I know this may sound a bit cliche, but I got to say it: depression gets better with time, trust me. I got sober at 30, and was a mess for a long time. I thought I would never be a normal human and would need meds for the rest of my life. I'm turning 37 next month and can say with confidence: I'm no longer depressed. Things did get better, and they will get better for you too.
This is super relieving ILAA thank you 🙏. That’s what a lot of people have told me, I need to give it way more time. I read somewhere that it can take up to a year+ before your brain even starts acting normal again. Reading comments like yours gives me a lot of hope. Much love 🙏🖤 god bless.
Dylan!!!! My friend congratulates dude that is huge!!!! If no one else has said it congratulations 💯. I know what a huge deal that is, keep up the good work brother and keep me updated 🙏💯
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you for posting this video. Everything you just said I can relate to. It’s actually horrifying how bad alcohol can affect your life if you have an addictive personality. I wish you good luck in staying sober man.
Hey 👋 my friend!! You are the reason I do these videos man, seeing comments like these are what make me create videos. Alcohol is horrible trust me I know and agree with you. I appreciate this comment!! I wish you luck as well on your journey brother! Keep me updated 🙏
Wishing you all the best, Nordic!! Most of us can relate to much, if not all of this video!! It's crazy how similar our stories can be. I believe in you, and I hope you have a great rest of your week!! ❤
You've got this man you're a normal guy when you're sober and you're still young, confident enough to be on camera sober. I can barely talk to the cashier when I'm sober however I've never been hospitalized from alcohol, on the contrary I've been hospitalized from weed and psychedelics. I relapsed on alcohol again because I feel like I need it to be half normal, the biggest problem for me is the cost spending $10 a day on it. I can only go 2 days before I start tripping out again even on my medication. I'm 33 I'm really not sure where to go from here whether I should I just carry on drinking or not. Anyway keep up the videos man they're great I'll keep watching them even if I'm drinking. Hopefully one day I can stop to improve my life.
Thanks brother, that’s really awesome of you to say. I’m really sorry my friend that you’re struggling right now, I completely understand that feeling and how much it sucks. Being wrapped up in your addiction day in day out or every other day, it’s hell. I believe in you tho brother I really do. Keep your head up, don’t give up. I wish you nothing but luck from this point forward!! Keep me updated, much love. 🙏
Hey Julian!! I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know to some degree what you're feeling as I used to drink in order to remove my anxiety. When I quit, it got so bad that I wanted to just be knocked unconscious. My anxiety manifests in all ways. From ocd intrusive thoughts (ex: did I turn off the stove, my house is def on fire right now) to social anxiety. Sometimes, it seemed like anxiety for no reason at all. I would just for no apparent reason have my heart in my throat...ALL DAY. While I still suffer from anxiety, I can promise you that it does get SO much better. Especially if you address the root cause(s). Much love and many prayers from NY! Wishing you only the best. ❤
You're looking fantastic man! The real Slayer is back - you're not puffy, you have your energy and positivity and your eyes are shining. Great to see you doing so well, 3 week is AMAZING man, like I said back when I drank I couldn't go more than 1 week without getting wasted.
My brother josh!!!! Thank you man!!! That is amazing of you to say. Each week that goes by I start to feel a little bit more normal. We gonna keep going strong!! 💪💪
ugh seriously! I laughed out loud about the comments saying youre too young! That’s literally the number one thing I have already told myself that led me to drink again. Im sorry about your brother, I think praying for him sounds like a great idea. You should post your short films. this video is sooo interesting I gotta go walk the dogs lol but I can’t wait to finish watching
Right?? When someone tells me that it really does me no benefits lol. It gives fuel to the addict part of my brain. Also thank you 🙏, I will heal from that whole situation, it just takes time. I will 100% have to post some of the films as well lol you guys would die laughing. Thanks so much sage!!! No worries about your dog I completely understand how that goes having a pup of my own haha. Much love and thank you again !! 🙏
What's up Slayer. I quit hanging around other alcoholics (except for A.A. members). I don't like drunk people's behavior. When I finally jumped from normal drinking to alcoholism, it was a fairly slow process. I miss those days. I do not like where my drinking has led, detox, a treatment center, jailed for DWI only once overnight. That was enough. Loss of the privilege to drive was the worst. I would have sent a question in but I forgot. My bad. Another great video. Stay strong and stay sober.
What’s going on shades?? I can definitely relate to that “jump”. That’s when all the fun and games end. Also no worries about the question man, i appreciate the comment!!! Keep that good content coming man!
