@@farhanishraq9335 at first glance i thought she was going to promote promiscuity, but what a surprise! She is really helping tons of people! Thank this woman. Respect!
Accept for some to get new crack you have to get up, get dressed , lock up , , get money , take the L train , meet the guy at the spot , cop drugs , leave the spot , take the the train back , get to the nest , and then you can smoke crack , sex addiction can start the minute your awake but the dealer is in your pants
Since new years, no porn, no booze, no Facebook, clean diet and consistent exercise. Im feeling great, this video is one that came to me i didn't realize i needed to see it, its a reminder about why im on this path. Thanks for the insights ❤
Very impressive! Keep up the great work. Abstaining from alcohol has always been the biggest hurdle for me. It’s wreaked havoc in my life and, along with the open, wrecked my mental health. Stories like yours motivate and inspire me to keep fighting. Praying for your further success!
@mikekrahel8459 thanks for your kind words, if it helps u for me it was focusing on no booze and exercising at the same time which then gave me clarity to ditch scrolling mindlessly on facebook and anything else that was a massive distraction/time waster.. it all snowballs then after a while u can focus on the smaller things. One day at a time man!
Ive stopped using fb for 5 years and im going back to accomplishing some life goals ..and as im scrolling pornographic stuff just popps up ..and it isnt stuff im added too or relatives sharing that type of mess
I quit porn over 4 years ago. I've rarely missed it. I've noticed my relationships with women are SO much better without it because subconsciously I just look at them more like regular friends now. It's possible to quit!
3+ months porn free and I’m feeling pretty good. I did slip up after two weeks because the urge was strong but since then it’s been 3+ months of no porn. I think for the majority of us we will slip up but we have to recognize that it’s normal and we just have to keep pushing through.
7 weeks clean tomorrow - not even the 90 day official rewire mark yet and I’ll tell you I can FEEL the energy from my brain shift . I’ve been more happy lately like I’m saying just happy for anything . From drinking coffee or sitting around watching basketball with my family . My brain fog has gone away. My anxiety and hopelessness have faded . I look forward to the next day and what life has coming for me . Dr Trish I can’t thank you enough I’m continuing strong on my journey
For me the most extraordinary thing about removing porn from my life. Was the realisation, feeling and sensation of looking at a woman or coming into a situation where I meet a women and I didn’t think of it as a porn scene, instead I saw a person and an individual. That to me was fascinating!
@@nocturnaljoe9543It really doesn't take much, I think he's just phrasing it in a way that sounds extreme. When you're consistently watching porn, your interactions with women are sex-first in your mind, maybe in a subtle subconscious way. When you stop, they go back to being human-first. I noticed that after quitting a once-a-week habit, nothing crazy.
@@geometerfpv2804that parallels my experience as well, a lot. I thought I was alone in this actually. But I discovered that a lot of people addicted to porn face the same issue that it sorta became normalized for some to think of all women as sluts, and you just had to “manipulate them the right way” which is very dehumanizing and exploitative.
I didn't even search this video, it just popped up in my algorithm. Nonetheless, Im so happy to see everyone on here empowered to grow. This is the world I love to see. Humanity living in a higher state of mind body and soul.
@TaviousOliver-bg1wn Damn dude. How bad was the relapse? I got to around 40 day mark in February and had a huge binge-fest for three weeks straight. Now after The Great Relapse I'm 53 days clean, haven't even edged.
@@samaquino2803 You can do it. I've over 60 days now and I think I've beaten the addiction since I haven't had any strong urges to pron for a long time, I'm only interested in real life girls. I've noticed I've become a lot less stressed and much more stoic and confident. People look at me differently and I've noticed I even walk different just automatically. I feel much happier overall. My boners are much fuller and stronger than before and I measured my wee-wee and it's gained slightly over 1cm or 1.5cm in length, I believe because the erections are so much stronger. Considering I'm only about 60 days in, the benefits have been amazing. It was pretty tough initially, my brain tried so many different ways to make me relapse and in the past it got me to relapse several times but each time I learned something about how my brain tricks me. Just continue the journey, relapses are not the end, they are part of it. Learn from them and soldier on. The benefits are well worth it.
