I don't like women like this. Why is she so worried about what we happily single women are doing? It's starting to give "I needed a relationship to feel happy, and I'm jealous of the ones who didn't need a relationship to be happy. How do they do it?" 😂
I mean she came out the game with the world “bitter” a word men use to neg them and tell them they need to accept less or they aren’t picking better. She came out swinging and didn’t expect a fight.
Being healed is what makes women okay with being alone. No longer tying your identity and worth to a man and children. Unhealed people tend to stick to other people so they don’t have to address their traumas
Why would a woman complain about other women leaving more men for her to select from unless she is regretting her choices and doesn’t think she can back out.
As a woman that was married with with kids from The age of 18 to 39🤣I’m 47 and i promise. I promise you I’ve never been happier. 🤦🏽♀️. I wish I would have divorced my husband long ago and altho i have kids . I really didn’t enjoy it and lets just say, I’m grown . Men hit on me daily and I promise you , i don’t want near one of them . I’m so happy ! I’m angry i didn’t find this happiness sooner
@@daciasdiy1861 I'm so glad that you you made that comment. It confirms that I've seen in my life. My grandmother was happily single for 25 years after grandaddy passed. She said exactly what you said, and I was with her when even married men would try her, and she'd say, no thanks I'm OK by myself. I asked hee why she wouldn't date. She said, I don't want to be bothered with any men, and that she was happier alone. She lovedp granddaddy, but I don't think he would've been able to pull granny if they'd met today.
@@daciasdiy1861Thank you for sharing your honest testimony. I respect women like yourself, cause it does take courage to be honest about what you want, who you are and what your regrets are. ❤
@@cosmosadorabilis7677Yup. She needs to focus on building courage not lashing out on strangers. She probably worried about her thunz access to women too. 😕
Most of them got picked and realized it isn't what she thought it was. Misery loves company. Funny, she's saying single people need therapy when these are the people in therapy the most.
Why is it always aimed at women? I rarely see anyone commenting on men who don't want to get married or have kids. It's always about "why don't women want to get married" "why don't women want children"...no one ever mentions the men and I think that's telling.
Exactly it's the double standards and misogyny for me men are celebrated for being bachelors no one hardly bats an eye when they see a single man with no kids but if a woman is single and childless by a certain age she's viewed as an outcast or seen as weird for not being a mother or having a man and if she's vocal about not wanting marriage and kids you get people like this woman in the video trying to drag her for not wanting those things because people think our purpose as women is to be servers we're not allowed to be carefree and live freely for ourselves we're expected to live to please everyone else because society still doesn't see us as human beings.
Lady, please read, " I want a wife" by Judy Brady that was published in 1971. Remember that date. EVERY SINGLE thing that women talk about, TODAY is in that essay. This isn't a "movement" it's been going on for centuries, only this time, women have the means and choices not to put up with the BS. I'm 54 and there is NO WAY I would encourage ANY WOMAN to marry or have children in this economy or day and age, but I WILL encourage them to find happiness, peace and security within themselves, so when someone comes into their lives, either a "friend" like you or an XY, these women KNOW and have the mental and emotional strength to protect it at all costs.
EXACTLY!!! This is not new and it’s not a movement! What I want for me is not a movement lol. I just simply don’t want to be a mother or be a wife. It has nothing. To do with anyone else, but me.
You should read Propaganda by Edward Bernays. It hasn’t been good on for centuries or even decades. It hasn’t been going on at all. You just fell for the social engineering.
My thoughts exactly. 💯 Don't get me wrong, there's a lot of things that don't make sense to me and I think a person should have the right TO understand SOME/CERTAIN things but THIS topic isn't one of them! The same way she "doesn't understand" being independent, that's the same way I don't understand being codependent on a man! Difference is, I'm not making a video about it! Destiny, can you pin this comment? 💯
Ironically, as a single woman I tend to run into women who are partnered that come off as miserable and are unkind. I’d also like to add happy people with healthy mental health tend to mind their business, not be all up in others business. I’ve experienced this also!