It's crazy the things we do during addiction. I bet you now can't imagine ever behaving in the way you did when you were in the throws. I know I can't. Celebrating sobriety with you, friend! ❤
Awesome. Yeah I’ve pulled the “you’re young” card on myself many times. Entering 30 next year - that lie doesn’t hold as much weight as it used to! Looking great man, looks like that dreaded water retention has completely dissipated. Day 17 today for me, so I’m pretty close to you … felt that alcohol release shine for the first time again, literally today during my workout (May 21st). Been in prayer also, straight to the vine! May God protect & shield the sobriety of everyone in this community & platform God has gifted you, in Jesus Name!! You’re doing amazing Brother. - Proverbs 4:25-27 “Let thine eyes look right on, And let thine eyelids look straight before thee. Ponder the path of thy feet, And let all thy ways be established. Turn not to the right hand nor to the left: Remove thy foot from evil.” Isaiah 57:15 “For thus saith the high and lofty One that inhabiteth eternity, whose name is Holy; I dwell in the high and holy place, with him also that is of a contrite and humble spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble, and to revive the heart of the contrite ones.” -
I appreciate that brother more than you know, this is an awesome comment thank you 🙏, congratulations on the 17 days my friend!!! That is amazing, we are super close in our sobriety time. I’ve said it before but we are all in this together on this community. It doesn’t matter if you only have 1 day of sobriety any day is a good day to get sober. God bless you my friend and thanks again! Take care and keep going strong 💪!!
Hey Slayer!! Great video!! Thank you 😊 it's crazy how similar many of our experiences are. Your friendship progression and timeline was very similar to mine. My friend group, though, stuck around and still partied (parties) on occasion. I just don't go to those lol they always do a kayaking trip in maine for a few days to a week that I used to join when I could plan for it, but it's just constant drinking, so i won't go. And I spoke to them about that. My friends and family reacted the same way to my drinking as yours did. My friend said once that it all creeped up out of nowhere. They thought nothing of it at first. Like, I was just having fun until it clearly turned into something else, and seemingly overnight. And I reacted exactly the same way. In fact, I pushed everyone away when I was in the throws and only came out when I wanted to socialize and could stand being sober for a day or 2 (or a few hours). I no longer let anyone see the level I was at, they all got a mask because I didn't want to change. I'm sure they knew, bc I went from having people over daily, to every once in a while climbing out from under my rock. And the sober hobby question? I appreciate your answer! That's the one place where we differ. I eventually got back into my old hobbies, but when I was getting sober, i went to novel hobbies first. Mainly bc my biggest hobbies were biking and art and i was tapped out of both physical and mental energy. So my first sober hobby was video games haha then everything else started trickling in. They were just comforting, mindless and simply entertaining. I actually still game. It's officially added to my list of hobbies. Haha but it's peppered in now with all the others where for a few months it was #1 😊 anyways, this comment is an essay, so I'm gonna put my phone down. Have a great day, friend!! Much love to you and this whole community ❤❤😊😊
Really enjoyed this video mate. You come across as a really smart guy. I'm only 3 weeks into quitting alcohol myself. I was more of a weekend binge drinker and I would end up going all out. Came to the conclusion that it wasn't even fun for me anymore, and the aftermath of drinking just isn't worth it. Appreciate this video :)
Hey brother thanks!!! 🙏🙏I’m glad you enjoyed it, 3 weeks Is a GREAT start my friend, good on you for making a stance for yourself and life. Welcome as well to the channel, we really help one another out over here. Keep going strong my friend!! 🙏
Hey Slayer, just catching up with this vid. All great questions and I appreciate your honesty. I understand what you mean about really asking the hard question, do you want to get sober? Dig deep and you will find the answer. I appreciate your advice. I find it strange that anyone would question whether you’re an alcoholic just because you’re younger. I don’t get that at all, addiction of any kind does not have an age limit. The fact you caught it earlier than some is a win. The end result is the same regardless of where you are in life…and it’s not a good ending. Anyways hope you had a great day my friend. Always happy to see and hear from you. Take it easy…until next time. ✌️ 💜
Hey micru!!! Thank you as always! Absolutely you do as well, you have to do some real deep thinking about your life and where you want it to be. Also I know I’ve always found it wild when people say that, I’ve been through so much that some people who have drank for 30+ years haven’t. It affects the addict all the same no matter what the age is. I just had a 16 year old comment on my video the other day saying he could not stop drinking. This is why things like this need more awareness. Much love micru as always! 🙏
@@Slayer-7373 I feel kids aren’t able to be kids anymore. Starting earlier and earlier. That makes me sad but the wonderful thing about the internet is that platforms like this exist to help anyone feeling alone. Thank you for all that you do. You’re helping so many…including me.