A year and a month clean! Mediate, workout, try and eat better and fill your time with things that will benefit you in the future. I became very involved in self care and skincare. That became my nightly routine.
@@jontezmuzik from my experience, the best way to get to sleep at night is by reading a good book. Dim the lights just enough to see the page. If you need more help getting sleep at night check out Matthew Walker and his book - why we sleep. You'll asleep within 5 minutes, once you read that.
Today marks a week of no porn! My advice to anyone trying to stop! Start mediation, it will slow down your compulsive behavior! Try to figure out what’s the root of your issue! I used to smoke weed which made me feel lazy and bored, which eventually lead to watching porn! Also I had a traumatic past, Im learning to accept it and I practice affirmations! I’ll say things like this time will soon pass, I love myself and other uplifting sayings to make me feel good! I went to the gym 5 times this week and changed my diet, I’ve be eating more vegan dishes! It’s been a battle, but I finally think I found something that works! Also try to understand what’s your triggers, staying up late, watching IG models, being let down or discouraged, feeling alone , we all have different things that trigger us to watch porn, try to figure out what’s yours! Last but not least listen to how you speak to yourself! Speaking loving encouraging words to yourself! If you loved and respected someone how will you talked to them? Speak to yourself like that!! I’ve been practicing this for a week and not for nothing I haven’t been thinking about porn ! Just my take hope this helps 👊🏾
Thanks for the marvelous advice! Watching content, whether real-life movies or anime that zooms in and sexualizes the character has tempted so many, including me. I sold the game grand theft auto 5, years because the strip clubs in the game tempted me too heavy towards porn. My former favorite sports show to watch was wrestling. I would make it my absolute duty to watch every program that came on the week, and if I missed it, I went online to watch what I missed. I quit watching wrestling about 7 years ago. The scantily-clad divas(women wrestlers)...tempted me too heavy to porn. It's all been worth quitting!
I spoke with Dr. Leigh recently. I felt confident that I could conquer my addiction after talking with her.God bless Dr. Leigh and everyone seeking recovery from porn addiction..
I literally blocked access to certain sites, this helped me extremely in changing my focus on something more valuable. In my opinion I have no intention of masturbation anymore. It’s been over a month and I honestly feel amazing. I honestly thank this lady to because she’s keeping me on my toes!!!!!
Be careful. There is a correlation between lack of ejaculation and getting prostate-testicular cancer, you need to get those loads off man. Fact check it.
Update from the last time.. I came to drop a comment on my days without porn and masturbation and I saw my comment... I'm proud to say I didn't break my streak since I first commented.. I'm 17days clean now... I never want to do this again. I feel way better
One of the best signs I got is the ability to appreciate women more. It’s strange to say, but I noticed my attraction to women was less about their bodies. I also started noticing that I no longer see women as a means to an end, but can foster good relationships with them. A better way to summarize it is empathy towards the opposite sex. I see them as humans, with lives, interests, friends, and families. I feel like I want to learn more about them as humans. It actually made me happier about myself, as I used to see myself as messed up in the head before that.
Interesting, as I’ve noticed the people who are vehemently opposed to the cessation of porn consumption are often the same people who viscerally hate the opposite sex. My evidence is in the comments when sorted by “newest first.”
I only started two days ago but I know how strong I am, I know the massive willpower I can muster, I HAVE mustered in my Life. I will do this and I will succeed!
I started saying the LORDS prayer every morning and every night and I honestly haven’t even thought about looking at porn anymore, also looking at women and not lusting for them, GOD helped me and blessed me.