Yep miserable cause they are so desperate for a man on their arm that they settle for any dust bucket that gives them attention. He could be unemployed and or unemployed but not contributing to any household bills (I have actually heard that scenario). That’s my man, my man! SMH 🤣
As a divorcee of 3 marriages....first 2 were habitual cheaters, last one stopped working and slipped into his feminine role, allowing me to be the sole provider, I can honestly say being single and celibate has brought endless peace, calm, success and therefore unforseen wealth to me. I wish I had known 35 yrs ago.
She sounds jealous of the women she described. Men are so easy to get. So yes, a woman can be happy being completely single without seeking companionship from a man. Also, there’s so many ways to fulfill a mothering role without actually having a child. You can become a mentor, teacher, foster parent, adoptive parent, godparent, ect…. So yes, a woman can be completely happy without children of her own. You can also be happy without both. Plus, you’ll have your own freedom and money to enjoy life without dealing with the stress of both.
This lady sounds bitter and unhappy herself, and her attitude is disgusting. As someone who's been in therapy for the last 15 years, she doesn't seem to understand how it works. Some people will need lifelong therapy. And it doesn't always guarantee the healing she thinks will come with said therapy. As a 40 year old single childfree by choice woman, hell no, I ain't getting into a relationship, bc being in a relationship has made me bitter and unhappy every time I've been in one. I've always been happier single. Why would I give up my happiness to BECOME bitter and unhappy? Not everyone is meant for a relationship and relationships aren't for everyone.
I love your comment! Yessssss!!!!! I have anxiety when I’m dating. I’m the happiest, make the most money, the healthiest when I’m single so I will remain that! It’s just not for me and it took a lot of deep introspection to realize that.
@@SmileyAdventures I'm glad you figured out what's best for you. I never had anyone growing up telling me that being single was okay, and that I didn't have to be with someone. But, everyone needs to know that they are good enough for themselves, by themselves, if that is how they choose to live their life.
These baby mamas are really hating on single women that don’t have babies. We are living the best of our lives. We are nowhere near lonely nor bitter, especially when your men keep hollering at us.
Single =/= Lonely. The more women understand that, the more women can set themselves free from relationships and people who do not bring peace, joy or prosperity into our lives.
Exactly is right! Bold of her to assume single ladies have no one just because they don’t have a partner or kids. I’m just gonna assume back she has no one outside of those two relationships, not even one with herself.
She learned nothing. She's still saying the only reason to not want a relationship is cause you're crazy. And she doesn't understand why not only is this insulting, it's incorrect.
Her "explanation" was just repeating what she said the first time, and it all STILL led back to "actual happy and healthy people shouldn't seek to be alone or you need therapy"
See instead of being a happily married woman with children she's on the internet trolling single women minding our own business....let me guess her husband's girlfriend is unmarried and childfree?!
I didn't finish the video because I'm not going to give into nonsense. This is the kind of woman that will give her daughter to a man, just to keep that man around. I've said it once and I'll say it again. Especially as blk women we have enemies within the group. Rising pass the bottom of this patriarchal system we are going to have to draw a strong line in the sand. Separating ourselves from the ones with this mindset. Stay true to you and keep it pushing. Stop viewing this video giving it power to spread this ignorance.
After being divorced and single for yearsssss.. I did try a relationship for a couple of years. It didn’t work. They want free house labor, are ungrateful, are slightly jealous if you have your own everything, and will switch up on you…. I’m much happier being single and focused on myself and my daughter❤️
She probably doesn't like the report that says: Single, childless women are the happiest women. They also live longer than married women. BTW, She is married and her husband is "nothing to write home about".
I am 50 and child free and haven’t touched a man in 8 years…no regrets! Friends, family, pets, and hobbies take up my free time. Not a man or his offspring.
There was a married woman that I used to work with ask me "Why are you not married?" I was caught the hell off guard and all I said was "I don't know!" She had me thinking that something was wrong with me. About two years after that, she's no longer married to the man that she was married to. Allegedly, she caught him cheating or he was just cheating and acting up🤷🏾♀️
Ironically, I was married and miserable. I became happy after becoming single. I'm also child free. But she can think whatever she wants. P.S. I spent a good amount of time in therapy after my marriage ended.
“Will choose to live her life alone”. We are not alone. We have loved ones and relationships all around, in friends, family and romantic relationships. I am on the young end of an organization of older women - a significant percentage of whom are widowed. Overwhelmingly, these widows say they loved their husbands, but will never marry again because they don’t want to live that way again. They like getting to put their wants first, after decades of having to put everyone else’s wants (including the dog) before their needs.