Hey brother thank you!! Each week that goes by I think I start to look a little more like myself again. It takes time but it does get better, much love man! 🙏
Slayer great video! Thanks for explaining why you consider being around people that are drinking is a trigger… I didn’t understand why it would be difficult? I’m not an alcoholic or an addict . My husband over drinks and can be verbally abusive. I have stopped drinking to help him. He has slowed down. I do buy him beer when he asks me to. I guess I am enabling him somewhat … I don’t want him to drive. We have been married for 16 years this December. Thanks 🙏
Hey Jackie thank you!! Great comment. That’s awesome of you to stop your drinking for him, shows how much you care. I hope your husband comes around and sees the sober life is the better life, but we all get there at our own pace. I wish you both continued luck on your journey, please keep me updated! 🙏
Right?? It seems like a majority of people you meet nowadays are doing some type of substance. It’s just how our society is nowadays, drugs and alcohol have been very normalized. Much love brother, thanks for the comments! 🙏
Same my friend it’s unfortunate, but like you said sometimes you gotta leave the trash at the curb and let the garbage people deal with it. Wash your hands of it and move on. Much love and thanks for this comment 🙏
Ps ,,,, I completely agree with the defense mechanism , when someone dictates to us , Like really ???? We know our demons we don't need to be told /reminded, Ignorant I feel that is , Everyday we struggle everyday ,but we get by ❤loads of love from your Welsh friend Sarah xx
Hey Slayer Sober you're right about the exercise i started exercise for health and got addicted bad i got into recreational drug free bodybuilding not for competition but i wanted to compete i had a back injury and got surgery plus it give you a endorphin rush it's fantastic i hate running but my ex p.t. got me doing it and i once had horrible bowel movements and such a rush he eas laughing at first but started crying from his restroom being soaked in sweat 💦 😅😂😂🎉
@@Slayer-7373 You talk like a licensed substance abuse counselor. Consider that career. You could own and run a sober house, even. Perhaps you have indigenous or east asian ancestry. In that case, your ALCOHOL addiction could be genetic (low alcohol dehydrogenase). 😢
Hey brother we are here for you, hang in there. Nothing is ever worth doing something like that my friend trust me!!! I’ve been there before, almost did it. I’m glad I never did, there is hope. Prayers going your way, keep your head up!!! 🙏🙏
@@Slayer-7373 I agree ,suicide is not a solution, but those feelings can be real!! Your friendship channel does a GREAT job in offering support, and fellow feelings!
Hey friend, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Whatever you're going through, I promise that there's a full life waiting for you around the corner. And you have friends here in your corner who are willing to sit with you in your pain. I hope that you heal from whatever you feel the need to punish yourself for. I hope you give yourself grace and know that you are loved. And I really hope that you find love for yourself! I'm sure you're a fantastic person. ❤❤❤ you have a friend here in NY who is thinking about you and praying for you tonight.
I mean like yeah man, people ask me like all the time man like who is my hero, and you know like man, I can’t thing of anyone other than myself man. Yeah man, I’m 16 and I’m an alcoholic man. I just can’t stop drinking red cordial man
Doing my best, working with others, staying busy, trying to fill my life with excitement and fun, learning my emotions, it’s a battle every day brother. Some days are easier than others. I’ve noticed the further you get away from the bottle usually the easier it gets. You’ve got to want sobriety or it will never work.
That’s so sad, dude but you’ve proven you’re the bigger person by reaching out to him. Just ignore him now. He knows how you feel. There’s no need to continue to reach out to him. Again, you’ve PROVEN you’re the bigger guy. Fuck him.
I’ve actually said this before, it’s hard to consider him my brother anymore. I often tell people in my personal life that I no longer consider him my brother. Thanks for the comment man. 🙏
Yea Ii got sober right at the start of covid. Something clicked with the pandemic coming and i was almost dead from booze thats not a joke but i decoded i wanted to live again so i got to detox then a 1 year in patient treatment center. So im great now by grace and gratitude but to this videos point i had to totally reshape my lifestyle. I mean it is so radically different its unbelievable. Ive seen maybe 5 people from my drinking days in the past 3 years and only for a few minutes to say hi and catch up quickly. Even my family i had to basically let go. Had to happen. So im getting more comfortable as im sober longer and ill be spreading back out socially but only in non drinking environments. Its definitely baby steps man. One sip of one drink im dead i promise so i take this as life and death.
Congratulations man!!!!!! That is huge!!! Keep doing what you’ve been doing because it’s working!! It is life or death, we just don’t drink like normal people. Thanks for this comment my friend!
Timothy!! Congratulations!! You should be so proud of yourself!! I hope you're enjoying all of the benefits of your choices, and yes. It's baby steps. Keep on killin it. I hope you have a great week!! ❤❤