If you're struggling with cold turkey I'd like to offer something that might help as a segue, or alternative to cold turkey. I've used this to quit cigarettes, alcohol and currently using it to quit porn. Just focus on doing it less. If you do it 5x a week try to do it 3x. Then 2x then 1x. When you achieve this, then set days that you cannot do it, start with 1 and work yourself up to 2 days, then 3, then a week. You might relapse but if you keep track of this you'll see your progress and that will motivate you to do better next time. The goal isn't to quit, it's to continue to do it less and less for eternity, to the point that it's so inconsequential that if you do it your brain sees it as a mistake, you forgive yourself, then go back to not thinking about it again. Example, i used to drink 5x a week and smoke several packs a week. Using this method i can now enjoy a drink or a cigarette whenever i want and not feel like i need another. I'll smoke a cigarette a go months without having another. Same with drinking. I haven't been drunk in years and have a half-full pack of cigarettes in my drawer that's been there for over a year. I found that establishing a healthy relationship with my addictions was better than pretending the offending party doesn't exist. This isn't great for everyone obviously, but i don't think cold turkey works for everyone either. I doubt I'm an anomaly in figuring this out but maybe i am, maybe that's terrible advice. Use your judgement i suppose.
@@ts214121 I think the only way is to keep them away from the internet as much as possible. If they need to know something, they'll have to go to the library. Either that or heavy parental control, with lots of monitoring. I sure as hell ain't giving my kids a smartphone until they can buy it themselves.
That’s good for you. I’m glad that’s working for you, but it’s a good idea to stay clean if you and your girlfriend split because it’s a lot harder when you are single.
I was the same. When I first started dating my girlfriend, I had a major reason to quit. And while I had relapses, for a year I was actually having major success with quitting. Then we broke up, and I started developing incredibly severe OCD symptoms just when I started getting over the break up.
I'm on day 13 and I have noticed how fast my brain is recovering. My thinking and decision making is returning to its original speed of lightning fast! That is motivation enough for me to keep going but I can feel the difference in my body and the way I see other people's bodies as well.
I have went through your program. I am a Christian. I read the scriptures, a few years I began to read a lot about neuroscience. As I study what scripture has to say about the mind. Dr. Trish you made the most sense to me about all of this. Thank you simply isn’t enough. You were a God send.
@@psplayer1344hes not pretend if you want to keep on the road to hell so bad fine, but you have no right to say anything to anyone who has a real faith in Christ who has a real relationship with God. I know that I’m going to heaven, I have zero doubts, I also have zero doubts that there is a hell and those who don’t believe will spend an eternity there!
Dear Dr Trish - It is now a full, solid year since I used porn (12 Feb 2023). The guidance and motivation I have gained from your videos has been a great part of my success so far (I am not complacent about this). Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights into this really destructive social problem. Best regards.
@@fredferd2649 for telling masses to quit this evil thing called porn. Porn is ruining society world wide. It's keeping men away from seeking partner, develops social awkwardness particularly in men. I didn't find anyone on the internet that is so clearly saying no to masturbation out right. Religious scholars on internet are okay with masturbation. I don't get it.
What have they done to us brothers? Have we asked for it but now reap the fruits of our sins? This is clearly a spiritual battle. There's a reason this smut is free. This is an international health crisis and it should be banned!
your understanding on this subject is so on point that I can truly resonate to what your saying on a deep level. I hope I can be free from this dark side fetish I have developed over the years. One thing I have learned is you never truly get away with anything.
The concept of changing from out of 1st Person perspective and talking to ourselves by name is really interesting. I've noticed the effectiveness of this even while dealing with a negative emotion "loop" I might get into. For example, some event or person's behavior at work might irritate me -- then I find myself dwelling on it, which escalates, and only strengthens the pull toward the emotion of anger. I've said to myself, "Okay, Kevin. I. Get. It. You're pissed. You might even be right in thinking this situation or person is wrong, but you DON'T NEED to make it worse by thinking about it for the rest of the day. You have plenty of other things to think about and be grateful for. Just leave it. You're not going to change it by dwelling on it." Addressing myself, stepping out of my own brain, so to speak, is HUGE in overcoming that emotional loop. I could see how with sexual addiction saying something as simple as, "Okay, Kevin. I can see you want to use again, but we're trying to overcome this and doing THAT is not going to help. Why are you wanting to do this?" could open the door to some better judgement in the moment.