13:08 the way my head almost fell off my shoulders. Again, people who are happy and content DO NOT go seeking for ANYTHING because they're friggin' HAPPYYYY and CONTENT!!!! It's the gaslighting that nearly floored me!!
_Yes,_ Pickmesha! That what We’re saying! You can have all the menz to yourself! Maybe you’re not _intelligent_ enough for it to “make sense” to you; that other people *don’t* want to live _your life._ We want to live Our Own!✌🏾
People like her have issues because logically what makes her happy may not be the same thing, so just because she is unhappy being by herself, does not mean the next woman feels the same way next their gonna start saying you so like chicken because I don’t like chicken it’s like people can’t accept we all are individuals
I'm happier now than I was when I was in a relationship. I had all the same issues the only difference was I had a man in my life make everything 100000 times worse. He lied manipulated me stole my resources used me. He would take my limited resources and use them on other women. Mentally I felt like shit physically I felt like shit. I'd literally throw up anytime we were intimate because I was so depressed and disgusted with myself and this man. BUT everyone around me kept trying to convince me to be patient with him and give him guidance because no man is going to know how to love me correctly at this point in my life because I'm 24 and young. So atp I have no interest in actually dating I get my happiness from seeing other women actually happy and in fulfilling relationships because I know it's rare and probably not likely I'll ever get that. So is their advice to settle and lower our expectations. Or remain hopeful we'll find what we're looking for one day while also remaining happy and content within myself until I'm ready to put myself out there. Or are we supposed to be used and hope a man will see our worth on day. What's the advice here?
Here's my advice. Advice that nobody ever gave me growing up. It's okay to be single. You don't have to be with someone. You are good enough for yourself, by yourself.
She wanted to seem like she was saying something so profound, but really it was judgmental nonsense. She shared her nonsense on social media because her husband probably wasn’t interested in hearing it. 🤷🏾♀️ she isn’t as happily married as she pretends.
She needs to stop projecting had she had one the therapist would’ve told her people are individuals so just because you find it hard to believe because you can’t be alone and only think this would be a choice if your hurt let’s others know that’s the only reason you were alone so now you think that’s why others do it
Nah, it's lying, back pedaling, and her getting defensive over something she started 🙄 she hurt her OWN feelings and now is taking it out on others, as to be expected of an insecure individual
Exactly you'll never see men bashing other men for choosing to be single and childfree it's always women who get the most smoke for doing the same thing especially by other women it's annoying.
@@miyagriffin9673 Exactly. I'm a firm believer in thinking people who are genuinely happy with themselves would never have this kind of energy to give. Since when was happiness not subjective?? 😂😂
There are introverts and extroverts. Introverts prefer solitude, gets drained when confronted by crowds, and prefers silence to concentrate on our tasks. Extroverts are the reverse. So the actual conundrum here is an extroverted woman who can't understand introverted women. Just leave us alone, we don't want to "join a group" - that's literally a horror to us especially if we have to do it IRL. Movements are fine because it's mostly online. 4B/Lysistrata is the best movement because it basically promotes introvert freedom - we want to be left alone.
So y'all telling me a "healthy" "happy" woman in a relationship willing comes into the internet to talk about single people😂😂😂😂 the way they be exposing the boredom and misery of their own lives is embarrassinggggg like girl really so occupied with single women but where is her man? Where are her kids? And she had time to read all the comments and make ANOTHER video about single people 😭 girl go feed your kids, go touch your man before he gets touched by a single woman.
2:51 I think it’s funny that she said “call the number on the back of your insurance card and go to therapy” ….we DID, that’s why we’re content being by ourselves lol
As a childfree unmarried woman I’m happy. I live a relaxed life. I have friends that say man I’m happy for you, I wish I would’ve not gotten married and had any kids. So that tells me I made the correct decision.
