they can’t and shouldn't know

This is a great break down of this sometimes subtle and difficult situation to fully grasp and apply. Thank you!

1:28 The people we need to avoid are Toxic friends (Enemies in disguise). Love is the energy we need to release them in. Avoidance doesn't = conflict. Our letting go of toxic people doesn't have to be conflictual however our avoidance of toxic friends is a form of self protection. Resenting out enemies only affects our own mental state. It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The feelings of hostility like Hatred belong to one of the 5 hindrances. The 5 hindrances are mental states that hamper progress like meditation practice. They disturb feelings of peace and harmony and that in turn effects our health. THE FIVE HINDRANCES: ANGER DESIRE STAGNATION AGITATION DOUBT 3:00 THE TAKER - They only take, ask alot but give little, perform duty out of fear and offer service to gain something. The taker is mainly driven by desire, by wanting and grasping. It's a needy character that is continuously looking for something to acquire and use friends as a means for that. People who always want something are never content so have no peace of mind. A taker as a friend is a restless character they aren't much interested in the friendship but in what they can get out of it. 3:50 As they are only out to receive they rarely think about giving so the friendship is not balanced and consists of a parasite and a host. The former sucking the latter dry. If we sacrifice ourselves to satisfy the needs of such a friend we harm not only ourselves but them by assisting them in walking the wrong path. We harm ourselves by letting someone exploit us but also from a Buddhists point of view the exploiter also suffers the pain of ongoing desire which overshadows the possibility of genuine balanced connection and the joy of giving. 4:29 THE TALKER - The friend with the silver tongue can be toxic as their words can be used as a tool to manipulate and get their own way. If your friend has a mouth full of promises and excuses but shows little action this individual can be toxic. The talker can be identified by four things: by reminding of past generosity, by reminding of future generosity, mouthing empty words of kindness and protesting personal misfortune when called on to help. 5:07 What makes a person? Words or actions? A friend who offers us nothing but empty talk won't follow up on our promises and is never around when you need them and always has an excuse. Their words may tell us how great the friendship is but their actions suggest otherwise. Empty words are useless as they're full of lies and false promises. People who offer us nothing more than glibness and superficial charm can be fun at times but shouldn't be considered as friends as they lack integrity and reliability. Whoever in hardship stands by that one is a friend. 5:49 THE FLATTERER - These fickle friends know how to use people's desire for praise and acceptance for their own benefit as they're masters at telling them what the want to hear. Although it may feel like great company having someone round you who stroke your egos a flatterer is not a good friend. The flatterer can be identified by four things. By supporting both bad and good behaviour indiscriminately, praising you to your face and putting you down behind your back. They have a lack of integrity, even though supporting you no matter what you do seems like a sign of great friendship, it's not. Someone who praises whatever you do simply feeds into your vanity, knowing that you'll keep them around and trust them as long as they tell you what you want to hear. If he/she then goes off talking badly behind your back, you'll know that their reverance towards you isn't authentic but just a way of manipulation. The danger of having such friends around is that they don't discern right from wrong not just in a moral sense but also in a rational sense meaning that they'll praise destructive behaviour both to ourselves and our surroundings, they might even encourage us to engage in self destructive behaviour so that they have a story to tell behind our backs. 7:17 THE RECKLESS COMPANION Some friends can be amazingly fun as they always seem carelessly engaged in these wild adventures regardless of harmful they may be. The reckless companion can be identified by four things: by accompanying you in drinking, roaming around at night, partying and gambling. 7:45 The problem with reckless companions is their restless, agitated mental state which can be contagious. Constant desire arouses them so they go from place to place, party to party, sleeping by day, drifting around at night searching for another fix. Not only does it affect our finances but has other associated dangers. 6 WAYS OF SQUANDERING WEALTH Heedlessness by intoxication Roaming the streets at inappropriate times Habitual partying Compulsive gambling Bad companionship Laziness A reckless companion engages in several if not all of these The backfire of this reckless behaviour are: Increased quarelling. Loss of wealth. Disrepute. Susceptibility to ill health. Never being satisfied. Crimes. Resentment. Addictions. Association and hanging out with destructive people. If we hang out with such people they'll carry us along into this way of life and ultimately will become destructive in own lives. These people put their desire for reckless behaviour before the wellbeing of others. Stay clear of: The friend who is all take The friend with empty words The friend with flattery And the friend who is reckless. The wise understand this and they keep them at a distance. Are we displaying these toxic behaviour ourselves? Are we unknowingly an enemy to our friends? You can cultivate yourself to become a better person to others and a good friend to have. GOOD FRIENDS 9:50 There are good hearted friends who you should associate and cultivate relationships with these are: THE HELPER THE ENDURING FRIEND MENTOR COMPASSIONATE FRIEND These people influence our lives in advantageous ways and are more likely to be calm, happy, wholesome and healthy individuals. THE HELPER - A helper protects us and assists us in various tasks. THE ENDURING FRIEND We share our secrets with and will stand by us in times of misfortune. MENTOR - A mentor teaches us and offers guidance towards good actions COMPASSIONATE FRIEND - A compassionate friend delights in our good fortune and praises our good qualities. Unlike a toxic friend a good friend uplifts us and doesn't pull us down. Out of universal kindness "We shouldn't set ourselves on fire to keep someone else warm". A friend will never try to pull you down but a frenemy will nearly always will.