@@reubensingh1430nah bro if you don’t beat off and orgasm all over yourself don’t worry about it, if you come across it continue to be strong enough to just put it away and keep it pushing with what you were doing
@@reubensingh1430 hi, hope all is going well. In response to your coment I'd say well done for battling it off. Do not feel like you have 'failed' and your progress is nothing, it is major progress even there as is shown by your will to shut it off and if you're too harsh on yourself to be perfect it only gives you more excuses to give up when in reality you've made real progress.
I beat food gluttony,beat alcoholism(the abstinence from alcohol part),beat sex addiction which is something else(though similar of course) but have not been able to beat porn and masturbation which for me,go hand in hand. It has impacted my faith and every aspect of my life to one extent or another. I have even at times found my self enjoying porn more than having a real woman. And that has included my fiancé who am marrying in just a few weeks. The good news is that my desire has diminished as my as my partaking of this malady has. Helping create a good cycles. And watching videos like this have helped in this endeavor. Not just because of the very useful advise,but also as a reminder that I am definitely not alone,as this addiction like most addictions(at least the ones I have had),have an isolation component to them. I thank GOD I ran into this video 🙏🏾.
I'm watching this today and it's been a few days since relapsing, but I know I'm going to make it out of this. Shout out to Dr.Trish. You make this journey so much more manageable
I watch your content all the time. I've been on semen retention since April 13 2021 372 days semen retention. Addicted since January 1999 23 years straight
My goodness that's almost like me, from 2001 up to 2020 i never went a day without porn in fact i used to think it was impossible to go a day without it. In 2020 i began trying to go days and weeks without it and boy it was tough but in December 2020 i made up my mind to quit porn as my new year 2021 resolution. even though it was tough at first i managed to leave porn behind, and as of my new year 2022 resolution i decided to begin semen retention and that also has been a success so far and even the wet dreams have stopped for me. Currently i feel the most mentally peaceful i have ever felt.
I was blessed genetically and haven't ever had to resort to porn, but I can see why lonely men might feel compelled to do so and it breaks my heart. We have to address the men's loneliness epidemic by addressing, first, the women's narcissism epidemic. They're linked.
@@cortisolcalibrator Yes we have to, both men and women, focus on restoring sanity and emotional regulation as a social norm! I'll look into the book you mentioned, thank you for recommending it
Yes,what if you simply cant get women.what do you do?i can see porn making you lazy and not even trying,but it’s extremely hard for most men ,especially when you get older..and a lot of women are just nightmares.idk,confusing
Really. I don't have money to pay for helpful programs. I promised myself for 120 days . I will not smoke, watch porn and gambling. Please pray for me to keep up the commitment ❤❤❤
Really I have been strugling a lot and after i decided to find a help , I found people who didnt even knew about my specific problem and were not aware , finally after finding this channel i really found answers to questions i didn't even know i had, so thank you
This is an insidious addition....it will completely take over your life if you allow it. I feel like i have wasted many years fighting this. I used to binge as a way to cope with anxiety but then i just became numb and had guilt and depression... When the temptation comes you need to resist. Change your life. Find good People and stay away from triggers.
@@Anonymous-kv6wv i was using porn even last month, but didn’t binge, didn’t fap for porn. But now I don’t crave for porn like i used. My sex drive is really good. Checked my t levels and it is 770 which is really excellent number. But i masturbated around 20 times(masturbated 5 times in same day which is binging) in last 10 months. Now on day 22. Out of flatline. I was masturbating last 14 years and watching porn last 10 years. Have your husband tested his t levels? Some people take more than year to recover. Maybe he is in flatline.