Hell Yea!!!😁only a healthy prosperous joyfilled woman knows a man drama lies and helplessness is like having a child... I ain't got to be texting calling stressed up under a man all the time washing dishes laundry and cooking 😒 while still having to fulfill bedroom obligations for an ungrateful demon🤢OH NO WAY JOSE The Lord said a single women focuses on him which of course is why she😊 happy The Lord said a married woman Looks to her man and after the things of her man which is why most are miserable. SINGLESNESS IS EXTREMELY DIFFICULT AND MOST WOMEN CANT DO IT N If you need a man get one who cares LEAVE US PEACEFUL WOMEN OUT OF IT.
I am happily single and childfree by choice. I’m single by choice as well. I wouldn’t want to live my life any other way. My life doesn’t revolve around being in a relationship. I have NEVER wanted kids. The MAJORITY of married people aren’t happy. The lady in the video is a PICK ME. Her life revolves around a man choosing her as a wife and she’s the type that will stay with a man no matter how bad he treats her. As long as I have a relationship with God that’s all that matters.
She doesn't get it, and she's projecting. She needs to get off and go take care of that baby. We don't care that's what she went through, doesn't mean others have to. Why does it matter to her. Also, she doesn't remember what she said. She said, "Happy and healthy. Not healed.
Out of 4 siblings I’m the only one with kids a d none of my sibling wanted any , and they knew it in early child hood . Isn’t that crazy ? They are child phobic ! 😂 and they don’t babysit either 🤦🏽♀️ . They jet set around the world .
Yes ma'am. Being by themselves is why they're happy and healthy. How is a woman bitter over a choice she made. Imagine saying I'm single by choice but I'm bitter I'm not in a relationship 😮
Just because a person is single does not mean they are miserable and lonely. Just because a person is in a relationship does not mean they are happy or the relationship is even a healthy relationship. I did not know you were married 😊
I have said this another clip. Only unhealed and codependent individuals will be the only ppl having an issue with other's decision to stay single or childfree. I will never get how this affects her and ppl like her.
I could not respect women more who make decisions for her life based on her happiness. We have been told for all of eternity your value as a woman is based on how well you serve others not what will make us happy. I absolutely love how the younger generation are unapologetically loving life for them! I’m so so proud of ya’ll.
I don’t want marriage and don’t want kids and I can bet I’m happier than more women who are in miserable relationships and married though. We are healthy, alive, stress free, have more money, in better shape and travel more and have freedom. Why would I trade that in just to say I have a dusty???? Please!
I’ve worked with elderly people and regardless of WANTING a relationship, there’s no guarantee you will find one. You have to build a life you’re happy with regardless of your relationship status.
15:24 so she doubled down smh lord these people don’t listen a woman can be all those good things and still not desire to be in a relationship nor have kids also companionship comes in many forms but they only one women like her acknowledge is a romantic relationship
Women's choices are being alone OR work and pay half the expenses, do all the childcare, housework, cooking, errands and have to have sex when you don't feel like it because you are overworked and tired.
She's mad that she doesn't feel as though she can make these choices and hasn't done that. She gives me pickme. It's that simple. She is projecting so haaarrrrddd while accusing others of projecting. Oh the irony 😂
Funny how men don't get this criticism. Or maybe they do, I don't know. If being unhealed etc is happening to "those women" why is she so concerned about women being single? I know from experience being around women who are/were miserably coupled and/or are parents just to "have a man/kids in my life" is extremely dangerous. Plus, I'm a former foster kid. Don't get me started on what I have seen with so-called healthy married people and baby mommas and daddies. Mind your damn business and let people have choices.
People need to mind the business that pays them. Another person's preference and state of peace has nothing to do with them. If you don't want to be single, go mingle. But leave the women who have chosen peace and are happy about it alone. If people being happy by themselves bothers you, than you need therapy.
BEING ALONE IS ONLY SCARY IF YOU ARE A PERSON THAT YOU ARE AFRAID TO BE ALONE WITH. for a lot of women, we aren't afraid of being alone. BECAUSE we are healthy and happy. so we like ourselves enough that our own company is wonderful. bestie, if you're not comfortable being alone or by yourself, that's a YOU problem. and YOU need a therapist. Not the healthy, happy women who are good on their own
It’s so insensitive! You have to consider a woman’s journey. I was submissive to my husband for 17 years. He wasted my time. Never wanted a family. Strung me along. Now I’m single and healing by choice. I just turned 38. If kids happen then it happens. If not, my happiness comes first point blank