It's not simply about the friend being toxic or an "enemy." Sometimes we just grow apart or they trigger something in us that is toxic. In other words, we can develop differences in our lives, with certain friends. Our paths, our values may change. If you find yourself resentful, annoyed, angry, hostile or exasperated by someone continually, let them go asap for their sake as well as yours. We may be as toxic to them as they are to us. I have to be honest, though this growing apart has happened to me, I have never had a "bad" friend. I seem to have a great s--t detector when it comes to people. My friends are primo! P.S. Friends should boost each other. Maybe it's "shared vanity," but my friends and I praise each other a lot because we know how hard life can be and we want to see our friends feeling good about themselves. And our praise is never false. We know our friends' gifts, and we acknowledge them. I like being this kind of "friend" to my clients, too, in my profession as a psychic advisor.

Love this channel! Such quality content. Timely and yet timeless.

This was a great watch. Thanks. Definitely dodged staying around some toxic people recently. Seeing better actual friends this year with similar goals & aspirations

Thank you, Einzelgänger. YOU are a true friend. 🙇‍♂

Remember if you leave someone because of their bad behaviour they could chose to take a life lesson from this, if they do learn, that's great, if they don't learn there's nothing you can do about it.

A good friend encourages the creativity and newness (good way) always rather to discourage you in the name of bad outcomes.

I have been working hard for others trying to inpress them … but i only had yo impress my self . They dont seem to what time for me so why am I worrying about them … something in my mind thinks it needs them.. but i am happy i can see this better .

You shall know your true friends when the storms come. Don't let others manipulate or use you for their own benefits.

Thanks so much for sharing. This answers some important questions for me. I had forgotten that being compassionate includes toward myself in certain situations 🙏🏽

" We shouldn't set ourselves on fire to keep someone else warm " I'll remember that forever. I had been doing that for a long time. I thought I was helping people,but I was killing myself. 😅

And then there's the person who simply draws the life force out of you. Leaves you drained after a time in their company. Even though they may be friendly and helpful to you. You must let them go.

Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, the only way to truly be happy and joyful is identifying our own toxic behaviors and replacing them with positive ones. Also staying far away and make zero contact with individuals with destructive toxic behaviors and addictions no matter who they are in our life. Period and no exemptions. I did this and my life is waaaaaaaay better.

Wow. Thank you for this. But toxicity can come in different doses. I let go of a couple of friends who are the nicest people you could meet, however they were very racist and classist bastards. I couldn’t stand their back handed comments and they had to go. Absolutely no regrets. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

This makes me appreciate my homie even more, I've been toxic on more than one occasion. I apologized and we're still going strong now after 10 years. The only things we don't share are girlfriends and toothbrushes.

Very interesting! The analogy of an anger and a bottle in poison is great! I’ve realized the same on my own a few years ago and that was a huge relief that made my life better!

I wanted to add, the friend who takes does not necessarily takes material things. You might be used for attention, flattery or other personal gains.

Thank You for this. I only tried to show love to everyone and tried to share my sympathy for everyone and tried to show all the power and voices in the individuals who inspired me and gave me courage. I wanted to show all the possible perspectives and voices of everyone. I didn't realize my energy was misguided. I always try to help those around me. Thank You

If your 'friend' doesn't respect your moral choices, find new friends.

"We shouldn't set ourselves on fire to keep someone else warm." Wisdom.

Really interesting and a well done video! 👏🏻 I recognized the bad enabler toxic fiend trait in me because I want my friends to be real with me ( I’m not your parent) without judging too...It’s tricky! 🙌🏻

I find it very Dutch that you don’t include toxic friends as those who are excessively critical. I’ve had to let go of friends that always criticize everything I do. You can learn from them to certain extent but you learn who they really are when you achieve something close to their heart and they still do what they can to push you down.

I had these ideas in my head all year. Your video really help put them into words. Thank u

this video came up at the perfect time for me! very useful, thanks!