This biggest sign for me was willingness to listen to advice. For so long I thought I knew what was right for me and thought any advice was I heard was "good, but not right for me"
Tough topic for men to talk about. This is a habit I am trying to change. I was raped at 16 by another man. It seems like that abuse primed me for compulsions and addictions. I am also in recovery from drugs and alcohol. There is a lot of shame tied into this stuff.
Sorry to hear that. You're a brave soul to even admit that but I'm sure you just empowered a few people to break out of it. Trauma happens to us that we don't ask for but the moment we truly accept this is what happened we gain this power eternally that helps us now become a better person. It's a process but it can be done. I really hope you are making progress slowly but surely. Just know what happened doesn't define you. Find other outlets that bring happiness and healthy dopamine for you and that should help as well
Took me months and months of trying and fail and start again . Finally over 5 months without porn . 42 days without masturbation . I believe 90 days is require to heal from a very strong masturbation problem . Or more .
Congrats. I've been at it for 3 years. I'd gain some time and relapse. Over & over & over again. I think the longest I've gone without porn is where I'm at now, 18 days. And that's not without place holders like pretty faces online or pics of women in scantily clad clothing. It's unbelievably hard.
Porn is awfully ingrained in our society, but I've talked to a few guys who have mixed feelings about it. I think a lot of guys do, but it is going to be very hard to get them to turn away from it.
I'm at day 47 of no fap, the longest since I started 27 years ago. First 3-4 weeks were okay, I didn't think much about porn, but now it's getting harder to resist. Every day my brain tries to replay some of my favorite videos in my mind. I know my problem is that I've only been with prostitutes in my life, and convinced myself that I don't enjoy real sex. It was always awkward, I can only last a minute, my partners obviously never enjoyed it. So I prefer watching it on a screen instead.
Well its going to take work to get to that piont we're your about to come and slow down and it's going to be awhile. Personally I'm impressed about 47 days I have problems going without sex for 8 hours.
Close to 130 days clean and I feel alot better. Exercising and eating better. Trying my best everyday. Talking to my therapist and now I have a gf which im very happy about. I will be better. I am free and I will stay that way. The porn worm is dead and it’ll stay that way
Was addicted for basically 30years the withdrawal was horrendous took around 4 months for my brain to get to a reasonable place and 6 months to feel around 90% improvement.
I still mess up but in general Im moving in the right direction...when I started this journey of healing I would binge watch...i at least dont do that anymore
finding the woman i love and had married and had wanted to share my life with degrading herself for thousands of weak men and creeps was enough for me to feel disgusted enough by it to stop completely
I love you doctor Trish Lee, you help me when I feel. At my worst when I feel like there's no hope. I watch your videos And I feel better because I know there's hope. And thanks to Zack for sharing his story. Cause I feel the same way He did I just wanted to go away
The best thing to actually do is stop sleeping with your mobile phone/laptop in the same room as you, literally removing the technology that has made it easily available for use. It has really worked so well for me. And I am feeling the mental change and benefits already.
Let's just say I had a friend who was addicted to porn & recently was finally able to break free of the addiction and desire by first healing & coming to acceptance about negative childhood memories that were attached to porn watching. She used to look at it in a book she found in the house and online when she was kid and when her family was fighting and felt chaotic she would hide and look at it. As soon as she dealt with negative past memories associated with porn watching she was able to stop watching and has no desires to watch it any longer. she used to watch videos like this to help her stop and it would help for a second and then she would succumb a few months later so that's what worked for her. I hope this helps someone. Don't let Satan corrupt sex for you and your husband or wife which God made to be beautiful and shared with ONE other special human. Start with The Power of NOW by Eckhart Tolle or Are you the One for Me by Barbara DeAngelis
The difference between watching porn and having sex is same as watch cooking shows and actually cooking, cooking shows will not satisfied your hunger, but actual cooking will
Very informative thank you! I’m noticing that I’m aware and instead reacting to my thoughts or visuals of women I find attractive it would be triggers. Now I use mindfulness and prayer. It has helped tremendously.
12:30 so true... I remember having all sorts of weird things I was into... and I genuinely thought that there's no way I could be happy without experiencing them. but now I just have no desire for specific actions with a partner... you know just go with the flow. Instead of having a list of actions in your head that you want.
You don’t need a headband guys…you need your bible and prayer, and if God isn’t answering prayer then we find ourselves in a position to wait on Him. While we wait, there is nothing wrong with practicing OBEDIENCE. Sometimes it does take a little effort on our part to activate God. For a Christian to say…”well if God wanted me to quit He would just take this addiction away, and since he hasn’t yet I’ll just continue in sin.” No.No.No. We must turn away from sin and pursue righteousness and holiness. We must remove the triggers and we can do it. It’s not impossible even though it may feel that way sometimes. God will help those who really want help, but a lot of times He wants to see some effort and obedience on our part before He comes to our rescue.
NO DOUBT! I’ve been seeking God and even though, I have slipped many times on my walk with Jesus, he lifts me back up and proves to me how wrongful and destroying this sin is to the soul and body really. My desires are transforming to be more like Him and follow righteousness
It's the psychological hierarchy of obedience that actually works. We're social creatures and evolved in packs, the majority of us used to submit to leaders, especially at young age. That 'god' thing is just like the psychological alfa male that we're comfortable to obey and be guided.
Thank you for the Bezos/Musk analogy. I’m having a tough time convincing my wife that it wasn’t about her not being good enough. It was about my weaknesses.
I feel clearer but the anxiety comes and goes. I had no problem is quitting porn, I quit right from the get-go cold turkey. No problems. Masturbation took a few days to stop and I quit it. It has been 13 days since I quit porn and masturbation. And even though I feel clearer, the anxiety tends to come and go. I am waiting for the occasional headaches and anxiety to go away.
What helped me is the next time I thought about doing it, I would think about how my act would discredit the victory Christ had on the cross for my sins. I didn’t need to help Satan any further, and started to realize I was instead getting enjoyment out of watching someone else’s sins on video. Once this clicked I haven’t looked at anything since. I guess over a year or two now, I can’t honestly remember the day. Hope this helps someone. 1 Cor 15:1-4
Thank God for sobriety whether it's overcoming pornography and masterbation or smoking drinking or drugs or gambling adultery fornication prostitution. Thank God for his grace and help and goodness. We can continue to keep on more and more overcimg and getting the total deliverance freedom and overcimg victory over all these things Amen.
My First attemp road to 90 days, on my day 6 I relapse. Then I start counting again. I'll keep going, I'm alone but beacause of you guys develop my motivation.
I’m about 2 weeks clean and my biggest motivation is thinking about how good I’ll feel after 90 days. So if I’m about to relapse I really have an angel and demon on my shoulder. Demon is saying you could feel good for a little bit but then feel miserable for a day or two. But the angel is saying if you quit you will have better relationships and improve confidence. Personally I’m just worried about the side effects such as lack of motivation and depression from quitting. Just try to stay away from ur phone
1 week in and Ive found that quitting pornography has been extremely easy. Limiting my time on the computer and actually blocking porn sites has eliminated the temptation to enter those sites into the search bar. I believe the difficult part is going to be eliminating masturbation. I have definitely used it a coping mechanism for everyday stress in my life. I hope that giving up pornography and severely limiting masturbation will help the relationships I have in my life.
I love your Podcasts, my husband & I get a lot out of them.. As an aside., would you turn up your volume at your end? That way we can adjust the volume at our end.. the way you have it now, it's ways too low for us to turn it up..!
Over 100 days and now I feel like I’m going crazy. Anxiety, depression and nervousness is killing me. It’s hard to hold on. I have no support system. I don’t know what to do!
Oh my god I've had this feeling that i can't fully describe, almost like i'm frustrated to not see behind my own head for the longest time, that's what it, i'm stick in first person
